Body image issues, still. Not sure if I'll ever be free of them. Thank you so much for being someone I can relate to, someone who's been through the same things as many of us. Happy Birthday tomorrow, Russ! Lots of Love!
Yes, a key issue with my confidence has been feeling like a 'weirdo' that others will find me odd/strange and then trying hard to figure out what the appropriate ways are. Now I practice relaxing around others and saying/doing what seems right to me, and then if others find it odd - oh well. Edit, my experience has been that certain people find me analysing wanting to get deep into things unsettling/odd, so now I've found other people that also like to do this :)
whenever i feel less confident i remember this quote by Bruce Lee, "I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine".
now why haven't I heard this before.. took me ages to get the courage to upload a video on youtube, since everybody is expecting me to be a doctor or engineer.. everyday I'm being asked to choose, when it a lose lose for me. I was afraid to show up here, cuz nobody's expecting a future doctor to upload stupid vids on yt. thank you, this made me feel a bit better about myself
I've taken this a step further. I ask myself: if these people who don't like me, did like me, what would that say about myself? I realize the people who don't like me aren't my people in the first place... if that makes sense.
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Confidence, at least for me, has been largely down to accepting my own "flaws". Accepting that it's okay to look stupid sometimes, to get things wrong, to have awkward and weird moments. It's all okay.
yes, same for me, or not focusing so much on my flaws. observing myself without judgement and anger and just try to modify why I believe could be detrimental to my personality.
not to be afraid to look stupid/wrong. I think that comes with age and maturity. when we are young we think we are so important and must impress everyone. `But as you get older, you realise, people don't really give a shit about you as much as you imagined. `If you die, they will be like - "oh, so sad" and after few minutes - "what is on netflix today"? unless that your very closest people, they will mourne little longer. Ok, our parents are exceptions.
My mum always used to say “do you really think people care? Nobody’s looking at you, they’re all worried about themselves”. People that truly see you, love you.
@DarthYuYevon It is but you can make sure you take time out to assess yourself as yourself aside from any comparison. You can catch yourself comparing and remind yourself that it's an illusion and not a true measurement of your value. There are lots of ways you can use the information that your lack of self confidence is often due to comparison to increase your self confidence.
If you're implying that it sounds like a contradiction then yes, I thought it might come across like that. It's not a contradiction, though. Therapists like Albert Ellis and Paul Hauck talked about separating your traits / abilities etc from how you feel about your 'self' (the short version is they considered the 'self' far too complicated to accurately rate). So, thinking you're not very good at soccer is evaluating a trait/ability: feeling bad about yourself because you feel shit at soccer is judging yourself. Feeling superior about yourself for thinking you're great at sports is judging yourself. Taking steps to be a sportier person while accepting yourself as a worthwhile human (neither superior or inferior to others) no matter how good you actually get at sports, is refraining from judging yourself while simultaneously working on yourself. Simple.
Here's what he won't tell you. It's jealousy that makes you compare your suboptimal situation to others. And this is like judging others. If you feel that you feel unconfident because others can do things better then you'll notice that you start acting jealous sometimes. But it's also others that treat you in a way that makes you remain in your state because you create hostility and destroy sympathy and people don't have the time to think about your situation. Jesus wouldn't approve but in our society you are free to judge others when they can't stay "positive"(in our social competitive perception) for whatever reason. Jesus would judge them if they know what they do and that requires some damn skill to recognize that I guess. I also think you can be not confident because you compare yourself to your own standards and don't reach them. So I wouldn't instantly think someone compares himself to others in an evil way(is jealous) when he's negative in a social situation where he doesn't succeed. If everybody would do it this would create some Kind of perverted illusional hell for someone who is just angry because he fails. But usually you should recognize what he really is angry at. Hm Yeah don't take what I say too serious, I just like to write in the morning :D
There's a good program called Unbreakable Confidence (look for the site that has the big video on the homepage).. Those books are awesome! It's one thing to work on yourself.. but there are fit, successful people who STILL don't have the right mental state. The key is to revamp your mindset. There are fat people who are more confident than fit people, and there are poor people who are more confident than rich people.
@@billfreeman7770 Well, what did you learn from them, Freeman? Give me a cherry off your learning tree... What kinds of new experiences have you had, with your studies of Unbreakable Confidence? Sounds very interesting..
my question - can we just ignore our weakness and just enjoy improving what we are already good at? weaknesses will be always there anyway, why struggle
But not resisting your weaknesses and accepting they’re just beliefs designed by your ego to protect you in some weird perverted way is a beginning to working on them. We’ve practiced listening and acting on these beliefs for years we become experts at fulfilling them impulsively. We are not our thoughts
@@scottishguy6352 yes, if you think - what if someones' weakness is to rob banks and murder people, they should definitely start with them lol , so yes, i think it all depends on circumstances.
O S I think when it doesn't bother you anymore, it is no longer your weakness. It becomes weakness because you feel something wrong with it (whatever it is)
Funny as it sounds, the thing that has given me the most confidence is saying others around me are good people, even only in my mind. That includes you, reading this, a good person.
@velveteyes79 Well, sure not everyone is good, but nobody is totally bad all the time, so it's reasonable to say everyone is good sometime and at least has the capacity for goodness. Even evil people have done many good things, managed their responsibilites and so on. (Unrelated: if people would have the chance to be identified as good people, even if they aren't, they could go on to manifest it. Just as fears tend to manifest, so can positive expectations) It relates to confidence because there is a mirror relationship with humanity, people reflect you to yourself and vice versa. If you extend unconditional approval to someone, 1. they sense your good will and enter a comfortable and accepting posture. 2. you get a boost out of lifting someone up 3. you give yourself power because you have assumed the position of judge but without the baggage of making condemnation 4. by acknowledging the inherent/potential goodness in another person, you acknowledge it by proxy within yourself (you create a positivity feedback loop) 5. by placing positive expectations on others you again gain power as you are actively channeling positive energy through becoming a conduit 6. likewise there is a fear-cancelling element due to your production of positive energy allowing you to act with enhanced lucidity. These are some theories, I don't know exactly why this exercise gave me a confidence boost, but it did. Just give it a try. You don't have to tell someone 'you are a good person' (though you can), you can just think to yourself, 'that's a good person' and see how it alters your lens to reality
velveteyes79 false sense of feeling safe and comfortable around a positive perception of those in your immediate environment. A method of self comfort and reframing the world to feel better about it so you in there feel more comfortable to be yourself. If we don’t trust those around us, subconsciously it makes us react more hostile and less calm and open
@velveteyes79 I've recently been studying A Course in Miracles and it's all about the false illusions of the ego. Fascinating (and tough going at times..)
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Hello World Darkness recognizes light and tries to attack it to take away their light. The fact that you were targeted is in itself the evidence that you are superior to them! ✊🔥 Work on self love.💛 Decide to love yourself unconditionally as you would an external little one that you love and cherish. 🥰. Your inner child needs the adult you to love them and be their personal guardian and protector. Love that little one back to full strength and confidence will be natural!! All you truly need is YOU and JESUS and if you shall be lucky enough to have someone as beautiful as you in your life who loves you then you are blessed! Love to you my friend. You are worthy💛🙏✊🔥
Hello World / You are trapped in the memory of your past. And need help to heal ..Look for people on line that are encouraging. Also, try encouraging yourself & being kind with yourself 💝
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When you said a lack of self confidence is like paralysis.. I felt that. “Oh the things I would do if only I looked like this or had that…” It’s hindered my human experience and I hate that. I don’t need to see myself as flawless.. I just want to accept them enough that they can’t hold me back anymore.
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I'm 36 and I think Russell has a lot of stuff figured out, you could definitely pick a worse person to learn about life from. I think he's seen more of it than most.
That is the standard quote I've seen a ton of times on office posters or inspirational memes. You should really listen to Russell's advice during the whole video. It is not just accepting who you are, but rather stop comparing yourself to absurd standards while improving yourself in areas you feel a need but with reasonable expectations. To simply accept yourself however you are without putting work toward self-improvement will lead to only more anxiety and less self-confidence.
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Nailed it. If your focus is external you can't help but compare yourself to others. Look inside. Learn about your own genius. Learn what others see in you that you may be taking for granted. That's where your confidence is hiding.
@@emmashalliker6862 It isn't meaningless, you just lack imagination. The point is obvious: people don't like to confront important issues honestly because it makes them uncomfortable. It's easier to misdiagnose your problems or blame them on something else to absolve yourself of the responsibility to fix them.
I'm coming up on 13 clean and sober from heroin and crack cocaine. Russell, I can relate so much to your videos. You ,Sir..are a beautiful human being. Rock on.
I often refer to Stoic thoughts when I'm feeling insecure. Primarily understanding that I can't control what other people think of me and that most of my anxiety is coming from my own imagination. Gaslighting myself so to speak.
Anxiety is driven by trying to live in the future, depression is rooted in trying to live in the past. Neither anxiety nor depression can be in the Now. Do not allow the external world to steer your internal world - be totally present not reactionary. Observing others reations/actions and not responding is incredibly powerful.
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"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler Hey! you should check out our "Enlightening Quotes" video ft. Alfred Adler. Our channel is passionate about psychology education so that everyone everywhere can live a healthier life. We have videos featuring Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, Jordan Peterson, Fritz Perls +more. Our goal is to create a free source of #DigitalTherapy for our subscribers.
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@@AKelly-wd4lj Can you break down the reasons for no alcohol please? How exactly it benefited you and what the problem was you felt when you were drinking?
@@Exalted- alcohol gave me confidence whilst drinking it (of course), but the after effects of alcohol I felt sapped my confidence, not just the “hangover”, but further on from that. I think making those physical changes (like removing alcohol from my life) helped me to make mental changes, and therefore gave me more confidence. It felt like a chain reaction, treat your body with more respect (diet, exercise, no alcohol) and the mental side follows with it. This is just what I experienced, it might not be the case for everyone x
*_Confront the weak parts of yourself and work to banish them with experiences. Your willingness to confront your demons will cause a change within yourself_*
@Foo Me Yeah dude, continue telling people that everything is fine and there is no need to confront challenges and work to improve on reality. That will help. Self-blame CAN be toxic, it's not that the word itself is toxic, there is a huge difference. Self-blame can give a person ownership over one's own problems, the main difference really is the productive outcome that comes out of it. It's more complicated than either of you are really making out tbh, that's why life can be hard.
Its good advice. It's like the book "the subtle art of how not to give a fuck". Its a refreshing change. The core message is the same. Care about what matters like facing your fears and overcoming them. Then you will like yourself more and feel more comfortable. The whole don't say things like "can't" thing is not for self confidence imho. It is for outward success, like in work. It is vital not to have any negative self talk and regret pangs. But facing inner demons sounds like a great plan, it's just worded differently to something like "improve areas where you have room to grow". It gets to the point a bit quicker too.
@Foo Me I didn't see Life Progress' comment as negative at all, it's helpful actually. Check your perception or at least attempt to be more gracious with your words if/when you are attempting to be helpful. ☮️
Ego will lead you in the wrong direction.... it is linked to desire..... when ego is reduced.... happiness is improved..... we are here to work on these issues. (Turn off your tv and social media and grow within)
We often find ourselves either under playing or over playing. Do not pretend to be what you are not and don't refuse to be what you are. Nisargadatta Maharaj
I lived my whole life feeling like everyone was better than me and feeling worthless. I depended on achievements and praise to feel confident I became a perfectionist, had high standards and so obsessively competitive. Then I started working and wasn’t getting that praise and things quickly escalated. I was depressed. I hated work and everyone in it. Things were awful. My biggest help was understanding myself and the way I think and realizing I was not different and everyone thought like me and I was not a weirdo. And then I realized confidence should come from within!! Not from outside praises and acceptance! Things changed ever since. Even at work I started to shine and I even stopped hating it and everyone in it. My life is so much better now.
@@tsav1613 believing in yourself. Self acceptance and trusting your own capabilities instead of relying on people’s praises and rewards to feel enough and capable. When it comes from your own heart, you feel valuable and able to handle things without anyone’s words. When relying on rewards, without getting these rewards, you feel absolutely worthless and doubt your own work.
Thanks for sharing. My confidence was tied to my self worth, and I put that in others. My since of self worth has improved improving my confidence as well. I embrace who I am rather than run from it. It takes work to see what I was running from through insecure attachment and social conditioning.
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I wish every girl in between 12 and 25 years old realizes this thing you said "confidence should come from within, Not from outside praises and acceptance" And hopefully they also turn off their phones and maybe delete their toxic tiktok and instagram accounts
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Not seeking external approval and validation, but only seek this from yourself. 💛 if you notice you start judging yourself or comparing yourself to others, just tell yourself "I am okay". 😊
Cerise Dahlia humans are designed to be in packs. Modern society exposes us to infinite ‘packs’ (social groups).. it’s natural to want to fit into the pack, but being overloaded with fitting in with ever changing social groups we tend to lose sight of what’s actually important, being ourselves
I've read recently that when we judge others or ourselves we create a world of judgement (internally) in which we feel scared of being judged! I believe the antidote is to accept everything as it is right now in this moment and to detach from any judgement you make about anyone or anything.
@Nunnha B Yes, you have to work on self-validation and self-approval as it is not familiar to us. Videos on "I am enough" by Marisa Peer helped me a lot.
I feel like my lack of confidence comes from comparing to what I hope to grow into and judging myself for not being that already! I’m too hard on myself!
I read that you shouldnt compare yourself to who you want to be tomorrow but instead compare yourself to who you were yesterday. That way you can measure your progression on the journey to becoming that person you want to be in the future
The tone of voice you have in this video is extremely comforting. I think that really lends to your message. Confidence in some ways is comfort. Comfort with yourselves and those around you
@@anirose6807 more people have this wisdom than you think. Just not everyone has the luxury or platform or finances to do what he's done. Hard to argue without facts here.
@@anirose6807 not really upset but your comment of endearment is usually used on people in their teenage years. Maybe I'm just not used to it being used on a man in his forties with facial hair. I haven nothing against him. My point is saying he's wise beyond his years is more hyperbolic than I'm used to for this particular context :)
Thank you, Russell. I'm an overweight man (have been for most of my life) that's trying to lose weight for health reasons. Often times I feel discouraged, depressed, angry, or even disappointed in myself for not being able to make myself work out. I've always been so harshly judgemental of myself and I don't know how to stop it. Your words hit home with me and it was honestly something I really needed to hear. So, thank you. I know it's almost a year later but thank you, sincerely. Alex
@@soposh5673 both weight gain and depression have been proven to have genetic factors which make them much more difficult to overcome for some people. Then there's situational factors to contend with. Don't be so judgemental and take a moment to consider before posting. It doesn't seem like you got much from this video...
@@soposh5673 no, but if someone is beating themselves over not being able to lose weight on a certain diet plan, there are legitimate reasons for that. It takes times to figure out what works - it’s not simply a matter of “eat less food” for everyone. Making a mean comment on the internet isn’t going to make them a healthier person. If you had some constructive advice, sure.
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I love this because we see how charismatic Russell usually is and him being authentic and telling us even he is insecure at times feels so relatable and he feels more human and reassuring because we can achieve that confidence too if we believe in ourselves.
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"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler Hi! you should check out our "Enlightening Quotes" video ft. Alfred Adler. Our channel is passionate about psychology education so that everyone everywhere can live a healthier life. We have videos featuring Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, Jordan Peterson, Fritz Perls +more. Our goal is to create a free source of #DigitalTherapy for our subscribers.
@@frankwaites8708 hey frank, just a quick question, as you've made a few negative comments. What are your motives for attacking a video/individual that is trying to help people improve their lives? Genuinely curious, if you've got nothing positive to say, especially on something related to self help, keep your thoughts to yourself please mate, as the vast majority of people watching videos like these are struggling and don't need your bullshit criticism, it seems as if you're projecting and might actually get something out of videos like these.
1- dont compare yourself to other peaple 2- find what it is that you enjoy doing. Devote and dedicate yourself to it 3-look out what it is you feel is not good enough
Hmm makes sense, what if i dont enjoy anything anymore? And the only two things i ever did enjoy, i dont anymore, im doing them just as a force of habit.
I have always been shy and had very low confidence but I worked very hard throughout the years to the point where I feel confident and I wouldn't call myself shy anymore. Yet people still often say things like 'aww your shy' 'aren't you too shy to do that?' And 'the quiet one'. They say it to my face as if they are telling me what they think is my weakness. It still hurts me every time!
A small paragraph taken from Desiderata: “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself” In my belief social media has been the main cause of an individuals lack of self confidence as they are constantly comparing themselves to others. Your life is exactly that.............YOUR LIFE..............
Social media is a very present evil in our lives that will cause a unstoppable cascade and collapse if it isn't banned ASAP. Absolutely disgusting what these platforms are doing to our kids mental health. I'd say 'ticking' time bomb but I think it's already gone off.
His confidence and charisma are the best I’ve ever seen !! He should write a book about the subject. He is completely hypnotizing ! Gorgeous intense eyes!
@@aljunrivera5605 What i meant by "its actually helped me in a positive way"is that there's so many youtubers that give crap advice...Russell Brands advice has actually benefited me and I can see a change in my life...that's what i meant.
@@HanHuman What i meant by "its actually helped me in a positive way"is that there's so many youtubers that give crap advice...Russell Brands advice has actually benefited me and I can see a change in my life...that's what i meant.
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Russell Brand is a brave heart. I love the way he looks at both sides of issues. This attack on him isn't surprising as he also exposes misinformation of the powerful. Go Russell ! My first post.
I once read: what is one thought about yourself that if you hadn’t had, it would’ve made your life easier?… And I think most of us have one or two consistent judgments nagging in our heads constantly. If only my belly looked like X or I had Y… And life escapes us while we try to achieve this goal that we have auto imposed and that makes us ignore life’s important things. I agree with you, we need to work on ourselves but not to the point of obsessing over the results
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I have to be honest here. Many year's ago I thought Russell was lame. It's been over a year now since I have been watching his video's. This is purer 💯, mate you talk some good stuff. Thanks brother.
I always thought he played some strange roles, and then I listened to his philosophies and absolutely love him. Then I went back to watch his roles and loved them the second time around
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Looking better absolutely makes me feel better. The mirror is a testament to my effort and prof that I can set a goal, stick to it and transform my life. Women like me more. Men give me respect me. Energy and mood are improved. All of this has given me much higher self confidence.
The thought of "don't judge yourself" is still coming from judging yourself I think that it works on you maybe bcs you have a normal lvl of confidence but you just feel insecure sometimes when you start judging yourself and get self conscious but you get pass it by saying that
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I suffered (pass tense) big time. I had parents who used to beat me and put me down at every opportunity while under their roof. An evil little voice continued the work for them after they passed nearly 30 years ago, the main one being how 'useless' I was as my relationships, friendships and dreams broke down for reasons beyond my limited perception. After many years of restlessly searching/researching WHY? Two answers I deducted was: 1. Stop listening to those dead voices; and 2. increase my perception through reading reading reading, Fiction first solely to increase my vocabulary without overloading my brain with too much technical information before eventually moving fairly recently on to non-fiction for technical data as my ability at retention increased. Now I've become a gibbering idiot. Much better than the shrinking violet that was constantly taken advantage off or kowtowing to manipulation or hiding in plain sight.
I am the same way. I've been through a lot of emotional abuse which really destroyed my self-esteem and confidence. Thankfully I have pushed through that and really focused on building my self-confidence on my own since nobody else is going to have my back.
@@CalebHimself I discovered I too needed to do self examination on my own, after, however, reading literally dozens of self help books, and 400 free hours of sessions with two Clinical Psychologists (I had a lot of layers to uncover, and it was tax payer funded). Then I came across Philosophers like Neatzsche, Locke, Camus, etc and YT channels like; Philosophies For Life, Einzelganger, WuWei Wisdoms, Eternalised, Brains Explained and many more. My original quest has exceded expectations thanks to the availability of educational learnings provided by YT'bers. I heard and read of the inner child; I was always skeptical of the concept, after all there is only one me. I've since become a believer. I found my original self, my original dreams, desires, hopes and curiousity. I found the me that was me before life and the ribald influences of grown ups dictated terms. I went back to toddler, infant, baby and even the womb to discover me. I am discovering that with self actualization the satisfaction appears greater. Good work for you to push through. You and those close to you will benefit a great deal. Keep up the good work.
Its 1am in the morning, I just turned 39, thank you for this. I think I've been searching all the wrong places for confidence rather than from within. This video is going to change my life, and when I become who I really am meant to be I will owe you a word of gratitude.
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That isn’t necessarily always confidence. A depressive person can be like that. But we are social animals. In my experience u can pretend to urself ur entire life u don’t care but ofc u do care and if u didn’t care it is true u would lose a lot of fear humans experience but would u not also lose the capacity to feel as much joy?
Confidence is really just a comfort in yourself. Feeling value in yourself. And the capacity to lift people up. Any lack of confidence means you’ll be either bringing yourself down or other people. This is why cocky and arrogant people are not actually confident. And it’s not necessarily about what other people think of you. The problem is what you think of you, and how easily you believe what other people say and how it challenges your identity.
For the longest I can remember I’ve always hated myself even thinking back to when I was about 5 years old but not for the the way I act or the way I look, I don’t compare myself to others and I understand that I(we are) am not In control of everything that happens except our own situation. That being said I work out, listen to music, do things that make me feel good yet I still feel this way. I don’t like to think negatively but I feel like this feeling will never go away, it went away for a year back in jr year of high school but for the past 3 years it’s been back to this way. I’m not over weight and I’m not that bad looking but I absolutely hate myself and can’t seem to figure out why. Even after all the therapy, seeing a psychologist, going to impatient programs. I still see everything in the worst light when it comes to my self yet I can be so bright in other situations regarding others. You don’t have to read this or even like this comment but I hope who ever feels my pain overcomes this hardship and learns that no one is perfect and we all have purpose. Thank you for listening and stay safe💯
Not saying you have one, but maybe look into one of the personality disorders. I have borderline. It includes a whole lot of self doubt and self hate. The treatment is dialectical behavior therapy. Maybe there's something in that that can help you. I'm working on letting it help me. Take good care 🤍
I hope you can somehow find the self-love within you to make you feel confident. I hated myself for years too, everything about me. But then I started focusing on what goals I wanted to accomplish and seeing what I wanted to improve about myself. I started to really rocus on that progress which in turn helped my mental state and made me love myself for the changes I was making. It's not perfect and everu now and then I'll get down on myself, but there has been improvement which is what is important. You recognize that you don't look bad and have things going for you in life which is good. Hopefully one day we can both find a solution to this problem.
I say to myself when I feel hopeless and lacking confidence that, no-one can be me, better than me. It helps me to feel unique and that it's good to be different.
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler Hey! you should check out our "Enlightening Quotes" video ft. Alfred Adler. Our channel is passionate about psychology education so that everyone everywhere can live a healthier life. We have videos featuring Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, Jordan Peterson, Fritz Perls +more. Our goal is to create a free source of #DigitalTherapy for our subscribers.
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler Hi! you should check out our "Enlightening Quotes" video ft. Alfred Adler. Our channel is passionate about psychology education so that everyone everywhere can live a healthier life. We have videos featuring Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, Jordan Peterson, Fritz Perls +more. Our goal is to create a free source of #DigitalTherapy for our subscribers.
Accept yourself for where you are now ya know - that works for me. I’ve stopped trying to play to the world and I’ve a lot more peace ya know - much love! Great vid!!!
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I love the sincerity and complete absence of pretension in these videos. Such a chill air of positivity and realism. This is genuinely good and useful work you're doing for people. :)
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler Hi! you should check out our "Enlightening Quotes" video ft. Alfred Adler. Our channel is passionate about psychology education so that everyone everywhere can live a healthier life. We have videos featuring Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, Jordan Peterson, Fritz Perls +more. Our goal is to create a free source of #DigitalTherapy for our subscribers.
lol @Klay 35319...and I can always hear him singing "when I'm 64". That was my June birthday this year (64th) and his singing that song just keeps going round and round in my head now all month long! lol :) We are forever youthful if we stay "young at heart" and in spirit-- our spirit never dies- thank God.
The thing that has helped me most regarding confidence in social situations is to remember that the people around me aren't my enemies, they don't want to see me fail. Once you get rid of that out of your head, the fear of failure really drops away because the outcome of failure is no longer the mountain if ridicule that you envisage.
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Agreed. Stop negative self talk and regretting stuff that happened years ago. And don't go into panic mode of "what ifs" when a social situation is presented. I have nailed the first two, but not the panic mode yet.
So I was just thinking about my lack of confidence....and then this video showed up on my feed without searching for it. Perfect message at the perfect time ❤️😊
I used to always apologize for just existing. I'm so quiet, so it's hard to make friends. At some point I decided that I had to be outgoing to have friends and kept beating myself up for being quiet, which made it even harder to talk to others, and I began to fear people. However, now when I interact with people I internally tell myself that I am not sorry. And I'm ready to defend myself. Although pushing myself to be outgoing has not helped my confidence, it has helped me to understand people better. I realize that a lot of people really are kind and may accept me if I just be my quiet self.
37 days sober... I cant live the life without my Mediation against heavy Paranoia and anxiety. I am Paranoia shizophrenia and heavy addicted to drugs and gambling. I get oder and wiser. But my place in Berlin Kreuzberg is Not a safe place. I said to Myself i cant cure Here. In the next month i try to move away From Here and go to a New safe life. I heavy recommend to change your home City. Your brain react to places where u expierenced Bad stuff and shit... Was the Best i did to move. Give you guys a hug. Love ya.
When I’m down all I think is “Ten Fingers, Ten Toes, Two Eyes and 1 Nose”....some people don’t even have that and I’m worried about my life?!? Then I make some moves
@@sebastradlinyeayeayea1070 I'm sure you are not bad at everything, what's more likely is that your skills aren't as valued or easy to monetize which makes you feel small. Head up chum! :)
Russel I've noticed years ago that you have a much deeper mind than what I first thought when I first seen you on TV. I can't put into words really the way you can, how much I appreciate your existence in this world. You have a way of putting thoughts into speech that is just inspiring. Its a gentle and humble, open minded nature you have that is truly unique. I am now a true fan. I just discovered this channel now but you know ill be watching, listening thinking and understanding. We all want to better ourselves and your words help me to personally understand what's going on without forcing an idea on me. I take things with a pinch of salt these days but I do consider other peoples thoughts. Massive respect to you for taking this road in life. You are helping people.
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For me confidence was no longer caring what people thought of me. It’s ok not to be liked by someone. The issue is not having the confidence to be ourselves around others. Once we stop caring about how others think of us we relax in social situations, we are then able to embrace our true selves
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler Hi! you should check out our "Enlightening Quotes" video ft. Alfred Adler. Our channel is passionate about psychology education so that everyone everywhere can live a healthier life. We have videos featuring Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, Jordan Peterson, Fritz Perls +more. Our goal is to create a free source of #DigitalTherapy for our subscribers.
@@dylanhinegardner6778 I think he meant just treat yourself well and do things you enjoy which perhaps give you purpose rather than admonishing yourself without necessarily having a course of action
@@dylanhinegardner6778 I think what Russell meant when he said this is that you should be aware of what you want to improve of yourself. Let's say you want to stop interrupting people in social situations. You would then work very hard to try and wait for everyone in the social setting to finish speaking, and then say your part. But when you accidentally interrupt someone, you shouldn't think to yourself, "Damn you Dylan Colby, you fucked it up, you never do anything right. You don't deserve people to like you." I think what Russell meant is that when you notice something about yourself that you wish to improve/change, acknowledge it and go do the work on yourself you need to do, don't condemn yourself for not being this thing that you wish to be. At least this is how I understood it. Sorry for the long reply hahah
I love you Mr. Brand. So raw and honest. You are a wonderful mentor, to my self and many others by the looks of the comments. You show so well how profound the bond between emotion and intelligence can be. You are articulate in your manner and it is intensely enjoyable for me to listen in on your conversations. You've given sense to particular thoughts of mine over time and I am thankful to stumble across your media for my own selfish use. Hope I can give back some. I lost my brother as a result of his drug addiction and his inability to connect. And I my self have always had trouble with self doubt that has well hidden and complex meaning. A passive nature that was fuelled by ignorance and carrying around a scared little lad in my head. An attempt to satisfy others over my self - A self-destructive method that truly goes unnoticed. Self realisation through discussions with others is always a fast-track method to correcting your flaws, dare I call them that. I've been on a journey for a good while now. Appreciating your worth and harnessing the empowerment in bettering yourself is something I wish I grasped easily. Spreading content like this to the masses will certainly aid in the understanding of destructive ways of thinking. Confidence definitely resides in these types of forums, so please do continue your message and offerings. Brilliant stuff mate. Absolutely stellar. Big love from Australia to you and all others!
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Probably one of the better motivational speakers out there, he's just raw, natural and the way he conveys things, it feels like he's actually living that, unlike many others who just try and educate for the sole purpose of marketing their brand.
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00:13 🎙 Russell Brand acknowledges that despite being a professional performer, he still experiences shyness in regular social situations. 01:34 🌟 True confidence comes from embracing and accepting oneself, regardless of perceived faults or flaws. 02:32 💬 Comparing oneself to imagined standards can lead to a lack of confidence, especially in social situations. 03:38 🏋♂ To build confidence, avoid excessive comparison with others, focus on what you enjoy doing, and dedicate yourself to it. 04:49 🏋♂ Addressing body image or feeling weak should be done with the understanding that external changes may not necessarily provide the solution. 06:24 🤝 Genuinely confident people are easy to be around and have likely done inner work on themselves. They are not overbearing.
Do you ever suffer from a lack of confidence? Why? Or do you have any advice for others in here?
I suffer severely.
Body image issues, still. Not sure if I'll ever be free of them. Thank you so much for being someone I can relate to, someone who's been through the same things as many of us. Happy Birthday tomorrow, Russ! Lots of Love!
Russell the only thing wrong with you, young man, is that you don't pronounce your Ts. :-)
Yes, a key issue with my confidence has been feeling like a 'weirdo' that others will find me odd/strange and then trying hard to figure out what the appropriate ways are. Now I practice relaxing around others and saying/doing what seems right to me, and then if others find it odd - oh well. Edit, my experience has been that certain people find me analysing wanting to get deep into things unsettling/odd, so now I've found other people that also like to do this :)
@Elon Musk bro.. Dm. Me.ill help for sure 😉
whenever i feel less confident i remember this quote by Bruce Lee, "I'm not in this world to live up to your expectations and you're not in this world to live up to mine".
Takes 2 seconds to Google shit en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gestalt_prayer
Awesome quote!!!.👍👍👍💯
life artist
now why haven't I heard this before.. took me ages to get the courage to upload a video on youtube, since everybody is expecting me to be a doctor or engineer.. everyday I'm being asked to choose, when it a lose lose for me. I was afraid to show up here, cuz nobody's expecting a future doctor to upload stupid vids on yt. thank you, this made me feel a bit better about myself
Warwick warzone
Confidence isn’t “I know they’ll like me”, it’s “I’m okay if they don’t”.
I've taken this a step further. I ask myself: if these people who don't like me, did like me, what would that say about myself? I realize the people who don't like me aren't my people in the first place... if that makes sense.
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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@@properpsychology1276 If only promo whores lacked confidence.
Excellent observation.
Meh, saying its or the other certainly doesnt sound like confidence either.
Confidence, at least for me, has been largely down to accepting my own "flaws". Accepting that it's okay to look stupid sometimes, to get things wrong, to have awkward and weird moments. It's all okay.
Broooo I feel the exact same way
Kind of stopping you to be yourself 100% because ur scared of how your friends are going to react in that moment
yes, same for me, or not focusing so much on my flaws. observing myself without judgement and anger and just try to modify why I believe could be detrimental to my personality.
not to be afraid to look stupid/wrong. I think that comes with age and maturity. when we are young we think we are so important and must impress everyone. `But as you get older, you realise, people don't really give a shit about you as much as you imagined. `If you die, they will be like - "oh, so sad" and after few minutes - "what is on netflix today"? unless that your very closest people, they will mourne little longer. Ok, our parents are exceptions.
Dude yes - well said
My mum always used to say “do you really think people care? Nobody’s looking at you, they’re all worried about themselves”. People that truly see you, love you.
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1. Don't compare yourself to others
2. Find something you're passionate about and get good at it
3. Investigate your problems
@DarthYuYevon It is but you can make sure you take time out to assess yourself as yourself aside from any comparison. You can catch yourself comparing and remind yourself that it's an illusion and not a true measurement of your value. There are lots of ways you can use the information that your lack of self confidence is often due to comparison to increase your self confidence.
4. Buy a razor.
@@SebastianLass Men have hair, get over it. No need to get rid of it
@@antattackBAM Same for women. Have fun.
This is literally what I’m doing now and I’ve never been more comfortable with who I am
I think Russel is slowing becoming an Ancient Greek Philosopher
Come a long way since “my booky wook”
Haha maybe so
João Gouvinhas de Pina no he is a 21st century English philosopher. Cant go back douche
Yes, someone seems to have finally gotten him to the Greek.
@Tony Lampooza Productions Well... kinda
en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Get_Him_to_the_Greek
"If you want to feel confident, stop judging yourself but do work on yourself."
-Russell Brand
If you're implying that it sounds like a contradiction then yes, I thought it might come across like that. It's not a contradiction, though. Therapists like Albert Ellis and Paul Hauck talked about separating your traits / abilities etc from how you feel about your 'self' (the short version is they considered the 'self' far too complicated to accurately rate). So, thinking you're not very good at soccer is evaluating a trait/ability: feeling bad about yourself because you feel shit at soccer is judging yourself. Feeling superior about yourself for thinking you're great at sports is judging yourself. Taking steps to be a sportier person while accepting yourself as a worthwhile human (neither superior or inferior to others) no matter how good you actually get at sports, is refraining from judging yourself while simultaneously working on yourself. Simple.
Confident people seem to be those who embrace (and accept) themselves :)
Here's what he won't tell you. It's jealousy that makes you compare your suboptimal situation to others. And this is like judging others. If you feel that you feel unconfident because others can do things better then you'll notice that you start acting jealous sometimes. But it's also others that treat you in a way that makes you remain in your state because you create hostility and destroy sympathy and people don't have the time to think about your situation. Jesus wouldn't approve but in our society you are free to judge others when they can't stay "positive"(in our social competitive perception) for whatever reason.
Jesus would judge them if they know what they do and that requires some damn skill to recognize that I guess.
I also think you can be not confident because you compare yourself to your own standards and don't reach them. So I wouldn't instantly think someone compares himself to others in an evil way(is jealous) when he's negative in a social situation where he doesn't succeed. If everybody would do it this would create some Kind of perverted illusional hell for someone who is just angry because he fails. But usually you should recognize what he really is angry at. Hm
Yeah don't take what I say too serious, I just like to write in the morning :D
There's a good program called Unbreakable Confidence (look for the site that has the big video on the homepage).. Those books are awesome!
It's one thing to work on yourself.. but there are fit, successful people who STILL don't have the right mental state.
The key is to revamp your mindset. There are fat people who are more confident than fit people, and there are poor people who are more confident than rich people.
@@billfreeman7770 Well, what did you learn from them, Freeman? Give me a cherry off your learning tree... What kinds of new experiences have you had, with your studies of Unbreakable Confidence? Sounds very interesting..
They say: The deeper the V-neck, the higher the confidence.
So it seems 🤔😅
@@awakenthegreatnesswithin Amen
Do they?. Lol xx
@@nagsterthegangster Lol
That's not even a V anymore.
1. Don’t compare
2. Commit in one passion
3. Look at your weaknesses and work on improving them
my question - can we just ignore our weakness and just enjoy improving what we are already good at? weaknesses will be always there anyway, why struggle
Yeah it's surely more about accepting weakness than about improving them.
But not resisting your weaknesses and accepting they’re just beliefs designed by your ego to protect you in some weird perverted way is a beginning to working on them. We’ve practiced listening and acting on these beliefs for years we become experts at fulfilling them impulsively. We are not our thoughts
@@scottishguy6352 yes, if you think - what if someones' weakness is to rob banks and murder people, they should definitely start with them lol , so yes, i think it all depends on circumstances.
O S I think when it doesn't bother you anymore, it is no longer your weakness. It becomes weakness because you feel something wrong with it (whatever it is)
You gotta be confident just to wear those shirts..
You gotta be confident for saying that.
@@neo-babylon7872 You gotta gotta be confident
@@neo-babylon7872 maybe in person lol
lol
If you're reading this Russell, just know that i love ya! 😜
Funny as it sounds, the thing that has given me the most confidence is saying others around me are good people, even only in my mind. That includes you, reading this, a good person.
@velveteyes79 Well, sure not everyone is good, but nobody is totally bad all the time, so it's reasonable to say everyone is good sometime and at least has the capacity for goodness. Even evil people have done many good things, managed their responsibilites and so on. (Unrelated: if people would have the chance to be identified as good people, even if they aren't, they could go on to manifest it. Just as fears tend to manifest, so can positive expectations) It relates to confidence because there is a mirror relationship with humanity, people reflect you to yourself and vice versa. If you extend unconditional approval to someone, 1. they sense your good will and enter a comfortable and accepting posture. 2. you get a boost out of lifting someone up 3. you give yourself power because you have assumed the position of judge but without the baggage of making condemnation 4. by acknowledging the inherent/potential goodness in another person, you acknowledge it by proxy within yourself (you create a positivity feedback loop) 5. by placing positive expectations on others you again gain power as you are actively channeling positive energy through becoming a conduit 6. likewise there is a fear-cancelling element due to your production of positive energy allowing you to act with enhanced lucidity.
These are some theories, I don't know exactly why this exercise gave me a confidence boost, but it did. Just give it a try. You don't have to tell someone 'you are a good person' (though you can), you can just think to yourself, 'that's a good person' and see how it alters your lens to reality
velveteyes79 false sense of feeling safe and comfortable around a positive perception of those in your immediate environment. A method of self comfort and reframing the world to feel better about it so you in there feel more comfortable to be yourself. If we don’t trust those around us, subconsciously it makes us react more hostile and less calm and open
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS!!! YES! The world is literally a reflection of the thoughts we believe! BANG ON!
@velveteyes79 I've recently been studying A Course in Miracles and it's all about the false illusions of the ego. Fascinating (and tough going at times..)
@velveteyes79 😂
This guy is one of the most authentic people out there, he truly wears his heart on his sleeve, you get what you see with him.
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I love how he updates everyday with something positive
me toooo!!
Nurfwatergun I suppose it’s just the kind of guy he is ; fundamentally good natured and well meaning .
@@Jide-bq9yf thank alcoholics anonymous
@@Jide-bq9yf Totally agree, and very eloquent too, without being all ‘show-offee’ if you know what I mean? One of the Good Guys, for sure
was gonna type this comment but you did it fpr me
I've been bullied all my life and suffer anxiety and depression. It's hard to get through the day. Thank you for this. God bless.
Those bullies are just insecure and trying to bring you down to their level of misery. Don't let them!!
Hello World Darkness recognizes light and tries to attack it to take away their light. The fact that you were targeted is in itself the evidence that you are superior to them! ✊🔥 Work on self love.💛 Decide to love yourself unconditionally as you would an external little one that you love and cherish. 🥰. Your inner child needs the adult you to love them and be their personal guardian and protector. Love that little one back to full strength and confidence will be natural!! All you truly need is YOU and JESUS and if you shall be lucky enough to have someone as beautiful as you in your life who loves you then you are blessed! Love to you my friend. You are worthy💛🙏✊🔥
Hello World learn self defence then you’ll feel confident as you’ll be able to stand up for yourself
Hello World / You are trapped in the memory of your past. And need help to heal ..Look for people on line that are encouraging. Also, try encouraging yourself & being kind with yourself 💝
I wish you good luck. You better kick their asses!
"Stop Judging yourself. Do go to work on yourself", that's the most concise self help I can ever think of seeing, love you man!
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
Hey! you should check out our "Enlightening Quotes" video ft. Alfred Adler. Our channel is passionate about psychology education so that everyone everywhere can live a healthier life. We have videos featuring Carl Jung, Sigmund Freud, Jordan Peterson, Fritz Perls +more. Our goal is to create a free source of #DigitalTherapy for our subscribers.
When you said a lack of self confidence is like paralysis.. I felt that. “Oh the things I would do if only I looked like this or had that…” It’s hindered my human experience and I hate that. I don’t need to see myself as flawless.. I just want to accept them enough that they can’t hold me back anymore.
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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Hey Russell, I am 20 and I really think your videos have high values especially in times like these. thank you
Exactly!
Most definitely
Snap! I’m 20 also, life’s really starting to kick in don’t you think?
I'm 36 and I think Russell has a lot of stuff figured out, you could definitely pick a worse person to learn about life from. I think he's seen more of it than most.
Me too!
"True confidences is when someone accepts and embraces who they are."
That is the standard quote I've seen a ton of times on office posters or inspirational memes.
You should really listen to Russell's advice during the whole video. It is not just accepting who you are, but rather stop comparing yourself to absurd standards while improving yourself in areas you feel a need but with reasonable expectations. To simply accept yourself however you are without putting work toward self-improvement will lead to only more anxiety and less self-confidence.
He's got small hands , that's his problem 😂
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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Yes,..and accept our limitations.
Nailed it. If your focus is external you can't help but compare yourself to others. Look inside. Learn about your own genius. Learn what others see in you that you may be taking for granted. That's where your confidence is hiding.
*You cannot be comfortable without your own approval.*
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me Like snake shed skin.
Also, you can't be comfortable with a piranha in your underpants
O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me - Truth. Subscribed to your channel. Love finding these gems in the comments.
damn that's deep
Hear hear!
"That which you most need will be found where you least want to look." - Carl Jung
Does it mean i am gey?
This is utterly meaningless. Thanks though Internet guru.
*yawn*.
Hmm. That's really interesting
@@emmashalliker6862 It isn't meaningless, you just lack imagination. The point is obvious: people don't like to confront important issues honestly because it makes them uncomfortable. It's easier to misdiagnose your problems or blame them on something else to absolve yourself of the responsibility to fix them.
And often times, where people least want to look is inside themselves
I'm coming up on 13 clean and sober from heroin and crack cocaine.
Russell, I can relate so much to your videos.
You ,Sir..are a beautiful human being.
Rock on.
Darryl Potter good for you!! I too am a recovering addict... Nice to know you can relate to others and aren't alone.
@@kirstenalgie9318 what was your addiction?
13!! 🥳
I thought u were 13 years old for a sec
Congrats on your sobriety mate
I often refer to Stoic thoughts when I'm feeling insecure. Primarily understanding that I can't control what other people think of me and that most of my anxiety is coming from my own imagination. Gaslighting myself so to speak.
well said!
Anxiety is driven by trying to live in the future, depression is rooted in trying to live in the past. Neither anxiety nor depression can be in the Now. Do not allow the external world to steer your internal world - be totally present not reactionary. Observing others reations/actions and not responding is incredibly powerful.
@@namehere4954 i totally agree with this. Mindfulness is important
“Gaslighting myself” Brilliantly said! I think we all tend to do this.
Doubt your doubts
Finally someone doing something dope with their platform. Keep helping others shine brother🔥
He's not doing anything dope, he's doing something useful. His message works because he uses words that actually mean something.
Hes not doing dope anymore
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"Stop judging yourself, but do go to work on yourself."
Excellent advice. Thanks Russell.
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He's such a sweet man. His struggles with drug abuse and mental health I believe have helped him become such a nice guy.
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Eating healthy, exercising, and no alcohol. Those were the three things that gave me confidence, I surprised myself with how confident I became
I’ve been doing those things for 6 years - I still hate myself
@@katanagrrl then you either haven’t been doing it well enough, or you need to seek counselling. Love to ya man ✌️
I do the opposite and I'm very confident.
@@AKelly-wd4lj Can you break down the reasons for no alcohol please? How exactly it benefited you and what the problem was you felt when you were drinking?
@@Exalted- alcohol gave me confidence whilst drinking it (of course), but the after effects of alcohol I felt sapped my confidence, not just the “hangover”, but further on from that. I think making those physical changes (like removing alcohol from my life) helped me to make mental changes, and therefore gave me more confidence. It felt like a chain reaction, treat your body with more respect (diet, exercise, no alcohol) and the mental side follows with it. This is just what I experienced, it might not be the case for everyone x
"Everyone wants to be something they're not"
-Bill Bernard
"Never compare your insides to someone else's outsides"
-Carl Allen Brown
Lack of self confidence is merely one arguing on behalf of ones imaginary limitations ✌️
Whattt Tf This is great!
thats why i voted leave
That really is an utterly fantastic comment! Well worded too. I apologise in advance, for I'm going to steal it :)
Hell of a comment! 👍
Simnett Nutrition thank you very much. I’m happy it resonated with you. ✌️
*_Confront the weak parts of yourself and work to banish them with experiences. Your willingness to confront your demons will cause a change within yourself_*
terrible advice weirdo
@Foo Me But where's the lie?
@Foo Me Yeah dude, continue telling people that everything is fine and there is no need to confront challenges and work to improve on reality. That will help.
Self-blame CAN be toxic, it's not that the word itself is toxic, there is a huge difference. Self-blame can give a person ownership over one's own problems, the main difference really is the productive outcome that comes out of it.
It's more complicated than either of you are really making out tbh, that's why life can be hard.
Its good advice. It's like the book "the subtle art of how not to give a fuck". Its a refreshing change. The core message is the same. Care about what matters like facing your fears and overcoming them. Then you will like yourself more and feel more comfortable.
The whole don't say things like "can't" thing is not for self confidence imho. It is for outward success, like in work. It is vital not to have any negative self talk and regret pangs. But facing inner demons sounds like a great plan, it's just worded differently to something like "improve areas where you have room to grow". It gets to the point a bit quicker too.
@Foo Me I didn't see Life Progress' comment as negative at all,
it's helpful actually.
Check your perception
or at least attempt to be more gracious
with your words
if/when you are
attempting to be helpful.
☮️
Ego will lead you in the wrong direction.... it is linked to desire..... when ego is reduced.... happiness is improved..... we are here to work on these issues. (Turn off your tv and social media and grow within)
Confidence is the most important key that can only be developed through practice.
We often find ourselves either under playing or over playing.
Do not pretend to be what you are not and don't refuse to be what you are.
Nisargadatta Maharaj
Claude LeBel this resonates with me! i find it harder to stop underplaying personally. thanks for putting my thoughts into words
@@billynitrus You are very welcome. Best.
@Infernal Moondance :)
@Free Speech Wow, an enlightened one. So generous with his insults. Thank you.
1. Dont keep comparing yourself to everyone else. Be grateful for things you have.
2. Have goals and Become more skillful.
Rule one: be attractive.
Rule two: don't be unattractive.
I lived my whole life feeling like everyone was better than me and feeling worthless. I depended on achievements and praise to feel confident I became a perfectionist, had high standards and so obsessively competitive.
Then I started working and wasn’t getting that praise and things quickly escalated. I was depressed. I hated work and everyone in it. Things were awful.
My biggest help was understanding myself and the way I think and realizing I was not different and everyone thought like me and I was not a weirdo.
And then I realized confidence should come from within!! Not from outside praises and acceptance!
Things changed ever since. Even at work I started to shine and I even stopped hating it and everyone in it. My life is so much better now.
What does that mean confidence comes from within
@@tsav1613 believing in yourself. Self acceptance and trusting your own capabilities instead of relying on people’s praises and rewards to feel enough and capable.
When it comes from your own heart, you feel valuable and able to handle things without anyone’s words.
When relying on rewards, without getting these rewards, you feel absolutely worthless and doubt your own work.
Thanks for sharing. My confidence was tied to my self worth, and I put that in others. My since of self worth has improved improving my confidence as well. I embrace who I am rather than run from it. It takes work to see what I was running from through insecure attachment and social conditioning.
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I wish every girl in between 12 and 25 years old realizes this thing you said "confidence should come from within, Not from outside praises and acceptance"
And hopefully they also turn off their phones and maybe delete their toxic tiktok and instagram accounts
Russel Brand, I love how you engage with the world. Your energy is amazingly unique. Such a gem.
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How the hell did he know i was sitting here on my phone with the little ear buds? 🤔
Same here 😆
Statistics
How on earth did he know I was lack of confidence
@@arwahsapi Statistics
because that's how the majority of people watch UA-cam...
Not seeking external approval and validation, but only seek this from yourself. 💛 if you notice you start judging yourself or comparing yourself to others, just tell yourself "I am okay". 😊
Cerise Dahlia humans are designed to be in packs. Modern society exposes us to infinite ‘packs’ (social groups).. it’s natural to want to fit into the pack, but being overloaded with fitting in with ever changing social groups we tend to lose sight of what’s actually important, being ourselves
@Nunnha B self compassion, radical self acceptance.
I've read recently that when we judge others or ourselves we create a world of judgement (internally) in which we feel scared of being judged! I believe the antidote is to accept everything as it is right now in this moment and to detach from any judgement you make about anyone or anything.
So true! I love this. Martha Woodworth, The Psychic Is In.
@Nunnha B Yes, you have to work on self-validation and self-approval as it is not familiar to us. Videos on "I am enough" by Marisa Peer helped me a lot.
I feel like my lack of confidence comes from comparing to what I hope to grow into and judging myself for not being that already! I’m too hard on myself!
I read that you shouldnt compare yourself to who you want to be tomorrow but instead compare yourself to who you were yesterday. That way you can measure your progression on the journey to becoming that person you want to be in the future
humans are always over-optimistic in their expectations of themselves. So it's ok you want to be someone you realistically can never be
You definitely are, Armani :)
I do the same thing!
@@finnredmond3192 This is pure gold 👌
The tone of voice you have in this video is extremely comforting. I think that really lends to your message. Confidence in some ways is comfort. Comfort with yourselves and those around you
Well said
You’re wise beyond your years, thank you for using your platform the way you do,
Beyond your years... you do know he's 44 years old? How old do people normally get this sort of wisdom?
The you’d be surprised how many adults are still playing into the consumerist game of appearances, image and emotional suppression
@@anirose6807 more people have this wisdom than you think. Just not everyone has the luxury or platform or finances to do what he's done. Hard to argue without facts here.
The well that’s why I thanked him for using his platform. Why are you so upset about my comment of endearment?
@@anirose6807 not really upset but your comment of endearment is usually used on people in their teenage years. Maybe I'm just not used to it being used on a man in his forties with facial hair. I haven nothing against him. My point is saying he's wise beyond his years is more hyperbolic than I'm used to for this particular context :)
Thank you, Russell. I'm an overweight man (have been for most of my life) that's trying to lose weight for health reasons. Often times I feel discouraged, depressed, angry, or even disappointed in myself for not being able to make myself work out. I've always been so harshly judgemental of myself and I don't know how to stop it. Your words hit home with me and it was honestly something I really needed to hear. So, thank you. I know it's almost a year later but thank you, sincerely.
Alex
Maybe stop eating crap so you won't be depressed you idiot
Don't listen to the horrible people. Be kid to yourself!
@@soposh5673 both weight gain and depression have been proven to have genetic factors which make them much more difficult to overcome for some people. Then there's situational factors to contend with. Don't be so judgemental and take a moment to consider before posting. It doesn't seem like you got much from this video...
@@zauberholz8357 Yes just tell people it's genetic so they can't overcome it
@@soposh5673 no, but if someone is beating themselves over not being able to lose weight on a certain diet plan, there are legitimate reasons for that. It takes times to figure out what works - it’s not simply a matter of “eat less food” for everyone. Making a mean comment on the internet isn’t going to make them a healthier person. If you had some constructive advice, sure.
“Stop judging yourself, but do work on yourself” wow that hit different
I love how the final message is "stop complaining, evaluate yourself and work on improving". Inspiring ✨
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I like before I even watch the video... I’m that confident 😉🤭
ASMR RED 🙄🤣😂
I like your confidence baby!
Russell Brand 💖 💕
I think that's called ignorance....lol jk
Good one!
The strength of confidence comes from the building up a ritual that reflects with your passion.
I love this because we see how charismatic Russell usually is and him being authentic and telling us even he is insecure at times feels so relatable and he feels more human and reassuring because we can achieve that confidence too if we believe in ourselves.
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With limited resources, and massive dreams, confidence is what keeps me going.
Love from Sierra Leone 🇸🇱
You will get there! Persistence + time = success
Finally... It's cool to be sane.
Thank you for helping make it so, Mr Brand 🙏🏽
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Russell: “Just try and be who you are, don’t try and imagine yourself in an imaginary fight”
My brain cell: He knows :0
Easy for him to talk doing jiujitsu haha
Haha no plural - for comedic effect I take it? Nice 😄
@@xbulelo what??
@@89kilemal cell
@@SnakeHips Nahh I'm not having it.
The authentic and valuable advice this guy gives is invaluable.
The only thing worth watching on youtube really.
"People think that I'm confident because I'm a professional show-off" .....lol
Love you, mate! Right On..✊🤙
What exactly is your profession if you don’t mind me asking
More like professional Jack-off
frank waites good one frank
@@frankwaites8708 hey frank, just a quick question, as you've made a few negative comments. What are your motives for attacking a video/individual that is trying to help people improve their lives?
Genuinely curious, if you've got nothing positive to say, especially on something related to self help, keep your thoughts to yourself please mate, as the vast majority of people watching videos like these are struggling and don't need your bullshit criticism, it seems as if you're projecting and might actually get something out of videos like these.
1- dont compare yourself to other peaple
2- find what it is that you enjoy doing. Devote and dedicate yourself to it
3-look out what it is you feel is not good enough
Hmm makes sense, what if i dont enjoy anything anymore? And the only two things i ever did enjoy, i dont anymore, im doing them just as a force of habit.
And, GRATITUDE is key. That goes to God btw
@Preto do Zimbabwe Anyone with a Brain would know we don't have all the answers to everything.
Michael Hayes But we have evidence proving that the universe was created by the Big Bang. The Bible has no evidence whatsoever
@@hlowe420 who said once, that I believe in the bible in its entirety??
Who else just looks at him and thinks what a legend
He sure is dude
Armpits first - but yes after.
Russel dont do speed, speed do russel.
Your mum!!!!
No.
I have always been shy and had very low confidence but I worked very hard throughout the years to the point where I feel confident and I wouldn't call myself shy anymore. Yet people still often say things like 'aww your shy' 'aren't you too shy to do that?' And 'the quiet one'. They say it to my face as if they are telling me what they think is my weakness. It still hurts me every time!
Thank you Russell. Many of us feel broken from understanding the pain of others and how widespread it is. Sending you a hug. You're making me cry.
A small paragraph taken from Desiderata:
“If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself”
In my belief social media has been the main cause of an individuals lack of self confidence as they are constantly comparing themselves to others. Your life is exactly that.............YOUR LIFE..............
Social media makes money from our fears and insecurities. Their product sells.
Social media is a very present evil in our lives that will cause a unstoppable cascade and collapse if it isn't banned ASAP. Absolutely disgusting what these platforms are doing to our kids mental health. I'd say 'ticking' time bomb but I think it's already gone off.
‚Don’t spend your life imagining I wished my body looked better or how would I get on in an imaginary fight‘ - howling! Wise words...-
His confidence and charisma are the best I’ve ever seen !! He should write a book about the subject. He is completely hypnotizing ! Gorgeous intense eyes!
I actually love your content...it's really helped me in a positive way.
What would be help in a negative way then?
@@HanHuman I don't know you tell me
@@HanHuman Just as i thought
@@aljunrivera5605 What i meant by "its actually helped me in a positive way"is that there's so many youtubers that give crap advice...Russell Brands advice has actually benefited me and I can see a change in my life...that's what i meant.
@@HanHuman What i meant by "its actually helped me in a positive way"is that there's so many youtubers that give crap advice...Russell Brands advice has actually benefited me and I can see a change in my life...that's what i meant.
"We think we fall short of that imagined standard. We judge ourselves. We feel inferior. It's comparative." - wise words as always, Russell!
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It’s the inner dialogue we are in competition with; calm the mind, calm the chatter.
Russell Brand is a brave heart. I love the way he looks at both sides of issues.
This attack on him isn't surprising as he also exposes misinformation of the powerful.
Go Russell !
My first post.
You find your identity by being assertive. Confidence is identity found.
I once read: what is one thought about yourself that if you hadn’t had, it would’ve made your life easier?… And I think most of us have one or two consistent judgments nagging in our heads constantly. If only my belly looked like X or I had Y… And life escapes us while we try to achieve this goal that we have auto imposed and that makes us ignore life’s important things. I agree with you, we need to work on ourselves but not to the point of obsessing over the results
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I have to be honest here. Many year's ago I thought Russell was lame. It's been over a year now since I have been watching his video's. This is purer 💯, mate you talk some good stuff. Thanks brother.
I always thought he played some strange roles, and then I listened to his philosophies and absolutely love him. Then I went back to watch his roles and loved them the second time around
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Looking better absolutely makes me feel better. The mirror is a testament to my effort and prof that I can set a goal, stick to it and transform my life. Women like me more. Men give me respect me. Energy and mood are improved. All of this has given me much higher self confidence.
3 words I tell myself to maintain my confidence: "Don't judge yourself."
Use positive language the subconcious doesn't understand negation
Brilliant! 😁
The thought of "don't judge yourself" is still coming from judging yourself
I think that it works on you maybe bcs you have a normal lvl of confidence but you just feel insecure sometimes when you start judging yourself and get self conscious but you get pass it by saying that
My mind will just do what I tell it not to do so I will just tell myself in advance negative thoughts that might arise
I think this is also the key to happiness... less comparing, more acceptance, gratitude and appreciation. Nailed it Russel ♥️
You've synthesized that well, thank you!
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Russell's kids are going to have some hella wisdom ❤️ ✨
@hans meier if the guys a rapist why the fuck are you commenting on his channel. Contact the police and provide them with evidence. Trolls are cancer.
How do u know hes gonna hav childeren
lack Luster he’s got kids
Yh
I suffered (pass tense) big time. I had parents who used to beat me and put me down at every opportunity while under their roof. An evil little voice continued the work for them after they passed nearly 30 years ago, the main one being how 'useless' I was as my relationships, friendships and dreams broke down for reasons beyond my limited perception. After many years of restlessly searching/researching WHY? Two answers I deducted was: 1. Stop listening to those dead voices; and 2. increase my perception through reading reading reading, Fiction first solely to increase my vocabulary without overloading my brain with too much technical information before eventually moving fairly recently on to non-fiction for technical data as my ability at retention increased. Now I've become a gibbering idiot. Much better than the shrinking violet that was constantly taken advantage off or kowtowing to manipulation or hiding in plain sight.
Well done you 👏🏻
Keep going
Is "becoming a gibbering idiot" a good thing?
I am the same way. I've been through a lot of emotional abuse which really destroyed my self-esteem and confidence. Thankfully I have pushed through that and really focused on building my self-confidence on my own since nobody else is going to have my back.
@@CalebHimself I discovered I too needed to do self examination on my own, after, however, reading literally dozens of self help books, and 400 free hours of sessions with two Clinical Psychologists (I had a lot of layers to uncover, and it was tax payer funded). Then I came across Philosophers like Neatzsche, Locke, Camus, etc and YT channels like; Philosophies For Life, Einzelganger, WuWei Wisdoms, Eternalised, Brains Explained and many more. My original quest has exceded expectations thanks to the availability of educational learnings provided by YT'bers. I heard and read of the inner child; I was always skeptical of the concept, after all there is only one me. I've since become a believer. I found my original self, my original dreams, desires, hopes and curiousity. I found the me that was me before life and the ribald influences of grown ups dictated terms. I went back to toddler, infant, baby and even the womb to discover me. I am discovering that with self actualization the satisfaction appears greater. Good work for you to push through. You and those close to you will benefit a great deal. Keep up the good work.
Its 1am in the morning, I just turned 39, thank you for this. I think I've been searching all the wrong places for confidence rather than from within. This video is going to change my life, and when I become who I really am meant to be I will owe you a word of gratitude.
No man, you’re going to change your life.
So how does it go?
How did it go?
Happy birthday 💚✨
Sending you good energy brother
Good perspectives, Russ.
So many people confuse confidence with being overbearing/aggressive.
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You become confident when you stop caring what others think about you
Still working on that, hopefully 1 day i Will be completely free in my mind
Ive definitely realized that to be true now.
That isn’t necessarily always confidence. A depressive person can be like that. But we are social animals.
In my experience u can pretend to urself ur entire life u don’t care but ofc u do care and if u didn’t care it is true u would lose a lot of fear humans experience but would u not also lose the capacity to feel as much joy?
Confidence is really just a comfort in yourself. Feeling value in yourself. And the capacity to lift people up. Any lack of confidence means you’ll be either bringing yourself down or other people. This is why cocky and arrogant people are not actually confident. And it’s not necessarily about what other people think of you. The problem is what you think of you, and how easily you believe what other people say and how it challenges your identity.
I call it courage to be disliked
For the longest I can remember I’ve always hated myself even thinking back to when I was about 5 years old but not for the the way I act or the way I look, I don’t compare myself to others and I understand that I(we are) am not In control of everything that happens except our own situation. That being said I work out, listen to music, do things that make me feel good yet I still feel this way. I don’t like to think negatively but I feel like this feeling will never go away, it went away for a year back in jr year of high school but for the past 3 years it’s been back to this way. I’m not over weight and I’m not that bad looking but I absolutely hate myself and can’t seem to figure out why. Even after all the therapy, seeing a psychologist, going to impatient programs. I still see everything in the worst light when it comes to my self yet I can be so bright in other situations regarding others. You don’t have to read this or even like this comment but I hope who ever feels my pain overcomes this hardship and learns that no one is perfect and we all have purpose. Thank you for listening and stay safe💯
Not saying you have one, but maybe look into one of the personality disorders. I have borderline. It includes a whole lot of self doubt and self hate. The treatment is dialectical behavior therapy. Maybe there's something in that that can help you. I'm working on letting it help me. Take good care 🤍
I hope you can somehow find the self-love within you to make you feel confident. I hated myself for years too, everything about me. But then I started focusing on what goals I wanted to accomplish and seeing what I wanted to improve about myself. I started to really rocus on that progress which in turn helped my mental state and made me love myself for the changes I was making. It's not perfect and everu now and then I'll get down on myself, but there has been improvement which is what is important. You recognize that you don't look bad and have things going for you in life which is good. Hopefully one day we can both find a solution to this problem.
This is me too every single word..its a struggle
I say to myself when I feel hopeless and lacking confidence that, no-one can be me, better than me. It helps me to feel unique and that it's good to be different.
I love that expression, "Be Yourself. Everybody else is already taken."
Yes! that's what I'm talking about 🙌
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Never thought I would learn new ways of thinking from the likes of Russell Brand. So utterly grateful for this channel. Thank you.
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Accept yourself for where you are now ya know - that works for me. I’ve stopped trying to play to the world and I’ve a lot more peace ya know - much love! Great vid!!!
"stop judging yourself, but do go to work on yourself" very wise.
more people need to hear this message instead of receiving pity and fake reassurance
Thus man is one of a kind. And has such a unique perspective on life.
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I love the sincerity and complete absence of pretension in these videos. Such a chill air of positivity and realism. This is genuinely good and useful work you're doing for people. :)
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Happy birthday Russell !!! 44!!!
Woo woop it just keeps getting better baby
lol @Klay 35319...and I can always hear him singing "when I'm 64". That was my June birthday this year (64th) and his singing that song just keeps going round and round in my head now all month long! lol :) We are forever youthful if we stay "young at heart" and in spirit-- our spirit never dies- thank God.
The thing that has helped me most regarding confidence in social situations is to remember that the people around me aren't my enemies, they don't want to see me fail. Once you get rid of that out of your head, the fear of failure really drops away because the outcome of failure is no longer the mountain if ridicule that you envisage.
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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@@properpsychology1276 Don't use my post to flog your crap.
@@PerthScienceClinic Mental Health isn't "crap"
@@properpsychology1276 No, but the crap that you peddle is.
Inner dialogue is major key!
Yes, inner dialogue is all important !
Agreed. Stop negative self talk and regretting stuff that happened years ago. And don't go into panic mode of "what ifs" when a social situation is presented.
I have nailed the first two, but not the panic mode yet.
Indeed !!!
So I was just thinking about my lack of confidence....and then this video showed up on my feed without searching for it. Perfect message at the perfect time ❤️😊
Not coincide. Your phone heard you talking, or you searched it some where else.
@@warispeace666 or it's just random..
I used to always apologize for just existing. I'm so quiet, so it's hard to make friends. At some point I decided that I had to be outgoing to have friends and kept beating myself up for being quiet, which made it even harder to talk to others, and I began to fear people. However, now when I interact with people I internally tell myself that I am not sorry. And I'm ready to defend myself. Although pushing myself to be outgoing has not helped my confidence, it has helped me to understand people better. I realize that a lot of people really are kind and may accept me if I just be my quiet self.
37 days sober... I cant live the life without my Mediation against heavy Paranoia and anxiety. I am Paranoia shizophrenia and heavy addicted to drugs and gambling. I get oder and wiser. But my place in Berlin Kreuzberg is Not a safe place. I said to Myself i cant cure Here. In the next month i try to move away From Here and go to a New safe life. I heavy recommend to change your home City. Your brain react to places where u expierenced Bad stuff and shit... Was the Best i did to move. Give you guys a hug. Love ya.
“Don’t stress out, poke your chest out” helped me a lot
LOL, like
When I’m down all I think is “Ten Fingers, Ten Toes, Two Eyes and 1 Nose”....some people don’t even have that and I’m worried about my life?!? Then I make some moves
That gets me more down... Even people with real problems like That can be succesful and I just suck in all aspects
@@sebastradlinyeayeayea1070 quit crying for yourself and do something about it
What youve described is the lochness monster, whats the reward for catching him? all the riches in Scottland. Why are you stil here?
@@sebastradlinyeayeayea1070 Then work hard to not suck at atleast one aspect
@@sebastradlinyeayeayea1070 I'm sure you are not bad at everything, what's more likely is that your skills aren't as valued or easy to monetize which makes you feel small. Head up chum! :)
Russel I've noticed years ago that you have a much deeper mind than what I first thought when I first seen you on TV. I can't put into words really the way you can, how much I appreciate your existence in this world. You have a way of putting thoughts into speech that is just inspiring. Its a gentle and humble, open minded nature you have that is truly unique. I am now a true fan. I just discovered this channel now but you know ill be watching, listening thinking and understanding. We all want to better ourselves and your words help me to personally understand what's going on without forcing an idea on me. I take things with a pinch of salt these days but I do consider other peoples thoughts. Massive respect to you for taking this road in life. You are helping people.
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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For me confidence was no longer caring what people thought of me. It’s ok not to be liked by someone. The issue is not having the confidence to be ourselves around others. Once we stop caring about how others think of us we relax in social situations, we are then able to embrace our true selves
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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"If you want to feel confident: stop judging yourself, but do go do work on yourself" damn Russell
TheOriginalIdiot101 without making an initial judgement, how can you know something needs to be worked on?
@@dylanhinegardner6778 I think he meant just treat yourself well and do things you enjoy which perhaps give you purpose rather than admonishing yourself without necessarily having a course of action
@@dylanhinegardner6778 I think what Russell meant when he said this is that you should be aware of what you want to improve of yourself. Let's say you want to stop interrupting people in social situations. You would then work very hard to try and wait for everyone in the social setting to finish speaking, and then say your part. But when you accidentally interrupt someone, you shouldn't think to yourself, "Damn you Dylan Colby, you fucked it up, you never do anything right. You don't deserve people to like you." I think what Russell meant is that when you notice something about yourself that you wish to improve/change, acknowledge it and go do the work on yourself you need to do, don't condemn yourself for not being this thing that you wish to be.
At least this is how I understood it. Sorry for the long reply hahah
spot on, fella. sometimes overly negative talk feels like my oldest friend.
Russell Brand is a philosopher of our time.
I love you Mr. Brand. So raw and honest. You are a wonderful mentor, to my self and many others by the looks of the comments. You show so well how profound the bond between emotion and intelligence can be. You are articulate in your manner and it is intensely enjoyable for me to listen in on your conversations. You've given sense to particular thoughts of mine over time and I am thankful to stumble across your media for my own selfish use. Hope I can give back some.
I lost my brother as a result of his drug addiction and his inability to connect. And I my self have always had trouble with self doubt that has well hidden and complex meaning. A passive nature that was fuelled by ignorance and carrying around a scared little lad in my head. An attempt to satisfy others over my self - A self-destructive method that truly goes unnoticed. Self realisation through discussions with others is always a fast-track method to correcting your flaws, dare I call them that. I've been on a journey for a good while now. Appreciating your worth and harnessing the empowerment in bettering yourself is something I wish I grasped easily. Spreading content like this to the masses will certainly aid in the understanding of destructive ways of thinking. Confidence definitely resides in these types of forums, so please do continue your message and offerings. Brilliant stuff mate. Absolutely stellar. Big love from Australia to you and all others!
"Don't live your life constantly thinking about how you'd get on in an imaginary fight" made me chuckle
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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Trusting in yourself. ( my feelings are MY feelings. Boundries. Love yourself
Probably one of the better motivational speakers out there, he's just raw, natural and the way he conveys things, it feels like he's actually living that, unlike many others who just try and educate for the sole purpose of marketing their brand.
"You can be healed of depression if every day you begin the first thing in the morning to consider how you will bring a real joy to someone else." -Alfred Adler
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00:13 🎙 Russell Brand acknowledges that despite being a professional performer, he still experiences shyness in regular social situations.
01:34 🌟 True confidence comes from embracing and accepting oneself, regardless of perceived faults or flaws.
02:32 💬 Comparing oneself to imagined standards can lead to a lack of confidence, especially in social situations.
03:38 🏋♂ To build confidence, avoid excessive comparison with others, focus on what you enjoy doing, and dedicate yourself to it.
04:49 🏋♂ Addressing body image or feeling weak should be done with the understanding that external changes may not necessarily provide the solution.
06:24 🤝 Genuinely confident people are easy to be around and have likely done inner work on themselves. They are not overbearing.