Thank you for watching this video on trauma and healing 🌱. It's amazing how much we can learn about ourselves when we take the time to reflect. Trauma affects so many of us, but healing is possible. I’d love to hear your thoughts-what part of the video resonated with you the most? 💬 Let’s support each other on our healing journeys. Please share your insights below, and don’t forget to like and share with others who may need this message. 🙏💙#TraumaHealing, #MentalHealth, #EmotionalHealing, #SelfGrowth, #HealingJourney, #Compassion
Thank you very much for all these videos, nugget-sized is appreciated. I usually listen so find I miss the typed bits, but realise the intention is to give a simple summary of useful points. This one hit hard for me as my Mum left when I was in my "terrible twos" & I've been a peoplepleaser most of my 55years incl burnout, tho hoping the next 55years(!) be more healthy ❤ The point about yes not meaning anything if can't say no is very true & very painful. Bless my parents they tried but each had their own wounds, but trying to protect them from feeling bad has hindered me, years of dissociating, only realizing recently how much I've done that. Hey ho. Yes indeed healing is possible, but it can feel a big mountain. Love & hugs to all of us🎉❤🫂 PS rather than "don't forget" can you please maybe say "remember"? Apparently our subconscious doesn't absorb the negative part, so only hears 'forget' - is what lingers in my mind anyway, feels confusing. Tho trying to speak in positives doesn't always give same meaning .. 🤔 ~ thankU for hearing me/ 'listening'/ inviting us to share & connect & support each other.. the effects of trauma are so many & insidious(?) pernicious(?)
Thank you for sharing your journey! It's inspiring to hear how you're working through your childhood experiences to become a better version of yourself.
After a long time of saying yes, suddenly saying no is risky. I mean the aftermath is too much pressure that threatens to break your resolve. So how to say no and win respect is also a point to ponder. Compassionate inquiry is of course helpfull to reach beyond saying no & its consequences. Very curious to know more about myself for example 🤗🤗
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s always great to hear different perspectives on such an important topic. Your curiosity about self-discovery really resonates with me!
I spent so much time inside of my head my thoughts are hurting me my intrusive thoughts I'm stuck in my memories in my past I'm here with my body but I'm inside my head
Thank you for sharing your experience. It takes a lot of courage to open up about these feelings, and I truly appreciate your honesty. Remember, it’s okay to seek help and talk to someone about it.
Thank you - as always for your choices in videos and teaching tools ! ❤🎉 You give much Needed Hope ; Discernment and healing possibilities to this Beautiful and Wondrous World 🌎!
I truly appreciate your support! It means a lot to know that the content is making a positive impact in your life. Thank you for being part of this journey!
I responded to the title in the same way. In my experience, I could only face my core issues at a pace that my body was able to take. My body regulated the pace. Once I learned how to deal with memories of buried trauma, I found my body regulated how often I could do it. In a bad week, I wasn't able to deal with past trauma. When I had a good week, maybe a few good sleeps, then my body became tense and anxious. So I needed to deal with that. I picked a quiet time in a safe place and tuned into myself. I focused on a sore part of my head and felt the pain, the feelings. As I felt that, and focused on the sore in my head, I was able to tune into the memory which was creating that sore. I stayed with the memory and the feelings. I allowed myself to cry if needed. If I felt anger, I responded with anger. I swung my fists in the air and shouted loud (But avoided making any sound, and didn't hit anything, because that would bring me out of the memory and put me in the present.) So, using that method allowed my mind and body to feel a release. It helped to find a solution to my anger. I am convinced that my abuser was not deliberately mean, aiming to do damage. So I believed my parents made mistakes because of the way they were treated as children, or because they didn't know any better. Inside I know that mistakes are like spilt milk, so were nothing to get angry over. It also helped that my expectations were low, I believed that life for most people is messy. So there was no need for me to be angry. Knowing that allowed me to let go of my anger while staying with the feelings. I couldn't rush this process. I could only take on one issue at a time. I didn't run into any shortcuts. It would have helped if I could have found safe and supportive people. Although some counsellors were excellent, many got lost in the complexity of my story; and my family conflicts made it all more complex. Some counsellors arrogantly assumed I must be wrong, and they made false generalizations. They assumed my mother would not change her mind, that she was evil, far worse than I claimed. They also assumed our whole family was toxic on a daily basis, so I must also be toxic. They missed the mark, although I eventually found I had more weaknesses than I thought. Eventually I made a video using photos, so that seemed to cement reality. Anyway, those are my thoughts. I'm still trying to verify the worth of the process I used. I had hoped that Dr. Gabor Mate would confirm that the process I used is similar to what others use. But for some reason in his videos, he seems to skip over the part that I relate above.
@@nicechoice4u I think somatic therapy is like what youre describing. I have a cycle like you, some good days then, oh, my IBS is acting up and my jaw is clenching on the right side, something wants to be heard. I do poetry for the processing, though, with different fonts and styles for deep fear/anger and sadness/worry.
@@maggie6152 I can believe that creating poetry is therapeutic. But I'm not sure how helpful selecting fonts is? Maybe the process of reviewing what you have written elicits a deep emotional recovery response? One thing that I guessed at early on, is that the reason humans cry is to regain equilibrium in their mind. So I hypothesize that crying about a trauma helps to settle the pain. (It might be similar to sweating in order to regulate the body, and bring it back to equilibrium.) I'm not sure what the research says on this.
@@yourinnerchildmatters Why don't you respond to what he said? When the title makes a statement {a promise}, you need to deliver. In my experience, the key is to heal at the rate of the process my body is using. The world is full of misleading, confusing, and impractical statements. So Dr. Mate needs to make sure his comments are presented well, so when we hope for quality, precision, and simplicity, then that is what we get. Dr. Mate's goal shouldn't be volume. We need quality, which produces results.
It's important to find healthy alternatives for entertainment! Encouraging outdoor activities, hobbies, or even engaging in community events can help divert attention from addiction.
I Am Reminded of an incident when I told one boy of my age 15 Years wore white pants and Shirt stood in front of me looking at me when I was in Graduation.I Said"I feel like throwing mud on your dress".
Is it possible to share the link to part of the event that Mate was referring to which took place the day before, with Dick Schwartz talking on internal family systems, IFS? It would be interesting to be able to watch these 2 videos together
Please Be free from all unnecessary thoughts emotions Be focused Committed with Authenticity Accountability Transparency Everyone of us should learn to develop Healthy Relationships with Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience Unconditional emotional support Discipline and order Discernment Dignity with Integrity Honesty Patience understanding Adjustable Appreciate encouraged Motivate Strengthen Oneself Primarily and ONE ANOTHER implemented in One's own life and others in parents Carers friends and family members teachers Neighbours and implemented in all educational institutions including universities Globally ESSENTIAL. Obeying the COMMAND "LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF" "DISCERN"
Thank you so much for your heartfelt message! 🌟 I truly appreciate your wisdom and reminders about building healthy relationships and supporting one another with kindness, respect, and integrity. It’s so important to live with love and care for ourselves and those around us. Let's continue to grow and inspire each other every day. 💖 Take care and stay blessed..
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Thank you for watching this video on trauma and healing 🌱. It's amazing how much we can learn about ourselves when we take the time to reflect. Trauma affects so many of us, but healing is possible. I’d love to hear your thoughts-what part of the video resonated with you the most? 💬 Let’s support each other on our healing journeys. Please share your insights below, and don’t forget to like and share with others who may need this message. 🙏💙#TraumaHealing, #MentalHealth, #EmotionalHealing, #SelfGrowth, #HealingJourney, #Compassion
Thank you very much for all these videos, nugget-sized is appreciated. I usually listen so find I miss the typed bits, but realise the intention is to give a simple summary of useful points.
This one hit hard for me as my Mum left when I was in my "terrible twos" & I've been a peoplepleaser most of my 55years incl burnout, tho hoping the next 55years(!) be more healthy ❤ The point about yes not meaning anything if can't say no is very true & very painful. Bless my parents they tried but each had their own wounds, but trying to protect them from feeling bad has hindered me, years of dissociating, only realizing recently how much I've done that. Hey ho. Yes indeed healing is possible, but it can feel a big mountain. Love & hugs to all of us🎉❤🫂
PS rather than "don't forget" can you please maybe say "remember"? Apparently our subconscious doesn't absorb the negative part, so only hears 'forget' - is what lingers in my mind anyway, feels confusing. Tho trying to speak in positives doesn't always give same meaning .. 🤔 ~ thankU for hearing me/ 'listening'/ inviting us to share & connect & support each other.. the effects of trauma are so many & insidious(?) pernicious(?)
Its so true ive been reconnecting with the inner child in me and going through my child hood trauma to develop the adult me 😢
Thank you for sharing your journey! It's inspiring to hear how you're working through your childhood experiences to become a better version of yourself.
After a long time of saying yes, suddenly saying no is risky. I mean the aftermath is too much pressure that threatens to break your resolve. So how to say no and win respect is also a point to ponder. Compassionate inquiry is of course helpfull to reach beyond saying no & its consequences. Very curious to know more about myself for example 🤗🤗
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s always great to hear different perspectives on such an important topic. Your curiosity about self-discovery really resonates with me!
Dr MATAE
YOU & Your family will be excellent.
I spent so much time inside of my head my thoughts are hurting me my intrusive thoughts I'm stuck in my memories in my past I'm here with my body but I'm inside my head
Thank you for sharing your experience. It takes a lot of courage to open up about these feelings, and I truly appreciate your honesty. Remember, it’s okay to seek help and talk to someone about it.
Thank you - as always for your choices in videos and teaching tools ! ❤🎉
You give much Needed Hope ; Discernment and healing possibilities to this Beautiful and Wondrous World 🌎!
I truly appreciate your support! It means a lot to know that the content is making a positive impact in your life. Thank you for being part of this journey!
Great video Dr Mate is wonderful I only wish I could find someone that practices compassionate inquiry in my town 😢😢😢I am stuck
I really appreciate your positive feedback! Dr. Mate’s work is truly inspiring, and I hope you find someone who resonates with you soon.
What is the most powerful way to heal trauma fast? That wasn't answered here.
I responded to the title in the same way.
In my experience, I could only face my core issues at a pace that my body
was able to take. My body regulated the pace.
Once I learned how to deal with memories of buried trauma, I found my body regulated how often I could do it. In a bad week, I wasn't able to deal with past trauma. When I had a good week, maybe a few good sleeps, then my body became tense and anxious. So I needed to deal with that. I picked a quiet time in a safe place and tuned into myself. I focused on a sore part of my head and felt the pain, the feelings. As I felt that, and focused on the sore in my head, I was able to tune into the memory which was creating that sore. I stayed with the memory and the feelings.
I allowed myself to cry if needed. If I felt anger, I responded with anger. I swung my fists in the air and shouted loud (But avoided making any sound, and didn't hit anything, because that would bring me out of the memory and put me in the present.) So, using that method allowed my mind and body to feel a release.
It helped to find a solution to my anger. I am convinced that my abuser was not deliberately mean, aiming to do damage. So I believed my parents made mistakes because of the way they were treated as children, or because they didn't know any better. Inside I know that mistakes are like spilt milk, so were nothing to get angry over. It also helped that my expectations were low, I believed that life for most people is messy. So there was no need for me to be angry. Knowing that allowed me to let go of my anger while staying with the feelings.
I couldn't rush this process. I could only take on one issue at a time. I didn't run into any shortcuts. It would have helped if I could have found safe and supportive people. Although some counsellors were excellent, many got lost in the complexity of my story; and my family conflicts made it all more complex. Some counsellors arrogantly assumed I must be wrong, and they made false generalizations. They assumed my mother would not change her mind, that she was evil, far worse than I claimed. They also assumed our whole family was toxic on a daily basis, so I must also be toxic. They missed the mark, although I eventually found I had more weaknesses than I thought. Eventually I made a video using photos, so that seemed to cement reality.
Anyway, those are my thoughts. I'm still trying to verify the worth of the process I used. I had hoped that Dr. Gabor Mate would confirm that the process I used is similar to what others use. But for some reason in his videos, he seems to skip over the part that I relate above.
@@nicechoice4u I think somatic therapy is like what youre describing. I have a cycle like you, some good days then, oh, my IBS is acting up and my jaw is clenching on the right side, something wants to be heard. I do poetry for the processing, though, with different fonts and styles for deep fear/anger and sadness/worry.
@@maggie6152 I can believe that creating poetry is therapeutic. But I'm not sure how helpful selecting fonts is? Maybe the process of reviewing what you have written elicits a deep emotional recovery response?
One thing that I guessed at early on, is that the reason humans cry is to regain equilibrium in their mind. So I hypothesize that crying about a trauma helps to settle the pain.
(It might be similar to sweating in order to regulate
the body, and bring it back to equilibrium.)
I'm not sure what the research says on this.
@@nicechoice4u I think you're doing a great job and inspired me to do the same.
Truthfully, I don't think that it can be healed fast and shouldn't be.
I appreciate your perspective!
@@yourinnerchildmatters Why don't you respond to what he said?
When the title makes a statement {a promise}, you need to deliver. In my experience, the key is to heal at the rate of the process my body is using.
The world is full of misleading, confusing, and impractical statements. So Dr. Mate needs to make sure his comments are presented well, so when we hope for quality, precision, and simplicity, then that is what we get.
Dr. Mate's goal shouldn't be volume. We need quality, which produces results.
Dr MATAE
NOW Youngsters and others too are getting addicted.Can you advise.How to divert?
It's important to find healthy alternatives for entertainment! Encouraging outdoor activities, hobbies, or even engaging in community events can help divert attention from addiction.
I Am Reminded of an incident when I told one boy of my age 15 Years wore white pants and Shirt stood in front of me looking at me when I was in Graduation.I Said"I feel like throwing mud on your dress".
Thank you for sharing that story!
He never smile,laugh or seems happy….😢
Thank you for sharing your observation!
He's authentic though!
Parts work-IFS-is a very useful exploration tool. I’d push back against Mate’s criticism of it in this clip.
Thank you for sharing your perspective! It's always great to hear from viewers who find value in parts work and IFS.
You’re welcome. I appreciate this channel. Gabor Mate is absolutely one of my favorite experts to listen to about how trauma affects people.
Is it possible to share the link to part of the event that Mate was referring to which took place the day before, with Dick Schwartz talking on internal family systems, IFS? It would be interesting to be able to watch these 2 videos together
@@Rob_132 Try watching Tim Fletcher's videos on how childhood trauma affects us in adulthood.
Please Be free from all unnecessary thoughts emotions Be focused Committed with Authenticity Accountability Transparency
Everyone of us should learn to develop Healthy Relationships with Healthy Boundaries with Respect Responsibility Resilience Relience Unconditional emotional support Discipline and order Discernment Dignity with Integrity Honesty Patience understanding Adjustable Appreciate encouraged Motivate Strengthen Oneself Primarily and ONE ANOTHER implemented in One's own life and others in parents Carers friends and family members teachers Neighbours and implemented in all educational institutions including universities Globally ESSENTIAL.
Obeying the COMMAND
"LOVE THY NEIGHBOUR AS THYSELF"
"DISCERN"
Thank you so much for your heartfelt message! 🌟 I truly appreciate your wisdom and reminders about building healthy relationships and supporting one another with kindness, respect, and integrity. It’s so important to live with love and care for ourselves and those around us. Let's continue to grow and inspire each other every day. 💖 Take care and stay blessed..