It's only been 2 yrs but my grown children don't want anything to do with their father. I know they are hurt. I've told them if they ever decide to let him back in their life. I'll try to be respect ,after all he us their father.
Super sad there is ONLY 3k views in 4 months. This HUGE truama that many family's homes needs alot of care and attention and people need to lean into this pain and be willing to heal these dark deep emotional places in the church communities.
I just discovered today. Am divorce 2 years . My kids are all grown but the yougset was 18 . How ever we almost split when that 18 yr old was actually 10 months old & our other children were 11 & 17. They had some counseling. My now Ex called off the divorce asked for forgiveness & agreed to counseling. Years later to 3 yrs ago. The kids had found out, their friends had caught their father with his GF. We didn't talk about what had happened yrs before, so it was a shock to our youngest. The older kids one of their found out where the GF lived & there was Dads truck .
My son and his wife divorced.. I saw my happy always giggling granddaughters turn to troubled children. I cried for a year and prayed they would reconcile but sadly it didn't. It caused to much difficulty for my son and his daughters , thankfully things are much improved and the parents are doing their best to be supportive to one another and im very grateful for that.
I didn't expect to cry. I am a child of divorce my parents got divorced when I was 11, I am currently 19 and in college. I had an assignment to write about something that affects me in a big way and is a universal problem. I chose how divorce affects children. I can across this in my research, super helpful by the way, and decided to watch it for my paper. You put it so eloquently and as far as I can tell 100% correct, it was also nice for you to come at if from a christian point of view. After watching this I had to go and hug my boyfriend to keep from crying too hard so I could finish my assignment. . . . . . . . . . I plan on being very meticulous in choosing my spouse because I want to chose someone who is willing to work things out and doesn't bail at the first or even 100th sign of conflict. I want to end the cycle of divorce with me right now, I do not want my parents' decision to affect my children too much.
Really really appreciate that you guys are engaging the truama of this. I would love if adult children were interviewed and put together in healthy conversations with eachothr and hearing their perspective instead of talking only about their statistics of their perspectives. But actual real time interviews of questions being asked of them and gaining understanding of how this has emotionally been damaging.
Thanks for your comment, John! We appreciate your suggestion to interview adult children in order to better understand their perspective and to gain a deeper recognition of the impact divorce has on children. Please be assured we are passing your idea along to the appropriate staff. Thanks again for taking a moment to reach out! Blessings to you.
Yes, agreed. I love to see no just how get over it, but to expose the reality of the lengthy damages on humans when the parents get divorced, to get across that aspect of considering a divorce.
Grate show and excellent subject. Please do more programs about the short and long term negative effects on children of divorce couples. Only a very small portion was touched on this program.
It’s scary to see people minimizing the effects of divorce! The rate of divorce is among 30-34% in Christian homes now. That’s disgusting! If both parents are Christians and if there is an offending party who’s willing to repent and change their ways, how could one justify divorce? Anybody have any answers? The family I’m thinking of has 3 daughters ages 8-15.
Lord have mercy and show you incredible grace when you start to discover how divorce parents really impacted you. It leaves wounds for any one my brother/sister.
"How do they break the cycle?" By having acknowledgment and ownership of their failed marriage and acknowledge where they both individually contributed to the problems and issues and ask for and receive forgiveness and confess those wrongs openly to each other. That's how the cycle gets broken...through the ways Jesus gave us how to take care of wounds and offenses. (Your friendly brother in christ with great experience with divorced and remarried parents)
Divorce doesn't have to be as devastating or traumatic for the child if the parent (s) don't over-dramatize the process. Children feed off their parents
Provided both parents care how it effects their children. Sadly some don't care. Some times if a parent is involved with someone else a bf or gf. If like in my case his GF didn't want his kids around. He actually told me he resents his own children. I can't let the kids know what he said. But I'm afraid they figured it out on their own.
My parents divorced when I was grown and had a child of my own. That was 25 years ago. I still cry over it. I grieve and deal with anger.
It's only been 2 yrs but my grown children don't want anything to do with their father. I know they are hurt. I've told them if they ever decide to let him back in their life. I'll try to be respect ,after all he us their father.
Super sad there is ONLY 3k views in 4 months. This HUGE truama that many family's homes needs alot of care and attention and people need to lean into this pain and be willing to heal these dark deep emotional places in the church communities.
I just discovered today. Am divorce 2 years .
My kids are all grown but the yougset was 18 . How ever we almost split when that 18 yr old was actually 10 months old & our other children were 11 & 17. They had some counseling. My now Ex called off the divorce asked for forgiveness & agreed to counseling.
Years later to 3 yrs ago. The kids had found out, their friends had caught their father with his GF. We didn't talk about what had happened yrs before, so it was a shock to our youngest. The older kids one of their found out where the GF lived & there was Dads truck .
My son and his wife divorced.. I saw my happy always giggling granddaughters turn to troubled children. I cried for a year and prayed they would reconcile but sadly it didn't. It caused to much difficulty for my son and his daughters , thankfully things are much improved and the parents are doing their best to be supportive to one another and im very grateful for that.
I didn't expect to cry. I am a child of divorce my parents got divorced when I was 11, I am currently 19 and in college.
I had an assignment to write about something that affects me in a big way and is a universal problem. I chose how divorce affects children. I can across this in my research, super helpful by the way, and decided to watch it for my paper. You put it so eloquently and as far as I can tell 100% correct, it was also nice for you to come at if from a christian point of view.
After watching this I had to go and hug my boyfriend to keep from crying too hard so I could finish my assignment.
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I plan on being very meticulous in choosing my spouse because I want to chose someone who is willing to work things out and doesn't bail at the first or even 100th sign of conflict. I want to end the cycle of divorce with me right now, I do not want my parents' decision to affect my children too much.
Really really appreciate that you guys are engaging the truama of this. I would love if adult children were interviewed and put together in healthy conversations with eachothr and hearing their perspective instead of talking only about their statistics of their perspectives. But actual real time interviews of questions being asked of them and gaining understanding of how this has emotionally been damaging.
Thanks for your comment, John! We appreciate your suggestion to interview adult children in order to better understand their perspective and to gain a deeper recognition of the impact divorce has on children. Please be assured we are passing your idea along to the appropriate staff. Thanks again for taking a moment to reach out! Blessings to you.
Yes, agreed. I love to see no just how get over it, but to expose the reality of the lengthy damages on humans when the parents get divorced, to get across that aspect of considering a divorce.
Grate show and excellent subject.
Please do more programs about the short and long term negative effects on children of divorce couples.
Only a very small portion was touched on this program.
Kids need the representation of both parents.
Don’t kid yourselves the kids are not copping well .
They are at best surviving.
I speak from my own childhood.
It’s scary to see people minimizing the effects of divorce! The rate of divorce is among 30-34% in Christian homes now. That’s disgusting!
If both parents are Christians and if there is an offending party who’s willing to repent and change their ways, how could one justify divorce? Anybody have any answers? The family I’m thinking of has 3 daughters ages 8-15.
My parents divorced in 10th grade. My siblings and I were perfectly fine. It didn’t really affect us too much.
Lord have mercy and show you incredible grace when you start to discover how divorce parents really impacted you. It leaves wounds for any one my brother/sister.
"How do they break the cycle?" By having acknowledgment and ownership of their failed marriage and acknowledge where they both individually contributed to the problems and issues and ask for and receive forgiveness and confess those wrongs openly to each other. That's how the cycle gets broken...through the ways Jesus gave us how to take care of wounds and offenses. (Your friendly brother in christ with great experience with divorced and remarried parents)
I appreciate what you guys are trying to do, but I think you are missing the mark and the root of the issue.
Divorce doesn't have to be as devastating or traumatic for the child if the parent (s) don't over-dramatize the process. Children feed off their parents
Provided both parents care how it effects their children. Sadly some don't care.
Some times if a parent is involved with someone else a bf or gf. If like in my case his GF didn't want his kids around. He actually told me he resents his own children. I can't let the kids know what he said. But I'm afraid they figured it out on their own.