"Having the body does not mean that you have the confidence" SPOT ON. Ten years ago, I had "the body" and no confidence and my style was crappy. Today? I'm prob 60-80lbs heavier but found the confidence and I wear what I want and I love it.
I feel ya! A couple of years ago I was a size 8 and had zero confidence. I wore baggy shirts and loose pants all the time so nobody could see my body. Now I’m a size 14 and happily strut down the beach in a bikini.
SAME!!!! I struggled w eating disorders for years and always told myself “when I’m skinny I’ll wear a skirt in public” but there I was 70 lbs, and still hiding my body in hoodies and sweats. 60 pounds later, I’m confident in the clothes I’ve always dreamed of wearing
i relate. im a size 6 and its a daily struggle. like i look at people bigger than me and think they are fucking stunning, but i cant stand being a size 6. BD is so annoying.
I have never understood when people say “oh you shouldn’t wear that it will make you look fat” it’s like babe wearing a black smock isn’t going to automatically turn me into a skinny person people will still know I’m fat so why not Rock a stunning outfit on my stunning fat body and show off my body that I’m proud of 💖
Form fitting is literally meant to fit your form. Theyre not called skinny fitting. Theyre BODY CON dresses. No where does the name define what shape your body needs to be to wear it. It shapes to your body and your body is unique and therefore adds YOUR SPICE to a limp dress off a rack.
skinny isn't what makes clothes look good, its the confidence of the people wearing them. i fall into the trap so much of being afraid to wear certain clothes because of my weight, but then i look at other people my size and larger wearing similar stuff and they look amazing. its all about having the confidence to pull it off
Confidence and access to things that are better made to fit your body. One of the biggest things that helped my combat my meal skipping habits was when I read this article from this woman explaining how we see all these clothes on these models who have clothes TAILORED to perfectly fit and flatter them.. While we have to pick from a range. So of course clothes don't look as good on us as the models. And yeah, certain body types are flattered by different types of clothes! But at the end of the day, better access to better clothes with wider ranges of sizing would go a LONG way. I definitely agree with the confidence thing 100% though.
me known as the skinny queen in my class : Any bottoms - unless they fit my waist - which is rare - they look ugly and I just wear baggy t-shirts that most of my friends look normal in
buuuut this implies that one, you will never look good to others if you lack the confidence (something that some people may never achieve in their life) and two that you can tell if someone has confidence just by looking at them? you can never assume how people feel about their body just by looking at them :/
'' A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession with female beauty, but an obsession with female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative.'' Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
One time, I heard somebody say something like "Why would take feedback from someone who you wouldn't go to for advice?" and it's just great rule of thumb, honestly. If you don't know and trust them, their critiques should not matter to you.
I relate to you so much. I was grocery shopping with my boyfriend the other day wearing a teeshirt and shorts and this other couple walked by and the boyfriend in this couple said “she’s too fat for that outfit” and his girlfriend laughed. I was literally wearing a tee shirt and gym shorts! Like wtf am I supposed to wear when it’s 80 fucking degrees outside, a paper bag? This is the video I needed today!
Oh ma gawd, the fucking audacity to just be a horrible human being so publicly!! I haven’t fought since I was a kid but it I was there I’d go ham, I’d say that maybe my bf would hold me back but he’d probably go in first XD. I’m so sorry they sucked but you’re amazing ✨ ❤️
Meanwhile if me and my bf saw you we both probably wouldve checked you out and talked about how cute you were in the next isle over. Misery loves company and they obviously feed off of eachothers insecurities
i’m completely shocked, like what the actual hell. just keep on walking my darling, keep on strutting in whatever tf you wanna wear. people like that are just gross and need to take a moment to look at themselves.
this is true, and a lot of times for photo shoots they don’t even bother with tailoring - they literally use clamps in the back where you can’t see to custom pinch and resize clothes on the fly.
90s teen here. Was a size 12/13 & had to wear mom clothes. Got on drugs/diet pills, finally a size 10. You young women are doing the work to make fashion for everyone a reality. Shine on
@Bigclitenergy: Don't take diet pills unless directed by a physician. They can cause all sorts of problems including heart attack and death. Just don't.
that mini skirt was definetly too long??? i notice companies do this often when ordering skirts in larger sizes even though it kinda defeats the point of having a mini skirt lmao
@@oats300 ikr! Its tough being plus size and short, I have to hem my clothing sometimes, and when I was in marching band my uniform had to have its sleeves hemmed about a *foot* bc apparently plus size people have monkey arms???
Also, notice how Maddie ordered "her size" (16?) and it was too tight? Well, obv she isn't that size in that brand. But it would be so great if sizes could be standardized so you'd know what size you were in any brand, without having to micro study every size chart and decide if each garment will fit your hips, waist, or bust. Because it will never be all three!
I didn't know about this, thank you for bringing this up. ik people commenting on my body, whether they call me skinny or fat just encourages me to restrict so its important that people know this about emma
Hideaki Sorachi ok wait i thought i was going insane because the more people comment on my body, even if they’re compliments, the more i feel like i need to focus on it???? like maintain it or try to lose more weight...i definitely thought i was alone there :((
@@gracecc6853 its actually a very common issue when it comes to eating disorders and body issues, you're definitely not alone. I hope things get better for you
@@gracecc6853 i completely feel the same! i think its because when people compliment you on it, you feel like you have to maintain it, so you focus on it even more and start to think that maybe even smaller would get more compliments, yknow? it sucks as a mindset, but i find its v common, and i completely suffer from it :/ sorry if this triggers anyone!
Same here…I’m always super awed by ANYONE who wears a bodycon dress bc I just don’t have the confidence for that…or for a crop top…or any of that But hopefully both of us will get there one day!
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I have never realized certain brands wouldn't make bigger sizes so their clothing wouldn't be seen on plus-sized people... I always thought that logistically it would be more complicated to make a bigger range of sizes. I feel naive and have once again lost a little bit of faith in humanity. Whoever reads this, I hope you have a great day, you're beautiful and let no one tell you otherwise
Depends on the location... Brands in USA, where average size is 16-18, should have bigger sizes because that's actually the biggest market. Them only making clothes up to size 12 is them choosing who they think should wear their clothes. In east/southeast asia, where the average size is small to medium (4-8). Sure, it is difficult logistically since there's a tiny client pool for sizes 2xl (12-14) and up.
Depends on the brand. A small company probably just starting up probably just cant afford to make as many sizes available. Whereas brandy melville is only intended for those who can fit their clothes, which is small people.
@@YourDailyDoseofJillish sure. Being a small clothing company means you need to focus your target market. But if the biggest market in your country is 16-18, why would you start a small business targeting 2-12 sizes?
Abercrombie did that. The CEO straight up said he only wants attractive people wearing his clothes.. even though his face was completely plastic and horrible.
From a design student; It’s not more complicated to make. It’s (slightly) more expensive, because more fabric is being used and if it’s a very very extreme size (large or small) it won’t sell as well, because there aren’t “as” many people who need that size. For example in Asian countries there just isn’t really a need for very large sizes. But Yes absolutely some brands won’t make those sizes because they don’t want to.
The fact that last night I sobbed about how I felt like because of my size I can’t wear anything cute or trendy and then I woke up to this video. You’re changing my life lmao ty so much
@@josefhaller3240 you just gotta remember she's loooking in the mirror seeing something she doesn't like either, even beyonce looks in the mirror and sees flaws
Same... I didn't even realise that I'm priviledged.. I don't have the dream body as my stomach and thighs are big and I mostly fit in size medium but I'm actually blessed compared to some people. Not like my mom and some people in my family who are kind of plus size (I think they're mostly large or extra large) so some stores don't have what they look for.
Man my young cousin cried the other day because she can’t find fairycore clothing on her size and she thinks she can’t be a fairy :( That broke my heart and made me realize how important it is to include different body sizes while designing clothing and stuff. (We’re not American so diverse plus size or larger woman clothing is hard to find) Update on that: since I made this post I joined sewing classes, I hope that I can soon do some pieces for her
Awww - go to the party store and get her a tiara and wand. Get her a leotard (even an adult size would work) and make a little tulle skirt to attach to it. Where there's a will there's a way! 🧚♀️🧚♂️
@@janismacolley2395 Yeah I’m learning how to sew rn! I designed a fairy outfit for her and as soon as I learn how to sew properly I’ll make it for her :D
That sucks so bad. You could always try to recreate your own fairycore clothes. It's fun and you'll have clothes your size :) Just a thought. Also tell your cousin that shes cool as shit and fairycore will look so good on her. Thanks.
when you said “because these brands don’t want fat people to wear their clothes” something just clicked. I’d always been so baffled by brandy and their one-size policy bc surely it’s just bad business restricting who gets to wear your clothes?? but I get it now - they only ever want their clothes to be seen on skinny bodies bc that’s what they consider cool and pretty. so gross!!
I remember when I was in the 8th grade so like 13 years old. I wore a women’s size 8 in most pants and medium shirts. One day my sister took me to into a Lacrosse just to look for herself and Of course I picked out some stuff just to have something to try on and I could barely get their “large” on my body. My sister is a size 4. She was used to looking for extra smalls. She was shocked she didn’t fit into their small. It was nuts.
"I feel like a squiggly line. I feel like a bubble. I feel like a waterfall. I feel... pretty. I feel pretty" It's actual poetry right there oh my god, I'll put it in my journal
yes exactly!! whenever i see girls taking pictures and get shy when im walking by i just "OMG YALL LOOK BOMB DO YOU WANT ME TO TAKE SOME PICTURES??" and the happiness on their face is all worth it. the smallest compliment makes peoples day
Your whole spiel about the early 2000s being extremely unfriendly to plus size people transported me back to my middle and high school days when all my friends wore cute trendy Lizzie McGuire outfits and I literally had to shop at Lane Bryant and dress like a 40 year old woman at 13. My first time inside a Torrid was mind-blowing and I feel like it's only gotten better from there even if we still have a long way to go.
I don’t think it gets talked about enough how extremely skinny the “fashionable” late 90s - early 2000s figure was...it’s still bad now but back then it was *intense* and much of it was actively encouraging EDs...it’s scary
THIS COMMENT! I've never been skinny, but middle school was a nightmare. I was the only 7th grader with a woman's body, ass and hips for days and I was teased and bullied for it to no end. Not to mention that the trends at the time were not at all forgiving. I recall how at that time Jessica Alba was basically the definition of curvy and even coverage of JLo's assets was more the media roasting her for her figure than praising it. To think that the same people who gave me and other girls like me such a hard time before are now spending obscene amounts of money to look like us is so surreal. On the one hand, I'm happy to see this trend towards body positivity but the cynic in me, maybe because of what I've experienced, thinks this is just a passing fad and is waiting for the tide to shift again.
Throughout this video I found myself LOVING the way YOU look in all your outfits, but still having this narrative in my head that EYE couldn’t wear anything too revealing or form fitting for MY body. So although I know all bodies look beautiful, I’ve convinced myself that mine is the exception? Gotta do some mental work on that!
I LOVE how you used the comparison of being insecure and not ACTUAL being able to fit in the sizes of these trends. It's eye opening, and I am so glad I was recommended this video
Surely if you can’t find clothes that fit your body that’s a sign to lose weight and that it’s unhealthy? Lol my friend is a size 00 and she has to shop in the childrens section but that’s because she knows her body is not ‘healthy’ and so clothes aren’t made for her
@@izzyommey5719 I totally agree but I do think stores should have wider ranges of sizes for someone who is still struggling with health issues but wants to change
@@izzyommey5719 people can’t just instantaneously loose weight, being possibly unhealthy doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to wear clothes.. also not everyone can lose weight for genetic or financial reasons
@@izzyommey5719 Not necessarily tho, I’m a size 16 round my hips but a size 10 round my waist and absolutely nothing fits properly yet it’s supposedly an ideal hourglass body type?? so why don’t they make clothes for it.. My BMI is healthy and I’m tall too so makes it even more difficult
on the “form fitting dresses aren’t for bigger girls”. if it’s your size you can wear it. and if it’s not your size you can sew it so you can wear everything, end of story.
So I clicked on this video for a fun fashion haul and within the first five mins my girl articulated the systematic, corporate issue with fat phobia AND acknowledged her own size privileges. You are brilliant, you have a gift, and I wish you a lot of success - you deserve it.
your whole rant about insecurities has SUCH big sister vibes. i'm the oldest sibling but like it really hit and made me feel like. safe and accepted? esp the way you were laying down and talking like we were hanging out 🥺
You are so encouraging for me, as a teen who struggles with daily body dysmorphia, picking outfits can make me spiral, and it sucks to not be considered skinny, yet not even close to plus size, so it often makes me depressed. But you.... you are so sweet and kind and like an on screen best friend. Thanks a lot
I relate to all of this. I think we're called "mid-size", and you're definitely not alone. I'm really starting to gain confidence, and I KNOOWW we're gonna get to her level😤‼️🖤🖤🖤
You are so rad for seeking out content that will encourage you, as a fellow mid sized person I went through those issues a lot as a teenager and it sucks really bad but you’re so cool and you kick ass. I wish you luck on your journey
I'm a size 0, most of these pinterest peeps prolly aren't. I'll go and look at the clothes because they look like they'd fit me... they don't even make it in my size. U_U
We need to make this video GO VIRAL! I was once that person who "will wait until I'm skinny" but it's either antidepressants or ED...I chose antidepressants, I gained weight but I've found clothes for my body shape and I'm CUTE!!
@@amentrison2794 I believe U will be!! I used to have that mentality too! But therapy, meds, good surroundings and allowing myself to work through it really works
TW ed: I just wanted to note that the "clothes for when I'm skinny" phenomenon can also overlap heavily with the pro ed community. I ran into more than a few in the pro ana/mia community on Tumblr back in the day and when I was in middle/early high school and at the height of my eating disorder I was obsessed with the app wanelo and I would spend hours of self hatred adding clothes that they didn't have in my size and were shown on perfect skinny bodies to my need and love lists. At the best those boards are a manifestation of insecurity and longing, and at worst they can be much more insidious.
“What I’ll wear when I’m skinny” is SUCH A TOXIC MINDSET. I remember thinking like this and honestly I can’t even imagine still being like that. There’s NOTHING you cannot wear right now bb. Your body is beautiful just how it is. You may not look like the MODEL on instagram if you wear the same clothes with them but THATS OK. NOBODY DOES. Please protect yourselves from such harmful mindsets. You’re so precious and deserve SO MUCH BETTER than bringing yourself down like that. Take care!
Also there's literally no harm or shame in wearing whatever you want and whatever is currently trendy just because you're plus size.... Being fashionable is specific to a minority of the right type of skinny ppl? Bs rules (눈‸눈)
Ugh I’ve been trying to tell myself this more lately but it’s just so hard to get out of that mindset. I’m working on it though but ty for this comment!
@@bemorekind the most important thing is that you’re trying to change it. I’m so proud of you! I know it’s hard to change, but it’s harder to live with this mindset honestly, so it’s definitely worth it. I’m rooting for you❤️
I am a thin small girl and I have a fear of gaining weight. I remember the day I heard a large woman say she was afraid of loosing weight because she didn't want to be skinny. That was when I realized that everyone is different and everyone's idea of beauty is different. My eyes were opened that day and I am grateful.
I had/have6 this same fear. I've been under weight my entire life (no ED just hella stress and shitty eating habits), I started going to the gym because I wanted more shape. Loved it. Loved that my size 2 jeans were no longer fitting. Then I had a mental breakdown, was put on a medication that made me put on 40lbs. Spent a year living in sweats and baggy clothes and the day I finally tried putting on a pair of size 6 jeans I had a melt down. A meltdown that lasted almost a week. It quickly turned around, I love my weight now and would like to gain more with the help of the gym but now I'm terrified of losing the weight. Weird.
@@hdmm9136 this is pure speculation im no expert but i think a lot of it is that people are scared of change. scared of feeling worse than they already feel about themselves but once they realize they look BEAUTIFUL and feel HEALTHY they come to love their “new self” and i think comments like yours are super helpful for people to realize that they can be their best self at a different weight than what they thought was “ideal”
the problem also is that a lot of these trends don’t even come in larger sizes or are as accessible as “normal” size clothing (esp outside the usa) :((
the only store I shop at is asos, it's the only store that truly sells pretty plus size clothes.. It's really hard to find the things I would want to wear.. :(
I’ve had this problem and I’ve been plus sized for most of my adult life with a really diverse sense of style. Two things that have helped me IMMENSELY is cultivating relationships with small businesses who make specialty clothing, and using the Instagram recommendation feature on straight size speciality clothing stores. If you’re into 70s clothes and find a small business Instagram account that is totally your aesthetic but only go up to an XL, do two things: message them about custom sizing (a lot of people will do it for free) and check what instagrams are recommended to you because when you go through them, you will find size inclusive choices. It doesn’t work with fast fashion, of course, but if you’re looking to invest money in specialty pieces and can’t find plus, it’s a great way to go!!
Also!! Even if they DO come in bigger sizes, the proportions could be so off. The amount of skirts that were "my size" that didnt account for my fat ass looked and felt drastically different than the smaller sizes
There's a brand called Dangerfield in Australia that does a bunch of really cool kind of alternative style clothing (but their range of styles is still really broad, if u like the fashion in this video u would like them) and even has clothing that's exclusive to their plus size range and not super frumpy or boring, I'm not sure how much shipping would be a problem but I'd still recommend checking them out, obviously it's not going to solve the overall problem but it's a good step tbh
I used to be skinny and then I started gaining weight, growing, the usual. I was upset that I had gained weight that I stopped wearing clothes I liked because I didn’t think i’d look good. Watching this video gave me a wake up call that I can’t let my weight hold me back. I just bought a crop top and i’m preparing myself to wear it after 3 years of holding myself back. Thank you so fucking much, you’re beautiful.
Just yesterday I was looking at clothes and thought “ these are so cute but I’m too fat to wear them “ then today I saw this video on my recommended and I after I finished watching it I said FUCK IT and bought those clothes ! Like who says I can’t wear them ? I shouldn’t stop myself because I’m scared of what others will think of me ! Thank you so much for making me realize this, I love how confident and unapologetic you are. I subbed cause this is the type of content I want to see more, thank you .
I was dying for that dress the minute you held it up and literally GASPED when you put it on. It's everything, and I know you don't need this validation, but you look so hot!
i lost weight in the last few months and i thought i'd like the way my body looks more, but i don't. i like how it feels, but i don't like how i look more, and now i realized that i just need to love my body.
Im 17 and ive all my life done this.. "when i become skinnier i will wear this and that and those" and also "only beautiful people can use make up it would only make me uglier" its honestly sad how unconfident i am right now but i will one day find confidence back!
I just want you to know that I struggled heavily with the way I looked when I was younger, but I realized that I can’t change the way I am. I’m unique, even if my uniqueness isn’t something I find beautiful all the time. Take pride in the things that are ultimately you! I believe in you
Oh honey you certainly will find your confidence again... you're so young and have yet to grow a bit more into your adult self. The myth that only "Beautiful ppl" can do this or that is ploy to make women buy products and stuff to try and reach the "those other beautiful ppl".... Capitalistic bs.... you're beautiful in your own way and will certainly get to discover more about what you like and what you wanna look like when you grow some more 🥰🥰
Heyo! I'm also currently 17 & I just wanna say that I completely understand that lack of confidence you're talking about. I didn't feel like I had any confidence in myself until only recently when I started to work & focus on myself. Despite now feeling more confident than I used to, I still struggle with my pessimistic thoughts & that's okay. Tbh, I believe confidence is a pre-existing trait that we all have, it isn't a "thing" we obtain. We just need to help it grow ourselves rather than go "looking" for it. Food for thought lol. But I really do hope you will also become a lovely confident person too. I wish you well!
I’ve always been very petite and it never occurred to me that women felt they couldn’t participate in trends or wear certain things because they had a bigger body. Thank you for bringing awareness to this issue and making women of all sizes feel more confident to wear whatever they want.
@@lailalewis3293 pro anorexia. There are groups full of people with anorexia (and other eating disorders) that give each other tips to avoid eating and they feed each other’s disorder (I was into these when I was in 7th grade)
ok so you **already** looked cute in all of these outfits but the PURPLE HAIR MATCHING WITH THE PURPLE IN EVERY OUTFIT made me want to FAINT FROM CUTENESS!!!!!! (ps I also have purple hair)
my cheeks hurt. im smilling for almost 30 minutes straight. the “form fitting dress” chapter was just everything, so enlightening. you literally radiate beauty and love. people need to be like you. i wanna be like you. 🤍
except for the fact that she thinks the clothing industry is out to get her because bigger=more fabric more fabric=more expensive to make. ITS NOT CAUSE THEY DONT WANT FAT PEOPLE TO WEAR THEYRE CLOTHEsss!!!!! 2:33. otherwise you go girl
Okay but I fucking deeply hate myself and I'm extremely insecure about pretty much every aspect about myself and still have respect/love and try to project positivity onto every person and never body shame any person because I've gotten body shamed my entire life and would never want to make a person feel shit about simply being themself and loving their bodies. It's a mindset someone has to be in order to be so awful to other people... The body con dress looked SOOOOO fucking good bruh
Honestly I feel so bad for the people who hate themselves but can only make themselves feel better by following all the bullshit "rules" set up by the people who hate them, they feel like if they put other ugly people down the pretty people will like them but that's such an awful way to live and it only makes your own self hatred worse, if you have to repress your whole identity and self expression to avoid confronting other people with your ugliness then that's kind of not your problem. If other people are gonna actually be upset that they had to look at you then they're fragile stupid babies and they can be upset, you don't exist to make them feel comfortable.
I feel like I need to go on this rant because I've been struggling recently but the worst lie that everyone gets told is that it's not okay to be ugly, because it's completely okay to be ugly. I have these shorts that I love but I'm so scared of wearing because I feel like I look ugly in them, but I've got to remember that that's fucking okay, I'm gonna wear those shorts, look like shit, and I'm gonna fucking love it because I love those shorts and I don't give a shit whether other people love how I look in them, that's not why I'm wearing them. I used to literally not be able to go outside because I hated my appearance so much until I started thinking like this, and weirdly allowing myself to be ugly over time ended up making me feel way less ugly, only now I'm struggling because accepting that I'm capable of being pretty made me forget that I'm allowed to be ugly at the same time. I'm only capable of feeling pretty when I'm allowing myself look ugly and choosing not to beat myself up over that. I just feel like sometimes body positivity kind of gets people stuck in the idea that to recover you need to love yourself and your body but I just wasn't capable of that when I was struggling the most, we need to talk more about the fact that if you don't love your appearance that's completely fine, even if you were just as ugly as you believe you are and everyone noticed that still doesn't mean that who you are at your core is any less deserving of respect and love, or that you shouldn't be allowed to express yourself any way you want
Idiot wizard - check out Glitterandlazers self positivity and let her shine on you. You don't need to apologize to anyone for being you! They're not the boss of you😡
Go back and read your comment. You have compassion and empathy. You ARE a good person with good qualities. I want to give you a hug. I hope you can find some peace and come to see yourself in a good light. 💖💖💖
I just found this video and I wanna say THANK YOU!!! Little backstory: I've always been naturally super skinny (my metabolism was crazy). When I was 19 puberty hit and my soft curves turned into real curves real fast. Clothes I got a year earlier didn't fit from literally one day to another, and my size went from 8 to 14. I spent the last three years learning how to dress for m new body type and how to love my new body type - I had nothing against it, I just wasn't used to having big boobs, a big ass and a showing tummy. Now I'm at a point where I'm generally liking my body how it is, but clothes I've kept from the time fit differently, and it sometimes really throws me off. Your video just gave me the courage to go and gift myself a pair of paperbag trousers for Christmas. So, again, thank you for showing that shape isn't everything. You are really beautiful, and I loved the fits on you!
17:30 "Hot girls are nice people" "Insecure people make their insecurity other people's problem." "You know what, I love their energy and I hope I can be that too" "I feel pretty, and I don't need anybody else to tell me i'm pretty to make me know that." I needed this reminder to keep me going when being surrounded by insecure ppl. Thank you 🤍
Im a size 8/10....super self conscious....listening to you when you were wearing the form fitting dress brought me to tears...I WISH I had your confidence...and after watching this video I am def making an effort to try harder to find myself and stop listening to media shit
I think all the tennis skirts are made to suffocate your waist lmao, I own two and whenever I sit on the floor I feel as though it's about to cut me in half
I'd tell myself this too. I bought my first crop top and told myself it was for when I was skinny. That was years ago. I never wore it because I only got fatter. But this year for the first time I went out in a crop top, despite being the biggest I've ever been. And I looked great. I'd have looked great when I first bought the thing. Confidence can come to you, even when you least expect it
Honestly, I’m a guy with a relatively “nice” build but still some body insecurities and I had a Pinterest board called “skinny looks” and didn’t even peep how my mind was hating on my potential until this video, so thanks for your positive energy and encouragement! Also you rocked the hell out of that marble dress 😍
You wouldn't believe how much UA-cam had helped me in some very serious ways. I think it's so amazing that you can watch all this content out there for free by people who have knowledge and comfort that others need. You know? I think the age of the internet can do so much good and it makes me happy to see another person who has benefited greatly from it
@@user-wu1xu3ii9j It depends what you mean by "like this." If you mean channels about body positivity, than no. But I have a whole list of channels I love that have good conversations about religion, politics, abuse, developing people skills and charisma, and a few names if you're interested in science, health, and history. There are also channels on other sibject matters that I know of but don't spend much time watching, necessarily. Anything in particular you're interested in? Either from that I've mentioned above or maybe something I didn't? The only one I can pretty much guarantee you'll like (if you watch videos like hers) is Charisma on Command. They make videos about how to develop better confidence speaking to people and forming relationships
when you were talking about insecurities while wearing the form-fitted dress on the bed, it felt like a big sister giving me advice to loving myself 🥺🥰 thankyu so much for this video~~ i really needed it
The "I don't need anyone to call me pretty to know that it is the truth" line frickin got me. Like. That and so many other lines from you just gave me such a huuuge confidence boost. Like. Yeah. I don't actually need anyone else to tell me that. I can't explain it but girl, I frickin love your confidence. It's infectious. I love it! ❤
I'm pretty skinny and I honestly never realized how privileged I am because of that.... like I have never even thought about not being able to find your size in stores.
Yeah same, it’s really heartbreaking to think of how difficult it is for some people to find clothes that fit and also how much that would hurt their self confidence. I wish things were different and just wanted to add that you’re all beautiful no matter what your body looks like! 💕
Sometimes it’s hard for me to find clothing small enough because I am a teenager between children and adult sizes, so I can understand and empathize with people who also can’t find clothing that fits them for different reasons. It’s very sad 😢 and I wish every clothing item came in every size
it’s pretty ridiculous being skinny and yet at times buying “medium” sized clothing in the U.S. I’m very flat-chested, so I’m certainly not average in that area by any means. it was also an interesting experience being in Japan where the larges fit around but were too short for me.
I'm also pretty skinny but always had problems finding clothes that are small enough, especially jeans, recently I'm lucky that oversized stuff is okay to wear but still struggled my whole life. Bigger people have problems finding big enough clothes ans (actual) skinny people have problems finding small enough clothes, exact same situation. The only people that are priveleged are between fat and skinny, those that are "mid-sized" I guess.
this reminded of the time in middle school when i didn't think of myself as insecure just sensible. my thirteen-year-old brain thought boiling in black skinny jeans in the summer was sensible. i thought i wasn't insecure. i thought i was a being respectable fat person only if i wore certain clothes. im nineteen now. last year i purchased my first crop top, ive been wearing shorts for couple of years. it's no big deal anymore. i wear whatever i want even if my mom says that it's a little too out of the box, or that im going overdressed. but i still do because it makes me happy. nobody has ever said a thing. actually, ive gotten more comments on why tf are you wearing that we're literally on the beach. this content is so important. i had friends who told straight up told me i was being unreasonable and helped me to get out of my dumb thought patterns. i can't even imagine what would i do if i were in social media bubbles that would validate these thoughts. (i guess im glad i couldnt speak english then) it wasn't easy i had a lot of internal growing up to do as well. i had these friends when i was 13-14 but it took me years to get a crop top. i thought i wouldn't be comfortable in it and you see i'm perfectly comfortable in it. limiting yourself from a trend even if you never tried it isn't sensible. making yourself less comfortable for the comfort of others is never sensible.
yo when you put on that rockin bodycon dress and just lay down and talked to us about projecting insecurity, loving yourself anyway, and the way people talk to you and balancing that with the fact that you feel beautiful and happy... i really appreciated that. i really like this video, i wanna just make a playlist of all the positive messages and good vibes you expressed here. thanks for being honest and working hard to project love and just trying to help other people feel not alone! i'm going to be like you. i want your VIBES. you look so happy and so beautiful and i'm coming for it i'm going to be up there with you!
i’m pretty thin but i’m trans and struggle a lot with my body and things i can and can’t wear and this video was so nice...... yeah i’m gonna wear whatever the fuck i want!
Same! My personal style doesn't help me pass, unfortunately, but it's silly to base my worth only on whether I pass. Why wear the "sad trans person™️" uniform, that being a baggy hoodie and jeans, if it makes me feel awful? I felt pressured for a long time to conform to that standard.
Hey, same here. As a genderfluid person I sometimes also struggle with my body and it took me a long time to start wearing clothes I wanted and cut my hair short because my mother would reaaallly point out that they are boyish clothes and so on...now that I gain confidence about it I'm much happier...
Rooting for you all! I hope you can all find your confidence to embrace your personal style, with or without passing! Remember, it’s okay not to pass as long as you’re happy, and you don’t exist for anyone else’s consumption, you exist for yourself! Love yourself! Happy pride month 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
i cannot express how grateful i am that the algorithm brought me to you. i've been really struggling with my body recently, and i've been stuck in that mindset of not feeling skinny enough to buy clothes i want to wear. as i'm becoming an adult i've really been needing to completely overhaul my wardrobe bc i've never really had a sense of style that i felt like really was me, but i kept telling myself i couldn't start going out and getting those clothes until i lose like 10-20lbs and i'm just fucking sick of it. i've been exercising consistently more than i've done in years, and i'm eating better foods, so why do i need to punish myself, telling myself that i am is not good enough, when i deserve to wear the shit i've always dreamed of? if i do eventually end up losing weight, i can always just get my clothes altered to fit me again. this really was the sign i needed to get started on this process of finding pieces that i love. thank you maddie
literally wearing whatever you want is a power move. like even IF people judge you.. they are insecure and bitter, you’re comfortable in your own skin. ur still winning! do you!!!
see, there's always the fact that different styles look better/more flattering on different body types, and that is a real thing, but so often when people talk about that what they actually mean is that skinny is good for all styles, and the sort of styles that look good on larger people are the ones that minimize/obscure the fact that they're larger, which is something different entirely
You are so friggin smart I love hearing someone beautifully articulate the difference between “I’m not confident enough to wear this” and “this is literally not made in my size” like you just had a super well expressed concept of privilege and larger structural barriers and I just 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Something I've learned when I was losing weight is that confidence and weight are different things. Even though I'm skinner and healthier then I was, I'm still not confident and I need to learn that. U looked so good wearing every single one!
idk if anyone else has the same problem with their moms but my mom *who is in fact a size medium-large* says she will never wear a mini dress or crop tops because shes "too fat" :( although i am on the slimmer side myself, it breaks my heart sm
Omg my life. My mom is a size 2 and I’m a size 16, but my mom has struggled with her body her entire life, afraid of bright colors, anything body con or slightly tight, shorts, low cut tops, or anything strapless. She has all these rules for her self that she tried to put on me for years and I know the way that I dress makes her a little uncomfortable
@@emilyb3875 oh for me its the opposite- like im a size 0-2 and my mom is a size 12-14 maybe 16 but u get the point. whenever i say that she would look amazing in a piece her response is "you know i dont look like you" or "im not skinny *enough*" and i feel really bad for her bc she looks amazing and only eats bc of stress
it really really hurts hearing my mom talk about herself that way. when she was younger she was super tiny and skinny and slim but had 4 kids and lost the skinniness and i know she misses it and it hurts to hear her call herself fat as if it’s something awful. she’s not that big either :(( i try to get her to BUY that dress she thought was cute, BUY that swimsuit she doubted herself on, trying to get her to love herself more but she just constantly doubts and it sucks
Oh yes, the five types of clothing: pants, skirts, sets, dresses and Emma Chamberlain
I n d e e d
Tops don't exist with
@@xerxi5459 oh course they don't! So true.....
remind me again, dear stranger. What ARE shirts? I've forgotten... :/
@@xerxi5459 It's ALWAYS a tits out kind of look
@I’m Too Kind for This Nonsense cool
see, my pinterest board is titled “clothes i’d wear if i had money”
Too real 😂
Mood
M O O D
Damn I wish I could like your comment more than once .
Same😭
I'm sorry but Emma chamberlain being a whole ass category was hilarious for some reason
I honestly dont understand her hype, my sister in law is obsessed with her and I dont know why LOL
@@mamobee she’s basic skinny and a white blue eyed blonde obviously that’s enough of a reason
@@okidgaf7643 except unlike most other "skinny white and blue eyed basic girls"... emma's personality is why people still watch her
@@siveghansah4045 …yeah cause she’s one of those “quirky” girls
@@雪恵-n6k lol Emma isn't quirky. that's a whole different breed on its own
"Having the body does not mean that you have the confidence" SPOT ON. Ten years ago, I had "the body" and no confidence and my style was crappy. Today? I'm prob 60-80lbs heavier but found the confidence and I wear what I want and I love it.
Yes!!!!
I’m so glad for you
I feel ya! A couple of years ago I was a size 8 and had zero confidence. I wore baggy shirts and loose pants all the time so nobody could see my body. Now I’m a size 14 and happily strut down the beach in a bikini.
SAME!!!! I struggled w eating disorders for years and always told myself “when I’m skinny I’ll wear a skirt in public” but there I was 70 lbs, and still hiding my body in hoodies and sweats. 60 pounds later, I’m confident in the clothes I’ve always dreamed of wearing
i relate. im a size 6 and its a daily struggle. like i look at people bigger than me and think they are fucking stunning, but i cant stand being a size 6. BD is so annoying.
I have never understood when people say “oh you shouldn’t wear that it will make you look fat” it’s like babe wearing a black smock isn’t going to automatically turn me into a skinny person people will still know I’m fat so why not Rock a stunning outfit on my stunning fat body and show off my body that I’m proud of 💖
It's like you don't deserve to look stunning and feel fabulous if you're fat???? Tf??? Who made these rules....
ikr like "dont wear that itll make you look fat", oh honey its my fat thatll make me look fat, but the outfit will make me fabulous.
Well most people don't want to look fat, of course you can wear whatever you want though
I'm gonna hang this on my closet door. I'm gonna look fat regardless of what I wear is gonna be a game changer
Omg thank you for all the likes I have never gotten this many damn , I can’t fathom this many people omg 🥴 xx
Form fitting is literally meant to fit your form. Theyre not called skinny fitting. Theyre BODY CON dresses. No where does the name define what shape your body needs to be to wear it. It shapes to your body and your body is unique and therefore adds YOUR SPICE to a limp dress off a rack.
..I love this comment so so much..🥺 I've never thought of it that way
Yep the clothes fit you you don’t fit the clothes
you’re right they’re called skinny jeans.
i love this take 🎉🎉🎉
skinny isn't what makes clothes look good, its the confidence of the people wearing them. i fall into the trap so much of being afraid to wear certain clothes because of my weight, but then i look at other people my size and larger wearing similar stuff and they look amazing. its all about having the confidence to pull it off
Confidence and access to things that are better made to fit your body. One of the biggest things that helped my combat my meal skipping habits was when I read this article from this woman explaining how we see all these clothes on these models who have clothes TAILORED to perfectly fit and flatter them.. While we have to pick from a range. So of course clothes don't look as good on us as the models. And yeah, certain body types are flattered by different types of clothes! But at the end of the day, better access to better clothes with wider ranges of sizing would go a LONG way.
I definitely agree with the confidence thing 100% though.
Never agreed more with a comment in my life...
me known as the skinny queen in my class : Any bottoms - unless they fit my waist - which is rare - they look ugly
and I just wear baggy t-shirts that most of my friends look normal in
Not true
buuuut this implies that one, you will never look good to others if you lack the confidence (something that some people may never achieve in their life) and two that you can tell if someone has confidence just by looking at them? you can never assume how people feel about their body just by looking at them :/
'' A culture fixated on female thinness is not an obsession with female beauty, but an obsession with female obedience. Dieting is the most potent political sedative.'' Naomi Wolf, The Beauty Myth
Lol not really dieting is toxic but just women losing weight is not ‘oppression’ It’s often a health/lifestyle change they enjoy
@@izzyommey5719 of course, this is focusing on when it becomes extreme and as you said ‘toxic’, to the point it takes over someone’s life x
I read this book when I was in my 20s...changed my life! ✌️❤️✌️
Woah dang that's it right there 🤯
@@SinisterXRouge yup... literally changed my life that quote
One time, I heard somebody say something like "Why would take feedback from someone who you wouldn't go to for advice?" and it's just great rule of thumb, honestly. If you don't know and trust them, their critiques should not matter to you.
THANK YOU! Wrote this down to remember!
I'm so happy the algorithm brought me to you
Sameeee
Facts
Me too!!!!
Same
omg SAME.
I relate to you so much. I was grocery shopping with my boyfriend the other day wearing a teeshirt and shorts and this other couple walked by and the boyfriend in this couple said “she’s too fat for that outfit” and his girlfriend laughed. I was literally wearing a tee shirt and gym shorts! Like wtf am I supposed to wear when it’s 80 fucking degrees outside, a paper bag? This is the video I needed today!
Oh ma gawd, the fucking audacity to just be a horrible human being so publicly!! I haven’t fought since I was a kid but it I was there I’d go ham, I’d say that maybe my bf would hold me back but he’d probably go in first XD. I’m so sorry they sucked but you’re amazing ✨ ❤️
Meanwhile if me and my bf saw you we both probably wouldve checked you out and talked about how cute you were in the next isle over. Misery loves company and they obviously feed off of eachothers insecurities
Wow I want to wring some peoples necks sometimes. I’m sure u looked cute and were nice and cool in the heat!
Omg those people rly suck and u definitely did not deserve that. Im sure you’re beautiful and look great in whatever you’re wearing!
i’m completely shocked, like what the actual hell. just keep on walking my darling, keep on strutting in whatever tf you wanna wear. people like that are just gross and need to take a moment to look at themselves.
New Pinterest board…
“outfits I’ll wear whenever tf I want”
FULLY READY TO MAKE THIS A TREND
yesss queen!!!
“Outfits I’ll wear when I’m financially stable”
"..I'm a 2004 stan.... and I don't even own a mini skirt?!" *speaks under breath* "death penalty". When I tell you I laughed out loud.💀
i immediately subscribed after this lmao
@@syd1254 me too!!
I subscribed that very second 😂
I hear that celebrities look so good in a t shirt and jeans because they have everything tailored
duhhhh
I have to sew so many things to fit my body right 💀
this is true, and a lot of times for photo shoots they don’t even bother with tailoring - they literally use clamps in the back where you can’t see to custom pinch and resize clothes on the fly.
And they have a bunch of people telling them what colours and styles will look perfect on them ahaha
Highly recommend, can get expensive so a little at a time.
god damn i'm a boy and now I feel like i should buy a form fitting dress xD
If you got the confidence brother 🙌
Do it!!!
go for it!! ❤️
do it do it do it do it !!!
Go do itt, I swear you're gonna look good af
I literally call my boards "clothes" "hair" "tattoos" and you tell me you give them real names? 💀
Lol I do the same
I have the "clothes" "hair" "tattoos" too!
Same 👀
I do the same, now I kinda wanna change them lol
my boards are all nonsense 😂
"ooh cool"
"hot girl shit"
"epic gamer moment"
Y’all were making your “outfits when I’m skinny” Pinterest boards public??
HAHA I was thinking this the whole time
@@theresabeenhere5059 same
lol mine is private
FACTS
You are basically anonymous on Pinterest so why not😂
90s teen here. Was a size 12/13 & had to wear mom clothes. Got on drugs/diet pills, finally a size 10. You young women are doing the work to make fashion for everyone a reality. Shine on
wow how do you get on diet pills?
@Bigclitenergy: Don't take diet pills unless directed by a physician. They can cause all sorts of problems including heart attack and death. Just don't.
@@bigclitenergya lot of them are banned now
that mini skirt was definetly too long??? i notice companies do this often when ordering skirts in larger sizes even though it kinda defeats the point of having a mini skirt lmao
yes!!! when they make plus size clothes they automatically assume the person is also tall🥴
@@oats300 ikr! Its tough being plus size and short, I have to hem my clothing sometimes, and when I was in marching band my uniform had to have its sleeves hemmed about a *foot* bc apparently plus size people have monkey arms???
Were they assuming tallness? Or kinda insisting on more coverage for a bigger body? That skirt was straight up knee length.
@@shastabare6026 ohhh that's a good point i never thought of it that way :((
Also, notice how Maddie ordered "her size" (16?) and it was too tight? Well, obv she isn't that size in that brand. But it would be so great if sizes could be standardized so you'd know what size you were in any brand, without having to micro study every size chart and decide if each garment will fit your hips, waist, or bust. Because it will never be all three!
Ok but when she came out in that fitted dress, my jaw dropped. She's so damn gorgeous
Same !! not my type of dress but she made it look like a damn party !
IKR!!!!!!!
This really makes me wanna ACT UP with what clothes I try out.
go for it!!
DO 👏 IT 👏
✨ACT UP✨
Side note: Emmas has spoken about how she suffered/suffers from an ED, I feel like people putting her on these "skinny" boards would perpetuate her ed
I didn't know about this, thank you for bringing this up. ik people commenting on my body, whether they call me skinny or fat just encourages me to restrict so its important that people know this about emma
Hideaki Sorachi ok wait i thought i was going insane because the more people comment on my body, even if they’re compliments, the more i feel like i need to focus on it???? like maintain it or try to lose more weight...i definitely thought i was alone there :((
@@gracecc6853 its actually a very common issue when it comes to eating disorders and body issues, you're definitely not alone. I hope things get better for you
@@gracecc6853 i completely feel the same! i think its because when people compliment you on it, you feel like you have to maintain it, so you focus on it even more and start to think that maybe even smaller would get more compliments, yknow? it sucks as a mindset, but i find its v common, and i completely suffer from it :/ sorry if this triggers anyone!
Hi, do you remember when she talked about it?
“i feel pretty. i feel pretty. and i don’t need anyone else to call me pretty to know that it’s the truth” AMEN
Y E S
I frikin cried at those beautiful words
She is pretty though
I’m “skinny” but the idea of wearing a body con terrifies me, one day I will have your confidence
Same here…I’m always super awed by ANYONE who wears a bodycon dress bc I just don’t have the confidence for that…or for a crop top…or any of that
But hopefully both of us will get there one day!
Check out Clara Dao, she'll boost your confidence in no time😊🥰
@a_fever_dream ♡ same im skinny and he no shape like 🚪 shaped but then my stomach is kinda pudgy yet stick thin EVERYWHERE ELSE.
Same here. I wear a size medium, but body con dresses intimidate the heck out of me because of my hip dips and my tummy.
I have never realized certain brands wouldn't make bigger sizes so their clothing wouldn't be seen on plus-sized people... I always thought that logistically it would be more complicated to make a bigger range of sizes. I feel naive and have once again lost a little bit of faith in humanity. Whoever reads this, I hope you have a great day, you're beautiful and let no one tell you otherwise
Depends on the location...
Brands in USA, where average size is 16-18, should have bigger sizes because that's actually the biggest market. Them only making clothes up to size 12 is them choosing who they think should wear their clothes.
In east/southeast asia, where the average size is small to medium (4-8). Sure, it is difficult logistically since there's a tiny client pool for sizes 2xl (12-14) and up.
Depends on the brand. A small company probably just starting up probably just cant afford to make as many sizes available. Whereas brandy melville is only intended for those who can fit their clothes, which is small people.
@@YourDailyDoseofJillish sure. Being a small clothing company means you need to focus your target market. But if the biggest market in your country is 16-18, why would you start a small business targeting 2-12 sizes?
Abercrombie did that. The CEO straight up said he only wants attractive people wearing his clothes.. even though his face was completely plastic and horrible.
From a design student; It’s not more complicated to make. It’s (slightly) more expensive, because more fabric is being used and if it’s a very very extreme size (large or small) it won’t sell as well, because there aren’t “as” many people who need that size.
For example in Asian countries there just isn’t really a need for very large sizes.
But Yes absolutely some brands won’t make those sizes because they don’t want to.
The fact that last night I sobbed about how I felt like because of my size I can’t wear anything cute or trendy and then I woke up to this video. You’re changing my life lmao ty so much
One day at a time. As a girl who has cried in fitting rooms, I am here to tell you that these beauty standards were made to profit.
Does anyone know the pain when your sister is looking gorgeous and you stand beside her and feel fat an ugly?
@@josefhaller3240 you just gotta remember she's loooking in the mirror seeing something she doesn't like either, even beyonce looks in the mirror and sees flaws
Same... I didn't even realise that I'm priviledged.. I don't have the dream body as my stomach and thighs are big and I mostly fit in size medium but I'm actually blessed compared to some people. Not like my mom and some people in my family who are kind of plus size (I think they're mostly large or extra large) so some stores don't have what they look for.
Man my young cousin cried the other day because she can’t find fairycore clothing on her size and she thinks she can’t be a fairy :(
That broke my heart and made me realize how important it is to include different body sizes while designing clothing and stuff. (We’re not American so diverse plus size or larger woman clothing is hard to find)
Update on that: since I made this post I joined sewing classes, I hope that I can soon do some pieces for her
Awww - go to the party store and get her a tiara and wand. Get her a leotard (even an adult size would work) and make a little tulle skirt to attach to it. Where there's a will there's a way! 🧚♀️🧚♂️
@@janismacolley2395 Yeah I’m learning how to sew rn! I designed a fairy outfit for her and as soon as I learn how to sew properly I’ll make it for her :D
Good for you Wdc!!!👍
That sucks so bad. You could always try to recreate your own fairycore clothes. It's fun and you'll have clothes your size :) Just a thought. Also tell your cousin that shes cool as shit and fairycore will look so good on her. Thanks.
@@whodamncares6154 Oh I didn't read your reply first lmao. That's pog as heck ;p
when you said “because these brands don’t want fat people to wear their clothes” something just clicked. I’d always been so baffled by brandy and their one-size policy bc surely it’s just bad business restricting who gets to wear your clothes?? but I get it now - they only ever want their clothes to be seen on skinny bodies bc that’s what they consider cool and pretty. so gross!!
The CEO of Abercrombie & Fitch actually said that, years ago. Out loud. Just gross.
Boycott, boycott, boycott!!
I remember when I was in the 8th grade so like 13 years old. I wore a women’s size 8 in most pants and medium shirts. One day my sister took me to into a Lacrosse just to look for herself and Of course I picked out some stuff just to have something to try on and I could barely get their “large” on my body. My sister is a size 4. She was used to looking for extra smalls. She was shocked she didn’t fit into their small. It was nuts.
"I feel like a squiggly line. I feel like a bubble. I feel like a waterfall. I feel... pretty. I feel pretty" It's actual poetry right there oh my god, I'll put it in my journal
yes exactly!! whenever i see girls taking pictures and get shy when im walking by i just "OMG YALL LOOK BOMB DO YOU WANT ME TO TAKE SOME PICTURES??" and the happiness on their face is all worth it. the smallest compliment makes peoples day
the world needs more ppl like u :)
Not all heroes wear capes :) Thank you for making their day!
- coming from a shy girl lolol
I love that. If more people treated me and others like that, the world would be different. This is how I'm trying to be now.
Why did this comment make me cryyy?🥺 you are amazing
god ur so sweet for that ily
Your whole spiel about the early 2000s being extremely unfriendly to plus size people transported me back to my middle and high school days when all my friends wore cute trendy Lizzie McGuire outfits and I literally had to shop at Lane Bryant and dress like a 40 year old woman at 13. My first time inside a Torrid was mind-blowing and I feel like it's only gotten better from there even if we still have a long way to go.
I don’t think it gets talked about enough how extremely skinny the “fashionable” late 90s - early 2000s figure was...it’s still bad now but back then it was *intense* and much of it was actively encouraging EDs...it’s scary
THIS COMMENT! I've never been skinny, but middle school was a nightmare. I was the only 7th grader with a woman's body, ass and hips for days and I was teased and bullied for it to no end. Not to mention that the trends at the time were not at all forgiving. I recall how at that time Jessica Alba was basically the definition of curvy and even coverage of JLo's assets was more the media roasting her for her figure than praising it. To think that the same people who gave me and other girls like me such a hard time before are now spending obscene amounts of money to look like us is so surreal. On the one hand, I'm happy to see this trend towards body positivity but the cynic in me, maybe because of what I've experienced, thinks this is just a passing fad and is waiting for the tide to shift again.
Throughout this video I found myself LOVING the way YOU look in all your outfits, but still having this narrative in my head that EYE couldn’t wear anything too revealing or form fitting for MY body. So although I know all bodies look beautiful, I’ve convinced myself that mine is the exception? Gotta do some mental work on that!
felt that on every level
She looked pretty bad in those outfits, obviously she can wear whatever she wants but it doesn't mean it's gonna look good on her body
@@lallaspecchio2090 why does it look bad?
@@maryc3102 Because she's obese
I LOVE how you used the comparison of being insecure and not ACTUAL being able to fit in the sizes of these trends. It's eye opening, and I am so glad I was recommended this video
Surely if you can’t find clothes that fit your body that’s a sign to lose weight and that it’s unhealthy? Lol my friend is a size 00 and she has to shop in the childrens section but that’s because she knows her body is not ‘healthy’ and so clothes aren’t made for her
@@izzyommey5719 I totally agree but I do think stores should have wider ranges of sizes for someone who is still struggling with health issues but wants to change
@@izzyommey5719 people can’t just instantaneously loose weight, being possibly unhealthy doesn’t mean you don’t deserve to wear clothes.. also not everyone can lose weight for genetic or financial reasons
@@izzyommey5719 Not necessarily tho, I’m a size 16 round my hips but a size 10 round my waist and absolutely nothing fits properly yet it’s supposedly an ideal hourglass body type?? so why don’t they make clothes for it.. My BMI is healthy and I’m tall too so makes it even more difficult
on the “form fitting dresses aren’t for bigger girls”. if it’s your size you can wear it. and if it’s not your size you can sew it so you can wear everything, end of story.
So I clicked on this video for a fun fashion haul and within the first five mins my girl articulated the systematic, corporate issue with fat phobia AND acknowledged her own size privileges. You are brilliant, you have a gift, and I wish you a lot of success - you deserve it.
your whole rant about insecurities has SUCH big sister vibes. i'm the oldest sibling but like it really hit and made me feel like. safe and accepted? esp the way you were laying down and talking like we were hanging out 🥺
You are so encouraging for me, as a teen who struggles with daily body dysmorphia, picking outfits can make me spiral, and it sucks to not be considered skinny, yet not even close to plus size, so it often makes me depressed. But you.... you are so sweet and kind and like an on screen best friend. Thanks a lot
I relate to all of this. I think we're called "mid-size", and you're definitely not alone. I'm really starting to gain confidence, and I KNOOWW we're gonna get to her level😤‼️🖤🖤🖤
You are so rad for seeking out content that will encourage you, as a fellow mid sized person I went through those issues a lot as a teenager and it sucks really bad but you’re so cool and you kick ass. I wish you luck on your journey
I feel you!!!
@@Ghoulia17 Aww thanks so much for the love! Made my entire week! I wish the same for you
I think I can relate to your comment and I'm a teenager as well so... Wanted to tell you you're really cool and you have my support and love
“I feel like a squiggly line, I feel like a bubble, I feel like a waterfall, I feel pretty. I feel pretty.” ❤
I literally tweeted about how tired I am always seeing size 0-4 women when searching up outfits on Pinterest. I’m a size 12 for context
Girl, I feel you. It's so hard to find women who are 8-12 on fashion blogs, websites, etc.
Same! I’m a size 10-12 please stop showing me size 00 girls in brandy it’s not helpful or enjoyable for me
I'm a size 0, most of these pinterest peeps prolly aren't. I'll go and look at the clothes because they look like they'd fit me... they don't even make it in my size. U_U
@Ashley Buchanan same😩
@@candytime7 so no one wins? 😭🖐️
We need to make this video GO VIRAL! I was once that person who "will wait until I'm skinny" but it's either antidepressants or ED...I chose antidepressants, I gained weight but I've found clothes for my body shape and I'm CUTE!!
So glad you chose yourself and recovery ❤️ :’)! You’re amazing
@@oilnwater8355 thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Love this 😩❤️
Still got both lmao 😭 my mental health is fucked. I wish I was where you are
@@amentrison2794 I believe U will be!! I used to have that mentality too! But therapy, meds, good surroundings and allowing myself to work through it really works
TW ed: I just wanted to note that the "clothes for when I'm skinny" phenomenon can also overlap heavily with the pro ed community. I ran into more than a few in the pro ana/mia community on Tumblr back in the day and when I was in middle/early high school and at the height of my eating disorder I was obsessed with the app wanelo and I would spend hours of self hatred adding clothes that they didn't have in my size and were shown on perfect skinny bodies to my need and love lists. At the best those boards are a manifestation of insecurity and longing, and at worst they can be much more insidious.
“What I’ll wear when I’m skinny” is SUCH A TOXIC MINDSET. I remember thinking like this and honestly I can’t even imagine still being like that. There’s NOTHING you cannot wear right now bb. Your body is beautiful just how it is. You may not look like the MODEL on instagram if you wear the same clothes with them but THATS OK. NOBODY DOES. Please protect yourselves from such harmful mindsets. You’re so precious and deserve SO MUCH BETTER than bringing yourself down like that. Take care!
Also there's literally no harm or shame in wearing whatever you want and whatever is currently trendy just because you're plus size.... Being fashionable is specific to a minority of the right type of skinny ppl? Bs rules (눈‸눈)
Ugh I’ve been trying to tell myself this more lately but it’s just so hard to get out of that mindset. I’m working on it though but ty for this comment!
@@bemorekind the most important thing is that you’re trying to change it. I’m so proud of you! I know it’s hard to change, but it’s harder to live with this mindset honestly, so it’s definitely worth it. I’m rooting for you❤️
My dad is 7'3 and he often doesn't find anything in his size since hes so tall so he married a seamstress🤣
That’s genius
@@vanessalage373 facts
Cuteeeee I wanna draw that now!
Christal C do it
@@christalcavanaugh yes I'd love to see that
“I look like I go to church and that just doesn’t sit right with me” kiiiiiiilled me. I’m subscribed, you got me
I am a thin small girl and I have a fear of gaining weight. I remember the day I heard a large woman say she was afraid of loosing weight because she didn't want to be skinny. That was when I realized that everyone is different and everyone's idea of beauty is different. My eyes were opened that day and I am grateful.
I had/have6 this same fear. I've been under weight my entire life (no ED just hella stress and shitty eating habits), I started going to the gym because I wanted more shape. Loved it. Loved that my size 2 jeans were no longer fitting. Then I had a mental breakdown, was put on a medication that made me put on 40lbs. Spent a year living in sweats and baggy clothes and the day I finally tried putting on a pair of size 6 jeans I had a melt down. A meltdown that lasted almost a week. It quickly turned around, I love my weight now and would like to gain more with the help of the gym but now I'm terrified of losing the weight. Weird.
@@hdmm9136 this is pure speculation im no expert but i think a lot of it is that people are scared of change. scared of feeling worse than they already feel about themselves but once they realize they look BEAUTIFUL and feel HEALTHY they come to love their “new self” and i think comments like yours are super helpful for people to realize that they can be their best self at a different weight than what they thought was “ideal”
the problem also is that a lot of these trends don’t even come in larger sizes or are as accessible as “normal” size clothing (esp outside the usa) :((
100%, access is a huge problem when it comes to trendy clothing. it's so frustrating!!
the only store I shop at is asos, it's the only store that truly sells pretty plus size clothes.. It's really hard to find the things I would want to wear.. :(
I’ve had this problem and I’ve been plus sized for most of my adult life with a really diverse sense of style. Two things that have helped me IMMENSELY is cultivating relationships with small businesses who make specialty clothing, and using the Instagram recommendation feature on straight size speciality clothing stores.
If you’re into 70s clothes and find a small business Instagram account that is totally your aesthetic but only go up to an XL, do two things: message them about custom sizing (a lot of people will do it for free) and check what instagrams are recommended to you because when you go through them, you will find size inclusive choices.
It doesn’t work with fast fashion, of course, but if you’re looking to invest money in specialty pieces and can’t find plus, it’s a great way to go!!
Also!! Even if they DO come in bigger sizes, the proportions could be so off. The amount of skirts that were "my size" that didnt account for my fat ass looked and felt drastically different than the smaller sizes
There's a brand called Dangerfield in Australia that does a bunch of really cool kind of alternative style clothing (but their range of styles is still really broad, if u like the fashion in this video u would like them) and even has clothing that's exclusive to their plus size range and not super frumpy or boring, I'm not sure how much shipping would be a problem but I'd still recommend checking them out, obviously it's not going to solve the overall problem but it's a good step tbh
That goddamn acid trip rainbow-coloured form-fitting dress slays the living sh*t outta me to this day.
I used to be skinny and then I started gaining weight, growing, the usual. I was upset that I had gained weight that I stopped wearing clothes I liked because I didn’t think i’d look good. Watching this video gave me a wake up call that I can’t let my weight hold me back. I just bought a crop top and i’m preparing myself to wear it after 3 years of holding myself back. Thank you so fucking much, you’re beautiful.
Just yesterday I was looking at clothes and thought “ these are so cute but I’m too fat to wear them “ then today I saw this video on my recommended and I after I finished watching it I said FUCK IT and bought those clothes ! Like who says I can’t wear them ? I shouldn’t stop myself because I’m scared of what others will think of me ! Thank you so much for making me realize this, I love how confident and unapologetic you are. I subbed cause this is the type of content I want to see more, thank you .
You’re gonna look amazing girl
yessss period!!!
What clothes did you get?!
@@annarose932 skin tight jumpsuits for summer
I was dying for that dress the minute you held it up and literally GASPED when you put it on. It's everything, and I know you don't need this validation, but you look so hot!
i lost weight in the last few months and i thought i'd like the way my body looks more, but i don't. i like how it feels, but i don't like how i look more, and now i realized that i just need to love my body.
Girl I'm in the exact same situation!
Im 17 and ive all my life done this.. "when i become skinnier i will wear this and that and those" and also "only beautiful people can use make up it would only make me uglier" its honestly sad how unconfident i am right now but i will one day find confidence back!
I just want you to know that I struggled heavily with the way I looked when I was younger, but I realized that I can’t change the way I am. I’m unique, even if my uniqueness isn’t something I find beautiful all the time. Take pride in the things that are ultimately you! I believe in you
Just don’t keep doing it till you’re 37.
Oh honey you certainly will find your confidence again... you're so young and have yet to grow a bit more into your adult self. The myth that only "Beautiful ppl" can do this or that is ploy to make women buy products and stuff to try and reach the "those other beautiful ppl".... Capitalistic bs.... you're beautiful in your own way and will certainly get to discover more about what you like and what you wanna look like when you grow some more 🥰🥰
@@KJayPlays lol tf?? Don't have anything uplifting to say then kindly shut it.
Heyo! I'm also currently 17 & I just wanna say that I completely understand that lack of confidence you're talking about. I didn't feel like I had any confidence in myself until only recently when I started to work & focus on myself. Despite now feeling more confident than I used to, I still struggle with my pessimistic thoughts & that's okay. Tbh, I believe confidence is a pre-existing trait that we all have, it isn't a "thing" we obtain. We just need to help it grow ourselves rather than go "looking" for it. Food for thought lol. But I really do hope you will also become a lovely confident person too. I wish you well!
That form fitting dress was the death of me, literally it was SO pretty😭😭the colors and the makeup just💥💥
“i look like maybe i go to church... and that doesn’t sit right with me” LMAO i’m stealing this and will be saying it at every applicable moment 😭😭😭
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“this fabric is stretchy and i have faith”
my shopping experience summed up
I’ve always been very petite and it never occurred to me that women felt they couldn’t participate in trends or wear certain things because they had a bigger body. Thank you for bringing awareness to this issue and making women of all sizes feel more confident to wear whatever they want.
the “outfits ill wear when im skinny” thing is also a big thing on the pro ana side of the internet
What is the pro Ana side of the internet
Anorexia :(
@@lailalewis3293 pro anorexia. There are groups full of people with anorexia (and other eating disorders) that give each other tips to avoid eating and they feed each other’s disorder (I was into these when I was in 7th grade)
@@iliketurtles2843 omg that’s so scary that stuff like this exist I hope your doing okay and your no longer seeking out horrible advice like that
@@lailalewis3293 I still have disordered thoughts and a distorted body image but I don’t actively seek anything out.
ok so you **already** looked cute in all of these outfits but the PURPLE HAIR MATCHING WITH THE PURPLE IN EVERY OUTFIT made me want to FAINT FROM CUTENESS!!!!!! (ps I also have purple hair)
Hello fellow purple haired human 💜
I think the minnie skirt outfit would look cute with ✨fishnets. ✨
That would actually be awesome!
my cheeks hurt. im smilling for almost 30 minutes straight. the “form fitting dress” chapter was just everything, so enlightening.
you literally radiate beauty and love.
people need to be like you.
i wanna be like you.
🤍
except for the fact that she thinks the clothing industry is out to get her because bigger=more fabric more fabric=more expensive to make. ITS NOT CAUSE THEY DONT WANT FAT PEOPLE TO WEAR THEYRE CLOTHEsss!!!!! 2:33. otherwise you go girl
Okay but I fucking deeply hate myself and I'm extremely insecure about pretty much every aspect about myself and still have respect/love and try to project positivity onto every person and never body shame any person because I've gotten body shamed my entire life and would never want to make a person feel shit about simply being themself and loving their bodies. It's a mindset someone has to be in order to be so awful to other people... The body con dress looked SOOOOO fucking good bruh
Honestly I feel so bad for the people who hate themselves but can only make themselves feel better by following all the bullshit "rules" set up by the people who hate them, they feel like if they put other ugly people down the pretty people will like them but that's such an awful way to live and it only makes your own self hatred worse, if you have to repress your whole identity and self expression to avoid confronting other people with your ugliness then that's kind of not your problem. If other people are gonna actually be upset that they had to look at you then they're fragile stupid babies and they can be upset, you don't exist to make them feel comfortable.
I feel like I need to go on this rant because I've been struggling recently but the worst lie that everyone gets told is that it's not okay to be ugly, because it's completely okay to be ugly. I have these shorts that I love but I'm so scared of wearing because I feel like I look ugly in them, but I've got to remember that that's fucking okay, I'm gonna wear those shorts, look like shit, and I'm gonna fucking love it because I love those shorts and I don't give a shit whether other people love how I look in them, that's not why I'm wearing them. I used to literally not be able to go outside because I hated my appearance so much until I started thinking like this, and weirdly allowing myself to be ugly over time ended up making me feel way less ugly, only now I'm struggling because accepting that I'm capable of being pretty made me forget that I'm allowed to be ugly at the same time. I'm only capable of feeling pretty when I'm allowing myself look ugly and choosing not to beat myself up over that. I just feel like sometimes body positivity kind of gets people stuck in the idea that to recover you need to love yourself and your body but I just wasn't capable of that when I was struggling the most, we need to talk more about the fact that if you don't love your appearance that's completely fine, even if you were just as ugly as you believe you are and everyone noticed that still doesn't mean that who you are at your core is any less deserving of respect and love, or that you shouldn't be allowed to express yourself any way you want
Idiot wizard - check out Glitterandlazers self positivity and let her shine on you. You don't need to apologize to anyone for being you! They're not the boss of you😡
Go back and read your comment. You have compassion and empathy. You ARE a good person with good qualities. I want to give you a hug. I hope you can find some peace and come to see yourself in a good light. 💖💖💖
I love love love that body con dress on you 😍
absolutely love this video and you!! Happy 100k ✨💗
Omg I love ur channel. I watch your channel when I want something funny and want to learn something/a new point of view. 💕
omg I luv seeing my favs in my favs comments 😌 I always see you in tee comments too
I just found this video and I wanna say THANK YOU!!!
Little backstory: I've always been naturally super skinny (my metabolism was crazy). When I was 19 puberty hit and my soft curves turned into real curves real fast. Clothes I got a year earlier didn't fit from literally one day to another, and my size went from 8 to 14. I spent the last three years learning how to dress for m new body type and how to love my new body type - I had nothing against it, I just wasn't used to having big boobs, a big ass and a showing tummy.
Now I'm at a point where I'm generally liking my body how it is, but clothes I've kept from the time fit differently, and it sometimes really throws me off. Your video just gave me the courage to go and gift myself a pair of paperbag trousers for Christmas. So, again, thank you for showing that shape isn't everything. You are really beautiful, and I loved the fits on you!
I am obsessed with that cow print top! That whole outfit is just so gorgeous 💕 you ROCKED this ❤️
hi!!
As a size 16 and the biggest hater of myself this video made me smile. Thank you.
Omg your profile picture is incredible
"At least the people that are mean don't pretend to be nice." ♡♡♡ this is a WHOLE mood!
girl you rocked the SHIT out of all of those outfits!!
uGHHHH thank you!!!
17:30 "Hot girls are nice people"
"Insecure people make their insecurity other people's problem."
"You know what, I love their energy and I hope I can be that too"
"I feel pretty, and I don't need anybody else to tell me i'm pretty to make me know that."
I needed this reminder to keep me going when being surrounded by insecure ppl. Thank you 🤍
Im a size 8/10....super self conscious....listening to you when you were wearing the form fitting dress brought me to tears...I WISH I had your confidence...and after watching this video I am def making an effort to try harder to find myself and stop listening to media shit
I think all the tennis skirts are made to suffocate your waist lmao, I own two and whenever I sit on the floor I feel as though it's about to cut me in half
Yess, especially if youre not an hourglass and your waist is naturally bigger
@@dicksdrugsanddebutantes9305 i have a relatively small waist and huge ass hips and it murders me so idk
Yeah meanwhile I made one with my own measurements and it’s the most comfortable thing ever they are completely destroying us for nothing
Yes that's true
idkk tennis skirts r the only skirts that fit me cuz i have a small waist lol
I'd tell myself this too. I bought my first crop top and told myself it was for when I was skinny. That was years ago. I never wore it because I only got fatter. But this year for the first time I went out in a crop top, despite being the biggest I've ever been. And I looked great. I'd have looked great when I first bought the thing. Confidence can come to you, even when you least expect it
The whole form fitting segment was just chef’s kiss 👏😩
Honestly, I’m a guy with a relatively “nice” build but still some body insecurities and I had a Pinterest board called “skinny looks” and didn’t even peep how my mind was hating on my potential until this video, so thanks for your positive energy and encouragement! Also you rocked the hell out of that marble dress 😍
bawling right now
seriously couldn't predict a youtuber could help me be on the actual road to internal acceptance and recovery.
So happy for you. Good luck.
You wouldn't believe how much UA-cam had helped me in some very serious ways. I think it's so amazing that you can watch all this content out there for free by people who have knowledge and comfort that others need. You know? I think the age of the internet can do so much good and it makes me happy to see another person who has benefited greatly from it
@@user-wu1xu3ii9j It depends what you mean by "like this." If you mean channels about body positivity, than no. But I have a whole list of channels I love that have good conversations about religion, politics, abuse, developing people skills and charisma, and a few names if you're interested in science, health, and history. There are also channels on other sibject matters that I know of but don't spend much time watching, necessarily.
Anything in particular you're interested in? Either from that I've mentioned above or maybe something I didn't?
The only one I can pretty much guarantee you'll like (if you watch videos like hers) is Charisma on Command. They make videos about how to develop better confidence speaking to people and forming relationships
Thank you for speaking on the difference between dealing with body insecurity and dealing with fatphobia in fashion
when you were talking about insecurities while wearing the form-fitted dress on the bed, it felt like a big sister giving me advice to loving myself 🥺🥰 thankyu so much for this video~~ i really needed it
Same, she's like a big sister
this girl gives me better confidence than what my therapists ever did
The "I don't need anyone to call me pretty to know that it is the truth" line frickin got me. Like. That and so many other lines from you just gave me such a huuuge confidence boost. Like. Yeah. I don't actually need anyone else to tell me that. I can't explain it but girl, I frickin love your confidence. It's infectious. I love it! ❤
Vibes: immaculate. Outfits: killer. The indie clothing brands????: INCREDIBLE
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"Feels very Y2K, probably wore this in like 4th grade..."
My 35 year old ass: I'll just show myself out, yeah?
I’m sorry can we just take a good lengthy moment of silence to acknowledge how STUNNING you looked in that dress.
I'm pretty skinny and I honestly never realized how privileged I am because of that.... like I have never even thought about not being able to find your size in stores.
Yeah same, it’s really heartbreaking to think of how difficult it is for some people to find clothes that fit and also how much that would hurt their self confidence. I wish things were different and just wanted to add that you’re all beautiful no matter what your body looks like! 💕
Sometimes it’s hard for me to find clothing small enough because I am a teenager between children and adult sizes, so I can understand and empathize with people who also can’t find clothing that fits them for different reasons. It’s very sad 😢 and I wish every clothing item came in every size
samee
it’s pretty ridiculous being skinny and yet at times buying “medium” sized clothing in the U.S. I’m very flat-chested, so I’m certainly not average in that area by any means.
it was also an interesting experience being in Japan where the larges fit around but were too short for me.
I'm also pretty skinny but always had problems finding clothes that are small enough, especially jeans, recently I'm lucky that oversized stuff is okay to wear but still struggled my whole life. Bigger people have problems finding big enough clothes ans (actual) skinny people have problems finding small enough clothes, exact same situation. The only people that are priveleged are between fat and skinny, those that are "mid-sized" I guess.
this reminded of the time in middle school when i didn't think of myself as insecure just sensible. my thirteen-year-old brain thought boiling in black skinny jeans in the summer was sensible.
i thought i wasn't insecure. i thought i was a being respectable fat person only if i wore certain clothes.
im nineteen now. last year i purchased my first crop top, ive been wearing shorts for couple of years. it's no big deal anymore. i wear whatever i want even if my mom says that it's a little too out of the box, or that im going overdressed. but i still do because it makes me happy.
nobody has ever said a thing. actually, ive gotten more comments on why tf are you wearing that we're literally on the beach.
this content is so important. i had friends who told straight up told me i was being unreasonable and helped me to get out of my dumb thought patterns. i can't even imagine what would i do if i were in social media bubbles that would validate these thoughts. (i guess im glad i couldnt speak english then)
it wasn't easy i had a lot of internal growing up to do as well. i had these friends when i was 13-14 but it took me years to get a crop top. i thought i wouldn't be comfortable in it and you see i'm perfectly comfortable in it.
limiting yourself from a trend even if you never tried it isn't sensible. making yourself less comfortable for the comfort of others is never sensible.
yo when you put on that rockin bodycon dress and just lay down and talked to us about projecting insecurity, loving yourself anyway, and the way people talk to you and balancing that with the fact that you feel beautiful and happy... i really appreciated that. i really like this video, i wanna just make a playlist of all the positive messages and good vibes you expressed here. thanks for being honest and working hard to project love and just trying to help other people feel not alone! i'm going to be like you. i want your VIBES. you look so happy and so beautiful and i'm coming for it i'm going to be up there with you!
i’m pretty thin but i’m trans and struggle a lot with my body and things i can and can’t wear and this video was so nice...... yeah i’m gonna wear whatever the fuck i want!
doing what you want is the true path to go, yo
Same! My personal style doesn't help me pass, unfortunately, but it's silly to base my worth only on whether I pass. Why wear the "sad trans person™️" uniform, that being a baggy hoodie and jeans, if it makes me feel awful? I felt pressured for a long time to conform to that standard.
Hey, same here. As a genderfluid person I sometimes also struggle with my body and it took me a long time to start wearing clothes I wanted and cut my hair short because my mother would reaaallly point out that they are boyish clothes and so on...now that I gain confidence about it I'm much happier...
Hello fellow trans person! Unfortunately I struggle with my body image a lot, your comment gives me some confidence
Rooting for you all! I hope you can all find your confidence to embrace your personal style, with or without passing! Remember, it’s okay not to pass as long as you’re happy, and you don’t exist for anyone else’s consumption, you exist for yourself! Love yourself! Happy pride month 🏳️🌈🏳️⚧️
Daaamn girl that dress??!!!!! Wtf like you're HOOOT and it looks soo goood on you it looks like it literally was made for you to wear.
Do we know what brand the dress is
@@deannapope9062 the links for the clothes are in the description ❤️
Litteraly. And the color match with her hair color. magic.
and the hair and makeup KNSDIHSIDBEJSNEI
Was looking for this comment, it was fucking EVERYTHING
Girl, that dress was EVERYTHING!
i cannot express how grateful i am that the algorithm brought me to you. i've been really struggling with my body recently, and i've been stuck in that mindset of not feeling skinny enough to buy clothes i want to wear. as i'm becoming an adult i've really been needing to completely overhaul my wardrobe bc i've never really had a sense of style that i felt like really was me, but i kept telling myself i couldn't start going out and getting those clothes until i lose like 10-20lbs and i'm just fucking sick of it. i've been exercising consistently more than i've done in years, and i'm eating better foods, so why do i need to punish myself, telling myself that i am is not good enough, when i deserve to wear the shit i've always dreamed of? if i do eventually end up losing weight, i can always just get my clothes altered to fit me again. this really was the sign i needed to get started on this process of finding pieces that i love. thank you maddie
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Hi fariyo I want to❤💋💖 join in your life🤣🌹 really🌹💖 what you say it
literally wearing whatever you want is a power move. like even IF people judge you.. they are insecure and bitter, you’re comfortable in your own skin. ur still winning! do you!!!
I like how you distinguished the different reasons those Pinterest boards exist. Not many people mention it in their vids. Really awesome vid
THAT DRESS.... ur smokin in it oh ma lord i want to go buy one rn
I really like it too. Surprisingly as it’s not my style.
"i had faith i could stretch it out so i bought it anyway" PLEASE i do this so often
Lol!
see, there's always the fact that different styles look better/more flattering on different body types, and that is a real thing, but so often when people talk about that what they actually mean is that skinny is good for all styles, and the sort of styles that look good on larger people are the ones that minimize/obscure the fact that they're larger, which is something different entirely
“Having the body doesn’t mean you’ll have the confidence” is such a great reminder! Don’t put conditions on your own self love!
You are so friggin smart I love hearing someone beautifully articulate the difference between “I’m not confident enough to wear this” and “this is literally not made in my size” like you just had a super well expressed concept of privilege and larger structural barriers and I just 🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Something I've learned when I was losing weight is that confidence and weight are different things. Even though I'm skinner and healthier then I was, I'm still not confident and I need to learn that. U looked so good wearing every single one!
“i look like I go to church, and that doesn’t sit right with me” 😂😂 I can’t -
idk if anyone else has the same problem with their moms but my mom *who is in fact a size medium-large* says she will never wear a mini dress or crop tops because shes "too fat" :( although i am on the slimmer side myself, it breaks my heart sm
Omg my life. My mom is a size 2 and I’m a size 16, but my mom has struggled with her body her entire life, afraid of bright colors, anything body con or slightly tight, shorts, low cut tops, or anything strapless. She has all these rules for her self that she tried to put on me for years and I know the way that I dress makes her a little uncomfortable
@@emilyb3875 oh for me its the opposite- like im a size 0-2 and my mom is a size 12-14 maybe 16 but u get the point. whenever i say that she would look amazing in a piece her response is "you know i dont look like you" or "im not skinny *enough*" and i feel really bad for her bc she looks amazing and only eats bc of stress
it really really hurts hearing my mom talk about herself that way. when she was younger she was super tiny and skinny and slim but had 4 kids and lost the skinniness and i know she misses it and it hurts to hear her call herself fat as if it’s something awful. she’s not that big either :(( i try to get her to BUY that dress she thought was cute, BUY that swimsuit she doubted herself on, trying to get her to love herself more but she just constantly doubts and it sucks
"I feel like a squiggly line. I feel like a bubble. I feel like a waterfall. I feel PRETTY." Damn. 🙌🙌🙌
Unrelated but that purple eyeshadow looks BEAUTIFUL with your eyes
I know! It works so well with the color