‘I Don’t Want To Be This Monster,’ Says Woman Who Claims She Has ‘Violent Urges’ Toward Her Family
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Melissa says she hates her parents, Donna and Mark Senior, and brother, Mark Junior, and has often thought about harming them. The 26-year-old says she moved across the country in May to keep her family safe and now wants Dr. Phil’s help explaining to them why she left.
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“How do you feel knowing that your family is going to learn about your very strong, powerful urges to murder them?” Dr. Phil asks Melissa.
WATCH: ‘I Told My Mother That I Wanted To Hire A Hitman To Kill Her,’ Claims 26-Year-Old
“I’m afraid of their judgment,” admits Melissa in the video above. “I don’t want to be this monster.”
Melissa says she wants to change, “and not be a bad person.” Does Dr. Phil have a plan to help?
Part one of this two-part episode airs Monday.
And on Tuesday, Melissa’s parents are unaware of their daughter’s unsettling urges. Tune in to the conclusion to find out what happens when she tells them why she left home.
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Shouldn’t this woman get actual help? Like to get over the urges.
Dr. Phil usually gifts people with extremely expensive, highly specialized treatment programs at the end of the show. I don't know how people continuously miss that glaring fact.
Jasmine Houston-Burns sorry, didn’t know.
Shane B actually, if she has BPD, which it sounds like she does, I should know, I relate to how she feels completely, it’s not an “attention” thing, it’s legit feelings and thoughts. No one takes you seriously or believe what you say but it’s actually terrifying to have those urges in your brain. Especially if she, like me, dissociates when they get too angry. You lash out and can’t remember much from what happened. Murder often crosses the mind too and there’s a 50% chance she’ll actually do it. So no, it’s not just for attention. BPD and disorders like that can be seen as you being selfish and attention seeking, in reality it’s the inability to control emotions hence why it’s now called emotionally unstable personality disorder.
She knows this is wrong so mot crazy. Like you I also think that ya she should be seeing a therapist at least.
@@jasminehouston-burns1691 if a person writes in to Dr Phil he has people read his fan mail or requests for help. If they find someone they want to help then that process of just meeting them starts. You have a massive problem in your life you go to someone for help etc and while you are getting that help you look for second opinion, Dr Phil is your second opinion your last hope. I think everyone recognizes that Dr Phils help is expensive this may be something you want to think about, his help is not always the best.
I am not sure if she actually ‚wants‘ to do these things. This sounds a lot like obsessive/intrusive thoughts as a symptom of an underlying psychological condition. It is not a good approach to morally judge her for having these thoughts. They are actually forcing her to identify with these thoughts and come up with a reason why she is having them. Bad idea. It‘s more important to identify the underlying condition and try to address that.
It sounds like Harm OCD
Yes exactly what I thought watching this. Someone who was really genuinely relishing the thought of murdering people would know better than to come out confessing to these kinds of ideations, and they wouldn't perceive their own behaviour as something that needed to be stopped because the underlying morality just doesn't exist in those people. This girl clearly shows some kind of remorse and empathy, which as a baseline means she is more likely to be an obsessive compulsive than an actual potential murder. Either that, or she felt the real problems she is experiencing just aren't important enough and she had to embellish to be seen. It happens, it happened to me when I was younger. When I was 14 I pretended to hear voices because I thought it was the only way I'd get help, since no one took depression and anxiety seriously back then.
That's what Dr. Phil does exploit people and their issues... For views
Love you
This is exactly what I was thinking
The ONLY thing. That has me questioning this young woman. Is the fact that she specifically was like "until Dr Phil comes into the picture no one can help me". Anyone who's truly suffering wouldn't go to Dr Phil unless they were being forced to because we cannot speak like this about our problems on a national platform so casually.
@Melissa Is Here How are you feeling now?
Melissa Is Here I hope you are proud of yourself for seeking assistance. I truly hope you are doing, even a little, better and your thoughts are more positive. ❤️❤️
@Melissa Is Here I'm really happy for you! I hope and pray things get better for you
im sorry i just dont beiliev her
@Melissa Is Here the way you described it you can tell your just doing this for attention
This poor woman hates herself. She needs to learn to love herself.
@The Ice no hunny...it's far more complicated than that.
@Lucky The Ducky you’re even further off base than the main comment. Christ, you people are so confident in your own stupidity 🤦♀️
I like this show, it may seem bad to air peoples personal problems for all to see but I actually think it helps, mental illness is a big problem
She even said in another episode that she realized her thoughts were a problem after watching a similar episode.
@@goosegoeshonk6919 thats pretty amazing
Couldn’t disagree more with the way Dr Phil is handling this situation. In FACT jail is NOT filled with women who have the types of issues and feelings as this woman. Most people who suffer from constant, overwhelming thoughts of hurting people DONT actually hurt people. These people have a conscience and are so scared that their thoughts may become reality that they cut ties with everyone they love and live a lonely, singular life. I’m so sad at how Dr Phil has handled this situation. The message is not to get help and life can absolutely be better, instead he is going for shock value by vocalizing her thoughts over and over again and letting her know that other people are not going to be okay or accept her when she ‘comes clean’.
Of course you’d say that white people smh
Mel obviously not you this isn’t even your comment I’m responding to lol
Mel I actually agreed with your thought but the original comment just makes it feel as if these type of ww shouldn’t have any repercussions
Exactly
@Yeah Itsme psychiatric care... that’s what she needs becuase if she turned around and killed or harmed her family then what?!?!? Then we punish nah man that’s not okay
In all honesty, I’m proud of her that she recognizes that her urges are harmful and that she wants to get help. It’s probably so terrible having those thoughts all the time. Props to her for seeking out help and wishing to protect her family. I wish her all my best.
I don’t think she is gonna hurt anyone. She is just in pain and doesn’t know how else to get it out there without causing drama like this.
Thats exactly it. Shes too immature to express it healthily and its dramatic enough to warrant everyone stopping and trying to win her love back and save her...... she's not crazy just spoiled
Based on this one clip, I do not know the pain she has experienced; however, she does appear to be very immature in her desire to just put this behavior behind her without engaging in intense counseling to learn to express her anger in a healthy manner. I do not think she’s mature enough to fully understand the very violent actions she’s been plotting and the finality of her family members. There may be a fascination with horror and gore movies (teenage slasher movies?) and TV shows like The Walking Dead that fill her head with ideas to carry out her anger.
Agree.
Melissa responded to another comment I made in a different clip. Dr. Phil has connected her with appropriate care and she is sounding very grateful and hopeful. Let’s all wish her the best outcome.
She have weight problems her hate her mother because of it , she kept repeating the weight issue just make her lose weight and she will go back to lovely sweet person 🙄
We used to have remote countryside hospitals for people like this. They have controversial histories but we can learn from past mistakes. We can show this woman humanity while separating her from potential victims
We should be applauding her for resisting the impulse and wanting to get help
I agree. Good on Melissa
Sis is just bored and wants her 15 minutes of fame. Next time she will be in the media as the ultimate Karen.
“How do you feel about your family finding out about your strong urge to kill them”
“I’m afraid they’ll judge me”
Excuse me did I hear that correctly?
🤔🧐🤨😳
No you didnt she said theyd be afraid
EXACTLY
She’s been hurt deeply.
She even explains there isn't a reason she's just wants to hurt people. I hope they lock her up, its what she's looking for. Watch a video of hers you'll get a "im special " vibe
Mel you guys seem like crazy conspiracy theory people. Do you think that Dr. Phil is a clone too?
@@foslerfer conspiracy????? Since when is being observant of clear BS a conspiracy? You ain't right
Scootchie and Boo nah
Mel at least you have a sense of humor, I can appreciate that
Robins face being the only person in the audience has been gold. Her expressions have me dying 😂😂😂
Right! I was looking for this comment 😭
Oh please. It’s so obvious she’s doing this to get on the show.
She emailed Dr Phil over 300 times in the past year? That's what she says in another clip from this segment. I think she has an obsession with Dr Phil along with her being crazy quite frankly.
I think she may just want to be on TV, I think it may all be an act.
Melissa Is Here didn’t you go to see your own doctor? I’m sure it’s terrible having to live with these thoughts, if you wrote to dr Phil that many times I’m curious as to whether you also seeked help elsewhere.
@Melissa Is Here you’re saying you didn’t trust people, and that you couldn’t tell a psychiatrist yet you went on national tv for the whole world to see. Surely it would have been better to handle it in a more discreet way. You must see how it looks to people, that you just wanted to appear on the Dr Phil show
Melissa Is Here do you have a crush on Dr. Phil?
I'm also thinking its more of an obsession with Dr Phil than what she's describing. Especially since she wrote on the paper she would tell her mom what is it to Dr Phil. Its just weird.
It’s a very good thing she opened up. Hope she gets the help she needs🙏🏻
Kinda weird that she specifically brought up that her family might think she's making this up just to talk to Dr. Phil considering she wrote him hundreds of times.
And her demeanor is so attention seeking idk man
No matter how shocking melissa’s thoughts and fantasies seem , it must have taken a huge amount of courage for her to admit to these things! .. its not an easy thing to do asking for help, say what you want about dr phil but I think it is really important that melissa’s thoughts and feelings were validated. Thank goodness she has sought help rather than acting on those fantasies! I wish her all the best and well done for seeking help 😀
Melissa Is Here God bless you Huni ! , and congratulations on your upcoming baptism! ... thats huge , you should be so proud of yourself and all the hard work you’ve done 😀.. Take care not to let nasty comments online get to you .. Those don’t define who you are or what you are capable of achieving ! Be kind to yourself and remember other peoples opinions are just that .. opinion not fact ! 😊😊
Melissa Is Here how long since u were on the show??? Sooo glad u are doing better sweety 💞
Something is off about her, and it's not the fact that she wants to kill...
She's lying about them
So your telling me this isn’t the girl off of 90 day fiancé ?
If someone needs to be locked 🔒 up. This is it.
I felt this was when I was younger when I lived with my parents. She just needs to get away and grow up on her own for a little to realize how much she loves her family
I believe not many people realize it's not so much psychotic behavior as it is a symptom of depression and anxiety, which isn't frequently talked about enough. Anxiety includes intrusive thoughts (sometimes severe enough to be labeled OCD) which can be so paralyzing but the majority of sufferers never act on their urges because they know it's morally wrong and usually the 'victims' in their thoughts are their loved ones.
Pure-O; thousands of people have this disorder. It’s a type of OCD that manifests overtime, and it attacks the things you love most. CBT is a cure.
Cbt 🤨
She is 100% doing this for attention. She wants to get her ten minutes of fame on tv.
Exactly she’s bored and wants attention
this is so ignorant to say lmfao
I also have violent day dreams that I can’t control.. but I’ve always kept myself in check with physical violence
With the help of much meds and therapy. It wasn’t easy.
She wants help and she needs it asap
This is such a sad and scary case...
It's one thing to have a sick passing fantasy, but its another to keep entertaining them. Mood stabilizers/anti psychotics can stop these thoughts immediately and a variety of psychotherapies can help her express her anger in a healthy way - but now that that is out there, the family will most likely never truly know peace in their minds with their daughter. Most people do not act on these thoughts, regardless of their diagnosis. This is energy spewing out from the past when she didn't feel attended to/validated or was pushed around and bullied and looked to adults for help and got nothing; I experienced the same thing and it would result in these mood swings.
A good thing to learn agbout and understand is the Jungian Shadow -- teh concept is that human beings are neither good nor evil, they are both at the same time and must be capable of controlling both - we can all pick up a gun and pull the trigger at someone, the problem is not committing an evil act, the problem is that after you have you do not know how to deal with the fact that you saw your shadow self and it was evil when you thought you were good. Many soldiers with PTSD are helped through understanding this - it is not usually what tehy saw in war that makes them PTSD - it is what they did or had to do and how they justify that in their minds.
This woman is very not ok but putting it out there. I have a lot of respect for people that can own their truth. It's not easy.
I’m glad she is seeking help. If all murderers did this, the world would be a much safer place!
@Melissa Is Here as i said when replying to another post of yours, there are a lot of people who have the same feelings that you do, but nobody talks about it until its too late. You are going to be a voice for those who haven't yet done anything harmful. And that's huge! So good job and keep up the good work in fighting for your own mental health and safety, and your family's. Im proud of you!
"I just want a lovely family again"
Dr Phill always said that words mean a lot. Either she wants attention or not, she definitely needs help
I feel really sad for her
"I'm afraid of their judgement".. wtf? If somebody admits to wanting to kill you they are going to get judged for it.
She has a disorder, she’s not a bad person. She doesn’t want people to think she’s a bad person, and rightly so. She doesn’t want to hurt people, she loves her family and she doesn’t have to be talking about this. She can’t control her anger or the thoughts she’s having, it’s an emotional response in her brain that’s in overdrive. She needs help, like anybody else with a mental illness or disorder, she doesn’t need to be stigmatized.
@@emilyrainflower25 I would describe a wanna be murderer as a bad person. But hey I guess I'm old fashioned.
@shenanigan tracker I think a person can be fearful of someone's reaction and judgment amidst telling them some disturbing problems they're having. I think that is universal like no duh of course we are all going to be fearful of how others might judge us after learning about something about us that we know they would be sad or even angry to learn. I think she sounded childish and immature and you're probably right. Someone above- reply to someone's comment stating that if you watch this girls videos I guess here on UA-cam I don't know, she seems a bit_ slow_ . But what gets me is the look in this girl's face and eyes. It is kind of disturbing unless she's just acting I don't know but it gave me the heebie-jeebies!
I hope she likes all the attention and treatment she gets, that smile says it all.
GET A THERAPIST
Ikr
Umm Dr Phil is a qualified and licensed therapist? Who is going to use his network of other professionals to get her help...so she has got a therapist
It’s Stevie not licensed.
Jessica. S my mistake however he’s only not licensed because he allowed it to expire has enough licensed colleagues that she will get professional help.
She needs to forgive and seek deliverance.
This is scary
I actually feel really bad for her. It would be horrible and scary to have these thoughts all the time and really alienating to know you can't talk about it or tell anyone bcuz they're going to think you don't love them, you are scary, and fear you forever.
14 minutes I
O.o I am in some kinda time space wiggly worm to find a Pill episode this early!
I don’t feel bad for she is just whining for attention
The growl! 😂🤣😅😆😁
Take it the wrong way? Why would anybody ever take it the wrong way?
How awful. Hope she gets help
Most people don’t speak out, I’m glad she has enough strength despite what she battle to seek help. I hope and pray these evil thoughts leave her 🙏
U can see that she is in a lot of pain. It's her way of reaching out when otherwise she may not be able to. Too much pent up frustration over the years, I'm glad she is seeking help to be able to get this off her chest and hopefully in as painless way as possible.
Southpark should put this in a show
Everyone saw how that “cash me outside” chick got famous. Now they wanna be her😭
Awwwe🤷♀️
She needs to stay away from her family and be put into a hospital so she can’t hurt anyone!
Attention seeking at its deadliest!
1:57 holds down right stick
Some things are better left unsaid..
I would move far away from this person if I were her family. She needs to be locked away in the hospital for the greater good of humanity. There is no help for what she has. She’s a psychopath
He changed her Story real quick 😅! Tf
If you listen to her tone when she is talking, some of her answers to doctor Phil are said with a questioning ton.
Is she a natural opportunist. These ppl will see every opportunity straight away because they are very clever, this is so sad. I know a person like this, they also have violent episodes when their partners leave and want revenge on everyone in sight.
I have school tomorrow and can’t sleep 😭
If you like some warm tea or something maybe that could help?
Same here
Cool story
Timax herbal tea, not regular. Normal tea has caffeine which causes worse insomnia. Just saying
Idk what time it is where you live, but good luck anyway!
Hope you can still get some sleep
This Melissa from the show is everywhere in the comments... creepy asf
@Melissa Is Here 🤦♀️
💀
She couldn’t live in my house after finding this out
Her emotions are an act. She’s smart and she knows how she should act to be perceived as normal
What a monster...
She won’t inherit anything that’s for sure!!!! 😋
That’s just terrible for her to want to kill her mother she needs help fr fr
This is so wrong Dr. Phil. Emails from May, interviews in August stating that she has urges to even kill strangers and she's not on a 51/50 hold? Keeping her from professional help immediately is a violation of your professional oath. Showcasing a wannabe murderer on television for views makes you more sick than her clearly. Smh.
She is a sad, neglected and hurt teen. She is too aware... im disapointed in Dr. PHIL
Dr. Phil, is this Harm OCD? If so, please tell her. I’m irritated that nobody is mentioning this.
Nobody lies about their own mental illness that they are either afraid of, ashamed of or have experienced negative stigma from the public from. I believe her claims & her feelings & the fact that she’s on National tv talking about it shows that she’s mature enough to get help.
Girl: *has no anger*
Me: *angry becuse le ant took a tiny piece of my food*
you dont want the world to think that youre a monster but u go on dr phil?
One thing that Dr. Phill should know is to never remind people what they done, unless if they're fully better.
Why does she smile as if she is enjoying this
I had nightmares of killing my mother for many years, but in them I could never wipe off her smile. I would wake up horrified and terribly guilty. The fact Melissa is aware of the violent thoughts is a good thing. Now she needs to learn how not to be so hard on herself, and learn that the frustration she endured was not her fault
This could be a million things. Maybe ocd intrusive thoughts
She need's more than help
No stop it 😐🤨
God bless the girl!!! I believe she will turn out ok. Glad she reached out to dr phil!
@Melissa Is Here Stop
If i was her mom shed be moving out of my house
This is very serious
You can help yourself..you can control your mind,you have a consience to differentiate between the right and wrong,no one can control your mind but you can..no one can take away the negative thoughts that came in your mind,,but you can..Because you knew what your problem is..and you clearly know that your negativity thougt that come's in your mind is absolutely WRONG...You can solve it by controlling your mind,close your heart for negativity and try to be positive..dont give a chance to that evil thoughts,dont let the evil steps in your mind..do what that makes you happy,,dont give yourself a leisure time to think about that evil thoughts..and seek God to help,God help those who helps themselves..Be who you are..You are the captain of your life..
The soulution for her is to be engeged with effective job or hoppy to help her be good and productive person who has valuable in the society. Dear if you read my comment just go walk and breathe well in early morning and engege your self in a job you really would like to do.
Sounds like Bipolar/Borderline personality. Maybe EAD as well. She probably has a lot of things going on in her head.
Some people are wild
But why does she want to? What happened? Maybe it was so bad that she has buried the memories but remembers the feelings?
I saw another person suffering from this on A&E
She has harm OCD.
She needs big help omg
It's good she is reaching out , good she wants it to change . Hoping for healing .
Sounds like she's been pushed around alot (whether by people or by the world in general in various, specific situations) and, without a suitable strategy to manage those experiences (which can render anyone hopelessly depressed, anxious and nihilistic), her shadow is coming out for revenge. It's good that she's self-aware enough to capture these fantasies because unfortunately some don't and go right ahead to act out such fantasies. Now it's about needing to integrate that shadow, probably through behavioural assertiveness training so she can begin to justify how powerful she can be, and to utilise that power for good. We're all very dangerous creatures to some level or another, and we have demons - so it's no wonder that most people try to avoid it by either attacking it or denying it via excuses such as "seeking attention", etc. but it doesn't solve those problems, just delays them and it'll only accumulate and get worse like an ongoingly full and rotting trashcan that's not been taken out for a long, long time. It's not something you can ignore and tuck under a carpet. We're less in control of our lives than we think, so we must acknowledge that and figure out how to solve these existential issues... or we pay a deadly price that, unless you're intentionally psychopathic, we'll all regret.
only thing she hurtin is the scale
Why is she not in a treatment facility
I feel like it's not likely she will actually hurt them, she's aware of the issue, wants help and seems pretty intelligent and rational. I'm not saying it's impossible for her to just snap one day (anyone could) but at least she is alnowledging her thoughts and urges and shows willingness to get help. Just because a thought arrives inside your head doesn't make it true or force you to act on those thoughts.
As a person who has wanted to kill their abusive parents and exited the situation, I'm not really sure what she's trying to do here. I knew then if I told anybody about my feelings I was going to be locked away. I still fantasize about their deaths, but you couldn't pay me to have any kind of interaction with them. I hate to say this, but I think she's just looking for attention. She definitely needs help, and she's in the right place, but I think she's going to end up realizing that this is a weird, internal narrative or mental fracture that she's using to cope.
i have a problem with temptations i hate swimming i get the thought of breath under water breeath under water luckly im not a siko
She's not a bad person, she's trying to change.
She’s intensely unlikable
Stop eating!
Of course your family will be afraid..sorry girl but you need removing from their home, get help then maybe one day you can return..
She clearly needs help and Dr Phil shouldn’t be using her on his show
Ppl would say to me when I watched this show and praised it. But I think it's better that he helps ppl and put it on tv so we are talking about these topics instead of not helping anyone and none of us discuss these things. There is no mental health awareness show other than this one.
I wonder what will take over after dr phil retired. He has a contract tol 2023 but that will prob be it.
She seems she could be on the spectrum..
I wonder a lot of the time whether or not these people actually get the psychiatric help they need after the show. Intrusive thoughts of hurting others or yourself is enough for a mandated reporter to literally MAKE you seek mental help. Like maybe this poor girl should spend some time inpatient away from her family or in an intensive outpatient program. Not put on the internet as entertainment.... idk please dont come at me and if anyone can explain how this show helps I genuinely wanna know.
Like wtf