SUMMARY with time stamps: 1. 0:47 You notice more of their flaws 2. 1:20 You don’t communicate as much 3. 1:54 You spend less time with them 4. 2:24 You feel more attracted to other people 5. 2:58 You stop picturing a future with them 6. 3:34 You stop prioritizing your relationship 7. 4:07 You’ve lost respect for them I recommend watching the video for more info and details. (also it would be nice if Psych2Go put these kinds of summaries along with time stamps in their description so that it would be easier to find what we are looking for if we don't have the time to rewatch the video).
@@vaidehi_n why I feel like he's acting like your partner is playing the victim most women don't understand anything most women understand I have a life too I need to take care of Mama parties to I give an example if you want to hear you're working and your woman don't set plans a week before the same day she wants to go out to the movies but you've been out all day in the hot sun working you want to come home and relax your partner reading to McKay with other people than you when your partner get a job so I can make him with other people she thought making feel like you're the problem she got that she has her own personal problems she can't deal with it she has emotional problems she has trust problems she has all type of issues she can never sit down and invited herself to see she's the problem
I've never cried this much at a video, me and my boyfriend has been together for over 5 years and I still just want to believe I love him, but I can relate to most of these..
Just an advice from a stranger... try talking about it. Time to time, and see how they react to it. If they try their best to change their behaviour or whatever it is that’s making you feel this way, then keep on hoping for the same love you once felt for them. If not, then the choice is yours. Just give it some time, also, see and write down and work on the things that you might think are bringing you down whenever you are around them, also, feelings come to one and start fading away with continuous mistakes and all. But if there are things that can be worked on, then hang in there, it’s just a bad time of your relationship, and not your whole relationship. And lastly, if you feel attracted to someone else, try remembering why you first got attracted to the person you are with today, since attraction will always come and go for random people, but compatibility and love, only gets found when it’s valued over anything and everything. Hope this helps. Stay strong stranger! :)
I've experienced all of this with my boyfriend, and yet when we spend more time with each other and experience emotional connection, physical connection, and mental connection with him, I regain my feelings for him and my want to maintain the relationship. If you lose feelings for your boyfriend, don't decide on breaking up right away. Try to figure out why you feel that way first before making a decision. Sometimes, at least for me, my emotional state (anxiety, depression, etc) effects my emotions so much that it clouds my feelings for my boyfriend. And don't forget that if you were to fall out of love, that is not the end. I believe that in some cases, effort can be done to restore those feelings.
thank you so much for sharing. i 100% agree with this and feel the exact same with my current boyfriend... starting to see these bad signs but also know that i couldn't be with anyone else idk.... communication and effort is what is important in order to solve any issues..
this made me feel soo much better :^( because i've been experiencing this too, but after we've had a talk, i never felt the want to end what we have. thank you for your wonderful comment!
Slowly falling out of love, and eventually needing to beak things off, with the person I cared about most in this entire world was the hardest experience I’ve ever endured. I wish it upon nobody.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a while now. It’ll be a year in October. I care so much about him like he is my entire life and I love him so immensely. But recently I’ve been having all of the feelings this video describes, and it feels like he stopped caring or putting in any effort despite the fact that he says he loves me just as much as I love him. I really don’t want to end things, but I’ve been feeling this way for such a long time to where it feels like I have to.
@@georgemichaels9511 she likely has. And a lot of time people will say they will in the moment. Sometimes even change momentarily, and then go back to their old habits. It’s not always as simple as one conversation.
The saddest part is when you can relate to it but hate to admit it especially when he's/she's been around for you all the time when you needed him/her the most and you ended up falling out of love. This hurts so much.
Exactly! How do you “just leave “ when once upon a time it was all magical & now every word could possibly create a nasty argument 😭😭😭 . Ive tried 4years now & Im exhausted… my current ex has a drinking problem soo that’s just one of the many things Ive dealt with . He drinks alittle & then a little more & then soon he is nasty as ever and Wont even listen to anything I say 😣 Im beyond exhausted & Im too young for this ~ 22 chapters young
@@RoseGoldQueenIt doesn't get any easier. You just start losing your ability to love the same way, and walls go up that modern narcissistic dating culture helps to reinforce the need for.
This comment has some years, and Im really struggling with a situation just like this, but now broken up with my partner, with a mutual feeling that the relationship was not bad at all in consideration. I would like to know how has been your experience after these years
He was suddenly annoying and I dreaded waking up to his messages. I was impatient, irritated, unhappy all the time. There was a time where he made me feel like the luckiest girl in the world, I kept asking the universe, "Do I really deserve this man?" Then we just got tired. Breaking up with him was liberating but I won't deny how much I've cried afterward.
Why do people like you exist? Why would people like you entertain feelings of falling out of love? I can never understand. Shows how many ppl have such shallow commitments
@@zenovak5177 Um what? At some point she did like him, then out of no where she just got tired of him, so she let him go. It’s not her fault that she fell out of love. It just happens to people. They don’t choose it for themselves.
I hate how we are made to believe that breaking up with someone means you’re the ”bad guy” but in reality, we simply wish to be happy and for both of us to have the opportunity to find a relationship where both parts are equally invested.
thanks for putting things in perspective. idk how i can accept that it's no ones fault though, even when might be just like that. what remains is just pain.
There’s a point in any relationship where the “in love” stage ends, it’s normal and completely natural. And when this happens, it’s the decision of you two, to work it out or leave, but remember, it can simply be you two were not compatible enough, or it could be you’re just not putting the effort it takes for the relationship to keep growing.
@@rayanehg6771 like learning new things about each other etc. Make the effort to have a relationship. My boyfriend and I have been out of the "in love" phase for a while and for a few months I've been having negative thoughts and it sucks because I don't want us to go separate ways. This sucks.
I wish I found this 2 mouths ago we spent our time arguing and she was so mean and insecure then she left the breakup wasn't good at all I was mad I blamed her told her and things and week after she started to be indifferent towards me so I cut contact And I mouths after I reach out to her she blocked me and told to never text her again
“If I have learned anything in this long life of mine, it is this: in love we find out who we want to be; in war we find out who we are.” ― Kristin Hannah, The Nightingale
you can get them back, it takes work ...even ppl in love struggle to keep it together. tv and movies are false expectations. love doesn't mean its perfect all the time, you have no soul mate. thats not a real thing. love takes both ppl fighting for it, or it will cease to exist
Love is not a feeling that can change that easy, love is commitment and choice. To love someone means to choose them everyday even on the low days and with all there flaws. That's what I've learned from my last relationship that love is something you choose, it's not something you are feeling or unfeeling.
@@badasszen7189 Thank you. I'm so glad there's someone on here saying this. I cringed at almost every one of the signs mentioned in the video. I'm afraid it's setting people up for unreal expectations.
@@joeturtleneck2300 please tell me how to get those feelings again.. I care for him so much..I don't want to hurt him.. I'm crying.. I want to hug him so badly we are in LDR.. I talk to himm like every hour I'm not getting tired of him but still my mind is saying I don't love him and whenever I see his pic or saw his texts or reply him back of my mind tells me I don't love him and I tend to cry.. why this is happening
@@foreveruseless1292 keep your head up. Everyone's here for a reason but don't let it get you down. Life has its ups and downs and always remember that the best is still to come :)
I'm watching this video months after separating from my husband and I can truthfully say I've felt everyone of these signs right before the end. You tell yourself that things will change and that it's just a rough patch in the relationship, but listen to your gut. It will save you and your partner from a lot of painful moments and time if you accept that you are no longer willing to put in the effort to salvage the relationship.
15yrs together. Going through this now... I wasn’t expecting to relate to every single thing in this video but life happens in interesting ways that I cannot fully comprehend nor fathom. Oh well…”Amor Fati” -Nietzsche
To everyone reading this comment, have a nice day/night, things will get better soon, remember that you aren't the only person going through this, stay safe!!
Brookes Gafeney your feelings are valid, and that’s terrible to fee like you have to guard yourself or be wary of other people’s feelings towards you. But love yourself first. I’m trying to do this now, and maybe Maya Angelou was talking about that self love too, day after day.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years, and I’ve noticed that I’m happier and less stressed without him. I think I need a break, but I don’t want to hurt him.
@@dailydoseofdestiny9950just communicate and put it across in a right way, it will hurt him and you for sure, but try to minimise the harm and frame your thoughts in an organised way, if you still work on fixing those problems, or still want to be with him, try working it out, all the best bestie
I've been left by my girlfriend few days ago after 3 years of relationship because she felt that way. She felt like this also at the beginning of this year and we tried to go through it. We worked on and improved our negative aspects (firstly for ourselves as individuals), but it didn't work at the end. She couldn't tell me "I love you" when I said it to her. She couldn't see a future with me. We have never treated each other badly. What there was between us was the purest and most candid thing there can be. I'm proud of myself because I gave her everything I am and I know she did the same with me. It helps to think that there are things in life in which we have no power, even if we tried the best we could It's sooo painful because we still care about eachother a lot and we want the best for the other from the bottom of our hearts.
That's nice that both of you have a good understanding. I want to break but saying that will break me bcoz he loves me alot. N him don't have anyone in his life like his mom n me that's it
@@lalalalololo1280 no. It depends on person to person. Take your time and afterwards meet her n ask her that do she still have any feelings for you so u can wait. If not then leave her
Does it get any better? This happened to me today. I understand where she came from, why she did it and I would never hate or blame her for this. I love her, I want to see her happy, I let her go because I knew there is no way further that she will find happiness with me right now, its going to get worse further if that is so. But the thing is, it pains sooo much. How am I supposed to move on from this, how am I supposed to stop this pain?
@@rohanchoudhury9759 It does my friend, but don't rush it, don't try to numb the pain, it will serve you to process everything and grow up as a better version of yourself. The first period will be awful, but don't give up and don't be too hard on yourself. Neither of you two is to blame, it had to happen if things weren't so good. In this case the only thing that helps to go through and grow is to focus on yourself. Focus on your hobbies and find new ones, go out with friends, be grateful for the people who cares about you, discover yourself. We don't need anyone to complete ourselves. A relationship should be a wonderful extra to our life, not our main focus or purpose in life Also heal process is not linear and it's ok to have some bad moments even when you fell better than before. 9 months have already passed for me. I definitely feel so much better than before. I feel like I'm at 70%-80% in the heal process. I still care about her (and I'll forever), but I don't think about her every single day like I used to. I wish you good luck with everything, you're not alone
After the initial spark of a relationship fades, love doesn't just happen. It takes effort, time, and willingness. If you find you're drifting apart make the time to reconnect.
I made the mistake of seeing his potential and falling in love with that rather than his actual character. I wish I had realised my mistake sooner so I could have spared the both of us a lot of pain...
Use those memories to your advantage lass, when the next one comes you can always use it to spot suspiscious patterns, use it to develop a stronger bond by evaluating mistakes etc etc. Theres always a good long term and/or short term effect on your mentality after a situation. Its just down to you on if you use it for benefit. Stay safe lass, and may the odds of life be in your favour.
Went through the same thing❤️ Hope you get fine soon. When you give your 100% it is bound to hurt. But then the healing begins. Those memories don't make me cry anymore I just smirk a little.
Relationships always need work. Sometimes I may not falling out of love, just the spark slowly fading. That means, both people need to put in effort again! No one said love/a relationship is easy, but it's worth it!
Not for me😂😂😂😂 I've been going through weight loss since a long time and no matter how much I eat..it doesn't increase much. But the 'love' part is right
Because people are more self-centered today and want everything to be easy. I'm sure your grandparents had obstacles to overcome and it wasn't always perfect but loyalty, duty to loved ones, and hard work goes a long way towards a long lasting relationship. People were happier back then than they are today.
I've fell out of love with my current partner months ago, and even left him because I was the only one pùtting effort in the relationship. All he needed was for the relationship to break, to lose me, to realice all of this. We are currently back in love again and relationship is working as never before. So sometimes the end is not such, but a necessary step.
@@alexong33 Sorry for the late reply, we are still together. We were apart physically for half a year, but he still spoke to me every day, every "good morning" every "good night" I tried meeting other men, it was just not the same, they "weren't him" we met again, spoke about it, and we just came to the realization that we were just both going through a bad phase of our lives and instead of helping me he was dragging me down when I was trying to help him. We just love each other like we haven't loved anyone else, so even if things get rough sometimes, we will persevere.
Well... these are very accurate. I believe love is like a plant, or a car. You have to keep maintaining it or else it will die or become junk. Once you see that your plant is dying or your car is failing, you do the necessary steps to relive the plant or make sure the tune ups are done so your car can keep going. Plants and cars can last a very long time if the proper care is taken. Just like a relationship. I think people get bored. Then they either buy another plant or another car... and in the end was it worth your time? Love yourself and you kids or pets...
Sometimes things happen to plants or cars and it’s not possible to fix them, it might be better to realize when to leave something instead of making them last longer than necessary. And people are not inanimate objects, it’s not just you in the relationship, there’s another human being with their own perspective, values, and dreams. Sometimes those things change over time.
@@sandraarriaga832 exactly - also to play devil's advocate with this commenter - typically only one person falls out of love and not the other in the relationship so in love can technically last a while as the other partner is proving otherwise.
Literally crying as i watch this video because i can relate....:/ 2 years married...and Im not sure what is going on....it's just not the same anymore....and how sad is it that i have to vent on a UA-cam comment....
Yup, I’m definitely falling out of love due to the fact he says all the right things but disappoints me with his actions and lack of actions towards me, time and time again. I actually stayed celibate for 3 years while I waited for him. S.m.h.
You were not stupid, they were. You were true to yourself, to them and the relationship you both had. They were the ones that were stupid enough to not appreciate what they had with you and let you walk away. You will find someone who will take it as serious as you will. Good luck!
It hurts to realise that my ex probably had most of these signs. I tried making a flower pot for her in a desperate attempt to regain her love but in the end it took so long to perfect it that she broke up before I could give it to her. Looking back at it, I should've just talked to her. Asked her why she was considering breakup and what we could do about it. Truly be honest with one another. Still probably wouldn't have worked out in the end though
This actually happened to me, I fall out of love he was really a great guy but yeah feelings change and we both actually notice it that's why we talk it out and eventually broke up
@@princecaspian9566 if he can’t emotionally open up, then it’s difficult to understand if who u love actually exists. And maybe you start to create a narrative that he is one way, when really that’s not who he is.
I’m glad I found this comment there’s so many comments in other videos that losing feeling is bad and stuff but I think I have a good reason like my boyfriend is in the navy and he’s always busy and we text for maybe 20 or 40 minutes a day and idk if I’m asking for too much but I just dont want to suffer through that anymore causing me to lose interest
My boyfriend doesn't want to let me go, ive told him many times i dont love him anymore, hes being selfish at this point because he knows I'm not happy anymore. 😢
What if you’re showing most of these signs to yourself and you’re feeling most of these things.. but you love their family and them so much and are afraid you’ll never find something like that again?
it's been two months of our break up, and i at that point of time was wondering if i had fallen out of love. for around 2-3 months i had been thinking the same way, but no one was there to validate my feelings. However i decided that he doesn't deserve to be with someone who doesn't love him like she used to, and that he requires better treatment, which he might get from somewhere else. I realized that it'd be better if the break up happens and hurts for a few months, than an unhealthy relationship for a lifetime. I'm happy now that i feel guilty no more of not loving him enough...and I'm sure, he too will find happiness someday. And happiness is what matters. Now that i watched this video, I'm so happy that i did what i did. thank you so much..
If you are full of love within yourself, you won't look for a companionship from anyone else. You don't love anyone, you ARE a soul full of love, you just share it with the people around you.
I can totally understand that feeling, girl. Although I'm not physically there with you, consider that I'm with you (spiritually). I have also been through toxic times like this & I know it hurts like damn. But with all that I hope you find solace within yourself. I hope your pain turn into happiness very soon. I hope the best for you. Stay blessed 💕
I've been married 42 years. It doesn't stay as passionate as it was in the beginning. You do start seeing their flaws. And you will eventually want more space from that person. None of this means that you don't love your partner.
My biggest issue is our private conversations started being shared with his co workers... like embarrassing stuff I can’t believe he shared so I stopped sharing EVERYTHING. Made me feel like a fool.
If that's an issue for you then you need to confront him about it. It's not right for him to share your guys private conversations for his co-workers to see. It's disrespectful. You should be allowed to share whatever it is you want to share without worrying what your boyfriend will do.
Something incredibly understated about this channel is how incredibly well geared it is towards the target audience of the vid. It allows the messages to just hit so much harder.
3:45 focusing on work, studies, etc DOES NOT mean you’re falling out of love, it means you are an adult and you both understand that personal success, pride, and gratitude, is important and that you want that for each other. Especially at a young age, people are still trying to set them selves straight, if you and your partner can’t understand that personal growth sometimes requires personal space, then you and that person might have some issues. I am currently going to college and maintaining a full time job, so is my partner, while we understand and dislike that this is just a part of life, we work around it. Prioritizing real life, over love, DOES NOT mean you aren’t in love with that person. Just thought I’d set the record straight being I love my girlfriend very very much and I refuse to feel guilty for wanting to improve myself. I’ve lost feelings before and this part of the list is all I’ve disagreed with so far.
Would also like to add in, if you feel like you need to watch a video like this, talk to your partner. Don’t take this advice, the last thing you want to do is take advice from anyone who is not in the relationship. I know from experience that the most agitating thing In my relationship is my partner running her end of our relationship based on someone else’s opinion. You should work things out together and not rely on outside sources, you know yourself better than anyone else, your partner knows themselves better than anyone else; only you two and you two alone can begin to understand what compromises you are willing to make, and what you are willing to live with. Don’t let someone else set limitations or set standards FOR YOU. The moment you let someone else start persuading you to see some of your partners traits differently is when it starts to be to late. Be you, let your partner be them, if it doesn’t work out, you’ll know. Hope if you’re reading this you are having a wonderful morning, evening, and or night. Go talk to your partner (: conversation and communication are everything !!
My ex broke up with me randomly one day. I’ve still been wondering why he did - he never gave me a proper answer, our relationship was very healthy and happy. After watching this, I realised that he had been falling out of love and was too scared to tell me. I guess I understand, people do fall out of love, but it just broke my heart because I’m unsure of what I did in particular to cause this.
It wasn't your fault, you stay true to yourself, he was the one who didn't know how to communicate. It's hard when people suddenly leave and don't give proper closure, I think that kind of behaviour tells a lot about the person. Things will get better and more healing, you're precious and God or the universe always have your back.✨
Same, for me our relationship was healthy, but she broke up with me telling me that she's not happy anymore, so here I am trying to fix myself; devastated.
Sing number 8. You miss your relationship with them when you just started dating and when everyting was so beautiful and magical, you kinda feel nostalgic about it :(
Well when my partner wanted to do long distance then brought up the idea of having an open relationship I pulled the plug. Once your boundaries are walked over and trust is damaged it's time to walk away. My gut told me this would happen during the relationship I should've listened to my gut but I've learned from it.
This video hit me pretty hard. I was secretly in love with my best friend for the longest time, to the point where I'd fantasize us being roommates during college and just spending our lives together. But a series of events made me realize that I'm slowly growing out of that feeling. I still love them, of course, and always will, but the person I fell for and the person they are now are different people. And as mean as it sounds, I refuse to settle for the latter. I deserve better than that, I think. Thanks, Psych2Go. You're always here when I need you. 💖
Nothing hurts more than holding on too long. Regrets 😔, one may scare of breaking off but actually letting them go sooner will hurts less. Break Fast when realize any changes
Im so frustrated. I know that my anxiety and depression gives me commitment issues and makes me overthink things, but i think this is happening to me. It could also be the restrictions of covid keeping us apart that is causing these feelings though. We've been together for a year now, and we really make each other happy. He's a sweetheart and has never done anything to make me feel otherwise... but I feel distant and I also feel like I jumped into a serious relationship too soon. There were times I would daydream about our future and now I'm not sure if I want that anymore. I'm so young and I want to explore and see my options, but I also worry that finding someone like him is like finding a unicorn. I don't want to hurt him either, because I do love him. I just don't know if it's the same love it was when we started...
I couldn’t relate to anyone more, more than you, everything you just said is literal exact feeling I’m feeling. And it’s so so so hard to make a decision like this, but what I am trying out with him is for us to have a break, where we only treat eachother as friends like how we were before, and if I start to feel a spark with him in that way, it shows I only fell in love with him for his Attributes while we were friends, and that maybe that’s what we need more in our relationship is to just goof off more and not think so much and over think, but if I don’t feel anything from him then I know it’s time for me to move on for my mental health
When you are in a relationship flirting is not harmless and it never will be. Though there are different degrees off flirting but if you or your partner is flirting than you need to think about things and reevaluate your relationship. Now, yes you can't entirely control your attraction for people. However you can control how you act in those moments. What you choose to do.
@@TheseVoicesInMyHead can i ask you a forward question? But before i do i want to mention that i have been there. I have held out for a person's highest potential and fought for the best sides of these people who i use to love and i suffered from similiar things, so i am deeply sorry for that. But my question is, is whatever safety, or security, or pleasure, or comfort, or familiarity, or fear of the unknown, or whatever other reason that you have to continue to be with someone who flirts and diminishes your value as person, really worth the destruction you allow to be inflicted upon you? Are you okay with being this way and feeling this way, for years to come? I'm not judging, i really want to know your opinion. I suffered from abandonment through out my life and i fought and fought for so many reasons, and tried so hard and i wanted to blossom the best parts of them and felt like it could be worked through but it never worked. I know It's complicated and not easy to let go or move on from something like this. and it might be easier to settle but i feel like you should ask yourself these questions and think about it deeply if your feeling the way you're feeling and be honest with yourself with what and who your really want as a partner and if this person is really the person for you.. Ask yourself "Is this person the one for me? Or is this just something temporary i am engaging in so i won't be alone? Am i trying to fix them or complete myself out of a need to feel fulfilled? Or Am i with this person for darker reasons? I could go on but my point is, If you're with someone who makes you feel horrible because they flirt and brag about flirting with other people than what reason do you have to trust them? Especially With a attitude and actions like your lover. is it only flirting? Can you honestly say you trust this person to be faithful when this person has proven that they don't care enough to stop what they're doing. Or love you enough to the point where they wouldn't dare want to harm you? Is this really about love? If your going to be with someone you have to be honest with yourself even if it hurts like hell.
1. notice more of their flaws 2. you don’t communicate as much 3. you spend less time with them 4. you feel more attracted to other people 5. you stop picturing a future with them 6. you stop prioritizing your relationship 7. you’ve lost respect for them
You NEVER fall out of love in my eyes. It's either you still love each other or it would have never worked out in the end for you both My situation atm is I still love my ex I didn't fall out of love with him
I already knew I was falling out of love. But after watching this video It’s looks like it was meant for me. All the signs are there . Most of the times we go into denial But it may make things worse It’s hard to accept that something that was once so special, so beautiful is over ….
@@hobienthusiastnope...its not like "If you don't feel the same "...That feeling of falling in love is all just a hormonal emotional surge and it will fade after some time. But please...do not leave without giving some efforts. If you feel like this for your this one relationship...you definitely r gonna feel the same for every person you r gonna be with. Relationship takes a lot of effort to build upon And also before ending everything just remember why you liked them in the first place and try to rebuild it again. f
Corona added a layer of difficulty on relationships . It's hard to tell my stress is from the pendamic or us . Not all the signs apply so I feel at ease . Thank you 💖
It always astonishes me when someone is abusive to their SO and are shocked when their SO is no longer in love with them. If you treat your spouse or partner poorly, that person will fall out of love.
Fair enough lol. But speaking from personal experience, even though I had toxic tendencies, I still cared for her. But, I guess the love we once had for each other was long gone, we just didn’t want to accept it. At least it’s over now..
I'm currently in that situation. Even though my partner isn't a toxic person per se, he treated me in ways I can no longer accept. He broke my heart so many times and I only realised it was too much for me to bear about 2 weeks ago. I understand why he treated me the way he did (he's deeply traumatised and because of that he always kept me at arm's length). But even though we talked about it and he is trying to change I don't know if I can love him anymore. I feel like I have to choose between loving myself or loving him, I don't know if I can do both... also, I noticed I show almost all of the sings mentioned in the video...
There is a difference between real love and attachment. We loose interest when the brain stops producing Dopamine. Please read 5 Love languages to improve the relationship❤️❤️.
@@Psych2go Thanks for your reply. We are also spreading your work through our blog selfhelpchampion. We are posting your magazine and videos in this weekend post. Wish you all best❤️🙏
It hurts when you don’t have friends and you thought your spouse would always be the one you can talk to and now you can’t even open and talk to them so now you have this void and pressure in your heart. I feel so alone I’m hurting.
You're not looking forward to spending time together. You're not open with your partner. You seek out opportunities to be without your partner. You choose silence over disagreements with your partner. You're feeling hopeless about your future together.
I’m single but I have a crush and am trying to not get over them bc idk they’re kind of my guide without them I’m never sure what to do or where to go or how to get there. They believe in me when I don’t. I’m sort of the opposite rn.
And it’s painful not only for the person who is not loved anymore but it’s painful for the person who doesn’t feel attracted to the partner anymore . 💔💔💔 Sometimes you just wish everything was just as it had always been . It hurts for both sides
The fear of this makes me never want to try again. I know it's part of the risk everyone takes... But the heartbreak from being on both sides of it... And I went on journies of discovering and loving myself first. Even so, Ive gained a fear of putting my time into something only to fizzle. I don't want to think this way.
"Falling in love" is nothing but a hormone surge. It can't last; it's physically impossible. If you don't have a sound basis in character and mutual beliefs and interests, the relationship will fail. Too many people only want that hormone surge; if that's all that matters to you, stay out of relationships because it isn't fair to the other person. If they think you're committed for the long term and you just want the hormone rush, you're just jerking them around.
After you've been together for so long, I wonder if it's harder to let go than it is to stay together if you still have a friendship as the basis though it's not the same feelings anymore. Such a conundrum.
This is basically losing "Passion", and you losing the accountability and humility to work on your relationship. Passion isn't always guaranteed, all the time. Its like a plant... If you water it, it grows, if you neglect it, it dies.
Convenient throwing away relationships is so encouraged since finding a new one is a dating site swipe away. Otherwise both people would have to sit down and be forced to solve problems.
You are beautiful. Never forget that. In a world of 7.1 billion people, there is only one you. So take care of you because the world needs you. ☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️🙊
Well technicaly the world doesn't "need" any of us, actually it would be better off without humans. Maybe some people need you but the world definitely doesn't. 😐
I relate to a lot of these. I really don’t want to hurt my partner, but I really don’t think there is any universe where we can work together :( more than anything I don’t want to hurt her! She’s an amazing human being and I wish the best for her, but we won’t work
Man this sucks. A few hours ago I broke up with my girlfriend, or ex-girlfriend rather, because I just lost feelings for her and as this video just showed me, I fell out of love. Every sign was relatable to me so I guess I made the right decision long term but I hate myself for breaking her heart like that right now. She was literally ready to give her everything for me, she did so much for me she put so much effort into me but I just couldn't truly appreciate all that. I don't want her to waste her anytime and put all her energy into someone who can not really give it back. She deserves better. Sigh
I'm always thinking about the person I'm in a relationship regardless of whether there's communication or not. Whether it's the future etc etc. Anyway people make choices and everyone has that right to make it. If I could say one thing it's for people in relationships to just becareful. Don't forget to love yourself because sometimes when spending so much work working on stuff without your partner knowing, you can feel a bit lonely but never like wanting to be with another person....just take care of yourselves emotionally. Especially sensitive people, I love you all ♥️🤗
Well ATM I'm single so my partner is me and I'm with him all the time haha but when in a relationship if I'm honest I'd love to be with my partner everyday if I could but I'd rather work to be able to take them on dates etc, a future doesn't work if there's no money coming in
I always fall out of love in every relationship and the relationship I’m in right now I really want it to last but...it’s a long distance relationship and it’s like every day he has less and less time for me and I get that he has stuff to do it’s just that I’m not used to barely talking to him. I feel like we’re both falling out of love but I don’t want it to end..he’s the only person I have left and I would be so lost without him
I love him so much ! Thankyou for the video. I started w a frown on my face, but I'm smiling now . None of these are even close . I want him every time.
SUMMARY with time stamps:
1. 0:47 You notice more of their flaws
2. 1:20 You don’t communicate as much
3. 1:54 You spend less time with them
4. 2:24 You feel more attracted to other people
5. 2:58 You stop picturing a future with them
6. 3:34 You stop prioritizing your relationship
7. 4:07 You’ve lost respect for them
I recommend watching the video for more info and details.
(also it would be nice if Psych2Go put these kinds of summaries along with time stamps in their description so that it would be easier to find what we are looking for if we don't have the time to rewatch the video).
Just ended a toxic 'friendship' ✌ relatable.
Glad I'm not experiencing any of the above with my partner.
Thanks 🙏
Thanks for doing this for us. We will pin this :)
@@vaidehi_n why I feel like he's acting like your partner is playing the victim most women don't understand anything most women understand I have a life too I need to take care of Mama parties to I give an example if you want to hear you're working and your woman don't set plans a week before the same day she wants to go out to the movies but you've been out all day in the hot sun working you want to come home and relax your partner reading to McKay with other people than you when your partner get a job so I can make him with other people she thought making feel like you're the problem she got that she has her own personal problems she can't deal with it she has emotional problems she has trust problems she has all type of issues she can never sit down and invited herself to see she's the problem
The sad part about this is when you notice their flaws it's the things you once used to love
Damn
YES
:(
this
😢
I've never cried this much at a video, me and my boyfriend has been together for over 5 years and I still just want to believe I love him, but I can relate to most of these..
Girl...we literally on the same boat 🥺😭
Just an advice from a stranger... try talking about it. Time to time, and see how they react to it. If they try their best to change their behaviour or whatever it is that’s making you feel this way, then keep on hoping for the same love you once felt for them. If not, then the choice is yours. Just give it some time, also, see and write down and work on the things that you might think are bringing you down whenever you are around them, also, feelings come to one and start fading away with continuous mistakes and all. But if there are things that can be worked on, then hang in there, it’s just a bad time of your relationship, and not your whole relationship. And lastly, if you feel attracted to someone else, try remembering why you first got attracted to the person you are with today, since attraction will always come and go for random people, but compatibility and love, only gets found when it’s valued over anything and everything.
Hope this helps. Stay strong stranger! :)
@@mehreensiddiqui5623 Your message actually made me smile, thank you ^^ I'll try this out
@@yasminchan7425 awwh! Im really glad to hear that! And this made me smile haha! Best wishes to you for your present and your future 😄❤
me too ❤️ I don’t know what to do
I've experienced all of this with my boyfriend, and yet when we spend more time with each other and experience emotional connection, physical connection, and mental connection with him, I regain my feelings for him and my want to maintain the relationship.
If you lose feelings for your boyfriend, don't decide on breaking up right away. Try to figure out why you feel that way first before making a decision. Sometimes, at least for me, my emotional state (anxiety, depression, etc) effects my emotions so much that it clouds my feelings for my boyfriend.
And don't forget that if you were to fall out of love, that is not the end. I believe that in some cases, effort can be done to restore those feelings.
thank you so much for sharing. i 100% agree with this and feel the exact same with my current boyfriend... starting to see these bad signs but also know that i couldn't be with anyone else idk.... communication and effort is what is important in order to solve any issues..
this made me feel soo much better :^( because i've been experiencing this too, but after we've had a talk, i never felt the want to end what we have. thank you for your wonderful comment!
I just can agree and say the same
I needed this. How long have you guys been together for?
@@OkiMokie Just about 5 months! 😂 Why?
Slowly falling out of love, and eventually needing to beak things off, with the person I cared about most in this entire world was the hardest experience I’ve ever endured. I wish it upon nobody.
Why? Isn't being together better han being alone
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for a while now. It’ll be a year in October. I care so much about him like he is my entire life and I love him so immensely. But recently I’ve been having all of the feelings this video describes, and it feels like he stopped caring or putting in any effort despite the fact that he says he loves me just as much as I love him. I really don’t want to end things, but I’ve been feeling this way for such a long time to where it feels like I have to.
@@vivianmergler6696 then talk to him. Ask him to change. If he says absolutely not. Then leave. He can’t read your mind.
@@georgemichaels9511 she likely has. And a lot of time people will say they will in the moment. Sometimes even change momentarily, and then go back to their old habits. It’s not always as simple as one conversation.
Same happened to me 🥲
i’m losing feelings for someone, but they love me so much. it’ll break me to tell them “i’m losing feelings with you.”
hey how's it goin are yal still together
@@mikojohnson3347 yes, but we're having arguments. I still love her
Omg. Same thing. 😔
@@Srsllyno okk so you broke up or what you did? Please let me know I am in sane condition
@@Khushi_09564 me too idk what happing😔 I literally only been dating for 3 months
The saddest part is when you can relate to it but hate to admit it especially when he's/she's been around for you all the time when you needed him/her the most and you ended up falling out of love. This hurts so much.
Exactly😢
Exactly how I feel right now. Dont know what to do
Exactly! How do you “just leave “ when once upon a time it was all magical & now every word could possibly create a nasty argument 😭😭😭 . Ive tried 4years now & Im exhausted… my current ex has a drinking problem soo that’s just one of the many things Ive dealt with . He drinks alittle & then a little more & then soon he is nasty as ever and Wont even listen to anything I say 😣 Im beyond exhausted & Im too young for this ~ 22 chapters young
@@RoseGoldQueenIt doesn't get any easier. You just start losing your ability to love the same way, and walls go up that modern narcissistic dating culture helps to reinforce the need for.
This comment has some years, and Im really struggling with a situation just like this, but now broken up with my partner, with a mutual feeling that the relationship was not bad at all in consideration.
I would like to know how has been your experience after these years
He was suddenly annoying and I dreaded waking up to his messages. I was impatient, irritated, unhappy all the time. There was a time where he made me feel like the luckiest girl in the world, I kept asking the universe, "Do I really deserve this man?"
Then we just got tired. Breaking up with him was liberating but I won't deny how much I've cried afterward.
It's the most painful thing anyone can go through
this is what im feeling right now, but hes so kind...i feel like i dont really deserve him so i have to let him go
Why do people like you exist? Why would people like you entertain feelings of falling out of love? I can never understand. Shows how many ppl have such shallow commitments
@@zenovak5177 Um what? At some point she did like him, then out of no where she just got tired of him, so she let him go. It’s not her fault that she fell out of love. It just happens to people. They don’t choose it for themselves.
@@lonelyexie But they choose what actions they take when they feel that way. And leaving just because of that feeling just shows shallow commitments.
“If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them.”
― Michael Bassey Johnson
Ye
@Bekah L. So like.. quarantine?
Do you need help
If really you need help I can recommend someone who can help you with any type of spell
He did spell for me and it worked fine now I am a living testimony
I hate how we are made to believe that breaking up with someone means you’re the ”bad guy” but in reality, we simply wish to be happy and for both of us to have the opportunity to find a relationship where both parts are equally invested.
thanks for putting things in perspective. idk how i can accept that it's no ones fault though, even when might be just like that. what remains is just pain.
@@splendidfalafel8987 well soon you will get yours. Come back and talk with this same energy.
There’s a point in any relationship where the “in love” stage ends, it’s normal and completely natural. And when this happens, it’s the decision of you two, to work it out or leave, but remember, it can simply be you two were not compatible enough, or it could be you’re just not putting the effort it takes for the relationship to keep growing.
Hey,
What do you mean by work, efforts?
@@rayanehg6771 like learning new things about each other etc. Make the effort to have a relationship.
My boyfriend and I have been out of the "in love" phase for a while and for a few months I've been having negative thoughts and it sucks because I don't want us to go separate ways. This sucks.
I wish I found this 2 mouths ago we spent our time arguing and she was so mean and insecure then she left the breakup wasn't good at all I was mad I blamed her told her and things and week after she started to be indifferent towards me so I cut contact
And I mouths after I reach out to her she blocked me and told to never text her again
“If I have learned anything in this long life of mine, it is this: in love we find out who we want to be; in war we find out who we are.”
― Kristin Hannah, The Nightingale
Do you need help ☑️☑️
If really you need help I can recommend someone who can help you with any type of spell
He did spell for me and it worked fine now I am a living testimony 💯💯
WhatsApp him....
This is literally my biggest fear in life, being deeply in love and one day my feelings are gone and I can’t get them back
Same
you can get them back, it takes work ...even ppl in love struggle to keep it together. tv and movies are false expectations. love doesn't mean its perfect all the time, you have no soul mate. thats not a real thing. love takes both ppl fighting for it, or it will cease to exist
Love is not a feeling that can change that easy, love is commitment and choice. To love someone means to choose them everyday even on the low days and with all there flaws. That's what I've learned from my last relationship that love is something you choose, it's not something you are feeling or unfeeling.
@@badasszen7189 Thank you. I'm so glad there's someone on here saying this. I cringed at almost every one of the signs mentioned in the video. I'm afraid it's setting people up for unreal expectations.
@@joeturtleneck2300 please tell me how to get those feelings again.. I care for him so much..I don't want to hurt him.. I'm crying.. I want to hug him so badly we are in LDR.. I talk to himm like every hour I'm not getting tired of him but still my mind is saying I don't love him and whenever I see his pic or saw his texts or reply him back of my mind tells me I don't love him and I tend to cry.. why this is happening
Ah, this one hurts a bit
Sorry to hear! What points did you relate to?
@@Psych2go well I didn't specifically relate to them, but I am getting over a recent break up so..
@@foreveruseless1292 keep your head up. Everyone's here for a reason but don't let it get you down. Life has its ups and downs and always remember that the best is still to come :)
@@mad1959 thanks mate I appreciate it
@@foreveruseless1292 how have things been man
Just remember you're not the bad person to fall out of love,they're feelings, it happens.
😔😔maybe
But we're the ones who will be blamed... for hurting the other person.
but the saddest thing is other person didn't lose feelings for you..but you did!
Also it doesn't make u a good person to justify falling out of love
@@jwl7293 it's not wrong to fall out 👍🏻
I'm watching this video months after separating from my husband and I can truthfully say I've felt everyone of these signs right before the end. You tell yourself that things will change and that it's just a rough patch in the relationship, but listen to your gut. It will save you and your partner from a lot of painful moments and time if you accept that you are no longer willing to put in the effort to salvage the relationship.
😭😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️🤩🤩🤩🤩🤨
15yrs together. Going through this now... I wasn’t expecting to relate to every single thing in this video but life happens in interesting ways that I cannot fully comprehend nor fathom.
Oh well…”Amor Fati” -Nietzsche
To everyone reading this comment, have a nice day/night, things will get better soon, remember that you aren't the only person going through this, stay safe!!
😚
Ah, thank you! Stay safe. 💓
I appreciate that
Thank you as well! Stay safe :)
Broke up with mine today, its just too painful to stay together when you aren’t happy.
pliss bless me with this power 😢
Exactly
True
@LOL can you tell us how it's going a year later?
R u fine rn bro?
“Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”
― Maya Angelou
Never thought this would be so difficult till my own break up. Now i feel like I'm always protecting myself from looking stupid.
Brookes Gafeney your feelings are valid, and that’s terrible to fee like you have to guard yourself or be wary of other people’s feelings towards you. But love yourself first. I’m trying to do this now, and maybe Maya Angelou was talking about that self love too, day after day.
Yup. Just because someone broke your heart..doesn't mean u should stop moving forward. Everyone is not your ex.
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for 2 years, and I’ve noticed that I’m happier and less stressed without him. I think I need a break, but I don’t want to hurt him.
We are in the same boat i really just don't know what to do or how to tell him without making him feel some type of way
@@dailydoseofdestiny9950just communicate and put it across in a right way, it will hurt him and you for sure, but try to minimise the harm and frame your thoughts in an organised way, if you still work on fixing those problems, or still want to be with him, try working it out, all the best bestie
@@dailydoseofdestiny9950how are u now? Im in your same boat right now! Any advice? Did u work it out or did u end it
,@@nikkicole4909 i want to know aswell
;; why not take a breather
I've been left by my girlfriend few days ago after 3 years of relationship because she felt that way.
She felt like this also at the beginning of this year and we tried to go through it. We worked on and improved our negative aspects (firstly for ourselves as individuals), but it didn't work at the end. She couldn't tell me "I love you" when I said it to her. She couldn't see a future with me.
We have never treated each other badly. What there was between us was the purest and most candid thing there can be.
I'm proud of myself because I gave her everything I am and I know she did the same with me.
It helps to think that there are things in life in which we have no power, even if we tried the best we could
It's sooo painful because we still care about eachother a lot and we want the best for the other from the bottom of our hearts.
That's nice that both of you have a good understanding.
I want to break but saying that will break me bcoz he loves me alot. N him don't have anyone in his life like his mom n me that's it
@@manalimorje Hi🥺, is it possible for the feelings to ever come back, she has lost her feelings to me, do you think soon will it came back?
@@lalalalololo1280 no. It depends on person to person. Take your time and afterwards meet her n ask her that do she still have any feelings for you so u can wait. If not then leave her
Does it get any better? This happened to me today. I understand where she came from, why she did it and I would never hate or blame her for this. I love her, I want to see her happy, I let her go because I knew there is no way further that she will find happiness with me right now, its going to get worse further if that is so. But the thing is, it pains sooo much. How am I supposed to move on from this, how am I supposed to stop this pain?
@@rohanchoudhury9759 It does my friend, but don't rush it, don't try to numb the pain, it will serve you to process everything and grow up as a better version of yourself. The first period will be awful, but don't give up and don't be too hard on yourself. Neither of you two is to blame, it had to happen if things weren't so good.
In this case the only thing that helps to go through and grow is to focus on yourself. Focus on your hobbies and find new ones, go out with friends, be grateful for the people who cares about you, discover yourself. We don't need anyone to complete ourselves. A relationship should be a wonderful extra to our life, not our main focus or purpose in life
Also heal process is not linear and it's ok to have some bad moments even when you fell better than before. 9 months have already passed for me. I definitely feel so much better than before. I feel like I'm at 70%-80% in the heal process. I still care about her (and I'll forever), but I don't think about her every single day like I used to.
I wish you good luck with everything, you're not alone
Yep, I'm believing that you guys actually read my mind now
Ikr
I see Tweek :0
Frr
Maybe they read ur name
Lol, same!
After the initial spark of a relationship fades, love doesn't just happen. It takes effort, time, and willingness. If you find you're drifting apart make the time to reconnect.
This is so sad. To those who are going through this I pray you remember the moment you fell in love. Make time and talk. Communication is KEY!!!!
I made the mistake of seeing his potential and falling in love with that rather than his actual character. I wish I had realised my mistake sooner so I could have spared the both of us a lot of pain...
I think I've done the same .. how did you deal with it? I'm 7 years and two kids in.. I fucked up ...
Its very hard😓
Its not the goodbyes that hurts, its the flashback that follows.😭
Ít like hell
Those flashbacks are so painful
Harry styles starts playing
I had all the signs in my last relationship. It has been a month since we broke up and still hurts so much because I miss all the memories.
@SkyleeKates its ok, thank u♡
Use those memories to your advantage lass, when the next one comes you can always use it to spot suspiscious patterns, use it to develop a stronger bond by evaluating mistakes etc etc. Theres always a good long term and/or short term effect on your mentality after a situation. Its just down to you on if you use it for benefit.
Stay safe lass, and may the odds of life be in your favour.
For me, I wasn't the one having all the signs, and it was a couple weeks ago. This is so sad
Went through the same thing❤️ Hope you get fine soon. When you give your 100% it is bound to hurt. But then the healing begins. Those memories don't make me cry anymore I just smirk a little.
Wow I've never been so related with a comment. Same gurl, same.
If you break someone's heart and they still talk to you with the same excitement and respect believe me they really love you.
👊👊👊👊
But what are we supposed to do with this information?
I’m in this position right now.. he broke my heart but I still feel the same about him and want to see him..💔
Yes
@@yuuablewon do you need him back
@@yuuablewon If really you need your ex back to you I can recommend someone who helped me get my ex back to me 💝
Sparks and intimacy can always be revived. when you lose respect, you’ll lose everything basically.
Relationships always need work. Sometimes I may not falling out of love, just the spark slowly fading. That means, both people need to put in effort again! No one said love/a relationship is easy, but it's worth it!
Falling out of love is like losing weight. It is a lot easier putting it on than taking it off 😊
I’m fat. that means I have a lot of love to give. 😁
@@ginthemaid112 Precisely.
It's just as hard to put on weight when ur skinny...
Not for me😂😂😂😂 I've been going through weight loss since a long time and no matter how much I eat..it doesn't increase much. But the 'love' part is right
Do you need help
Despite the sad theme, this animation is adorable.
I wonder how my grandparents are still together over 40 years and it was both their first relationship
The True Love At First Sight ❤️
No social.media theres not 7billion people at the tip of fingers
Because people are more self-centered today and want everything to be easy. I'm sure your grandparents had obstacles to overcome and it wasn't always perfect but loyalty, duty to loved ones, and hard work goes a long way towards a long lasting relationship. People were happier back then than they are today.
@@heyyy19 Not necessarily, my grandparents argue quite a lot yet they're still together.
same with my parents who have been together for over 30 years. they also have grandkids now. ❤️
To love someone unconditionally takes a lot of emotional maturity and self awareness.
It hurts me to realize i fall out of love..i just want to love her again like i used to..but i can't anymore😪
Why did that happen? I mean, why did you lose your feelings?
Same here , couldn't relate anymore 😞
I've fell out of love with my current partner months ago, and even left him because I was the only one pùtting effort in the relationship.
All he needed was for the relationship to break, to lose me, to realice all of this.
We are currently back in love again and relationship is working as never before.
So sometimes the end is not such, but a necessary step.
I’m going through the same thing
Gives me hope🤍🌸
How long were you guys apart and why did you give him a second chance? Just asking out of curiosity
Do you mind sharing more details about this? I'm in the boat you were and would love to hear more, anything as guidance🥺
@@alexong33 Sorry for the late reply, we are still together.
We were apart physically for half a year, but he still spoke to me every day, every "good morning" every "good night" I tried meeting other men, it was just not the same, they "weren't him" we met again, spoke about it, and we just came to the realization that we were just both going through a bad phase of our lives and instead of helping me he was dragging me down when I was trying to help him.
We just love each other like we haven't loved anyone else, so even if things get rough sometimes, we will persevere.
Well... these are very accurate. I believe love is like a plant, or a car. You have to keep maintaining it or else it will die or become junk. Once you see that your plant is dying or your car is failing, you do the necessary steps to relive the plant or make sure the tune ups are done so your car can keep going. Plants and cars can last a very long time if the proper care is taken. Just like a relationship. I think people get bored. Then they either buy another plant or another car... and in the end was it worth your time? Love yourself and you kids or pets...
Sometimes things happen to plants or cars and it’s not possible to fix them, it might be better to realize when to leave something instead of making them last longer than necessary. And people are not inanimate objects, it’s not just you in the relationship, there’s another human being with their own perspective, values, and dreams. Sometimes those things change over time.
@@sandraarriaga832 exactly - also to play devil's advocate with this commenter - typically only one person falls out of love and not the other in the relationship so in love can technically last a while as the other partner is proving otherwise.
Surprisingly these videos always pop up when you’re going through something♥️
Seriously
These pop up when your feeling down. But I'm not falling out of love with the woman I'm attracted to so I''m a little confused
Literally crying as i watch this video because i can relate....:/ 2 years married...and Im not sure what is going on....it's just not the same anymore....and how sad is it that i have to vent on a UA-cam comment....
Yup, I’m definitely falling out of love due to the fact he says all the right things but disappoints me with his actions and lack of actions towards me, time and time again. I actually stayed celibate for 3 years while I waited for him. S.m.h.
As someone who is going through a heartbreak. It was clear that they never took it as seriously as I did. Woops, guess I was stupid, my mistake hah.
You were not stupid, they were. You were true to yourself, to them and the relationship you both had. They were the ones that were stupid enough to not appreciate what they had with you and let you walk away. You will find someone who will take it as serious as you will. Good luck!
@@belleccino
I needed this. Thank you so much for taking the time to share some encouraging words.
Do you need help
If really you need help I can recommend someone who can help you with any type of spell
He did spell for me and it worked fine now I am a living testimony
It hurts to realise that my ex probably had most of these signs. I tried making a flower pot for her in a desperate attempt to regain her love but in the end it took so long to perfect it that she broke up before I could give it to her. Looking back at it, I should've just talked to her. Asked her why she was considering breakup and what we could do about it. Truly be honest with one another. Still probably wouldn't have worked out in the end though
This actually happened to me, I fall out of love he was really a great guy but yeah feelings change and we both actually notice it that's why we talk it out and eventually broke up
What should I do if he never talks to me about his emotions?
@@princecaspian9566 if he can’t emotionally open up, then it’s difficult to understand if who u love actually exists. And maybe you start to create a narrative that he is one way, when really that’s not who he is.
I’m glad I found this comment there’s so many comments in other videos that losing feeling is bad and stuff but I think I have a good reason like my boyfriend is in the navy and he’s always busy and we text for maybe 20 or 40 minutes a day and idk if I’m asking for too much but I just dont want to suffer through that anymore causing me to lose interest
Do u miss him?
My boyfriend doesn't want to let me go, ive told him many times i dont love him anymore, hes being selfish at this point because he knows I'm not happy anymore. 😢
What if you’re showing most of these signs to yourself and you’re feeling most of these things.. but you love their family and them so much and are afraid you’ll never find something like that again?
This is my situation
Just leave and don't be selfish
Fax
💔
Damn how do you know my situation
it's been two months of our break up, and i at that point of time was wondering if i had fallen out of love. for around 2-3 months i had been thinking the same way, but no one was there to validate my feelings. However i decided that he doesn't deserve to be with someone who doesn't love him like she used to, and that he requires better treatment, which he might get from somewhere else. I realized that it'd be better if the break up happens and hurts for a few months, than an unhealthy relationship for a lifetime. I'm happy now that i feel guilty no more of not loving him enough...and I'm sure, he too will find happiness someday. And happiness is what matters.
Now that i watched this video, I'm so happy that i did what i did.
thank you so much..
If you are full of love within yourself, you won't look for a companionship from anyone else. You don't love anyone, you ARE a soul full of love, you just share it with the people around you.
Yes, when you know yourself, you are more decisive.
I’ve been crying for the last 3 nights. Trying not to cry atm.
So sorry to hear this. Keep your head up. How have you been keeping??
I can totally understand that feeling, girl. Although I'm not physically there with you, consider that I'm with you (spiritually). I have also been through toxic times like this & I know it hurts like damn. But with all that I hope you find solace within yourself. I hope your pain turn into happiness very soon. I hope the best for you. Stay blessed 💕
I've been married 42 years. It doesn't stay as passionate as it was in the beginning. You do start seeing their flaws. And you will eventually want more space from that person. None of this means that you don't love your partner.
Amen
I got dumped and it crushes me that I am still in love with someone who doesn’t gaf about me after 4 years
My biggest issue is our private conversations started being shared with his co workers... like embarrassing stuff I can’t believe he shared so I stopped sharing EVERYTHING. Made me feel like a fool.
If that's an issue for you then you need to confront him about it. It's not right for him to share your guys private conversations for his co-workers to see. It's disrespectful. You should be allowed to share whatever it is you want to share without worrying what your boyfriend will do.
Something incredibly understated about this channel is how incredibly well geared it is towards the target audience of the vid. It allows the messages to just hit so much harder.
It’s better to know than to hang on in a relationship where you won’t be happy.
Yes, accepting things as they are is important.
3:45 focusing on work, studies, etc DOES NOT mean you’re falling out of love, it means you are an adult and you both understand that personal success, pride, and gratitude, is important and that you want that for each other. Especially at a young age, people are still trying to set them selves straight, if you and your partner can’t understand that personal growth sometimes requires personal space, then you and that person might have some issues. I am currently going to college and maintaining a full time job, so is my partner, while we understand and dislike that this is just a part of life, we work around it. Prioritizing real life, over love, DOES NOT mean you aren’t in love with that person. Just thought I’d set the record straight being I love my girlfriend very very much and I refuse to feel guilty for wanting to improve myself. I’ve lost feelings before and this part of the list is all I’ve disagreed with so far.
Would also like to add in, if you feel like you need to watch a video like this, talk to your partner. Don’t take this advice, the last thing you want to do is take advice from anyone who is not in the relationship. I know from experience that the most agitating thing In my relationship is my partner running her end of our relationship based on someone else’s opinion. You should work things out together and not rely on outside sources, you know yourself better than anyone else, your partner knows themselves better than anyone else; only you two and you two alone can begin to understand what compromises you are willing to make, and what you are willing to live with. Don’t let someone else set limitations or set standards FOR YOU. The moment you let someone else start persuading you to see some of your partners traits differently is when it starts to be to late. Be you, let your partner be them, if it doesn’t work out, you’ll know. Hope if you’re reading this you are having a wonderful morning, evening, and or night. Go talk to your partner (: conversation and communication are everything !!
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My ex broke up with me randomly one day. I’ve still been wondering why he did - he never gave me a proper answer, our relationship was very healthy and happy. After watching this, I realised that he had been falling out of love and was too scared to tell me. I guess I understand, people do fall out of love, but it just broke my heart because I’m unsure of what I did in particular to cause this.
It wasn't your fault, you stay true to yourself, he was the one who didn't know how to communicate. It's hard when people suddenly leave and don't give proper closure, I think that kind of behaviour tells a lot about the person. Things will get better and more healing, you're precious and God or the universe always have your back.✨
Beatriz Ceballos Thankyou! I’ve 100% been focussing on myself and I feel so amazing. I guess things happen for a reason ☺️
Same, for me our relationship was healthy, but she broke up with me telling me that she's not happy anymore, so here I am trying to fix myself; devastated.
Sing number 8. You miss your relationship with them when you just started dating and when everyting was so beautiful and magical, you kinda feel nostalgic about it :(
Well when my partner wanted to do long distance then brought up the idea of having an open relationship I pulled the plug. Once your boundaries are walked over and trust is damaged it's time to walk away. My gut told me this would happen during the relationship I should've listened to my gut but I've learned from it.
This got recommended to me right after my crush told me he fell out of love with me, thanks youtube! Very cool.
This video hit me pretty hard. I was secretly in love with my best friend for the longest time, to the point where I'd fantasize us being roommates during college and just spending our lives together. But a series of events made me realize that I'm slowly growing out of that feeling. I still love them, of course, and always will, but the person I fell for and the person they are now are different people. And as mean as it sounds, I refuse to settle for the latter. I deserve better than that, I think.
Thanks, Psych2Go. You're always here when I need you. 💖
Nothing hurts more than holding on too long. Regrets 😔, one may scare of breaking off but actually letting them go sooner will hurts less. Break Fast when realize any changes
Im so frustrated. I know that my anxiety and depression gives me commitment issues and makes me overthink things, but i think this is happening to me. It could also be the restrictions of covid keeping us apart that is causing these feelings though. We've been together for a year now, and we really make each other happy. He's a sweetheart and has never done anything to make me feel otherwise... but I feel distant and I also feel like I jumped into a serious relationship too soon. There were times I would daydream about our future and now I'm not sure if I want that anymore. I'm so young and I want to explore and see my options, but I also worry that finding someone like him is like finding a unicorn. I don't want to hurt him either, because I do love him. I just don't know if it's the same love it was when we started...
i know this is late but we’re in the same situation
edit: we broke up and I think I made the right decision
i am in the exact same situation :/
Same situation 😸
Going through same shit😅
I couldn’t relate to anyone more, more than you, everything you just said is literal exact feeling I’m feeling. And it’s so so so hard to make a decision like this, but what I am trying out with him is for us to have a break, where we only treat eachother as friends like how we were before, and if I start to feel a spark with him in that way, it shows I only fell in love with him for his Attributes while we were friends, and that maybe that’s what we need more in our relationship is to just goof off more and not think so much and over think, but if I don’t feel anything from him then I know it’s time for me to move on for my mental health
When you are in a relationship flirting is not harmless and it never will be. Though there are different degrees off flirting but if you or your partner is flirting than you need to think about things and reevaluate your relationship. Now, yes you can't entirely control your attraction for people. However you can control how you act in those moments. What you choose to do.
Yes, we have a choice in situations.
cheating is a choice. not an accident
yeah I aggree . my boyfriend looks at other hot girls when I'm there and even tells me that she looks hot and stuff... it is so devalueing for me.
@@TheseVoicesInMyHead can i ask you a forward question? But before i do i want to mention that i have been there.
I have held out for a person's highest potential and fought for the best sides of these people who i use to love and i suffered from similiar things, so i am deeply sorry for that.
But my question is, is whatever safety, or security, or pleasure, or comfort, or familiarity, or fear of the unknown, or whatever other reason that you have to continue to be with someone who flirts and diminishes your value as person, really worth the destruction you allow to be inflicted upon you?
Are you okay with being this way and feeling this way, for years to come? I'm not judging, i really want to know your opinion.
I suffered from abandonment through out my life and i fought and fought for so many reasons, and tried so hard and i wanted to blossom the best parts of them and felt like it could be worked through but it never worked.
I know It's complicated and not easy to let go or move on from something like this.
and it might be easier to settle but i feel like you should ask yourself these questions and think about it deeply if your feeling the way you're feeling and be honest with yourself with what and who your really want as a partner and if this person is really the person for you..
Ask yourself "Is this person the one for me? Or is this just something temporary i am engaging in so i won't be alone?
Am i trying to fix them or complete myself out of a need to feel fulfilled?
Or Am i with this person for darker reasons?
I could go on but my point is, If you're with someone who makes you feel horrible because they flirt and brag about flirting with other people than what reason do you have to trust them?
Especially With a attitude and actions like your lover. is it only flirting? Can you honestly say you trust this person to be faithful when this person has proven that they don't care enough to stop what they're doing.
Or love you enough to the point where they wouldn't dare want to harm you? Is this really about love?
If your going to be with someone you have to be honest with yourself even if it hurts like hell.
The only type of flirting you should do is with your partner! 🥰
1. notice more of their flaws
2. you don’t communicate as much
3. you spend less time with them
4. you feel more attracted to other people
5. you stop picturing a future with them
6. you stop prioritizing your relationship
7. you’ve lost respect for them
You NEVER fall out of love in my eyes. It's either you still love each other or it would have never worked out in the end for you both
My situation atm is I still love my ex I didn't fall out of love with him
I already knew I was falling out of love.
But after watching this video
It’s looks like it was meant for me.
All the signs are there .
Most of the times we go into denial
But it may make things worse
It’s hard to accept that something that was once so special, so beautiful is over ….
It hurts more when the person was once your best friend before then turning it into a relationship 😔
This video was so simple yet so completely complex. I cried my eyes out. My husband doesn’t love me anymore. All the signs are there.
im sorry to hear that, stay strong
if you want to talk im here
Experiencing all these signs with my girlfriend. To whoever who's going through the same, know you're not alone, and we're all suffering together.
I don't know what to do....so do I just break up with her ?
@@alexchiyabeif you dont feel the same then it is best to break up, because youll end up hurting both of yall
@@hobienthusiastnope...its not like "If you don't feel the same "...That feeling of falling in love is all just a hormonal emotional surge and it will fade after some time.
But please...do not leave without giving some efforts.
If you feel like this for your this one relationship...you definitely r gonna feel the same for every person you r gonna be with.
Relationship takes a lot of effort to build upon
And also before ending everything just remember why you liked them in the first place and try to rebuild it again.
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These are all basically choices people make. I will never understand how so many people just abandon their partners.
This is a perfect description of Falling out of love I've ever seen.
Corona added a layer of difficulty on relationships . It's hard to tell my stress is from the pendamic or us . Not all the signs apply so I feel at ease . Thank you 💖
can’t fall out of love if you were never in love
Right 😭
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Single squad
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I don't think that... You can totally fall in love someone and than don't loving them anymore...
It always astonishes me when someone is abusive to their SO and are shocked when their SO is no longer in love with them. If you treat your spouse or partner poorly, that person will fall out of love.
Fair enough lol. But speaking from personal experience, even though I had toxic tendencies, I still cared for her. But, I guess the love we once had for each other was long gone, we just didn’t want to accept it. At least it’s over now..
I'm currently in that situation. Even though my partner isn't a toxic person per se, he treated me in ways I can no longer accept. He broke my heart so many times and I only realised it was too much for me to bear about 2 weeks ago. I understand why he treated me the way he did (he's deeply traumatised and because of that he always kept me at arm's length). But even though we talked about it and he is trying to change I don't know if I can love him anymore. I feel like I have to choose between loving myself or loving him, I don't know if I can do both... also, I noticed I show almost all of the sings mentioned in the video...
Two years gone. Because of me falling out of love with an amazing person. He is and will always be my best friend. We just aren’t meant to be.
honeymoon phase ended this will happen in ur next relationship aswell
@@Justanobodybro exactly!
Been with her for almost a year and i found almost all of these to be true… i just don’t wanna hurt her
Same here
Its important to love yourself before others. ITS VERY IMPORTANT TO KNOW THAT YOU HAVE ACCEPTED YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE BEFORE ACCEPTING OTHER PEOPLE
There is a difference between real love and attachment. We loose interest when the brain stops producing Dopamine. Please read 5 Love languages to improve the relationship❤️❤️.
exactly!! This is dealing with infatuation.. not true love!!
That's a good book. Thank you for sharing!
@@Psych2go Thanks for your reply. We are also spreading your work through our blog selfhelpchampion. We are posting your magazine and videos in this weekend post. Wish you all best❤️🙏
It hurts when you don’t have friends and you thought your spouse would always be the one you can talk to and now you can’t even open and talk to them so now you have this void and pressure in your heart. I feel so alone I’m hurting.
We are in the same situation..
Chickie Avellana want to be friends?
Its the worst feeling wen ur hurting and theres no one u can talk 2..i feel worthless and so alone
Same thing.
I feel the same way
This hurts so much, realizing that you don't love them like you used to and don't have the guts to break up with them in person.💔💔💔
OMG
thank u so much i really thought i didn’t love him anymore😭
he’s so perfect
once again thank you❤
You're not looking forward to spending time together.
You're not open with your partner.
You seek out opportunities to be without your partner.
You choose silence over disagreements with your partner.
You're feeling hopeless about your future together.
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I’m single but I have a crush and am trying to not get over them bc idk they’re kind of my guide without them I’m never sure what to do or where to go or how to get there. They believe in me when I don’t. I’m sort of the opposite rn.
And it’s painful not only for the person who is not loved anymore but it’s painful for the person who doesn’t feel attracted to the partner anymore .
💔💔💔
Sometimes you just wish everything was just as it had always been .
It hurts for both sides
i dont know if i still love him. i havent seen him for five months because of quarantine and i fear it might be an out of sight out of mind thing
*How is your comment 1 week ago?-*
1 week ago?😲
Time traveler
UnLiStEd
okay but, that’s sad hope you find love (again)✌️🌟💕
Has to be the worst pain anyone could go through
i love their flaws, all their strengths, every part of them. evn ones they hate. their comfort is always my priority.
The world needs more like you :(
The fear of this makes me never want to try again. I know it's part of the risk everyone takes... But the heartbreak from being on both sides of it...
And I went on journies of discovering and loving myself first. Even so, Ive gained a fear of putting my time into something only to fizzle. I don't want to think this way.
If you think your relationship with someone is falling apart, then don't stick with it.
"Falling in love" is nothing but a hormone surge. It can't last; it's physically impossible. If you don't have a sound basis in character and mutual beliefs and interests, the relationship will fail. Too many people only want that hormone surge; if that's all that matters to you, stay out of relationships because it isn't fair to the other person. If they think you're committed for the long term and you just want the hormone rush, you're just jerking them around.
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After you've been together for so long, I wonder if it's harder to let go than it is to stay together if you still have a friendship as the basis though it's not the same feelings anymore. Such a conundrum.
This is basically losing "Passion", and you losing the accountability and humility to work on your relationship. Passion isn't always guaranteed, all the time. Its like a plant... If you water it, it grows, if you neglect it, it dies.
Convenient throwing away relationships is so encouraged since finding a new one is a dating site swipe away. Otherwise both people would have to sit down and be forced to solve problems.
Me watching this while being completely single
hahahahah
thanks i'm not alone
Same, but I applied to a guy friend I actually loved and I'm having some of these signs even though we never dated.
You are beautiful. Never forget that. In a world of 7.1 billion people, there is only one you. So take care of you because the world needs you.
☀️☀️☀️☀️☀️🙊
Who are you talking to?
Well technicaly the world doesn't "need" any of us, actually it would be better off without humans. Maybe some people need you but the world definitely doesn't. 😐
If I knew what does it need me for...
Do you need help
If really you need help I can recommend someone who can help you with any type of spell
I've never been in love before, but now I'm prepared for if I fall in and out of love 😂
Aw Oof I hope you find love lol
Me neither, dis is one of the reasons why I watch these video to be prepared 🤣🤣
Bro you just posted cringe
2 weeks ago?😲
Beat ya meat =)) and you out of love
I relate to a lot of these. I really don’t want to hurt my partner, but I really don’t think there is any universe where we can work together :( more than anything I don’t want to hurt her! She’s an amazing human being and I wish the best for her, but we won’t work
It hurts when you love the person so much and they don't feel the same anymore, the memories make me cry.
Man this sucks. A few hours ago I broke up with my girlfriend, or ex-girlfriend rather, because I just lost feelings for her and as this video just showed me, I fell out of love. Every sign was relatable to me so I guess I made the right decision long term but I hate myself for breaking her heart like that right now. She was literally ready to give her everything for me, she did so much for me she put so much effort into me but I just couldn't truly appreciate all that. I don't want her to waste her anytime and put all her energy into someone who can not really give it back. She deserves better. Sigh
Same bro 😔
what made you fall out of love with her
I'm always thinking about the person I'm in a relationship regardless of whether there's communication or not. Whether it's the future etc etc.
Anyway people make choices and everyone has that right to make it.
If I could say one thing it's for people in relationships to just becareful. Don't forget to love yourself because sometimes when spending so much work working on stuff without your partner knowing, you can feel a bit lonely but never like wanting to be with another person....just take care of yourselves emotionally. Especially sensitive people, I love you all ♥️🤗
That's good. How often are you with your partner? Just curious.
Well ATM I'm single so my partner is me and I'm with him all the time haha but when in a relationship if I'm honest I'd love to be with my partner everyday if I could but I'd rather work to be able to take them on dates etc, a future doesn't work if there's no money coming in
I always fall out of love in every relationship and the relationship I’m in right now I really want it to last but...it’s a long distance relationship and it’s like every day he has less and less time for me and I get that he has stuff to do it’s just that I’m not used to barely talking to him. I feel like we’re both falling out of love but I don’t want it to end..he’s the only person I have left and I would be so lost without him
Any update?
Loving people unconditionally is the most difficult thing to do in this world...good luck
I love him so much ! Thankyou for the video. I started w a frown on my face, but I'm smiling now . None of these are even close . I want him every time.
i wanna fall back in love with him SOOOOO bad. :(