My Cat HATES my New Kitten - Help? How to Introduce Cats!
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- Опубліковано 28 вер 2024
- Here at Kitten School, the happiest days are when my foster kitties get picked up to go off to their forever homes. Often the adopting family already has a cat, or cats, at home...so I try to prepare them on how to introduce the new kitty to lessen any drama. But cats are highly territorial and when a new cat suddenly appears in their home it can cause confusion and chaos. A cat who has always been relaxed and mellow can suddenly turn into a growling, hissing beast who lashes out at the newcomer, and even at his beloved owner! The new cat is often terrified - it is not only in a brand new place, but there's another cat who clearly does not want it to be there! This can all be very emotional for everyone involved, and sometimes it can seem that the existing cat will NEVER accept the new cat. Well, as someone who has experienced many years of introducing new cats to my home, I can give you some tips on how to make this process easier. You first have to understand that most cats will act hostile (or scared) of a new cat or kitten. This is normal! It just takes time for the cats to get to know one another...sometimes this can be a few days, other times it can be a few weeks. You want to introduce your cats SLOWLY, and always monitor the situation to prevent any serious fights or attacks. Hissing, growling, swatting - this is probably going to happen. Be patient and calm. NEVER yell at or hit a cat who is acting out- it won't help and will make things worse! You just have to be calm, encourage the cats to play and eat together, separate them if there's aggression, and BE PATIENT. The cats will need to first get used to each other, and then establish their social order in the household. But they usually DO work it out. And sometimes, even the hissiest, swattiest of "enemies" can eventually become the very best of cat friends!
Here's a few things you can get to help ease the transition when introducing a new cat. I have used them all and they have often made a difference:
Feliway - This plug-in diffuser mimics natural feline pheromones that the cats can smell and is calming to many cats. We have used this here at Kitten School for years and I think it has helped keep the peace with my resident cats, who sometimes resent the "intrusion" of foster kitties on their territory. The scent is not noticeable to humans and you just plug it in the wall, where it will waft the calming pheromones into the air. Might take a week or so to notice a difference, but many multi-cat owners swear by it!
Bach Rescue Remedy for Pets - This homeopathic herbal calming formula has been used to help people relax for ages and is now available in a pet formula safe for cats. A few drops in your cat's food or water can help calm him or her in stressful times, such as a trip to the vet, moving, or the introduction of a new kitty into the house
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They do end up really liking each other, but it is stressful at first. Hang in there.
Susan Kester I’m getting a new kitten soon. And I know my other cat will not accept it at first cause she acts like the leader to the other cats and I’ve been freaking out
P K oh no I’m freaking out Now. I’m getting the cat in a few days and I’m pretty sure how one of my cats are going to react to the kitten but the other think she like the boss even know she is our newest cats( had her for probably 9 months)
No One how did it go!
It’s so hard at first isn’t it, we got a new kitten yesterday & our existing kitten really doesn’t like her. It’s made me so anxious but I’m just going to wait it out, I do hope they get along
Naomi Roe any updates on your cats? I got a new kitten five days ago and it’s so hard getting my older cat to like him.
my kitten just simply doesn’t care- my older cat throws fits, hisses, and swats. my kitten just wants to play with her 😭
Yep😂
Same here but our existing cat gets really aggressive and bites and the little kitten meows like why you hurting me. I'm losing hope. Any advise - will my existing cat ever calm down and accept him. Its only been 8 days. I will keep the hope and be patient. My cat is leash trained. Do you think I can try having her on a leash while the new cat roams around and she can follow him but on a leash? Please help and what's your opinion on that would that be okay to do?? Thanks so much.
@@julie9541 if they don’t get along you might have to get rid of the kitten cuz some cats don’t like friends
THIS IS HAPPENING TO ME RIGHT NOW AAA MY CAT IS HOWLING AT THE KITTEN
@@enriquelotko2892 how much time should pass before I give up. It's only been 10 days now. ??
My cat be like " *GET OUTTA MA SWAMP* "
*in shreks voice*
wHaT aRE yOu dOiNG iN mY sWAmP
@@heyitssaldownhere.0711 lol
@@Animationz_made_of_jelly lol indeed
SAMEEE
A shrek and donkey moment
"Don't shout at the cat."
Me: *already shouted at my cat for hissing and growling at my kitten.*
Also Me: *watches this part of the video* Damn it!
I know what you mean
Yeah me too
Same i know wut u mean
[Wen u forget that the video said that [im not saying u doing it too].]
Ya, same. Not really shouting but stern "eh, no". Didn't have a lot of prep for our new kitten lol
Same..
This video made me feel so much better! I was worried about my older cat hissing at the door!
Hi Joanna! I am so glad that this video was helpful. Hissing, and some swatting, is totally normal behavior when two cats are getting to know one another. It's part of the process. I encourage you to allow the cats to meet under supervised visits after they have had a couple of days of "door sniffing". Good luck!
@@KittenSchool it's been 2 weeks and my cats are having fun chasing each other around. Thanks again!
I've actually been feeling super stressed because my cat keeps going to the door to hiss, and trying to get in the same room
Rebecca Anderson are they friends meanwhile? :-)
@@annaignacz-hauck7612 they get along a lot better now. They groom each other and sleep together
Patience is the key and not to rush it.. My male cat was horrified when we brought in another male.. Of course we kept them separated initially but the few times they did see each other they would scream and yell.. And on the odd occasion had a couple of punch ups.. It took about 4 months of feeding them in separate spaces but also able to see each other.. And later having them both on leash during little introductions.. Its also best not to leave them Alone together even after they seem reasonably friendly.. Now they absolutely adore each other and quite frankly even ignore us😀
Thank for the tips because my old male cat hates our new baby male cats, i hope they will close soon😭
@@Yana.d8 good luck! One thing I did was feed them on either side of a glass door so that they could engage in a social activity from afar.. So keep them separate but place kitten from time to time in older cats area and adult cat in kittens area so that they get used to each others smell..
my cat is hissing at the blanket :(
That's Totally Ok, She Is Just Smelling It And She Smells Another Cat, Its All Fine
😹😹😹😹 I died !! U r awesome
Lol!
Mine did too, for anyone who is new and reading this and worried. They’re playing with each other now, running all after each other and have to be over each other anytime they’re not separated (still erring on the side of caution). Mine hissed nonstop for the first two days, actually. Just give them time.
@@Danny-be1ex Same Here, The Kitten Wont Let My Older Cat Alone!
my cat is not only hissing it is doing the bruce lee sound to a tiny kitten and on attack mode
My cat no just hissing she sound like snake to sometimes🤦♀️
@@d.c.taylor-sullivan3026 its been almost 2 months my kitten has grown half my old cat size im afraid its gonna fight back i guess cats chooses their friends too
SAME!! I’m glad it’s not just my cat... he’s so puffed up I can’t even handle it
Mine just growled at me when I dared let the kitten in my room after she had already kicked her out... Now the kitten is back down stairs and Sansa is ignoring me.
@@achritushunter6950 my cats have been together for 5 months now and the older still hisses at the young one. Not as often as she used to but she is still resisting friendly approach. He is probably as big as her now and yes, he does attack her back sometimes but fortunately never is real aggression, I mean the one meant to hurt. I have identified it as territorial spats, lots of swatting and hissing but no real damage. They have period of calm, everything seem to be ok between them and then all the sudden they are at it. I really hope this will go away one day. The older seems less defensive now but it has been very slow progress.
My Mr Grey lost his older friend, he miowed for days. Finally I got him a kitten,let him smell the cage first.then introduced them . He picked up the kitten by the scruff of the neck carried it to the living room and washed it. Friends and playmates ever since.
Thank you soo much. I was been worrying about my cat, she is not interested in the new kitten. She is behaving so weird for a week. Now I got the hope that these two can be friends.
Did it work? Its been 4 years lmao
Thank you so much 🙏🏻
We follow some of your tips ,
After half day we slowly saw some result.
After 2 days ,
Cats were palying with each other 😃😇🐈
This video made me feel a little better! I got a kitten yesterday and my existing cat (1 year) doesn’t seem too happy. She does the following, but the kitten starts the hissing. It stresses me out bc my first cat is my baby girl. I’m hoping they learn to get along!
This is so helpful. We are getting a new kitten in the next couple weeks as long as she is negative for FIV (Her momma has it so the kittens have to be tested). We have a black cat named Kimba we've had since kittenhood (She's 13 years old now) and I'm expecting a lot of the hissing and growling that you mentioned. I'm hoping this kitten can provide her with some companionship in her older years that she never necessarily received from other cats before. She had a brother (Himalayan) for only about six months until he developed urinary tract infections and was blocked several times. We were in college and had little to no money to help the little guy out so after 3500 dollars we had to put him down, so Kimba didn't have much of a chance to hang out with her brother. I'm hoping she will find comfort in another kitty sibling.
I really wished I had seen this video three years ago when introducing my younger cat to my older one. But I learned a great deal. I'm about to get a little kitten and I feel better that I will do it right this time around. Thanks for this vide. My two current cats don't hate eachother, they tolerate one another and just stay out of eachother's way. So that's the best I can hope for after three years. LOL
You are so welcome! Good luck with your new kitten, and remember take the steps slow. It sometimes takes time, but they will adapt!
Great lesson. I have a new kitten and my older cat is very jealous. I was scared but you gave me reason to calm down.
Thank you for the tips! I have been doing this for years. My current cats are 13 and 10 years old and the introduction went pretty good. Within three days they were touching noses and getting along great! I own a condo and can’t have anymore. I am hoping to buy a house in the future and give a good loving home to other fur babies.
Hi Barbara, Thanks for the comment, so glad you liked the video! Hope you can get a house one of these days so you have as many cats as you want. xoxox **Caroline
I got a new cat and this has been a blessing my new cat wants to play and be out but my older cat isn’t very happy at all
Thank you so much for doing videos such as these. Your cat introduction videos really help. Like you said patience is so important.
Hi Stacy! Thanks for the comment, so glad you liked the video! **Caroline
I have a 1 yr old neutered male cat. We just found a 6 week old (?) female in our garage. The garage has always been his domain, but the new kitty was apparently using his litter box and eating his food and had been around a while before we knew it. The first night we caught her I put in her in a carrier and left her in the garage for the night. My boy cried all night and hissed at her a few times. I took her to the vet and got her cleaned up and now she’s sleeping in the spare bathroom. My boy seems very curious, sniffing the door and waiting outside the door, even trying to nose his way in the moment it’s cracked. I’ve taken her out and placed her in her carrier and left her in the laundry room while I clean her bathroom and her litter box. My boy goes in and sniffs her blankets and even used her litter box. It’s been 2 days and he seems so curious about meeting her. Is it too soon? He has free range of the house but I have kept her in her bathroom so far. She doesn’t seem to be bothered by him- actually seems to want him around. Prob scared and lonely. He’s a sweet boy but idk if he’s really excited to meet her or ready to kick out the invader
Sorry for the book 🤣
FINALLY TYSM THEY FINALLY GOT ALONG IT TOOK FOREVER LOL
how long did it take for youu?
Yeeiiii! How long?
I have resident cat Westside and two new kittens. After we introduced them things were ok, but Westside was not cool with the kittens using his litter boxes. I have 4 litter boxes. Turns out the two kittens are sick with Giardia and also ringworm. The kittens are now secluded to one of the bedrooms while they get better and we will just need to start from scratch. Thankfully Westside didn’t catch either Giardia or ringworm. Trying not to stress. Focusing on getting the kittens 100 percent healthy, still giving lots of love and attention to Westside. This is really challenging. Thanks for the video. ❤
Thank you for sharing 😊 My original cat isn't happy with my new kitten to the point where he stopped eating 😓 After a trip to the vet with both kitties, h got better, Thank God 🙏 Resident cat has some infection & kitten has an ear infection 😮 I hope both cats will become friends soon.. It's stressful seeing changes in my original cat (tuxedo) while kitten (ginger tabby) wants to play with him 💗 Plus trying to take care of my human family too 🥰 God Bless all families including our furry ones 👼😻
It's been 6 weeks and my senior cats still hate my new kitten. To be fair, I don't blame them. She is constantly launching herself at them to get them to play. I've done everything--the isolation of the kitten, the scent swapping, the meet and greet with the kitten in a crate, I've put the kitten on a leash, I've bought the pheromone stuff--nothing seems to be working. I am at a loss.
I'm currently having the same issue as well 😢
Cats are territorial creature. It Will take time.
how did it go??
Thank you so much for this video, I ended up adopting 2 new kittens today and my existing cat is SUPER territorial and threatened by them. I wasn't able to do any blind meet & greets so I hope some of the other tips will help
You're so welcome!
Really enjoy how you presented this information.
I am introducing my 4 yrs old cat to her new kitten Sissy.
It's going well. But needed this video.
Thank you very very much
Just got a kitten home.. and my older one is acting so strange. After watching this video, I’m hopeful that I won’t have to return the little one back ..
it’s been three years n my cats still swat each other n very occasionally get into a growling match n actually start fighting
You should reintroduce them. It's not good or normal for cats to actually fight. Having a small swatting match or some hissing to re-establish social heiarchy might be normal in cats that aren't super close, but fighting is not cool. It's stressful and could escalate to cats actually hurting each other.
If reintroducing doesn't work, you should probably rehome one of the kitties unless you are willing to split your house and keep them away from each other for 15-20 years.
Thank you so much for ur videos especially new kitty introductions😍. I have placed new kitty, Chloe Elizabeth 4-5 weeks in her own large pet cage w/ litter, sleeping basket and fluffy blanket, fresh water. My existing kitty, Miss FinleyRae is 5yrs and is hesitant but willing. I encourage her to floored and sniff the cage. So far, introductions are going well.
My kitten hisses at the cat 😅 She's such a diva
we found a kitten in our driveway a couple of days ago.. he was very lethargic and looked injured. i took him into my home for shelter. honestly didn’t know what to do so i contacted shelters but they never got back to me. a friend of my sisters was kind enough to take him to vet for us to be evaluated. he has a fractured pelvic bone but other than that he’s fine. he grew on me so im keeping him. slowing introducing him to my current cat. he’s been hissing and howling at the kitten. every now and then he’ll just randomly go over to the room the kitten is in and will intentionally do it. i hope they can get along in the future bc i really want to keep the kitten! 😭 and so my cat can have a little brother to play with. 🥺
Thank you so much ..it has given me more reassurance to carry on with my new kitten and my cat💕xx
Love at first sight, isn't true for humans either.
It's infatuation.
Very helpful I’m going through the process now.. the eldest boy is being stubborn and won’t come indoors, runs away when he see the new baby girl kitten ❤
Hi everyone! My resident cat is chasing my new kitten. Kitten would hiss and run. A lot growling and slapping while the two meet face to face. I did all the steps mentioned in here for twice and still no hope. I’m this close to giving away the kitten. The kittens has been here for more than 2 months now
I’m having the same problem. Does anyone have any advice?
Hi! This video was very helpful. Our 12 year old female cat has always been moody and miserable and trusts no one but my husband and I. She has always snuggled with us and slept with us every night. Unfortunately she only "tolerates" our 10 & 7 year old children. They have never gotten to hold her and can barely get a pet in before she tries to bite and hit them. So we made the decision to adopt a new female kitten to allow the children to experience a kind cat and enjoy their pet! We've been very careful with introducing the kitten to our older cat. The kitten is only 12 weeks old and very sweet and easy going. The older cat has spent the last 2 weeks growling and hissing at the kitten when they are together (supervised) for an hour or two a day. We keep the kitten in our master bedroom during the day and in the master bathroom overnight. She sleeps quietly in her bed all night- she is an angel! We had hoped the older cat would continue to sleep with us, but when she jumps in our bed she smells the kitten and hisses and runs out of the room. She is very angry with us and letting us know all the time. She is only nice when she wants her meals in the morning and evening. She is very smart, very manipulative and very CRANKY. We love her so much despite her attitude, and just want to help her realize this kitten will be a great companion for her and she will be able to remain the dominant cat of the house so there is nothing to fear. I think she's scared and annoyed. I've tried giving her the towel that we rubbed all over the kitten. I have purchased the plug in "FeelAway" stuff that is supposed to release pheromones to relax her. And I have even tried calming cat treats. She's 22lbs and quite a beast, can be aggressive. Nothing is working. It's only been 2 weeks... so I know its still early and won't give up trying to help with the adjustment. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! jackie.orlando@hotmail.com
how is it now? I think you shouldn't have made the kitten stay in your bedroom, preferably the kitten should have been shut in one of your children's bedrooms since you got the kitten for them anyway. your bedroom is t he older cat's primary territory, unlike your children's bedrooms. hopefully they're starting to get along by now. if they aren't, you should wash all your bedding and furniture in your room, try to get dominant kitty to feel safe in your bedroom again, then let the kitten stay in your children's room(s) during the day and night. then start the process from step 1 once older kitty is comfortable in your room again.
This video reassured me I am doing the right thing my older cat has hissed at the kitten when he gets to close. Time is the best thing for them. I have bonded my older cat when she was an older kitten with then 14 year old cat. They became best friends but now she is lonely which is why we got the kitten. Hoping the have a great bond!
Calming Collars at Walmart! Hope this helps! Also: Felaway spray and felaway 🔌 ins. Don't spray the felaway spray on the cats. Spray it around them.
Me wanting to do this in secret so I can trick my grandparents into letting me keep Honey a street rescue we got a week ago 👉😎👉
How did it go?
Introduction was going smooth, but today I had to give the new kitty deworming medication (along with the grown cats) and I feel like everything I've worked for has been thrown in the garbage.
Oh well, better start anew again
Thank you so much for this! We’ve had my kitten for 3 days now. And I had him in our master bedroom. But i didn’t think about our cat being shut out. So now at night I put him in our bathroom and I let our other cat roam. My question is when do you officially know they’re good to be left alone without supervision?
You will just know. When they dont fight extra brutal anymore, when you can wash dishes without worrying about them. If you can sleep with no wild fighting, then its probably ok. Start small. Personally it took 3 weeks for my cats. From really bad to friends.
New cat : oh , cool house! , Another cat? Cool! Could we be friends?
OG cat: HISSSSSS GET OUTTA MY SWAMP
Thank you so munch for helping my cat had son she hissing and fighting with him and I do for two days the cats are lovely 😭😭😭😭🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
I am SO happy to hear this! Good job! Enjoy your kitties and thanks for the comment. xoxo
My son came home with an unwanted kitten and unfortunately I was on a trip when this kitten came to the house and our old sour puss was apparently brought into the room with the new cat and introduced that way. I had threatened to get rid of the newcomer but have fall gor her cuteness. The old cat is spending more time out than in and refuses to go upstairs, she even growls when the kitten is not there. The kitten just wants to play but if she comes too close she just gets swatted and hissed at and there is this growling as soon as the old cat sees the kitten from the other side of the room or garden. After some days like this we are now keeping the kitten in my son's room and hopefully the old cat will return to the upstairs. We are going to keep them apart as much as possible and hopefully the older cat will calm down.
It’s my kitten that attacks the big cat. The resident cat. She doesn’t know when to stop and full on leaps on the big cat ignoring her swats till she eventually sneaks over and lays by me calm.
So we should have our kitten sleep in the bathroom and let our grown up cat have the house at night right? Thanks for the video it's very helpful! We're getting a new kitten in 2 days and I want to make sure it all goes well :)
How are things now?
Hi, I just watched this video. 1st night with our new family member. My new kitten is in the master bathroom while we transition him to his new home and the sights and smells. He was at a Petco in a cat condo. He is so sweet but still very timid. I open the door and he runs right into the cat carrier. My one senior cat keeps sniffing the door. He knows something is up. The kitten hasn’t gone to the door even after my older cat was scratching for me to open it. I hope it isn’t war once they meet in person. Our male cat is very territorial and our female senior does not want to be bothered with her brother. So this should be interesting. I just want them to like him. He’s a doll! Thank you for posting this video. Going to try feeding in front of one another after a few days.
Thank you so much but my cat growls and runs away scared of the kitten every time he sees her.
Just rescue a 5 week old kitten had no time to prepare the existing cats. My oldest at least will look from a far but my 2nd oldest won't even investigate anymore.
We got a kitten 3 days back, the kitten is 2 months old and the cat we already had is 4 months old. The older cat keeps chasing the younger one al the time. He attacks her, pushes her in a corner, grows and hisses all the time. The little one just wanna play but it's scared for him now. We have the little one in a room with a big glass door, the door is a little open so they can sniff. We let them in the same room for a few minutes so they can get used to each other. Today we feel really sad for both of them, it's nice to know we are not the only one with these issues. Hope we find a way to get them both happy.
Me: already lets my kitten anx the cat that visits my garden meet they hate eachother
also me : realises i should have watched this video first
SUGAR
I love how the older cat is called "the existing cat" lol
I took in a stray 4 years ago and she is wonderful. Now I have another stray cat outside. It took me almost 2 weeks to get her to come up to me and then trust me. We are now very close and I want to bring her in. The place where I live is very small. Kitchen, Living Room, Bedroom and very small bathroom. It is going to be very difficult to keep them separated. I decided to get one of the hundred dollar cages from Chewy. Just ordered it today. My idea is to put the cage in the bedroom, keep the door closed and sometimes allow my resident cat in the bedroom. Does this sound like a good idea? My resident cat would still have full access to most of the house. I can let the new one out of the cage once in awhile with the bedroom door closed and can also put the resident cat in the bathroom once in awhile and let the new one roam around the house. The new cat follows me around wherever I go when I'm outside. I have to put food on one side of the house so I can get away to my car and drive away without her following me. Also, the new cat is still very skinny. I've been feeding her for a month and a half now and also took her to the vets for her shots and a checkup.
So we have a 7 month old kitten and recently got a 5 month old kitten and he doesn’t hiss at him but he smacks he all the time. I’m a bit worried because he is way bigger and my 5 month old fights back a little bit cries and some times doesn’t defend himself
We have had the 5 month old for a few days. Sometimes my older cat is sweet and licks him but other times he hitting at bitting. Is there anything we can do different to help them adjust?? Well the older one mainly.
mercedes blount I’m having the same issue. Has it gotten better for you? Any tips. Mine is 2 months & 8 months
@@tayloralexissimon4470 Hey! I am having the same issue rn, and i really really wanna hows it going with your cats? Any update? Mine is 7 months (male, not neutered) and 2 months (female).
He doesn't hiss at her anymore, but would bite her around the neck until she cries out. I keep separating them when he does that. However, sometimes he's licking her and then suddenly bites her. It's been 4 days already. PLEASE REPLY!
@@Rosala4Roxx you should get your male neutered as soon as possible! kittens can become pregnant at 4 months old and he'll be less aggressive/territorial once he is neutered. It also prevents health issues later on :) That should also help with the neck biting
Any updates?
Aww all of them are such cute kitties!
My first cats I introduced we snuggling in bed together the next morning. My kitten and Cat are struggling still after 10 days. The tips in this video are going to help for sure.
Good luck, and remember it takes time for some cats to "warm up" to each other but they can almost always come to terms!
It’s been weeks and my older cat DESPISES her. She’s terrified and very angry
My cat is so pissed. I don’t know what to do. My new cat is crying outside the door and really wants in my room, but if I let her in here my older cat will attack her. It’s breaking my heart man.
how’s the cat now
So if my cat only likes me and hates everything else ever to exist do u think he’ll like my hopefully new kitten
It’s not working for me. How about you?
David Hamid it worked they love each other
Grace Kenny Ty
Grace Kenny Any advice?
My mom: that's how you were with your sister.
Me: maybe I am a cat....
I hope my kitten works out:( it makes me so sad I want to cry. I’ve had my Bengal kitten for a month and she’s 3 1/2 months old, I just got a new kitten yesterday that’s 10 weeks old. My Bengal dont like her,growls and hissed and I’m scared they’ll never got along. I’ll take this tips though! Thank you! I hope things improve in a week or so.
my two older cats is hissing at my new kitten 😢 i'll try to use these ideas to make them accept each other.
Same here. They’re extremely aggressive. I’m keeping them in separate rooms for a few weeks and rotating the time they can go outside
It's been 3 weeks now with a new kitten at home. We are fostering it with the hope that if our cat accepts it we can also keep it. It was barely one month old though and sick when we found it so we only gave things with her scent to our old cat for at least a week. Since it is still very small and only has one eye left, we are very reluctant in them meeting. We placed some times the food of our cat next to the door of the bath with the door closed and the kitten on the other side so she would eat while smelling the scent. At some point she just refused to eat. We also let the old one go and smell the kittens toilet. We got them together at a distance three times: there was always hissing and growling of course but we were calm and I was speaking to our cat calmly and telling her she is a good cat and it is a good kitten. Second time she went close to smell its tail. I let her and she just left a bit scared after that. Third time she again came closer and smelled its tail but this time she hit it with her paw out of nowhere before I cpuld react, something that alarmed me very much since the kitten is only 1,5 month old and, as I said, with only one eye. That happened yesterday.
Today in the morning she was sitting again opposite the door where it was and growling and hissing. I felt a bit fed up after her behaviour yesterday and whenever she growled I told her a firm "Don't!", or even clapped a bit my hands together at some point. I just heard in the video that I should never do that but it's already three weeks and I'm afraid about the baby... Really not sure what else to do and how to proceed from here. I have patience but we WILL have to give the kitten away if she can't accept it and we have to know in the following few weeks if there is a chance for that or if we should just put an advertisement looking for adoption...
I had no idea it would be this difficult. I have a 15 year old cat who lost her brother a year ago. I debated getting her an older cat thinking maybe it would be less aggravating. It’s been a week and this morning at 5:30 am they were growling , hissing , smacking at the door so I got my 15 year old away from the door. The adoptive cat is 8. I let one out while other is locked in room sleeping so they both get each others scents. I swapped their blankets as well. I just put up the screen on the door so tomorrow I’m going to let them see each other and just see what happens. I have 30 days to give back the cat I got from APL if it just doesn’t work out. I also notice I haven’t been able to bond with the new 8 year old either. He is so different from the one that passed a year ago that I think it’s making me miss the one who passed. I know every cat Is different but I’m thinking maybe I wasn’t as ready as I thought. I am also using those plug ins that is suppose to help calm the cats. I don’t see that working yet either. Now my 15 year old doesn’t want to leave the bedroom.
i sympathize with you..i adopted a 5 yr old spayed female to add to my 7 year old spoiled neutered male ...I've had him 6 yrs..just me and him..read my story missyscastle...please let me know how the screen meeting goes...i live in an apartment and have been trying to figure a way for them to see each other only..right now im switching cats between rooms with closed doors..its exhausing...im not giving up ...i would appreciate any updates you are willing to share with me...sharon
My resident cat hates my guts after I got 2 new kittens who needed a home. I have the space for the two additional cats and thought it was a good idea. My adult cat never used to hiss at me and was happy and lovingly spoiled. Now he wants nothing to do with me and hisses at me when I try to play with him or pet him. Of course I will continue to keep the babies separated from my 4-year old cat, but I fear that I'm gonna need the patience of a saint and hope my cat likes me again someday. He is even lashing out at the dog, whom the cat used to like and play with. I'm heartbroken that my resident cat is so very unhappy.
Thanks! We just move a new kitten in our home and my existing cat growling at her, so we decided to get her on a cage but our existing cat just hangin' in front of her cage
Yeah the older (or more dominant) cat will do that. It;s okay as long as the cat isn't stressing the kitten too much. This is a chance for them to get to know one another in a safe way, and also keep your existing cat from feeling like he/she is losing territory. Good luck!
I'm glad I came across this video!
I've brought a new kitten a boy named Prince I have a 5 year old female cat who I've had since 2017, I brought prince home yesterday afternoon ,princess was very stressed and hissy towards him while being in the carrier ,so I closed my bedroom door as my flat is only a small 1 bed with no stairs ,soon as you enter my flat is has a small bathroom on the right then kitchen left (no door) u open another door and u got the living room then u open the door on the left u have my bedroom so its literally a door in and out of my room to living kitchen ect.
So for now prince is in my room with me while I've had to keep my adult cat in the living room until my play pen arrives tomz so that way my adult cat can come in my room with me again if she don't hate me still cause I've tried to pet her and she literally was gonna go for me cause she's pissed at me ,I've also brought a feliway friends air dispenser thing so hopefully that helps but the main thing I'm needing is the play pen then I will be stress free!! I can't even go sit in the living room and watch TV with her cause my Controller is broken till I get my new one , pray my adult cat will accept my new baby kitten 😫
Just got a new kitten and wasnt sure what to do and made a ton of mistakes and my existing kitty is not happy with me. Made the changes in this video, hopeful for a turn out!
My kitten was born under my shed; his mom is a feral cat I feed that only had one kitten. I decided to take him in after about three months, because 1) I don't want to get bunches of stray cats in the neighborhood and 2) he's very sweet.
I would almost always come in and let him smell the kitten's scent after playing with him. We did this many times. The kitten would also interact with him at the door some. I started letting the kitten come in the house for five minutes or so and only letting him stay right at the door. My older cat wasn't a fan and still isn't on day two of the kitten living in the house. He growls and hisses at the kitten, but thankfully that's all. The kitten fortunately is very, very, very persistent in his attempts to make friends with him, and I'm hoping it works out. He perhaps isn't as aggressive as the first night, but I am worried. He is getting older, and I was hoping having the kitten would give him company and someone to play with to sort of keep him young. He really is young at heart. Maybe a week from now will make the difference.
i feel horrible for my Luna 9 years old, and horrible for Luci the 3 months old bb🥺🐈⬛
For those looking for resolution to aggression between cats, this is more preventative talk, not how to resolve existing conflict.
Hello! So I have a grown cat. She goes outside for most of the day (if it were up to me she would by an inside cat but i currently live with my parents and she meows at the door asking to go out and so my parents just let her out... she honestly likes it tho and i think it helps her be active and not gain too much weight so i let it slide?!) she isn’t on a regular feeding schedule because of how often she goes outside. I just got a new kitten. I’ve done the sent swapping thing many times. And both cats have seen eachother. I did the kitten, cage thing at first and then just showed them one another while I held the kitten. There’s been LOTS of hissing and growling from my grown cat. My grown cat has even lunged at me while i was holding the kitten which definitely frightened all of us. She’s not a friendly cat (to humans or other cats). In fact my family does not like her at all cuz they consider her to be a “mean” cat. But she’s my baby so I will not to give up on her. (Don’t worry. My family loves me and therefore they’re nice and respectful to her. Haha.) I’ve fallin’ in love with this kitten too so I’m determined to make this work but I’m not sure what to do next or how to proceed?? The kitten sleeps in a different room and my grown cat sleeps on my bed with me! Please help me know what to do next. Sorry for the long comment and thanks for your help :)
Hello! This video was very helpful. I’d love to talk with you more about our integration process with the new kitten. I’m nervous our older cat will never come around based on her very very dramatic reaction so far.
Are your cats friends now lol
We did these steps and they got to the point of eating with their bowls touching, but once they are done eating and my kitten walks away my cat wants to chase him wherever he goes and smack him or go for his neck.
Hi there! It sounds like your older cat is still establishing dominance over the new kitten. This can sometimes take a few weeks, or even months. As long as no one is getting hurt then swatting and hissing are ok. Just make sure the kitten and cat each have a quiet, private place to rest so they don't get too overstimulated and fight. Sounds like you are on the right track!
My cat is my life, but we got a new kitten in October, and she hasn't been coming around lately. She only comes around to eat and she growls at me when i try to pet her
I’m here because my brother yesterday was in the mountains and found a baby male cat! It was raining heavily so he brought it in! But my other four cats don’t like him.
Thanks for the info, at this moment we have a kitten and the older guy. It seems to good pretty good but think this is because she is only 10 weeks
My alpha cat just inflicted serious trauma on my new kitten, with blood in the stool and blood coming from the nose. I don't know what to do at this point. She is at the vet now and I hope she will be okay. They have known each other for the last 2 months but we recently had to move into a small hotel room because our house was destroyed in a tornado. This same cat seriously injured my elderly cat at one point after he came home and was partly sedated.
In my first try i tried to make my older cat and 2 kittens to introduce. The older was hissing and growling. Now since the other kitten lives at my brothers they both the second kitten and my older cat are lonely. This time it was better! The older didnt do anything she was actually chill just laid down on her area. The kitten was pretty terrified in the room but didnt hiss or try to hit if he wssnt in front of the older and being hold. I gave extra attention for the older one because of the first try. i hope they will befriend and i hope it goes better next time!
How can i make a mother cat in my house adopt another cat , i let them sniff each other but the mother cat hissed at my kitten then went away
Thanks! Your advice and guide helped me a lot.
Hey I just watched your video And I am a proud cat father of 5 new baby kittens they are healthy and the mom did so well I'm so proud of her she was our outside farm cat I have 2 male cats that are fixed indoor cats 1 is 13 years old they're both very sweet but when I introduced Is the male to one of the babies he hissed but now I know how to go about it
4:31 But what do i do if my existing cat doesnt want me to touch her? I think shes a little mad at me for getting a new kitten so when i try to touch her she growls at me. I want her to know that i still love her, even more than the new kitten, but she wont let me interact with her except for feeding her. Please help, i really dont want my little baby cat to hate me. :(
Thank you very much for the informational video. I feel more confident now. 🐈😸
I’m going through this right now. My older cat is not happy at all with the new 6 month old cat. She keeps hissing at him and hides behind the dryer and washing machine. Also has been pooping outside her litter box and she never did that before.
Thanks for everything I feel better
Our new cat is 1 year old and our resident cat is 8 years old. The resident cat has accepted the new cat but the new cat keeps hissing, growling and gets upset every time our resident cat (he) walks up to our new cat (her) or towards.
It's been 2 weeks and we are wondering what to do or whether we need to take her back or not because she is doing it more and more. Any ideas on how to handle this situation?
Gave me so much hope. My wiggles aren’t getting along. I have only 1 room so they were rushed into the introduction :(
Hi Shady, so glad this helped! Keep trying, it just takes time. Be sure each cat gets enough 'one on one' time with you, too, even if that means the other has to sit in the bathroom for a little while. Good luck!
Have one cat that gets along with everyone, one that hates outside cats(even though that's where he started) and one cat who doesnt like(terrified of) kittens
We got a new cat for my Persian cat because she's mostly lonely since me and my family aren't always at home but she's attacking the new ginger. He's really shy but she's very territorial, any tips?
My cat Mia (girl and is spayed) is 3 years old and is a really calm and silent cat. And the new cat Safir (boy) that we brought a few weeks ago is like 6 months and really playfully and is very hyperactive. When we brought Safir home for the first time, Mia was really shocked and would watch Safir while he was walking around the house of curiosity. But when they met eye to eye, Mia started hissing and Safir would go after her and it See eachother in the eyes like for a while. We didn't sadly do it like in the video. We had to keep it separate. But we've just let Safir free walking in the house. Safir would walk Mia after and sometimes Mia would would walk after Safir. At first Safir would just look at her and try to come closer, but now Safir is jumping from behind playfully on Mia, but Mia always hisses and she punching him and runs away and Safir runs after. But Mia doesn't Punch him really dangerously with claws. But Mia is behaving really dramatic. This was our first time to have a second cat and we didn't know how to do or what to do. And we don't have a big house. What should we do now, will they still like eachother even when weeks have passed. Mia won't let him near when he wants to approach her and play. Please help!!! 😭
Hi Melike, thanks for the comment! Honestly, I think it sounds like tings with Mia and Safir are going very well. It's natural for a 6 moth old cat to want to play, and even 'tease", the older cat. And Mia responds like any self-respecting adult who didn't;t bargain for children does - "get the &^$@# away from me, kid -- hisss! Smack!" I think that it's just going to take Safir growing up a little bit before Mia accepts him. As long as the two are not full on fighting then a little hissing and swatting is okay. It happens in my house and my cats have been together for years! Be sure to allow Mia her privacy, like a room where she can get away from Safir for a few hours a day. Kittens can be really, really annoying. But they will work it out. This is all completely normal. Just give each cat enough attention, and try playing with Safir a couple of times a day to wear off some of that teenage energy. They will find their balance, I promise! Let us know how things go.
@@KittenSchool And one more question, is it ok if Safir Jump on her and they roll on the ground and sometimes Safir bites also the tail and the stomache. Is that ok?
@@melikesarikaya3571 NO!
I’ve got a new rescue kitten, her owner abandoned her for a new home very far away in another city, my dad and I had to drive away for 1 hour and we got the cat, she was scared at first but started to warm up to me, she would just stay on my lap and wouldn’t leave me, when we got back home she started hissing at my 2 other cats, my 2 other cats didn’t hiss and greeted her instead as they came from a breeder and they both lived with lots of other types of cats. So I’m just trying to find a way so they can bond as I don’t wanna loose the new cat, plus she has a new twin brother now so idk what to do..
Just adopted another cat, another Bengal and it’s been a nightmare. The new one is super aggressive and even bytes me. I’m at my wits end.
See my older cat has already wanred up to the kitten I think. It's the kitten that's hissing rarely when they play
Thank you so much for this information, appreciate that
Thanks for this. I've just adopted a 9 month old cat and she doesn't like my 3 year old cat. I think she's scared as she was used for breeding before we adopted her, she's very underweight but feisty. My older cat on the other hand loves others and is too lazy to chase her. 🤞 She stops hissing at him.
My 18 mo old neutered male is terrified of the new small kitten..won't even stay in the house with her in it..I sure hope this passes..???
Thanks for this video, I appreciate the advice...just got a new kitten and have an introduction to make with my older cat. One step at a time....
This was very encouraging. I've been super stressed thinking I made the wrong decision to bring a kitten to my 11 month old kitty. We have been going very slow and what this video encourages thank, Hopeful
Oh thank you thank you thank you !!!!
Ok I didn’t yell but I hissed back lmao
That's what's happening to me don't worry they will get along soon