im 21, take care of my blind and crippled mother, dont have much friends, lost my job, cars totalled(granny hit me, not mad, just really dissapointed), girlfriend of 5 years left. im at my lowest point in my life yet. life aint easy but i appreciate your content, makes mine alot easier
Keep pushing brotha! my mother passed when i was 17, girl i was engauged to left tried to slander my name and i dont have hardly 1 solid friend left either, just know ur not alone fam!
You love your mother. Make the love you give her central to you're meaning. I lost my mother to alzhymers last month. I took care of her for a decade. I can't regret leaving her in her time of need
It's wonderful to see people like this, calm and reasonable. It's so easy to get overwhelmed by the world, and being able to make things a little smaller, take a breath and just think reasonably brings me a lot of hope
I honestly think there are reasonable people all over the place. Unfortunately the craziest voices are usually the ones that get amplified in our society because outrage generates clicks and views, etc. etc. etc. Reasonable people tend to see these loud people and ignore them because we know it's not worth our time to try to have a conversation with them. It's pointless. Life's too short to spend it arguing with people who are just waiting to speak instead of listening with an open mind.
You are so right. Perhaps it's because emotion can choke rational debate. Labels are for products not intelligent folk. I've been a victim of labels from people who don't even know me. But I do and that is a salvation. I'd rather be judged by God than ignorance. Travesties befall all presumptions which are unfounded. I met a preacher who believes Christ was a paedophile because he spoke to children. That's the measure of ignorance and phobia of something they will not understand. A gross divide now exists between young and old and sweeping hysteria has replaced debate. Duane is rational and together with himself and has a good grounding. I'm a Christian by definition. I don't practice sex or violence and try to help those afflicted by prejudice and ignorance. I admit it's not easy but it has a reward and that makes it at least a little more honourable. I've reached 61 had 3 attempts on my life and seen all behaviours but nothing comes closer than the respect a parent has for its child and fellow travellers.
Hey Dwayne, I totally agree with you on all of this. Labels are often dehumanizing and also over-simplify a lot of complicated things. I appreciate your calmness about addressing your views. I’m probably the opposite to you in a lot of ways if we look at labels alone and the ideologies associated with this labels. For example, I’m a 22 year old lesbian but I feel so connected to your philosophy and your outlook on life, faith and family. Never stop talking about your opinions and teaching the old ways. God bless you man
I personally LOVED your video on loneliness. I'm not an easily offended person at all because I do my best to not let other people make me feel any type of way. I'm 100% in control of my feelings and how I respond to something / someone, it isn't anyone else's responsibility. We all have to hold ourselves accountable. I always say If someone says something that sounds mean or wrong to you, instead of flipping out, ask "can I ask what you mean by that?" And just listen. They may actually mean something different than what you thought, or even better, they may even have a point that challenges your point and makes you think. Discussions of opposing views are a great opportunity for growth and broadening horizons, not to mention a chance to bond with, and gain more respect for one another. And if we all thought the same way and had the same opinions, human interaction would be such a bore. For an age that expresses the importance of self expression and individuality, it's awful hypocritical to then turn around and hate on someone for having a different opinion and way of life.
YES! I love a good argument, two opposing sides can leave a situation with new information to help each in the long run without completely "changing" their beliefs.💯
"isn't anyone else's responsibility" are words I hadn't put to my own feelings I had of the easily offended. For example I remember seeing a video of an open mic debate or something along those lines and some geeza kept going up to the mic and putting his anxieties onto the crowd, saying shit like 'can we please respect people's anxieties'. I can't remember specifically but it crawled under my skin to see someone dump their own personal mental responsibilities onto discussion. I'm not mad at him for I understand a little where he may be coming from, but that doesn't stop me from believing he's absolutely insane
I just recently discovered you from your "When you just ain't got it all together" video and have since watched all of your content with regards to life. You inspire me to be a better man, I just want to say, thank you!
Been feeling a little down lately, but you sir. Have been a father figure i've never had and wished to have had. These videos help me find peace with myself.
Try not to get irritated about people not listening to what you’re saying. I know it’s annoying but it’s human nature, and we have to stay understanding, or at the very least let it go by. Keep up the videos, they help a lot of people ❤
Some folks are just looking for confrontation brother, so you don’t need to take the bait. You offer positive thought with a lot of heart, so just keep on being you. Finger pointers point in one direction and won’t turn that digit the other way for fear of what they may see. You keep chewing and we’ll keep listening.
Labels are a quotient of the ego. I know it sounds woo-woo, but our ego divides everything into categories in order to differentiate and project a meaning onto our sense perceptions. It’s a great survival mechanism, but it is also the source of suffering. The flip side is that everything we mark as bad or different is actually a projection of the evil inside our ego. Really it boils down to “I’m rubber, you’re glue…”
Excellent Message. The craziness of this world is like a tornado. We either stand firm like an oak or let the tornado blow us away. We should not be afraid to say what we believe, while respecting others.
Dwayne, you have a lot of great wisdom to share and I would think most people watching your channel listen intently and use that wisdom to better themselves for the benefit of all. That said, I think you'll understand where I'm going with this quote man: “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces." -Matthew 7:6
Would love to see a video on cowboy hat etiquette. Seems like a lot of people have forgotten all about the manners that used to go along with wearing one. Would also be fun to hear about some of the superstitions from the olden days involving cowboy hats too. Love the videos, keep up the good work and God bless!
@@osakarose5612 hats are ok in public places, not personal places or church. Anytime something occurs - military or a funeral, no hat, unless outside. NEVER wear a hat indoors when eating, at any time. That's all i got.
In such a crazy, divisive, dangerous world that we live in... you give me peace of mind. I feel like I'm learning real life skills from you and greatly appreciate your channel. Some people like myself look up to you as a real man.
There is a tragic and potentially dangerous amount of anger in this country, Dwayne. As you have noted, people are not able to talk about their differences. This anger has ended friendships and family relationships. I believe what’s lacking is enlightened leadership, someone who can help us focus on our sameness as Americans. You are trying to make leadership strides in that direction and many of us applaud you for your efforts. We all need to be more willing to listen, really listen, and see both sides of the issues that divide us. Keep up the good work, Dwayne. Maybe you will inspire more folks to open up to divergent viewpoints and, at the very least, become more tolerant and understanding instead of living in anger and resentment. God Bless.
As a young guy who was born and raised in the Baptist Church it’s been difficult to converse with people I know hold different 😮beliefs than me. I’ve realized I’m quick to judge, to label, and to dismiss. These videos are really eye-opening and show a clear path out of my naivety! I appreciate the calm but stern manner with which you address your audience.
Baptist can be another label. I am a Baptist but not in the typical denominational way. Be a thinking Christian with the Word of God as your foundation. Be afraid of no question against your faith or any other. The Bible has the answer. We may need to find it...but it's there.
Amen man. I notice alot of older folks in my church can approach confrontation in a scewerd way. For example, shouting at people saying their going to hell and highlighting sins you hold on a higher level than others. You got to come from a place of love, based on the foundation of God and once you have that, approach with compassion and openess.
The problem is that political groups understand the power of labeling. Instead of avoiding it because of that power (& danger), they deliberately use it to help push their agendas. It makes their competition look like the bad guy.
Here in Denmark a new case been blowing up. It involves kids, non-ethnics, and... Rape.... Thank you, government. Apparently its been going on for over 3 years straight......
Just want to relay that I get a lot from your videos. I am 40 and am still looking to better myself and be a better husband where I can be. We’re not perfect but the pursuit of being better is a good thing in my life. My wife and I ride in every state we visit and just bought a ranch. I don’t even know how to properly saddle a horse so it just means I have more to learn. I’m excited about every chapter that life relays. Cheers to you kind sir and wanted to say thank you for your teachings.
This is a very wise perspective of life and I‘ve really enjoyed this video. I‘m about as different as you can get from the typical viewer of this channel, to use ‚labels‘ I‘m lesbian, asexual, a passive Buddhist practitioner, and autistic. I share your views on how labels are misconstrued, and feel the exact same way about the ‚feminist‘ label and how I don’t use it for myself as it tends to be very polarizing and debated on the meaning. The strange thing with labels is they don’t change reality of what someone actually does or believes, it‘s surface-level and distracts from the true actions that someone does. I greatly enjoyed listening to you describe the uses and issues with labels so clearly. I‘m glad to hear that you‘re so calm about having different viewpoints rather than the typical arguer who automatically attacks someone for not being on their side, as a queer person I feel safe to view and interact with this channel. Keep up the great work!
@Number 1 Western Fan The more specific way I‘d define myself is Homoromantic Asexual, so i have romantic feelings for women but no sexual feelings for anyone. I also said I‘m a passive Buddhist, meaning I don’t participate in every aspect of the lifestyle but instead focus on the philosophies.
@Number 1 Western Fan I understand a lot of terms can be confusing when surrounding asexuality, don’t worry, I shared your view once too so I can see where you’re coming from. I’m really glad we can have this conversation since it is very on topic with the video in terms of labels, specifically how we have differing terms of romantic relationships. When imagining a relationship, think of everything you do. Kissing, cuddling, sharing a home, dates, etc, that all falls into the ‚romantic‘ category. Anything sexual would of course fall into the ‚sexual‘ category. For me, I want to have a romantic relationship with a woman, and that‘s enough for me and is still valid as a relationship even though I don’t have an urge to have sex with anyone. For your metaphor I‘d compare these aspects more as ‚flavors‘ rather than ingredients. You can have a standard box cake, for me a romantic relationship, and you can add chocolate to it, meaning sex would be part of the relationship. Some people prefer their cake with or without the chocolate, and I happen to prefer without. It still doesn’t make it any less of a cake. My asexuality isn’t a choice and happens to coincide with one of the principles of Right Action in Buddhism, I didn’t plan for that to be the case haha. Even still, as I said, I mainly follow the philosophies so the restrictive practices aren’t my priority when forming a relationship. Figuring these things out for myself has been extremely beneficial and made my life in fact much more less confusing. When I thought I was straight, I had trouble forming friendships with boys, confusing friendship and anxiety for attraction. Realizing my sexuality has allowed me to pursue the relationships I want and have platonic friendships with guys, the best of both worlds. To me, none of this contradicts each other and like the video said, our labels don’t make our realities any less true. If anything else is still confusing I‘m happy to explain, having the chance to learn is what life‘s all about :)
Hey Dwayne, A bit of historic trivia for you. Exactly 158 years ago, at about the same time of day that you are filming this, just up the road from you, in Franklin, TN. the bloody battle of Franklin took place. With over 8,000 casualties in a little over four hours, it was the bloodiest four hours of the Civil war (November 30, 1864). This has nothing to do with your topic, but as a six generation Tennessean, I have always paused to remember these cataclysmic events in our local history. Take care. Oh, another great video, too.
My hope and prayer is that you never stop your videos. Your wisdom and your delivery is what keeps me coming back. You are a much needed breath of fresh air in a very troubled time. Keep doin' you!
"We're tearing ourselves apart because we don't listen." Agreed 100%. we'd rather dismiss based on false labels than listen to the other side. I hope the next generation will value conversation more
Hey Dewayne , hope you are doing well and in good health. As a 21 year old picking things up that I think are beneficial to me as I grow I thank the Lord for bringing me to your channel. I knew you to be a man of God by a video you made, I could be mistaken but I believe it was the loneliness video where you first mentioned you didn’t always used to be as calm and wise as you are now, immediately I knew that’s the work of the Holy spirt. You hit the nail on the head with this video . Some people remain so self righteous now a days, no bother to even hear out the context of important things , it’s just “ I’m right and your wrong and that’s final “with people, Dewayne a video of being around equally yoked folks would be a good idea in case you ever find yourself looking for ideas. Thanks for posting I hope you are well
I am 22 years old young man lost with little to no hope! I watch your videos and they get me by! I appreciate your advice in any sense,shape or form. you help me think about things more then “your typical UA-cam video on self improvement/ motivation” thank you sir for your impact on my life anything helps
@Chris Sperling well I have zero motivation or positive thoughts currently! I want to quit smoking cigarettes and gain weight as I’m a skinny guy at 6,3 plus my home life is crap super toxic daily ! I’m stuck and ina rut but I want to change and become better
Keep listening to Dwayne and momma is a good start. Things might suck pretty bad right now. . .been there myself in my version of it. Rain don't last forever and neither does the bitter cold of winter. When you try to quit smoking, it only sucks for a while. Keep your head up
Thank You!!! People try to bring "new" drama to other people in order to "validate" themselves. You are right to stand in your square. I'm with you 100% on this one!!!!!!
Your videos really hit home for me. Its like therapy for me. I'm currently 27 and just lost my girlfriend and my grandmother. Recently, I've come to realize that the issues I had buried in life have come back alive. And with a vengeance too. And its been hard on me mentally, physically and spirtually. I feel this a real low point for me. But your videos takes the worry and pats it down. Like growing a new flower. Which is what I'm doing with my life. Starting from scratch. And I will be able to blossom a new part of myself that I'd never thought exist. Thank you.
Thanks for this one, Dwayne-I am a gay woman living in South Texas, and even though we do not agree on some things I am always humbled and centered by your videos. Much love and health to you and your family, and many more videos to come! Thank you for sharing your life with us.
The beauty of insightfulnes is the simplicity of the answer. I learned myself. If I can't answer a question in its simplicity, then I don't know enough about it..
My 18 year old son loves your videos! We enjoyed the one we watched with you and your wife.. we are trying to watch all of them. Thanks for giving me a voice of common sense to listen to! You remind me of the men I grew up around in KY. Thank you!
There’s a town in Nicaragua called Estellí. I was there about a year ago with my husband and our kids. Beautiful town in the mountains of Nicaragua with a mild climate. It cools off quite a bit in the evenings, doesn’t get too hot during the day. There’s a lot of folks on horseback, a lot of tobacco plantations, and they grow a lot of coffee there as well. If you’re ever in Nicaragua, I think you and your wife would enjoy spending a little time there. Its beautiful. Thank you for the channel, I really appreciate your take on things, your horsemanship, and advice on life. I’ve been learning a lot. Hope to get to Dry Creek Ranch one of these days.
While I disagree with your stances, Dewayne, you’re completely correct about people needing to listen to each other and actually talking out our differences and being calm. As you said in another video ‘less rodeo energy, more cowboy energy.’ Stay good, friend.
This reminds me of what a good Bible teacher and apologist once taught me. He said a text out of context becomes a pretext. Rings true of what you are saying today. Im no horseman but had your channel randomly pop up in my feed one day and have been listening ever since. Great thought provoking and calm invoking talks. The comment section is always encouraging to read as I see so many young people lost in this world of information being helped by you. Keep up the good work brother!
You, Sir, have a profound way with words and covering the gamut of life topics. Thanks for taking the time to pass the wisdom along to those of us who aren't so blessed.
It has been an eloquent insight into a topic pretending to be complicated today; I think soon enough, this will be a common epithet. You’re a real one, Dwayne. Always good to hear from you. So many people are benefitting from your insight :) The accent and cadence is a great time too, haha
I am so proud that I found this channel, i have learned so much listening to you talk. As a young man in this modern world I appreciate what you do and talk about.
You have managed to put into words things I've known. Things I've tried to tell others, things I was taught or taught myself. Your words hit me when I need them most. Want to say thank you for making these videos. Your words help me set my mind back on track. I know these things, have a similar (not exact) mindset, but sometimes ya gotta hear it from outside your own head for it to make more sense. From my heart. Thank you. I don't work with horses anymore, so it's a small joy to see you working yours and the way you go about it. I'm slowly getting caught up on past videos and enjoying what you share with us.
This is such a great horse, that it's at the sale barn, cheap, for you today!! Or...This animal is so personality plus, someone else needs to experience this as well! 😉😂
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool Not that it matters, but if I'd definition it. The Cowboy I'd reference is that one in the 1880's.. knows how to survive, thrives through APPLYING wisdom, doesn't sleep on desert ground in El Paso...and many more. Maybe it's just knowing a Good soul...?.. maybe it's that simple of a context? Well, Wiseman, here's A context.
I'm a first-timer here. It's been a pleasure since i've found out what this guy is about. I hope he won't change at all. I like him. Regards from Argentina. Please, like my remark. It'll make me glad. Bye.
I'm a transgender man who watches your content on the regular and when it comes down to it, I fully believe that there is substance to each person. Communication, discussion and acceptance should be the foundation of each interaction. Not all of us agree, but we can all learn from each other if we opened ourselves to the opportunity.
Hey, Dewayne, here to put a smile on your face. Snuck my dog into Walmart (she needed to shop), ran into a "cowboy", hat, long coat, and a cowboy smile. He looked at my dog and asked her name (had that drawl as he spoke), I said, "her name is Grace". He looked at her and said, "it's been mighty nice meeting you, Miss Grace". It was in how he said it, slowly and genuinely meaning what he was saying. This, Dewayne, is MY definition of "cowboy". Hey, he's gotten me calling her "Miss"Grace. In the few minutes I saw him, he made an impact on me AND Miss Grace-think it's like God, kindness, love, joy, peace. That is what he wants us to share with this world. I pray for a heart more like His. It's hard some days in this world, but, when I fail, (and I will), I will get back up and try again. P.S. Satan wants us to waste our time on things he would love for us to. Too many good things, Satan, take a hike!
I agree that this obsession of labels won't ever have a finish line. It's going to continue to the end of time because (and this is a generalization, albeit an observable one) the people who refuse to let others have their freedom in disagreeing to labels just won't let it go. Which is why I've concluded that the only way out of this is to let go of words and let go of trying to make everyone at peace with one another. The only way we find peace is if each individual person can be okay with the indifference between themselves and everybody else.
I love these talks Dwayne. I think if people were more stoic then the world would be a nicer place. Reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius would be a good starting point for some people. All the best from the UK.
I feel sad that you had to make this video Dewayne. Thank you for all the positivity and wisdom you share with us. Sending you my regards all the way from Singapore
If someone spends all there time attacking your position I find that they don't have a good position of their own. You are very clear headed and your videos are therapeutic. Thank you and God bless.
Perfect, yet again hits the nail on the head with me. I consider myself to be a modern man, forward thinking, BUT, I do not have to agree with everything that's out there. I have my own views, morals and standards, and they are mine alone. Because they are mine I will not press them on to others, but all to often, particularly here in the UK, the biggest arguments I've had is that I must accept and abide by other peoples views, morals and standards and thus put mine aside. My issue resides with those that like to preach at me that their way IS the way. I live how I live, keep your politics, religion, sexual/gender, Meat/Vegetarian/Vegan preferences to your own business and don't push it on me. I'm not a religious man, I don't believe in afterlife etc.. so I like to live each day, appreciate each day I have without regret or remorse. I get out into the wild as often as I can as this resets my mental health. Acceptance seems to be the big buzz word these days and all to often I find that it is those that look constantly for acceptance don't often have that within their own self to start with. Anyway, loving this channel.
Hi Dewayne, 80 years old here, and have a long lifetime of interactions with people, and you are so right about labels. I just put a label on my printer to remind me of a specific thing that I want to do in certain printing situations. It is a label that is useful and practical to me. Labels that people use to categorize other people are generally not useful in any interaction or discourse with other people. As you alluded, words have meaning, much like the framework of a structure, but it is the context of those words that provides us with the foundation of the structure. Ignore the foundation and the framework is pretty much useless. God bless you, sir. Oh, and by the way, here's a label for you: your hat is THE perfect cowboy hat in my opinion, and I envy you that you wear it so well! 🙂
I'm a liberal Democrat. For me, it's because I support the environment and conservation efforts, rights of workers bargain, taxes on corporations, and universal healthcare. To other people, it's a label for people who want everything free and don't work. I work 2 jobs one of which as a lumber laborer. You're totally right. Labels are just labels. Its how yourself defines them.
I'd label you an anti-capitalist, personally. Your political positions seem to fit the bill. You may think all of those things you advocate are good things, but each and every one of them involves the violation of individual rights, and so are not good things at all; I'd classify them as evil, in fact. You don't think in terms of individual rights; you think in terms of outcomes that you desire, regardless of the rights-violating means to achieve them. You want "universal healthcare", well... that would necessarily involve an immense amount and degree of rights-violations in order to achieve it. If you consistently respected individual rights, you wouldn't advocate any of those positions at all.
@@npcknuckles5887 How does that make him an anit-capitalist like what? Do you not like the planet or the environment, should workers have no rights and be treated as slaves, should corporations have to pay no taxes and how would providing healthcare through a tax be different than all the other stuff they tax us for which if you had ever done any research into it you would know the tax dollars we pay increase your quality of life substantially and you would not want that to go away. Will you pave your own roads and get all your own water and electricity plus deal with sewage.
Very well said. Obviously you have lived and learned. Your quality of horsemanship shines during your sessions of philosophy. Keep on keeping on, your viewpoint should be heard
Dwayne, as a proud member and supporter of the LGBTQ community, I can say every word you've said in this video is absolutely true. I know people who immediately label others "homophobic" when they simply disagree with our lifestyle and it's wrong. My grandparents are heavily Christian and we have a strong relationship because we know deep down all that matters is being a good person. Your belief system is truly remarkable and refreshing and I'm very happy I've found your account. I listen to your videos every morning during breakfast and they help keep my mindset up floating throughout stressful times. Thank you for your words Dwayne. God bless.
I love everyone for themselves. We have a real problem when the media is weaponizing sexuality. This is wrong. Live and let live is not going to create hate. You do you.
Hi there, I just wanted to thank you and mama for making these videos. My husband and I both watch your videos and it's like a breath of fresh air hearing down to earth people speak reason and wisdom in such a calm way. I watch your and mama's videos after a long day and they bring me peace of mind, it's a real blessing.
People have lost sight that true judgement lies in the hands in the one who sits at the right hand of the father. As men it is not our place to judge, we can hold a different view but still offer the hand of friendship or care. People get so wrapped around the axel that they deal in absolutes. Mr Dwayne the world needs more gentlemen like you.
It baffles me that some people would take the time to watch and "listen" to any of your videos and try to start an argument or "intelligent" conversation with a very negative outlook on life. You can't fix stupid.. Stay true to yourself Dewayne and don't waste your time on idiotic mindsets please. Thanks again for the words of wisdom.
What's interesting is the whole thing about being trans comes down to accepting that labels aren't always correct, just like you're saying. Someone labelled you as a man when you were born, and you were lucky that label stuck. For some people, it doesn't stick. If you don't have experience with people who are trans, with friends who come out as trans, it can be hard to see all the strife they deal with from the outside world just because how they label themselves doesn't match how others label them. There is a lot of hatred some people have just because some people are different. Some trans folk do develop a sense of embattlement and distrust, and they start throwing their own labels out to protect themselves, calling people transphobic, but that's because they have a hard life. So if there are some people out there who are hurting, you don't have to fully understand where they are coming from, just understand that some people lash out when they're living in a state of hurt, and try to find some forgiveness and compassion for that lashing out. That said, we as a society should really be taking a step back from the internet and the way it really magnifies problems and puts a pin in vitriolic conversation. That's something to watch out for regardless of whatever your underlying beliefs are.
Wisely said, my friend. I'm a transgender individual who, just like you said, didn't like the label I was given. In fact, I don't particularly like any labels. I don't 'identify' as transgender or genderqueer, I just live my life and feel how I feel. While my experience can best be explained to non-trans people by explaining I was born as one sex and 'changed' because I'm 'trans', that will never begin to capture the nuance of my lived experience. I agree with you completely that society needs to step back from the internet. I find that once people interact with an intelligent and calm whoever (that in which they do not agree with: trans people, gay people, other religions, etc.) that they realize everyone is human and, deep down, we are all the same.
I’m never one to comment on videos at all. But I must say that I love your videos Dewayne. Your wisdom certainly helps me when I’m working on my craft in my everyday life. We all have our journey in life, and it’s honor to be part of yours thru these videos as well. God bless, looking forward to the next video. (Side note, Cohiba Connecticut White Label is always a great cigar if you ever come across one. Small recommendation to try)
Awesome knowledge brother, that's a big problem in this world these days. Lots of people get judgemental and call names because everybody doesn't agree with them. God is our judge as you said and he is who we should try to live our lives by. He is our only judge and I think your channel shows the wisdom you have gained through him
I am so glad I found your channel. You always have thought provoking content. During my college years most of the classes I took as an engineering major were critical thinking based. During that time, critical thinking seemed to be everywhere. As I sit here and reflect on your video, I feel that critical thinking is dying. The service you are doing is much needed for that reason. You challenge viewers to use their brain and see things from different perspectives. You and I are very different, but you always make me sit and think deeply about what you say. Despite having extremely different backgrounds, most of I time I can see exactly what you are trying to get across. I look forward to every video, because I enjoy critical thinking. Congratulations on creating such great content.
Interesting subject. It’s something I’ve been aware of for many years. There is a segment of our political society that has a history of redefining words to mean something that word did not originally mean. That can be a real problem as your discussion has revealed. In my opinion the reason for redefining words is to put a virtuous aspect to the subject that word is being applied to. Again in my opinion, that is purposefully done to persuade people that your values are virtuous. There are many well minded people that have been drawn off the path to another path just because of the redefining of words. It is very dangerous to our society.
I’m an over-educated, feminist, atheist non-smoker (like what I did with all the labels? Haha). Love your videos. The point about asking yourself, “what does that label mean to them?” is great. Maybe you’re not always politically correct, but I think you give great life advice and make really good points.
Love the fact that this channel can attract people of different backgrounds and cultural histories. This is exactly what keeps it real, and helps us all grow wiser 😊
You're amazing. I sure hope that someone else is reading these messages because I honestly would hate the idea of you reading some of these things people write cause people are crazy on the internet.
I love your channel, you are able to present subjects in such a thoughtful, calm and respectful manner, we need more "Cowboys" to chat as you do. Thank you.
I am only 19 and I feel I have grown more in the last year or so I've been out of high school and out of the comfort and shelter of being an minor then I ever was in it. It's very strange since I almost don't recognize myself from back then and I think that had a lot to do with labels and thinking I had to be on 1 side or the other. If I wasn't one label then I was the other and if I was a certain label then I couldn't be the other. A big part of really trying to understand myself and the people around me, more importantly spending more time with people I love and care about then anything online, is that I am not indifferent on issues but sometimes I really understand both sides and think both opinions have some truth to it sometimes for different reasons. I think just like anything you're never successful on your first try, and that goes for life itself as it really seems like everyone is just stumbling all the way until they pass. Something I love to death is Dante's Divine Comedy, specifically Paradiso or Heaven is the part I want to reference but it's important that everyone knows these aren't divine Christian texts but instead Christian Fan-fiction but still introduces a lot of interesting concepts. One of my favorite concepts is when he enters the 4th sphere or The Sun which don't if your curious just read it. But It's when he interacts with one of Dante's favorite Christian scholars, a Dominican, Thomas Aquinas who you can even look up. But it confuses him when he sees Bonaventure here as well, a "Franciscan" who he doesn't agree with and by all means shouldn't have made to heaven in his mind. Essentially it's if you had the idea that only Republicans would make it to heaven because of what they believe but when you get there it's full of Republicans and Democrats. But Thomas Aquinas explains to put it short, that in making it to Heaven your beliefs and your labels don't matter but instead what matters is that you seek unfiltered truth from God with all your heart, mind and soul. That the love present in Heaven isn't bound by these ideas of an imperfect world. Essentially Dante is saying that *_Republican or Democrat, Black or White, Gay or Straight, etc. You can make it to Heaven as those labels actually have 0 value in your walk but instead it's whether you truly seek God's truth which means also implementing it._* Would love to hear peoples thoughts on this too, I always love talking about philosophical subjects and especially wacky biblical fiction like Dante's Divine Comedy or Paradise Lost, etc.
I've recently come across your channel and I just wanna say I really appreciate your videos! Despite the fact that I think we have pretty vast differences in our beliefs about how to live life and various political issues, I'm certain that if we sat down for a drink and a chat we'd find a lot in common at our cores, and we could have a reasonable and respectful conversation. Keep doing what you're doing :)
Yes ! That’s it! Politics has become top down. It needs to be bottom up. Grass roots politics. Talking to neighbors and the community and finding mutual respect and answers to LOCAL issues of people with presence and a face. Pass it on.
I went to check out a "clean" used car once. It was obvious to me that my definition of "clean" was completely different than that of the person selling the car. My opinions and definitions are mine. Yours are yours. You and I happen to agree on almost everything and I am not a cowboy. I'm a biker and a retired trucker, and to me, the mind sets are close. You, Dewayne, have always been very upfront and truthful. I would love to meet you, possibly somewhere in Ohio before you head out west.
its been awhile since i have watched your videos, been busy, but nice to see you are still putting up great videos - this is the kind of stuff i wish would be taught in schools, the world would be a much better place - thank you and best wishes to you and your family
I want to give this 5000 likes because everything you just said is everything that I feel every day of my life So good on you sir that's why I watch you and I will continue to watch you💯💯💯💯💯💯
Several years ago I read a book on "Listening," a very simple, small and easy book to read. I cannot express the positive impact that book has had in all facets of my life. As usual, you have imparted great words of wisdom. thank you!
Grew up in far right very strict church left church parents and hometown in rebellion and got a good taste of the left. Damb near lost my self trying to be somebody and now by the grace of God I'm in the the middle leaning right because of an amazing Christian cowgirl that showed me what being an image of Christ really looks like. She made me feel so ashamed of my foolish ways and helped me get my head out of my ass.
I don’t know how your channel came up, but I have been loving your videos. It’s comforting to listen to the wisdom of someone who has lived a full life and has a lot of experience. Unfortunately, if you say ANYTHING on the internet, people will attack you. If you say, “I love dogs.” You’ll be accused of Catphobia. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with hateful comments. You seem like a good man who’s just trying to share things you have learned throughout your life to help others. I hope you know you’re making a positive impact. Those hateful comments are just from people who are looking for a fight.
I think part of the issue is that people have come to view youtube personalities as authority figures, despite it being a platform for sharing personal opinion. If you couple that with a deficient sense of personal culpability, then it creates the perception of a power struggle relationship between people voicing differing opinions. Personal accountability and humility, and respect for others would remedy a great deal of the problem.
Good-Nite…the world is a better place with this man in it. If everyone would stop and listen to this guy, wouldn’t it be a Great place. Thanks for sharing Mr.
100% accurate Dewayne. People need to LISTEN and READ what is said or written! Best thing for me is to ignore the people that just want to be argumentative and sensitive to anything that doesn't fancy their latest whim. It's a crazy spirit out there as was predicted centuries ago.
I've found that people use labels as a way to put you into a box with no wiggle room, rather than as a way to describe someone or something in a broad category
im 21, take care of my blind and crippled mother, dont have much friends, lost my job, cars totalled(granny hit me, not mad, just really dissapointed), girlfriend of 5 years left. im at my lowest point in my life yet. life aint easy but i appreciate your content, makes mine alot easier
Keep pushing brotha! my mother passed when i was 17, girl i was engauged to left tried to slander my name and i dont have hardly 1 solid friend left either, just know ur not alone fam!
I'll be your friend boss, keep your head up!
You love your mother. Make the love you give her central to you're meaning. I lost my mother to alzhymers last month. I took care of her for a decade. I can't regret leaving her in her time of need
You hang in there young man. This season of life will help grow you into an amazing young man. This is just a 'season'...it's not your whole life.
"Devote not your strength to women, nor your ways to that which destroys kings." -- Proverbs 31:3
Women aren't all they're cracked up to be.
It's wonderful to see people like this, calm and reasonable. It's so easy to get overwhelmed by the world, and being able to make things a little smaller, take a breath and just think reasonably brings me a lot of hope
I honestly think there are reasonable people all over the place. Unfortunately the craziest voices are usually the ones that get amplified in our society because outrage generates clicks and views, etc. etc. etc. Reasonable people tend to see these loud people and ignore them because we know it's not worth our time to try to have a conversation with them. It's pointless. Life's too short to spend it arguing with people who are just waiting to speak instead of listening with an open mind.
I'm trans and I respect the way he handled this
Agreed. If only more people had critical thinking skills, our world would be much better place.
Well said 🙌🏼
You are so right. Perhaps it's because emotion can choke rational debate. Labels are for products not intelligent folk. I've been a victim of labels from people who don't even know me. But I do and that is a salvation. I'd rather be judged by God than ignorance. Travesties befall all presumptions which are unfounded. I met a preacher who believes Christ was a paedophile because he spoke to children. That's the measure of ignorance and phobia of something they will not understand. A gross divide now exists between young and old and sweeping hysteria has replaced debate. Duane is rational and together with himself and has a good grounding. I'm a Christian by definition. I don't practice sex or violence and try to help those afflicted by prejudice and ignorance. I admit it's not easy but it has a reward and that makes it at least a little more honourable. I've reached 61 had 3 attempts on my life and seen all behaviours but nothing comes closer than the respect a parent has for its child and fellow travellers.
Hey Dwayne, I totally agree with you on all of this. Labels are often dehumanizing and also over-simplify a lot of complicated things. I appreciate your calmness about addressing your views. I’m probably the opposite to you in a lot of ways if we look at labels alone and the ideologies associated with this labels. For example, I’m a 22 year old lesbian but I feel so connected to your philosophy and your outlook on life, faith and family. Never stop talking about your opinions and teaching the old ways. God bless you man
I personally LOVED your video on loneliness. I'm not an easily offended person at all because I do my best to not let other people make me feel any type of way. I'm 100% in control of my feelings and how I respond to something / someone, it isn't anyone else's responsibility.
We all have to hold ourselves accountable.
I always say If someone says something that sounds mean or wrong to you, instead of flipping out, ask "can I ask what you mean by that?"
And just listen.
They may actually mean something different than what you thought, or even better, they may even have a point that challenges your point and makes you think. Discussions of opposing views are a great opportunity for growth and broadening horizons, not to mention a chance to bond with, and gain more respect for one another.
And if we all thought the same way and had the same opinions, human interaction would be such a bore. For an age that expresses the importance of self expression and individuality, it's awful hypocritical to then turn around and hate on someone for having a different opinion and way of life.
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YES! I love a good argument, two opposing sides can leave a situation with new information to help each in the long run without completely "changing" their beliefs.💯
Love this, thanks Niki 💯
"isn't anyone else's responsibility" are words I hadn't put to my own feelings I had of the easily offended. For example I remember seeing a video of an open mic debate or something along those lines and some geeza kept going up to the mic and putting his anxieties onto the crowd, saying shit like 'can we please respect people's anxieties'. I can't remember specifically but it crawled under my skin to see someone dump their own personal mental responsibilities onto discussion. I'm not mad at him for I understand a little where he may be coming from, but that doesn't stop me from believing he's absolutely insane
I just recently discovered you from your "When you just ain't got it all together" video and have since watched all of your content with regards to life. You inspire me to be a better man, I just want to say, thank you!
Been feeling a little down lately, but you sir. Have been a father figure i've never had and wished to have had. These videos help me find peace with myself.
Keep trudging the road.. We’re all right here with you 🙏🏼✊🏼
Same situation myself, bud.
Similiar position as you in finding the peace.
Right here with you brother.
All the best buddy 👍
Try not to get irritated about people not listening to what you’re saying. I know it’s annoying but it’s human nature, and we have to stay understanding, or at the very least let it go by. Keep up the videos, they help a lot of people ❤
"If someone succeeds in provoking you, realize that your mind is complicit in the provocation"
- Epectitus
Some folks are just looking for confrontation brother, so you don’t need to take the bait. You offer positive thought with a lot of heart, so just keep on being you. Finger pointers point in one direction and won’t turn that digit the other way for fear of what they may see. You keep chewing and we’ll keep listening.
Labels are a quotient of the ego. I know it sounds woo-woo, but our ego divides everything into categories in order to differentiate and project a meaning onto our sense perceptions. It’s a great survival mechanism, but it is also the source of suffering. The flip side is that everything we mark as bad or different is actually a projection of the evil inside our ego. Really it boils down to “I’m rubber, you’re glue…”
Excellent Message. The craziness of this world is like a tornado. We either stand firm like an oak or let the tornado blow us away. We should not be afraid to say what we believe, while respecting others.
Amen brother.
James 1:19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath
Dwayne, you have a lot of great wisdom to share and I would think most people watching your channel listen intently and use that wisdom to better themselves for the benefit of all. That said, I think you'll understand where I'm going with this quote man: “Do not give dogs what is sacred; do not throw your pearls to pigs. If you do, they may trample them under their feet, and turn and tear you to pieces." -Matthew 7:6
I hope you're not drawing a parallel to transpeople when you say pigs.
Would love to see a video on cowboy hat etiquette. Seems like a lot of people have forgotten all about the manners that used to go along with wearing one.
Would also be fun to hear about some of the superstitions from the olden days involving cowboy hats too. Love the videos, keep up the good work and God bless!
He's already made one look for it
Hats in general dude. Indoors, take your hat off. Especially at something like a comedy club so people behind you can see!!!
@@osakarose5612 hats are ok in public places, not personal places or church. Anytime something occurs - military or a funeral, no hat, unless outside.
NEVER wear a hat indoors when eating, at any time.
That's all i got.
Gentlemen's Gazette made an in-depth video about hat etiquette.
All hats. Take them off at the table when you are eating. My grandma passed years ago now but this has always stayed with me.
In such a crazy, divisive, dangerous world that we live in... you give me peace of mind. I feel like I'm learning real life skills from you and greatly appreciate your channel. Some people like myself look up to you as a real man.
There is a tragic and potentially dangerous amount of anger in this country, Dwayne. As you have noted, people are not able to talk about their differences. This anger has ended friendships and family relationships. I believe what’s lacking is enlightened leadership, someone who can help us focus on our sameness as Americans. You are trying to make leadership strides in that direction and many of us applaud you for your efforts. We all need to be more willing to listen, really listen, and see both sides of the issues that divide us. Keep up the good work, Dwayne. Maybe you will inspire more folks to open up to divergent viewpoints and, at the very least, become more tolerant and understanding instead of living in anger and resentment. God Bless.
i wish more folks spoke with respect for others like you do. love your videos so much
These videos are one take not spliced together, this is a man of deep honor and respect for the world around him. All from his soul.
As a young guy who was born and raised in the Baptist Church it’s been difficult to converse with people I know hold different 😮beliefs than me. I’ve realized I’m quick to judge, to label, and to dismiss. These videos are really eye-opening and show a clear path out of my naivety! I appreciate the calm but stern manner with which you address your audience.
It’s always good however to stick your beliefs.
You’ve got a strong character💪🏼
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Baptist can be another label. I am a Baptist but not in the typical denominational way.
Be a thinking Christian with the Word of God as your foundation.
Be afraid of no question against your faith or any other. The Bible has the answer. We may need to find it...but it's there.
Amen man. I notice alot of older folks in my church can approach confrontation in a scewerd way. For example, shouting at people saying their going to hell and highlighting sins you hold on a higher level than others. You got to come from a place of love, based on the foundation of God and once you have that, approach with compassion and openess.
@@jonathanhoover6142 You hit it spot on man, Amen.
The problem is that political groups understand the power of labeling. Instead of avoiding it because of that power (& danger), they deliberately use it to help push their agendas. It makes their competition look like the bad guy.
Here in Denmark a new case been blowing up. It involves kids, non-ethnics, and... Rape.... Thank you, government. Apparently its been going on for over 3 years straight......
Just want to relay that I get a lot from your videos. I am 40 and am still looking to better myself and be a better husband where I can be. We’re not perfect but the pursuit of being better is a good thing in my life. My wife and I ride in every state we visit and just bought a ranch. I don’t even know how to properly saddle a horse so it just means I have more to learn. I’m excited about every chapter that life relays. Cheers to you kind sir and wanted to say thank you for your teachings.
This is a very wise perspective of life and I‘ve really enjoyed this video. I‘m about as different as you can get from the typical viewer of this channel, to use ‚labels‘ I‘m lesbian, asexual, a passive Buddhist practitioner, and autistic. I share your views on how labels are misconstrued, and feel the exact same way about the ‚feminist‘ label and how I don’t use it for myself as it tends to be very polarizing and debated on the meaning. The strange thing with labels is they don’t change reality of what someone actually does or believes, it‘s surface-level and distracts from the true actions that someone does. I greatly enjoyed listening to you describe the uses and issues with labels so clearly. I‘m glad to hear that you‘re so calm about having different viewpoints rather than the typical arguer who automatically attacks someone for not being on their side, as a queer person I feel safe to view and interact with this channel. Keep up the great work!
@Number 1 Western Fan The more specific way I‘d define myself is Homoromantic Asexual, so i have romantic feelings for women but no sexual feelings for anyone. I also said I‘m a passive Buddhist, meaning I don’t participate in every aspect of the lifestyle but instead focus on the philosophies.
@Number 1 Western Fan I understand a lot of terms can be confusing when surrounding asexuality, don’t worry, I shared your view once too so I can see where you’re coming from. I’m really glad we can have this conversation since it is very on topic with the video in terms of labels, specifically how we have differing terms of romantic relationships. When imagining a relationship, think of everything you do. Kissing, cuddling, sharing a home, dates, etc, that all falls into the ‚romantic‘ category. Anything sexual would of course fall into the ‚sexual‘ category. For me, I want to have a romantic relationship with a woman, and that‘s enough for me and is still valid as a relationship even though I don’t have an urge to have sex with anyone. For your metaphor I‘d compare these aspects more as ‚flavors‘ rather than ingredients. You can have a standard box cake, for me a romantic relationship, and you can add chocolate to it, meaning sex would be part of the relationship. Some people prefer their cake with or without the chocolate, and I happen to prefer without. It still doesn’t make it any less of a cake.
My asexuality isn’t a choice and happens to coincide with one of the principles of Right Action in Buddhism, I didn’t plan for that to be the case haha. Even still, as I said, I mainly follow the philosophies so the restrictive practices aren’t my priority when forming a relationship.
Figuring these things out for myself has been extremely beneficial and made my life in fact much more less confusing. When I thought I was straight, I had trouble forming friendships with boys, confusing friendship and anxiety for attraction. Realizing my sexuality has allowed me to pursue the relationships I want and have platonic friendships with guys, the best of both worlds. To me, none of this contradicts each other and like the video said, our labels don’t make our realities any less true. If anything else is still confusing I‘m happy to explain, having the chance to learn is what life‘s all about :)
the way the sun crowns you is astounding. thank you for your work, you are so deeply appreciated.
Hey Dwayne, A bit of historic trivia for you. Exactly 158 years ago, at about the same time of day that you are filming this, just up the road from you, in Franklin, TN. the bloody battle of Franklin took place. With over 8,000 casualties in a little over four hours, it was the bloodiest four hours of the Civil war (November 30, 1864). This has nothing to do with your topic, but as a six generation Tennessean, I have always paused to remember these cataclysmic events in our local history. Take care. Oh, another great video, too.
My hope and prayer is that you never stop your videos.
Your wisdom and your delivery is what keeps me coming back. You are a much needed breath of fresh air in a very troubled time. Keep doin' you!
"We're tearing ourselves apart because we don't listen." Agreed 100%. we'd rather dismiss based on false labels than listen to the other side. I hope the next generation will value conversation more
Hey Dewayne , hope you are doing well and in good health. As a 21 year old picking things up that I think are beneficial to me as I grow I thank the Lord for bringing me to your channel. I knew you to be a man of God by a video you made, I could be mistaken but I believe it was the loneliness video where you first mentioned you didn’t always used to be as calm and wise as you are now, immediately I knew that’s the work of the Holy spirt. You hit the nail on the head with this video . Some people remain so self righteous now a days, no bother to even hear out the context of important things , it’s just “ I’m right and your wrong and that’s final “with people, Dewayne a video of being around equally yoked folks would be a good idea in case you ever find yourself looking for ideas. Thanks for posting I hope you are well
I am 22 years old young man lost with little to no hope! I watch your videos and they get me by! I appreciate your advice in any sense,shape or form. you help me think about things more then “your typical UA-cam video on self improvement/ motivation” thank you sir for your impact on my life anything helps
@Chris Sperling well I have zero motivation or positive thoughts currently! I want to quit smoking cigarettes and gain weight as I’m a skinny guy at 6,3 plus my home life is crap super toxic daily ! I’m stuck and ina rut but I want to change and become better
Why are you old?
Keep listening to Dwayne and momma is a good start. Things might suck pretty bad right now. . .been there myself in my version of it. Rain don't last forever and neither does the bitter cold of winter. When you try to quit smoking, it only sucks for a while. Keep your head up
Thank You!!! People try to bring "new" drama to other people in order to "validate" themselves. You are right to stand in your square. I'm with you 100% on this one!!!!!!
Your videos really hit home for me. Its like therapy for me. I'm currently 27 and just lost my girlfriend and my grandmother. Recently, I've come to realize that the issues I had buried in life have come back alive. And with a vengeance too. And its been hard on me mentally, physically and spirtually. I feel this a real low point for me. But your videos takes the worry and pats it down. Like growing a new flower. Which is what I'm doing with my life. Starting from scratch. And I will be able to blossom a new part of myself that I'd never thought exist. Thank you.
Can't help but notice that beautiful ray of sun shining over you as you're speaking...
Thanks for this one, Dwayne-I am a gay woman living in South Texas, and even though we do not agree on some things I am always humbled and centered by your videos. Much love and health to you and your family, and many more videos to come! Thank you for sharing your life with us.
This is the greatest channel ever! I learn a new way to look at the world every time.
I’m so happy I found this channel. It’s like advice from a loving father ❤
The beauty of insightfulnes is the simplicity of the answer. I learned myself. If I can't answer a question in its simplicity, then I don't know enough about it..
My 18 year old son loves your videos! We enjoyed the one we watched with you and your wife.. we are trying to watch all of them. Thanks for giving me a voice of common sense to listen to! You remind me of the men I grew up around in KY. Thank you!
There’s a town in Nicaragua called Estellí. I was there about a year ago with my husband and our kids. Beautiful town in the mountains of Nicaragua with a mild climate. It cools off quite a bit in the evenings, doesn’t get too hot during the day. There’s a lot of folks on horseback, a lot of tobacco plantations, and they grow a lot of coffee there as well. If you’re ever in Nicaragua, I think you and your wife would enjoy spending a little time there. Its beautiful. Thank you for the channel, I really appreciate your take on things, your horsemanship, and advice on life. I’ve been learning a lot. Hope to get to Dry Creek Ranch one of these days.
While I disagree with your stances, Dewayne, you’re completely correct about people needing to listen to each other and actually talking out our differences and being calm. As you said in another video ‘less rodeo energy, more cowboy energy.’
Stay good, friend.
You have gained my respect, sir! I hold your thoughts & perspectives in high regard. Keep ‘em’ coming - I appreciate the videos!
Thank you for putting it all out there and being true to yourself. You have helped and blessed many. Love you, brother!
This reminds me of what a good Bible teacher and apologist once taught me. He said a text out of context becomes a pretext. Rings true of what you are saying today.
Im no horseman but had your channel randomly pop up in my feed one day and have been listening ever since. Great thought provoking and calm invoking talks. The comment section is always encouraging to read as I see so many young people lost in this world of information being helped by you. Keep up the good work brother!
👏🏼 Thank you for discussing labels and how accountability always is required.
You, Sir, have a profound way with words and covering the gamut of life topics. Thanks for taking the time to pass the wisdom along to those of us who aren't so blessed.
Thank you, Dwayne!
It has been an eloquent insight into a topic pretending to be complicated today; I think soon enough, this will be a common epithet. You’re a real one, Dwayne. Always good to hear from you. So many people are benefitting from your insight :) The accent and cadence is a great time too, haha
I am so proud that I found this channel, i have learned so much listening to you talk. As a young man in this modern world I appreciate what you do and talk about.
Excited you created a Rumble account to upload more cigar and pipe content! 👍
You have managed to put into words things I've known. Things I've tried to tell others, things I was taught or taught myself. Your words hit me when I need them most. Want to say thank you for making these videos. Your words help me set my mind back on track. I know these things, have a similar (not exact) mindset, but sometimes ya gotta hear it from outside your own head for it to make more sense. From my heart. Thank you. I don't work with horses anymore, so it's a small joy to see you working yours and the way you go about it. I'm slowly getting caught up on past videos and enjoying what you share with us.
"Green broke" means "proceed with caution 'till proven otherwise."
Perfect description! Mind if I use that some time? 😊
It's Ur rodeo! I'll be using it "dawn sure" haha
This is such a great horse, that it's at the sale barn, cheap, for you today!! Or...This animal is so personality plus, someone else needs to experience this as well! 😉😂
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool Not that it matters, but if I'd definition it. The Cowboy I'd reference is that one in the 1880's.. knows how to survive, thrives through APPLYING wisdom, doesn't sleep on desert ground in El Paso...and many more. Maybe it's just knowing a Good soul...?.. maybe it's that simple of a context? Well, Wiseman, here's A context.
@@DryCreekWranglerSchool go right ahead! 😄
I'm a first-timer here. It's been a pleasure since i've found out what this guy is about. I hope he won't change at all. I like him. Regards from Argentina. Please, like my remark. It'll make me glad. Bye.
I'm a transgender man who watches your content on the regular and when it comes down to it, I fully believe that there is substance to each person. Communication, discussion and acceptance should be the foundation of each interaction. Not all of us agree, but we can all learn from each other if we opened ourselves to the opportunity.
Hey, Dewayne, here to put a smile on your face. Snuck my dog into Walmart (she needed to shop), ran into a "cowboy", hat, long coat, and a cowboy smile. He looked at my dog and asked her name (had that drawl as he spoke), I said, "her name is Grace". He looked at her and said, "it's been mighty nice meeting you, Miss Grace". It was in how he said it, slowly and genuinely meaning what he was saying. This, Dewayne, is MY definition of "cowboy". Hey, he's gotten me calling her "Miss"Grace. In the few minutes I saw him, he made an impact on me AND Miss Grace-think it's like God, kindness, love, joy, peace. That is what he wants us to share with this world. I pray for a heart more like His. It's hard some days in this world, but, when I fail, (and I will), I will get back up and try again.
P.S. Satan wants us to waste our time on things he would love for us to. Too many good things, Satan, take a hike!
I agree that this obsession of labels won't ever have a finish line. It's going to continue to the end of time because (and this is a generalization, albeit an observable one) the people who refuse to let others have their freedom in disagreeing to labels just won't let it go. Which is why I've concluded that the only way out of this is to let go of words and let go of trying to make everyone at peace with one another. The only way we find peace is if each individual person can be okay with the indifference between themselves and everybody else.
Hi, a youg spanish guy here seen all the Dry Creek Wrangler School's videos from a year and a half. Never disappointed! Glad to hear you.
I love these talks Dwayne. I think if people were more stoic then the world would be a nicer place. Reading Meditations by Marcus Aurelius would be a good starting point for some people. All the best from the UK.
I feel sad that you had to make this video Dewayne.
Thank you for all the positivity and wisdom you share with us.
Sending you my regards all the way from Singapore
If someone spends all there time attacking your position I find that they don't have a good position of their own. You are very clear headed and your videos are therapeutic. Thank you and God bless.
Perfect, yet again hits the nail on the head with me. I consider myself to be a modern man, forward thinking, BUT, I do not have to agree with everything that's out there. I have my own views, morals and standards, and they are mine alone. Because they are mine I will not press them on to others, but all to often, particularly here in the UK, the biggest arguments I've had is that I must accept and abide by other peoples views, morals and standards and thus put mine aside. My issue resides with those that like to preach at me that their way IS the way. I live how I live, keep your politics, religion, sexual/gender, Meat/Vegetarian/Vegan preferences to your own business and don't push it on me. I'm not a religious man, I don't believe in afterlife etc.. so I like to live each day, appreciate each day I have without regret or remorse. I get out into the wild as often as I can as this resets my mental health. Acceptance seems to be the big buzz word these days and all to often I find that it is those that look constantly for acceptance don't often have that within their own self to start with. Anyway, loving this channel.
Hi Dewayne, 80 years old here, and have a long lifetime of interactions with people, and you are so right about labels. I just put a label on my printer to remind me of a specific thing that I want to do in certain printing situations. It is a label that is useful and practical to me. Labels that people use to categorize other people are generally not useful in any interaction or discourse with other people. As you alluded, words have meaning, much like the framework of a structure, but it is the context of those words that provides us with the foundation of the structure. Ignore the foundation and the framework is pretty much useless. God bless you, sir. Oh, and by the way, here's a label for you: your hat is THE perfect cowboy hat in my opinion, and I envy you that you wear it so well! 🙂
I'm a liberal Democrat. For me, it's because I support the environment and conservation efforts, rights of workers bargain, taxes on corporations, and universal healthcare. To other people, it's a label for people who want everything free and don't work. I work 2 jobs one of which as a lumber laborer. You're totally right. Labels are just labels. Its how yourself defines them.
Ironically, in Australia, the Liberals are the far-right conservative party.
Did you vote for biden
Isn't calling yourself "Liberal Democrat" counts as labeling yourself too?
I'd label you an anti-capitalist, personally. Your political positions seem to fit the bill. You may think all of those things you advocate are good things, but each and every one of them involves the violation of individual rights, and so are not good things at all; I'd classify them as evil, in fact. You don't think in terms of individual rights; you think in terms of outcomes that you desire, regardless of the rights-violating means to achieve them. You want "universal healthcare", well... that would necessarily involve an immense amount and degree of rights-violations in order to achieve it. If you consistently respected individual rights, you wouldn't advocate any of those positions at all.
@@npcknuckles5887 How does that make him an anit-capitalist like what? Do you not like the planet or the environment, should workers have no rights and be treated as slaves, should corporations have to pay no taxes and how would providing healthcare through a tax be different than all the other stuff they tax us for which if you had ever done any research into it you would know the tax dollars we pay increase your quality of life substantially and you would not want that to go away. Will you pave your own roads and get all your own water and electricity plus deal with sewage.
Very well said. Obviously you have lived and learned. Your quality of horsemanship shines during your sessions of philosophy.
Keep on keeping on, your viewpoint should be heard
Dwayne, as a proud member and supporter of the LGBTQ community, I can say every word you've said in this video is absolutely true. I know people who immediately label others "homophobic" when they simply disagree with our lifestyle and it's wrong. My grandparents are heavily Christian and we have a strong relationship because we know deep down all that matters is being a good person. Your belief system is truly remarkable and refreshing and I'm very happy I've found your account. I listen to your videos every morning during breakfast and they help keep my mindset up floating throughout stressful times. Thank you for your words Dwayne. God bless.
given what youve told about your life, I'm surprised you would still associate with the commuity
@@jacobbaker5442Could you elaborate?
@@GantUNCENSORED-zs6hl the alphabet people would lynch him if they knew he wasn't calling Dwayne homophobic
I love everyone for themselves. We have a real problem when the media is weaponizing sexuality.
This is wrong. Live and let live is not going to create hate. You do you.
@@jacobbaker5442 see how you did exactly what Dwayne in this video encouraged us not to?
Hi there, I just wanted to thank you and mama for making these videos. My husband and I both watch your videos and it's like a breath of fresh air hearing down to earth people speak reason and wisdom in such a calm way. I watch your and mama's videos after a long day and they bring me peace of mind, it's a real blessing.
People have lost sight that true judgement lies in the hands in the one who sits at the right hand of the father. As men it is not our place to judge, we can hold a different view but still offer the hand of friendship or care. People get so wrapped around the axel that they deal in absolutes. Mr Dwayne the world needs more gentlemen like you.
They are not qualified to label you and your intentions.
Well spoke, sir.
Thank you for your videos.
Food for thought yet again, this man knocks it out of the park every single time.
It baffles me that some people would take the time to watch and "listen" to any of your videos and try to start an argument or "intelligent" conversation with a very negative outlook on life. You can't fix stupid.. Stay true to yourself Dewayne and don't waste your time on idiotic mindsets please. Thanks again for the words of wisdom.
What's interesting is the whole thing about being trans comes down to accepting that labels aren't always correct, just like you're saying. Someone labelled you as a man when you were born, and you were lucky that label stuck. For some people, it doesn't stick. If you don't have experience with people who are trans, with friends who come out as trans, it can be hard to see all the strife they deal with from the outside world just because how they label themselves doesn't match how others label them. There is a lot of hatred some people have just because some people are different. Some trans folk do develop a sense of embattlement and distrust, and they start throwing their own labels out to protect themselves, calling people transphobic, but that's because they have a hard life. So if there are some people out there who are hurting, you don't have to fully understand where they are coming from, just understand that some people lash out when they're living in a state of hurt, and try to find some forgiveness and compassion for that lashing out.
That said, we as a society should really be taking a step back from the internet and the way it really magnifies problems and puts a pin in vitriolic conversation. That's something to watch out for regardless of whatever your underlying beliefs are.
Wisely said, my friend. I'm a transgender individual who, just like you said, didn't like the label I was given. In fact, I don't particularly like any labels. I don't 'identify' as transgender or genderqueer, I just live my life and feel how I feel. While my experience can best be explained to non-trans people by explaining I was born as one sex and 'changed' because I'm 'trans', that will never begin to capture the nuance of my lived experience.
I agree with you completely that society needs to step back from the internet. I find that once people interact with an intelligent and calm whoever (that in which they do not agree with: trans people, gay people, other religions, etc.) that they realize everyone is human and, deep down, we are all the same.
I’m never one to comment on videos at all. But I must say that I love your videos Dewayne. Your wisdom certainly helps me when I’m working on my craft in my everyday life. We all have our journey in life, and it’s honor to be part of yours thru these videos as well. God bless, looking forward to the next video. (Side note, Cohiba Connecticut White Label is always a great cigar if you ever come across one. Small recommendation to try)
Well spoken Duane. Enjoying all your videos and philosophy. It's hard to be a stoic these days.
Awesome knowledge brother, that's a big problem in this world these days. Lots of people get judgemental and call names because everybody doesn't agree with them. God is our judge as you said and he is who we should try to live our lives by. He is our only judge and I think your channel shows the wisdom you have gained through him
I am so glad I found your channel. You always have thought provoking content. During my college years most of the classes I took as an engineering major were critical thinking based. During that time, critical thinking seemed to be everywhere. As I sit here and reflect on your video, I feel that critical thinking is dying. The service you are doing is much needed for that reason. You challenge viewers to use their brain and see things from different perspectives. You and I are very different, but you always make me sit and think deeply about what you say. Despite having extremely different backgrounds, most of I time I can see exactly what you are trying to get across. I look forward to every video, because I enjoy critical thinking. Congratulations on creating such great content.
Critical thinking has waned..In my opinion as well..
@@nathanisenhour4420 at a time that it is most needed.
I found your channel 5 days ago. Since then Ive taken the time to watch a video of yours each day. I enjoy very much listening to you. Thank you.
Interesting subject. It’s something I’ve been aware of for many years. There is a segment of our political society that has a history of redefining words to mean something that word did not originally mean. That can be a real problem as your discussion has revealed. In my opinion the reason for redefining words is to put a virtuous aspect to the subject that word is being applied to. Again in my opinion, that is purposefully done to persuade people that your values are virtuous. There are many well minded people that have been drawn off the path to another path just because of the redefining of words. It is very dangerous to our society.
This is why I listen to your channel. You are so sensible :)
I’m an over-educated, feminist, atheist non-smoker (like what I did with all the labels? Haha). Love your videos. The point about asking yourself, “what does that label mean to them?” is great. Maybe you’re not always politically correct, but I think you give great life advice and make really good points.
Love the fact that this channel can attract people of different backgrounds and cultural histories. This is exactly what keeps it real, and helps us all grow wiser 😊
I'd almost like to see the two of you do a video together.
@@elustran I would be so down 😁
Heads up Dwayne, YT is very sensitive about the F word that ends in ism. don't get kicked off the platform, we need you!
You're amazing. I sure hope that someone else is reading these messages because I honestly would hate the idea of you reading some of these things people write cause people are crazy on the internet.
I love your channel, you are able to present subjects in such a thoughtful, calm and respectful manner, we need more "Cowboys" to chat as you do. Thank you.
I am only 19 and I feel I have grown more in the last year or so I've been out of high school and out of the comfort and shelter of being an minor then I ever was in it. It's very strange since I almost don't recognize myself from back then and I think that had a lot to do with labels and thinking I had to be on 1 side or the other. If I wasn't one label then I was the other and if I was a certain label then I couldn't be the other. A big part of really trying to understand myself and the people around me, more importantly spending more time with people I love and care about then anything online, is that I am not indifferent on issues but sometimes I really understand both sides and think both opinions have some truth to it sometimes for different reasons. I think just like anything you're never successful on your first try, and that goes for life itself as it really seems like everyone is just stumbling all the way until they pass.
Something I love to death is Dante's Divine Comedy, specifically Paradiso or Heaven is the part I want to reference but it's important that everyone knows these aren't divine Christian texts but instead Christian Fan-fiction but still introduces a lot of interesting concepts. One of my favorite concepts is when he enters the 4th sphere or The Sun which don't if your curious just read it. But It's when he interacts with one of Dante's favorite Christian scholars, a Dominican, Thomas Aquinas who you can even look up. But it confuses him when he sees Bonaventure here as well, a "Franciscan" who he doesn't agree with and by all means shouldn't have made to heaven in his mind. Essentially it's if you had the idea that only Republicans would make it to heaven because of what they believe but when you get there it's full of Republicans and Democrats. But Thomas Aquinas explains to put it short, that in making it to Heaven your beliefs and your labels don't matter but instead what matters is that you seek unfiltered truth from God with all your heart, mind and soul. That the love present in Heaven isn't bound by these ideas of an imperfect world.
Essentially Dante is saying that *_Republican or Democrat, Black or White, Gay or Straight, etc. You can make it to Heaven as those labels actually have 0 value in your walk but instead it's whether you truly seek God's truth which means also implementing it._* Would love to hear peoples thoughts on this too, I always love talking about philosophical subjects and especially wacky biblical fiction like Dante's Divine Comedy or Paradise Lost, etc.
You’re the first person I think I’ve ever met who has literally the same values as me, but arrived with those values through a different path
I've recently come across your channel and I just wanna say I really appreciate your videos! Despite the fact that I think we have pretty vast differences in our beliefs about how to live life and various political issues, I'm certain that if we sat down for a drink and a chat we'd find a lot in common at our cores, and we could have a reasonable and respectful conversation. Keep doing what you're doing :)
Yes ! That’s it!
Politics has become top down. It needs to be bottom up. Grass roots politics. Talking to neighbors and the community and finding mutual respect and answers to LOCAL issues of people with presence and a face.
Pass it on.
I went to check out a "clean" used car once. It was obvious to me that my definition of "clean" was completely different than that of the person selling the car. My opinions and definitions are mine. Yours are yours. You and I happen to agree on almost everything and I am not a cowboy. I'm a biker and a retired trucker, and to me, the mind sets are close. You, Dewayne, have always been very upfront and truthful. I would love to meet you, possibly somewhere in Ohio before you head out west.
Great message as usual. Thanks
its been awhile since i have watched your videos, been busy, but nice to see you are still putting up great videos - this is the kind of stuff i wish would be taught in schools, the world would be a much better place - thank you and best wishes to you and your family
This is such a great video. I appreciate your perspective and wisdom
Its refreshing to hear someone with a common sense out look , and not afraid to talk about it . I enjoy your videos a lot . Thanks Dwayne !
Keep it up.. you are a true service to those who will open their mind and listen
“You won’t have a profitable conversation” what a well worded explanation
I want to give this 5000 likes because everything you just said is everything that I feel every day of my life So good on you sir that's why I watch you and I will continue to watch you💯💯💯💯💯💯
Several years ago I read a book on "Listening," a very simple, small and easy book to read. I cannot express the positive impact that book has had in all facets of my life. As usual, you have imparted great words of wisdom. thank you!
Grew up in far right very strict church left church parents and hometown in rebellion and got a good taste of the left. Damb near lost my self trying to be somebody and now by the grace of God I'm in the the middle leaning right because of an amazing Christian cowgirl that showed me what being an image of Christ really looks like. She made me feel so ashamed of my foolish ways and helped me get my head out of my ass.
I don’t know how your channel came up, but I have been loving your videos. It’s comforting to listen to the wisdom of someone who has lived a full life and has a lot of experience.
Unfortunately, if you say ANYTHING on the internet, people will attack you. If you say, “I love dogs.” You’ll be accused of Catphobia.
I’m sorry you’re having to deal with hateful comments. You seem like a good man who’s just trying to share things you have learned throughout your life to help others. I hope you know you’re making a positive impact. Those hateful comments are just from people who are looking for a fight.
I think part of the issue is that people have come to view youtube personalities as authority figures, despite it being a platform for sharing personal opinion. If you couple that with a deficient sense of personal culpability, then it creates the perception of a power struggle relationship between people voicing differing opinions. Personal accountability and humility, and respect for others would remedy a great deal of the problem.
Good-Nite…the world is a better place with this man in it. If everyone would stop and listen to this guy, wouldn’t it be a Great place. Thanks for sharing Mr.
The amount of wisdom this man holds and shares with us is incredible. Thank you.
this man always drops the perfect vid when i need it
Labels both define and confine us . They’re extremely limiting
100% accurate Dewayne. People need to LISTEN and READ what is said or written! Best thing for me is to ignore the people that just want to be argumentative and sensitive to anything that doesn't fancy their latest whim. It's a crazy spirit out there as was predicted centuries ago.
I've found that people use labels as a way to put you into a box with no wiggle room, rather than as a way to describe someone or something in a broad category