HOW TO MAKE GOOD FRIENDS AS AN ADULT // my tips + advice for cultivating new friendships

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This way of telling and solving the problems of people is perfect and the more you do it the better it is for us so thank you ☺️

[@sybersandy]

Yeah this is also a very common expat problem. It simply takes time and effort. Often my personal enthusiasm used to be mistaken for neediness. In times of loneliness epidemic it is a very very valuable video. You are an authority by nature and I do admire the tenacity you are building it with. Thank you for the content.

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Loved this format

[@farojaco]

The video i was waiting for a while! Thank you Francesca!

[@matc6221]

Thanks for this valuable advice and for your honesty Francesca ❤🤘

[@adithikrishna970]

Thank you for this

[@draapulus]

Summary/ Overview:
Friendship model, steps:
1 1:52 Initial meeting and exchange of basic information, taking proactive steps to connect.
2 6:17 Experimenting, small talk, superficial interactions, learn more about eachother.
3 16:22 Intesifying, increased self-disclosure, deeper conversations, development of stronger emotional connection. Vulnerability, openess.
4 18:53 Integration, mix friends friends, social circles, activities. Proximity and exposure. Monthly or weekly basis.
5 22:40 Bonding.
17:21 Social penetration theory (mentioned) = width/ breath and depth:
1 Orientation - sharing only safe topics. biographical data, age, gender, name.
-peripheral layer (onion metaphore) - age, college major, hometown.
2 Exploratory affective exchange - focus on social norms. preference in clothes good music.
3 Affective exchange - presence of comfort and friendliness. goals, aspirations.
-Intermediate layer - musical tastes, political beliefs, leisure interests.
4 Stable exchange - presence of honesty, openness, intimacy. Religious convictions.
5 Core self-concept - most intimate details about self. Deeply heldt gears, fantasies.
-Central layers - values, traits, fears, self-awareness, self-concept, self-esteem.
(6) Concept of self.
What not to do:
1 25:13 Healthy and stable? trust, intimacy, support? anxious-avoidant trap in friendships?
1 27:56 Make concious decision to choose friends that are healthy/ secure, for you.
2 28:24 Dont be to aggressive/ coming on to strong/ to desperate/ be to attached/ to needy.
3 30:57 Judging to quickly.

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Helpful🎉🎉

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[@whitneyszypula5539]

It is difficult to hear you even with the volume turned all the way up. I normally do not have this issue so maybe you need to adjust something. I like the idea of you doing more long-format videos otherwise!

[@1vewrittenthat]

I can though so maybe problem isn't from her end

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No time stamps

[@josealfredfernandes]

First!

[@Dr.CJ21]

This video format is not good , please make videos as you always make ,

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Shut up

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Its her channel. She can make them anyway she likes 😂

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