What women need to understand is men who disrespect you, disrespect themselves and have low self-esteem. In turn, we tend to attract aspect of ourselves we need to work on. Learn the lesson and move on.
He’s trying his BS a manipulation tactics on you because he’s interested in you, and a lot of rnen who are interested in you will do ANYTHING but just be a decent person, work on themselves or introspect. And every time, without fail, they will try weak fear-mongering tactics to try to ‘get’ you, thinking it’ll scare you into thinking you can’t enjoy or handle being single and trying to convince you they’re such a catch (spoiler alert: they’re never the catch. You know this, other women know this, even they know this - that’s why it’s always taken that pursue women and complaining about being single or rejected and why most women don’t pursue men).
I think same applys for men. If they treat u bad, don't complain, don't put them on a pedestral and say they are perfect, don't be too clingy and walk away if they don't appreciate ur effort. Yeah, communication is sometimes difficult Have a nice day✌️
This is treating people like children. - Do what I say, or I'm going to do X - . Complaining will work if it is made to most men, they will listen. Threat to walk away is not needed. If threats to walk away are made with every complaint this will make the guy think you don't really value the relationship, he will feel bullied, and he will be more likely to end it. On the other hand if the man is a type who would only respond if a threat to walk away is made, then he is not worth it and you should walk away.
The sad part is that some people in dating behave like children. I hate doing this because I especially hate giving people ultimatums or feel like they have to feel obligated to do something so I feel better but at the end of the day its best to not be pushy when possible even if this is needed at times. Like this is a person youll potentially be stuck with the rest of your life if theyve shown theyre capable of meeting your needs so some behaviors are better addressed sooner than later.
@@gatorssbm Agree, kinda. Thing with ultimatums, they are always bad for a relationship. If a partner has to have their behavior modified early on by ultimatums, they will resent it, better leave that partner and find one more compatible with ones own needs, without ultimatums. Cos what if the partner given ultimatums started giving ultimatums back? Just not going to head for a joyous relationship. Some relationships are not worth having, and some things are intolerable, for example, violence. If a partner beats the other partner, the other partner should be entitled to give the ultimatum, don't do that again if you do I will leave. But essentially the relationship requiring such an ultimatum is already toxic, I would say don't mess with the ultimatum just leave anyway. My position comes from my own experience, where my ex would deliver ultimatums over things that just did not really matter, but she had to have her way, and if I did not comply, the punishment would be severe. In the end she did not get the desired result because while she thought her method was getting her everything she wanted, my own life was so miserable that I left. She now has to live with herself, and is the miserable one.
This happened to me. I was interested in my neighbour and she took my kindness as weakness. For 3 months she was stringing me along for my attention and validation. Used me as an option to run some errands. Then I thought Why I'm doing this when I'm not even attractive to her. She's just using me as a option or. Side hustle. I was heartbroken as I was naive about these games. Withdrew and went back to my old self. I learnt that I need to learn some games before getting in that sh it. Long way ahead
How can you be heart broken if you didn't love this person, and we're not even attracted to them? I think your ego was bruised is probably a better way of putting it. And yes you deserve much better than she treated you
Ok, may be I need this before but from now onwards I make sure I don't do that mistake again, just bcz I am emotionally attached to them, I will not let him do it again. ❤
When i first my ex I noticed smth off about em and was about to let them go. I was so strong back then. Then he lied and i got attached. And we went on and off for 2 years. Not worth it honestly
why do they do not know the values of not misbehaving and making effort for the relationship, why is it usually the women teaching or not teaching them how to value her
if they can't even make the effort most important first then walk away and mean it. If he gives them another chance they'll figure you were just bluffing. When you are bargaining with vendors then put the item down start walking away and if they call you back then you can bargain. It's almost like that, but not quite. They like to play games and they will see what they can get away with the next time. So you can waste your own time if you want, not me
Giving these ultimatums is trying to forcibly change your date / partner. Old saying but true about what happens when a couple marry. - The woman thinks he will change, but he doesn't. The man thinks she won't change, but she does.
Agree but can we stop blaming the women for getting attached? a lot of the time this happens because men love bomb. women (everyone) usually grow up without good information on healthy relationships and how it's properly built
every teenager needs to hear this. Same goes for men who are mistreated psychologically, they need to walk away too.
And then you Move On.. the quickest sentence 😂
What women need to understand is men who disrespect you, disrespect themselves and have low self-esteem. In turn, we tend to attract aspect of ourselves we need to work on. Learn the lesson and move on.
I did & then he called me judgmental?! & also said I won't be able to sleep peacefully after losing such a man. Like wtf?!
He was an stupid.....it was all hiss loss ... you are wonderful....❤
Chill bruv you don't even know the person. @@user-dk2lt3jd1q
He’s trying his BS a manipulation tactics on you because he’s interested in you, and a lot of rnen who are interested in you will do ANYTHING but just be a decent person, work on themselves or introspect.
And every time, without fail, they will try weak fear-mongering tactics to try to ‘get’ you, thinking it’ll scare you into thinking you can’t enjoy or handle being single and trying to convince you they’re such a catch (spoiler alert: they’re never the catch. You know this, other women know this, even they know this - that’s why it’s always taken that pursue women and complaining about being single or rejected and why most women don’t pursue men).
He just confirmed your judgement of him.
he is a narcist
Great advice
"If he's not willing to change for you (with his bad behavior) and then you move on"
I think same applys for men.
If they treat u bad, don't complain, don't put them on a pedestral and say they are perfect, don't be too clingy and walk away if they don't appreciate ur effort.
Yeah, communication is sometimes difficult
Have a nice day✌️
www.humanservices.alberta.ca/documents/PFVB1100-men-abused-by-women-booklet.pdf
This is treating people like children. - Do what I say, or I'm going to do X - . Complaining will work if it is made to most men, they will listen. Threat to walk away is not needed. If threats to walk away are made with every complaint this will make the guy think you don't really value the relationship, he will feel bullied, and he will be more likely to end it. On the other hand if the man is a type who would only respond if a threat to walk away is made, then he is not worth it and you should walk away.
The sad part is that some people in dating behave like children. I hate doing this because I especially hate giving people ultimatums or feel like they have to feel obligated to do something so I feel better but at the end of the day its best to not be pushy when possible even if this is needed at times. Like this is a person youll potentially be stuck with the rest of your life if theyve shown theyre capable of meeting your needs so some behaviors are better addressed sooner than later.
@@gatorssbm Agree, kinda. Thing with ultimatums, they are always bad for a relationship. If a partner has to have their behavior modified early on by ultimatums, they will resent it, better leave that partner and find one more compatible with ones own needs, without ultimatums. Cos what if the partner given ultimatums started giving ultimatums back? Just not going to head for a joyous relationship. Some relationships are not worth having, and some things are intolerable, for example, violence. If a partner beats the other partner, the other partner should be entitled to give the ultimatum, don't do that again if you do I will leave. But essentially the relationship requiring such an ultimatum is already toxic, I would say don't mess with the ultimatum just leave anyway. My position comes from my own experience, where my ex would deliver ultimatums over things that just did not really matter, but she had to have her way, and if I did not comply, the punishment would be severe. In the end she did not get the desired result because while she thought her method was getting her everything she wanted, my own life was so miserable that I left. She now has to live with herself, and is the miserable one.
This is so timely, as usual ♥️
This happened to me. I was interested in my neighbour and she took my kindness as weakness.
For 3 months she was stringing me along for my attention and validation.
Used me as an option to run some errands. Then I thought Why I'm doing this when I'm not even attractive to her. She's just using me as a option or. Side hustle.
I was heartbroken as I was naive about these games. Withdrew and went back to my old self.
I learnt that I need to learn some games before getting in that sh it.
Long way ahead
Inch for inch tooth for tooth eye for eye.
There u go man
You dont need to resort to the same manipulation. Thats low. Sounds more like you need to build up more self esteem and self respect.
How can you be heart broken if you didn't love this person, and we're not even attracted to them? I think your ego was bruised is probably a better way of putting it. And yes you deserve much better than she treated you
If shitting on your doorstep was a person💀
Mistreatment should never be tolerated
Love your videos Francesca!!!
Ok, may be I need this before but from now onwards I make sure I don't do that mistake again, just bcz I am emotionally attached to them, I will not let him do it again. ❤
When i first my ex I noticed smth off about em and was about to let them go. I was so strong back then. Then he lied and i got attached. And we went on and off for 2 years. Not worth it honestly
Thanks
Your videos are really useful and helpful
You're becoming more beautiful day by day ❤
Thankyou sweethearts ❤🙏
Nice necklace❤
why do they do not know the values of not misbehaving and making effort for the relationship, why is it usually the women teaching or not teaching them how to value her
Francesca you just described 99% of modern womans
if they can't even make the effort most important first then walk away and mean it. If he gives them another chance they'll figure you were just bluffing. When you are bargaining with vendors then put the item down start walking away and if they call you back then you can bargain. It's almost like that, but not quite. They like to play games and they will see what they can get away with the next time. So you can waste your own time if you want, not me
Walk after the first 🚩, as it's a prelude of many more 🚩🚩🚩 to come. 🚫🚩🚩🚩
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If you need to show a man your worth, he‘s not the right one
Giving these ultimatums is trying to forcibly change your date / partner. Old saying but true about what happens when a couple marry. - The woman thinks he will change, but he doesn't. The man thinks she won't change, but she does.
This woman's description is like she's explaining how to train a cocker spaniel.
Youre a goddess ❤️
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Hey can I talk to U about a relationship problem??
Agree but can we stop blaming the women for getting attached? a lot of the time this happens because men love bomb. women (everyone) usually grow up without good information on healthy relationships and how it's properly built
What if same thing is done by your husband and not your boyfriend, then what, will you do the same to break the marriage and walk away ?
Constructive criticism for two times, if still the same then move on.
if he/she is not too handsome
Nice beautiful
Damn...these fckin eyes...🔥🔥🔥
Sounds like parenting.
How to show a woman your worth?
Have healthy masculinity. Women value a man if hes in his masculine role
Usually, the genders are actually reversed in real life