“Threatened By My Second Grader”
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- Опубліковано 25 сер 2024
- Faren says her 7-year-old son, Michael’s, all-day tantrums have become the main event in her home. She says Michael is aggressive, violent, and loud, and she can’t take it anymore. She says he screams, kicks, and punches people, pets, and even himself. Faren and her boyfriend, Ricky, say they spend all day trying to control Michael, and nothing calms the boy down. Michael’s father, Steven, says his son is well-behaved at his home, and it’s Faren that antagonizes their child. Faren’s stepmom, Valinda, says her grandson needs attention from his mom, and since Ricky and a new child have moved into Faren’s house, Michael is having a challenging time getting enough attention. Is there hope for Michael? 19106
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Sadly, I don't see the boyfriend moving out. That chick is one of those "I need a man in my life" persons who will always put the man before the children.
Bingo!! She's despicable and her son is paying the price.
I hope CPS comes knocking on their door pronto!
I will never understand a single parent moving a boy/girlfriend into the home with their child within months of starting a relationship. It's just not a wise choice.
pathetic huh I agree with ya on this one.
Fr. Ugh, it's so disgusting and just utterly selfish. They really thought that letting practically a *stranger,* this unknown *big man* come in as a authoritarian "parent" would be ok??? Letting him move in at all!? They're literally *bullies.* Both verbally and physically abusive. They demand all too much from him. This little boy is rightfully scared af. Who wouldn't be? They also don't allow him to express himself. He have no safety. He's losing more and more love and affection, (emotional) space, his place in the home, he's losing everything while getting abused because he's scared. HOW can anyone be this selfish. What a terrible mother and arrogant "step-father". They're all letting him down. They don't care about him. He's become a burden to them, and he feels the same. He's internalizing the abuse, leaving him feeling like nothing. No self esteem, just self hatred.
There's no wonder why he acts like he does. I mean, who wouldn't?
Yep. I just walk away from people like this. If you try to help they turn on you and drag you down. And you can’t warn them of the train you see headed for them because they know it all. All you can do is call someone to help the kids and let these people burn themselves up.
My jaw dropped when she called him r****ded and smacked him while he was in a full blown meltdown. Get that poor guy out of their custody ASAP
Get HER under arrest.
Hello 👋👍
what part was that??
literally.
That didn't happen
When he said that he "hated himself", my heart just broke. He doesn't know how to make his world better, but he wants to.
bruh u dont know the real story
@@gavenmcdougall881 and what, U do?
Boy when he is an adult: "I don't want anything to do with you!"
Mother: 👁️👄👁️
“She saw a child acting out, but I saw a child backing into the corner” THANK YOU
Hi Ariana
Your welcome
@@kendrickviera-ramos6077 L
Parents bullying him.
And this is was they send in, i hope its not much worse behind close doors
I’m so so triggered by this parenting. My heart is broken for this child.
That mother honestly seems sadistic like she gets a kick out of antagonizing him and then when he acts out bullies him
D O V E. and the boyfriend. It’s horrible. I can’t believe she’s hitting him like that. This child is in agony and she’s tormenting him 😥
I felt sorry for him up until I heard he hits and abuses animals. Then I didn’t like him
Mine too. Absolutely heartbreaking! Their "parenting" is taunting and bullying and mocking. They disgust me.
She doesn't want him. She's talked about giving him up for adoption twice FFS. I'll take him.
My own son is very defiant. He reacts this exact way when my demeanor changes and my voice gets "hot". Patience and remaining calm are KEY.
10:19 “I want to go to my Dad’s”
Such an obvious indicator who’s the better parent here.
not really lol
He maybe the one to indulge him that’s why he wants to go
Not necessarily. My daughter wanted to go to her dad's because he never made her do anything. He didn't make her go to school, do chores, clean up her mess, nothing. At my house, you must go to school, at the VERY least. Period.
You can see how he’s emotionally struggling especially with him hurting him self and saying he hates himself🥺 all he wants is a little reassurance
No kid should ever say “I hate myself” I’m in tears.
Me too 😢
Fr😭
My sister says that all the time lmao
I would if I treated my family and my own mother like that 🤷🏻♀️ He needs help. What a spoiled brat.
@@trczxwtf_.416 That's... not a good thing, y'know?
She threatens to give him up for adoption!? Woman, this child is 7. You’re the one who brought him into this? He ain’t ask to be your child.
But maybe she should 🤷🏽♀️. If she can’t handle this which isn’t an easy thing and are likely to drive abuse then let him be with someone who is equipped
@@allthatsheiz if she gives him up & he doesn’t get to live with his grandmother, then he will likely be abused by the system on top of what he is already enduring. My mother is a high up supervisor for CPS in my city. She and I constantly have talks about how flawed the system is (CPS, parent services, foster care, group homes, etc.).
I mean…if a lovely family could adopt him, it might be for the best.
Th mother needs to put her son up for adoption for good
@@amelialaw8758 Adoption is “for good”. There are no take backs. I’m not trying to come off as rude (sorry if it sounds that way), but I have seen firsthand being in a group home myself for half of my teenage years- the abuse. Also, my twin sister went to foster care, we were getting in trouble prior to this (smoking pot, cutting class) and my parents gave us up. That is something we are working on now (building back trust, and relationships)... or should I say I? My sister my twin sister is now dead (March 3rd), and she endured nothing but heartbreak as a child, and as a teenager, an adult- no support, no help. No preparedness for the harsh world she re-entered with nothing. The statistics are jarring, and the sad part is the statistics aren’t even correct, because there are so many that are not reported. 😓
Michael has to be permanently removed from her care for the sake of his all life.
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“I’ve dealt with his tantrums”
those are not tantrums - it’s a cry for help! My gosh Dr Phil help this precious boy. This mom is NOT the victim.
Personally, I think they are meltdowns. I have autism and he is very similar to how I was as a kid. How they treated him was literally the complete opposite of what a parent is supposed to do when their child has a meltdown.
@@Allyfyn exactly also I'm the older brother
@@Allyfyn it was just him being bad and hurt me he never listened but hes in line now
“Precious boy”?! Hahahaa
The father needs to get full custody of this child immediately.
He’s just as much of a douche. Kid should be with grandma. She’s a calming influence.
@@hayesydays6333 I agree
@@hayesydays6333 i thought that was the boyfriend not the husband/father. he said he's never had children of his own in the video so yes he should probably go to his father
"Who's the adult?"
Not you.
His father isn’t parenting at all, he said so himself, he lets his son play video games for the entire time he is visiting.
Please send cps over there, Phil. Nothing is going to change. This child has no advocate.
They want that miss... they came in to get the justification to “take out their trash”
@Imari Brown I agree. But that's not what's happening here. She's immature, lazy and vindictive, the boyfriend is a moronic neanderthal. The father is also immature and lazy, but at least he shows genuine compassion for the child. Most people love the idea of being a parent, but a large percentage don't understand how much work it takes to raise healthy adults. They don't understand the vast amount of emotional labor that raising children requires. And because the cycle is so easily repeated, you have generational dysfunction that can result in a near continuous loop. As a society we need to educate people to these realities. We also need to normalize being childfree. Not everyone is equipped to raise children.
@@braydenjensen6059 I think she was hoping to send him to some ranch to be "fixed". She didn't expect to get homework. I don't think she'll do it.
Cps won’t and can’t do anything.
Cps is extremely flawed
As someone who went trough this type of emotional abuse, the parents are making it worse.
My stepdad was both of these people my mom ignored. Them restraining him, them hitting is hands, threatening to hit him etc.
The more I watch this mother's behavior the more upset I get! He is being punished, you don't add more punishment.
u dont know the real thing happenef
I hate this mother! 😡
"Stop hitting yourself!!"... Proceeds to hit kid two seconds later. These parents are so vile, this poor child.
I just can't:(
I stg I don’t remember the last video/movie/book/etc that’s made me cry and I’m bawling! This poor boy deserves patience, positive reinforcement and unconditional love… I just can’t understand these “parents”
She literally gave the kid a tap on the wrist OMG She is the Vilest Parent ever I'm not saying she is the Best Parent but you are all 100% overdoing it on Vilifying this mother
@@chrismiksworld exactly! They’re acting like these are parents not feeding their child and hurting them to the point they have injuries ☠️☠️☠️☠️ it’s so dramatic if people are actually crying over this
@@josannasantiago3979 you act like physical abuse is the only valid form.
“I hate myself”
No, baby boy. You don’t hate yourself, the people around you are convincing you that you do.
Someone get him outta his “mothers” care.
My heart broke when he said that 😭
@@tiffanyozturk3498 seriously. I remember being a kid, thinking that bc my mother resented me for being born with a heart defect that requires multiple surgeries.
THAT made me hate myself. I didn’t really hate myself, my mother resented me so much, I thought if she hated me, then I don’t like myself either.
@@texrose7068 I’m sorry u had to grow up like that no kid should experience that !
That made me so sad
I totally agree Her son knows he doesn’t like how his mom is trying to discipline him and wants to please his parents and “be better.” A child shouldn’t have to endure sorting all of his emotions out while getting absolutely shamed for it and directed with yelling.
That poor child! I hope his parents (and mom’s boyfriend) get the parenting help that they need because what they are doing now is abusive. I have a 7 year old boy with Autism and I understand how difficult it is to deal with a child’s meltdown. Yelling, hitting or screaming adds more fuel to the fire, making a meltdown more intense. I calm my son by sitting on the floor with him, I wrap my arms around him and we rock together. I’ve done this with him since he was a toddler and it works amazingly. I can’t even imagine if I stood over him, bullied and yelled insults at him. Parenting with love is so important for a child’s emotional well being.
The mother and boyfriend make the child's life miserable. They're bullying him.
Who talks to their child this way? She sounds like she hates him. The boyfriend is immature and defensive.
I can’t stand the boyfriend. He is definitely making things worse.
I think he’s creepy.
His pompous know-it-all attitude!! Get OUT jerk! But I doubt Mom will follow theu wirh Doc's recommendations. Either...
@@abird1539 I was thinking that too...she really needs to have him leave until she can work with her son and get him to where he needs to be...He should be her #1 priority...Not a guy...
He a moronic bully. She's a useless fool.
I think the boyfriend is in way over his head here.
Those videos of them “disciplining” him look more like they’re trying to break that boy’s spirit. That was stressful to watch.
Yup. And then I can’t help but to feel if that’s what she felt comfortable to film and share with Dr.Phil and millions of people, what on earth are those two monsters really capable of doing when not taping. 🤔
Agreed! It was as if they teamed up to bully him! I really hope he can grow passed this and have a wonderful life without those terrible adults in it.
@@MarieAgawa You are on the kid's side?!
@@kzagame Absolutely! How can’t you be?
bullys
The father need custody asap.
Why, so he can put him on video games all day to keep him out of his hair? The father spanks him too. His father isn't much better than mom and Ricky.
"Who's the adult? Who's the parent?" Uh, nobody in that room that's for sure.
“Who is the adult? Who is the adult huh? Who is the parent??”
Good question, lady
Right I was asking myself the same thing.
It'll end up being one of her kids. That's who the parent is or will be. Cause it's sure not any or the adults.
No. Neither. Dr. Phil is right... authoritarian parenting is wrong. Authoritative is the way to go. JUST like the grown-ups on Full House.
That 24-year old dude boyfriend is a joke, and the mother is even more pathetic to move him in.
They are bullying a special needs child. Where are they finding ppl this stupid to show the world what horrible parenting looks like
Absolutely ! Not to mention the statistics of live in boyfriends & abuse. He has no business parenting or disciplining those kids. He probably wont even be around in a few years
I wonder if HE had some issues
@@korensylvester1324 he's not a special needs ...he's just a brat...and needs to be disciplined, what is her boyfriend's age got to do anything
You mean the 24 year old child??
“I wanna go to my Dad’s!” That made me tear up.
how?
Poor child? Poor dog and baby. Getting hit because that kid is having a tantrum. Yeah don’t have pets there that’s disgustingly sad
hearing that child say he hates himself... it’s heart breaking.
Yeah that one got me. 😭💔
My heart hurts from hearing him say that. A 7 year old shouldn't hate themselves or know what that feels like 💔
He's harming himself. That is what he feels.
Omgosh I know right! That was so sad 😔
How precious. He's lived with those kids for eight months and now he has a "parenting instinct". I've been a parent for 13+ years and sometimes I literally have no idea what to do still 😂
he didnt even pronounce "parental" right. Amazing how they have no idea how ignorant and awful some people are
right and for him to have such a mean hard approach with the parenting is disgusting.
Whoa is me….ehh
Parent Log: Year 4: I fear they are driving me insane...but I dont mind
Joke from a mother of 3 girls under 5 years old XD
Lololol.... my kids did not come with instructions. I never hit or spanked my son's. I took the time to talk to them. Conversation goes a long way parents!
I wish I could just hug that poor child! He is in need of help and support.
19:08 is very dangerous behaviour on the mother's behalf. She is essentially saying that you can't disagree with an adult. Which is wrong, this is how dangerous situations happen where the child feels like they can't say no.
Also, yelling "who's the adult" feels like the mother is on a weird power trip. That poor boy, I hope his father gets full custody and the mother learns to be a better parent.
She should have just walked away instead of bullying him. She totally escalated the situation. It's okay to take away video games. But to sit there and make that child feel powerless is wrong. Acknowledge that you can see he is upset, and that you will give him time and space to calm down, then walk away.
Hey little guy, if you see this online when you get older plz know that there are people world wide sending you love and respect. We are rooting for YOU! You deserve love and respect and nobody should ever put their hands on you!
Wonderful🥺
That's exactly what all children need to hear 💯💯💯💯
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@@easymoneyrad what does that mean.
@@trentjohnson6333 means 2 things, how do we know what he’ll turn out like, prolly the same prolly not, 2nd are we saying it’s fully the parents fault or both ways
Hearing a 7 year old little boy cry saying he hates himself breaks my dang heart so bad. It reminds me of my youth and growing up.
That part brought me to tears. Poor little soul, no child deserves to feel that way.
It's a huge difference between crying and screaming his lungs out in a crise of anger. It's seem that you aren't capable is hearing the difference.
I do that once a month
I'm sorry you went through that. I feel like I can also empathize with this poor kid. I had ADHD as a kid I recall feeling like a monster. I still have a hard time forgiving myself for who I am.
Same
so we have a " bully " parent and an "enabler " .. This child needs some parents ! SMH
Reminds me of my parents. Emotionally immature bullies. Ugh
If that’s what she feels comfortable to film and give to Dr. Phil to view and share with millions of people, I truly fear the monsters they are when there’s no recording in process. Poor little man, I just want to hug him.
THIS!!
Don’t hug him! He’ll scratch you across the back!
he probably really needs it 🥺
Me too
Lol goodluck hugging him🤣
I have an autistic 6-year-old boy with some similar behavior, and I'm hugging him while watching this..this is so heartbreaking.. 😢😢😢😢
@@GuilhermeSilva-lt6rw yes, autistic kids need early intervention. I hope this boy gets the helps he needs 😔
Yes.. i have 2 autism brother beside me right now.. and i feel so sad 😥 they bite me and scratch me alot.. and hugging them usually makes it alot better.. being angry just make things worst
Autism spectrum disorder or something else that can be diagnosed and treated.
I hope you and your son are doing well Hidayah. I have a daughter with autism as well. Bless you ❣️
I’m autistic myself.
Animal abuse is unacceptable .. PERIOD! 😢
Agreed wholeheartedly.
I taught my children that the only touch an animal should feel is a loving touch.
@@beaglemama7928 💞
@@LindaCasey love you too, my sister ❤️
7 year olds should not be playing violent video games. Come on parents, PARENT.
Is this satire, like, actually?
She’s a Momzilla. This is difficult to watch. She’s an abusive parent and she doesn’t know it. That’s the scary part.
Oh, she knows.
It's amazing that she filmed herself acting like this and can't see her faults
Lol u said momzilla
And this was FOR THE CAMERAS!! Imagine what happens behind closed doors 😲
*"DON'T SCRATCH MY COUCH!"* was unreal to me as a mother. The poor kid is being tormented not parented!! I have a 5 year old son on the spectrum who has behavior problems. *NEVER* would I hit him or belittle him! These ppl are a disgrace!
,n be gf
CT
and the fact that they care about their freaking couch more than their, clearly depressed, child.
And I didn't hear them being reprimanded for each and every infraction against the child. They are tormenting him and I know if their this open about abusing this Child, it's been so much worse for him when the cameras weren't around. She better get the ultimatum boyfriend or Children, because together the2 are a disaster waiting to happen. Prevention is key.
@@juliannestanciu2390 and the dog..
@@juliannestanciu2390 and the dog..
They’re provoking and taunting him the whole time and almost borderline making fun of him… her and the genius boyfriend are ruining that kid, great parenting lady. You shouldn’t be having children.
They are abusing him and should be reported to CPS for this.
The mom should be more concerned over the fact her own child is hurting themselves over the fact her sofa is being damaged smh
When he said he hated himself was such a clear indicator of the emotional abuse he is dealing with from his parents. That's 100% a learned thought process bc his family probably doesnt show him how to love himself because they cant even show him love and compassion. Poor kid
He hates himself because he feels like his parents hate him, and that it must have been something he did to *make* them hate him, like he's done it to himself, and now he blames himself for the way his parents are 🥺😭 some people should not be allowed to have children 😭
Four words: DEMONIC POSESSION!!!111
I don’t think his parents are all bad he’s obviously doing some HORRIBLE things too especially towards his brother. Sometimes it’s both of them this kid has issues like he hasn’t been disciplined till this age. I had HORRIBLE parents but I wasn’t a huge annoying brat like this kid.
People always make up nonsense. If it was the parents well how comes the other children are fine. Goes to show how little people understand things an are quick to point the finger.
@@omega.7534 exactly 💯b
He’s only 7 he might not even know why he’s so angry. That’s why tantrums happen. When you can’t express feelings they come out physically in the form of crying, screaming, hitting. He’s just trying to let his emotions out. My heart is crying for this child.
Same here. They don't give him a chance to voice what he's feeling. Shoot, the mother is awful and I'll bet she never taught him how to express himself. My babies know how to voice their feelings....and if they don't know how they feel at that moment, we work it out together to find out what's bothering them. Sad to see this stone age parenting 😔
Exactly! That and possible underlying trauma
Hay jessica im her other son the one if the scratched back and i agree
@@tesstickle6462 i aggre
@texasj123 no, he's traumatized
mom: mad that he is hurting himself
mom: proceeds to hit, and smack him
Mom and her boyfriend are just plain nasty to that little boy. Tell me they don’t like the child without telling me they don’t like the child.
First of all...NO MAN WILL EVER LAY A HAND ON MY CHILD NOR THREATEN THEM, LIKE THIS MAN DID
Hello 👋👍
This post deserves more likes
Agreed! If I had a child, i wouldnt care if it was the father of my child, no one will ever hurt my child.
Absolutely!
This!!
The comments restore my faith in humanity. I am so glad awful parents like this are not the norm and the majority of people out here have empathy for this helpless poor child. My heart breaks for him. May God help him.
Agreed! Her abu*e and neglect has made him who he is. His actions are an action of her parenting 100%. Now that she's created this situation she's trying to just demand a change from everyone but herself. Like lady, get real. You are the problem!
I hope she gets help. Heck, both parents couuld use some! That poor little boy needs out of that situation 🙏😢
As a Mom myself I can't even imagine talking to my child like that. These people are horrible.
@@yerfeelings6667 I AGREE TOTALLY!!
People tend to lack empathy and compassion for children.
thank my fellow black brother
Every child deserves a parent, not every parent deserves a child.
The boyfriend is so far past inappropriate with his behavior of those children. I have been a stepparent for over 5 years and I never touched my stepdaughter. They are a complete disaster.
The more I watched, the more angry I got. WTF.
I love how they keep bringing up that he has medical and mental health issues yet they aren't being sensitive to those issues AT ALL! They just like poor us he has all these issues that make OUR lives so hard
Lol his disorder makes it worse and im telling u that cause i live if him im his brother
@@gavenmcdougall8871 somebody's disorder isn't their fault
@@pratkier i have disorders i dont act lukr that its ny momd fault i kne
@@gavenmcdougall8871 every disorder isn't the same and yelling in a kid's face and bullying him when you know that didn't work isn't helpful
@@pratkier ik
I am literally in tears. This poor baby. This mother is a BULLY. A BULLY.
She’s using language she shouldn’t use around someone that age.
She called him a retard. On camera. Imagine what she says off camera?!!!
Not just a bully, an abuser.
I can not believe if Dr Phil do not contact children services.
@@sashaburton9042 Exactky
She doesnt need to have children..
I agree!! The mother needs to be banned from having any more children for life!!!
As someone who was the family scapegoat my heart goes out to him, poor little boy, all he wants is hugs and stability.
I'm a foster parent...I've seen and heard it all....and this, this is just heartbreaking. This boy's inner child and self-worth is undoubtedly so low.
and the mass murder video games arent helping! hey i have an idea play a board game with your child do some craft projects go for a bike ride or a walk anything loving to show him you do actually care about him. they are literally treating him like they hate him. i thought those mass murder video games are for adults only, 7 year old children should not be allowed use of those vile games. i played pong and packman. these parents worried about their own selfish desires!
@@raedonn Exactly, the boy probably has autism, and keeping them in front of the screen playing violent video games and not paying attention to him is heartbreaking. The father seems to do a better job with him, you can't ask much from autistic children they develop at a different pace and you need a lot of patience with them, the mom makes things worse she doesn't understand anything about Autism and doesn't bother to do her research. The mother seems aweful.
I think the parents need parenting classes because whatever their doing clearly isn’t working. The poor child could be autistic and not able to express his feeling.
@@aliciat2216 Not everyone meant to be a parent, not everyone is naturally equipped with the level of empathy and intelligence to raise a child due to their own mental issues.
I’m scared for the kid. He most likely feels like he can’t do anything right.
With personal experience feeling like that-
Just.. so many things could develop in the child mentally
I hate myself! How can a mother listen to that and not realise she is doing something wrong.
Exactly Sally Miller...
I heard that 😢 how can a mother hear that and not immediately stop what she's doing and show compassion?
@@katehack1677 why doesn't she give the father custody?
@@mydogsioux I'd beat the b.f. for even thinking it's ok to touch my boy. I'd be getting that son out of the hands of two undeserving of any child home asap if I were his father. I'm not but wish I was for a bit just so I could get this boy far away from the sickos..
If one of our kids said that I’d want to kill myself.
My heart breaks for the poor kid...I’m literally crying. He needs someone to pattens him with love, affection, understanding, and a little bit of firmness. And NO physical abuse or threats of physical abuse or emotional/mental abuse or any abuse at all.
Screaming like that I would imagine doesn’t help his cystic fibrosis
The audacity the mom and boyfriend had sending in those videos thinking everyone would side with them...
Unfortunately this is the abusers mind. They live in their sick reality and hurt their children.
Talk about stupid.
RIGHT? LIKE THEY SEE NOTHING WRONG? This poor kid…
“Kids deserve parents parents don’t deserve kids”
All they have to do is leave him alone… he’s definitely not the problem!!
waiting for doctor phil to yell at these parents and tell them their abusive.
I’m a nanny and one of the kids I watch is a boy about his age that gets himself worked up easily over minor things. Instead of yelling at him to stop, I just sit down next to him and rub his back. I calmly and WARMLY instruct him to breathe. I reinforce that everything will be okay. I help regulate his emotions when he isn’t able to do it himself. Once he calms down, I give him a hug and he gets up and plays.
*THAT’S* how you handle an emotional child! You don’t antagonize or insult them! You don’t intimidate them!
I’m not saying don’t punish him if he does something wrong; just make sure he knows that you’re on his side and that you want the best for him. I’m just so upset watching this!
*Edit* Okay, please stop “diagnosing” the boy I watch. I have my degree in psychology and see absolutely nothing warranting professional help. He is a happy, healthy little boy who occasionally overreacts to things that upset him. Not every crying spell in a CHILD means that there is something more insidious lying in wait!
As someone who’s watched others kids for 15 years I 100% agree with you. The only other solution is to ignore till they calm down you don’t antagonize them.
tried doing that for a kid at the preschool and he turned around and bit us 🤣
@@pinkpugginz Yeah, that technique is not going to work on a toddler having a meltdown. Lol.
Absolutely!!
THANK YOU!! I have horrible anxiety and PTSD and my parents are horrible at deescalating. I remember being backed into the corner more than a few times growing up. As a nanny I always tried to be sensitive to the needs of each child. I watched autistic children, children with anxiety, and children dealing with trans issues and each required their own level of delicacy and finesse. Ultimately it’s about understanding the unique needs of each child and responding to them in kind. It also takes a lot of empathy, and if you don’t have that you have nothing.
"stop scratching my couch"*hits kid* YOU DON'T WANT HIM TO HURT YOUR PRECIOUS SOFA BUT YOU HIT YOUR CHILD....
That's one of those couches that when you move your hand over them it changes to a darker color or something
@@sudq69 lol it's a unique and valuable part of her family
Microfiber imported from rooms 2 go
Bingo
It’s just called respect and clearly her son doesn’t have any she’s being a mom trying to show her kid how to be good and he’s not listening like you guys are so soft it’s sad
when that little boy said he hated himself, i felt so sick. that poor child.
Spanking a child in public is unacceptable. The boyfriend also is not a parent, and he has no right to spank for any reason.
I agree. The "mother" is enabling her boyfriend to discipline her child. Technically, the boyfriend is a *stranger* and he doesn't have any rights to discipline the child because he is not the child's biological father.
As someone with autism, the moment I heard that they use prone restraint on the child I knew they were the problem.
I think the kid has it
@@hiddenanddeletedvideos6971 i definitely agree with that.
The fact that the mom so casually said that “that looks r******* when you do that” made me want to jump into the screen and slap her.
Yes my immediate thought when I first saw his behaviour. I spent two years working in the autism field, including drafting legislation, and through that experience learnt so much from parents and those with condition. Autism is a spectrum and this child seems to have many of the indicative traits. The parents are awful, no love or empathy, just ignorant bullying!
i dont have autism, but i know that restraint doesnt help at all. also i feel like he might be autistic but i really dont know. what a sad situation
i htink they need to get him a therapist, he needs someone he can talk to and trust besides his parents, to vent, and to relieve stress.
I didn’t expect to write that much but I’m avoiding hw and they just made me so mad lol
Tl;dr: I don’t like them 😂
But the thing is he can’t, he’s incapable of telling
From the start, i knew from the get-go when she said that they're not accountable as to why THEIR child is acting like this, that there's major problems within the household. I can't fathom how disgusted and furious i feel about the parents, and sad for the child to have experienced all this. Hope he gets the help he very much deserves, and especially find someone that can SHOW him the very much deserved love and affection that failed to give.
child is let to do whatever it wants, it needs corrective action not alone time, he needs to understand that what hes doing is not good.
I hate to call a parent literally terrible, but the maturity of this mother is on the level of the kid. And they boyfriend shouldn’t even be parenting. He’s been there 8 whole months. She’s a flake and honestly, he would be better off with another family.
Sadly the mom should have set limits on how the boyfriend could interact with her kiddos.
@@themeg5199 Another mother choosing a man over her child.
The mom and her boyfriend are disgusting. She bullies her son, and then she let's her younger boyfriend spank him?? That's just unacceptable
I can’t believe it.
@@corvettedm1 literally she should check if he has any type of disorder like my little brother is autistic and has his breakdowns a lot but we have never spanked him. The child seems like he might have bipolar disorder they should really get him checked he seems like he wants attention. Spanking doesn’t help and I know because I went through it , parents think spank your child it helps with discipline but doesn’t it actually gave me the idea to become more rebellious and show them I was just as powerful.
And the mom also seriously called the child “ retarded “ like how could she do that? Also cussing the child out. The mom and her boyfriend are bullies thats just it.
@@hiemily7603 I agree completely. Spanking only teaches children to hit people. My son is autistic but his behavior was perfect. The younger one OMG!
@@hiemily7603 I agree. This little boy doesn’t look like he’s misbehaving because he’s a bad kid. He’s crying out and needs a doctor, a neurologist , not a spanking 😢 I can’t believe they think spankings will help the situation.
Omg they just said he has cystic fibrosis. Children with chronic illness need special parents. I hope these two are willing to learn how to be what he needs instead of trying to punish a kid into being what they think is ideal.
Poor kid. I’d be crying to too if I was being yelled at by someone who looked as strange as that guy does
they literally sit over that kid when he’s upset and terrorize him. that isn’t okay….
This boyfriend thinks he knows everything🥴
He does, it’s sickening. He was 12 years old when she started having kids, he knows nothing.
Nothing is easier than parenting a child you can take back to the "owner".
Came here to say that
The more I watch this video the more this comment makes sense
@@melanatedqueen I’m sorry if you’re familiar with this feeling... 😔
they holding each other hands but they can't hold 7 years old child hand ,so sad 😞
So TRUE. I saw NO kindness offered to the boy!
@@jeanieherron7706 stop thats my brother he actes like that cause he has multi disorders
Im so glad Dr. Phil said RIGHT AWAY that the pets have to rehomed because he is abusing them. Most of the time this is something what gets ignored. Thanks so much
I raised three kid's and never had them act that way..
This makes me so angry. No wonder the child has so many issues if he's being called r*****ed and taunted. This just makes me so mad. Asking "who's the adult" and bullying her own child!
@Owen Edwards I'm sorry you've had to deal with that. Being autistic is nothing to be ashamed of and people who treat it as otherwise are just ignorant
@Owen Edwards I'm so sorry Owen, I have a brother with down syndrome & I hate that word too 💝
@Owen Edwards dam bro it'll be ok
Oh man I heard the r name too and it made me sick!
@Owen Edwards me to
The boyfriend has the “about to sneeze” look ALWAYS.
LOL I was thinking that same thing 😆 what a goober!
HAHAHAHA!!! That is hilarious!!
Hello 👋👍
Where are you from?
Mouth Breather D:
What a horrible mother! She ruined him and now she wants to give him away! 🤬 God help!
One thing I'm glad of is they stopped him hurting the dog.
They need to speak loving to the child too.
I just want to hug that little boy, he seems like he is in a lot of pain.
I hope he’s OK. When I was his age I was going through the same kind of thing and had meltdowns every day and my mother dealt with it by making fun of me and making things worse. It has really affected my life but I did get past it and I did move on.
He really IS in a lot of pain, I felt absolutely horrible for him the entire episode, I pray he gets the help he needs 😓🙏
Yep. And the mom needs to be put on a diet so she can lose some of that lard she still has! Maybe she’ll be a better mother once she loses some lard
He literally threw a fit cause he couldn't play video games they are not treating him bad he is a brat
I bet he’s a sweetheart at school too
Mom with 2 kids by 3 dads. I'm so shocked the kid is having issues. 🙄 They hit the child, then tell him not to hit. The kid is just reflecting the crappy "parenting" that he has received.
The BOBO doll experiment in full effect.
Girl I completely agree but check your math
@@beholdthegriffin5488 😂
2 kids by 3 dads? Ok
@@duplicarus Refer back to above comment. 🙄
If parents can't control their emotions, how do they expect a child to?
As far as the boyfriend goes, he needs to be charged!
This poor baby, my heart is breaking watching this, my 4 year old is autistic and the thought of ANYONE treating him that way boils my blood. Vile people, they are not parents.
just dont be talking if u dont know the full story
Yah, poor kid with special needs!
@@gavenmcdougall881yes exactly
“I give the kid my phone just to keep him quiet”
“He has a meltdown when I take away the phone and throws things.”
I wonder what happened here. 🙄
Yeah me too🙄
He spoiled point blank period if he can’t have what he wants typical 7 year old but they don’t act like that not nearly none of the kids I know act like that everyday
Don't do that. That's being a friend to your child. You can't be a friend to your child because they will do things that are considered criminal activity.
Wow you must be a doctor or CIA to crack that case 😒😂 how dumb (or maybe just straight evil ) are these parents ??
@@curtisallred7250 it's a 7 year old child bro. You should definitely teach your kids that they can't just have whatever they want because they want it, but at the same time you shouldn't scream at your child and threaten them with violence when they're having a breakdown.
I HATE THEM. Cystic Fibrosis is torture anyway. To have a mother and a rando beat you on top of that????? Dr Phil always threatens to call CPS but never actually does it. This poor baby's whole life is pain.
U think thats bad im the middle child the one that got scratched and i aggre they need to put her in jail
@@gavenmcdougall8871 I hope you and your brother are safe. I'm sorry he hurt you, I hope you understand he does love you and he's just struggling. Keep your head up and remember success is the best revenge.
Parents need a huge look at themselves. Damn they need classes or something. And the kid just needs constructive discipline with time outs and consistency. Poor kid.
This brought back memories of my childhood that I must’ve repressed and I’m just now realizing how similar my upbringing actually was.
My parents used to treat me like this, I have autism and trust me disciplining like this only makes it worse. It wasn't until my mom learned to be calm and leave me alone when I started to melt down that I learned on my own to calm myself down.
So true! That’s what I learned to do with my daughter. Now when she’s upset I walk her to her room and tell her to sit down and just breath then she comes out of her room when she’s calmed down.
My son is autistic and if he's frustrated, even cuddling him will make him worse as he just wants to be left alone. Talking to him while in a meltdown will make it worse. I couldn't ever imagine hitting him!!! Grinds my gears.
Sounds like the child struggles with transitions.
@@justmeek and further more the fact that the parents aren’t able to regulate their own emotions and put the wellbeing of their child before their emotional response shows a total lack of emotional maturity. They act like how a child would act in that situation when anyone with the maturity level of an adult would know to calm down and act rationally and calmly.
Same ..now I just tell my children to go to their rooms till they calm down and then we’ll talk.
As a mother, this is heart breaking. The verbal abuse, the mental abuse, the physical abuse. This boy wants his mommy and she is pushing him to anger. Her boyfriend is playing a role that is leading him to be abusive, which is sickening. I pray this baby finds love and happiness ❤️
I completely agree, so sad 🙏🏼🥺♥️
I've been through a lot of mental and verbal abuse so many times by my grandparents since I was 10
His parents aren't together, that's an explanation within itself.
This kid just wants LOVE! He's begging for attention!
Pretty satisfying to watch dr phil make both of these people feel like horrible people.
My mother and father split at a young age. My mom moved another man In, still with em till today never once did I feel threatened by him. I feel sorry for the little guy to feel like he’s gotta compete with a grown man for his own mothers love.
Something is very wrong how did this go untreated.. she literally called him r*tarded
If she said something like the situation being retarded, that wouldn’t be bad, but the way she meant “retarded” is bad.
@@kadenwild558 um no im pretty sure that using a slur towards your child & their behaviour is bad regardless.
It is called intellectually disabled in the D S M V. The termed retardation was change because it has come to mean stupid and people have fought to have it changed. So his mother is calling him stupid. She is being a bully and not a parent.
She said he acting didn't say he was but still very wrong
This mother is a freaking mess! Her ‘man’ is just another child.
Agree
"We need to destress him and NOT with medication"👏👏👏👏👏
That's what dr. Phil said at 26 minutes almost at the end
I can't handle parents like this! Instead of dealing with it by talking or caring, they use aggression and it angers me like crazy!!
Same here