Jordan's trauma is just that his viewpoint was created by the decisions and internalizations of a boy trying to appear the right way for his parent's projections. To outgrow his severe trauma, Jordan would have to go through the maturation processes that his parents neglected and negated.
I avoided facing my childhood issues for so long, but it keeps creeping into my adult life. It feels like it never really goes away.
Your ultimate childhood issue is that you have not gone through any of the early stages of development.
It hit me hard when he mentioned we need to separate the trauma from the present.
When he talked about not being that same five-year-old anymore, it struck me. Convincing my brain to stop reacting like I am is a real struggle.
Feeling stuck in the past is overwhelming.
My partner and I fight about the same thing over and over, like we never fully resolved it.
I thought I was fine until a random comment from a friend brought all those old feelings back. Healing trauma seems like an endless process.
Blaming past trauma for failed relationships feels like a way to avoid personal responsibility.
I’ve been in a constant state of distrust ever since my last relationship ended badly.
Trauma rewires how we see the world.
Not everyone’s trauma deserves to define their entire life-at some point, we have to move on.
The challenge is finding peace without dragging the past into every fight.
Relationships are tough when past hurt keeps lurking in the background.
Past abuse still affects my ability to trust.
If we keep focusing on trauma, are we actually healing, or just feeding the pain?
Sometimes I wonder if trauma is overused as an excuse for staying stuck in toxic patterns.
Jordan's trauma is just that his viewpoint was created by the decisions and internalizations of a boy trying to appear the right way for his parent's projections.
To outgrow his severe trauma, Jordan would have to go through the maturation processes that his parents neglected and negated.