As an elementary teacher you expressed what it took me a long time to realize. I never could predict how children would come to me each morning. I had to reach each child where they were that day. It was crucial that I remained calm, read body language and identified kids that needed extra attention that day. I am retired now, but am so grateful for my days spent with my students.
Schools need teachers like you. It takes a special person to want to try and understand each student, and to self check yourself to adapt to the student at any given time. I'm thankful for you teaching children even if you are retired. You give a damn to the highest level and I hope there is still many like you and will continue to be in today's world.
Wow most teachers expect the kids to meet the teacher where they are. They see the kids as one "student body" one organism that moves together. Schools are great about removing the individualism out of the individual. Edit: so thank you for taking a different approach with those children.
As unexpected as it sounds, your content has helped me work through anxiety and post-traumatic stress symptoms from fighting in Afghanistan. I really appreciate watching your videos and listening to the horse wisdom you have to offer. Keep it up, please.
Welcome home, Christian - I’m glad to hear you’re doing better! Keep up the good fight. Thank you for your dedication to your country, and wishing you all the best, boss 💪
Today is going to be a rare one, a physical and mental rest day. I have free time by myself to leisurely do whatever I wish, and I intend to invest a big heap of this time watching Dry Creek Wrangler School for the majority of it. It's already going to be great.
Dewayne - I am not familiar with horses or the country life, but I love old school wisdom AND cigars - thanks for your messages and sharing your wisdom with us.
Dwayne, I'm not even a cowboy. But I appreciate the wisdom. Your channel has been a favorite of mine for more than a year now. You do a good thing here. Regards from E. Tx.
I've never had any male figure I could look up to, sit a while and listens to whatever he has to share, and listen with intention and care, since I respect what they say and what can teach me. These videos are starting to heal that wound, and I don't think I can put into words how I closely listen and reflect and be calm when you speak, whether it be about horses which is so far away from what my life is, to cigars and to mistakes and learnings. I wish you the best and thank you for being in this piece of the internet for when people needed it the most.
I know nothing about horses but just listening to you talk is so calming. I'm going through a break up and life is sort of starting over and I'm having trouble adjusting. Not to repeat myself but just listening to you talk has been a big help. Thank you sir.
What I learn from the stories you tell, I put to use in my daily life. I lost my grandfather a few years ago. I miss his stories and advice. Thanks for taking the time to share what you’ve learned in this road called life. It’s nice to get the heads up on what’s ahead.
Dewayne, I can not express just how much your content means to me and how much it helps me working with my mare. My Glenda is about where your Ray is, though your mare is blessed that her rider has the experience to be able to work through her problems effectively, by comparison. Thank you so much, sir. You have helped me greatly, and my mare more so.
This is so wild. Just earlier today I had to step back and manage my expectations and then I saw this video pop up and man this is exactly the perspective I’ve needed. If you compiled your lessons and pushed them into a book for younger people like me to read and learn from. I’d buy it!
You are legendary, thank you for your wisdom and generous commitment to others. You have heard of the saying, 'Behind every great man, there is a great woman', Mrs Ma Wrangler must be an awesome, wonderful woman. God Bless you and yours, always.😊👍💛
May we all live in others shoes. If only for a moment to see what they see and feel. You are truly blessed and much love and strength in your journey. Thank you for sharing this wonderful wisdom. It grounds me and guides me to do much better. God bless you and your family
No thanks, I live in my shoes, since no course for such calls for much of the irretional behavior in the world today. I never asked to be born, but for whatever reason, I do it because I do it for G-d. I wasnt send for no purpose..
Ridden horses maybe 2 or 3 weeks out of my 34 years of life. At least one of those weeks in cave city Kentucky. The rest on my old aunt Kay's farm (God rest her soul). That has nothing to do with why I watch this channel. Ol Dewayne has wise words to say and I listen. Also the episode(s) he and his wife did about marriage are absolutely priceless. (Not married but I have a child with a woman I met almost a decade ago and it has been a learning experience the entire way. ) Anyway, wise words and wisdom. That's why I've liked and subscribed some time ago and I certainly watch every video. Even if some I just listen to while I'm running the ol articulated boom crane on a jobsite slinging concrete forms and panel sets for Mike Siler. He's good people too. Dewayne if you read this I sincerely wish you the best of luck with all of your endeavors. God bless you and yours brother. God bless.
Thank you very much for your wisdom. Yours are wise words I will do well to heed as a father to my two boys. Not only that, on a mental health front, we all need to work with the self which turns up each day. Sometimes one is up to the general tasks of life and sometimes not. We need to go easy on ourselves and others.
Someone once said "You have to meet your horse where they actually are, not where you think they are. Or, where you think they *should* be." True words, I'm still learning them too. 😅
34. Father of two ; best advice for life I've ever heard, this adaptable to all aspects of life. Spouse,children,pets, work, friends, public, religion...... Thank you for your time.thank you for teaching this too anyone who cares to listen ... Dwayne YOU are what this world needs.
I've been listening to your channel ever since I've been subbed to it. I've lost a lot but gained a lot throughout life. Your knowledge and words are so empowering that it helps make me continue to overcome the obstacles in life. Your cigar tidbits are fun too to help elevate the mood. Never stop being you sir.
Raising three small kids...I know this lesson in my brain. Sometimes it's good to have an external reminder. I'm often expecting them to be different than they are that day, morning, or whatever. But they're good kids and I would do well to remember that more frequently, and make them know I appreciate and love them. I can stand to mature just as much as they will in time.
Thank you! You explained this very well. I never thought of how you explained being in a relationship quite like this before, and it’s true with a relationship with a horse. I guess I know horses better than I know people. I’m still learning people.
I got real pissed off at work today, and all I needed to do was chill and stop expecting. I didn't know what was gonna be in this video but I'm glad it came to me 'cause it's what I needed to hear. Funny how it works. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
First let me say how calming and relaxing your videos are. Really enjoy seeing an update on Dry Creek! Second your video today pairs well with raising my dog. She's a good-BEST girl scuse me, but she repeatedly "misses the memo" when we go to the park on the wrong day. Things will not always go how we want and none of us can grow if we give up on the first struggle. You are raising a great mare and I have full confidence that you will have her ready in no time.👍
I really think you need to put all of your story's and life on audio. So went, drive etc. Love to listen to you so much! I'm a 68 year old Georgia boy. Thanks, Michael
Excellent points, Dewayne and I needed this reminder right now. We’ve either said or heard a million times - “expectations only breed disappointments”. Another great piece of advice I found helpful is - “when things go sideways, don’t go with’ em.” BTW I personally enjoy a nice helping of succotash with my ribeye lol. Thanks again.
High expectations often do the opposite of motivating us - they demotivate us because the goal we’d set for ourselves seems unattainable. In dog training I always give dogs the tasks easy enough for them to succeed but hard enough to keep them interested and challenged. I think this applies to every sphere of life. Balance is key. And we should only compare ourselves to our past selves.
I got so angry at my 20 year old son tonight because we had an important family event, and he didn't show up to it. Instead, he went to a movie with his girlfriend. And when I called him, he said that he simply forgot. "Sorry." I didn't handle his response very well at all, and I let him have it. Now I realize that I didn't help anything by losing my temper. This video is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
As a 20 year old myself, well technically 19 but will be 20 at the end of the month, I can understand where he was coming from. He has a girl that he wants to impress and get closer to, so he goes to see a movie without thinking. It could be that he just forgot, but it could also just be different priorities. Maybe deep down he knew that this family even was that day he saw a movie with his girl, but he felt as if that mattered more, just as you felt him being there for that family event mattered more. He's still young, I'm even younger, our priorities will change and reading that your perspective has broadened from this video, it brings a fuzzy feeling in my heart sir. I hope he doesn't hold a grude against you, personally I try to understand why my own father gets upset at me. It's love. It always has been, so understanding his perception on me and how I believe his perception, really helped improve my understanding on how to handle his agitated speeches. He is an impatient man, he has told me this many times, so when I do things that waste his time he gets irritated. We can only try to stay calm and understand other people's perspectives on things. It's all perspective, my issue is that I take things too personally, and thus I have to learn to toughen up. I wish you the best in the future and I hope your relationship with your son is amazing and healthy. - Nathan
Dewayne this spoke to me more than most and most do. I had 3 horses in particular in my life that taught me a lot about horses and myself. Those were only 3 of a number of them but just so happens those were all mares as well. Wet saddle blankets a great teaching tool. I can’t tell you how many times I’d ride out with the same expectations you spoke of only to be disappointed when it all fell into. And like you mentioned, it’s like that in life. We expect a reaction from someone or a result to a situation and when that’s not met we respond negatively. If we’re honest that’s pretty much why we get upset with others. The horse is the same. That’s not communicated so there’s a lack of understanding. I’ve ridden out thinking this is going to be a leisurely thing, no responsibilities to fulfill, nothing to work on, no schedule but just a ride. Doesn’t always go that way. And, like you said, the way we respond speaks volumes. Horses, and kids for that matter, seem to learn the “bad lesson” first and easiest. In my youth and inexperienced self those horses turned out to be a reflection of all the negative responses I had. Some had those little twerks or insecurities when out riding you come to expect but always hoped you get them through eventually. From barn or buddy sourness, picking out “boogers” at every turn. It’d seem like some would go looking for something to crow hop, jig or swap ends about. As if a Walmart bag, hung up and blowing in a barbed wire fence, wasn’t enough! How about that one mare who’d get that horse fly right in that spot above the base of the tail and her old tail was a little too short to reach it. How many times did we think, “ you know if you hadn’t been such a knucklehead today I’d be a little quicker to help you out with that!”. All the while taking a little deeper seat and preparing for that little heavier SWAT when you did! Yep, like you mentioned, none of us has walked on water! Good word today pard!
Smart man, Dwayne for President! Your country needs someone with common sense. It's again an aha moment, powerful. Greetings Wendy from the Netherlands.
I love you, Thankyou for sharing your thoughts with honesty. We need more people to hear you speak, you make this world a better place. Thankyou agian.
Another good video. Thanks once again. I just had a Partagus Black Label Gigante 6x60 last night. Those are truly wonderful cigars. I can see why they are your number 1. It has moved very high on my list now as well
Thank you so much for this. I found your channel from a random recommendation, I saw the video called Let the Fire Die Out. I liked it, I went to a random video from your history, and it happened to be this one. And damn if it wasn't exactly what I needed to hear today, for reasons that are too personal to detail on a UA-cam comment. Thank you again, I subscribed and I'll be watching your channel closely.
Cant thank you enough. You're talking about horses but you're also not. This advice helps me so much in my relationships and life. Im 23 and like a lot of others ive lacked this kind of wisdom and insight from older people in my life. I always get recommended your videos when it counts and find, almost like therapy that I need to watch them a couple times a week to remind myself of your lessons. I feel your content is priceless these days and its refreshing seeing someone that stays true to themselves and others finding success. Appreciate you, thanks.
Man Dwayne, I love the way you lay out two congruent views of the same situation. Yea it’s like the horses are life and people. That horseman part 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 solid gems. Thanks again Dwayne.
this is one the best episodes for me, thank you so much dwayne, i was exactly in that situation juste five minutes before i watch this, thank you, i feel less lonely in figuring out life
Dewayne, your content has helped me immensely, and the right video always seem to go live exactly when I need it most ❤ Your message is powerful & it’s clear to see you’re speaking the truth from your heart; don’t be afraid to cut the filler words and sit in the silence rather than “ah” “erm” and “we’ll so” -ing it. God Bless and I’m wishing you & yours health, happiness, and prosperity 💪
I know you have talked about a variation of this saying, but " Expectations are Resentments, Waiting to Happen." Everything is relative. There is only preference, and people are only responsible for their own. It is possible to love someone whose preferences don't align. Your channel is literally my church 🤙
Your messages are brilliantly presented with the metaphor to your young mare. You are in the same league for me as _Andy Stanley - and the way in which he helps us follow Jesus. Thankyou Dewayne. You seem very wise and I thank my 21 year old grandson Cole for introducing me to your messages. Bless you🙏🏻
I never struggled keeping my mind right with animals I was always calm cool collected and I loved every minute no matter what. Then after 6 years off while I was in the military I came back and struggled it has been about 8 years now and I'm finally getting my mind right to work with them.Your videos have helped me and I bet my mules and horse have noticed to as they have gotten much better
Look up Warrick Schiller, hopefully you’ll find him helpful. He says something similar that Dwayne said, “work with the horse that’s in front of you that day.”
Man, I randomly subscribed to you a long while back. This video popped up and I remember why. Listening to you talk is super comforting. I could probably listen to you read a phonebook. Anyway I see you're chomping on that cigar. Now I know cigars. Worked for 2 stores and 1 manufacturer. I know everyone's got their preference, but I hope you've given Padron a fair chance.
It took me a while to figure this all out, but developing a mindset that all things work toward the good is a philosophy that gets me through many a bad day. As you said, if we don't have bad ones, we can't judge what good ones should look like. Resolve and gentle strength is what I rely upon to face those bad days, although I am human and don't always practice what I preach. When the smoke clears and I can look at what could have and should have been, I realize that calm would have been the better choice.
Hello Dewayne, as one of 'the students who left this morning' just landed back in New York and would love to share that, from my perspective, you definitely "meet your students where they are" - Without that skill, I would not have had the insights and the progress that I was able to enjoy this week at the Ranch. Thank you and the extended family again, so grateful for the opportunity. Many blessings
Hello Trey from Georgia been with you for awhile amazing your life experiences that Tim McGraw Standing room only comes to mind when I think of you much love and respect my way
You called me out today buddy, i needed to hear this. Work has been a struggle lately. I know that i tend to expect to much from my team and my management. My expectations are very high. Maybe i need to lower them to a level that is easier to reach.
Your videos stop showing up in my feed for a bit but then all of a sudden you show up and it’s usually when I’m really in need. ❤ thank you for just being you.
Dewayne, your talk today could be applied to any animal or human situation in life !!! I will be taking my first ride on a well trained mare I've had for 20 years, but with a new twist...I have a brace on my right knee that is a permanent fixture whenever I will be doing a lot of standing, walking, etc. It will be a strange thing to her and a source of concern for me in how she will accept that hard pressure where she's not been exposed to it. I like to ride bareback so I can feel the horse under me, but maybe for safety's sake start with a saddle until I get used to riding with the brace myself and once I have a few rides under our belt, then try the bareback. She always acts like a greenbroke first ride out of the pasture, but she's also not been saddled in almost 10 years due to my work status, her pregancies, and the number of other horses I had at the time as well as relocating from Wyoming to North Dakota. Since then I've moved a lot of horses and am now down to 2 mares and 1 yealing filly foal and a 4 month old filly foal and 1 mini mare. I look forward to this ride and being mobile again thanks to the horse herself because the knee has limited my range of travel on foot. Thanks again for reminding me that patience and understanding go a long way in the outcome !!! Many blessings to you and your family and have a pleasant 4th of July !!!
I needed to hear this today.... you pretty much described my to lads yesterday. My eldest is 6, youngest is 3. I thought wed have a good day, bowling, arcade, food then indoor soft play. Reality though is theyre both young lads that are experiencing a new world with lights, games, noise. They were excitable they wanted to be able to unleash there energy like we would in the parks. But they needed to be able to contain the excitement a little bit more than they wanted.... I couldnt relax and i expected them to be able to contain themself like an adult would.... my fault, not theirs and i shouldnt have held them to my.expectations. patience is what i need to learn.. after work today im taking them the park, they need to be kids.
I had what I thought was a gelded Arabian..he may very well have been a cross between a quarter and an Arab..some shenanigans with breeding. N e ways..I has to let him go to another as I couldn't dedicate the funds..he turned into a ribbon winning endurance horse. I often live vicariously. Thanks for opening a window 😉
I stumble into watching your videos every weekend to wind down. You know you're in good company when you'll alone reflecting on your thoughts and the lessons found in your videos.
Your wisdom and in some ways timing leaves me in awe everytime. I'm a day late on this video and no horseman at all. But somehow today I am currently at work watching this and the message just hits me not with a horse but with my son. Much like your ride before work I didn't have the son I wanted (being tired and wanting to relax before working tonight) but I had the son I had (amazing healthy and very energetic) your message just sits with me and when I get home whatever son I have at home is going to get a big hug and we'll do what he wants before I go to bed. Thank you Dwayne for the talk. I needed a day late and for a wastewater guy. God bless
I sure wish you had a grandpa doing what you do in the 1960s. What I was trying to be a Horseman. I chuckle that many of your experiences because I have done the same damn thing you are talking about. 😅😅😅 please keep the videos coming I’ll pray God‘s blessing on you and your bride👍🙏🙏🤗🤗
As an elementary teacher you expressed what it took me a long time to realize. I never could predict how children would come to me each morning. I had to reach each child where they were that day. It was crucial that I remained calm, read body language and identified kids that needed extra attention that day. I am retired now, but am so grateful for my days spent with my students.
Schools need teachers like you. It takes a special person to want to try and understand each student, and to self check yourself to adapt to the student at any given time. I'm thankful for you teaching children even if you are retired. You give a damn to the highest level and I hope there is still many like you and will continue to be in today's world.
You appear to be very invested in the children. Good job.
❤ Bless you
Wow most teachers expect the kids to meet the teacher where they are. They see the kids as one "student body" one organism that moves together. Schools are great about removing the individualism out of the individual.
Edit: so thank you for taking a different approach with those children.
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As unexpected as it sounds, your content has helped me work through anxiety and post-traumatic stress symptoms from fighting in Afghanistan. I really appreciate watching your videos and listening to the horse wisdom you have to offer. Keep it up, please.
Welcome home, Christian - I’m glad to hear you’re doing better! Keep up the good fight. Thank you for your dedication to your country, and wishing you all the best, boss 💪
Idk if you'd be interested or not but "Rolling Through Afghanistan" by Nicholas Bertucci might be worth a read.
Thanks for your service. It doesn’t go unnoticed by a vast amount of us!
Thank you for your service brother
Thank you for the sacrifices you have made. Politics aside, you went through hell fighting for a better future and that commands universal respect.
Today is going to be a rare one, a physical and mental rest day. I have free time by myself to leisurely do whatever I wish, and I intend to invest a big heap of this time watching Dry Creek Wrangler School for the majority of it. It's already going to be great.
Dewayne - I am not familiar with horses or the country life, but I love old school wisdom AND cigars - thanks for your messages and sharing your wisdom with us.
Amen
Dwayne, I'm not even a cowboy. But I appreciate the wisdom. Your channel has been a favorite of mine for more than a year now.
You do a good thing here.
Regards from E. Tx.
I would have loved to have heard this talk when I was a younger 25 year old. But still so relevant to all now. Thank you Dwayne.
Never had a father figure to explain a lot of life to me just started watching today and this is helping me so much with a lot of questions thank you.
I've never had any male figure I could look up to, sit a while and listens to whatever he has to share, and listen with intention and care, since I respect what they say and what can teach me.
These videos are starting to heal that wound, and I don't think I can put into words how I closely listen and reflect and be calm when you speak, whether it be about horses which is so far away from what my life is, to cigars and to mistakes and learnings.
I wish you the best and thank you for being in this piece of the internet for when people needed it the most.
Keep pushing brother. We find these figures through life when looking.
When the student is ready the master appears
@@sm-te6lt Thank you for these kind words. I wish you the same.
God bless you
I know nothing about horses but just listening to you talk is so calming. I'm going through a break up and life is sort of starting over and I'm having trouble adjusting. Not to repeat myself but just listening to you talk has been a big help. Thank you sir.
Hang in there buddy, rough seas make a good sailor, just keep a steady course…
Gratitude is an amazing characteristic to have.
But I’ve realized it only comes after gaining perspective.
What I learn from the stories you tell, I put to use in my daily life. I lost my grandfather a few years ago. I miss his stories and advice. Thanks for taking the time to share what you’ve learned in this road called life. It’s nice to get the heads up on what’s ahead.
You are getting younger brother! God bless and thank you for your words
Enjoyed this talk. Good discussion and point of view.
Your wisdom and message always seems to resonate. Thank you!
Dewayne, I can not express just how much your content means to me and how much it helps me working with my mare. My Glenda is about where your Ray is, though your mare is blessed that her rider has the experience to be able to work through her problems effectively, by comparison. Thank you so much, sir. You have helped me greatly, and my mare more so.
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This is so wild. Just earlier today I had to step back and manage my expectations and then I saw this video pop up and man this is exactly the perspective I’ve needed. If you compiled your lessons and pushed them into a book for younger people like me to read and learn from. I’d buy it!
I've never even ridden a horse before but these videos are sublime Dewayne. Keep it up man, we're all learning so much from you.
Same here. Live a busy city life - Mon to Fri grind. These videos help with anxiety and stress.
Cowboy Aristotle drops some more wisdom on us. He's always got some good issues to pontificate upon.
😂😂 "Cowboy Aristotle"😂😂
You are legendary, thank you for your wisdom and generous commitment to others. You have heard of the saying, 'Behind every great man, there is a great woman', Mrs Ma Wrangler must be an awesome, wonderful woman. God Bless you and yours, always.😊👍💛
May we all live in others shoes. If only for a moment to see what they see and feel. You are truly blessed and much love and strength in your journey. Thank you for sharing this wonderful wisdom. It grounds me and guides me to do much better. God bless you and your family
No thanks, I live in my shoes, since no course for such calls for much of the irretional behavior in the world today.
I never asked to be born, but for whatever reason, I do it because I do it for G-d.
I wasnt send for no purpose..
I love this man's Honesty and self-awareness.
Ridden horses maybe 2 or 3 weeks out of my 34 years of life. At least one of those weeks in cave city Kentucky. The rest on my old aunt Kay's farm (God rest her soul). That has nothing to do with why I watch this channel. Ol Dewayne has wise words to say and I listen. Also the episode(s) he and his wife did about marriage are absolutely priceless. (Not married but I have a child with a woman I met almost a decade ago and it has been a learning experience the entire way. ) Anyway, wise words and wisdom. That's why I've liked and subscribed some time ago and I certainly watch every video. Even if some I just listen to while I'm running the ol articulated boom crane on a jobsite slinging concrete forms and panel sets for Mike Siler. He's good people too.
Dewayne if you read this I sincerely wish you the best of luck with all of your endeavors. God bless you and yours brother. God bless.
Great words of wisdom! I enjoyed this talk. God bless.
Thank you very much for your wisdom. Yours are wise words I will do well to heed as a father to my two boys. Not only that, on a mental health front, we all need to work with the self which turns up each day. Sometimes one is up to the general tasks of life and sometimes not. We need to go easy on ourselves and others.
Someone once said "You have to meet your horse where they actually are, not where you think they are. Or, where you think they *should* be." True words, I'm still learning them too. 😅
34. Father of two ; best advice for life I've ever heard, this adaptable to all aspects of life. Spouse,children,pets, work, friends, public, religion......
Thank you for your time.thank you for teaching this too anyone who cares to listen ...
Dwayne YOU are what this world needs.
I've been listening to your channel ever since I've been subbed to it.
I've lost a lot but gained a lot throughout life. Your knowledge and words are so empowering that it helps make me continue to overcome the obstacles in life. Your cigar tidbits are fun too to help elevate the mood.
Never stop being you sir.
Very wise man. Thank you my fellow brethren for sharing. #GodBless
Raising three small kids...I know this lesson in my brain. Sometimes it's good to have an external reminder. I'm often expecting them to be different than they are that day, morning, or whatever. But they're good kids and I would do well to remember that more frequently, and make them know I appreciate and love them. I can stand to mature just as much as they will in time.
Thank you! You explained this very well. I never thought of how you explained being in a relationship quite like this before, and it’s true with a relationship with a horse. I guess I know horses better than I know people. I’m still learning people.
Always a pleasure to glean your wisdom. Bless you and your family.
Thank you! Your words today are what I needed right now. God bless!
I got real pissed off at work today, and all I needed to do was chill and stop expecting. I didn't know what was gonna be in this video but I'm glad it came to me 'cause it's what I needed to hear. Funny how it works. Thanks for sharing your wisdom.
First let me say how calming and relaxing your videos are. Really enjoy seeing an update on Dry Creek! Second your video today pairs well with raising my dog. She's a good-BEST girl scuse me, but she repeatedly "misses the memo" when we go to the park on the wrong day. Things will not always go how we want and none of us can grow if we give up on the first struggle. You are raising a great mare and I have full confidence that you will have her ready in no time.👍
I really think you need to put all of your story's and life on audio. So went, drive etc. Love to listen to you so much! I'm a 68 year old Georgia boy. Thanks, Michael
Thank you for consistently posting Dewayne. Your videos bring me back to the centre. Back to the calm. You're a great reminder to a young man.
Good lesson. With all the craziness in the world, animals don't change. They operate by instinct, not motive. I'm enjoying your content.
I needed this message today. Thank you as always.
Dwayne what wise words. Its a good leader that’s harder on oneself than the other. ❤
This feels like a call back to the video about managing our expectations. lol Fits very well, and a lesson we can all learn. Hope you're doing great!
Thank you Duane. Another great show with diamond wisdom
Excellent points, Dewayne and I needed this reminder right now. We’ve either said or heard a million times - “expectations only breed disappointments”. Another great piece of advice I found helpful is - “when things go sideways, don’t go with’ em.” BTW I personally enjoy a nice helping of succotash with my ribeye lol. Thanks again.
I needed this talk more than ever. Thank you.
High expectations often do the opposite of motivating us - they demotivate us because the goal we’d set for ourselves seems unattainable. In dog training I always give dogs the tasks easy enough for them to succeed but hard enough to keep them interested and challenged. I think this applies to every sphere of life. Balance is key. And we should only compare ourselves to our past selves.
WOW what an awesome show, you just described how it was with my late wife and myself over 40 yrs !!
Dwayne, we all need to level up so that we can meet our expectations. Never will we get there if we don't truthfully examine ourselves.
Well said, Tom. Good to see you this evening!
I got so angry at my 20 year old son tonight because we had an important family event, and he didn't show up to it. Instead, he went to a movie with his girlfriend. And when I called him, he said that he simply forgot. "Sorry." I didn't handle his response very well at all, and I let him have it. Now I realize that I didn't help anything by losing my temper. This video is what I needed to hear. Thank you.
As a 20 year old myself, well technically 19 but will be 20 at the end of the month, I can understand where he was coming from. He has a girl that he wants to impress and get closer to, so he goes to see a movie without thinking. It could be that he just forgot, but it could also just be different priorities. Maybe deep down he knew that this family even was that day he saw a movie with his girl, but he felt as if that mattered more, just as you felt him being there for that family event mattered more.
He's still young, I'm even younger, our priorities will change and reading that your perspective has broadened from this video, it brings a fuzzy feeling in my heart sir.
I hope he doesn't hold a grude against you, personally I try to understand why my own father gets upset at me. It's love. It always has been, so understanding his perception on me and how I believe his perception, really helped improve my understanding on how to handle his agitated speeches. He is an impatient man, he has told me this many times, so when I do things that waste his time he gets irritated. We can only try to stay calm and understand other people's perspectives on things. It's all perspective, my issue is that I take things too personally, and thus I have to learn to toughen up.
I wish you the best in the future and I hope your relationship with your son is amazing and healthy.
- Nathan
@@shadowstrike3659 thats why I am glad I am living alone since 20' and dont have to stand parents.
Truly enjoy your videos !!! Old school advice is what society needs desperately right now!!! Thanks looking forward for next video!!! God bless!! 🙏🙏👍
Dewayne this spoke to me more than most and most do. I had 3 horses in particular in my life that taught me a lot about horses and myself. Those were only 3 of a number of them but just so happens those were all mares as well. Wet saddle blankets a great teaching tool. I can’t tell you how many times I’d ride out with the same expectations you spoke of only to be disappointed when it all fell into. And like you mentioned, it’s like that in life. We expect a reaction from someone or a result to a situation and when that’s not met we respond negatively. If we’re honest that’s pretty much why we get upset with others. The horse is the same. That’s not communicated so there’s a lack of understanding. I’ve ridden out thinking this is going to be a leisurely thing, no responsibilities to fulfill, nothing to work on, no schedule but just a ride. Doesn’t always go that way. And, like you said, the way we respond speaks volumes. Horses, and kids for that matter, seem to learn the “bad lesson” first and easiest. In my youth and inexperienced self those horses turned out to be a reflection of all the negative responses I had. Some had those little twerks or insecurities when out riding you come to expect but always hoped you get them through eventually. From barn or buddy sourness, picking out “boogers” at every turn. It’d seem like some would go looking for something to crow hop, jig or swap ends about. As if a Walmart bag, hung up and blowing in a barbed wire fence, wasn’t enough! How about that one mare who’d get that horse fly right in that spot above the base of the tail and her old tail was a little too short to reach it. How many times did we think, “ you know if you hadn’t been such a knucklehead today I’d be a little quicker to help you out with that!”. All the while taking a little deeper seat and preparing for that little heavier SWAT when you did! Yep, like you mentioned, none of us has walked on water! Good word today pard!
Thank you for today message God Bless 🤙🏼
He's really help me with my anger issues...thankyou Dewayne
Smart man, Dwayne for President! Your country needs someone with common sense. It's again an aha moment, powerful. Greetings Wendy from the Netherlands.
Having Dewayne for president would be like 20X what we’ve got now!
I love you, Thankyou for sharing your thoughts with honesty. We need more people to hear you speak, you make this world a better place. Thankyou agian.
Another good video. Thanks once again.
I just had a Partagus Black Label Gigante 6x60 last night. Those are truly wonderful cigars. I can see why they are your number 1. It has moved very high on my list now as well
"Ain't none of us walking on water"......man if that's not the truth
That was my favorite part❤
Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom!
Your videos are like comfort food for my soul. Absolutely love your content. God bless.
Wisdom is wonderful, only expectations you should have is of yourself.
Thanks for sharing your vulnerable strength with us!
Thank you so much for this. I found your channel from a random recommendation, I saw the video called Let the Fire Die Out. I liked it, I went to a random video from your history, and it happened to be this one. And damn if it wasn't exactly what I needed to hear today, for reasons that are too personal to detail on a UA-cam comment. Thank you again, I subscribed and I'll be watching your channel closely.
Yes, agree with you on this. We often are focussed on what we have planned to do. Horses are never the same each time we go to them.
AMEN BROTHER ❤!! TRUTH!
Cant thank you enough. You're talking about horses but you're also not. This advice helps me so much in my relationships and life. Im 23 and like a lot of others ive lacked this kind of wisdom and insight from older people in my life. I always get recommended your videos when it counts and find, almost like therapy that I need to watch them a couple times a week to remind myself of your lessons. I feel your content is priceless these days and its refreshing seeing someone that stays true to themselves and others finding success. Appreciate you, thanks.
This goes with the talk of expectations. With those expectations can lead to disappointment, perfect example
Man Dwayne, I love the way you lay out two congruent views of the same situation. Yea it’s like the horses are life and people. That horseman part 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥 solid gems. Thanks again Dwayne.
this is one the best episodes for me, thank you so much dwayne, i was exactly in that situation juste five minutes before i watch this, thank you, i feel less lonely in figuring out life
Dewayne, your content has helped me immensely, and the right video always seem to go live exactly when I need it most ❤
Your message is powerful & it’s clear to see you’re speaking the truth from your heart; don’t be afraid to cut the filler words and sit in the silence rather than “ah” “erm” and “we’ll so” -ing it.
God Bless and I’m wishing you & yours health, happiness, and prosperity 💪
You are the father who we all need ❤
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I know you have talked about a variation of this saying, but " Expectations are Resentments, Waiting to Happen." Everything is relative. There is only preference, and people are only responsible for their own. It is possible to love someone whose preferences don't align. Your channel is literally my church 🤙
Your messages are brilliantly presented with the metaphor to your young mare. You are in the same league for me as _Andy Stanley - and the way in which he helps us follow Jesus. Thankyou Dewayne. You seem very wise and I thank my 21 year old grandson Cole for introducing me to your messages. Bless you🙏🏻
Love your videos, great life advice... Good to see the haircut and the beard trim!
Always great videos.
Makes me miss Wyoming from the 80's
I never struggled keeping my mind right with animals I was always calm cool collected and I loved every minute no matter what. Then after 6 years off while I was in the military I came back and struggled it has been about 8 years now and I'm finally getting my mind right to work with them.Your videos have helped me and I bet my mules and horse have noticed to as they have gotten much better
Look up Warrick Schiller, hopefully you’ll find him helpful. He says something similar that Dwayne said, “work with the horse that’s in front of you that day.”
An "expectation" is a "resentment" under construction. And a resentment leads to anger/rage.
Man, I randomly subscribed to you a long while back. This video popped up and I remember why. Listening to you talk is super comforting. I could probably listen to you read a phonebook.
Anyway I see you're chomping on that cigar. Now I know cigars. Worked for 2 stores and 1 manufacturer. I know everyone's got their preference, but I hope you've given Padron a fair chance.
It took me a while to figure this all out, but developing a mindset that all things work toward the good is a philosophy that gets me through many a bad day.
As you said, if we don't have bad ones, we can't judge what good ones should look like.
Resolve and gentle strength is what I rely upon to face those bad days, although I am human and don't always practice what I preach. When the smoke clears and I can look at what could have and should have been, I realize that calm would have been the better choice.
Hello Dewayne, as one of 'the students who left this morning' just landed back in New York and would love to share that, from my perspective, you definitely "meet your students where they are" - Without that skill, I would not have had the insights and the progress that I was able to enjoy this week at the Ranch. Thank you and the extended family again, so grateful for the opportunity. Many blessings
Thank you so much for your wisdom 🙏 I have faith that one day I'll grow up to be as wise as you.
John 15:13 ❤ Brother your a Great Teacher...Thank you May you Always be A Couple you and Momma Legend.of Excellently.
Hello Trey from Georgia been with you for awhile amazing your life experiences that Tim McGraw Standing room only comes to mind when I think of you much love and respect my way
Great perspectives on expectations. Timely, needed this now for my new puppy training.
You called me out today buddy, i needed to hear this. Work has been a struggle lately. I know that i tend to expect to much from my team and my management. My expectations are very high. Maybe i need to lower them to a level that is easier to reach.
Your videos stop showing up in my feed for a bit but then all of a sudden you show up and it’s usually when I’m really in need. ❤ thank you for just being you.
Dewayne, your talk today could be applied to any animal or human situation in life !!! I will be taking my first ride on a well trained mare I've had for 20 years, but with a new twist...I have a brace on my right knee that is a permanent fixture whenever I will be doing a lot of standing, walking, etc. It will be a strange thing to her and a source of concern for me in how she will accept that hard pressure where she's not been exposed to it. I like to ride bareback so I can feel the horse under me, but maybe for safety's sake start with a saddle until I get used to riding with the brace myself and once I have a few rides under our belt, then try the bareback. She always acts like a greenbroke first ride out of the pasture, but she's also not been saddled in almost 10 years due to my work status, her pregancies, and the number of other horses I had at the time as well as relocating from Wyoming to North Dakota. Since then I've moved a lot of horses and am now down to 2 mares and 1 yealing filly foal and a 4 month old filly foal and 1 mini mare. I look forward to this ride and being mobile again thanks to the horse herself because the knee has limited my range of travel on foot. Thanks again for reminding me that patience and understanding go a long way in the outcome !!! Many blessings to you and your family and have a pleasant 4th of July !!!
I needed to hear this today.... you pretty much described my to lads yesterday. My eldest is 6, youngest is 3. I thought wed have a good day, bowling, arcade, food then indoor soft play. Reality though is theyre both young lads that are experiencing a new world with lights, games, noise. They were excitable they wanted to be able to unleash there energy like we would in the parks. But they needed to be able to contain the excitement a little bit more than they wanted....
I couldnt relax and i expected them to be able to contain themself like an adult would.... my fault, not theirs and i shouldnt have held them to my.expectations. patience is what i need to learn..
after work today im taking them the park, they need to be kids.
I miss those days out riding. This was a joy to listen to. Brought back good memories.
I had what I thought was a gelded Arabian..he may very well have been a cross between a quarter and an Arab..some shenanigans with breeding. N e ways..I has to let him go to another as I couldn't dedicate the funds..he turned into a ribbon winning endurance horse. I often live vicariously. Thanks for opening a window
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I attempt to encourage my self by sayin..self, if.this is the worst thing that happened today its been a pretty perfect day.
I appreciate the flies, reminding me that life with animals and insects are the reality.. Thanks for the inspiration!
You are the true inspiration uncle! Many blessings from Norway, hope to ride with you one day
Good story and explanation. Thanks.
Thank you Wayne. You’ve helped me more than you will ever know
I stumble into watching your videos every weekend to wind down. You know you're in good company when you'll alone reflecting on your thoughts and the lessons found in your videos.
Excellent. Thanks, Dewayne.
Your wisdom and in some ways timing leaves me in awe everytime. I'm a day late on this video and no horseman at all. But somehow today I am currently at work watching this and the message just hits me not with a horse but with my son. Much like your ride before work I didn't have the son I wanted (being tired and wanting to relax before working tonight) but I had the son I had (amazing healthy and very energetic) your message just sits with me and when I get home whatever son I have at home is going to get a big hug and we'll do what he wants before I go to bed. Thank you Dwayne for the talk. I needed a day late and for a wastewater guy. God bless
15:32 If all we had was sunshine, the world would be a desert….
Keep it up we love all the content its so relexing and thaugtfull thank you
AWESOME! GOD BLESS YOU.
Words of such earned wisdom.
I sure wish you had a grandpa doing what you do in the 1960s. What I was trying to be a Horseman. I chuckle that many of your experiences because I have done the same damn thing you are talking about. 😅😅😅
please keep the videos coming I’ll pray God‘s blessing on you and your bride👍🙏🙏🤗🤗
Really don’t know why your videos always come at the perfect moment may you keep getting blessed my brother👍
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