@@InternetLiJo The breathing's just the tip of the iceberg. There's communication, clothing, social norms... There should be a special course in all these things for aliens.
INFJ here, if a conversation gets boring, I change the subjects, and next thing I know, I'm being the counselor to someone opening up their problems and secrets to me. Then feeling their deep relief afterwards, that they found someone different that listened. However there's another side to this because if a narcissist starts telling me their problems and secrets, they get highly suspicious of me, and I've become their newest target. I know I can force myself to go gray rock and doorslam them (call it quantitative experiences), so I can go into an "observe and don't absorb" counselor mode, and they just end up eventually draining themselves. [ that my friends, is one example that being a rare INFJ, is both a blessing and a curse]
I accidentally discovered ‘false presence’ years ago when I bought a ‘good’ camera. I liked taking pictures of street scenes, people, the real time hustle and bustle. However, one day at work someone asked me to get my camera (before cell phones) to take pictures of an office party and it immediately dawned on me that they had asked me to be merely an observer. I was tasking myself with recording the present but not really participating in it. I had tricked myself into thinking that taking pictures of the present is the same as being in the present, it isn’t.
Creating pictures, creating a visual experience for later viewing is an Se thing tho. But I totally get what you mean, but I still would lean toward defining presence as any departure from the abstract
LiJo: Talking about being more present Me: "Is she using a green screen? I wonder why she's using that versus filming in her living room. Huh, I can see the lights in the reflection of her glasses, that's cool, I wonder what subset of viewers noticed that as well. I still want to know if those are prescription lenses or just blue light blocking lenses. These have to be Observer thoughts, right? I should make a comment about this, that would be so ironic." This video has excellent advice BTW
The idea, "Work Smart, Not Hard" probably came from an INTJ. From my experience, one of the biggest pieces of advice I would give to an INTJ is to take care of yourself physically. Work out, maybe even play sports, eat right, take vitamins, and work on your appearance, stay well groomed, have decent clothes, and so on. Doing that improves everything else. It's not easy. It's hard to stick to it. But you can use your mental strengths on it, to figure out what to do and how to do it, and how to simplify it so you can put it on autopilot. And when you do that, it improves your other weaknesses. You are forced out of your head when you work out and take of yourself physically, and the result is that you're more attractive and confident, which helps you socially. You'll also live longer. It's win/win/win. The only problem is that you will hate doing it. That's the hard part. The discipline of doing repetitive, uninteresting things. But it's worth it.
I don't feel working out gets repetitive if you make it a competition with yourself. Setting goals to lift heavier weights, or to beat your time per mile can help reduce the monotony of exercise as it gives you something to look forward to.
My INTJ reaction: "Why would anyone want to be more present in Reality? That just takes time away from the concepts-mining." Is Reality a concept? [Wanders off to think about the concept of Reality]
We mature when we don't ignore our inferior functions, think of ExxPs not organizing and how they'd be better off if the focused a bit more on that. Same for us IxxJs we are just more blind to our own inferior functions.
Reality is really boring! But yeah, Te says- escape reality to face/play it in your ways. So this reality escape is kinda from reality to abstract reality. Sounds interesting..
I asked my ENFJ mother last month what she experiences when she sees a sunset, and she named a wide array of emotions. Then I told her that I've tried to be enjoy a sunset many times, but all I can think about is the thicker cross-section of atmosphere that causes the color shift and how individual water particles contribute to the overall color palette. I wonder how much of the warmth on my skin is due more UV turing into visible light turning into infrared. I think about the earth's dent in space-time that pulls the last little bit of light off the horizon. By the time I finish thinking all of that, the sunset is gone.
Little things that really "ground" me in the moment : - having my hands around a warm cup of tea - cooking a recipe - Looking outside the window and watching the trees for a minute - meditation when I have the time/willpower 😭 - asking myself "how do I feel ? what does my body say I need right now ?"
@gabriel vazquez I think this pratice of focussing on the present instead of speculating on the future or ruminating on the past isn't a XXTX vs XXFX thing, but more for types who have intuition first in their function stack and sensing last. Intuition is not always right, but the more data you allow it to receive from the outside world the more likely its' impressions will be accurate and not always the same imo (and can then be refined into conclusions and ideas by Te or Ti depending what type one is). ✨Definitely agree with the so relative "speed" of time passing !
When I feel like I'm floating again, I try to feel the floor with my foot, like actually feel it to the point I can describe how it feels. Sometimes, I use my palms.
Anything involving focusing on one or more of your five senses with get you into the present moment. A couple activities, like sharing a meal or enjoying sex is using all five senses at once, i.e. intimacy is being in the present. The last answer, answering your own questions in real time is the Art of Observing Ego, which I trained myself to do (INFJ), and became my Holy Grail for staying in the present, I can turn it on anytime I want now. And lastly, when you take manual control of an autopilot function like breathing, that qualifies as being in the present, because you got behind the wheels, switched off the autopilot button.
I find my mind is constantly backing away from the 'now' to keep a 'gods-eye view'- such as to normalize every situation, avoid and pre-empt a curve ball and maintain composure in any possible eventuality. THIS is why it is exhausting to be around any social intensity for too long
That's why I love Strategy Games with "Pause" but hate the Real Time Strategy Games. The paused "whole landscape point of view" allows an easy control over the situation altough sometimes you have to "zoom in" and take in real time direct control over some specific events that create a domino effect or affect too much the rest of the situation.
the incorrect breathing method you just mentioned, I just realized I do that too... also, about being present, I literally cannot watch a video without being distracted by other thoughts or things, I find it sooo hard to be at the present moment.
I'm an INFJ and I really relate to the breathing part. I was just watching a video about that a few days ago, and when you brought it up I was like " Hey, I'm breathing incorrectly again!" 😆
You know, I used to obsess with being present. I had done a great deal of research and was really trying to be in the moment as much as possible. Then I came to the conclusion that all I have to do is be myself and get away from all of those Sensors in my life to whom I look 'autistic' (yes, an ESFP actually asked me once if I was autistic. I was just daydreaming.) Yes I have a rich inner world and I am going to take every advantage of that gift of mine, and leave the people who are gifted with the ability of being in the moment be in the moment. My Ni helped me get through my difficult childhood (abusive parents) and through many tough moments in my life. Instead of turning to drugs and alcohol and what not, like many Sensors end up doing, I can turn to my imaginary world. That said, I do my best to be in the moment when I am with people that matter to me or if I am doing something that really matters to me, I try to do that with all of my heart and be there as if this was the last time I see those people. Other than that, I like to stick to my daydreaming lol!
Yea... sensors will spitefully wave their hands in front of my face when they see me blissfully in my own world. The worst part is they don't even want anything... they're just doing it to be obnoxious.
I'm an INTJ and have been diagnosed with autism/ADHD. It's not too fun. I'll hear someone tell me to do something and interpret a very different command. I usually stim unless I'm listening to music, wearing something extreme comfortable, or otherwise feel peaceful inside.
An INTJ trying her best to human is really cute. 😋 Those were some good insights too. I have a similar thing with breathing so I'm taking notes. [INFJ] Looking forward to what else you discover about this. Thanks, Lindsey. ✌&❤
This sounds like a cliche but I really think 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle should be mandatory reading for all INxJs. The whole concept of being present is so foreign that it might as well be an entirely new world. It's very eye opening when you realize that you have been living in the future (or the past) your entire life.
I came to this realization at a funeral when I was asked to share some stories. This had been a person I knew my whole life but I was having the hardest time pulling out memories. It was like I had none. You are physically there but never mentally there so you just don’t store what’s going on in your mind. I had to hear the stories others told to remember. It’s like “oh yeah we all took a trip to that place and saw that one thing! I totally forgot!”
Damn I resonate with this story more than you know. I also really relate to someone else’s story sparking the memory that was inaccessible. So interesting.
Same goes for me. It always fascinates me when people talk about memories and how they felt during that particular day. It's like, I can't pull out a special memory or I can remember it happening but I don't know how I reacted to/felt it.
As an INTJ , being in the moment is a strange experience I would say , most of the time I don't like to go out , yet sometimes I enjoy looking at the aesthetics of the old buildings, they remind me of medieval architecture in video games , it feeds my imagination and it gives a bunch of introverted feelings, I don't know how to explain it but I kinda have visions, like a projection of my self .... I can't explain further x) . I also like being in the biggest boulevard of my town especially Friday's evenings , I enjoy watching the crowd and everything seems vivid, people well dressed , lights , instrumental music, just a fancy atmosphere. As I said I enjoy wondering but even when I'm wondering I'm in my mind , it's like I can see all of those details with no problem yet I'm not a part of that atmosphere, it's like I'm a creature from a different dimension wondering another dimension .
Most of high school, and early twenties for me. I could tell you what I was reading, day dreaming, or planning but not what I was doing or who I was with: weird.
when I was a child I inhaled through my nose and exhaled through my mouth and this brought me numerous illnesses. i really didn't know how to breathe lol
Oh my god. As an ENFP, watching a well developed INTJ talk so fluently about concepts is ridiculously satisfying. Like, it’s just soothing to my soul 🤣 my Ne is eating this s*%t up something fierce. I wish more people would go around speaking like this 🤣
Oooh, so that's why I keep forgetting things as if I never even were there. Also, I started running (for health reasons, obviously) and I too found that being in the present is very rewarding. It takes me out of some loops and helps me be more balanced and efficient. And efficiency is king, so that is my reason to train myself to be present.
INFJ, I'm finding that setting an intention to put myself first (before others) seems to set my Se into "drive". Usually Ni and Fe are in charge trying to put me in the absolute ideal condition to save the world, but as I've matured and realized I need to be balanced in order to help others, my motivation to put myself first has grown, and I'm able to sustain that me-first intention for longer stretches in the day. Has really helped with productivity around my basic needs...
I started voice lessons when I was 13 and that REALLY helped me with body awareness. I learned A TON about posture, tension, mouth shape, tongue placement and really just focusing on your body.... Especially Breathing 😉😂 also if you get hiccups a lot it is because you are not using your diaphram properly and so air gets trapped underneath causing it to spasm...
@gabriel vazquez from my experience most vocal coaches and choral directors teach the same way. Most people think singing is pure talent and while some of it is, there is a copious amount of training that goes into singing well. Your posture is a huge one, if you hold tension in your jaw, shoulders, lower abdomen or even feet it well throw off your center of gravity or affect the amount you can release your rib cage to get enough breath support. You need to lift you soft palate at ALL times, you need to know where to place each vowel and you need to learn to recognize where in your range you should place certain notes (head, mixed, chest, etc.) -- these are just some of the basics you would learn in most highschool and college choirs. I believe that singing is one of the most physically demanding musical activities you can do. As for the huccups I learned my trick from a doctor as well, you breathe as deeply and as low as you can and then hold your breath, then you exhale slowly, it is supposed to force the diaphragm to stop spasming... Stops my hiccups immediately as well but I'll have to try your method next time too!
This video cover can't be so close to my actual experience. I always live like my body is an exosequeleton i am driving from a remote mothership. It is so hard to be in the moment. But yet so pleasant to be in the Ni ocean.
This is so relatable cos when I'm eating with my family at the table I don't talk to anyone. It looks like I'm just staring at my bowl when really I'm like planning my day, thinking about some anime or book or school. I'm actually happier in my own head than listening and participating in conversations at the table. But my family doesn't get that. They think I'm sad LOL
Great video Lindsey! I’ve come to accept the fact, despite popular opinion, that as an INTJ I’m usually more comfortable living and thinking about the past and future rather than the present. I’ve also always found the abstract more interesting and compelling than the concrete. Thanks for your great work!
INFJ here. What was a real game changer for me is when I started trying to see the "space" that objects are in, the "space" that my body moves in. That lead me to being in the present moment and kind of "supercharge" my Se which lead to me bypassing the hazy veil of Ni that was literary blocking my seeing perception.. or whatever idk.
Hey, this was very cool! Very helpful to me. It filled in some missing pieces of the puzzle. I'm an INFJ, and a clinical social worker. What you said about the Ni always trying to find that nugget of understanding that can be applied to a myriad of situations, while wanting to ignore the sensory information as much as possible, pretty much nailed something I have been wrestling with for a long time. When I'm with clients I'm not tracking every detail of what's being said. Instead, I always, unfailingly, end up grabbing onto that nugget which reveals some truth that underpins how that client thinks. It reveals where their head is at so you can meet them there and make that important connection. As you said, it's that nugget of understanding that can be applied to a myriad of situations. I had been fighting with ambivalence about this, as part of me strongly suspected there was a failing on my part by not tracking the details more closely, but this makes sense, and it's very helpful to know that it is a normal thing for people with a strong Ni. Also, regarding being present. This makes more sense of why I enjoy teaching so much. For me, teaching material that I have a great interest in allows me to bring my students to that place where I'm at in my head, to where I'm at in the abstract. It enables me to be present and feel connected with them when it goes well, and as an introverted feeler who struggles for that, it is a very big thing.
I am thankful my dad is an ESTJ. I have learned a lot from his Si parent taking care of my little insecure Se inferior lol. As Ni doms especially, I think it is definitely a good idea to have a high Si user in our lives. It really goes a long way in helping keeping us grounded!
What helps very well to breathe properly in the present moment is to take a sip of water in your mouth without swallowing. It really helps a lot to focus. The body and brain automatically know that you can only breathe through your nose, which slows things down and reduces the stress level. I got that from the movie Astral City.
As an INTJ with a highly developped Se I can say it's really really pleasing to be able to come to the moment with ease, to tidy up or listen to music, cook, work with the hands, be with people, any Se stuff. I really enjoyed Se as a kid, handcrafts especially and rock collecting 🤩 and the out doors. I've also played an instrument since 7 (24yo now) and been on/off practicing meditation for 5 years and my full-time business is 99% Se work, and I cook and clean every day as a part of my routine. I use Ni and Te to form the image of the best possible thing I can create with Se and that vision fuels my Se and the finisher instinct fuels it too. That's just how I developed it. It's really fun yall. Go develop it. Inferior functions can actually out perform the same hero function when the inferior is aspiring but only for a limited period though, hero functions can go on forever. So yah like we can use our Ni and Te to study and then aspire with our Se and become the best at cooking or in bed or whatever, we're the best Se users when trained!! Same goes for all inferior functions. Constant practice, not even practice, just lifestyle I guess? Make it a part of life. No need to be worried about how we perform in Se guys if we get better than anybody else 😂 jk I still worry about the experience I'm giving lol but I know it's good tho. Any other developped Se inferiors here?
I would say that I am. I set tile for a living. Whenever the client starts asking anything regarding what can or can't be done, I simply say "My limitation is your imagination". I like it because it engages all my functions. At times it's labor intensive, but it's slow paced. I drone about with the physical stuff and use that time to think about if what's next procedurally, really what I want to do next. It doubles as enough exercise too so I never need to workout. When they "try" to describe what they want I almost always understand what they're getting at and will roughly sketch it on the wall or a paper elaborating while I draw it. It never crossed my mind growing up the extent to where people can't picture shit in their head. They need to see it physically. Sometimes to the degree of actually putting tile up just to see if they want it like that. For me it's like toward the end of the first Lego movie when dudes dropped back into the world and is a "master builder". When looking about, I can get a good idea roughly if an idea is feasible without needing to do anything.
@@peterdentice5725 Yes! Seeing the Se thing fully done with Ni is so on point! Can pretty much visualize any physical project finished in any number of variations. I haven't actually given much thought to how well others can picture things in their heads. I assumed to some extent that picturing things fully done is just an obvious thing to do for everybody. When other's ask me how was I able to create something I say that I just saw it in my head and then made it. They're still amazed by it and I'm thinking like what's so amazing about that? It's the obvious thing to do. Lmao Ni hero 😂
Omg when you talked about breathing it took me back to childhood, I was breathing the same way as you did! Breathing right should be a subject in school, no joking. I'm saying it as a yoga teacher, I've met some people who don't breathe the right way. -infj
(INTJ) I have discovered that people are far more receptive to my thoughts when i become more animated and speak my unfiltered mind. Its more socially draining by 1000 fold where as i would usually be silent and speak only when i deemed the input funny or necessary.
Thank you LiJo. This is what I face every second of everyday. I'm trying to improve. I plan on reading "The book of now" which I discovered by synchronicity
When I want to be present in the moment with people (catch myself spacing out into Ni), I look deeper into their eyes (from a normal distance / not creepy) and focus on their words. When I find my Ni in hyperdrive and I just know it will wear me down, I try to focus on sounds (wind, water, even just quiet. The sound of Water coming from the shower works when showering) or if I am driving, I play a meditation track (no words, just sounds. The deeper the tones, the better.)
me: looking for Lijo wisdom, sees video title of 10/10 painful thing video beyond my grasp, yet Lijo's cred is high, so will be trying ps : thanks again for the recent INTJ growth series, that was awesome for you to do 💙
Thoughts from another black unicorn... Meditation is a type of practice. And most people start out doing breathing exercises as a focus during meditation because it’s pretty much impossible to completely clear your mind until you have been practicing meditation for years. So as a way to calm and be present in the moment which is meditation, as well, again you do a breathing exercise.
INFJ here, same problem with breathing :) I just saw some of your videos and subscribed. I like your vibe, and your face, your eyes. Maybe a little crush. Harmless I would say.
YOGA. DO IT. after having done a bit of yoga myself in recent years, i have found that yoga is ALLLLLLLL ABOUT breathing well, BALANCE and, being present in the moment. SERIOUSLY. YOGA. DO IT.
I agree!!! I used to do more stretching/yoga time and I’ve fallen off that wagon a bit 😩 but yes yoga pushes you to tune in With your breath in such an active way.
You're not alone, apparently i didn't stand right, which screwed up one of my knees lol my "pull back to earth" thing is currently noticing where i put my weight
Nice! I have recently realized that I need to practice being present, using that weak Se. You cracked me up about not knowing how to breath correctly. When I was a young girl, I had an issue about not getting enough oxygen because of something like “forgetting to breath” correctly. It was an issue discovered while camping in the mountains. Crazy issue until you realize you are not alone.
The other day i was walking down the street and something strange hit me and rattled me. I had the sudden realization i could smell the sweet spring air, grass, pollen, peoples perfumes, car exhausts ect ect. Everything at once. It then dawned on me that this must be there all the time but i had not smelled all this at this intensity for decades. Must have been a glitch in the old noodle that dropped me in to supercharged SE. It is amazing to me that what i experienced was some peoples normal state.
I’m glad you’re working on your breathing. I thought i needed to hear this knowledge. My breathing isn’t the greatest either i’d say. I get so antsy sometimes
Your endings get funnier and prettier by time 😂😂 It's hard to be present. I keep zoning out and thank you for the video maybe I'd start meditation as well
Thanks for sharing and open up your progress 🙂 Notes: Concepts are abstract and one singular concept can apply to all these different sensory variations. -> "Ni wants to interact with as little new physical sensory situations as possible if it can have that one thing that'll solve the situation that one thing that it knows will work in a certain way so it has to do less in the real world it is literally trying to escape reality." (1:59) Not realizing the own struggeling of bein present until 20 (same) Fi -> Situations you weren't present are important to you and you wish you would've been able to participate in those situations (I wish I would be as fluent in the moment as I'm in my concepts) Breathing exercises can bring her into the present. (on me concentration meditation "Third Eye Meditation" works wonders)
I love this!! So true for me lol. INFJ- im always looking forwards especially and often backwards to “go forwards better for the future” and i feel like i have two sort if on and off switches for each. In my late 20s now. Had a little hack where I just sorta tried to “ have both on at once” to build a semi present. Lead me to meditation practices, which has led me to breathing meditation. Still working on that part. Why is breathing not intuitive is it no Si? Lol hmm...
The importance of properly breathing is such a perfect example, I thought I was the only one that had that weird issue with forgetting how to properly breath.
For alternative breathing technique, You can also keep your hands on your lower rib area,just above the abdomen on the lateral sides. Instead of focussing on the abdomen, focus on pushing your hands to the sides. ( lateral costal breathing).
@@InternetLiJo Doing fine, all things considered. Been working on this very thing about being present in the moment. Not quite there yet, but if anyone can figure it out, it’s us 😎
How can you not be in the present moment? You are always in the present moment. You are always in the infinite present moment but thinking about past and future distract us from the Now. The blue sky is the present moment that is always here... Cognitive cloud just get in the way. Observe the clouds as they come and go. 😌❤️🌏
Feels with the breathing incorrectly, my singing lessons teacher made me do the same kind of exercise to help me sing and breathe better for holding out notes XD
Only 2 months ago I realized that my walking posture was incorrect, my right foot was placed incorrectly. I am retraining myself to place my right leg correctly. I try to be in control and shift my attention on how I am walking. Over time I have seen a patter that this exercise is actually helping me to be more in the present. Sometimes, it’s hard. And then I tell myself that by being mindful of how I walk, I am engaging my Se in a healthy way.
Speaking from experience, I'm an INFJ, easiest solution is to date an ENTP. They thrive in the present, and that feels great for an INFJ because it gets us out of our own heads, and we are drawing in new experiences that feels fresh, like a running spring. That relationship dynamics expands our comfort zone from inside your own room to encompassing a whole city. In addition, adds newer locations to our lucid and vivid INFJ's dreaming state, more places we visited and explored, also gets reflected, and expands our inner world too, so ENTP win/win/win. [Is it painful obvious when the INFJ walks into the room? ~smirks~ ]
Woah that breathing thing sounds veryyyy familiar. I should look into that. I have hated wearing swimsuits my whole life (even now that I have the body I want) because of my chest/sternum. :-/ Try as I may, I have only one memory before the age of like five. FIVE!! That seems like a lot of missing memories.
Woahhhh... Go INxx with the sensory!! With Se inferior or the Se blind, this is definitely needed. Ps. I checked how to breathe and I'm surprised that I breathed in correctly too. Do your best LiJo I too love you to the moon and back!! -Aly
Once upon a time I came across the word Interoception. I found the word that auto-correct tries to change it to (Interception) ironic because that's exactly what Se does with the electrical neural transmissions.
I like menial work, because I can be in my own head, and basically auto-pilot work. So the other day I was washing dishes at work, and was thinking....."If necessity is the mother of invention, she got knocked up by sloth. Because laziness is the cause of all optimization." And then I was got to thinking what the actual difference is between laziness and efficiency. And my working definition is 'Efficiency, is aggressively pre-meditated laziness.' So yea that was my Wednesday night. It was pretty fun. Polishing plates and "nuggets" at the same time. On the breathing point, I took choir so we learned how to breath. You could always tell the kids that didn't know how to breath. They were the ones passed out on the floor.
Neither should Sensors turn to drugs and hedonism, neither should Intuitives turn to a reality scapism. Reality is a gift, with all of its joy and suffering, and we must try to pay attention to it and respond it with all of our heart. When we have grandkids, they won't ask us about the planning or dreaming we used to do, but what we ACTUALLY DID and how we responded to that calling that life gave us, in a concrete way. Humans are full of potential, but without an act, we turn simply into wasted potential.
Playing a wind instrument can help you train to breathe correctly.. I started playing trombone and tuba in school and it corrected my breathing technique without thinking about it...
INxx here lol yea i relaized after u said i cant breath properly and im not sure if its commen to feel like that all the time when engaging in the present moment and if its something serious lol
Considering that the INTJ has a prominent Ni-Fi loop. I was thinking that there is also a less prominent but still noticeable Te-Se loop. This would explain why when Te notices a need or creates a system, it will then skips over to Se to be enacted. You relearning to breath is a literal example of this. Do you think this Te-Se loop operates in the same way that the Ni-Fi loop maneuvers? I was thinking about this earlier today, so it cool that you posted this video.
I have my own lifehack in case I really need to concentrate on present moment: I simply roll the coin (Morgan Dollar) across my fingers - as a bonus I also get decent amount of "Wow!" effect from other people
I never knew about infjs. I always felt different. I also have this thoughts, that i am missing my life. I have 3 kids it is very difficult for me. I am missing my kids lives. I startet realizing that i dont breath right few years ago. Its like i forget to breath and then i breath quickly like i runed out of air.
My problem is that I am constantly thinking about the future. What I am going to cook for dinner tonight, plans for tomorrow, holiday plans for months in advance, new career ideas a year down the track. Even when I'm on those holidays or studying new qualifications all I can think of is what next. I feel especially bad not being able to remember parts of my travels. I just posted about this on reddit asking for tips and no replies. Meditation doesn't work for me either. I feel doomed.
See that’s what I mean about finding a reason. My reason to work on the thing was knowing if I did I could alter my future body/self. That was the only way to tap in.
I suggest exercise, go out more and get into your "flow state" through enjoyable hobbies which can be indoors or outdoors, flow is where you get completely lost in the moment that you are not able to think. It is true autopilot and very calming especially if you have anxiety. Oh also try journaling and good luck💜
@@spring7643 I exercise almost everyday and it's the one time where I am completely focused on the task I am doing. Unfortunately I can't seem to transfer that to anything else. I don't really like to write journals. I write down my plans but don't see how putting my other thoughts to paper will help.
@@AbsintheReverie I have to write stuff down to remember, plan, organize and make goals. I don't do diary style writing, more like sorting my brain out on paper. Then I make the plans and goals once the jumbled mess is organized. This just works for me. I'm INFJ by the way.
@@spring7643 Oh yeah, I get you. In that case I definitely do have notes all over the place for everything. I prefer it written down on paper too so it's easier to see.
This makes sense. Most aliens need training on how to breath on earth.
They never tell you how hard it’s going to when you’re still on the spaceship 👽🖤
When i breath i feel emotions
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@@GentMorina Do you even know INTJ's function stack?
@@InternetLiJo The breathing's just the tip of the iceberg. There's communication, clothing, social norms... There should be a special course in all these things for aliens.
It is hard to be present when the conversation is boring 😆
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INFJ here, if a conversation gets boring, I change the subjects, and next thing I know, I'm being the counselor to someone opening up their problems and secrets to me. Then feeling their deep relief afterwards, that they found someone different that listened.
However there's another side to this because if a narcissist starts telling me their problems and secrets, they get highly suspicious of me, and I've become their newest target.
I know I can force myself to go gray rock and doorslam them (call it quantitative experiences), so I can go into an "observe and don't absorb" counselor mode, and they just end up eventually draining themselves.
[ that my friends, is one example that being a rare INFJ, is both a blessing and a curse]
so so difficult
What people think INTJs are like: cold, strategic, robots
INTJs actually: "Yeah so I don't breathe correctly"
Bless, my Fi adores you Lindsay 😂
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"Help! I can't breathe!"
"You don't breathe, Jenny."
I accidentally discovered ‘false presence’ years ago when I bought a ‘good’ camera. I liked taking pictures of street scenes, people, the real time hustle and bustle. However, one day at work someone asked me to get my camera (before cell phones) to take pictures of an office party and it immediately dawned on me that they had asked me to be merely an observer. I was tasking myself with recording the present but not really participating in it. I had tricked myself into thinking that taking pictures of the present is the same as being in the present, it isn’t.
Creating pictures, creating a visual experience for later viewing is an Se thing tho. But I totally get what you mean, but I still would lean toward defining presence as any departure from the abstract
Interesting comment!! I too was/am a photographer.
LiJo: Talking about being more present
Me: "Is she using a green screen? I wonder why she's using that versus filming in her living room. Huh, I can see the lights in the reflection of her glasses, that's cool, I wonder what subset of viewers noticed that as well. I still want to know if those are prescription lenses or just blue light blocking lenses. These have to be Observer thoughts, right? I should make a comment about this, that would be so ironic."
This video has excellent advice BTW
As well as Iconic.
Hah yes I’m on a green screen. I was using it for my video before and didn’t feel like changing location 😆
In the first five seconds my thought was, "She is using a green screen. That's a change. I wonder why?? I am sure she has her Fi reason"
What is your mbti type lol
@@naaberfindmoi2791 INTJ. I would not have changed it either. Lol
The idea, "Work Smart, Not Hard" probably came from an INTJ. From my experience, one of the biggest pieces of advice I would give to an INTJ is to take care of yourself physically. Work out, maybe even play sports, eat right, take vitamins, and work on your appearance, stay well groomed, have decent clothes, and so on. Doing that improves everything else. It's not easy. It's hard to stick to it. But you can use your mental strengths on it, to figure out what to do and how to do it, and how to simplify it so you can put it on autopilot. And when you do that, it improves your other weaknesses. You are forced out of your head when you work out and take of yourself physically, and the result is that you're more attractive and confident, which helps you socially. You'll also live longer. It's win/win/win. The only problem is that you will hate doing it. That's the hard part. The discipline of doing repetitive, uninteresting things. But it's worth it.
Routines get effortless with practice. Hitting the Se positively will also make Ni perform better cuz they are on a cognitive axis.
I don't feel working out gets repetitive if you make it a competition with yourself.
Setting goals to lift heavier weights, or to beat your time per mile can help reduce the monotony of exercise as it gives you something to look forward to.
This! This needs to be said repeatedly.
My INTJ reaction: "Why would anyone want to be more present in Reality? That just takes time away from the concepts-mining." Is Reality a concept? [Wanders off to think about the concept of Reality]
INFJ, same
We mature when we don't ignore our inferior functions, think of ExxPs not organizing and how they'd be better off if the focused a bit more on that. Same for us IxxJs we are just more blind to our own inferior functions.
Yeah I used to see reality as a concept. Than I realized I need to distract myself
😂😂😂 fair point
Reality is really boring! But yeah, Te says- escape reality to face/play it in your ways. So this reality escape is kinda from reality to abstract reality. Sounds interesting..
I asked my ENFJ mother last month what she experiences when she sees a sunset, and she named a wide array of emotions.
Then I told her that I've tried to be enjoy a sunset many times, but all I can think about is the thicker cross-section of atmosphere that causes the color shift and how individual water particles contribute to the overall color palette. I wonder how much of the warmth on my skin is due more UV turing into visible light turning into infrared. I think about the earth's dent in space-time that pulls the last little bit of light off the horizon. By the time I finish thinking all of that, the sunset is gone.
Yes!
Slow processor...
@@davidperfette1425 lol jerk
Don't leave us hanging, what was her response? 😂
Little things that really "ground" me in the moment :
- having my hands around a warm cup of tea
- cooking a recipe
- Looking outside the window and watching the trees for a minute
- meditation when I have the time/willpower 😭
- asking myself "how do I feel ? what does my body say I need right now ?"
@gabriel vazquez I think this pratice of focussing on the present instead of speculating on the future or ruminating on the past isn't a XXTX vs XXFX thing, but more for types who have intuition first in their function stack and sensing last. Intuition is not always right, but the more data you allow it to receive from the outside world the more likely its' impressions will be accurate and not always the same imo (and can then be refined into conclusions and ideas by Te or Ti depending what type one is). ✨Definitely agree with the so relative "speed" of time passing !
When I feel like I'm floating again, I try to feel the floor with my foot, like actually feel it to the point I can describe how it feels. Sometimes, I use my palms.
Anything involving focusing on one or more of your five senses with get you into the present moment.
A couple activities, like sharing a meal or enjoying sex is using all five senses at once, i.e. intimacy is being in the present.
The last answer, answering your own questions in real time is the Art of Observing Ego, which I trained myself to do (INFJ), and became my Holy Grail for staying in the present, I can turn it on anytime I want now.
And lastly, when you take manual control of an autopilot function like breathing, that qualifies as being in the present, because you got behind the wheels, switched off the autopilot button.
I would do that, but my heart isn't always in it.
Brain: This is bliss. You feeling it down there?
Heart: ❄️
I find my mind is constantly backing away from the 'now' to keep a 'gods-eye view'- such as to normalize every situation, avoid and pre-empt a curve ball and maintain composure in any possible eventuality. THIS is why it is exhausting to be around any social intensity for too long
Ah I understand that completely!
Yes!!
That's why I love Strategy Games with "Pause" but hate the Real Time Strategy Games. The paused "whole landscape point of view" allows an easy control over the situation altough sometimes you have to "zoom in" and take in real time direct control over some specific events that create a domino effect or affect too much the rest of the situation.
"god's eye view" Bro the accuracy XDD
the incorrect breathing method you just mentioned, I just realized I do that too... also, about being present, I literally cannot watch a video without being distracted by other thoughts or things, I find it sooo hard to be at the present moment.
I'm an INFJ and I really relate to the breathing part. I was just watching a video about that a few days ago, and when you brought it up I was like " Hey, I'm breathing incorrectly again!" 😆
You know, I used to obsess with being present. I had done a great deal of research and was really trying to be in the moment as much as possible. Then I came to the conclusion that all I have to do is be myself and get away from all of those Sensors in my life to whom I look 'autistic' (yes, an ESFP actually asked me once if I was autistic. I was just daydreaming.) Yes I have a rich inner world and I am going to take every advantage of that gift of mine, and leave the people who are gifted with the ability of being in the moment be in the moment. My Ni helped me get through my difficult childhood (abusive parents) and through many tough moments in my life. Instead of turning to drugs and alcohol and what not, like many Sensors end up doing, I can turn to my imaginary world. That said, I do my best to be in the moment when I am with people that matter to me or if I am doing something that really matters to me, I try to do that with all of my heart and be there as if this was the last time I see those people. Other than that, I like to stick to my daydreaming lol!
Yea... sensors will spitefully wave their hands in front of my face when they see me blissfully in my own world. The worst part is they don't even want anything... they're just doing it to be obnoxious.
@@KatanaKamisama 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
Now I'm wondering what mbti types bullies are 🤔
I'm an INTJ and have been diagnosed with autism/ADHD. It's not too fun. I'll hear someone tell me to do something and interpret a very different command. I usually stim unless I'm listening to music, wearing something extreme comfortable, or otherwise feel peaceful inside.
An INTJ trying her best to human is really cute. 😋 Those were some good insights too. I have a similar thing with breathing so I'm taking notes. [INFJ] Looking forward to what else you discover about this. Thanks, Lindsey. ✌&❤
Interesting how so many of us in the comments are like “yeah breathing is weird” 😂💯
This sounds like a cliche but I really think 'The Power of Now' by Eckhart Tolle should be mandatory reading for all INxJs. The whole concept of being present is so foreign that it might as well be an entirely new world. It's very eye opening when you realize that you have been living in the future (or the past) your entire life.
One of my dads favorite books (also an INTJ) 😉
And the movie The Perks of Being A Wallflower is exhilarating!
I recommend reading the Eckhart Tolle Nonsense generator. It'll open your eyes to the true vacuity of his emtpy phrases.
Okay... that explains a lot!! I'm a female INTJ and my sister is an INFJ, and we are never in the present. We are like aliens in the school😂👽
Meditation awakened me from the dream of thought. When we observe thought - we don’t get lost in it😌❤️🌏
I came to this realization at a funeral when I was asked to share some stories. This had been a person I knew my whole life but I was having the hardest time pulling out memories. It was like I had none. You are physically there but never mentally there so you just don’t store what’s going on in your mind. I had to hear the stories others told to remember. It’s like “oh yeah we all took a trip to that place and saw that one thing! I totally forgot!”
Damn I resonate with this story more than you know. I also really relate to someone else’s story sparking the memory that was inaccessible. So interesting.
Same goes for me. It always fascinates me when people talk about memories and how they felt during that particular day. It's like, I can't pull out a special memory or I can remember it happening but I don't know how I reacted to/felt it.
As an INTJ , being in the moment is a strange experience I would say , most of the time I don't like to go out , yet sometimes I enjoy looking at the aesthetics of the old buildings, they remind me of medieval architecture in video games , it feeds my imagination and it gives a bunch of introverted feelings, I don't know how to explain it but I kinda have visions, like a projection of my self .... I can't explain further x) . I also like being in the biggest boulevard of my town especially Friday's evenings , I enjoy watching the crowd and everything seems vivid, people well dressed , lights , instrumental music, just a fancy atmosphere. As I said I enjoy wondering but even when I'm wondering I'm in my mind , it's like I can see all of those details with no problem yet I'm not a part of that atmosphere, it's like I'm a creature from a different dimension wondering another dimension .
Most of high school, and early twenties for me. I could tell you what I was reading, day dreaming, or planning but not what I was doing or who I was with: weird.
Well, we are our attention.😎
SAME
SAME
That's so weird- as a kid I did the exact same thing with breathing. Having Se so low in your function stack can be so frustrating!
While there may be a solution to everything, not everything is worth solving. - INFJ
I don't care if my drawers are messy provided I find what I need easily.
when I was a child I inhaled through my nose and exhaled through my mouth and this brought me numerous illnesses. i really didn't know how to breathe lol
Thanks for the reminder to human today! It's something we INTJs tend to skim over if we're not careful.
Oh my god. As an ENFP, watching a well developed INTJ talk so fluently about concepts is ridiculously satisfying. Like, it’s just soothing to my soul 🤣 my Ne is eating this s*%t up something fierce. I wish more people would go around speaking like this 🤣
enfp always pop up out of nowhere whenever im reading about intj 😂😂
Oooh, so that's why I keep forgetting things as if I never even were there.
Also, I started running (for health reasons, obviously) and I too found that being in the present is very rewarding. It takes me out of some loops and helps me be more balanced and efficient. And efficiency is king, so that is my reason to train myself to be present.
INFJ, I'm finding that setting an intention to put myself first (before others) seems to set my Se into "drive". Usually Ni and Fe are in charge trying to put me in the absolute ideal condition to save the world, but as I've matured and realized I need to be balanced in order to help others, my motivation to put myself first has grown, and I'm able to sustain that me-first intention for longer stretches in the day. Has really helped with productivity around my basic needs...
I started voice lessons when I was 13 and that REALLY helped me with body awareness. I learned A TON about posture, tension, mouth shape, tongue placement and really just focusing on your body.... Especially Breathing 😉😂 also if you get hiccups a lot it is because you are not using your diaphram properly and so air gets trapped underneath causing it to spasm...
🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯
@gabriel vazquez from my experience most vocal coaches and choral directors teach the same way. Most people think singing is pure talent and while some of it is, there is a copious amount of training that goes into singing well. Your posture is a huge one, if you hold tension in your jaw, shoulders, lower abdomen or even feet it well throw off your center of gravity or affect the amount you can release your rib cage to get enough breath support. You need to lift you soft palate at ALL times, you need to know where to place each vowel and you need to learn to recognize where in your range you should place certain notes (head, mixed, chest, etc.) -- these are just some of the basics you would learn in most highschool and college choirs. I believe that singing is one of the most physically demanding musical activities you can do.
As for the huccups I learned my trick from a doctor as well, you breathe as deeply and as low as you can and then hold your breath, then you exhale slowly, it is supposed to force the diaphragm to stop spasming... Stops my hiccups immediately as well but I'll have to try your method next time too!
This video cover can't be so close to my actual experience. I always live like my body is an exosequeleton i am driving from a remote mothership.
It is so hard to be in the moment.
But yet so pleasant to be in the Ni ocean.
This is the reason I keep notes, journals, and blogs 😀
Interesting!
Wow I can relate so hard...I personally have to use active meditation to bring myself back to the now
Holy shit I think I do the breathing thing too!
This is so relatable cos when I'm eating with my family at the table I don't talk to anyone. It looks like I'm just staring at my bowl when really I'm like planning my day, thinking about some anime or book or school. I'm actually happier in my own head than listening and participating in conversations at the table. But my family doesn't get that. They think I'm sad LOL
Great video Lindsey! I’ve come to accept the fact, despite popular opinion, that as an INTJ I’m usually more comfortable living and thinking about the past and future rather than the present. I’ve also always found the abstract more interesting and compelling than the concrete. Thanks for your great work!
INFJ here.
What was a real game changer for me is when I started trying to see the "space" that objects are in, the "space" that my body moves in. That lead me to being in the present moment and kind of "supercharge" my Se which lead to me bypassing the hazy veil of Ni that was literary blocking my seeing perception.. or whatever idk.
OMGGGGG i DO THE SAMEEE THINGGG (breathing). thankful that i'm not alone in this "presence" journey
This is a great answer for a number of issues some are accused of. Not paying attention. Are you listening. You didnt hear a word I said.
It is interesting that for INTJ is recommended walking and for INFJs circuit training
Hey, this was very cool! Very helpful to me. It filled in some missing pieces of the puzzle. I'm an INFJ, and a clinical social worker. What you said about the Ni always trying to find that nugget of understanding that can be applied to a myriad of situations, while wanting to ignore the sensory information as much as possible, pretty much nailed something I have been wrestling with for a long time. When I'm with clients I'm not tracking every detail of what's being said. Instead, I always, unfailingly, end up grabbing onto that nugget which reveals some truth that underpins how that client thinks. It reveals where their head is at so you can meet them there and make that important connection. As you said, it's that nugget of understanding that can be applied to a myriad of situations. I had been fighting with ambivalence about this, as part of me strongly suspected there was a failing on my part by not tracking the details more closely, but this makes sense, and it's very helpful to know that it is a normal thing for people with a strong Ni.
Also, regarding being present. This makes more sense of why I enjoy teaching so much. For me, teaching material that I have a great interest in allows me to bring my students to that place where I'm at in my head, to where I'm at in the abstract. It enables me to be present and feel connected with them when it goes well, and as an introverted feeler who struggles for that, it is a very big thing.
Cool applicational perspective David :) glad it was useful.
I am thankful my dad is an ESTJ. I have learned a lot from his Si parent taking care of my little insecure Se inferior lol. As Ni doms especially, I think it is definitely a good idea to have a high Si user in our lives. It really goes a long way in helping keeping us grounded!
This is so true! If it weren't for an ISTJ in my life I would have floated away to outer space.
What helps very well to breathe properly in the present moment is to take a sip of water in your mouth without swallowing. It really helps a lot to focus. The body and brain automatically know that you can only breathe through your nose, which slows things down and reduces the stress level.
I got that from the movie Astral City.
Thanks for sharing. I didn’t realize how badly I breathed...
As an INTJ with a highly developped Se I can say it's really really pleasing to be able to come to the moment with ease, to tidy up or listen to music, cook, work with the hands, be with people, any Se stuff. I really enjoyed Se as a kid, handcrafts especially and rock collecting 🤩 and the out doors. I've also played an instrument since 7 (24yo now) and been on/off practicing meditation for 5 years and my full-time business is 99% Se work, and I cook and clean every day as a part of my routine. I use Ni and Te to form the image of the best possible thing I can create with Se and that vision fuels my Se and the finisher instinct fuels it too. That's just how I developed it. It's really fun yall. Go develop it. Inferior functions can actually out perform the same hero function when the inferior is aspiring but only for a limited period though, hero functions can go on forever. So yah like we can use our Ni and Te to study and then aspire with our Se and become the best at cooking or in bed or whatever, we're the best Se users when trained!! Same goes for all inferior functions. Constant practice, not even practice, just lifestyle I guess? Make it a part of life. No need to be worried about how we perform in Se guys if we get better than anybody else 😂 jk I still worry about the experience I'm giving lol but I know it's good tho. Any other developped Se inferiors here?
I would say that I am. I set tile for a living. Whenever the client starts asking anything regarding what can or can't be done, I simply say "My limitation is your imagination".
I like it because it engages all my functions. At times it's labor intensive, but it's slow paced. I drone about with the physical stuff and use that time to think about if what's next procedurally, really what I want to do next. It doubles as enough exercise too so I never need to workout.
When they "try" to describe what they want I almost always understand what they're getting at and will roughly sketch it on the wall or a paper elaborating while I draw it.
It never crossed my mind growing up the extent to where people can't picture shit in their head. They need to see it physically. Sometimes to the degree of actually putting tile up just to see if they want it like that.
For me it's like toward the end of the first Lego movie when dudes dropped back into the world and is a "master builder".
When looking about, I can get a good idea roughly if an idea is feasible without needing to do anything.
@@peterdentice5725 Yes! Seeing the Se thing fully done with Ni is so on point! Can pretty much visualize any physical project finished in any number of variations. I haven't actually given much thought to how well others can picture things in their heads. I assumed to some extent that picturing things fully done is just an obvious thing to do for everybody. When other's ask me how was I able to create something I say that I just saw it in my head and then made it. They're still amazed by it and I'm thinking like what's so amazing about that? It's the obvious thing to do. Lmao Ni hero 😂
Omg when you talked about breathing it took me back to childhood, I was breathing the same way as you did! Breathing right should be a subject in school, no joking. I'm saying it as a yoga teacher, I've met some people who don't breathe the right way. -infj
I feel like I have more credibility now since you’re a yoga teacher - thank you! Haha and yes it should be a subject in school!
That's why my (possibly) ENTP brother loves Demon Slayer: It taught him to notice his breathing.
(INTJ) I have discovered that people are far more receptive to my thoughts when i become more animated and speak my unfiltered mind. Its more socially draining by 1000 fold where as i would usually be silent and speak only when i deemed the input funny or necessary.
Thank you LiJo. This is what I face every second of everyday. I'm trying to improve. I plan on reading "The book of now" which I discovered by synchronicity
I'm on the journey with you!
When I want to be present in the moment with people (catch myself spacing out into Ni), I look deeper into their eyes (from a normal distance / not creepy) and focus on their words. When I find my Ni in hyperdrive and I just know it will wear me down, I try to focus on sounds (wind, water, even just quiet. The sound of Water coming from the shower works when showering) or if I am driving, I play a meditation track (no words, just sounds. The deeper the tones, the better.)
me: looking for Lijo wisdom, sees video title of 10/10 painful thing
video beyond my grasp, yet Lijo's cred is high, so will be trying
ps : thanks again for the recent INTJ growth series, that was awesome for you to do 💙
THanks so much for being here Kimberly, I always appreciate seeing you in the comments
Learning how to sing properly taught me how to breathe correctly
Thoughts from another black unicorn... Meditation is a type of practice. And most people start out doing breathing exercises as a focus during meditation because it’s pretty much impossible to completely clear your mind until you have been practicing meditation for years. So as a way to calm and be present in the moment which is meditation, as well, again you do a breathing exercise.
I think ENFPs & ENTPs have trouble being "present" too
I agree Courtney :) I think they deserve their own kind of video with this subject.
ENFP here. Meditation awakened me from the dream of thought. When we observe thought - we don’t get lost in it
My brother's likely an ENTP.
*He is the present.*
Maybe not the most present, but you can definitely feel the room change when he's around.
INFJ here, same problem with breathing :) I just saw some of your videos and subscribed. I like your vibe, and your face, your eyes. Maybe a little crush. Harmless I would say.
shout out to this video for letting me and my ENFJ friend know we’ve been breathing incorrectly for 22 years 😔 - INFJ
YOGA.
DO IT.
after having done a bit of yoga myself in recent years, i have found that yoga is ALLLLLLLL ABOUT breathing well, BALANCE and, being present in the moment.
SERIOUSLY.
YOGA.
DO IT.
I agree!!! I used to do more stretching/yoga time and I’ve fallen off that wagon a bit 😩 but yes yoga pushes you to tune in With your breath in such an active way.
Glad to know that I’ve been breathing incorrectly my entire life (INFJ)
You're not alone, apparently i didn't stand right, which screwed up one of my knees lol my "pull back to earth" thing is currently noticing where i put my weight
😂 damnit gravity what the hell!
Yeah, I don't look people in the eye when talking cuz I'm busy with my Ni lol.
Nice! I have recently realized that I need to practice being present, using that weak Se. You cracked me up about not knowing how to breath correctly. When I was a young girl, I had an issue about not getting enough oxygen because of something like “forgetting to breath” correctly. It was an issue discovered while camping in the mountains. Crazy issue until you realize you are not alone.
The other day i was walking down the street and something strange hit me and rattled me. I had the sudden realization i could smell the sweet spring air, grass, pollen, peoples perfumes, car exhausts ect ect. Everything at once. It then dawned on me that this must be there all the time but i had not smelled all this at this intensity for decades. Must have been a glitch in the old noodle that dropped me in to supercharged SE. It is amazing to me that what i experienced was some peoples normal state.
I’m glad you’re working on your breathing. I thought i needed to hear this knowledge. My breathing isn’t the greatest either i’d say. I get so antsy sometimes
Your endings get funnier and prettier by time 😂😂
It's hard to be present. I keep zoning out and thank you for the video maybe I'd start meditation as well
Me and my brother had the same breathing problem that you mentioned.
It wasn't until I came across a video on YT that I realised the mistake.
Thanks for sharing and open up your progress 🙂
Notes:
Concepts are abstract and one singular concept can apply to all these different sensory variations.
-> "Ni wants to interact with as little new physical sensory situations as possible if it can have that one thing that'll solve the situation that one thing that it knows will work in a certain way so it has to do less in the real world it is literally trying to escape reality." (1:59)
Not realizing the own struggeling of bein present until 20 (same)
Fi -> Situations you weren't present are important to you and you wish you would've been able to participate in those situations
(I wish I would be as fluent in the moment as I'm in my concepts)
Breathing exercises can bring her into the present.
(on me concentration meditation "Third Eye Meditation" works wonders)
Thanks for understanding it's a process :)
I love this!! So true for me lol. INFJ- im always looking forwards especially and often backwards to “go forwards better for the future” and i feel like i have two sort if on and off switches for each. In my late 20s now. Had a little hack where I just sorta tried to “ have both on at once” to build a semi present. Lead me to meditation practices, which has led me to breathing meditation. Still working on that part. Why is breathing not intuitive is it no Si? Lol hmm...
The importance of properly breathing is such a perfect example, I thought I was the only one that had that weird issue with forgetting how to properly breath.
For alternative breathing technique, You can also keep your hands on your lower rib area,just above the abdomen on the lateral sides. Instead of focussing on the abdomen, focus on pushing your hands to the sides. ( lateral costal breathing).
Worth content for INTJs ever
Being out of touch with reality is exactly how I feel! Cool vid my friend, look forward to seeing if there's something to this breathing thing
Eryk!! It’s been awhile how are you!
@@InternetLiJo Doing fine, all things considered. Been working on this very thing about being present in the moment. Not quite there yet, but if anyone can figure it out, it’s us 😎
How can you not be in the present moment? You are always in the present moment. You are always in the infinite present moment but thinking about past and future distract us from the Now.
The blue sky is the present moment that is always here... Cognitive cloud just get in the way. Observe the clouds as they come and go. 😌❤️🌏
the thumbnail is super cool !
Feels with the breathing incorrectly, my singing lessons teacher made me do the same kind of exercise to help me sing and breathe better for holding out notes XD
Exact same thing happened with me, before that I was breathing incorrectly.
My god LiJo you're so right!
Only 2 months ago I realized that my walking posture was incorrect, my right foot was placed incorrectly. I am retraining myself to place my right leg correctly. I try to be in control and shift my attention on how I am walking. Over time I have seen a patter that this exercise is actually helping me to be more in the present. Sometimes, it’s hard. And then I tell myself that by being mindful of how I walk, I am engaging my Se in a healthy way.
Lol! My grandfather taught me how to breathe when I was younger 🤪 you weren't the only one!
Speaking from experience, I'm an INFJ, easiest solution is to date an ENTP. They thrive in the present, and that feels great for an INFJ because it gets us out of our own heads, and we are drawing in new experiences that feels fresh, like a running spring.
That relationship dynamics expands our comfort zone from inside your own room to encompassing a whole city.
In addition, adds newer locations to our lucid and vivid INFJ's dreaming state, more places we visited and explored, also gets reflected, and expands our inner world too, so ENTP win/win/win.
[Is it painful obvious when the INFJ walks into the room? ~smirks~ ]
Today is the day I learned that I too, I breathe wrong. Brb gonna go conquer the world with my corrected sternum.
ENTP's have this problem as well. I constantly struggle with being in the here and now.
Woah that breathing thing sounds veryyyy familiar. I should look into that. I have hated wearing swimsuits my whole life (even now that I have the body I want) because of my chest/sternum. :-/ Try as I may, I have only one memory before the age of like five. FIVE!! That seems like a lot of missing memories.
So relatable, time pass to fast to us
I really need an earthquake to comeback to reality and not taking abstract information from everywhere.
Sooo fast 😩
Woahhhh...
Go INxx with the sensory!! With Se inferior or the Se blind, this is definitely needed.
Ps.
I checked how to breathe and I'm surprised that I breathed in correctly too.
Do your best LiJo
I too love you to the moon and back!!
-Aly
Thanks friend 🖤
Hey Lindsay! What is INTJs take on adulthood responsibility? Ideas on new videos!
Once upon a time I came across the word Interoception.
I found the word that auto-correct tries to change it to (Interception) ironic because that's exactly what Se does with the electrical neural transmissions.
Thank you Lindsay
Amazing! I have been looking for this for years! Thank you
Glad I could help!
Love that hair color on you! Good taste 👅
I like menial work, because I can be in my own head, and basically auto-pilot work.
So the other day I was washing dishes at work, and was thinking....."If necessity is the mother of invention, she got knocked up by sloth. Because laziness is the cause of all optimization." And then I was got to thinking what the actual difference is between laziness and efficiency. And my working definition is 'Efficiency, is aggressively pre-meditated laziness.' So yea that was my Wednesday night. It was pretty fun. Polishing plates and "nuggets" at the same time.
On the breathing point, I took choir so we learned how to breath. You could always tell the kids that didn't know how to breath. They were the ones passed out on the floor.
Neither should Sensors turn to drugs and hedonism, neither should Intuitives turn to a reality scapism. Reality is a gift, with all of its joy and suffering, and we must try to pay attention to it and respond it with all of our heart. When we have grandkids, they won't ask us about the planning or dreaming we used to do, but what we ACTUALLY DID and how we responded to that calling that life gave us, in a concrete way. Humans are full of potential, but without an act, we turn simply into wasted potential.
Playing a wind instrument can help you train to breathe correctly.. I started playing trombone and tuba in school and it corrected my breathing technique without thinking about it...
This is true! I had a short stint with bass clarinet lol
INxx here lol yea i relaized after u said i cant breath properly and im not sure if its commen to feel like that all the time when engaging in the present moment and if its something serious lol
Considering that the INTJ has a prominent Ni-Fi loop. I was thinking that there is also a less prominent but still noticeable Te-Se loop. This would explain why when Te notices a need or creates a system, it will then skips over to Se to be enacted. You relearning to breath is a literal example of this. Do you think this Te-Se loop operates in the same way that the Ni-Fi loop maneuvers? I was thinking about this earlier today, so it cool that you posted this video.
Ahhhhh!!! Damn great point. I see that now.
I like your new camera setup.
Yeah, I breathe in through my mouth.
I have my own lifehack in case I really need to concentrate on present moment: I simply roll the coin (Morgan Dollar) across my fingers - as a bonus I also get decent amount of "Wow!" effect from other people
Well that explains some things about myself! Thanks!
I'm an INFJ and I realized I was breathing wrong a couple weeks ago.
I never knew about infjs. I always felt different. I also have this thoughts, that i am missing my life. I have 3 kids it is very difficult for me. I am missing my kids lives. I startet realizing that i dont breath right few years ago. Its like i forget to breath and then i breath quickly like i runed out of air.
My problem is that I am constantly thinking about the future. What I am going to cook for dinner tonight, plans for tomorrow, holiday plans for months in advance, new career ideas a year down the track. Even when I'm on those holidays or studying new qualifications all I can think of is what next. I feel especially bad not being able to remember parts of my travels. I just posted about this on reddit asking for tips and no replies. Meditation doesn't work for me either. I feel doomed.
See that’s what I mean about finding a reason. My reason to work on the thing was knowing if I did I could alter my future body/self. That was the only way to tap in.
I suggest exercise, go out more and get into your "flow state" through enjoyable hobbies which can be indoors or outdoors, flow is where you get completely lost in the moment that you are not able to think. It is true autopilot and very calming especially if you have anxiety. Oh also try journaling and good luck💜
@@spring7643 I exercise almost everyday and it's the one time where I am completely focused on the task I am doing. Unfortunately I can't seem to transfer that to anything else. I don't really like to write journals. I write down my plans but don't see how putting my other thoughts to paper will help.
@@AbsintheReverie I have to write stuff down to remember, plan, organize and make goals. I don't do diary style writing, more like sorting my brain out on paper. Then I make the plans and goals once the jumbled mess is organized. This just works for me. I'm INFJ by the way.
@@spring7643 Oh yeah, I get you. In that case I definitely do have notes all over the place for everything. I prefer it written down on paper too so it's easier to see.
Concepts are Tez Nuts...
This is why I was meant to have a video of my wedding day.
haha... I'll keep this in mind for my wedding.
❤❤Loved it .. this year I'm working on that too
Definitely agree. I’ve doing my best to improve at this as well