I create a resentment when something is different than the picture that I have of how it should be. Forgiveness is moving forward without prejudice. Acceptance is saying im willing to be vulnerable and give the next moment a chance.
I think our justice system knows how to shame a person n treat people like animals- the inmates that r in jail the cops judge them n make fun or beat them up n tell the other inmates what there crimes r to attack them n mayb even kill them- if we treat people like animals they will always b an animal of the wild- with care n love n to forgive them might change peoples ways not to live as an animal in the wild- u read this n thank u
I got "no" to wanting to avoid being sexually assaulted when I was 8? I didn't need to forgive in order to heal and to move forward. What about holocaust survivors? What the hell did they get a no to?
I'm so sorry you had this experience @Enigmatic-Kat. None of us, as children, asked to be mistreated by the adults who were supposed to keep us safe. We got a "NO!" to a very reasonable and basic ask. If this helps, I've come to understand that 'accepting' what happened required that I find a way to make PEACE with the harm. The decision to look for peace is a "YES!" I gave myself and then finding the peace is another "YES!" that more than made up for the initial "NO!". In addition to peace, I found self-compassion and self-love as well as empathy and compassion for others. I understand that you might not feel the same way but just wanted to offer another perspective in case it resonated.✨
I think there is some wisdom in what he says, but he manages to package that message with such little compassion that it's hard to digest. And this is the among the least offensive clips/talks I have watched.
Dr. Luskin's workshop of forgiveness helped me to forgive myself for the divorce that I did not want. Thank you for giving me my freedom Loving it --
Thanks for your wonderful words of wisdom Fred!
I create a resentment when something is different than the picture that I have of how it should be. Forgiveness is moving forward without prejudice. Acceptance is saying im willing to be vulnerable and give the next moment a chance.
AMAZING
I think our justice system knows how to shame a person n treat people like animals- the inmates that r in jail the cops judge them n make fun or beat them up n tell the other inmates what there crimes r to attack them n mayb even kill them- if we treat people like animals they will always b an animal of the wild- with care n love n to forgive them might change peoples ways not to live as an animal in the wild- u read this n thank u
I got "no" to wanting to avoid being sexually assaulted when I was 8? I didn't need to forgive in order to heal and to move forward. What about holocaust survivors? What the hell did they get a no to?
Saying no to being a victim forever
I'm so sorry you had this experience @Enigmatic-Kat. None of us, as children, asked to be mistreated by the adults who were supposed to keep us safe. We got a "NO!" to a very reasonable and basic ask.
If this helps, I've come to understand that 'accepting' what happened required that I find a way to make PEACE with the harm. The decision to look for peace is a "YES!" I gave myself and then finding the peace is another "YES!" that more than made up for the initial "NO!". In addition to peace, I found self-compassion and self-love as well as empathy and compassion for others. I understand that you might not feel the same way but just wanted to offer another perspective in case it resonated.✨
I think there is some wisdom in what he says, but he manages to package that message with such little compassion that it's hard to digest. And this is the among the least offensive clips/talks I have watched.
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