The Rise of Romanticising Mental Illnesses & Why It Must Be Stopped
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- Опубліковано 17 лют 2019
- In today's video, I discuss The Rise of Romanticising Mental Illnesses in both social and mainstream media and why it needs to be stopped. I use Corinna Kopfs new merch, 13 Reasons Why, mental illness memes & tumblr art as examples of how mental illnesses are being romanticised on social media and in mainstream media.
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People romanticize depression but when they actually have a friend who always misses plans because they can't drag their shell of a body out their room, they'd stop talking to that friend.
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Finally a comment I can 100% agree with.
True
Story of my life
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boy, literally this decade made depression look like some kind of aesthetic
@Arian Zarasvandi Isn´t it already for emo kids?
Suzana heathers pfp 👀
It's also racist, why only depression and anxiety?
I wAnt an astetiC of mY mentAl illEnEs-
Suzana I mean I agree but then imagine growing up with the entire internet in your hands and seeing that much of our society isn’t here to help us as individuals but to keep us on a hamster wheel. So I sort of get it
Suzana Yeah, lots of people have it and hate it. From what I hear it sucks and is awful.
"I have mental illnesses, but only the cool ones"
yeah, nobody ever fakes having Dementia
There's been girls at my school who pretend to be ALCOHOLIC. Bruh. Why would you want that at all?
And also, they pretended to be drunk. I'ma just say, drunk does not equal toddler.
haha I never thought about it that way. No one ever fakes the ones that aren’t portrayed as glamorous, like autism or dyslexia (At least from what I’ve seen)
You never see anyone faking being a psychopath
*oh wait*
Say it with me *DEPRESSION IS NOT AN AESTHETIC*
DEPRESSION IS NOT AN AESTHETIC
DEPRESSION IS NOT AN AESTHETIC
DEPRESSION IS NOT AN AESTHETIC
*DEPRESSION IS NOT AN AESTHETIC*
DEPRESSION IS NOT AN AESTHETIC
To these people:
Being nervous = Anxiety
Being sad = Depression
Cleaning things = OCD
Mood swings = Bipolar
Ive bled from open sores on my hands because i washed them so much, so i reacted by starting washing them even more. Its not cool or cute or funny. Im glad i got help and got better.
Exactly!
Very true
When really
Anxiety=Constantly being anxious 24/7 and panic attacks or stress from little things such as someone walking up to you and saying "hello"
Depression=Unmotivated to do anything and feeling worthless. You just sit in bed all day and rarely eat or drink, and when you do, it is a very little or a lot of junk food and drinks.
OCD=Either obsessing over being in control to the point of freaking out when something isn't right and realizing you are freaking out because you are losing control spirals you further into the downward spiral of OCD AND/OR being super scared of germs and getting to sick to the point you try to get rid of the germs that are good for you which can result in self harm.
Not sure about bipolar because I don't really know much about being bipolar. If anyone could tell me what it's like to be bipolar, that would be great!
although bipolar (aka manic depression) is //technically// related to mood swings, the highs (mania) and lows (depression) aren’t sudden and rapid. each type of episode can last for days or even weeks (depending on the person and type of bipolar). people like this often mix it up with borderline personality disorder, which is characterized by rapidly changing mood swings.
bipolar ain’t fun. i cant deal with having boundless energy to the point where i get little (or no) sleep only to “crash” and fall into a deep deep low. i have type 2, which isn’t as extreme as type 1, but that doesn’t make it any more fun
also:
type 1 bipolar: extreme manic episodes (complete with psychosis and other delusions) and deep depressive episodes
type 2 bipolar: //hypo//manic episodes (just below manic, not involving psychosis) and deep depressive episodes. however, type 2 tends to have longer and deeper depressive episodes
there are a few more types i can’t remember, but the rest just relate to lengths of episodes
why is being depressed an 'aesthetic trend' now
willow
Money and clout
Because Billie Ellish Fangirls
because sad is emo and so is depression ( that’s of course not all people )
EXACTLY I hate those people SO MUCH
Yeah and people think because a person wears black a lot that means they’re depressed like black is a good color.
I'm a little worried to say this because of all the "fake depressed 14 year old" memes, but as a 14 year old who is actually, officially diagnosed with clinical depression, I HATE it when people treat depression as if its an aesthetic or a personality trait. All these people who think they're depressed because they have a profile picture of a sad Bart Simpson, or watch aesthetic edits of Tom and Jerry with lo fi music over it, just irk me beyond comprehension. Depression is NOT an aesthetic, it's not a personality trait, and youre not depressed just because you get sad sometimes. What really hurts is that these people have created a situation where people don't believe a 14 year old can be depressed. They can.
I know right?! Just to clarify, no I don’t have depression. At all. But I completely agree and that’s because my best friend wasn’t taken seriously as a 14 yr old who was depressed and this is what happened:
My best friend and I lived in different states and we would talk for hours. He told me in the end that he was being bullied and harassed and that he wanted to kill himself because of depression. I told my school counselor, talked to a cop, and “I got the help I needed, so thank you” as he said.
I thought it was ok until he didn’t respond one day. I come to find out two weeks later that he killed himself because people didn’t believe that he had actual depression other than me, a kid in a different state, who can’t do anything for him except calm him down and tell a counselor. I hate it when people even so much as JOKE about depression now because it’s normalizing such a deadly mental illness. Anyways, sorry for the rant. I just agree that it’s messed up when someone jokes about such a horrible topic or pretends to have it because I personally know what can happen when someone *does* have it. Regardless, I hope you have a good day and I hope that anyone that sees this knows that mental illnesses are not a joke and should be taken seriously and not normalized. Stay safe! And wear a mask please :)
I as a young teen, do cope a lot with memes and relatable phrases, bit its mot even close to the fact that ppl make edits and merch out of it. Laughing off the pain a little is something I usually do to avoid getting so deep into my thoughts but I wouldn't ever even dare to wear a shirt which gives attention to my problems.
@@_creeture_997 Me, as a teen who was diagnosed with anxiety and is now treating it, I do cope a lot by joking because I, don't want to be reminded that I actually struggle a lot. But not taking a person seriously about it is just a disgusting action, you never know what the person is going through, and I personally think my parents do not take me seriously when it comes to my anxiety. I absolutely hate that its now "expected" to be depressed or anxious as it is something that completely covers your mind and takes up your life.
@@11sa555_ hope you'll feel better!!! Fighting!🙆🙆❤️
@@letchugooo8502 thank youu 💗💖
I have autism and I hate when people are like "I'm introverted, I must be autistic" or "I'm autistic, you can't criticize me!" I know autism is not a mental illness, but a mental disorder, but its still plenty egregious none the less.
there is a boy in my class that always gets called autistic because he isn’t the smartest. i feel so bad for him. everybody makes fun of him. and me and my best friend always defend him and tell him it’s okay and tell the people telling him that to stfu. not that being autistic is something shameful. but the boy should be dealing with this
I know! One of my best friends and former step brother is autistic and when people say this it’s really annoying
@@sophiaerin4454 I don't really believe they do it out of malice but rather they just misunderstand autism and that mental disabilities can vary in severity, not just autism. Some need more support than others.
My little sister has autism, and sometimes people call others "autistic" as an insult and I go mad, she's just a kid and I try so much to protect her because I'm scared of what she might go through 😢 my hole family has a large historic of mental disturbs, illnesses etc, and it's extremely painful to all of us.
@@wowsports8800 I hate how the word autistic has basically become a synonym for retarded in certain contexts.
You have "OCD" because you like to clean? Let me tell you something:
OCD is being trapped in your thoughts constantly and forcing yourself to perform specific or repetitive tasks over and over again, because the thought of what would happen otherwise is terrifying. It's scary and isolating and exhausting. Please stop using it as an adjective.
I have OCD as well. You're definitely right. Its horrible. I don't get offended when people use it as an adjective, but it is inaccurate.
Eliza Pine it’s also where you have violent intrusive thoughts against someone you know and you try to get it out of your head but you can’t
Although I was never diagnosed, I long suspected that when I was very young I suffered from OCD. I still remember having to grip doorknobs 5 times over before I entered a room, and another 5 times after I walked in. I would always repeat words or sentences over and over again until they were perfect because I thought I had messed up when speaking. There were other repetitive movements like gripping objects like bottles and cans multiple times or tapping something. However, I was never obsessed with keeping myself clean or with washing often. So there's a bit of an outlier. But nowadays I no longer have those impulses, they seemed to have simply vanished around the time in which I entered 6th grade.
@@geraldramirez3883 my brother had ocd symptoms around the same time, and they went away. There are many rypes of ocd, and as far as i know most dont involve cleaning
Thank you! It makes me so angry that most people see OCD as simply liking cleaning and/or symmetry. I live with my dad, who has been diagnosed and i've also shown most symptoms. It makes our daily lives stressful and I wish we could both have it gone. I just hope people educate themselves on the topic.
the romanticism of mental illnesses is horrible. i feel like i can’t talk about the fact i might have one because people will think i’m trying to be “quirky”
I would say to maybe ask your parents to see a therapist or psychologist to try and diagnose you. Because the “quirky and trendy” people will never want to actually see a therapist or psychologist because they will know straight up that they’re faking
What stigma is associated with mental illness? I've never fully understood that statement. What stereotypes and stigmas are associated with mental illness when have they never been taken seriously
Don't go there. Don't think "I might have one". Only a doctor can decide that. The point is to go to therapy if you don't feel okay. Work out your issues. If you have a mental illness they'll tell you.
@Morphing Taxi I don't know how many times I've had to leave small time work, because I couldn't adjust to their established schedules.
I have Bipolar, and some of my symptoms aren't quite easily manageable without a prescription sedative
It's something I hate with all my being, yet people either jump to "you must be great in bed" or "you must be a moody asshole"
I don't know why they think having theses Illnesses are cool when In reality it's Hell and it's hard just to do basic daily task. That's why I hate talking About them.
the people that fake having depression are the same people that get disgusted if you dont brush your teeth reguarily, dont clean your room etc.
Exactly it’s so ridiculous and then they’re like “well I go through episodes to but I still keep up with things” I’m like..........
Ashanti Berry my sister is clinically diagnosed with depression and when it got so bad, she could barely go to work and spent almost weeks without showering, my mom who isn’t really that educated on mental illness would just say that she is sad sometimes to and that my sister should just suck it up because she has a roof over her head and everything she needs. I felt so bad for her. It’s not a mental illness if you could just choose not to have it anymore. That makes no sense.
Amal DIY I know hun I was agreeing with they said lol did you read all of it I put quotation marks around what other people tell me about not having a clean room while be, or other things I go through it all the time trust me I of all people understand I definitely lose motivation to do things and I just let myself go
Ashanti Berry I was agreeing with you as well. I was just sharing an experience of how it’s happened as well to someone I know.
Amal DIY Oh ok I was confused, sorry
ADHD is not a "I can't focus" or "I get distracted easily"
~Edit: ADHD is different for everyone, it's a spectrum alright. You may have all of the stuff listed or none. I also have Autism so some of the stuff listed may overlap with the other, If you think you have ADHD or another mental illness go see someone about it, but if you can't afford it and self diagnose because you're sure you have it that's fine as well~
As someone who has ADHD it's actually
- Working well with deadlines and strict schedules but unable to keep it up as well as getting extremely mad because someone told you to do something
- Hyperfocusing on the wall despite knowing you have work to do
- Zoning out during long conversations because you thought about that cool fact you learned several weeks ago
- Scratching at your skin to the point of leaving marks because your bored
- You have to do something but you have no energy and you can't sleep because you have to do something
- Having zero sense of time, only Yesterday, Today, and Tomorrow
- Struggle with Social Cues
- Texture issues as well as Issues with bright lights and alot of noise
I have some of these symptoms. I despise the romanticising of mental illnesses and I promise I won’t say or do anything until I go see a doctor to make sure
There’s more than that which makes it worse
@@ToastyMB Yeah I know, it's not fun
I always thought something was wrong with me until my therapist said "have you ever been tested for adhd?" Like, society gets what adhd is so wrong I didn't know I even had it and thought something was wrong with my personality, not that I have a manageable disorder.
@@McSnezzly Same! I refused to believe I had ADHD because I wasn’t hyperactive and I could focus on things (hyperfocus) when interested. Wish I got tested sooner
A suicide letter is SO personal. It’s all the hidden anguish, pain, goodbyes, regrets, and apologies finally written out and revealed for their loved ones. For their LOVED ONES! Not to be put out for the public and definitely not to be made into a shirt! That’s disgusting and dehumanizing and people need to stop.
I wanted to throw up when I saw that. It‘s so disrespectful.
Beamily and then Kurt Cobain suicide letter has some issues with its reality, but imagine thinking you can wear that, disgusting.
@@ArbiterBrick Glad You said this I bought his journals a few years ago and I believe his suicide note was in there. IT'S WAY TOO personal and I couldn't even read it. I felt like I was invading someones privacy and I WOULD NOT WANT someone to do that to me.
As a person who wrote 3 and got professional help.
It is. You write all your feelings, problems, struggles and everything in your note, for your family / loved one / friends. If it is made public, everything gets revealed; secrets, struggles, dark secrets, feelings, etc.
Imagine having all your info being released to the world, but that times a 1000x .
I also found some shirts with a suicide note with blood stains on it. < This makes me really want to puke.
It’s super disturbing who would even buy that?
A hoodie stating that you have anxiety contradicts itself entirely
Ya Boi you can make fun of these people in less you talk about rusty cage
Just like screaming “I AM AN INTROVERT” 😅
I would have a social anxiety attack if someone forced me to wear that :(
@@space0guts589 exactly wearing that is just completely drawing attention to themselves
True. The thing is...I'm very ashamed to admit that I considered it okay and even cool if you have that stuff on clothing. I've changed, don't worry.
There's nothing wrong about liking songs about anxiety/depression or mentioning it to a friend to see if they can relate, but to have it on a shirt? Never supporting it again.
If you like black, dark aesthetics and goth/emo culture, just say that. You don't need to lie and justify those interests by saying you're depressed or have anxiety.
I remember a time I had to tell everyone I was not depressed (never was, never am) cuz I liked dark aesthetics lmaoooooo
@@hannahquintua It's not funny
@@yeah1326 yes it is. Its a perfect example of group thinking and how easy people fall for trends.
Once said I liked black and everyone just stared at me like I was crazy or smth.
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So I had a close friend with depression who used to cut and was diagnosed with depression. She didn’t tell me until a few months ago. Why? Because she was afraid people would just be like “lol same” or “u don’t have depression lol stop faking it”. People can’t talk about their depression online anymore because of the good ol “If u were depressed, u wOuldN’t bE cOmmEnting.” That’s most people. But some of them are brave enough to share their experience, and they get shamed them for it since depressed people want to hide it. They do. So if they’re courageous and brave enough to share it, they’ll probably be called “fake” because of the people faking mental illness.
Mental illness has become a boy cried wolf culture where, if you don’t have it, people help you, but most see you as faking it when you generally need help. People feel like they shouldn’t come out and admit their experiences online and with their loved ones because “thAt’s nOt soMething pEople with ReaL dEpreEsion do”.
So, for those who fake mental illness, just know, what you’re doing is making those actual people with real mental illness lives a whole lot worse. Please just understand that this isn’t something to be proud of, but it’s also not something to be ashamed of either.
For those who have actual mental illness, don’t be worried to come out about your experiences, someone out there will understand and someone out there will want to help.
For those who think they have mental illness, please go get help. Treatment and diagnosis is the best option to help you feel better.
Mental illness isn’t something to be proud of, but don’t be ashamed of it either.
Anyways, had to rant because this got me heated but, have a great day ya’ll, stay safe out there, and I hope you’re having a great day.
So using it as a “personality” / bringing yourself to it eventho your diagnosed with it is literally invalidating peoples ways of coping with it.
I ain't even depressed but people keep telling me "oh yeah same" or "im disappointed in you" when I wonder about my pathological lying-
Wait yeah. I open up and some of my friends are like ‘yeah LOL same bestie 🤪🤪🤪’
And I’m just like 😐
Hey I really hope your friend starts to feel better, and I hope you're doing well.
Basically your friend was afraid he wouldn't be taking serious enough but yet he wouldn't take other ppl serious if they told him they have depression aswell??
Deep
someone with actual anxiety wouldn't wear a hoodie that has the definition of anxiety on it
I am so mad I didn't get my anxiety diagnosed earlier because it would have improved my life soo much and it wouldn't have stolen away my teenage years. So yeah, I don't think anybody would want to wear a constant reminder of sth that ruined your life
Anxiety absolutely destroyed my high school. Years. I couldn’t go to school physically for senior year and was diagnosed officially. It sucks so much. And this whole anxiety definition on a hoodie really pisses me off. Especially when the people who wear it don’t actually have anxiety disorder.
As someone with anxiety that is 100% true. We are too scared to tell people (let alone STRANGERS) we have it.
I don’t see how anyone could wear it. I would be too *anxious* about people noticing it.
Yes I would
At my old school everybody pretended to have a mental illness, so everybody who *actually* had issues are either to scared to speak up or are ignored.
How you know they were pretending?
john john they constantly brag about it and joke about and talk about it ironically. As someone who struggled with anxiety and depression I was always to myself, low key and NEVER EVER mentioned it to my friends or family (let alone the internet for clout) because I was so afraid to express my feeling and of how people would view me. I was picked at for many different things growing up and was threatened mentally and physically for almost everything I did because I was “an easy target”. It got so bad to the point where I was afraid to do anything and end up losing myself in the process and even my personality which was the only thing that people liked about me. Long story short, it led me depressed and paranoid. Nobody noticed for a while because I was closed off emotionally and quiet about it as someone with Real depression does. But I’ve got help and a lot better so now I’m comfortable talking about it but there’s a big difference between talking about mental illnesses because you’re comfortable and want to spread awareness vs talking about it to seem cool and quirky for unrealistic relatability!
Emmanuel Goldstein exactly
That's how I feel at my school. It sucks I never asked for help and it took me years to get therapy because I felt like my mental disorders weren't important any more.
@Harpoonur Cat Hope you get better 😁
I had a recoil when the guy said “#AnxietyFam”
lmao, my student council president yelled "what's up, depression generation" at his valedictorian speech
@@Sus-ih9pu haha😂😂
@@Sus-ih9pu MDL
@@Sus-ih9pu Based student president
why do they all sound so happy to announce their problems? it’s not a damn celebration.
Coping
Convenient personality substitute?
they're all just want to feels different and special
@@harith_the_struggler No one has said that, it's so damn fucking easy for you to sit there and just say that, when you don't know a freaking thing what it feels like to have ADHD, Autism, OCD, Bipolar, Etc. No one is trying to be special, so please shut up, disrespectful
Right. Like damn, no I’m not trying to “win” a most fucked-up contest. The only people who want to claim & “brag” that “oh I have a mental illness” are the people who have never actually experienced it & its horrors.
“If you have anxiety be sure to like this video!”
STOP
Kendra Johnson Dude, this person who made this video didn’t show the entire clip. Right after saying join the anxiety fam: he says that was a joke and he didn’t mean that, Literally. The video that this guy is in is him talking about romanticising mental illnesses as well.
ua-cam.com/video/jTFc_Ut8zIc/v-deo.html don’t just assume and watch the entire video
The fact that this has 1.2k likes is fucking shitty
Echoshia, It’s not his fault. He had no way of seeing the full clip so hop off.
FUCKING STOP
@@Echoshia oh wait sorry i-
Okay, who thought it was a good idea to put *kurt cobains suicide letter* on a T SHIRT.
THEY WHAT
@@broseidon1658 Ugh..it just sickens me
@@peepeepoopoo2219
Yep, you read that right. It's really upsetting
That's discusting
Mystic Kuro It’s absolutely *sickening* I hate how these people think it’s cute
Self harm isn't fun. It makes you feel guilty, unable to wear certain clothes and lie to people you love. It's not an aesthetic for edgy people to romanticize.
Your wrong, it's completely normal and a healthy coping mechanism 0️⃣0️⃣0️⃣
@@georgetanner9381 It is a coping mechanism, but it is an unhealthy and self-destructive one.
also the fact that they made it seem like EVERYONE who self harms is suicidal, i self harmed because of anxiety not depression or suicidal thoughts.
I did it because of my HUGE anger..
@@Nermeen. Yes me too
Thanks for this.I always felt that self harming because of anxiety was "less valid" because I never saw someone talk about it. Thanks
@@laya3550 I felt the same way, I'm glad that this helped you feel more valid :)
“jOiN tHe AnXiEtY fAm”
wtf
Was zum teufel
I found the video and it actually had many similarities to this one and it was an example of how people act nowadays. So luckily it wasn't real. Don't know about the other ones at the start though.
The video is called "they faked mental health ( and got away with it )"
@@radias2589 was zum fick
Wollt ihr mich rollen?
Why would you want anxiety tho?
Being anxious isn't having anxiety.
Being sad isn't having depression.
Stop.
Unless you're diagnosed, don't say you are. It's disrespectful and demeaning.
I understand feeling these and going to a psychologist, but you can't go around saying your Bipolar because you had extreme highs anf lows one or two times in your life....
I want to get diagnosed officially but if I do they'll put me on medication and ask why I have anxiety and depression then they'll arrest my parents for neglect and my life will become a living hell. I'm not doing that to my mom. She doesn't deserve that
@@destiny_ultimatedork675 all of that is false. People aren't automatically put on pills for anxiety and depression, it's all about severity. And people don't ask "why" you have it. You're born with depression, it's a chemical imbalance. Nothing you said on your comment is true.
@@youreinvalid8493 I suffer from a form of anxiety and I have problems with depression yet I do not have medication.
@@gabynicole0184 exactly my point.
I hate when people say "OMG im so OCD right now!"
I'm like NO. OCD is not a trivial illness or "funny thing" that you have for fleeting seconds when a cup isnt centered on the stack. You don't just have it once a week. It is not grammatically correct, either, but that is not what pisses me off the most.
I suffer from multiple different habits that I always have to fullfill nightly. I have to say "excuse me" three times every time I burp, sneeze, swallow (besides whilst eating), my stomach grumbles, I cough, or anything similar. I am NOT a germaphobe, though I hate touching dish soap. I DO worry about irrational things. I worry if I'm a bad person, I can never 100% believe that something is true. Is the sky blue? I'm 99.9% sure it is, but what if it isn't? There are so many other things, too. Since I'm in seventh grade, it is like a "thing" to say insensitive things that trivialize OCD. OCD is in NO WAY appealing. It does not make you special. It makes you want to tell your brain to just STOP for a couple of minutes so you can do stuff without annoying compulsions.
so PLEASE STOP saying stuff like that. You might not thing that you are doing anything wrong, but you are. You are.
yea i have ocd and someone in my class started showing “symptoms” aka copying all mine little after a week after i told her i have it. then one day she said “mr can you move the white board rubber it gives me ocd” and then later in the class said she had ocd and social anxiety. so i asked her if she was diagnosed and she basically ingnored my question 😀😀 she def doesn’t have social anxiety or ocd like wtf
edit: sorry for replying literally a year later
@@moss5538 Just play attention by charlie puth to her
Also it's important to distinguish full on OCD with the occasional intrusive thought. This might be something that people who romanticize ocd do NOT understand.
I’m disappointed in myself because whenever people express their pain a part of me if thinking their faking it, the other half is disgusted by the other half of my thoughts because mental illnesses are no joke and I want to genuinely help the person.
Yeah, i think we are ( or maybe ?)on the same boat. I told myself that I have to be as empathetic as possible when it comes to ppl's pain but still, a part of me , just can't take it. And then , i look back, and tell myself shouldn't think like that but I just can't stop
Maybe being empathetic is just so exhausting sometimes that it makes us think like that
I can relate (I think). Me, as a person diagnosed with bipolar and depression, I always get sceptical at undiagnosed people claiming a mental illness. At one side I genuinely feel bad, for them being in the state and situation given, and for me not believing them. Still on the other side, I get mad because I cannot see how others live in “better” (hence, compared to ME from MY point of view) circumstances but still feel the same as I do. I can’t take others telling me about their trauma or telling me they relate or understand me, simply for the sake of triggers. I can’t believe others could ever fully understand how I feel, speaking on which I get mad if they think so and/or even diagnose themselves on terms of what I opened up to them about my mental health issues. Self diagnosis should never be done in general, if you suspect yourself to have a mental illness please see a professional. It just really makes me frustrated to see how far I’ve come on judging others, mostly because of the romanticisation and misunderstanding of mental illnesses in modern media (Even tho, I admit it’s a problem I need to fix for myself)
“I’m so ocd” makes my blood boil
Yes! You can't be ocd you ethier have it or you don't.
Random person on the internet: So, i tidied up my desk at school today because the pencil pots werent in line. Im so OCD!!
Oh lord, I have a friend who has OCD and she really struggles. You can be particular about how you like something, but don’t self diagnose
factsss
The annoying thing is, when you say you have it and struggle coping with it and then people assume you just like things tidy...uh, no...not quite
A t-shirt with Kurt Cobain’s *suicide letter* printed on it?
that’s horrific.
Yup.
It makes me sick
Yup
that is so terribly disrespectful and i cant believe it
*"I WANT ATTENTION" SYNDROME*
It makes me mad when people say they have depression bc their mom took their phone away- I was diagnosed and it's not fun or cute
Exactly it's disgusting that people fake this shit im tired of it, hell i don't even know who to believe anymore when they say they have depression.
Yeah I get anxious and I admit, sometimes I have said "this gives me anxiety" when something bad happens, but I'm understanding this issue better now and I do not have anxiety, I'm just an introvert who gets nervous in crowds. Bless you btw.
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It makes me mad when ppl try to police others and their mental state if someone says they have depression u shouldn’t assume they’re lying for attention not everyone has access to diagnosis and j bc someone says they’re depressed doesn’t threaten ur amount of depression 🙄
Yeah,I was diagnosed with psychotic depression and my friends said that it was "cool and badass",wtf man.my friends said to me that they wish to be like me.ok then take my depression I don't want it
Not just depression and anxiety;
-Bipolar
-PTSD
-Schizophrenia
-Dissociative Identity Disorder
-OCD
-ADHD
(And many more)
It's very offensive, especially for people with PTSD. People go through horrible times, and then some people pretend to go through hard times to get attention. It's BS, and very offensive.
In the end people with who actually suffer from these end up suffering more because of false information and steriotypes spread by those who fake them.
DID is literally the bread and butter of tiktok
I don't ever see people unironically faking ocd
It means so much to me that you bring up ADHD cuz that shit is RARELY taken seriously at all
"anxiety makes a cool personality" - every girl on Tumblr
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Instagram influencer are becoming like this too. UA-camrs too
defaq?
Furry
@@sharry2510 hmmmm I used to draw animal characters but I def am not a furry.
kurt cobain didn’t kill himself to become a trendy t shirt.
Danny DeVito
Danny DeVito I love your work
Samuel Corez uhm that’s what I’m supposed to say
He was killed by Courtney crazy love :v
danny devito. you are my screen wallpaper.
I literally ignored my depression for YEARS bc media told me lies about what depression actually is and i just thought i was lazy
I'm so sorry that happened to you! People self diagnosing hurts those with the real disorder. : ( And it's only getting worse. People are straight up FAKING disorders for TikTok clout. It's disgusting. Also a self diagnosis isn't valid. You (not you specifically I mean you in a general way) can't accurately diagnose yourself not only because you lack the extensive education and training to but also you're too close to the situation to see yourself with an unbiased lense. You are literally hurting everyone with the real illness. Everyone feels anxious sometimes, everyone feels sad sometimes so when you claim you're depressed or you have anxiety (even if you believe you do) when you in actuality don't, it hurts every one with the real disorder. It hurts the real sufferers because people will start expecting real suffers to behave like you, a person without the disorder does. For example when someone has real depression it's a struggle to get out of bed for months at a time. It's literally a struggle to do anything much less be productive. That's real depression. But if you claim you have depression when you don't and you get out of bed and are productive people start expecting others with depression to be able to do that too al the time when they aren't capable of it. It's disgusting. STOP self-diagnosing. You almost always get it wrong anyway. You probably do have a disorder but it's more like an attention seeking disorder versus what you're pretending to have.
@@WhitneyDahlin Do you consider it a disease? I'm sorry but for me mental illnesses do not exist, there are only different minds. Self-diagnosis is valid, you have to learn a lot to know what you are. I have social anxiety, body dysmorphia, if you don't believe me, don't believe me, I will never go to a psychiatrist, I hate those people, they only know how to drug people. Neurotypical people always eat your head. You lack anarchy and awakening, and you lack respect for neurodivergent people.
@@WhitneyDahlin I have a hard time because of my anxiety, but I wouldn't have such a bad time if they didn't force me to do things I don't want. Mine is social anxiety and also human disconnection, I think it's disconnection It's because of my anxiety or because of my misanthropy.
@@WhitneyDahlin So we only serve people to work? Do you know what you're saying? I'm not depressed but that comment looks bad, these people can be productive but not in other things. I am sorry I just defend neurodivergent people a lot. Nobody denies that we don't have bad moments but it is my choice if I want therapy or not, not that society forced me. In my house they already know about my 2 mental disorders, but they won't take me They won't take me so I don't have a bad time and I refuse. Sorry if I've hurt you is that my fixation is human diversity.
@@WhitneyDahlin What if it's true what those people say on tiktok? Perhaps you know how they live behind the screen and how their mind goes. Each person is different, not all depressives or any mental disorder have to be the same.
Y’all want my anxiety so bad, you can have it lmaoo😭
Hope life gets better. :D
Lol I would give my anxiety up so quickly. My day to day life would be sooo much easier.
no thanks I’ve got my own.
Plz take my explosive morning shit and the unwarranted panic attacks
@@excuseyou7198 Stop saying that you have anxiety when you haven't been diagnosed with it
People get anxiety and being anxious mixed up
P ig I can proudly say that I GET anxious to an extreme, but I know for a fact that I absolutely don’t suffer from anxiety. I’m just glad I’m able to decipher the two!
I think it's mostly being nervous being confused with having anxiety.
Yeah I get anxious because I'm very very introverted and hate talking to other people. Most people who say "Omg I have anxiety" usually it just means they get nervous some times.
anxiety is literallt an irrational fear of somethinf simple but something you believe may kill you. like i legit cannot go into enclosed places i will throw up and it feels like my boDY IS GONNA LITERALLT SHUTDOWN
No. they mix anxiety disorder with anxiety
I absolutely HATE people who say that they have anxiety/depression just to play the card and try to get pity.
maeam Anxiety is so life-consuming and it really disappoints me to see people WANTING to have anxiety. I can’t imagine a soul on this world who would actually want to go through something so monstrous. It’s honestly so stupid, and offensive for those who actually have mental disorders :(
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Those types of people may or may not have those illnesses but bottom line is they are *emotional manipulators* . Be wary of manipulators. It's not uncommon for depression/anxiety or that self deprecating behavior to coincide with personality disorders and some people with certain personality disorders can be manipulators. *Not all* but *some* .
I hate when people say they have it but truly have no idea it's full extent.
Ik sometimes I can’t even get out of bed my depression is so bad. Sometimes I can’t go to sleep due to anxiety. I’ve had to see a therapist since the age of two and I’m on depression and anxiety meds
I don’t tell people this because I hate sympathy and pity. I only talk to people about this subject who suffer with the same stuff, because it helps them and myself
I don’t have depression, but I have OCD and it’s a living nightmare. All of the things you used to love can become your biggest fears and when you get a thought that scares you, it won’t leave you alone until a new obsessive thought comes. I never want to have depression. It seems so horrible.
someone tried to correct my disorder and said it was obsessive cleaning disorder 😀🤦
I have ocd too, I hate it so much. It isn’t just being clean. I struggled with themes such as contamination, pedophilia, sexual orientation, germs. And they all killed me.
I literally had a fight with an 11 year old and she randomly mentioned that she was depressed and said I was bullying her because she had depression. 😒
Why did you have a fight with an 11 year old lol
I'm her age, and I can feel the physical cringe.
Also, why fight an 11 year old?
I know you wrote this three years ago but have you tried educating her on the actual meaning of depression? I used to be like that around the ages of 12 and 13 because of how young I was and being on social media at that age. I remember seeing tweets, seeing videos of my favorite UA-camrs, as well as media in general talking about these sort of things and I was a bit young to fully understand what it meant to actually have these mental illnesses. It wasn’t until I was more informed by others as well educating myself on what it meant to actually have these mental illnesses that I stopped saying these things.
“I thought I was bipolar, turns out I’m just an asshole” yeah, that shirt definitely doesn’t make it seem like bipolar people are awful
Television Tracker things like that are why I hated myself for years after being diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
i AM
I think this one is actualy not about people with bipolar disorder, but the actual assholes, who claim to be bipolar to exuse their mood swings.
It doesn’t lol. Only dumb people think it does.
this really makes me angry. i like making jokes about my bipolar disorder with my boyfriend to "lighten it up" when it gets hard for me but this isn't even a joke, he's just an asshole and that has nothing to do with bipolar.
"social media is not your therapist"
now thats the best (and positive) quote
someone go back and tell that to my stupid-ass 13-year-old self
and tumblr
Yes!
Therapists don't give a shit about you anyway, it's not like they think about you 24/7 and are actually trying to help you.
They tell you shit you hear everyday, all they want is money.
honestly i've had a worst experience with a therapist vs social media. i went and had a panic attack the whole time i was there.
"I aM So DePrEsSeD I WaNt To EnD mY LiFe UwU"
-14 year old roblox girl
Uwi
"Yeah I have OCD actually. I feel okay telling you that because I really feel like we've formed a friendship and trust that you'll accept me, despite something that get in the way of my relationships a lot of the time."
"Omg same! I like cannot stop cleaning all the time! What about you what's your OCD quirk?!"
"I feel stuck in the same repetition
of thoughts and patterns and find myself obsessing over the countless ways something can be done over and over. It doesn't really stop, I can only try my best to focus on other things, often giving only half my attention to friendships and conversations as my brain gnaws away at all the imperfections around me. Even correcting them doesnt do anything but fuel the fire. I'll stumble into panic attacks mid day from nowhere and I wont understand why, only that all of my friends and family look at me in worry or uncomfort. I feel like a monster."
"Omg like that's the same for me but like I canNOT stop cleaning like geeze"
:(
Lmao,cringednso hard
Im so sorry thats happening. Your not alone. Your loved. Dont ever let someone tell you otherwise
People with anxiety wouldn't wear things in public that say that they have anxiety
IKR if I was a youtuber I would put out merch that says
“Depression isn’t an aesthetic”
Or
“Mental illnesses aren’t quirky nor a personality trait”
@@faye.378 i would wear a pin badge that says those, or maybe like a wristband or something small
I'm a natural blue yessss
NEVER!
CJR huh?
“join the anxiety fam”
🤮🤮
lil meow meow he was joking. His name’s Joey Kidney and he does have diagnosed anxiety, he was just making a satire on how some people use mental illnesses to get views or money :)
@@fulanodetal3000 oh, thank GOD i have context
I LITERALLY GAGGED WHEN I HEARD THAT
Min Yoongi ikr it’s gross like-
Just join thw BTS ARMY fam, its safe there
as a teenager with MULTIPLE mental health struggles, these people piss me off because *I* don't get taken seriously when I tell people my problems. I can't even get properly diagnosed, because people keep faking it.
what a load of horseshit. First of all, maybe dont tell people your problems, its not a badge of honour or some personality trait. "as a teenager with multiple health struggles". Damn you rly think thats some sort of flex. Secondly, and believe me id know, the process to getting diagnosed has not changed one bit with the rise of mental health romanticization. Mental health professionals and counselors and hospitals work just as efficiently as it always has. maybe ur going in for the wrong thing, or maybe its not a mental health issue, but a physical issue that affects ur mental health. Rehab centers did not stop working during the 90s heroin chic era. stop making shit up
The “stop being so sad/dramatic/unenergetic/down” like it’s a switch really irks me because i get told it nearly on a daily basis and it makes me feel worse and the fact that people romanticise/promote a mental illness that I, like many others struggle with and when I personally see these I shut down and they do NOT help whatsoever.
"join the anxiety fam" wtf
That dude looks and sounds like someone who barely knows what anxiety is...
Jordan Hanneson that was sarcasm and he really does have anxiety
@@sam-tu5bk he is still making a joke of it. doesn't matter if its "sarcasm" or not
It was sarcastic:) If you watch the video where it's from, you'll see that the boy's also talking about glamorizing mental illnesses!
"Suicidal squad where y'all at?" Wtf-
Everyone gets anxious, but not everyone gets anxiety.
Edit: I didn't copy, I wasn't aware of the comment that was like mine at the time.
This comment is so true
Please tell this to all the youtubers who as soon as shit hits the fan are like "omg guys but I have anxiety and depression feel sorry for me". Like no one is denying how anxious or sad a scandal can make a person but it doesn't entitle them to just use the mental illness excuse for sympathy
Could not have said it better! Well done!
Nigga i agree wit u , but don’t act like u didn’t copy the nigga above ur comment
Yes, exactly. People who just get anxious DO NOT KNOW WHAT ANXIETY IS LIKE. It’s so much more than just ‘getting anxious’. I have GAD (generalised anxiety disorder) and OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder), which are both forms of anxiety. And they’re horrible. Stop romanticising disorders.
"Join the anxiety fam" no thank you
I don’t have anxiety but if I did I’d definitely be as disgusted as I am.
9 out of 10 stories in my WhatsApp is about their "depression" and their lonely and sad life and the next day they post pictures of their outings at some beach. I grew up with an mentally ill person (don't worry it's not me) and the only thing I learnt is if you are mentally ill then you try to hide it by acting normal.
HAVING MENTAL ILLNESS IS NOT COOL
Same here. I tend to block those chats before I get crinze overdose
people love the idea of having a mental illness until they lose all their friends from cancelling plans, have constant joint pain from immobility, make their mom cry for hours, and drive away people they love
Exactly! It’s not a “quirky” trait to have like these people try to make it out. It’s not being able to sleep, not being able to make new friendships or losing old friends, crying before going into work or crying at night and the list goes on...it’s a horrible thing.
Just wondering, how does a mental illness give you joint pain?
@@jalapenobusinesss Depressed people often suffer from executive dysfuction too, aka they struggle with organization, focus, motivation and time management. This either results in sleeping most of the day, or in an addiction to self-distraction. This can be drug use, watching TV, smartphone addiction, etc. Especially sleeping too long and modern distraction advices cause immobility and therefore joint pain (and other physical health issues).
b232 i personally struggled with a lot of joint pain because of immobility, when i was in a very horrible mental state i wouldnt leave my bed other than to go to the bathroom and being that sedentary causes a lot of issues in joints and muscles. even after i started to recover and started moving around a lot, it took months for my body to get used to it and it was extremely painful
M S very true. i am sorry you seem to have struggled with this as well:( i hope you are recovering well and have a wonderful day❤️
I have diagnosed PTSD and depression, but people often don't believe me because nowadays 90% of the teens claim to be depressed and says they want to die.
They do but depression also actually IS on the rise for teenagers because the world is fucked. So... 😑
PTSD however is separate from that, this is not a widely romanticised thing (luckily, because it stinks and can be extremely debilitating, dissociating at work is not fun!) I don't understand why people feel the need to be immediately dismissive of people. My guess is because they don't have the emotional capacity to listen to it if it were actually true.
I hope you have a good doctor and manage to get better my dear. It's a sucky road to recovery but well worth travelling.
@Makena Houston Yeah this cutesification of mental health problems is a blight on humanity. I don't think it's helping with acception much either which is badly needed. I mean it has got better but it's still not good.
@Makena Houston As someone who struggles daily with mental illnesses these people piss me off. I vividly remember an encounter with one of these people. She was your typical looking Tumblr user and I was paired up with her for an English presentation. I practiced and memorized my part to get it over with and to get a good grade. When the day arrived this girl didn't even have her papers with her and told the teacher that she couldn't present because she had "social anxiety". In our school if you've been professionally diagnosed or even if you've been showing symptoms of any illness, you get a note on your file. There was no note for this girl and when she was told to get up there, she cried and said that we triggered her. We both failed.
@@whathaveidone7512 No offense but your school doesn't seem to be that good if they would fail you through no fault of your own... That girl is annoying for sure but your school shouldn't give one student the power to bomb another's grade.
There’s a difference between merch that glamorizes mental illness and merch that starts a conversation. I suffer from depression and anxiety and am a huge mental health advocate. I have a shirt saying “stigma is a social construct” that starts a conversation (and I’ve had many conversations with ppl abt what my shirt meant) A shirt saying “my anxiety has anxiety” glamorizes it. Memes can be used as coping for mental illness but shouldn’t be used to mock or glamorize it.
Additionally many ppl who self harm don’t want to die. I myself started hurting myself before I was suicidal. Also those quotes I used as coping but I can understand the perspective you have.
Meming about your mental issues definetely doesn't scream phsycopathy
@@sbevexlr848 why should one always have to feel bad? We're already suffering, why not make light of it?
@@sbevexlr848 Memeing about mental illness in certain occasions is more than fine. A lot of people joke about their mental illness as a way of coping with it.
@@harry3676 that's just cringe, you aren't relating to many people and how people joke about is quite stupid and not funny, if you make memes about "hahaha I have mental illness" then Guess what, nobody will laugh except for a bunch of retarded 13 year old girls I honestly find it stupid
I don't even like to wear clothes that have words on it cause I don't want people to look at me and read it
*cries once*
Oh I aM dePrEsSeD
*is diagnosed by a professional, has suicidal thoughts, is always fatigued, has no enjoyment in hobbies anymore, can't remember anything, either sleeps too much or too little, eats too much or too little, ruins relationships with family and friends, goes to therapy*
are you sure you're depressed? maybe you should try to be happy and drink a lot of water :) uwu
Miranda Zhao
I actually should see a therapist if I’m being honest. What you just said is what I do. And I wanna get diagnosed from a professional
@@pig6860 yeah you should do that!
Miranda Zhao yes! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Ughh i legit know someone like thissss
Also likes at 420 so dont wanna add to it
*"I HAVE OCD BUT I ONLY CLEAN THINGS WHEN I'M IN THE MOOD BECAUSE I'M ALSO BIPOLAR"* Wtf it doesn't make any sense!?
And also, the ignorance and lack of a simple research about a serious mental illness, literally pisses me off.
WTF is correct. People are blatantly ignorant.
@@NuanceSociety what do you mean by its correct?
Cute as a button Every single one of you she meant that you are right : what’s wrote on the shirt doesn’t make any sense.
I think the OCD part is the worst part of this, as there's 6 varieties
So which it could be is that
@@fantasyalover4782 I think they mean that they agree with you when you said wtf
if humour is your coping mechanism, it can get reaallyy awkward sometimes
I was diagnosed with Anorexia nervosa, and spent months in the hospital. Seeing all these people romanticising this terrible, deadly illness, convincing young teens that restricting will magically solve their problems, an eating disorder will make them "uniqe&quirky", making EDs seem 'aesthetic'... It's just toxic.
GO👏GET👏YOURSELF👏 DIAGNOSED👏BY👏A👏 PROFESSIONAL👏
Katherine Kendall cant rlly say i have anxiety, SINCE i’m WAYY to scared to ask my dad if i can talk to a professional😔
@@quinnp3950 There are resources online for dealing with anxiety if you can't see a doctor. Most of the treatment for it just involves recognising it (and learning about panic attacks) and prevention/ways to cope. For example, there's something called the mammalian diving reflex which can help stop panic attacks (you basically just need a container of water) that you can google how to use. It's weird but it does work. If you can though, try to talk to someone about it, it's difficult to deal without support of some kind.
Ik I definitely need too, i realized it's not normal to damn near cry while trying to answer questions during an interview & having "what if" moments
@@quinnp3950 I'm obviously not in your situation, and have no idea what's happening, but you do have to realize that this is *your* mental health, not your dad's. Yes, I understand that you have to get permission and maybe financial help to go see someone, but you can also recognize that it's your responsibility to start taking care of yourself. You may need to shop around to find someone who you click with, but I promise that when you do, you will feel so so so much better. And if I were you, I wouldn't let my dad come in between me and that.
EXACTLY. Don’t self-diagnose yourself for attention.
This is kinda why some people don’t speak up about their issues because people think it’s edgy or for attention, it’s sad that people are using it for clout and that
I think that's not the only reason
@@saso5096 Not the only one no but a prominent one, I've got tons of disorders from my abusive parents and obvious ptsd with anxiety but never feel comfortable talking about those things but some people just seem to talk about those things so easily and I never see them in the symptoms, they never freeze, get scared, afraid of loud noises, don't apologize, don't listen, exist without guilt and it just comes off as pretend because these are delicate topics for us man, someone with anxiety can't be the funny person because we are wayyyy too fucking self conscious.
EXACTLY!!! people get sad once and claim they’re depressed while people suffering everyday with this illness stays silent in fear of this bc of the attention seekers that do it for attention
Mo-lester - I know these are just words, but you’re doing well, you’re so strong, keep going, you’re doing well, blessings wait for you, I know they’re just words, but I hope they’ll be enough, and when it gets hard, just take a moment to breathe, take a deep breath in and let everything go, if you ever need someone, I’m here for you okay
You’re doing well, 💙
EXACTLY. I don't like talking about why I have to go to therapy because the first thing I hear is "actually, since you're "bragging" about it I don't think you need it at all". Like WHAT. I just trusted you enough to want to tell you that my health is declining in a certain area and you're really going to blow me off like that?
Thank you. It is really hard to see all those people claiming they have ADHD, for example, who literally have completely normal lifes. Seriously. If your life is pretty okay, you probably do not have a neurological disorder. It's not an internet personality test to summarize your quirks.
"Destroy yourself, see who gives a fuck" is lyrics to Laid to Rest, by lamb of god. The song does not romanticize mental illness. It's about a murder victim coming back and driving his killer to destruction.
You wouldn’t put the definition of cancer on a hoodie so why is it ok to put anxiety on a hoodie?
Exactly
Gracie Boo exactly! I’ve gone through both of depression and cancer, sadly, and i dont think you should cash off of any of them.
@@beekidsart1176 I hope you're doing okay ❤
I'm a natural blue i am, thank you💗
Does all the Pink Ribbon merchandise count?
Oppression is starting to become something everyone wants. The more “oppressed” you are the more empowered/special you are.
Exactly. I say this as someone very liberal (i’m a black bisexual sex worker) but i’m getting real fed up with everyone wanting a lane and being desperate to be oppressed. People are starting to equate having a marginalization (gay, trans, poc) with being a good person and that’s why so many people want to be “oppressed” nowadays.
atrapforfools I couldn’t agree more, I’m just wondering where this all started. Stonewall, MLK, or some other events?
Haley’s Time Capsule you’re waaay misunderstanding my point if you think stonewall or mlk have anything to do with what i was saying.
atrapforfools Well you don’t think this has a start point? The reason I mentioned this is because before that time REAL oppression was a thing, and being different was damn near a crime. After these events though, you can see the “I wanna be oppressed” wave grow more and more.
atrapforfools And I do think that they’re equating oppressed to being a good person. Just more credibility to speak on “touchy” subjects.
Glad I saw this. Even though it's 2 years old if anything it's even MORE prevalent. Another issue I see is the overuse of 'triggered' and 'triggers' and the romanticization of PTSD. My Psychotherapist recently diagnosed me and let me say... It doesn't feel good to know that I have it and I want to fix it. So many people thinking they have PTSD when they are really just... Upset or uncomfortable with something. Having it isn't fun or a 'quikry personality trait'. It's something to be dealt with and treated so that life can move on.
I think it’s mostly because depression inspires art sometimes, lots of artists are depressed so perhaps there’s an influx of creation based around that experience 🤷🏼♀️
I’m so tired of people telling me, “You don’t have depression, stop acting like you do.”
I’ve never said I had depression. I want help. I want to stop self harming. Stop hating myself. Stop lying to everyone. I haven’t gone to sleep earlier then 2 am in three weeks. I want to disappear. So no, I am not diagnosed with depression, and I will not self diagnose as depressed.
*Just because you’re sad, doesn’t mean you have depression, and just because you don’t have depression doesn’t mean you don’t need help*
I'm really sorry. Hang in there:)
Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 3:12-14
Go to fucking therapy. I'm serious kid/possibly adult but I doubt it. You're probably scared to. You're probably spiralling. But if you want help, you need to go out on your own and get it, talk to your school counselor, and don't expect someone else to figure out that you're sad and do it for you. Before it gets out of control, do something. Don't LET YOURSELF just wait around for help, get help.
Spot on
To be fair since you haven't received help, as far as I'm concerned, you dont know what you may or may not have. But what you have doesn't matter. Its the symptoms that are important, and its treating those symptoms that are of the utmost importance. Ive learned over time after obsessing over my diagnosis, its just a label to a classify a set of symptoms. Treat the symptoms that you have. Go see a therapist, and if need be even a psychiatrist. Everyone needs therapy at some point in their life if you ask me, depression or not
Kurt Corbain’s suicide letter on a shirt is literally so disgusting wtf
Thanks capitalism
@@lullabymangija2971 sounds like communist propaganda but okay
Word...
Ikr I didn't know that could even exist in any world! Who sat down and thought "that would be a good thing to put on a t-shirt!" That's so terrible.
And they know nothing about kurt cobain's death.
then in some movies when the girl gets an “anxiety attack” and then the guy hugs her to calm her and then she feels something she never felt before and becomes better,,, like boy lemme tell u 🙂
this is so true. its so annoying how people want to have it because they think its so cute and/or they think they'll get pity points. they don't understand how hard it is. and when a friend is going through it they avoid them, because they could care less and find it annoying. they want it until they can't leave their bed for anything. avoid making plans because its too tiring and they just want to be alone. drift away from friends and family. they want it until nothing feels worth it. they want it until they don't care what they do and don't know what they want in life and everything is pointless. they want it until they can't take care of themselves: brushing hair/teeth, eating, showering. They want it until they see all the thing that go into it. I really wish not only just depression, but any mental illness, was not romanticized as something everyone should want. its not cool. its not quirky. its exhausting.
I hate when people say, "Are you sure you have ADHD? You don't seem very hyper." ADHD is way more than being hyper🤦♀️
Abbie Moore yeah! my friend has a very severe case of it, and she isn't hyper at all.
YES THANK YOU
Abbie Moore Oh my god! People do this to me all the time when I tell them I have ADD they always say, “Just focus”. If I could I would, why would I choose to make my harder by “choosing” not to focus?!
Thank you for saying this. One of my siblings has adhd and he has way more symptoms than hyperactivity and whatever other stereotypes that people say about adhd
ThAnK yOu. I absolutely hate it when people say “you can’t possibly have ADHD. If you did, you’d be running around the room now”
Buddy, then how do you explain that I keep reading the same page over and over again? And how do you explain that I’m bouncing my foot under the table? Or that you caught me spacing out so many times now?
I'm almost 13, and I've suffered from anxiety since I was about seven, and it later developed into ocd (clinically diagnosed by a psychologist). All mental illnesses are NOT an aesthetic, they're mentally and physically draining. They affect our every day lives - right down to our family and relationships with others. Something that disgusts me so much is the fact that people stereotype ocd as a need to CLEAN. Some people even go as far as saying that they wish they were related to someone who had ocd so they could CLEAN FOR THEM! That in itself is so disgusting I literally cannot explain fully how wrong it is. This seriously needs to stop, and people need to start taking mental illneses more seriously.
Thank you.
I think South Park explains it best when Kyle says “Everyone has anxiety, everyone gets nervous, everyone is afraid of being around other people, everyone has feelings that they would want to stay home alone and you know what they do. They get over it!”
I legit am terrified to admit to people how badly my anxiety hurts me because it's so normalized in media. Like anytime I talk about it someone just pops up with "oh well everyone has that nowadays" and I'm like......well I can't leave the house so....
My psychology professor has said before people don’t understand the difference. Yes everyone has anxiety TO THE NORMALIZED EXTENT. An anxiety DISORDER is excessive and crippling and disruptive in daily life. The disorder tends to have unusual or even daily stressors, long term and intense excessive worry and stress and other symptoms than just that stress. I hope coping and treatment becomes easier and easier and you can find comfort in things that should give you comfort. That the static and panic leaves you alone more day by day. 40 million American adults have an anxiety disorder and it’s very treatable. You can do this. I believe in you. Just be the you that believes in you. Don’t let it cloud your hope.
Elly Green yes, or they’ll say, “omg same” 1!1!
I literally was told by my parents that I have really bad anxiety but I didn’t want to tell the school nurse that (I didn’t believe it I just think I’m a stressed teen)when I once lost my necklace that when I felt that awful gut wrenching feeling or when I was about to pace my hands up and down my legs or when my leg starting to shake to the point where my feet would feel numb I just took the necklace and rubbed it against my chin and it sometimes helped but when I lost it I just became so stressed I started scratching my arm I didn’t realize and my arm was starting to bleed so I got sent to her and to this day she probably still thinks I did it for attention but this was at a time where I couldn’t even step foot into my classroom without crying which I would alway get yelled at for. People just don’t understand how hard it is to stop crying so much it was like I couldn’t control it so whenever someone calls someone a “ crybaby” I say you don’t know how hard it is to not cry like that you don’t know the struggles they are trying to go through to fix that people are just so dumb these days and have no sense of empathy. All my teachers hated me this year for the longest time because whenever they randomly called on me even though 99% I knew the answer I would just freeze and smile cause I smile and laugh and shake like no other when I feel nervous so all of them except one probably believed it was a publicity stunt and all of my friends usually call me a scaredy cat or whatever because when doing something my mind goes to the worst possible outcome of that activity or event and always stops me from doing it and it leaves me to feel so insecure about it. I have tried so hard not to be like this but it never works. I also have really bad social skills and I’m very socially awkward so I don’t talk to people I don’t know very well and they are always like “ so I see you are playing the shy game” like no I don’t choose to play this dumb game it’s just something that pops out of my personality but of course I only say that in my head.
Adora Angelina thank you long distance hugs back
Me too, I also don’t want people to waste their times worrying about me. I honestly kind of regret going to therapy cause I feel like I’m taking up a spot that someone who is possibly suicidal or just anything worse than what I’m going through could really use.
*cries very few times, eats regularly, sleeps regularly, has good relationships with everyone*
i HaVe DePrEsSiOn
I just want to add that you don't have to cry a lot to have depression. I've been diagnosed with depression but hardly cry at all because I can't.
@@angietorreano7508 oh yeah, same I was diagnosed and i do cry and break down often but sometimes i try to make myself and it's just difficult argh. But i was inferring that with that level of ignorance, they believe that crying is just depression.
@@saltybutnotverysweet3862 Yeah I knew what you meant, I wasn't disagreeing with you in anyway. I'd just thought I'd add that since people tend to think that all people with depression cry a lot. I literally had a friend tell me once that I don't have depression because I've been friends with them for years and they've never seen me cry. People really need to more educated on the subject lol.
@@angietorreano7508 yeah true lol, like dude if you aren't familiar with it then don't speak about it tell people they don't have it
@@kw2183 Dude, that's really fucked up. You should definitely see someone about that most people don't just go around killing animals for fun.
my reaction to this is just..
why?
why would people think it's "qUirKy"
why would people romanticize it
why would people scream that they have a mental illness off the rooftops then ignore the people that actually need help
why?
Its honestly disappointing to hear people be like: "I'm depressed *does peace sign, while zooming in* Mental Illness is NOT a trend. It's a really terrible and dangerous thing so many people go through. It's so disrespectful to make it as a joke.
What sick person would put a suicide note on a shirt!?!
Lillian an extremely sick person
Lillian what sick person would buy this shirt is the real question
Carmen Peguero i know right it’s unbelievably disgusting and offensive
Yeah it's so gross. I feel sorry for the person... Like seriously it's wrong
Satan
I struggle with anxiety and I wouldn’t wear a sweater advertising it. It feels so fake marketing like that.
I would for sure wear something like "I have anxiety. I'm not seeking attention. Please help. Idk when my next episode will be." I had an absolutely horrible attack at school and the cops thought I was wither seeking attention or on drugs. I do think there should be clothes out there that at least help spread awareness or something like "Anxiety isn't cute" or something.
yeah I have an anxiety disorder too and it sucks and it gets annoying when people are using the label 'anxiety' as a trendy phrase and not a real mental disorder which it is
I have neurological and immune disorders which in extreme cases I can collapse or become very ill suddenly. I have some cards on a lanyard which i wear under my clothes and explain what is happening, if they need to call and ambulance or if I just need to be left alone for a while to recover. Otherwise someone might assume I'm drunk or on illegal drugs. When I feel it come on then and only then will I wear the lanyard over the top of my clothes!
There is this odd concept that being ill requires some sort of badge of honour. In some circumstances of course it is necessary to raise awareness however it isn't a fashion choice.
I also have anxiety but i wouldnt wear a sweater either i mean is not something that define me is just something to deal with.
I can't agree with you more, having a mental illness isn't something aesthetic, It's a real thing that is bothering people, and the fact that people fake it is so terribly unfair.
i hate how i totally agree with the statement: "depression and anxiety is not an aesthetic" but that i'm still worried that i'm not "mentally sick" enough to fit into this society. -.-
like... wtf has this world done to me that my inner me thinks it's unnormal and boring to not be mentally ill?!?!?!?
I guess it's because we perceive that there are so many ppl with mental illness around us that makes us think we are the outsiders
I mean, sometimes just genuinely smile makes me feel like guilty as hell since i think that everybody around are in agony and doing that is not right
I know it isn't not true that everybody is depressed or have mental illness but seeing so many comments or many times they are mentioned just makes me feel that being optimistic is just .. a little lonely . (Ofc that doesn't mean I want to be depressed or sth to fit in, no ways bc i'm not depressed and i'm not gonna try to be ) but rlly, what in the world happens to guys like us
@@anhtho7042 it's actually pretty helpful to see that i'm not the only one who feels like that...
in my case it's important to say that i have 2 best friends that are actually mentally ill and they both have boyfriends...
maybe my insecure ass feels like:"if you're not mentally ill you'll never get a boyfriend, because you're boring as hell and very ugly..."
i guess we're just too broken for this world
me: *has a deep rant about my feelings and the way anxiety hurts me*
people: “LMAO MOOD 😂😭”
It's so bad ikr. I feel sorry for you
At least it's better than getting "Stop being selfish!" or "You're a coward!"
Its so rude
That’s just rude. I hope you’re doing well.
SERIOUSLY.
Not feeling like having a party on your birthday isn't depression my dude
Mels 🤣
Jesus fuck stop liking this shitty comment my phone is gonna explode
OMFG THAT GIRL WHO GOES “I have depression” AND THEN SMILES
You can smile but have depression dumbass
You can smile but have depression dumbassX2
@@atanaZion you ever smiled WHILE talking about your depression? It’s not what I’d call a happy topic
I stumbled across your account last night and seriously can't stop watching. You address issues so plainly yet respectfully and with valid logic that's not just stemmed from you wanting to cause chaos! Keep it up! Love your material! Thanks for having a moral compass and looking out for this generation by actually talking about things rationally ♥️ love you
"Social media is not your therapist" NOW THAT'S A GOOD T-SHIRT.
I dont know why people brag about it and people feel it makes them look “cool”. Or “relatable and quirky”. I. Am. So. Pissed.
Yes this is sick
Yep. Same here. I've dealt with anxiety my entire life and it isn't something I'm proud of! Like fuck everyone who thinks anxiety is cute or cool. It's not. It sucks.
Elizabeth Greenawald i know i struggle every day
grace ava I totally agree. Depression and Anxiety ruined everything in my life and I don’t see why people would want mental illnesses.
And the real victims just get marked as ”attention-whores”, like wtf?!
with these 14-year-olds claiming to be depressed, it takes it away from actual young people who are told they are lying, recently I was told by my therapist that my anxiety sounded like it started very early on in life (8-9 years old) but was told that it wasn't anxiety i was just "a worried kid"
I was diagnosed with severe anxiety at age 12 and it’s pretty annoying seeing that kind of thing. It’s ALSO annoying when people say “Anxiety is ok” and “Anxiety is just nerves” GIRL it’s horrible and the same seriousness and risk of all the mental illnesses.
Same, when I was 3 I was diagnosed with anxiety and my grandma would say that everyone has anxiety
@@squeakSquak LMAOOO
It’s a shame that despite how “mainstream” anxiety and depression is, people still don’t know how to help others with it🤷♀️
I don't even know how to help myself with it, so I don't know how to help others with it... mental health is a topic that doesn't even exist in schools and probably never will for a long time
+Juicy Pear try seeking help. From a professional like a therapist.
There is antidepressants and therapy/ in my case they just teach coping skills. Antidepressants do help increase productivity levels and make u overall feel less shitty
@@naritruwireve1381 I take antidepressants and have a therapist. I really depends on the person, tbh. Like in the place I went to, they had an afterschool program. They also had a day program, which is where u take school there at the hosiptal. I just take individual therapy and now the next step is just group therapy which Im anxious about cause I hate new people.
@@natalieperez9887 I don't know if I can get meds and get a therapist without letting my parents know since I'm still young and not 100% independent. But the thing is my parents are the type who are like "You're sick? It's cause you ate that fried chicken. Headache? Because you didn't dry your hair. Depressed? Cause you don't see the sun enough." which is like _sure,_ but no.
what people don’t understand: being nervous doesn’t mean you have anxiety. being sad doesn’t mean you have depression. not being able to sleep for one night doesn’t mean that you have insomnia. not eating one meal doesn’t mean you have anorexia. loving yourself doesn’t mean you have narcissistic personality disorder. liking neatness doesn’t mean you have OCD. overeating one day doesn’t mean you have binge eating disorder.
I love your username
Stranger Things Fan thanks i do too :3
le child of satan i agree!
I feel like it's a majority of tweens/younger children that are trying to be unique. If you've ever heard of the Gacha Life community, I find that that app may be a big factor on why younger kids find depression/mental illness just a quirky personality trait.
Kiori Park i feel like that too. it’s not cool or fun to have a mental illness. it’s something you struggle with your entire life. you wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. it’s a huge problem that people think it’s awesome to have a mental illness.
It's much more difficult for people to open up about their own mental illness given this trend. Opening up almost feels like I am giving the impression of being part of a trend. The seriousness is gone. Now its just an adjective.
I suffer from social anxiety and suffered from depression and even suicidal thoughts (don't reply or something I'm just sharing this story to help his point) and if someone gave me the option to get rid of my mental issues i would immediately say yes, mental illness doesn't define me, i like comics and old movies, I'm a geek, I'm extremely sarcastic most of the time, i make a lot of pop culture references, i like to draw, my mental health doesn't define my personality. I wish i didn't have social anxiety, i wish i never had depression, because it's not a part of my personality, when i introduce myself to someone i don't say "hey i had depression and was thinking of killing myself around a year and a half ago", no i don't say that, because, well... Our problems don't define us
This guy presented his case really respectfully without bashing anyone without context. Good job my dude
I hate this too cause then it makes us mentally ill people feel like we can’t be open about our mental health cause we’ll be “faking”
GRACE JIANG What’s the emoji? And completely feel you, people act like mental illness is a fandom.
This
GRACE JIANG same omg
GRACE JIANG you too!
This!!!
I was diagnosed with PTSD after living with it for almost a decade. It pisses me off beyond belief when people joke about seeing something vaguely sexual or "funny" and then immediately go "Oooooh my Goooooood I got PTSD from it!" No, you didn't. I can't explain what living with PTSD is like to someone who doesn't have it, but believe me when I tell you- it's not "fun", it's not an aesthetic, and it's not something that happens after a situation makes you uncomfortable. It makes living your day-to-day life hell. Please, stop making it a joke. And while we're at it, PTSD is not just being scared of loud noises. It's:
- living with the constant fear that you're in danger
- always being on alert, ready to flee, hide or fight if something were to happen
- getting triggered by sounds, smells, colours etc.
- being unable to be in crowds or at social gatherings without feeling a sense of panic
- impaired concentration
- loss of short-term memory and /or memory in general
- insomnia
- nightmares
- being scared of loud noises (yes, and it's f*cking awful)
- muscle pain
- flashbacks
- (in my case) fear of people touching you or being close to you
- intimacy problems
- shame and self-hatred
- not being allowed to get your drivers license (yes, this is a thing in certain cases)
- loss of social skills
- depression
- self-harm
- suicidal thoughts and/or tendencies.
I appreciate you for making this video and I agree 100% with everything you said. We need more influencers like you to spread awareness on this issue, rather than continuing to romanticize it