Boy Critically Underweight and Doctors Don't Know Why | Confessions of a Junior Doctor | Only Human

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  • @emilywiebel3238
    @emilywiebel3238 5 років тому +2788

    Hearing the girl speak about her teacher at 15 told her she would never be a doctor and she held onto that for 13 years is sad. Teachers are so influential in a child’s life and they should be speaking positive bc it leaves a lasting impression. I’m soooo glad she pushed through and she made it!! I hope that teacher changed professions bc that wasn’t the right one for them.

    • @hmmcinerney
      @hmmcinerney 5 років тому +82

      Emily Wiebel My Daughters career advisor told her she shouldn't go into architecture. 12 years later she has her own practise and won an award for her work. As a rule if you love something and are passionate about it, you are often good at it.

    • @violentwildling8924
      @violentwildling8924 5 років тому +15

      When I was 14 I had a teacher say more or less the same thing to me.

    • @sincos6200
      @sincos6200 5 років тому +36

      Exactly! I suffered a lot of humiliation from my teachers, never understood why adults feel the need to be rude to kids.. how does that make them feel?do they even feel bad?

    • @no-en3mq
      @no-en3mq 5 років тому +21

      Reminds me of my 8th grade science teacher whose teacher laughed him off when he said he wanted to be successful and told him he would work in a coal mine because he was black, now he owns his own successful security business

    • @elxhqiwsum8617
      @elxhqiwsum8617 5 років тому +12

      Emily Wiebel my mom said that I couldn’t be anything and I’m going to show her that I can be a doctor

  • @amyb6726
    @amyb6726 5 років тому +2981

    First, they are learning. Second, imagine their stress. They're doing the best they can.

    • @globalwarmhugs7741
      @globalwarmhugs7741 5 років тому +61

      Absolutely. You can see the stress and exhaustion in their demeanor. They went into this career because they want to help. The degree costs more than they can pay off for years, the stress, the grades you need to make. It's nothing like it was even as little as a generation ago.

    • @amyb6726
      @amyb6726 5 років тому +52

      @Pixel Dust , and how do you think people learn? Not like they want people to die.... obviously

    • @finncantwinn
      @finncantwinn 5 років тому +8

      @pixeldust are you a doctor?

    • @JustNatax3
      @JustNatax3 5 років тому +44

      @Pixel Dust Well they shouldn't have that much responsibility on their own! They should have senior experienced doctors at their sides but they are just so fucking understaffed.... It's literally impossible. They do the best they can. And they are still HUMAN. Not gods.

    • @louisacapell
      @louisacapell 5 років тому +1

      And that's not good enough.

  • @Mousy677
    @Mousy677 5 років тому +4698

    in the comments: people surprised that doctors who literally just started their medical career aren't perfect at their jobs yet.

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому +181

      Of course they aren't: they are supposed to have constant access to senior help but they don't get it apparently = not good for patient safety.

    • @globalwarmhugs7741
      @globalwarmhugs7741 5 років тому +205

      People expect all medical practitioners to be godlike. Even the most trained, experienced, senior ones are humans. The real problem is lack of funding and being short of beds, supplies, and staff.

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому +30

      @@globalwarmhugs7741 I don't think these days we expect medics to be quite as godlike as people believed in the past! But yes, shortages (demand/need exceeding supply), plus some docs are too arrogant and don't want to accept mistakes happen (including by them) so nobody learns from them which would improve patient safety. And 'human factors' (what can help prevent people from making mistakes) is becoming very important when investigating errors

    • @globalwarmhugs7741
      @globalwarmhugs7741 5 років тому +2

      @@jennyhughes4474 yep

    • @Lesbiana31
      @Lesbiana31 5 років тому +6

      I didn't comment but to ask someone how deep the tube should go down means she had no clue.I would've said down to her ars lol no I'm kidding but dam she most definitely should've known how deep lol

  • @lisemartino1854
    @lisemartino1854 5 років тому +1501

    Student: “I want to become a doctor.”
    Teacher *dropping everything* “This is going to be a hard journey, how can I help?”
    That’s what teachers should be.

    • @hotdogfart
      @hotdogfart 5 років тому +25

      You know teachers can’t do that, especially dropping everything and stopping class

    • @lisemartino1854
      @lisemartino1854 5 років тому +35

      I was a teacher for many years. I’m talking about AFTER class. Teaching is a vocation. That’s what good teachers do.

    • @masonringbinder684
      @masonringbinder684 4 роки тому +1

      @@lisemartino1854 "Was.", that's a shame.

    • @IARRCSim
      @IARRCSim 4 роки тому +8

      This video is about another thing you probably think should be a vocation. Doctors. It shows how the reality is that they need to divide their time up amongst the many people who need their help even while working extra hours. That's the kind of reality that probably hits most teachers too. Treating each person like your only child might be ideal but is completely unrealistic. People also need an intrinsic motivation and some natural ability to be successful. You can only do what is within your available time and power.
      When the medical doctor in the video talks about a teacher saying she won't succeed, consider how she achieved it anyway. Things could have easily turned out worse than actually becoming a doctor. That harsh message from the teacher could have given her the drive and determination to work through the challenges her teacher told her about. Given that she is 100% a medical doctor now, we know she could have only had more chances of failure if her interaction with the teacher were different.

    • @WhisperingStoryHaven
      @WhisperingStoryHaven 4 роки тому +2

      yes i totally agree withg u. and you shouldnt stop teaching

  • @lesliebeckwith2483
    @lesliebeckwith2483 5 років тому +4918

    i thought this was about aboy who couldn't gain weight....

    • @bravoprojectrunwayfans
      @bravoprojectrunwayfans 5 років тому +270

      It starts at 18:11

    • @MizzzFizzz
      @MizzzFizzz 5 років тому +297

      It was chronic depression and self-medication that was the issue with that kid i think. Not that I'm just defending cannabis but that dude pretty much has starved himself.

    • @lesliebeckwith2483
      @lesliebeckwith2483 5 років тому +121

      @@MizzzFizzz i think he was neglected as a baby and child... it happens with alot of people who don't recieve love...

    • @MizzzFizzz
      @MizzzFizzz 5 років тому +93

      @@lesliebeckwith2483 There could be literally over millions of reasons, "depression" is nice and broad.

    • @Lukezeeh
      @Lukezeeh 5 років тому +105

      eating nothing but a packet of crisps every 3 days would do the trick

  • @viewer0779
    @viewer0779 5 років тому +1004

    There are only 25 comments so far and all of them are hating on junior doctors,you try living with this stress and abuse day in day out,whilst trying to care for them at least give them a chance!

    • @TheWendable
      @TheWendable 5 років тому +51

      Fluff Ball Its unbelievable!! If we didn’t have junior doctors we'd never have senior doctors, surgeons and anaesthetists. Its like a driving test you truly learn to drive through the experiences you encounter after your test. Im often called upon as 'exhibit A' during students exams. I know there and then if they’re going to pass, when they guess my illness correctly.

    • @jenxx8697
      @jenxx8697 4 роки тому +13

      Fluff Ball we be lost without all our nurses drs etc and we all have to start somewhere I think they seem amazing junior drs x

    • @red.headed.gracie
      @red.headed.gracie 4 роки тому +1

      Hallelujah!!

    • @jenxx8697
      @jenxx8697 4 роки тому +3

      @Mr. & Mrs Smith well our health system works and you know nothing, they train and go round wards ages before they allowed out on there own, stop trying put our health system down when America’s isn’t great, junior drs do deal with stuff but it as to be checked by a consultant, there’s probably at least 3 professionals per patient, nurse, junior dr, consultants

    • @nickinurse6433
      @nickinurse6433 4 роки тому +1

      only your comment is negative

  • @annimay9718
    @annimay9718 5 років тому +433

    I respect anyone who goes studies medicine and works in hospitals . They work so hard to help us , our healthcare is free and a lot of us take that for granted. #SaveOurNHS

    • @prodbykodiak
      @prodbykodiak 4 роки тому +3

      Annimay ....not anymore😢

    • @deniseg-hill1730
      @deniseg-hill1730 4 роки тому +3

      It's not free all working people pay national health insurance. There are however a lot of freeloaders

    • @ongscott831
      @ongscott831 3 роки тому

      Bang on the head.

    • @catherinee.millard1831
      @catherinee.millard1831 2 роки тому

      Free? Are you kidding?

    • @nancydegeorge1143
      @nancydegeorge1143 Рік тому

      My grandson is studying medicine in Melbourne Australia. He wants to go into research but I presume he needs to do this sort of thing first. I worry for him but h3s very intelligent and thorough so cross fingers he'll manage 🤞❤

  • @desto1468
    @desto1468 4 роки тому +1743

    2019: talking about how hospitals are under pressure
    2020: hello
    edit:
    2021: Amateurs

    • @Pedgo1986
      @Pedgo1986 4 роки тому +29

      that talk is 15 years old, every winter NHS goes into collapse zone yet nothing was done to improve situation and now with glorious Brexit lets deplete staff numbers even more.

    • @kelceyfirth
      @kelceyfirth 4 роки тому +4

      There are more covid patients but less patients coming for other reasons so it evens itself out kind of

    • @desto1468
      @desto1468 4 роки тому +21

      no it doesn't, more people are afraid to go to the hospitals and die at home for things that can be cured, it's proved death ratios for other diseases have increased, sadly

    • @PBMS123
      @PBMS123 4 роки тому +12

      @@kelceyfirth No it doesn't. The other people who aren't going, aren't going because they're afraid, so people who should be going to hospital aren't. Their diseases don't get checked out, and they get worse, reducing their health outcomes.

    • @annetteyoutube742
      @annetteyoutube742 3 роки тому +5

      @@kelceyfirth ...COVID patients are extremely time-consuming and an energy drain to care for.
      1) Not only that they need more physical care, treatment and attention, but also
      2) the time-consuming sterilization of *everything* and all the donning and doffing of protective gear.
      --> all of this takes extra time and mental energy, because you'd better do it correctly.
      3) mental stress from fear of contracting COVID-19

  • @jena5634
    @jena5634 5 років тому +831

    A lot of people don't seem to realise this is the reality of training people to work in medicine. They are still trainees, they're not really fully qualified and we don't have the resources to train them fully without interaction with real patients. And any form of operation is different on a real person. Doesn't matter how many simulations you put them through, the weight of the real life scenario alone means some will slip up. It's horrific but it's a reality

    • @Rahel63
      @Rahel63 5 років тому +2

      I don't know how that works but they should at least let the patient know they're not fully trained. I'm sure no one would like to be the guinea pig of these doctors.

    • @jena5634
      @jena5634 5 років тому +68

      @@Rahel63 If they did that absolutely no junior doctor would ever complete their training. Part of the training is practical experience and someone is always going to be the first person they perform something complex on - and they are of course fully trained as much as possible in that area beforehand.

    • @Rahel63
      @Rahel63 5 років тому +3

      @@jena5634 Thing is, I've seen a lot of students that honestly seem yo not be cut off for the work. They seem nervous and sometimes end up hurting the patient. People like that shouldn't be left to treat patients until they're confident enough. Also, where I live a lot of Residents are the ones treating patients and no actual MD.

    • @jena5634
      @jena5634 5 років тому +27

      @@Rahel63 these people are often absolutely fine in the training but can become overwhelmed by a real life scenario, it happens. Also, you're only seeing the ones who are obviously junior doctors because of their behaviour, plenty get through just fine and you are none the wiser. Unfortunately with the shortages in staff they can't turf out someone for nerves, only monitor closely. That's not normal practice so I can't comment on that.

    • @carriegemin5226
      @carriegemin5226 5 років тому +5

      @@Rahel63
      Yes but on the other hand these nurses an new doctors need to learn somehow.

  • @ruby.rubes.
    @ruby.rubes. 4 роки тому +819

    and this was PRE covid. god bless these people

    • @fatimabelkhenfar9533
      @fatimabelkhenfar9533 3 роки тому +10

      I know right they should do an update version but in the safest way possible if that can happen

    • @metalvideos1961
      @metalvideos1961 3 роки тому +4

      yeah if god existed wouldnt he be helping her? o right you god believers dont think about that. brainwashed cows.

    • @GirlWthGlasses
      @GirlWthGlasses 3 роки тому +10

      @@metalvideos1961 people are allowed to believe in religion, be nice dude.

    • @metalvideos1961
      @metalvideos1961 3 роки тому +4

      @@GirlWthGlasses they are allowed. but if they spew their bs on a pupblic web site then they can expect to be talked back to. they have to be nice. they force us non believers to read their bs on a public website. if they want to believe fine but dont spew their nonsens on youtube. nobody wants to read this. unless you are a religious idiots ofc.

    • @leahtran8481
      @leahtran8481 3 роки тому +6

      @@metalvideos1961 regardless of religion, people say god bless you all the time, so chill

  • @jennapedersen2286
    @jennapedersen2286 5 років тому +731

    I'M NOT SEEING ANY HATE COMMENTS WAT YA'LL TALKIN ABOUT

    • @truthspeaker2249
      @truthspeaker2249 5 років тому +21

      HATE COMMENT

    • @kathrynh685
      @kathrynh685 5 років тому +43

      BoiWot there is they just sunk due to lack of likes.

    • @theflowerhead
      @theflowerhead 5 років тому +21

      Blocked? Some deleted? Or at the start flooded by nice comments?

    • @biancab310
      @biancab310 4 роки тому +2

      Lol you’r stupid

    • @WowoStorm_
      @WowoStorm_ 4 роки тому

      Same

  • @jenxx8697
    @jenxx8697 4 роки тому +215

    Rest in peace Tracy truly heartbreaking she seemed a lovely brave lady and had an amazing husband in tears at this my thoughts are with her husband, sweet dreams Tracy fly high princess x

  • @angelahagerman5003
    @angelahagerman5003 5 років тому +529

    This is why urgent care is extremely important. Urgent care is like the middle ground of what is and isn’t an emergency or else everyone floods the emergency room without a genuine life threatening emergency and it overwhelms the new doctors

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому +13

      Yes, need quick access to GPs (or good triage) who know when to refer to hospital/A&E, but humans will always make mistakes; to cover them up & lie after is unforgivable though - as in my case.

    • @mook_butt8037
      @mook_butt8037 5 років тому +8

      Absolutely. I’ve had to wait ages for a bed before because people get brought in by ambulance for things like sprained ankles.

    • @FlutePlayer777
      @FlutePlayer777 5 років тому +15

      @@jennyhughes4474 In the US we have Urgent Care which is like a clinic outside of hositals. Then we have Hospitals and Emergency rooms or as you call the A&E. We have all levels of care but people choose to take non emergencies to the hospital when they don't need to. Also our healthcare in the US is very expensive. Unless you are dying you don't go to get care if you don't have insurance. Its sad but true.

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому

      @@FlutePlayer777 Maybe you need more local Urgent Care clinics, ones that people trust will do it right, the triage?
      And I know some people go to hospital when it isn't an emergency but sometimes we don't know! Hence need for local fast quality triage.
      I know US healthcare is very expensive and so is insurance, it breaks my heart people can't get care because they're too poor.
      Does the insurance system (which provides profits and dividends for its shareholders from people's sickness, which is so wrong) make it easier to go to hospital than say to the Urgent Care clinics - and is there a long wait at both (as for all care in the UK)?

    • @FlutePlayer777
      @FlutePlayer777 5 років тому +3

      @@jennyhughes4474 There are usually no major lines at Urgent Care Clinics. They are spread out all over the US. They were created to lessen the load on hospitals. People don't use them as often right now. But they have basic triage. They have doctors on staff that can write prescriptions for simple things like antibiotics and have them filled at your pharmacy or as you call it Chemists.
      Insurance means your hospital visit is covered up to a certain percent of the cost. It makes it possible to get care and not worry about the money. But if it really is an emergency then you just go into debt. Say you break a leg God forbid then you need a hospital emergency room to access you and then send you to get a cast which is done at the hospital the same day usually. You pay for all of it because it is an emergency or your insurance helps cover some of the cost. The hospital waits are long here too but we have more hospitals per city than you do in the UK. Emergency is just one department of our hospitals which often have every kind of care. You have to pay for insurance and its very expensive.
      For another example, I am very sick at the moment. I am having trouble breathing and can't speak. Urgent care had me in and out in about an hour. Then I went and got medicine at the pharmacy which is your Chemist. The visit didn't cost me anything but the medicine cost me $10USD. That is because I have insurance. Without insurance it would cost me $150USD for the visit and over $60USD for the medicine.
      Please private message my channel and we can chat more about this if you want via email. I have so much information that there is not enough space here to write it all.

  • @ChloeFaalson
    @ChloeFaalson 5 років тому +664

    As a nurse this documentary breaks my heart

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому +34

      And for me too - I'm a patient who was injured by a catalogue of medical errors during a weekend & hospital was way understaffed & those there way undertrained & incompetent and did downright dangerous things.
      The NHS has been squeezed way too far, that together with massive waste and some people who are incompetent still employed (and protected). No wonder doctors (& nurses?) are leaving to work overseas where conditions are better.
      Too many patients are injured or killed by overtired staff who are being made to act beyond their competences. Patient safety must trump everything and there must be enough staff to provide safe care.
      Holly said she hadn't once (?) left work on time & that the NHS relies on doctors & nurses & others doing this: working unpaid extra hours, this is so wrong and in nobody's best interests.
      It was sad that right at the beginning in his pep-talk to new doctors the consultant didn't say 'you will make mistakes and we will train you on how to behave afterwards: patient safety first'.
      It appears that since my bungled op in 2005 nothing much has got better - very sad. Any hope or good news?

    • @ChloeFaalson
      @ChloeFaalson 5 років тому +10

      @@jennyhughes4474 I am so sorry to hear your experience. No patient should ever be treated the way you were treated!
      And I agree with you. I have seen patients getting injured because of short staff or over worked staff. I have changed many workplaces because of this. Cant stand it when patients get injured

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому +10

      ​@@ChloeFaalson Thank you for your kind reply, I've so needed to hear that from somebody - especially someone who works as a medic (if I've understood correctly - they gave me a brain injury as one of the bits of me they wrecked).
      I hope you've found a good place to work and that people like us are listened to and action taken so nobody else is treated as badly as I have been by so many in the NHS in the UK. All the best to you.

    • @thethe6679
      @thethe6679 5 років тому +2

      @@jennyhughes4474 wishing you a quick recovery

    • @jennyhughes4474
      @jennyhughes4474 5 років тому +5

      @@thethe6679 Thank you. Sadly damaged brains never truly recover, they can rewire themselves a bit (neuroplastivity) and we learn to do things differently when we can but it's very hard work to do things that were once so easy and we took for granted All the best to you..

  • @juliestevens6931
    @juliestevens6931 4 роки тому +96

    I learned just how important palliative care is when my husband was in his last few weeks of life. The team was great and we didn't have to worry about anything.

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 4 роки тому +7

      I'm sorry for your loss. May you find comfort in your memories. 🌻

  • @renaeweidman
    @renaeweidman 4 роки тому +83

    I can totally relate to Holly. My son has dyslexia and dysgraphia and two weeks ago in what was to be a meeting at his school to meet his needs the director said "I don't know how he even got into this school! Our goal is for every student to go to a 4 year university and he will never go to college!". My poor child, with his fragile self esteem heard this! I have retained an attorney because I did go to college and know my rights! Good on you Holly for proving that lousy teacher wrong!

    • @BeanoCake
      @BeanoCake 4 роки тому +7

      It’s just like, you’d think they’d know to think before speaking, instead of just insulting a child or their parent. Some people I swear, I’m sorry your boy heard something so terrible, just remind him and encourage everyday that he’s got this!

    • @happycook6737
      @happycook6737 4 роки тому +7

      Get your child out of that toxic school. Supplement school with intensive home learning. Pick a reading program that is Orton Gillingham based. It can be done.

    • @glenjoke10
      @glenjoke10 3 роки тому +4

      What does your child going to college have anything to do with your rights?

    • @Mojojoho
      @Mojojoho 2 роки тому +3

      @@glenjoke10 students for different reasons need help in school, schools are supposed to supply that. That’s what she means her right

  • @nursejulie3636
    @nursejulie3636 5 років тому +216

    Best of luck to everyone in the health field. You guys don’t realize that you make every one life less stressful in those times of needs. You guys got this hang in there.

    • @mariachowning1276
      @mariachowning1276 5 років тому +11

      Thank you! Its a tough job but we do it for the patients. Trust me, we definitely arent in it for the pay, we get paid peanuts. But we care about others and its rewarding when people get better and go home.

  • @the7thwreck
    @the7thwreck 5 років тому +137

    These people are literal Angels. I hope to be part of their team in the future. God bless you guys in this 'field'.

    • @littleblackpistol
      @littleblackpistol 5 років тому +3

      They are not angels and this is a sentimental and damaging view that strips people of their humanity. People go into medicine because it is a high status career for people with a specific kind of academic intelligence. There are people who go into it simply because it is expected (like many Indians whose parents expect it and push for it from day one of life) and there are those who go into it and realise they don't enjoy the career or are incompetent at it. It also has a high substance abuse and suicide rate globally. Doctors and nurses are simply human beings doing a complex job that takes a lot of education and ongoing training. They are also the kind of people who can cause merry havoc if they go bad or are incompetent. I have friends who are doctors and trust me, they are an flawed and normal human beings as anyone else who make mistakes, think about their salary and have interests outsie their jobs just like anyone else. To call them 'angels' is to degrade them into one dimensional things with no complexity and human needs.

    • @noirblanque5324
      @noirblanque5324 5 років тому +19

      littleblackpistol you sound like a smart-ass bitch.

    • @k3nz1e73
      @k3nz1e73 3 роки тому +9

      @@littleblackpistol Your comment is the most unneeded response I have ever seen.

  • @toxicbangbang
    @toxicbangbang 5 років тому +56

    Im so grateful for the doctors and nurses in the emergency department! A few years ago I had my first panic attack and I thought it was a heart attack. The nurse who took care of me told me to call if I ever had another panic attack. I did. One time, I thought it was a panic attack and I was actually having an allergic reaction and she told me to come in. Because she went the extra mile, I have now gotten my attacks almost completely under control. *I did have to wait until they had a moment to talk to me.

    • @dawnbradshaw2520
      @dawnbradshaw2520 4 роки тому +6

      You guys are amazing people who help us thankyou to all of you xxxxx

  • @mamorudafirst
    @mamorudafirst 3 роки тому +12

    I respect these individuals. They've lived through their own set of struggles, and still manage to help those who need it.

  • @Kumutuna
    @Kumutuna 5 років тому +118

    Everyone will have a first day. These people have a lot more on their plates. I respect them. Newbies need to learn too. They are the future

  • @donnawaters5174
    @donnawaters5174 5 років тому +26

    These people totally rock!! I would never make it under all that stress. Hats off to each and everyone of you junior doctors and all the staff

  • @alex.purcell14
    @alex.purcell14 5 років тому +129

    I feel for the girl who’s teacher said she wouldn’t be good enough. I was in the same boat but I wanted to do astronomy and my parents laughed about it. I ended up not going through with it in the end, but I’m glad she did

    • @rickcruz3382
      @rickcruz3382 4 роки тому +1

      @Smileyrie James they are not baking a cake they have to go to medical school for 7 yrs I wouldn't want her anywhere near me if I was sick or injured

    • @Jomama02
      @Jomama02 4 роки тому +3

      She is just using that incident to justify her feelings of inadequacy.

    • @tiffprendergast
      @tiffprendergast 4 роки тому +1

      Smileyrie James yeah

  • @gameplaygirl3268
    @gameplaygirl3268 4 роки тому +67

    Came to the comments to see if anyone was duped by the title. Thought this was going to be a documentary soley about a kid who couldn't gain weight. Not mad though this docu is still interesting. Really like the new doctor Holly

  • @SandiByrd
    @SandiByrd 4 роки тому +26

    Thank God for anyone who enters the medical profession. You are heroes - even if some days you feel you may not be. It takes an extra special person to do these unbelievably difficult jobs.

  • @mandei1989
    @mandei1989 5 років тому +14

    Doctors deal with a lot in a day, you can imagine the amount of stress their constantly under but they continue to help those in need of medical attention no matter how hard it is or how outrageous the patient/situation is. And we as people sometimes get mad at them because we think they aren’t doing enough but they try their best to do all they can. So you gotta give them props for doing the most hardest but most important job in the world. Thank you for all you do! 💪🏼💯

  • @belladamex767
    @belladamex767 3 роки тому +26

    Holly is amazing following her dream, she was sure about her ability and I’m sure she’s made a great Doctor since this was filmed.

  • @mikaelstromquist5336
    @mikaelstromquist5336 3 роки тому +8

    Wow... what a handful of beautiful doctors! So compassionate, so loving and so dedicated.
    It's sad they can't get more support.

  • @Retro_animation
    @Retro_animation 5 років тому +7

    This is just beautiful. I completely understand their stress, but they are all still so passionate! It honestly makes me cry (happy tears and sad tears) to know that those who are just starting out have to handle situations that people with 20+ years experience have to deal with. Very eye opening and inspiring!

  • @michelleparadis7284
    @michelleparadis7284 4 роки тому +66

    Can you imagine a teacher telling ANY student they'll never be anything. Wtf! Her revenge, she'll be saving his life one day!

    • @k3nz1e73
      @k3nz1e73 3 роки тому

      How you know the teacher is a man tho?

    • @AllenTax
      @AllenTax 3 роки тому

      Maybe karma has hit the teacher.

    • @sheilaboston7051
      @sheilaboston7051 3 роки тому +2

      Even though quite a good student, I was told by a teacher, at the age of 16, that "I would never amount to anything." I actually didn't take it on board because I've always had a reasonable level of confidence, but I will admit that whenever I achieved something during my working life I would say to myself, "you were wrong, Miss Allen."

  • @harrysarada2710
    @harrysarada2710 4 роки тому +58

    When people say just ‘eat more’ or ‘just eat less’, sometimes, this is the case, but other times, it’s much MUCH more complicated then just diet

    • @AllenTax
      @AllenTax 3 роки тому +1

      Well yes. As emotions almost play into it. Excludeing those not with them. It was a some years ago I saw where it was proven that part of the brain and liver doesn't function correctly to eating. That they give off some chemical that can either make you want yo eat or not. This is also disreguarding the fact of nausia playing a role into it.

    • @whatisthis1958
      @whatisthis1958 3 роки тому +4

      Mental health isn't taken seriously, even in terms of funding. My mum works in mental health and funding in her line of work hasn't increased in like 7 years, and honestly it's awful. She works with children and adolescents which makes it worse. Sometimes it seems eating disorders are the most poorly understood conditions, whether it be anorexia, bulimia, or binge eating disorders. Food addiction too, like the stuff you see on 600 lbs life, is highly misunderstood.

  • @abigaelrarts2257
    @abigaelrarts2257 3 роки тому +5

    I have so much respect and appreciation for those who work in health care and are passionate about what they do. They really are who we rely on in our worst and most vulnerable moments. They are there when there is nothing we can do to help, leaving our loved ones in their hands.

  • @JDMimeTHEFIRST
    @JDMimeTHEFIRST 3 роки тому +57

    The boy is the most aged child I’ve ever seen. It’s sad when people don’t recognize depression. I also went through that at that age and my whole life including now. I didn’t have access to cannabis which people often forget compounds depression. It’s useful for a lot of illnesses, but not depression because it’s a depressive. I hope the kid received help to have a healthier lifestyle. Being a teen sucks. Being an adult isn’t a lot better. We live in a society that rewards loud sociopaths and punishes smart quiet people. I still want to be a hermit in the mountains. People make life difficult. Too much negativity. Being in nature is so calming. No mean people around to ruin it.

    • @lil_weasel219
      @lil_weasel219 3 роки тому +3

      its a "depressive"
      ??? wha?

    • @user-cm9sf7vs5h
      @user-cm9sf7vs5h 3 роки тому +4

      @@lil_weasel219 Excessive use and pre existing mental health issues is not a good combination. Moderation like every drug I suppose but it does mess you up eventually even though "it's only weed"

    • @gamtoszinios1336
      @gamtoszinios1336 Рік тому

      See me im most aged and most reversed at same time

  • @joolsbaldwin
    @joolsbaldwin 4 роки тому +22

    I have been in hospital recently. One Dr treated me in A and E. And by the time I went home two days later he was still there, I don't think he went home at all he came to see me twice after I went to the ward. He was the most caring empathetic person I have ever met. If I wasn't an old bird. I would marry him.

  • @aliyamoon80
    @aliyamoon80 3 роки тому +2

    Much respect. I'm across the pond. Our residents are stretched thin. You are the future. I think you're brilliant.

  • @crazyamericanredhead
    @crazyamericanredhead 3 роки тому +13

    Palliative care is an incredibly noble path!

  • @texasgal2794
    @texasgal2794 4 роки тому +48

    I can relate to this.......I was a nurse for 34 years! I can remember my first patients and how frightened I was to give care. I remember placing a foley catheter for the first time with my instructor telling me I just contaminated the field! I finally got it right on the third try! Nurses in the US are allowed to place N/G tubes like this doctor did. As I got more experience I became more confidant. These docs will soon be performing tasks like it is an everyday event!

  • @janfilbeck6376
    @janfilbeck6376 4 роки тому +3

    As an RN for many years I must say most of the MD residents were humble and eager to learn from us lowly nurses and aides! It's imperative that young doctors and nurses get as much experience and guidance we can provide!

  • @queensnow4052
    @queensnow4052 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you for all doctor, nurses and health care professionals for saving our mothers, fathers and children in the most stressful year of 2020. Read this and keep doing your best and take care of each other. Be there for each other and don't let COVID-19 win. 💛 from 🇯🇲

  • @adrianfeeger
    @adrianfeeger 3 роки тому +10

    after working in the NHS all I can say is everyone who works in it is a hero

  • @payton_7570
    @payton_7570 5 років тому +139

    17:49 what you’ve been waiting for about the boy who can’t gain weight

  • @alannacarlson6715
    @alannacarlson6715 4 роки тому +56

    0:17 As young as TWENTY-THREE??? That's insane. I can't imagine being a doctor at that age.

    • @learntocrochet1
      @learntocrochet1 3 роки тому +1

      They are in a position and level of education similar to U.S. residents.

    • @globby4396
      @globby4396 3 роки тому +1

      Dr.'s that are from different countries are usually much younger. I believe in places like the Philippines 16 to 17 yr old start uni.

    • @itsLadyDarkness
      @itsLadyDarkness 3 роки тому +1

      Well I am a 23 years old doctor 😆

    • @sheilaboston7051
      @sheilaboston7051 3 роки тому +1

      Leave school at 18 + 5 years at Uni = 23. That's just for the theory part, now comes the practical!

  • @ongscott831
    @ongscott831 3 роки тому +2

    Dr Sam that’s why NHS need people like you more and more.

  • @skatersurfersnowboarder3545
    @skatersurfersnowboarder3545 4 роки тому +22

    imaginating them at the start of their careers dealing with the pandemic... all the best and wishing safety

  • @MrBat000
    @MrBat000 5 років тому +59

    Doctors and nurses do a hard job anywhere around the world!

  • @LLGuerra
    @LLGuerra 5 років тому +27

    My heart. Thank you Doctors for all you do.

  • @biancamontalvo7861
    @biancamontalvo7861 5 років тому +15

    I respect these people so much.. to go into a career where you are literally learning something every day, specially being a newbie.. and technology that you constantly work with that evolves.. thats hard. Good luck to them all.

  • @makaylaandhenry9160
    @makaylaandhenry9160 5 років тому +111

    I was stressed about messing up as a telemarketer I wouldn't make it as a doctor lol my anxiety would kill me

  • @kirstenornelas881
    @kirstenornelas881 4 роки тому +12

    When my mother in law was dying and the doctor and nurse had tried everything, her nurse even had others who offered to and did take over his other patients so he could be right there with us so that any new things he could try, any new info the doctor called him with or sent over his laptop he could move right then and try it, the doctor spent every min focused on talking to any and every doctor from the states to Australia to the uk to anywhere he could think of to try to find anything he could to save her. The nurse cried with us when there was nothing left, he and the doctor held us and cried with us when she passed. He allowed me to take a few photos of her covered up holding her husband's hand for the last time during those final beats of her heart and final breaths. I have the most heartbreaking photo yet you can see the love they shared over the many many years they shared their lives. He followed her in death just 8 months later both passing on the 27th of the month they passed in. My heart goes out to the families who have lost but also to these physicians who put their entire heart and soul into helping their patients only to get burnt out because of things out of their own control. They need support as well.

  • @henryfullman9171
    @henryfullman9171 4 роки тому +7

    Wow ! I think everyone needs to watch this to see how hard they work ! And why they have to wait some times, these people are amazing ! Keep doing what you’re doing working so hard and so working with so many emotions !

  • @yoinksscoob4889
    @yoinksscoob4889 3 роки тому +3

    These troubling times have shown everyone just how important these people are, congrats to anyone out there who works for the NHS, or is a care worker, a health worker etc, you are awesome

  • @Ava_Orchid
    @Ava_Orchid 4 роки тому +8

    Palliative care is one of if not the most important things out there. It is very hard for many docs to discuss end of life things which only confuses and disorients their patients. Palliative care knows how and why it is crucial to discuss things plainly and matter of factly while still finding the positives even in death

  • @dianecleary1054
    @dianecleary1054 2 роки тому

    Gave my doctor a xmas present her face melted. She was so taken back. They give so much
    We must show our appreciation.

  • @yzzie.
    @yzzie. 5 років тому +16

    Clicked for the title, stayed for the content.

  • @heyitsmae3109
    @heyitsmae3109 4 роки тому +3

    Changing the life of somebody for the better, either be it for themselves or for their family, is just a wonderful fulfilling feeling. That is my reason for deciding to take my path into the medical career.

  • @ave123ization
    @ave123ization 4 роки тому +8

    god seeing them and the stress they're under makes me want to cry. What would we do without them

  • @kemclau91
    @kemclau91 4 роки тому +7

    Bless Tracy and her family 😇 and that dr who served her.

  • @anked3942
    @anked3942 4 роки тому +5

    These people are amazing
    I hate how they describe to feel guilt when they cant spend more time with patients. Really says it all.

  • @Jess-3
    @Jess-3 3 роки тому +2

    NHS I’m so thankful for you. I can’t believe you’re now dealing with covid. It’s eye opening that you were struggling already and then you have covid on top it. I can’t imagine the added stress. ❤️❤️ my thoughts are with you, my prayers are with you.

  • @rosemarydudley9954
    @rosemarydudley9954 4 роки тому +6

    If ever I was "north of Watford" (as we say down south!) and needed hospital care - I would ask for Holly. To me she seams a really caring, thoughtfull doctor and I love her attitude towards her work and patients. I hope she sees her potential and caries on "for ever" as a doctor.

  • @oceanlife6125
    @oceanlife6125 3 роки тому +1

    My dad was born here , I was born here, I gave birth to my children here, and I have just recently lost my dad here aswell, and I cannot thank the staff enough for there support and understanding .

  • @debraboyea7776
    @debraboyea7776 4 роки тому +2

    That young man who is so skinny really had me choked up. I hope he got the help he needed.

  • @BritishEcho
    @BritishEcho 3 роки тому

    I have nothing but respect for anyone who wants to be/is a doctor/nurse. They are the unsung heroes that we rely on everyday....

  • @dogmatil7608
    @dogmatil7608 5 років тому +47

    this is me right now xD just started working last month and I'm already scared of my first night shift and making mistakes.
    the worst is that we have too few doctors, so beginners need to handle almost everything on their own when they should have someone at their side for a few months at least to ask when they don't know something. Luckily in my hospital I do have that situation. But still sometimes you feel left alone. you don't want to make mistakes, but you also don't want to annoy your superior with questions all the time. it's tough. and you never get out on time. and the different routines ... all very stressful on top of the great responsibility you have.
    in university you learn lots of theoretic stuff, but not much practical. and then one day you are a student and people explain everything and after one exam you are a doctor and are supposed to know everything and be perfect. it's not possible.
    what I do when I don't know something, I'm honest about it to the patient and get in touch with my superior. I'd rather annoy them than make a mistake. And if they mind it, they need to make sure we get better training or more personal. that's not my job, that's theirs.

    • @dogmatil7608
      @dogmatil7608 5 років тому +3

      @Smileyrie James that's so true! the nurses often know more than the young doctors through their experience, so they can be of a lot of help to us. luckily in my clinic we work closely together as a team :D

    • @janedoe7229
      @janedoe7229 5 років тому +2

      Smileyrie James nurse here. The nurses are always the advocate for the pt and assist the doctors in procedures and appropriate orders.

    • @cliziamorgante1342
      @cliziamorgante1342 3 роки тому

      Are you Italian?

    • @dogmatil7608
      @dogmatil7608 3 роки тому

      @@cliziamorgante1342 no why?

    • @cliziamorgante1342
      @cliziamorgante1342 3 роки тому

      @@dogmatil7608 It sounded very similar to Italian medical schools 😁

  • @rhiannoncoleman9100
    @rhiannoncoleman9100 4 роки тому +20

    This is my local hospital, I’m kinda proud

  • @deannabarker584
    @deannabarker584 3 роки тому +11

    I am very happy for Ryan. I hope that everything worked out for him.

  • @MsKassy1993
    @MsKassy1993 4 роки тому +2

    It's so sad to read people hating on junior doctors. It is incredibly hard to became a doctor, then it is incredibly hard to be a doctor, in the begining you have to earn the trust and keep learning, but this is something they will have to do for the rest of they carrer. You do not stop learning at any time and suddenly became perfect. This is what people do not understand doctors are people they are not perfect roborts. PLEASY APRECIATE THE EFFORT. There is not a harder and ungreatfull work. APRECIATE

  • @madeleiner559
    @madeleiner559 3 роки тому +8

    Holly is amazing. Totally competent. Well done

  • @jivingdodo
    @jivingdodo 3 роки тому +18

    Makes me so angry we are not training enough of doctors or keeping enough doctors in the NHS. Shame on government spending priorities. Bad for doctors, bad for patients, bad for society.

    • @Bringon-dw8dx
      @Bringon-dw8dx 3 роки тому +1

      Amen. So many of my friends lost out on medical school places that would have been amazing doctors. They got the grades but there just isn’t enough spaces. It’s ridiculous.

  • @parkersre-creation
    @parkersre-creation 3 роки тому +3

    Shows a lot of skill of that young doc to have a patient trusting him enough to disclose his drug use. Lots of people don't disclose they smoke cannabis and that's a huge issue especially in cases where anesthesia is needed (NEVER lie to your anesthesiologist about your weed use - you need more medicine to knock you out and they need to know that). So to have him develop enough rapport that other doctors failed to do is really great.

  • @MoBahar687
    @MoBahar687 5 років тому +16

    If you ever visit a hospital, always thank the nurse / doctor no matter what!

  • @whydiddiscodie94
    @whydiddiscodie94 4 роки тому +4

    Bless the people who work in hospitals. I’m a health care professional too but I COULD NOT deal with these high stress situations they show. I don’t know how they do it!

  • @kimglover6968
    @kimglover6968 Рік тому

    End of life care is the most important thing anyone can do in the medical field. It's the most rewarding thing I've ever done.

  • @Julie-ip3il
    @Julie-ip3il 3 роки тому +7

    Did no one do a drug panel on the underweight boy?! He said he’s been in hospital 17 times in the last year. Even if he wasn’t willing to tell anyone he smoked weed, it should have been positive on a drug test

  • @mondaytuesday1202
    @mondaytuesday1202 4 роки тому +9

    It's sad about Ryan because the mental health side of the NHS is even more underfunded. It's extremely unlikely he'll receive long term useful therapy for underlying issues or rehab to make big changes he needs without others really fighting his corner. He seems so very isolated and like everyone in this film patients and staff- deserves much more.

  • @letswrithe
    @letswrithe 5 років тому +5

    as stressful as being in hospital is, i can't help but feel joyful and almost nostalgic when i hear the beeps of monitors and the sound of blue curtains rolling. as much as i was hurting physically and mentally from suffering with an unknown lung illness which caused me to get pneumonia 28 times from ages 3-14, hospital was my home away from home. i spent so much time there that i could never hate it, nor be scared of it.

    • @TheWendable
      @TheWendable 5 років тому

      driedworms OMG if you were my kid I'd keep you in bubble wrap.

    • @bcaye
      @bcaye 5 років тому

      Did someone in your household smoke?

    • @letswrithe
      @letswrithe 5 років тому +1

      Wendy Bendy haha that was virtually what it was, i was under so much protection from absolutely everything

    • @letswrithe
      @letswrithe 5 років тому

      Barbara Danley at the time, yes, but that wasn’t the reason for it (it certainly didn’t help though). the main reason was when i was 3, i had a common fever after never being ill, i vomited in my sleep and as i was asleep and unaware of what this was, i inhaled heavily, thus making the vomit go down to my lungs. essentially, i was drowning in my own chunks.
      after having my lungs flushed out multiple times, the vomit never shifted from my lungs :D

  • @mominacup1441
    @mominacup1441 5 років тому +201

    Why are all UK documentary series so good!

    • @TheWendable
      @TheWendable 5 років тому +64

      Mom In A Cup They’re real, no dramatic music no cliff hangers you could be right there on the ward...thats my humble opinion 🙂

    • @mominacup1441
      @mominacup1441 5 років тому +15

      Wendy Bendy absolutely agree! I wish we had more stuff like this here (in Canada).

    • @janedoe7229
      @janedoe7229 5 років тому +8

      Mom In A Cup I’m in the US and this is about all I watch. Lol.

    • @cucumberboi5208
      @cucumberboi5208 4 роки тому +11

      Because u.s ones are fake

    • @aprilapril2
      @aprilapril2 4 роки тому +14

      No images of blinking eyeballs ... no crashing or creepy music .... no advert breaks every 60 seconds...

  • @Logan-ym5iz
    @Logan-ym5iz 5 років тому +420

    lmao, I haven’t seen a single hating comment. Just a bunch of people complaining about the it.

    • @jbtheactivist
      @jbtheactivist 5 років тому +2

      Lil Gay facts lmao

    • @jayjohnson8403
      @jayjohnson8403 5 років тому +2

      I guess they got deleted or something

    • @Aqua750
      @Aqua750 5 років тому +7

      Sad that it’s true, hate it when people pretend there is problems to get likes, like stfu so unoriginal! Make a comment about the video not the comments!

    • @MrsCurioCheerio
      @MrsCurioCheerio 5 років тому +13

      Dogeexe It’s not that people pretend, it’s that as new and highly liked comments get flooded in, the old ones get pushed down making it seem as if there weren’t a lot of complaining people when there very well could’ve been earlier

    • @theflowerhead
      @theflowerhead 5 років тому +2

      It's probably far down.

  • @mcondry8036
    @mcondry8036 3 роки тому +2

    I work at an ER here in the USA. Healthcare always was iffy but since COVID it’s been miserable. But those few have made it worth every moment.

  • @Tavat
    @Tavat 3 роки тому +23

    “Long-term cannabis use is an appetite suppressant.”
    My two decades of daily weed munchies have entered the chat.

    • @eyreheadi
      @eyreheadi 2 роки тому

      Me, toking deep and stuffing my face with delicious crunchy salad: “So... how much exactly until it kicks in...?”

  • @michasz4297
    @michasz4297 4 роки тому +97

    Ryan is really 20? 😵 He hardly looks like a 15 year old.

    • @samnicholson5051
      @samnicholson5051 3 роки тому +4

      And weighs as much as a 9 year old. Poor guy. But they shouldn't have called him a boy in the title.

  • @bonniemoerdyk9809
    @bonniemoerdyk9809 4 роки тому +5

    My heart goes out to those patients....

  • @Annie-no7qk
    @Annie-no7qk 2 роки тому +1

    The worlds gone absolutely mad.. When will the Government get their bloody act together.. Its so cruel on these Doctors, Nurses and of course us "the patients"

  • @alexfrost1718
    @alexfrost1718 3 роки тому +3

    Sam we'd love to have you in NZ but it looks like the UK desperately needs you

  • @jasoncasey7009
    @jasoncasey7009 2 роки тому

    Thank you 🙏 all at are NHS for all you do each day for all of us. You are all super heroes 🦸‍♀️ and you keep us alive and mend us when we brake are selfs so a massive thank you to you all 💋

  • @fishfingers3024
    @fishfingers3024 3 роки тому +9

    Well as someone who is ill, and it will eventually kill me, this was depressing. Well life is what it is. Good luck one and all.

    • @stormy439
      @stormy439 3 роки тому

      I wish you peace now and always!

  • @yolandacasey66
    @yolandacasey66 4 роки тому +3

    Do people not realize the very doctors that you prefer were once brand new and didnt know all they know now. Thats why learning hospitals are so important. I worked with the new doctors for 19 yrs watched them turn from green and hungry to learn into skilled and compassionate confident and knowledgeable more patient physicians. Learning hospitals are what teaches them no matter how smart they are you also need to know how to deal with and treat everyone and show them respect. These hospital are very necessary..

  • @Charlotte-iq8hk
    @Charlotte-iq8hk 3 роки тому +3

    Crazy how we’re in 2021 and all these points still stand and the NHS is struggling more than ever! Hearing that statistic that 6000 junior doctors applied to work in Aus or NZ in 2016 just shows that there isn’t enough incentives to work as a doctor/nurse in the UK, I’m hoping that as our Covid cases stabilise that the focus will shift from the pandemic to what can be done to further support the NHS and ultimately keep it running in a way that fair for everyone.

    • @Bringon-dw8dx
      @Bringon-dw8dx 3 роки тому +3

      I’m in medical school now and people (myself included) are already starting to wonder if going abroad is the better option.
      We leave medical school in so much debt, to work in understaffed hospitals where any mistake could end our career (which is bound to happen with the lack of staffing and senior oversight), on not so great pay (compared to other countries) and on top of that up until the pandemic people often hate you. Honestly I was shocked at the abuse doctors get when I first started medical school

  • @koriw1701
    @koriw1701 3 роки тому

    "Death is a consequence of life." ~ Holly, Junior Doctor ~
    No truer words have ever been spoken

  • @akaFloof
    @akaFloof 4 роки тому +13

    I am really hoping that the teacher, who ever so kindly told the young junior doctor that she would never become a Dr or make anything of herself, has watched this. 🤞I'm also hoping that said teacher feels ashamed of themselves 🖕- because they bloody well should do. Good on her for achieving her dream and qualifying as a Dr. 💖

  • @lynnehrlich1481
    @lynnehrlich1481 5 років тому +11

    God bless these doctors! They are inspiration for us all to work for the careers we want.

  • @jacksonchung6879
    @jacksonchung6879 4 роки тому +4

    Best of luck to all of the juniors and all the doctors out there! ❤️

  • @amylouiselambert
    @amylouiselambert 5 років тому +21

    I'm proud to work in this hospital ❤️

    • @rhwus
      @rhwus 4 роки тому +2

      wait you do?! that's awesome! And remember to take breaks sometimes dear

    • @crunkz5542
      @crunkz5542 4 роки тому +1

      I feel privilege'd and humbled to be able to communicate to u , and tell u u guys are great !! much love. Gods Angel's

    • @kimarellano3791
      @kimarellano3791 4 роки тому +1

      Has anything gotten better in the last 4 yrs. ?

  • @treeman6464
    @treeman6464 4 роки тому +5

    Thinking about all the health care workers during COVID even this makes me cry 😢

  • @luna-kiva
    @luna-kiva 4 роки тому +1

    Just wait till 2020 hits. NHS doctors and staff you are amazing and we thank you.

  • @geehee7971
    @geehee7971 4 роки тому +10

    Emily: end of life care. Amazing woman.

  • @ev1lp1nk
    @ev1lp1nk 3 роки тому +12

    BLOWS MY MIND funding for Hospitals (salaries/supplies etc) isn't at the top of the budget list. Honestly, what is more important than healthcare?? 😓🤬 dafuq is wrong with those in Government?!

    • @missdynofire7558
      @missdynofire7558 3 роки тому

      Power is more important than Healthcare. Money = Power, Power = Money.

    • @missdynofire7558
      @missdynofire7558 3 роки тому

      @@ruskie8308 girl it don't matter if it's free or not bc anywhere in the world, money equals power ☠
      Also, no where in my comment did it imply that I was talking about how much Healthcare costs in the UK. Literally the whole video was about being understaffed, not how much Healthcare is
      More staff means more people they need to pay. More people to pay means less money in the pickets of those that have higher authority (the government)
      I think braindead people would know to ask for clarification instead of jumping off the Cliff of Conclusions. Try learning.

  • @kerstiesweeney
    @kerstiesweeney 4 роки тому +3

    Bless all hospital workers. Bless them.
    💖💖💖

  • @Alice-kn9ii
    @Alice-kn9ii 5 років тому +7

    This is so inspirational! First year of med school here ❤️

  • @AstridHellendoorn
    @AstridHellendoorn 3 роки тому +9

    31:26 One of the advantages of being a doctor (in training) in the Netherlands is that I have absolutely no problems with asking about drug use, it never occured to me that other countries might not be comfortable asking that

    • @MmMny1
      @MmMny1 3 роки тому +1

      Yes its difficult for me , even alcohol and sexual behavior , as those are forbidden here and its very offending to ask about