Sometimes you can learn by teaching or training. By doing that, you learn how to do it better, and in the process maybe you re-learned something you may have forgotten.
- Listening is more than just hearing words; it's about understanding the meaning behind them. - The art of listening involves creating an environment where the other person feels heard and understood emotionally. - It requires replacing judgment with curiosity and providing a safe space for someone to express themselves without judgment. - Effective listening involves asking open-ended questions like "Tell me more" and giving the other person space to share their thoughts. - Listening is a crucial skill for building trust, finding common ground, and resolving conflicts, even in extreme situations like peace negotiations or discussions with extreme ideological differences.
Absolutely Simon. Valuing a person is ensuring they feel heard, seen, supported, connected and rewarded. From the thousands we've surveyed in workplaces they are desired in that order. Ironically, workplaces offer them in the opposite order.
@Eduardo Andrés Chavarría Rey if you are treated poorly it will ultimately shape your human perception. That's why you have repeat offenders who keep going back to prison. They can't see the incentive in changing their behavior since they are stuck in misery no matter what. You tell a guy like that to adjust their sails and see for yourself what type of reaction you'd get.
@@Anoalekontrieger when the color of your skin gives you more access into resources and more special treatment by Nazi Jews and white supremacist idiots the world becomes severely imbalanced with unjustified hunger.
Spot on! Listening goes way beyond just hearing words; it's about creating that safe space for genuine understanding. I’ve often noticed how replacing judgment with curiosity can transform conversations. In my experience, when we allow someone to "empty the bucket," it paves the way for real dialogue. It's amazing how humor can also bridge gaps in understanding, much like the insights from the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x. If we focus on truly listening and connecting, we can break down barriers, no matter how extreme the situation may seem. Keep honing those listening skills; they’re invaluable!
Listening is the key to a healthy life. This process varies because some humans have been talking over others for far too long, while some other humans need encouragement to listen to their beautiful inner voice and speak ❤️
I’m listening to this so that my wife would be less frustrated with me at times. 😜 To truly listen to someone consistently is a learned skill. great video. Thanks.
If you enjoy this I think you would enjoy Criss Voss book on Negotiation is call never split the difference. Criss talk about tactical empathy skills and the remarkable power of Active Listening
Reminds me of nonviolent communication. There are plenty of resources in "emptying the bucket" and listening to what not just the words being used are, but the full meaning of what is going on through their perspective.
I just wanted to add - and this isn't a rebuke or refutation but a recognition - that it's so hard to keep doing this over a longer time period (iterative, long term relationships) if the other person never reciprocates. The solution for me - frame it as work, as a moral good, as something worth doing *because it's the right thing to do* not because it's going to benefit me in any way.
I like that approach and it’s often necessary because it is in work or at work that we need to do better listening. And I encourage you as did another person who replied to not stress yourself out so much in this work of listening that you also don’t reach out to someone who can listen to you, even if it’s a professional that you have to pay. I also wonder if we don’t need to make an effort in our, long-term relationships to ask the over-talkers if they would like to hear our POVs. There is also the situations in which we just become the listeners, but don’t affirm the other person or their perceptions, or we listen interminably and become the suffering martyrs. If it’s a committed long-term relationship like that, I think we need professional help or divorce.
I just wanted to remind you of the importance of active listening. The art of listening involves more than just hearing words; it's about fully engaging with the person speaking and being present in the moment. By truly listening, you can build stronger connections with those around you and gain a deeper understanding of their perspectives. So, next time you're in a conversation, try to listen with intention and without judgment. It can make all the difference.
I actually don't like the term 'active' listening because it implies you need to DO something, while listening is a passive act. Apart from encouraging the other, you don't do anything. This is why I've come up with the term 'Receptive Listening'. Sounds good to you too?
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."* The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
Thank you. Thank you and I thank my wife (Light of my day), my little lovely Ava (Joy of my heart) my friends and family and Simon - which in Hebrew means “The one, who understands” (I believe)
Thanks man. 1. Replace judgement with curiosity 2. Give them a safe space and make them feel heard I feel like I don't give people safe space a lot of the times. A friend, for example, has different views than me regarding marriage. So every time the topic of marriage is surfaced I just downright start bashing it. What I should do is ask her questions like, why does she think it's good institution etc. Secondly my brother, a lot of the times, he gives me safe space to talk about my values. But it is on the expense of his own safe space because my values are sometimes against his values. Thanks for the video man you're probably one of the extremely rare people in your industry that I listen to.
When we explore the “why” behind our need to judge… it can help. Determine what your are defending, what feels threatened. The more we can zoom out, see that others experience is valid for them, and the more self-assured (not self righteous though!) we become, the less we are compelled to engage in defensive posturing and judgment. The more dogmatic we are, the less psychologically flexible. It makes connection extremely difficult. Not everything is either/or, right/wrong, win/lose…that kind of thinking can ruin ability to listen deeply. It’s a competitive mindset vs cooperative, connective, or collaborative. We humans have many cognitive distortions, biases, and narratives (usually formed through conditioning early in childhood and then continuing through schooling, society, media, religion etc) that distort our perspectives. We often just blindly believe our way is “right”. Deep introspection and metacognition can allow for ability to dive deep and examine those beliefs. It can be a bit scary for some, but freeing too! I applaud you for being honest and realizing you don’t give people safe space. That has been the number 1 reason I’ve withdrawn from friendships and romantic relationships. Not feeling accepted (heard, seen and understood), but instead that I needed to modify to make the other person comfortable with a version of me that would be false. When we deny aspects of someone’s reality…it doesn’t go away, it just often goes underground & they don’t feel safe to share anymore. I wish you well. 💫
OMG!!! My on only struggle with a lot of people! I am always posting on social media “The Art of Listening” That’s it “I want to Feel Heard” Thank you Simon Sinek 🙏 Love it! ❤️
Empathy gives both parties the feeling of comfort. Misunderstanding are often cause of conflict. Hence, listening and understanding with an open mind will provide an insight of genuine understanding. If you read this, i hope there is someone who can listen to you. I hope you feel heard and appreciated.
"I can hear you but I won't Some look for trouble While others don't There's a thousand reasons I should go about my day And ignore your whispers Which I wish would go away" - Idina Menzel
As i listen to this and read the comments i realise that bro i talk too much. I always want to feel heard which makes me draw the conclusion that im actually alot more immature than i thought. It's good soul food. I actually really appreciate this. Now its for me to learn
"We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know."- Carl Rogers
How do you truly listen? 1. You listen to what someone is saying, i.e. their voice, their words, the data. 2. You observe how they're saying it, i.e. their expressions/body language and emotions to reveal "the why" behind them saying it. Let me ask again. How do you truly listen? Listen Observe Voice Expressions Love. The foundation of listening, truly listening, is an act of love. 👍
Incredible person reading this, go after what it is that you want in life! Learn the skills, do whatever it takes! You are capable of anything! I believe in you! ✨ Love - Nat ❤️
From listening to respond to listening to understand is progress 👍 And once we understand we can take it far beyond by listening to appreciate 🥰 Because that’s when we truly feel heard and seen and can then unleash all our superpowers together 🤙
I swear you speak right into my life, there are so many occasions that I find myself having a perspective and then I see you speaking on that perspective soo eloquently 🤩 you are my mentor 🤓
Awesome!! Many of us face another block : stop listening very easily and keep your mind articulating the “proper” answer to what you think you heard .. that is really nonsense
“As a patient i should not be required to help my care aids or counterparts learn to listen to my needs, nor should I be required to help them feel heard. - Martin Brousseau”
Many people around never seem to have an ending to their bucket. They just keep emptying for hours on end. Try 30 years of marriage with someone with verbal diarrhea (I apologize for the graphic word). I am on a quest to discover, "Who listens to the great listener?" because we all have the need to be heard. Thank you Simon
I thought of people like that also. I usually try to listen as long as I can endure when I come across those types, and then excuse myself. I imagine there are times, especially in business transactions when that is impossible, and we need additional skills to extract ourselves while still acknowledging the speaker.
@@sheilaburns1678 I guess it all depends on the situation and what you are ready to endure like you said. I know for me the discussions will be different from now on. I will interrupt and "ask" (because it sounds polite) if they would like to hear my point of view? LOL! I am curious to see their reactions... I'll let you know
I have always tried to listen without judging, but people is afraid that I will and at the same time they want someone who does not judge them. Only thing that I can do is to remind that I will not judge.
Validation is how you show that you aren’t judging. Then if you do that enough, they know you are safe and won’t judge. Learning the skill of validation, and implementing it, shows a person non-judgment.
Like the fish with water, we take listening and speaking for granted. It's time to change that - to bring listening and speaking to the forefront of educators' minds and to purposefully teach the listening and speaking skills that are the foundation of so much of human interaction. Erik Palmer
I would like to link this into social media messaging as it's becoming like the new form of speaking. People spend a lot of much time tapping, but then regret what their fast reply was. Mainly because they didn't take their time to think and read. That's why what's app brought out disappearing messages. Maybe you could do a podcast on this
There are some aspects of effective listening suggestions here which seem to run contrary to listening. Interjecting “Tell me more” or “Go on” may be felt (as this supposed to be about feeling) as the listener trying to control the speaker or being dismissive as if what’s communicated is not getting to the point fast enough for the listener. For me, this feels not unlike to having a listener interject “Right, right, right” which I find quite annoying. There is a big difference between the Japanese conversational art embodied in aizuchi and American interjections to show that we’re listening to what’s being said. Either effective listening approach needs to be much better understood or interjections are disruptions. Personally, I’d like to be feel that I’m be listened to, but I’d also like to speak in a way which allows for pauses and doesn’t disrupt one’s train of thought. If the listener is waiting for an opportunity to interject “Tell me more,” I don’t feel they are listening to me effectively or paying attention beyond focus on a gap to get an edge in wordwise.
I would like to learn more about Japanese conversational art of AIZUCHI. I will be looking that up and researching more about it so thank you for mentioning it. also I appreciate you pointing out that the practice of interjecting even with agreement or encouragement, can be interruptive and off-putting. I think that using the phrase, “can you tell me more” is a listening tool to be used when it feels someone has completed their thoughts. Maybe they have more to say, but have silenced themselves because they’re not used to being listened to. It seems it is truly a tool not to convince the person that we’re listening, but rather to make more space for them to share more of their thoughts and feelings.
Our VP should watch this so she can behave herself when others talk. She is so rude and doesn’t care and respect others when they talk, just cutoff in the middle no matter what the business topic the talker was doing, she has to be heard any seconds without letting others finishing!
"I remind myself every morning: Nothing I say this day will teach me anything. So if I'm going to learn, I must do it by listening." - Larry King
Great quote, not so great individual
Well you also have to ask, at times. Try avoiding extreme unidirectional analogies. Balance is the key.
beautiful words
Sometimes you can learn by teaching or training. By doing that, you learn how to do it better, and in the process maybe you re-learned something you may have forgotten.
Triple underline, buddy. Best from Croatia, Lucy and Jack
No one cares how much you know until the know how much you care and no better way to show you really care by listening.
When we talk, we only say what we already know. But when we listen, we learn new things we don't know before. 💪
Word.!
Well said
Craziness. You listen sb then start Talking .
- Listening is more than just hearing words; it's about understanding the meaning behind them.
- The art of listening involves creating an environment where the other person feels heard and understood emotionally.
- It requires replacing judgment with curiosity and providing a safe space for someone to express themselves without judgment.
- Effective listening involves asking open-ended questions like "Tell me more" and giving the other person space to share their thoughts.
- Listening is a crucial skill for building trust, finding common ground, and resolving conflicts, even in extreme situations like peace negotiations or discussions with extreme ideological differences.
Absolutely Simon.
Valuing a person is ensuring they feel heard, seen, supported, connected and rewarded. From the thousands we've surveyed in workplaces they are desired in that order. Ironically, workplaces offer them in the opposite order.
How perfectly timed this message is for the fall of 2021. Brilliant.
Possibly the most useful UA-cam I have ever listened to! 4 times.
this bucket-emptying anecdote is fly AF and this message is transcendental
“Replace judgment with curiosity"
huge one!
Most. Important thing I heard today.
I need this printed on a shirt.
Short.
Snappy.
Perfect.
This video Just changed my life forever.
I have heard it said we should listen at least twice as much as we speak.
Indeed, we were born with two ears and one voice box for a good reason!
*"When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love." - Marcus Aurelius*
Sounds like a privileged person to begin with. For some people being alive is a heavy burden.
@Eduardo Andrés Chavarría Rey if you are treated poorly it will ultimately shape your human perception. That's why you have repeat offenders who keep going back to prison. They can't see the incentive in changing their behavior since they are stuck in misery no matter what. You tell a guy like that to adjust their sails and see for yourself what type of reaction you'd get.
@@Comrade134 but when is someone privileged? It's all relative until you put things in perspective.
@@Anoalekontrieger when the color of your skin gives you more access into resources and more special treatment by Nazi Jews and white supremacist idiots the world becomes severely imbalanced with unjustified hunger.
It depends. If it’s proper living, yes. If it’s just surviving, it’s not (good) enough.
Reminds me of this analogy. When two surfaces rub against each other, it just take one of them to be smooth to make the contact a frictionless one.
Spot on! Listening goes way beyond just hearing words; it's about creating that safe space for genuine understanding. I’ve often noticed how replacing judgment with curiosity can transform conversations.
In my experience, when we allow someone to "empty the bucket," it paves the way for real dialogue. It's amazing how humor can also bridge gaps in understanding, much like the insights from the Sense of Humor Improvement Program by Habit10x. If we focus on truly listening and connecting, we can break down barriers, no matter how extreme the situation may seem. Keep honing those listening skills; they’re invaluable!
Listening is the key to a healthy life. This process varies because some humans have been talking over others for far too long, while some other humans need encouragement to listen to their beautiful inner voice and speak ❤️
What a remarkable example. I’ve never heard of this woman, thank you.
YOU LISTEN
YOU SEE
YOU FEEL
THIS IS A POWERFUL EFFECT.
NOT EVERYONE LISTENS
NOT EVERYONE SEES
NOT EVERYONE FEELS.
IT'S EITHER ALL OR ONE OR OTHER.
I’m listening to this so that my wife would be less frustrated with me at times. 😜 To truly listen to someone consistently is a learned skill. great video. Thanks.
If you enjoy this I think you would enjoy Criss Voss book on Negotiation is call never split the difference. Criss talk about tactical empathy skills and the remarkable power of Active Listening
@@skionen1781 thanks. Just ordered it.
Me too Doc. Lol
@@skionen1781 btw, great read. Thanks for the recommendation.
Me too.
I love great minds
My girlfriend always mentions how I'm likeable and sociable and I'm like, no, I just listen. People just want to be heard.
Reminds me of nonviolent communication. There are plenty of resources in "emptying the bucket" and listening to what not just the words being used are, but the full meaning of what is going on through their perspective.
I just wanted to add - and this isn't a rebuke or refutation but a recognition - that it's so hard to keep doing this over a longer time period (iterative, long term relationships) if the other person never reciprocates. The solution for me - frame it as work, as a moral good, as something worth doing *because it's the right thing to do* not because it's going to benefit me in any way.
amen. And it's also important to tend to your own needs to be heard at times, even if it's by your own self
I like that approach and it’s often necessary because it is in work or at work that we need to do better listening. And I encourage you as did another person who replied to not stress yourself out so much in this work of listening that you also don’t reach out to someone who can listen to you, even if it’s a professional that you have to pay. I also wonder if we don’t need to make an effort in our, long-term relationships to ask the over-talkers if they would like to hear our POVs. There is also the situations in which we just become the listeners, but don’t affirm the other person or their perceptions, or we listen interminably and become the suffering martyrs. If it’s a committed long-term relationship like that, I think we need professional help or divorce.
As long as a word remains unspoken, you are its master; once you utter it, you are its slave
This video needs so many more views. Replacing judgement with curiosity is something that I’m going to have to always remember.
Being intentionally silent is often times better than tugging the conversation towards yourself and yourself only.
Great insight! Simon
I just wanted to remind you of the importance of active listening. The art of listening involves more than just hearing words; it's about fully engaging with the person speaking and being present in the moment. By truly listening, you can build stronger connections with those around you and gain a deeper understanding of their perspectives. So, next time you're in a conversation, try to listen with intention and without judgment. It can make all the difference.
I actually don't like the term 'active' listening because it implies you need to DO something, while listening is a passive act. Apart from encouraging the other, you don't do anything. This is why I've come up with the term 'Receptive Listening'. Sounds good to you too?
“Listen with intention”…I absolutely love this!! ❤
I had to listen to this 3 times and it reminded me of something I read in February about the difference between listening and hearing. Interesting
*"Everything in life is easier when you don't concern yourself with what other people are doing."*
The chances of you seeing this comment is pretty low, but if you did, *I hope you have an amazing day.* 🖤
Thanks, you too!
💕
This guy is BRILLIANT AF!!!! WTH, does he has any flaws??? He got the looks, the charisma and knowledge...
Simon Sinek...Man, your definitions of simple things ..Mindblowing..like here listening...is the art...what I got
It works when one of the parts learn it! That was great
Thank you. Thank you and I thank my wife (Light of my day), my little lovely Ava (Joy of my heart) my friends and family and Simon - which in Hebrew means “The one, who understands” (I believe)
Thank you! Love the way you speak, that was great
Thanks man.
1. Replace judgement with curiosity
2. Give them a safe space and make them feel heard
I feel like I don't give people safe space a lot of the times. A friend, for example, has different views than me regarding marriage. So every time the topic of marriage is surfaced I just downright start bashing it. What I should do is ask her questions like, why does she think it's good institution etc.
Secondly my brother, a lot of the times, he gives me safe space to talk about my values. But it is on the expense of his own safe space because my values are sometimes against his values.
Thanks for the video man you're probably one of the extremely rare people in your industry that I listen to.
When we explore the “why” behind our need to judge… it can help. Determine what your are defending, what feels threatened. The more we can zoom out, see that others experience is valid for them, and the more self-assured (not self righteous though!) we become, the less we are compelled to engage in defensive posturing and judgment. The more dogmatic we are, the less psychologically flexible. It makes connection extremely difficult.
Not everything is either/or, right/wrong, win/lose…that kind of thinking can ruin ability to listen deeply. It’s a competitive mindset vs cooperative, connective, or collaborative.
We humans have many cognitive distortions, biases, and narratives (usually formed through conditioning early in childhood and then continuing through schooling, society, media, religion etc) that distort our perspectives. We often just blindly believe our way is “right”. Deep introspection and metacognition can allow for ability to dive deep and examine those beliefs. It can be a bit scary for some, but freeing too!
I applaud you for being honest and realizing you don’t give people safe space. That has been the number 1 reason I’ve withdrawn from friendships and romantic relationships. Not feeling accepted (heard, seen and understood), but instead that I needed to modify to make the other person comfortable with a version of me that would be false. When we deny aspects of someone’s reality…it doesn’t go away, it just often goes underground & they don’t feel safe to share anymore.
I wish you well. 💫
Such a great reminder especially at the time we are living now.
Appreciate the insight. People like being heard and in turn will listen to you which is mutually satisfying experience
OMG!!! My on only struggle with a lot of people! I am always posting on social media “The Art of Listening” That’s it “I want to Feel Heard” Thank you Simon Sinek 🙏 Love it! ❤️
I have to say. I didn't know I needed to hear this, until I heard it. This is such a undervalued skill for people to have. Great video Simon!
Listen until you understand!
Empathy gives both parties the feeling of comfort. Misunderstanding are often cause of conflict. Hence, listening and understanding with an open mind will provide an insight of genuine understanding. If you read this, i hope there is someone who can listen to you. I hope you feel heard and appreciated.
Thank you. I don't have anyone that would listen to me.
@@antonida1143 I'm there for you incase you want some good company.
@@antonida1143 you need to evaluate your own assumptions. Perhaps your company is just as toxic as the assholes I've left behind.
@@antonida1143 I did go to the doctor but I found a robot instead. Their hands were tied up by the system so they couldn't really help me.
"I can hear you but I won't
Some look for trouble
While others don't
There's a thousand reasons
I should go about my day
And ignore your whispers
Which I wish would go away" - Idina Menzel
Be mature enough to accept failure and rejection ✊ ✊ 💪 💪 ✊
As i listen to this and read the comments i realise that bro i talk too much. I always want to feel heard which makes me draw the conclusion that im actually alot more immature than i thought. It's good soul food. I actually really appreciate this. Now its for me to learn
True, I am learning this.
"We think we listen, but very rarely do we listen with real understanding, true empathy. Yet listening of this very special kind, is one of the most potent forces for change that I know."- Carl Rogers
Listening very important part in our life
How do you truly listen?
1. You listen to what someone is saying, i.e. their voice, their words, the data.
2. You observe how they're saying it, i.e. their expressions/body language and emotions to reveal "the why" behind them saying it.
Let me ask again.
How do you truly listen?
Listen
Observe
Voice
Expressions
Love.
The foundation of listening, truly listening, is an act of love. 👍
What a great conclusion and connection you’ve done. A masterpiece! Thanks for sharing!
@@ElTigreFIME Thanks boss!
It recalls me one sentence back in my Microsoft times: Agressivelly listen to customers.:)))
Brilliant! Amazingly timely and on point. I am learning... Right medium, right message, right time. Love & Light 😘
Incredible person reading this, go after what it is that you want in life! Learn the skills, do whatever it takes! You are capable of anything! I believe in you! ✨
Love - Nat ❤️
Thank you Nat! That helps ☺️
Thanks Nat. Would love more of this from you.
Such a kind thing to say. Right back at you!!
@@keinestrella thank you for reading it Kein, you’re the best! ☺️
@@Sitvhomes thank you friend, absolutely! ⭐️
E você domina bem essa arte Simon! :)
Gratidão por compartilhar conosco. :)
Brilliant I can so need to get better at listening Simon
From listening to respond to listening to understand is progress 👍
And once we understand we can take it far beyond by listening to appreciate 🥰
Because that’s when we truly feel heard and seen and can then unleash all our superpowers together 🤙
I swear you speak right into my life, there are so many occasions that I find myself having a perspective and then I see you speaking on that perspective soo eloquently 🤩 you are my mentor 🤓
Amazing and true. Thank you so much again for inspiration. Huge blessings from Croatia, Lucy and Jack
Brilliant super power. Thank you for sharing. Makes complete sense. IF that technique doesn’t work then likely nothing will. Haha.
All dreamers out there this is temporary situation it will pass don't lose hope keep going you are on the way to success don't give up 💪 ✊ ✊ 💪
Got goosebumps between 4:25 - 4:40. That was awesome.
I'VE MASTERED THE ART OF LISTENING. I'M FINE. THANK YOU! KERIM T.🙂✌
This man is a present on earth
I identify with what you're saying 1000000% 👏👏👏 I am going to practise what you're saying, it won't be easy. Thank you so much for posting this 🤗
Art needs effort and listening is indeed art. Get into it... 🙏. ♥
Totalmente de acuerdo contigo. El arte de escuchar es poco practicado.
Thank you for sharing this with us. I will in turn share it with others. Create a Magical Day!
This is a wonderful resource!
Awesome!! Many of us face another block : stop listening very easily and keep your mind articulating the “proper” answer to what you think you heard .. that is really nonsense
I totally agree with this one. 👏🤜🤛
Great point. THANKS
For a good and healthy conversation, it's very important to be a patient listener.
Punjab needs you sir. we are calling you in punjab.
This is very well said. Wish more people would listen (sic) to this video.
" you makes someone feel heard, they will trust you". 🥰🥰🥰
No, not really. The most untrustworthy persons are the most effective listeners.
So wonderful to be able to hear this 😉. I'm listening
Replace judgement with curiosity
“As a patient i should not be required to help my care aids or counterparts learn to listen to my needs, nor should I be required to help them feel heard. - Martin Brousseau”
Deeyah Khan!
Brilliant as always
This is great advice!! So simple
I got to watch this again ❤❤❤❤
We have two ears and one month for a reason. Listen at least two times more than you speak.
I like this!
Many people around never seem to have an ending to their bucket. They just keep emptying for hours on end. Try 30 years of marriage with someone with verbal diarrhea (I apologize for the graphic word). I am on a quest to discover, "Who listens to the great listener?" because we all have the need to be heard. Thank you Simon
I thought of people like that also. I usually try to listen as long as I can endure when I come across those types, and then excuse myself. I imagine there are times, especially in business transactions when that is impossible, and we need additional skills to extract ourselves while still acknowledging the speaker.
@@sheilaburns1678 I guess it all depends on the situation and what you are ready to endure like you said. I know for me the discussions will be different from now on. I will interrupt and "ask" (because it sounds polite) if they would like to hear my point of view?
LOL! I am curious to see their reactions... I'll let you know
What a powerful messages
*5 things to quit right now:*
*1. Overthinking*
*2. Trying to make everyone happy*
*3. Living in the past*
*4. Worrying*
*5. Doubting yourself*
Ooo those are good! I’m writing that down!
*"Happiness resides not in possessions, and not in gold, happiness dwells in the soul." - Democritus*
Good Listener always be a Good Speaker
I have always tried to listen without judging, but people is afraid that I will and at the same time they want someone who does not judge them. Only thing that I can do is to remind that I will not judge.
Validation is how you show that you aren’t judging. Then if you do that enough, they know you are safe and won’t judge. Learning the skill of validation, and implementing it, shows a person non-judgment.
We can not agree with someone and also hear how feel they think and feel and what motivates they’re thinking and feeling and acknowledge that
Like the fish with water, we take listening and speaking for granted. It's time to change that - to bring listening and speaking to the forefront of educators' minds and to purposefully teach the listening and speaking skills that are the foundation of so much of human interaction. Erik Palmer
I would like to link this into social media messaging as it's becoming like the new form of speaking. People spend a lot of much time tapping, but then regret what their fast reply was. Mainly because they didn't take their time to think and read. That's why what's app brought out disappearing messages. Maybe you could do a podcast on this
This was great....you also have great facial hair....I LOVE IT!
Thank u sirI love u
U are really wonderful
Allah bless your life
This is so important! Great video!
You can talk many times, yet only the one listened matters.
Listen and understand.
thanks for the video
Hello sir🤗
From India 🇮🇳
My God you're right!
There are some aspects of effective listening suggestions here which seem to run contrary to listening. Interjecting “Tell me more” or “Go on” may be felt (as this supposed to be about feeling) as the listener trying to control the speaker or being dismissive as if what’s communicated is not getting to the point fast enough for the listener. For me, this feels not unlike to having a listener interject “Right, right, right” which I find quite annoying. There is a big difference between the Japanese conversational art embodied in aizuchi and American interjections to show that we’re listening to what’s being said. Either effective listening approach needs to be much better understood or interjections are disruptions.
Personally, I’d like to be feel that I’m be listened to, but I’d also like to speak in a way which allows for pauses and doesn’t disrupt one’s train of thought. If the listener is waiting for an opportunity to interject “Tell me more,” I don’t feel they are listening to me effectively or paying attention beyond focus on a gap to get an edge in wordwise.
I would like to learn more about Japanese conversational art of AIZUCHI. I will be looking that up and researching more about it so thank you for mentioning it. also I appreciate you pointing out that the practice of interjecting even with agreement or encouragement, can be interruptive and off-putting. I think that using the phrase, “can you tell me more” is a listening tool to be used when it feels someone has completed their thoughts. Maybe they have more to say, but have silenced themselves because they’re not used to being listened to. It seems it is truly a tool not to convince the person that we’re listening, but rather to make more space for them to share more of their thoughts and feelings.
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Every Simon Sinek video I have watched is him talking and not listening.
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She should give them a safe space to speak. They should give her a safe space to speak too. Everyone needs to be felt heard.
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Our VP should watch this so she can behave herself when others talk. She is so rude and doesn’t care and respect others when they talk, just cutoff in the middle no matter what the business topic the talker was doing, she has to be heard any seconds without letting others finishing!