Our Personal Struggle with Intimacy In Marriage
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- Опубліковано 14 сер 2018
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In this episode, we share our personal struggle with physical intimacy in the first 4 years of our marriage. We thought we had done everything right by saving our selves for marriage and believed God owned us a good healthy physical intimacy. But that was not how our marriage story began. In fact, we couldn't have intercourse for over 4 years. Listen and see how God used this trial to draw us closer to Himself and to each other. This part of our marriage story is also where our marriage ministry was born.
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When you talked about The Lord Jesus praying in the garden I lost it & wept! My husband & I have been married 12 yrs. We have struggled with intimacy for many reasons & that's why I felt led to listen to this video. But just before I watched my husband & i had been arguing about submission & love in marriage, which has been an ongoing struggle. I sought the Lord in prayer & the Spirit reminded me of Jesus' prayer in the garden & how He begged for the cup to be taken from Him. He told His disciples that His soul was very sorrowful, even to death. It says He was in agony while He prayed so earnestly His sweat became like great drops of blood falling to the ground. Yet He submitted out of obedience & love to the will of God. He calls us to count the cost & take up our cross & follow Him. He calls us to suffer. Then He rewards us for it. He reminded me that His will for me is impossible for me, but not for Him through me. And He will reward me when I submit to Him in obedience.🙏❤️🙌 Thank you & praise the Lord Jesus! Your video was confirmation of the Spirit's reminder to me that I am His & what He has called me to.❤️
Amen amen 🙏
Me and my wife just got in a huge argument and intimacy was the reason and I prayed that God will help. I browse UA-cam and I was hoping to see a video with these two and God did a miracle by them making this video. I will edit once I finished the video.
3 years later snd what happend??
Wow I have been married for 6 months and we are going through that and it’s so comforting to know that other people have been through it. Thank you
I’m sorry but through this testimony, you guys may have not only saved many marriages but maybe even LIVES. I pray that God would restore you to a place of love beyond what is even normal. A fire that would last a lifetime! God bless you❤️
I think a lot of couple nowadays struggle to distinguish between lust and love. Whereas lust is rooted in selfishness, love is founded in selflessness. Love motivates us to have deep feelings of compassion, empathy and emotional connection with those we care about. While lust, we neglect important relationships and abandon our own emotional and physical health because we are solely focused on satisfying our own cravings.
I’m so glad I found this. Not a lot Christians talk about these kind of topics, and it’s a shame. I’ve had similar issues w/ my husband, and I recently found out about pcos. I pray that it’s what’s going on w/ me too, and it’s not anything worse. Thank you for sharing your testimony and being so open about your struggles.
You have given me hope for my own marriage. Thank you for being transparent with us. I am encouraged every time I listen to you both. Hope is a word that has become very precious to me these past several years.I am going to fight for this marriage on my knees.
I love this so much! Amazing testimony, praise God! It´s amazing to see God give such wisdom to people, and using you to give testimony to other people! So great!
‘Learning how to be lovers for the rest of our lives.’ Amen.
This is such a profound testimony and it is really inspiring how you guys didn't give up on your marriage and you both chose to love each other like Jesus loves us. Through this I have been reminded to work to live my life with more wisdom, patience and endurance. God bless you both!
I completely appreciate your willingness to be honest and open with this! Married people struggle and need to have support
Wow! This video has encouraged me to work on my diet. I have struggled with eczema for the longest time knowing it's my diet. Now I know I need to be intentional with what meals I buy and make for myself and my family. Your testimony is quite encouraging in more ways than just the title.
I really appreciate your story. Thank you so much for sharing this. It's amazing how many of us struggle with something similar. The enemy wants us to be ashamed but what the enemy uses for evil God will use for good. Thank you again for your transparency. I also LOVE how taking care of your health changed your physical intimacy. God was helping you to become overall healthier in the long run. He is so good!
Thankyou for sharing this video.
This is the same thing I am going through with my Marriage.
We are working on this!!
GOD IS THE ANSWER.
🙌🏽🙌🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
I thank God for this testimony. I’m not married, but some of the things you guys struggled with personally, I was struggling with for a long time and it’s really shined a light on the darkness for me. I have lots of maturing to do before God sends me the man he’s prepared for me. This was very encouraging.
What an awesome story! I have been married 28 years and I don’t have the deep level of communication that you all did. I love how God really worked this out for your good. God bless you two for having the boldness to share, I pray it’ll be a blessing to many.
Thank you so much for sharing this bc these ARE issues some marriages go through. Keep up sharing for marriages. God bless you both!🙏🏽 Marriage is wonderful. 🙌🏽🥰
Yeshua has blessed you both. Patience is the fruit of the Spirit. Shalom
Lovely that you address these problems with a biblical perspective but so honest! I too was brought up with the no-no around sex and have worried it would cause issues in my marriage. Thank you!
This couple has been an encouragement to my struggles in my marriage
I so, so, so respect and admire your honesty and vulnerability here. We need more of this in the world.
Thank you so much! God Blessed me through you two today! This made my morning! 🌞
Thank you so much for this vid. I am almost 2 yrs into marriage and struggling with vaginismus. This video helped me a lot ❤️
Thank you so much for this! May the Lord continue to strengthen you both and bless you and your family!
Thank you for sharing your story. This is such a touchy topic but us newly married couples Christian couples really need it.
I understand this so much, that pain is so hard to define.. We both turned away from God and then from each other. I pray now for us to be restored.
Thanks for the Video clip! Excuse me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your thoughts. Have you considered - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (just google it)? It is an awesome exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some super things about it and my old buddy Taylor got amazing results with it.
So beautiful for you to share with story! Learned a lot of the importance of spiritually, communication, and love!
Appreciate Video! Sorry for butting in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (search on google)? It is a good exclusive product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the hard work. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my friend got excellent results with it.
You are so open. That takes so much courage, God bless you two. Keep it up.
What a wonderful couple, thank you for filming this. What great attitudes you have :)
You guys are inspiring, thank you 🙏
I can feel your love and interest, I can see you are really trying to help others telling your experience. I appreciate what you are sharing. I have been suffering marital sexual issues since the beginning of my marriage. It’s really difficult and I feel distressed, unfortunately I don’t see that my husband is willing to improve our intimacy. We are not doing a good job . So sad.But I enjoy hearing you , your good results! It’s a relief knowing that such a huge problem can be improved. ❤️
Wow, thank you for sharing this part of your story!
Wow, thank guys, really bold of you to put your story out like that, God bless!
I commend you guys and your courage for sharing your struggles with this. Grateful for it as well.
The realism of this, of your walk is absolutely stunning. At the 18:00 mark, speaking of your heart getting hard towards your husband and God. This is a realism that I ever seldom hear of from other Christians. Thank you both for the absolute openness of this story.
Yea and Christianity should NOT be like “customer service” where it’s “only the stuff that will sell it”
What an awesome story! The Holy Spirit is so amazing.
Totally agree about making things known so God can start the healing process!
Marten Dekker I meant God.
This was absolutely awesome!!! Thank you so much!
ooh the way im googling my facewash rn🤣🤣 praise God for you testimony! i'm finding lots of comfort from this as i haven't had the best experience in my own marriage. God bless you both
Really thank you for this video. We're experiencing exactly the same issue during the past four married years. There are not many helpful materials like this. Thank you. In God everything is possible.
Thank you for sharing your story again. It’s such a beautiful testimony of God’s grace and goodness and an inspiration to me to keep working on my marriage no matter how difficult things may seem! ❤️
Appreciate Video! Apologies for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (search on google)? It is a great exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the headache. Ive heard some super things about it and my friend Sam got amazing results with it.
Cheers for the Video! Apologies for butting in, I would appreciate your opinion. Have you heard about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is a smashing one of a kind product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my close friend Aubrey got great results with it.
Such a transparent discussion. I am thankful that I can find content on these topics/issues.
Nice Video! Forgive me for chiming in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you considered - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a search on google)? It is a good exclusive product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my close friend Aubrey at last got cool success with it.
Thank you for this video. I am currently a newly wed and am dealing with the exact same thing. This video gave me a ton of hope. My wife and I had lot of shame on our shoulders because of this. Thank you guys for reminding us to re-center our lives and lean in and pray.
We also going through that and we praying and hopeful. ❤
Wow, what a blessing to others, honest and lovingly shared! Thank you!
Thank you so much for sharing this. ❤️
We are here to serve others not ourselves. Porn use ruins everything.
Woooow 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 thank you Jesus for the wisdom applied by husband and wife . I could not believe paraben was the issue.
This is the best Christian conversation on this subject- thank you so much for this 🙏
Wooow promptings by the spirit 👏🏽👏🏽Prayer, wisdom, guidance 👏🏽👏🏽
So I just finished watching this video and my daily verse from my Bible app was this... “Let the peace of Christ keep you in tune with each other, in step with each other. None of this going off and doing your own thing. And cultivate thankfulness. Let the Word of Christ-the Message-have the run of the house. Give it plenty of room in your lives. Instruct and direct one another using good common sense. And sing, sing your hearts out to God! Let every detail in your lives-words, actions, whatever-be done in the name of the Master, Jesus, thanking God the Father every step of the way.”
Colossians 3:15 MSG” 😳😳👍🏼
Cheers for the Video clip! Forgive me for butting in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you considered - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (search on google)? It is an awesome exclusive product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my old buddy Taylor got excellent results with it.
Thank you so much for sharing your story more in depth! God works in such mysterious ways. I struggled with painful intercourse with my husband for our entire first year of marriage, and same thing all doctors told me that physically and according to my blood work, I’m totally healthy. We were both struggling with the same feelings of God “owing” us a fulfilled marriage because we remained pure and practiced abstinence until marriage.
During our first year of marriage I also had a spontaneous miscarriage, and that inspired in me to get rid of anything non-organic that I’m putting on or in my body.
Within a month we had our experience of first pain-free intercourse within our marriage!!! God is so good. Thank you for sharing so that others may have benefit from your story in similar ways. God bless you and your marriage, family, and ministry!!!
God destroyed you but you still believe in god?
@@allen719877726 how ?
Happened upon this video and saw your comment. Thank you for sharing your story. It means a lot because I'm in the same boat and this offers me hope!
Brisa Costera I’m so grateful that my story has helped you in some way!
Great Video! Apologies for the intrusion, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (should be on google have a look)? It is a smashing one off guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the normal expense. Ive heard some awesome things about it and my cooworker at last got great success with it.
Wow! Amazing testimony.
Petition to have a video of these products!!! What is your shaving cream ? Deodorant? Etc
Very encouraged. Thank you!
Nice Video! Apologies for chiming in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you researched - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a smashing exclusive product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my cousin after a lifetime of fighting got amazing success with it.
I love you both as family in God! Thank you for truth and vulnerability. This helps to know we can make it through struggles with intimacy. This is a blessing. Praying for your marriage, family and business too. Glory to God!
Thanks for the Video clip! Excuse me for butting in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you heard about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (probably on Google)? It is a good exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some decent things about it and my m8 at last got amazing success with it.
Lovely Video clip! Apologies for chiming in, I am interested in your opinion. Have you ever tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (should be on google have a look)? It is an awesome one off guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the hard work. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my best friend Jordan got cool success with it.
Great video content! Sorry for butting in, I would love your opinion. Have you heard about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (erm, check it on google should be there)? It is an awesome one of a kind product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some unbelievable things about it and my cousin finally got amazing results with it.
I'm a Muslim and I loved watching your show. ❤ May God bless your marriage. Ameen.
Kudos to you both for sharing. There are millions of women and couples struggling through vaginismus and it’s curable. So many health professionals are
Ill informed and giving horrible advice 😢 I hope more ministries in particular create space to dive into these kinds of intimacy and sex challenges more head on. That millions includes Believers and the enemy will continue to target marriage & any of our sins - especially sexual . People are being released from shame and condemnation bc of this 👏🏾this. Praying for grace and deepening for your marriage
every time i hear this/read this... when you finally get to the part where you finally could.... i tear up/cry! :) every time!! its just so amazing. how many times can i hear this story and still cry?? :)
ive had progesterone problems, which is likely the same thing. we had so much trouble getting pregnant with #2. and we only got pregnant after a progesterone shot. i dont know how/why we were able to get pregnant without trying for #3 and #4... :P but maybe that whole process, and changing soaps and stuff too... has kinda helped. the numbers dont show that, but theres discussion about how the blood test doesnt show it right anyway. right now im using bio identical progesterone cream through this pregnancy instead of the suppository i had to use last time from the doctor. anyway. yeah. its a big deal. dr john lee wrote books on hormones and stuff, and we're talking about solving, healing, preventing HUGE things like CANCER, just by using progesterone and balancing out what the environment (full of estrogen like substances) is doing to our bodies. and this even applies to MEN. men with testicular problems had improvements with progesterone creams. yes yes.
This is a powerful testimony.
Powerful.
Thank you for so open video... THANK YOU it is verry good and helps a lot.
Wow!! Thank you for this!!!
This subject has been a constant battle literally since day one. I am at the end of my rope, and not seeing any reason for hope for the future. The part of marriage that should be the most intimate and special has been a battlefield, and I don't have any energy left to keep fighting.
@@dmc123194 been struggling for 25 years. As I said, constant war. More times than I can count, I have been literally, physically pushed away and told I'm not wanted.
@@dmc123194 she is Christian. She just refuses to speak love to me in a way I understand. She won't speak my love languages, if you've read that book. I feel nothing positive for her. If I wasn't a Christian, I would have bailed already.
@@dmc123194 I'm trying, but I don't have much left.
I feel you.. I'm in the same situation... it's so frustrating
@Steve Adams . I'm in the same situation. My husband does everything for me financially and takes care of home but just refuses to have intimate time with me.
Wow wow wow wow thank you Jesus for this wonderful testimonies
Thank you both so much .... SPC Hale
You guys are so gracious to one another wow.
Great Video! Apologies for chiming in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (just google it)? It is a good one off guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my best friend Jordan after many years got excellent results with it.
What a great word and testimony 👏 Thanks
Praise God for your openness and honesty with all of us. Freedom in Christ. How long have you been married now?
11years
Thanks so much for having the courage to open up all your struggles. It is a sacrifice that I am sure is helping many.
Appreciate video content! Apologies for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (should be on google have a look)? It is a great exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my best friend Jordan at last got amazing results with it.
Lovely Video clip! Apologies for chiming in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you thought about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (google it)? It is a great one of a kind product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some super things about it and my close friend Aubrey got astronomical success with it.
Nice Video clip! Forgive me for the intrusion, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you ever tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is an awesome exclusive product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the headache. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my GF after a lifetime of fighting got excellent success with it.
Lovely video content! Excuse me for chiming in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you thought about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (google it)? It is a great exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the headache. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my work buddy at last got astronomical success with it.
Excellent Video clip! Sorry for the intrusion, I am interested in your opinion. Have you heard about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is a great one off product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some pretty good things about it and my GF finally got astronomical success with it.
I’m single... but this is truly fascinating and could be really useful once I find my husband!
A husband will find you.
Happy for you guys!
this is so 💯real
I love your videos❤ Keep up the good work.
Nice video content! Apologies for butting in, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you heard about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (just google it)? It is a great one of a kind product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some incredible things about it and my mate at very last got astronomical results with it.
Great Video clip! Forgive me for the intrusion, I am interested in your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (google it)? It is an awesome one of a kind product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my mate at last got cool success with it.
It’s a medical condition called Vaginismus. I’m surprised your gynaecologist (assuming you let them examine you with their fingers) would be able to diagnose. Otherwise it sounds like years of trauma, being told sex is a sin and her body automatically closing down. Shame hurts us in so many ways. I’m truly sorry you had to go through this and if you have children treat them to love their bodies so they have a positive relationship with themselves and through marriage.
he probably just doesn't turn her on?
@@geager2 I had the condition when I was super turned on by my boyfriend. It was horrible but my gynaecologist gave me excercises to get back to normal. Brought my fiancé to the appointments so he understood it wasn’t him. I’ve always loved sex so it was a terrible time.
Thank you for this.
God bless u both... And i wish u the best from all my heart...
how you look at each other while you tell this too... sooo precious. :)
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So encouraged, you both are ministers of hope through life with Christ. Thank you so much for sharing your story!! May the Lord continue to bless your intimacy and marriage, dear brother and sister.
Thank you!🙏🏼
"i can take what i am given, and serve" - well said, sir
the man goes from being a single man to being a husband, and thus his service begins...
Thanks for the Video clip! Excuse me for the intrusion, I would appreciate your opinion. Have you researched - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a search on google)? It is a smashing one off guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my cooworker after a lifetime of fighting got great results with it.
Honestly this is why I am really careful to define what “purity” means.
I will not allow religion to cause me or my husband sexual trauma.
I like that you guys talk about how the sex issues affected the other parts.
I am inspired that you guys stuck it out 4 years- this is one of the biggest things that pulled me to Christianity because I want marriage so bad, and it’s impossible in this era with Tinder and sociopathic dating (give everything and you most likely will lose the union) without God.
This is cool though-
I have alcoholism and food addiction and I’ve been sober for 3 years, and I’m recently vegan because cheese and meat can trigger my binge behaviors (cheese is addicting).
I can’t do anything that makes me a slave, and I’m grateful God fights for our freedom. It’s just the path can be scarier than the path we’d choose for ourselves-
But maybe we can’t see what we actually need to clean out in ourselves
Love this topic me and my husband actually have been thinking about sharing our story about this on our podcast. This has encouraged us to do so. Also where did you guy get tour mic we are trying to learn all we can on bringing our podcast to UA-cam
Oh nice! What’s your podcast link?
Everything changed after the tree of the knowledge of good and evil - God's Purpose was Redemption even before Creation - So how does Redemption become part of marriage/male - female relationships?
Thank you
Needed this. 💕
Nice video content! Forgive me for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you considered - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (probably on Google)? It is an awesome one off product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my mate at last got great success with it.
Cheers for the Video! Apologies for the intrusion, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (should be on google have a look)? It is an awesome one of a kind product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the headache. Ive heard some decent things about it and my friend Sam got cool results with it.
Appreciate Video clip! Sorry for chiming in, I would love your thoughts. Have you considered - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (search on google)? It is a great one off product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the normal expense. Ive heard some amazing things about it and my work buddy finally got astronomical results with it.
Appreciate video content! Apologies for the intrusion, I would love your opinion. Have you heard the talk about - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (search on google)? It is a good exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my cooworker after many years got cool results with it.
Can you share some of the toxin-free products you found to replace the bad ones? I'm interested in using them but it's been a lot of work to figure it all out. Thanks!
First 19 minutes are me rn 😭😭😭
awe did you have a baby crying? :) sooo cute. :)
Soo helpful Thankyou!! Do you have recommendation for shampoo/conditioners/ face washes? Thankyou
Thanks for the topic. Just some feedback from the listener. Please give each other a chance to speak without interrupting each other. It is very distracting from the listener's point. Thank you though. I did learn
Hi, I'm curious do parabens and glycerine negatively affect women who don't have PCOS? Any answers greatly appreciated
You two are very brave to share about the experiences of problems with sexual intimacy and the joys of overcoming it God's way.
As with masturbation, sexual fantasy and other misuse of the sexual drive, it is a very difficult topic. I really appreciate what you said about, " Marriage doesn't fix sin. "
Purity is for life, all seasons. Married or not. There is no way another person can fulfil all our desires, especially those that are sinful.
Those expections can led to disappointment and seeking other persons outside the marriage, and other things that destroy the marriage.
I love that you testify of the process of practicing intimacy in marriage. You have time. The rest of your life to practice.
It is an investment. Learning another person takes a life time.
Intimacy is hard work worth doing. The alternatives, like masterbation and porn, are quick easy and require no risk. They are satans tools to keep people from experiencing the joy of the Lord while having union.
I think because it's so much easier to please our selves, we can get addicted to that instead of the hard work of communication on a vulerable level like nothing else.
I think God is pleased when we use our bodies the way intended.
God has used this to draw you closer to Him and to each other. Thanks for your honesty and pointing to Jesus, asking for Holy Spirit to help.
Yipee for y'all working through it. Working out the balance two sex drives in a dance for all of us.
I also liked how you talked about how cranky people can get when they are not able to release with each other sexually. It's part of marriage to have a intimacy rhythm that feels good to both.
Sometimes you just need each other, that deep bonding and release.
I had some issues with major menstruation bleeding that created that for us.
Here is another topic people hate to discuss..Perimenopause..it's a hormonal roller coaster ride..it eventually shifted as I get closer to my period stopping. Now, I never know if or when my period will come. That's a whole other adventure...
We, like you both, leaned on the Lord for patience and Grace.
It's , yes, a serving, rather than a getting ..designed to help us be more like Christ. A sacrament- there is so much joy and pleasure to be found in two people serving each other.
So much good stuff in this post. Godly wisdom is so needed. So many potential wedges out there. Whatever ones we can eliminate we need to do it immediately.
Great video content! Apologies for the intrusion, I would love your initial thoughts. Have you ever tried - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a google search)? It is a smashing exclusive guide for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger without the normal expense. Ive heard some decent things about it and my BF at very last got cool results with it.
Speaking of organic non gmo natural lifestyle is actually biblical.
Repent means to change your mind!
I looove it I just can't believe or imagine that it would take years??!!
Lovely Video clip! Sorry for butting in, I am interested in your thoughts. Have you researched - Millawdon Varied Nights Trick (do a search on google)? It is a good exclusive product for learning intimate questions to make your relationship stronger minus the hard work. Ive heard some interesting things about it and my GF at very last got amazing success with it.
Do you all still have this channel? Great topic
This completely turns people off to sex in marriage. You guys have a unique medical issue. It’s not a Christian sex issue.
Thank you for this. I am a wife struggling with my husband not being able to make love with me without looking at pornographic images first. It really hit me when you said "I can love and serve my wife even if I don't get from her what I think I deserve," I need to think this way toward my husband. It's been a difficult 3 1/2 of marriage because sex hasn't come easy for us. We're trying to get pregnant and when I found some Instagram accounts my husband has looked at from his search history, he did admit to looking at them and said he does so when he knows we should be having more frequent sex during my fertile window. Ouch. It's a hard thing to hear, and it makes me not want to be intimate with him.
How is a hurt wife supposed to respond to this and be OK with intimacy with her husband? I am insecure now that I know he "needs" those images to arouse him enough to have sex with me, his wife.
I pray for healing in your home in Jesus Name.
Seems to me he soft blamed you. You're innocent.
Wow ❤
I am at my breaking point in my marriage. My husband blames his physical problems on the lack of intimacy or affection in our marriage.
My consummation was equally painful for me also for the first few months. My priest insisted on us having daily intercourse until it became easier. Then after that point, my husband slid quickly into refusing me and we would go for weeks and sometimes months without sex. He was addicted to porn and lying about it. He struggled with porn for about 10 years of the marriage. 12 years into the marriage he developed impotence and other medical problems. We have not been intimate in 3 years and he is not affectionate towards me anymore. He blames his lack of affection, emotional and physical intimacy on his heart trouble and impotence. We have been married for 15 years, but I don't know how to survive even 5 more let alone 20 or 30 more years. I have gotten to the point where I hate my marriage.
I'm incredibly sorry to hear that. Please do not give up on your marriage, and your husband. There is always hope, but it will not be instant, but it IS there. I would definitely recommend both speaking to a truly solid priest for counseling. Some priests just may be more helpful than others. If he refuses counseling then pray a rosary every day to open your heart and his heart. Every day. This will take a while but he will come around. Start a devotion to a Saint in troubled marriages. Or Our Lady of Sorrows. I love her.
Speaking as a husband, I understand how he got to where he is-- but that doesn't mean he's blameless. Asking for sex with your wife is the most vulnerable a man will ever be and if the wife (even though she may have pain) consistently is hesitant and puts it off, or even often times replies "not really but if you want to" it absolutely crushes him internally. This happens even if the wife has pain during intercourse so she has an aversion.
I don't know the cause of your pain so I can't even guess. But that's how he got there. HOWEVER he only got there because he let his heart suffer and bore that within and let it fester. He's only human and so are you. You do have a journey in front of you but there is 100% a light at the end of the tunnel even if you don't believe me.
Megan I'm so sorry you're hurting through this. Keep praying and persevere! Jesus can and will do a miracle for your marriage! I'm 2 years into my marriage and we've been unable to consummate ours but I believe we will! Also, look up Invicta ministries in Florida. They help do deliverance for couples and I just got in touch with them for us to get help. Please don't give up! Jesus loves you and is with you and for you! Praying for you sister
I wonder if therapy would help you both or atleast you in order to express your emotions in a safe place
@@malissamillet8831 I am in therapy. My husband refuses therapy.
Wife doesn't want to, the sex goes intimacy and touching
disappear shortly after. Still hoping after 15 years of no sex marriage. Marriage is a team thing, that is the exciting bit.
Sex is a bonus.
I did have the expectation of regular sex when I got married perhaps that was lust and selfishness on my part. But after about 18 years of marriage,15 years ago my wife decide not to anymore. She just decided she was to old at 44 . I have given up asking after 15 years of rejections. Rejection always hurts
But no sex forces you apart. 15 years gives is plenty of time to grow apart
Whether it is a cause or a symptom not sure. My experience. Sex stops, then prayer stops,then intimacy stops, touching stops, power struggle starts. Now I started at a different church from my wife. I ask the question recently " did you not enjoy sex with me ?" Thinking may be I could fix things or understand with a bit of knowledge "Angry reply "(&*%^*%^$ YOU GOT SEX ON YOUR BRAIN *^%#^$@#'(&*T^*)(" " , I guess that was another type of rejection ? , best to avoid rejection.
Those topics like sex and money in christian communities should be fully understood in order for us to be able to interpret God's words properly. Otherwise it can create false paradigms that are not beneficial for us.