Nathaniel, my close colleague always asks the same. She was the one who introduced me to that question. Because of her intelligence and experience, I adore her problem solving ability in my life.
Love this. I went to a hotel once and my in room gift was a packet of my brand of cigarettes. I found out afterwards that they called a colleague before i left for my trip to find out what i smoked. Inexpensive daily item, much cheaper than a bottle of hotel house wine, but i will remember the gesture forever.
So important to LISTEN FOR MEANING NOT TO REPLY!!... One of the most useful ways I've found to make people feel listened is ask questions, but not for facts, ask CLARIFYING questions... In the example of "there is something in my eye" is can be as simple as "okay, tell me, where do you feel it? What is it that you're feeling?" It may make NO difference whatsoever in the response you get from that person, but they will feel like they can express themselves
People are bad at listening but everyone wants to be heard. This lesson is so important, personally and professionally. That is the value of Peer-to-Peer advisory groups.
I learnt something. Thanks Simon. My wife used to complain about her shitty clients and I tend to respond by giving her solutions, she was so upset with me. Now I know why. 😂
So immensely important topic, thanks so much!! "People are suffering because they are alone and are going unrecognized. All of their social behavior, their foolishness and their tragedy, is expressing this desire and need to be recognized. If you listen carefully, even beyond what they are telling you or demonstrating to you, you will hear the great need of their soul, and you will feel compassion for them. You will see that even in their anger or their frustration, in their judgment or condemnation of others, you will see this need for recognition. This will temper your judgment of them. This will enable compassion to arise, naturally-not as a kind of forced exercise, but naturally. As you feel your own need to be recognized and to recognize yourself, you will see this in people around you, and it will move you. You will feel compassion for them, and you will see their dilemma." (From Deeper Recognition in Relationships, by Marshall Vian Summers. It's a chapter which you can read online for free. Very inspiring one!)
Great video. Can't help thinking someone who wants a room for yoga would already have a mat so you could go for something else yoga related but the point is well made.
Listening is not hearing the words (and parroting the words back) that are spoken; listening is listening for meaning! The test of being a good listener is if the person feels heard!! Actionable- Listen for the reasons why (the meaning) behind something of what they are talking about.
why i video all whenever i can, not just call.. something about the ability to see discomfort, joy, anger, whatever.... that may be missed with a typical audio call. that little tweak has not only saved a ton of miscommunication and help relationships grow with coworkers, friends and such, but it shortened those calls... which i actually can't stand
This is some high quality information sir .👏 True meaning of being heard, shows you care genuinely. This can't be faked. A real person only can do this. That's why , we feel connected with someone instantly, beacuse of careful listening. Respect ❤️🙏🏻
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️
I agree with most of his podcasts, sadly, not this one. I NEED my boss/college/underling to give me the facts, not emo's. This is work, not therapy. I ain't no millennial, I'm gen-x. I'll listen to the facts and everything that is relevant and makes sens. Keep your feelings at home, lets keep it professional and real at the workfloor.
No you are actually wrong. If the boss does not "listen" it is not your fault! Or just ask the boss on the subject, "Do you want me to listen or you want problem solving?" Vast majority of people even on top management position are bad listeners or even worse they want for whatever reasons (mostly selfish and egoistical) impose their own will on their subordinates or just instill fear to control those under them! And another thing you should understand is that in every conversation there are emotions even where data and facts are presented! That is what makes us a human!
@@XPuntar That may be true, especially at high level. What I experience at work floor/factory level is however that this is abused to get out of the job by always the same folks. While the rest gets the job done. You indeed need to be capable to talk about these things, but for everything there is a time and a place. What I am getting at is that emotions should not be a reason to constantly 'dodge' tasks, so someone else does your job instead.
I hope he was joking when he said he thought he was being original. Stephen R. Covey wrote in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, released in 1989, "Most people don't listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” If you haven't read it, do so.
I am a typical guy, when I hear someone's problem I am looking for a solution. I learned women just like to vent. Me I'll internalize until something needs to be fixed, probably not the healthiest. Just different strokes for different folks.
Question: how do I apply this to people that don’t share. Like if I’m trying to find meaning and a person will flat out say they don’t care. I’m noticing this with the men in my life. my father, friends, so.
My wife and I ask each other “do you want me to listen or problem solve”. That’s been very helpful for us!
Nathaniel, my close colleague always asks the same. She was the one who introduced me to that question.
Because of her intelligence and experience, I adore her problem solving ability in my life.
*"You are a good listener if the other person feels heard!"*
~ Simon Sinek
YESSSSSSSS! 🔥👌
Five minutes with Simon is worth a full hour of a course. Thank you!
The ‘why’ is everything! Small, meaningful acts goes a long way…
Love this. I went to a hotel once and my in room gift was a packet of my brand of cigarettes. I found out afterwards that they called a colleague before i left for my trip to find out what i smoked. Inexpensive daily item, much cheaper than a bottle of hotel house wine, but i will remember the gesture forever.
So important to LISTEN FOR MEANING NOT TO REPLY!!... One of the most useful ways I've found to make people feel listened is ask questions, but not for facts, ask CLARIFYING questions... In the example of "there is something in my eye" is can be as simple as "okay, tell me, where do you feel it? What is it that you're feeling?" It may make NO difference whatsoever in the response you get from that person, but they will feel like they can express themselves
People are bad at listening but everyone wants to be heard. This lesson is so important, personally and professionally. That is the value of Peer-to-Peer advisory groups.
My perspective to listening has immensely changed now!!
I love this! Where is the full interview?
Soo true, we all need to learn how to listen....
I learnt something. Thanks Simon.
My wife used to complain about her shitty clients and I tend to respond by giving her solutions, she was so upset with me. Now I know why. 😂
So immensely important topic, thanks so much!!
"People are suffering because they are alone and are going unrecognized. All of their social behavior, their foolishness and their tragedy, is expressing this desire and need to be recognized. If you listen carefully, even beyond what they are telling you or demonstrating to you, you will hear the great need of their soul, and you will feel compassion for them. You will see that even in their anger or their frustration, in their judgment or condemnation of others, you will see this need for recognition. This will temper your judgment of them. This will enable compassion to arise, naturally-not as a kind of forced exercise, but naturally. As you feel your own need to be recognized and to recognize yourself, you will see this in people around you, and it will move you. You will feel compassion for them, and you will see their dilemma."
(From Deeper Recognition in Relationships, by Marshall Vian Summers. It's a chapter which you can read online for free. Very inspiring one!)
Thank you, Mirel.
This is beautiful! 💜 Thank you for sharing.
@@CarlaSophieMar Yes, these books of the New Message are simply amazing. 😍Worth exploring more.
@@CarlaSophieMar it is, and so does the original revelation from where this little quote is from. 😍
love every one of these short teachings!
Thank you Simon!
When you listen you accumulate new things and learning mode is ON! When you speak you only distribute what you have and learning mode is OFF!
Love this video listening touched the heart and makes you feel you're special.
Simon Sinek you are the best
Great video. Can't help thinking someone who wants a room for yoga would already have a mat so you could go for something else yoga related but the point is well made.
Simon Sinek "FOR PRESIDENT"!
The host is so lovely and lively
Goood Morning!☀️Thank you so much!
Simon - You always just absolutely 'nail it'! I would love to hear you speak in real life .. any time in the UK soon?
The yoga mat story....I really feel that.
Listening is not hearing the words (and parroting the words back) that are spoken; listening is listening for meaning! The test of being a good listener is if the person feels heard!! Actionable- Listen for the reasons why (the meaning) behind something of what they are talking about.
Thank you thank you thank you Simon 🤓 the second video about real estate job🤭 god thank god you talk about this. And the interviewer is just love 🧡
Being present in the moment...
All starts with listening,..eye contact ..giving attention ..trust
why i video all whenever i can, not just call.. something about the ability to see discomfort, joy, anger, whatever.... that may be missed with a typical audio call. that little tweak has not only saved a ton of miscommunication and help relationships grow with coworkers, friends and such, but it shortened those calls... which i actually can't stand
Amazing 👏
This is some high quality information sir .👏
True meaning of being heard, shows you care genuinely. This can't be faked. A real person only can do this. That's why , we feel connected with someone instantly, beacuse of careful listening. Respect ❤️🙏🏻
Whoever is reading this, I pray that whatever you’re growing through gets better and whatever you’re battling with makes your situation better as you’re continuing to be a better person each day. I have faith that you’ll turn out great as your circumstances will change. Have a fantastic day! You got this! 🤗💪🏼❤️
Thank you Nathalie 👌
All the best for you too!
Thank you, Nathalie. Your kindness is appreciated.
Mind blowing Sir, need more help to improve listening skills.
Everyone needs to her this
Where may I watch this entire talk? Thanks,
I remember your week ass movie Talk Hard didn't mean shit did it!!
Lovely topic
3:23 but lost me there 😂 we cant any more
I agree with most of his podcasts, sadly, not this one.
I NEED my boss/college/underling to give me the facts, not emo's. This is work, not therapy.
I ain't no millennial, I'm gen-x. I'll listen to the facts and everything that is relevant and makes sens.
Keep your feelings at home, lets keep it professional and real at the workfloor.
No you are actually wrong. If the boss does not "listen" it is not your fault!
Or just ask the boss on the subject, "Do you want me to listen or you want problem solving?"
Vast majority of people even on top management position are bad listeners or even worse they want for whatever reasons (mostly selfish and egoistical) impose their own will on their subordinates or just instill fear to control those under them!
And another thing you should understand is that in every conversation there are emotions even where data and facts are presented! That is what makes us a human!
@@XPuntar That may be true, especially at high level. What I experience at work floor/factory level is however that this is abused to get out of the job by always the same folks. While the rest gets the job done.
You indeed need to be capable to talk about these things, but for everything there is a time and a place.
What I am getting at is that emotions should not be a reason to constantly 'dodge' tasks, so someone else does your job instead.
Amen.
I think I call this empathy or empathetic listening. Certainly a masterclass of ways of listening.
To s tým súvisí aby poznal všetky súvislosti a mohol byť naozaj objektívny
True, but most people aren’t that deep……they are just on the surface………unfortunately.
Wow!
Nice
I hope he was joking when he said he thought he was being original. Stephen R. Covey wrote in his book, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, released in 1989, "Most people don't listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.” If you haven't read it, do so.
🕊️The test of being a good listener is if the other person feels heard 🌿
I am a typical guy, when I hear someone's problem I am looking for a solution. I learned women just like to vent. Me I'll internalize until something needs to be fixed, probably not the healthiest. Just different strokes for different folks.
Where is your micro? Nearly not to be heared overhere in Zürich- Switzerland..😳☹
Question: how do I apply this to people that don’t share. Like if I’m trying to find meaning and a person will flat out say they don’t care. I’m noticing this with the men in my life. my father, friends, so.
So few ACTIVELY listen these days😞.
S/S. If we are living, we are successful ! It's better to be heard instead of listened, which has meaning vs wasted words ? V
The lady is like: why my husband isn't like that? (with an I'm not happy about this attitude)
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I wrote it …🤣🤣🤣💜💜
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listening is not about hearing the words that are spoken.
listening is listening for meaning.
if the other person feel heard you are a good listener.
listen to the reason WHY. listen to the meaning, bacause that what someone feel seen, and feel heard.
You don't have to use clickbait titles my dude.
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