Wait a minute, did I get this right? This man committed financial infidelity and then he went on to commit emotional infidelity and the entire time he’s talking about he did this all for his wife? He has no integrity.
His own lies bit him in the behind! My parents never had much but we always had what we needed. My father was an honest, hard working man. My mom always said she would wear a ring from a gumball machine if that was all he had. They were married for almost 60 years before they passed away. Thanks to my parents, this is how I judge my marriage: If everything material were to be all gone, would there be anything left worth holding onto? If you can say yes, then you are rich in a priceless way that money can not buy.
Unmanaged bad debt just wraps you up in a never ending cycle of grief, frustration and anxiety..it’s not worth it..money has its own energy..it’s not your money..you have to pay it back and then some…I became debt free 6 years ago after years of playing with my credit line..I feel so free and unburdened as a result..if you have debt, you won’t be free unless you pay it off 😮
This guy does all the gymnastics to keep from taking responsibility. "I didn't have someone on the side...well, I did later." Stop blaming your wife for your bad choices. You are the one that lied, cheated, and lied some more. Say it out loud.
There is no excuse for this guy's lies and cheating. But I think that he was venting while on this call rather than just making excuses. He accepts responsibility but He obviously has been missing support and care from his wife. The onus is just as much on her as it is on him. She has obviously not communicated well with him, expects him to know what she needs without communicating that to him, does not encourage him, and then places all of the blame on him. This just confirms my theory that when a man attempts to "solve" all, if not most, of a woman's problems and tries to make her life easy, she will most likely just end up resenting him.
I’m in the home building and remodeling industry. SO many guys like this guy, under bidding jobs, losing money, no idea what they are doing. They might be good carpenters but they are terrible on the business side, and they only last a couple of years before it all catches up to them. Robbing Peter to pay Paul, taking big deposits and using it to live on and try and finish other jobs. It’s literally every other guy; sometimes its the guy in the rusty pickup, sometimes its the guy with the $80k truck and a nice website and a bunch of good reviews, but underneath its all smoke and mirrors. And i bet those guys that i know that are in that mess, their wives have no idea
I have a relative in the real estate/contracting business, and he said he avoids the guy in the 80k pickup like the plague, especially if he knows the guy is getting started. A sure sign of bad money management and poor planning. This is the guy who will blow your deposit and then not be able to afford to finish the work.
By what I’ve seen and heard it seems that the majority of marriages are unhappy/unsatisfied. So many are not willing to put in the consistent work it takes to keep one another happy and loved. So disheartening. Seems the majority get/stay married for status, image, etc.
@@eurekahope5310 Let's be honest--the numbers the show gets wouldn't be the same the other way around. Ppl love watching chaos unfold--it's why daytime TV is a thing.
@@Izaz-ke7dt it almost always boils down to communication, setting goals and expectations together. Designing a future you both want. If you do that, it’s impossible to have one partner end up $60k debt without the others knowledge
He was probably spending money on the other woman too, making it all worse with the debt and the lies having to get bigger. The debt and lies grow like a fungus, quick! If either of you don’t agree to get on the same page and get right with the Lord, it’s not going to work man.
I don't believe this guy. Sounds like BS start to finish, he's just digging to save face. As if the wife couldn't put 2 & 2 together to figure out spending & trips away cost money, money spent on credit = debt.
How would she have known he was spending on credit if aside from bills they kept their finances seperate? So everytime she paid for something it was coming from her bank card. But when he paid it was a credit card. She'd never had a reason to watch what card he was using before so why would she start all of a sudden? I never paid attention to which card my partner was paying with.
My husband hid 40k debt, i just found out yesterday 😢, he can't give me details where he spent . I feel betrayed. What should i do? I have two kids with him and this is not first time he end up with debt, this is 3rd time in 16yrs .
Why do words bravery and courage get so overused and used out of context? FFS, this is a call about a dude who messed up and we don't need to label it as "courageous" as if he's WWII veteran. Ditch the platitudes, Deloney🤢🤮 smh
Adamant and hubris...I have been chopping away for 40 years...I understand the vacations, the tools, the cars, the gifts...I tried to explain but she wouldn't listen...and to be real honest 60K is not a lot of money...should have a side gig to make some extra cash...the biggest problem UA-cam creates is a unrealistic expectation of wealth...I had a heart attack...really took 6 years to deal...so I get it.
There is no excuse for this guy's lies and cheating. But I think that he was venting while on this call rather than just making excuses. He accepts responsibility but He obviously has been missing support and care from his wife. The onus is just as much on her as it is on him. She has obviously not communicated well with him, expects him to know what she needs without communicating that to him, does not encourage him, and then places all of the blame on him. This just confirms my theory that when a man attempts to "solve" all, if not most, of a woman's problems and tries to make her life easy, she will most likely just end up resenting him. I sometimes tell people, "Don't work too hard! You'll get fired!"
@OmGitsMarijaME it sounds to me like she takes advantage of their financial situation. even if you * think * you have money, there’s no reason to spend all the time
@@ajaikamclemore4619 Are you saying that she shouldn't have spent her money? If he tells her they have a lot of money and can afford to spend it...then why wouldn't she spend it?
@@ajaikamclemore4619 she can't be manipulating him by spending money that HE KNOWS she is spending. Manipulation means to do something behind someone else's back...you know, what he was doing is manipulation.
I have to listen to first call but they have a marriage not financial problems as Dave Ramsay would say. The financial part is a symptom. If the couple has good communication there's no way they would be going on trips buying/getting gifts without one not noticing the financial discrepancy. They are both guilty one of pretending that everything is okay and the other choosing not to care how things are and just enjoying the perks. They need help.
How did HIS deception become twisted into a negative thought about HER. She's not a gold digger, she was deceived by her husband so now she can make the choice to help him pull out of this.
Sorry for this situation!!! I feel guilty to say that I thought that I was in a F*CKED situation and after hearing this story, I don't feel as bad about my situation!!! Sorry, NOT sorry!!!! Chasing the "American Dream" is NOT a DREAM but a complete and TOTAL nightmare!!!!
Anyone that’s going to ask for the original call with the wife. It’s called our entire marriage has been lies and secrets from April 12th, 2023
Thank you. Seems too much for the editors to link it.
Thank you!!
Wait a minute, did I get this right? This man committed financial infidelity and then he went on to commit emotional infidelity and the entire time he’s talking about he did this all for his wife? He has no integrity.
Just my opinion but that loser is not seeking help, he's Bragging. 😬
This is a huge burden. Their marriage seems entangled in lies.They spent too much time maintaining a life style they did not have.
Yup. Gotta be honest w your spouse if you are broke
Sounds like the marriage itself was missing. 😬
Well they wouldn't have been doing that if there had been honesty on his part about being broke and taking out credit and loans.
His own lies bit him in the behind! My parents never had much but we always had what we needed. My father was an honest, hard working man. My mom always said she would wear a ring from a gumball machine if that was all he had. They were married for almost 60 years before they passed away. Thanks to my parents, this is how I judge my marriage:
If everything material were to be all gone, would there be anything left worth holding onto? If you can say yes, then you are rich in a priceless way that money can not buy.
Wow, all rationalizations and no responsibility.
Wait a minute....there was no woman on the side until "6-7 months ago"??? Dude...
This dude is ridiculous. He really messed up and still doesn't get it. He should do his wife a favor and just go away (and take the debt with him).
He's acting like a victim 🤢
Wife nor Husband is in the right.
Te woman is more wrong in this case! And I’m saying that as a woman that went through something similar. God speed John you did great this fall.
Call*
@@julissaperez4875 perhaps I missed something important, but what is it that you believe the wife is accountable for?
@@Dark_Souls_3 ...why exactly?
This is a great episode. Such a rare thing that the accused calls to defend themselves.... poorly. 😂
Being asked to say something to your spouse that you don't believe will have an adverse effect.
You guys should link the video to the original call in the description when you have follow up calls like this
Unmanaged bad debt just wraps you up in a never ending cycle of grief, frustration and anxiety..it’s not worth it..money has its own energy..it’s not your money..you have to pay it back and then some…I became debt free 6 years ago after years of playing with my credit line..I feel so free and unburdened as a result..if you have debt, you won’t be free unless you pay it off 😮
That's amazing that you're debt free! I've got about 2 years left til I'm debt free too can't wait
You will fix it in divorce court
This guy does all the gymnastics to keep from taking responsibility. "I didn't have someone on the side...well, I did later." Stop blaming your wife for your bad choices. You are the one that lied, cheated, and lied some more. Say it out loud.
There is no excuse for this guy's lies and cheating. But I think that he was venting while on this call rather than just making excuses. He accepts responsibility but He obviously has been missing support and care from his wife. The onus is just as much on her as it is on him. She has obviously not communicated well with him, expects him to know what she needs without communicating that to him, does not encourage him, and then places all of the blame on him. This just confirms my theory that when a man attempts to "solve" all, if not most, of a woman's problems and tries to make her life easy, she will most likely just end up resenting him.
Doesn’t seem to me he’s ready to fully embrace the rebuilding trust process.
Completely agree
He's bragging.
You know a better way to hide it? Pay it😂
I’m in the home building and remodeling industry. SO many guys like this guy, under bidding jobs, losing money, no idea what they are doing. They might be good carpenters but they are terrible on the business side, and they only last a couple of years before it all catches up to them. Robbing Peter to pay Paul, taking big deposits and using it to live on and try and finish other jobs. It’s literally every other guy; sometimes its the guy in the rusty pickup, sometimes its the guy with the $80k truck and a nice website and a bunch of good reviews, but underneath its all smoke and mirrors.
And i bet those guys that i know that are in that mess, their wives have no idea
I know someone just like this. It was sad/frustrating to watch him try to keep up appearances, having no idea how long term.
I have a relative in the real estate/contracting business, and he said he avoids the guy in the 80k pickup like the plague, especially if he knows the guy is getting started. A sure sign of bad money management and poor planning. This is the guy who will blow your deposit and then not be able to afford to finish the work.
By what I’ve seen and heard it seems that the majority of marriages are unhappy/unsatisfied.
So many are not willing to put in the consistent work it takes to keep one another happy and loved. So disheartening.
Seems the majority get/stay married for status, image, etc.
People don't call in to talk about how great their marriage is. Only people call in when something is going wrong in their lives.
This is a show for people who need help. People with good marriages can benefit from this advice, but won't be featured in a call.
@@eurekahope5310 Let's be honest--the numbers the show gets wouldn't be the same the other way around. Ppl love watching chaos unfold--it's why daytime TV is a thing.
@@JerryStevens What are the things that you guys are doing, that hes not. Help a younger guy out with some wisdom.
@@Izaz-ke7dt it almost always boils down to communication, setting goals and expectations together. Designing a future you both want. If you do that, it’s impossible to have one partner end up $60k debt without the others knowledge
Lies beget lies.
He was probably spending money on the other woman too, making it all worse with the debt and the lies having to get bigger. The debt and lies grow like a fungus, quick!
If either of you don’t agree to get on the same page and get right with the Lord, it’s not going to work man.
O I remember his wifes call. Lol
I don't believe this guy. Sounds like BS start to finish, he's just digging to save face.
As if the wife couldn't put 2 & 2 together to figure out spending & trips away cost money, money spent on credit = debt.
How would she have known he was spending on credit if aside from bills they kept their finances seperate? So everytime she paid for something it was coming from her bank card. But when he paid it was a credit card. She'd never had a reason to watch what card he was using before so why would she start all of a sudden? I never paid attention to which card my partner was paying with.
He probably lied when dating her.
The guy with the sick wife - he’s full of himself! Don’t run around!! Nasty!
My husband hid 40k debt, i just found out yesterday 😢, he can't give me details where he spent . I feel betrayed. What should i do? I have two kids with him and this is not first time he end up with debt, this is 3rd time in 16yrs .
Take over the finances at the very least.
I am wondering how many wife’s clicked this just make sure it is not their husbands 🤭
😂😂
That’s real tho lol!!
😂
Why do words bravery and courage get so overused and used out of context? FFS, this is a call about a dude who messed up and we don't need to label it as "courageous" as if he's WWII veteran. Ditch the platitudes, Deloney🤢🤮 smh
John said he is courageous because he called to the show to be judged by people like you.
@@sfappetrupavelandrei you make it sound like judgement is a bad thing. You know, kind of like what you're doing now. Try to think clearly.
I’ve never heard him not give a police officer or a veteran their proper respect
@@santafilipina9020 I can own that judging you was not OK. Can you do the same about this guy?
@@sfappetrupavelandrei again, you see judgement as wrong so do as you please with it. I do not. For that reason, I am not owning up to anything.
Anyone else totally confused by this guy?
Tell your wife, get a second job and take care of it. Marriage doesn’t work well with lies.
Damn, maybe just consider a divorce. Too much for both to carry on their shoulders.
I disagree. As long as they want to move forward together, they should do anything they can to save the marriage. At least for the kids.
@@sfappetrupavelandrei That ship sailed.
Adamant and hubris...I have been chopping away for 40 years...I understand the vacations, the tools, the cars, the gifts...I tried to explain but she wouldn't listen...and to be real honest 60K is not a lot of money...should have a side gig to make some extra cash...the biggest problem UA-cam creates is a unrealistic expectation of wealth...I had a heart attack...really took 6 years to deal...so I get it.
Cough up the truth!
Please drop the link to wife’s call.
There is no excuse for this guy's lies and cheating. But I think that he was venting while on this call rather than just making excuses. He accepts responsibility but He obviously has been missing support and care from his wife. The onus is just as much on her as it is on him. She has obviously not communicated well with him, expects him to know what she needs without communicating that to him, does not encourage him, and then places all of the blame on him. This just confirms my theory that when a man attempts to "solve" all, if not most, of a woman's problems and tries to make her life easy, she will most likely just end up resenting him. I sometimes tell people, "Don't work too hard! You'll get fired!"
This is why I'll most likely just be an employee my entire life and live within my means, this dude sounds like he's in a huge mess.
I think he should file for divorce!
Anyone know where I can find the first one????
Yes, it’s called our entire marriage is lies and secrets from April 12th, 2023
This whole story is just confusing.
Omg there is a lot going on!!
He’s a habitual liar and she manipulates him.
Perfect recipe
someone who is a habitual liar is by default someone who is manipulative. He is manipulative
@OmGitsMarijaME it sounds to me like she takes advantage of their financial situation. even if you * think * you have money, there’s no reason to spend all the time
@@ajaikamclemore4619 Are you saying that she shouldn't have spent her money? If he tells her they have a lot of money and can afford to spend it...then why wouldn't she spend it?
@@ajaikamclemore4619 she can't be manipulating him by spending money that HE KNOWS she is spending. Manipulation means to do something behind someone else's back...you know, what he was doing is manipulation.
Is this the guy that tols his wide he spent 60k buying a tractor?
TOTALLY lying
I have to listen to first call but they have a marriage not financial problems as Dave Ramsay would say. The financial part is a symptom. If the couple has good communication there's no way they would be going on trips buying/getting gifts without one not noticing the financial discrepancy. They are both guilty one of pretending that everything is okay and the other choosing not to care how things are and just enjoying the perks. They need help.
It's called "our entire marriage has been lies and secrets"
Women don't hang around for the bad times expect a divorce.
And some men just won't TRY and do the work it takes to work out marital conflicts, instead whine like victims 🤷♀️
She help to waste the money as well and need to take responsibility for that.
My husband and I were never friends the marriage had no feet to stand an
@@jamaicaninthekitchen4358 he lied and pretended the money was there. Makes it difficult for her to make different choices.
@@katrina3560 And some women take accountability... never
sounds like a gold digger and needs to pay to keep her 😅
Nope, if only😅 ..it's too bad they didn't link the wife's original call. Someone mentions it in comments though
How did HIS deception become twisted into a negative thought about HER. She's not a gold digger, she was deceived by her husband so now she can make the choice to help him pull out of this.
Sorry for this situation!!! I feel guilty to say that I thought that I was in a F*CKED situation and after hearing this story, I don't feel as bad about my situation!!! Sorry, NOT sorry!!!! Chasing the "American Dream" is NOT a DREAM but a complete and TOTAL nightmare!!!!