6 Struggles Only Genuine Empaths Will Understand
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- Опубліковано 3 сер 2021
- Do you often feel what others do? Or understand what people are going through? If so, you might be an empath. Empaths can feel other people’s emotions as if they were their own. Empaths tend to be highly perceptive and sensitive, which makes them some of the most understanding and compassionate people out there. However, there are many drawbacks to being an empath. Curious to learn what these difficulties are? This video might interest you!
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Orloff, J. (2017, March 03). The Science Behind Empathy and Empaths. Retrieved from www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-empaths-survival-guide/201703/the-science-behind-empathy-and-empaths
Riess, H. (2017, June). The Science of Empathy. Retrieved from www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5513638/
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Vote. Is empathy a curse or a gift. Comment below. Someone can tally :)
A gift.
Its a curse and a gift actually. With empathy i can feel other people feelings and help them, and the curse that im become a sensitive person and get easily offended by something little, and also people taking my advantage of my kindness.
A gift
It's a gift. But like all things to be fully enjoyed, it takes effort to avoid the problems that can happen with that level of sensitivity.
A gift.
For anyone in a hurry
1. Highly sensitive to others' emotions
2. Needing alone time
3. People taking advantage of you
4. Knowing when someone isn't okay
5. Being labeled as "too sensitive"
6. Violence is deeply unsettling
I love you all :)
Edit: Didn't expect this to blow up but for everyone reading this comment, as an empath ig it actually makes sense for me to say "I understand". It's difficult when you feel others' emotions sometimes more than they do, so I appreciate you. I'll always feel alone, but thank you for reminding me I'm not
Thank you ✨💙
@@Longerade 💙💙
Evolution is suicide because eventually you realize that life is stupid and pointless.
All of them being me in a nutshell lol
I can 100% relate.
Often people don't understand the need for quiet alone time and I had to train myself to not let the other person's feelings bother me too much. Just to I can relieve the stress and not ruin my entire day.
worst thing about being an empath is realizing not everyone thinks and feels like you. that was tough lesson for me years ago.
Amen to that🙏
Wow yees
💯!!!! I just learned this at 40 years old!!!! Good vibes, light and blessings to you my friend!
You just watch the world around you reveal how bad it can really be
Oh yes, I often feel I'm the outsider hiding or withdrawing from whatever vibes become too much. Mostly I'm very sorry misunderstood and I've had to not speak my thoughts outloud!
I wonder how many "empaths" are actually people with past trauma who are hypervigilant and with poor emotional boundaries. I'm pretty sure that was me for a while. I used to relate to these signs much more earlier in life, but as I'm healing my past trauma, I don't take inapropriate responsibility for other people's emotions anymore, and I don't have my "antennas" out as much. I still have the option to "tune in" to people, but I won't let someone's bad mood ruin my day or let people take advantage of me.
Empaths seems more akin to BDP, autism, low self esteem, lack of identidy
That’s a really important insight, and I can totally relate.
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My mother abandoned when i was 12 and i just didnt want anyone to leave until i started enjoying alone time and gained committment issues from woman and now its like i was cursed with empathy because now its like i can feel what others are feeling to the point my stomach hurts
I find myself doing much the same these days, despite being _extremely_ sensitive as a late teen/young adult. Could just be maturity and realizing through hard knocks that not everyone deserves a piece of the immense empathy I have, or maybe I just figured out that not everything has to/ can be fixed by me, but I am _so_ much more relaxed now that I am learning which things require my attention and which I can just ignore.
As an empath this is so relatable. For me, crying is considered as a strength not a weakness.. People that cry easily/ too much are people that went through a lot and we need to understand them more. Some people perceive them as "too sensitive" or "too weak", humans are made to be emotionally sensitive.. We are all going thru all this together
I have had the same problem as crying since I was a kid when I was mad that I couldn’t get my point straight as a kid. And it has gotten so bad this year that I would ball my eyes out to the point that I didn’t even know what I was crying about anymore, then ofc my mom would keep asking why I was crying. and then it was on me bc I have to ‘talk to god about it’ liek yeah but what-/$/);(
Great comment @soppy2673!
Empaths are usually the moms/therapists of the friend group, I want everyone to know it is not your job to make anyone happy. Your feelings matter to everyone just like how you worry about others. Take care of yourself, hydrate and eat today!
Thank you Love! I hope that you are taking care of you too and eating good and hydrating and sleeping good!
yes
Can anyone tell me :(
My little sister is lack of empathy,when we're ina arguments she doesn't like to forgive
I just had a arguments but this time I'm not going back to her even tho we were so close..
She make fun of my feelings and being very sarcastic and she doesn't visit in my room
Because whenever we were in arguments I'm the one who has to visit her for Forgiveness like everything is my fault..
Can anyone tell me is she's Fake,like fake friends.
@@BarkleyBrixton Her age?
I'm an empath, my friends just don't tell me their problems to me, but helping them is like food, and my friends prolly aren't aware of that, and that's why i'm starving.
I don’t think I’m an “empath” but one major downfall of being really empathetic for me is having trouble cutting off people who may have done something wrong or behaved in a toxic or manipulative manor because even though they are acting shitty I can still empathize with them, and feel like I understand why they acted like that. Idk if this makes sense
This makes sense If you replace yourself with that person. Btw we are the same!
I finally pushed myself a couple yrs ago to do this. I was unhappy and getting worse. Change was necessary. Ill be blunt -- I sucked at it! And it went pretty badly x/ But i feel much better having gotten rid of something that never had me in mind in the 1st place.
Make a talk. DO it. For you.
Makes sense and relatable 🥰
I hear you. And when I try to cut these people out of my life I feel like a horrible person because I can still see where they are coming from even though our relationship and the way they treat me is toxic. Lord help 😣
same
I knew I was an Empath but I didn’t know how much. I relate to all of them. I’m glad to know that feeling exhausted is part of it. Much love everyone!
😢😢How do u handle carrying all the burdens of this world it feels like that like these days wen I go out to work the whole streets feel so heavy my feet heavy.... My body heavy..... Other pples emotions it's so tiring u know 😢I could explain a lot 😢😢😢😢 how do u guys deal with that
I am an empath, still learning and experiencing many things so I relate to this a lot. I say that being an empath is a gift but with drawbacks.
Love to empaths and all ❤
These animations are really cute and I love them
Me too
Yeeees
Me too! Love them, really cute😊😅😁❤
Thanks!
Always has been
As an empath, I can confirm these are all true. And it’s exhausting.
Yeah.
Yep
Yes
Same
Exuasting is a mild word.
Learning to separate the emotions was the hardest part of being an empath for me... but it helped a ton with the emotional burn out
How you did that?
I am a genuine empath, and man, that first struggle hit hard. I was once having one of the best days. I had arrived to school late because I had an appointment and then got donuts with my dad. I was going to have a sleepover that night with my best friend also. I was super smiley up until lunch. I saw someone crying into their friend's shoulder about their verbally abuseive parents and spent the rest of the day on the verge of tears with a growing anger towards parent in general. I got home that day and lashed out. I was grounded for a week, pretty much because I saw someone else cry. The struggle is REAL
Doesn’t mean you’re an empath. You were just upset.
@@AR-ii3lyoh sweetheart alot of people nowadays probably wouldn't of been effected by someone else's mood especially if they don't know them well or anything. Speak for yourself not for others.
For me, it's when i see people vent on yt shorts, when they're sad, i'm sad.. even though i have a good life. :')
*6 struggles only genuine emphats will understand*
0:58 - Being highly sensitive to other’s emotions
1:50 - Needing alone time
2:23 - People taking advantage of you
3:04 - Knowing when someone is not ok
3:48 - Being labeled as too sensitive
4:22 - Violence is deeply upsetting
I am sure, plenty of Psych2Goers are true emphats ❤️
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Thank you❤
Being an Empath is such a burden and exhausting. It almost seemed like a curse to me and I can relate to all of these. I'm currently reading stoic books like Meditations and Enchiridion to make me feel better.
It may be a burden to you, but it's a real gift to us who don't notice your efforts immediately... so thx for helping us!
I'm also empath.. Kinda hard to help myself
I know how you feel I have always got really empathetic when I heard about someone very hungry because they hadn't eaten yet or when I feel my parents are working to much and
also when someone is being mistreated or abused wich is why I absolutely hate bullying and this might sound silly but I also don't like watching rescue shows because for some reason I get very traumatised when I see the person in danger does anyone else feel that way too.
If youre an empath you gotta feel this ua-cam.com/video/mpQID3BV-No/v-deo.html🔥❗️❗️❗️❗️🔥
i guess i’m an empath i do try to help a lot of people out i always have a feeling that someone’s not alright and knowing about it some stuff that calms me down is (Warning i use stuff to calm down believe and encourage me to keep going it is religious so plz don’t get offended) My bible and praying helps and talking about it
I resonate with all of those. I've learned through the years you have set boundaries and disconnect for your own healing and you don't have to let anyone take advantage of you.
As an empath, I struggle with this a lot. Whenever I feel people need help, I step in. I help, give away all I have. But once their problems are solved, they disappear and I feel been used. I also struggle with the boundaries. I get too close, do anything for that person to help. I always loose. It's frustrating and exhausting. A curse for sure!
Now i feel bad for my friend, he have to meet pretty much a represent of chaos (me) everyday
you wrote what i wanted to write. And when people who used you tell you that they didn't push you to help them... i feel like i'am so stupid, I used myself for others benefits.
Same thing buddy. It hurts so bad. I've always been a empath but about a year and a half ago I had a near death experience and I either died for a short time or astral projected...I can't explain what happened to me but it changed me and amplified everything. I went into my son's room and checked on him while I was separated from my body. I thought maybe it was just a hallucination but the next day I asked my son how he slept and he said he felt something touch his leg and mess with his covers.... that was me checking on him. Then I went back to my body and proceeded to communicate with what I can only describe as 5th dimensional beings...there was at least two of them and they went in my chest and stomach and fiddled around...that next day I felt way better and the covid that had almost killed me was all better. Idk all I can say is I haven't been the same person since.
It just sounds like your nosy and want to feel superior about it.
i know this feeling all too well too.. you're not alone..
I’m an empath and I had to learn that you’re not responsible for other people’s happiness and I know that we have negative and positive aspects of being an empath
For those currently struggling…
you are not drowning: life is teaching you how to swim better. Your problems are the lessons that you need the most
❤️🚀🌙
Uh...what?
You have been spamming this
I'm not drowning my happyness already died in the deep dark sea.
I may be struggling ... against the urge to drown someone else ... for perfectly valid reasons.
"I have a belt and I'm not afraid to hang myself" I laugh at that quote because of mental issues
I'm an infp and an empath and it feel like you're carrying the weight of the world's emotions on your shoulders. I always wondered why so many of my friends have mental health struggles, why they were all naturally drawn to me and easily opened up. Now I know why, especially when meeting a friend who's also an empath. It's tough, it really is, all these struggles are so real and there are more. But it feels like a responsibility/gift the universe gave to me, because I can be trusted with it (not that others can't) and it's amazing to help other people. It's part of who I am and I wouldn't want to get rid of it.
I totally relate to your comment... Its like we have a mission in this world which is awesome! At the same time we have to deeply accept and love ourselves. I recently put a photo of me as a young kid on my refrigerator,in order to remind me to protect and love that " kid" as well.
Do you ever just want to sit someone down and let them vent because you want to feel like you are helping? I'm an INFP too by the way. Also, I like your name. I too am procrastinating right now and forever more.
Also, have you ever felt like you couldn't say something nice because you were afraid that the person would take it the wrong way?
I am an empath. Feeling other people's pain is so distressing I step back and remove myself, like stepping into an alternate universe from where I can observe everything but I'm removed, like watching a movie. It's incredibly hard to do. Hate crowds. Even if they are all family and known to me. It becomes hard to experience joy. Mine or others. It's such a habit of running away from all the pain in the world it's hard to open up to any emotion. I still perceive the feelings. I've figured out what works to mute them. Trouble is it mutes everything. Makes me feel like I'm never entirely here any more.
I'm not an empath. Just a flawed but empathetic, and sympathetic guy.
But alone time is importaint when trying to understand someone else's problems.
Pro tip: don't watch the news. At least not when you are about to go to sleep, or want to stay happy. It's far too frustrating no matter what your political leaning is. It's importaint to contribute to causes especially disaster relief, but it's hard not to ruin your day thinking about others who are suddenly homeless or in need of help far far away from where you otherwise would go and help them.
ua-cam.com/video/GqAquwaXaGc/v-deo.html.
Maybe you are it just hasn’t come in to Fruition I’ve always had this gift but I didn’t understand it until my early 40s I couldn’t understand the Bible either and they both happened at the same time which is amazing but it can be hard on you that’s for sure
There *are* different types of empaths. I'm fairly sure Psych2Go has a video on it too. You should check it out.
yes!!! the news is so hard for me to watch or listen to, and politics hurt me 🥲
I agree, too many people are so focused on being intelligent and being "woke" that they don't like to miss out on what's going on, but the internet is the fastest way to spread negativity and sometimes it helps to step back and take a breather from all of it so you can avoid stressing yourself. I was talking to someone about it years ago and they agreed that all it does is negatively bias people towards certain topics, as well, and that can end up making people more resentful on those topics overall. It's like that famous quote about the two dogs represented by positivity and negativity and whichever dog you feed is the one that you will be.
Me as an empath: I NEED AN EMPATH FOR ME TOO
For me, being an empath strengthens my intuition, I ALWAYS know when someone isn't being truthful... Never fails.
As an empath, loyalty is a virtue. I care about my friends and family. I've lost people in my life. When I hear on the news that someone died due to violence, it scares me and triggers my nightmares. So Everytime I talk to my squad, I always tell them to be safe ❤️
Psych2Go: "Please do not take this feedback as an attack to your character."
Me: *Completely attacked for the 5 minute duration of the video* Hahaha
Heh, same. But for me, i actually like that i related to them. I tend to not be very sure of myself, and am constantly second guessing who i am, so its nice getting confirmation like this, like yeah, i really am an empath, i really do deal with those things. Its nice
how were u attacked tho? I found this pretty realtable
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@@r4yyans___ I think you misunderstood me. I was kidding. I do relate to all of these that's why I felt attacked hahaha It was a joke.
Lol...I knew I was empath when I saw that disclaimer.
One way to help yourself as an empath, is to express. Poetry, dance, music, photography, etc. ❤️ then you can transmute the emotions into something outside yourself
Yup. I do art and music.
The Best/Worst empathic trait I find is when im around really negative people, I copy all that negative energy and use it on them because they are causing me deep pain by hurting others. This causes me to but heads and really go after them (if their habits are bad)(I understand if people are having a bad day so I empathize with them). I feel I take on all their negative traits when I face them, and its the ugliest I appear and feel. When I see the pain I cause these perpetrators, it haunts me like a scar for months because of all the pain I have caused them. People greatly appreciate me because im quick to stand up for what people are feeling and im an emotional protector to those who are being hurt, but It really takes me down so far that I have Isolation Episodes for a day to a few weeks. Its also a social chameleon trait, being able to perfectly copy people around me, sometimes calling my emotional support person can bring me out of the darkest lows if I spend a day with them.
I avoid dark people at all costs because they will usually consume so much emotional energy, the only time I interact is to support or help positive/ sensitive people who bring others up! Most neutral (NPC) people can handle these types with little emotional harm so I feel no need to protect them, and comfort them after reafiming their emotions to them how the person is a negaive jerk and shouldn't be considered.
My other bad trait I find if I'm around pathological liars I pick up their bad habits really quick and lie about really menial or small things for a day. My empath brain picks up on their pride of fabrication and its kind of an addictive feeling to me because I so rarely feel proud of myself so I start lying, ive found my best counter is to call out my lie instantly to the people I tell them to, and it snaps me out relatively quickly.
Hope any of this helps, I can answer most social or emotional questions.
So true😭 even i copy people too quick...if i see someone in trouble i feel the same it's so bad...my frnds always ask why are u so concerned u don't even know them 😭
I just get annoyed with them and either tune out their nonsense or else move myself out of the affected area. But that’s probably due to long-term emotional burnout from being too open and available for people in the past. It’s really caused me to shut off/down a lot of my empathetic access to others and regulate how much time and attention I spend around people I don’t intimately know.
You mentioned you had an emotional support person, where do you find those?
I'm kind of like you when it comes to copying the truth to people but knowing that negative people who are kind of inconsiderate and malicious don't deserve my attention
@Dark7Angel It will vary depending on the person, but someone loud and distracting enough. You can meet them in random areas, mine is childhood friends that are crazy and silly. Some people volunteer or do activities to meet people!
@@bjornwolf5092 haha, i rarely have friends here, people i went to school with have kids.
And not many volunteer places besides small town gossipers.
Hate it here.
If i was to find emotional support, it wouldn't be where i live
Thanks for sharing this insightful video. Being an empath is definitely not easy, we are often misunderstood and labeled. I relate to the struggles mentioned in the video.
It feels great to hear from people
“You are a good person.”
“Thanks for the help.”
“I will return the favor.”
“You’re my favorite.”
Etc.
But when they get advantages of you, even if they said they like you-
That’s when it hurts.
What do they mean??!!
They like the fact that they think I’m naive and that I’ll do anything for them? Please. Not everything.
Every Empath should have some limits of helping.
If the person asks you to *kill yourself,* would you do it? I don’t think so.
I like how I can understand everyone’s feelings, but when I’m absorbing them as my own, oof. :/
But if I’m sad, but they are happy, then I’m feeling happy again, for as much as I don’t realize that I’ve absorbed their emotions, or as long as they remain with me.
you learn in the worst possible way to say no, as in my case, the person simply said he used me. Being dumped like that hurts a lot, mainly because you realize that the friendship you had, never existed.
@@El_Mecko Yes. And I feel bad for you. Yeah, I can feel you. I know that people around me used me, because when they see another person, they leave me for them, or they tell me stuff like, “you deserve nothing,” though it’s clearly who doesn’t 😒 (they), or they say that if I’ll do “that,” they’ll do the other thing, too. But usually end up doing it, but they don’t.
That's why I choose vengeance
Well maybe some empaths might kill themselves... because they are very sensitive and may feel unwanted or a waste of space...
@@FuckTJFS Yeah. And that’s sad. Imagine you’re naive and a person tells you that if you suicide, you’ll get a prize. :/ Now this hits hard. No one should tell someone to kill themselves.
It's scary when someone who is actually narcissistic and without self awareness identifies as being an empath, though, because often all they do is take advantage of other people and project instead of understand.
May I direct you to Psych2Go's video on Dark Empaths?
*cough* *cough* Shane Dawson
@@grammarnazi2058 I was thinking that 😭😭🤚
OMG! It is, terrifying! My devious, sly, manipulative, controlling & domineering ex-friend, 100% NPD, won't go into it all, I want to watch my film & she's not worth that time, but 1. she tried to tell me she is an Empath. 2. When I was drawing away from her, after 3 years of exhausting myself & my bank balance serving her every whim, heading towards no contact, I text "I'm not spending my money on other people making their lives better & my own worse". She replied "do you think you are Bipolar, like, you impulse buy, to make yourself feel better"?! NUFF SAID.
Empath have self awareness and accountability so that was a narc fake identifying themselves
K, but the knowing what people are actually feeling like while they “lie” about it hit too hard for me. For me, I can usually tell when someone isn’t feeling well (idk how, don’t ask), but when I do ask about how they’re doing, they end up telling me they’re fine and not to worry. I never pry for info, but I always end up telling them that I’m there for them and will be there to talk… and then it’s all I can think about and how I might’ve been wrong about it. But usually, after talking to them ofc, I find out that I’m right about their feelings most, if not all of the time.
same for me as well, someone could hide their feelings so well but I always know.
yes! With my ex-boyfriend I always knew when he didn't like something or when he wasn't feeling well. But he tried to fake it to make me happy. I always asked him but he insisted, that he's fine and it's okay. I continously felt lika a burdon... a few days later we had to talk about the situation and then he admits that I was right and he just didn't want to bother me. Sadly he always forgot that I could literally feel that something was wrong and that there was no reason to lie..
Me too, i always get concious or approachable whenever some of my friends are sad or not okay, well, we don't know if this is a curse or a gift
Honestly one problem i rarely see addressed (i may be the only one who struggles with it lol)
But since empaths are listeners they offer advice and compassion to their friends, but when it comes around to the empath sharing their feelings, we can’t find someone to share our feelings with, or when we do we struggle to talk about them because we are so accustomed to listening to others, or no one checking in on us because they may think we are ok on the inside cause we r so nice or whatever.
Anyways yea thanks for coming to my ted talk
I I have a very solid memory of when I first felt someone else’s emotion when I was in kindergarten but couldn’t explain to any one or my self what i felt. Now I’m almost 23 and have learned to control it better. The way I like to explain it is like “artificial feelings” lol
It’s like “em I sad or nahh?” Or like “who’s feeling angry right now….?”
Hey vecana G, that's a really great way of managing so you don't get consumed by other people's emotions and get super drained! Nice checking up on yourself!
Not only do I feel people's emotions I can understand some of their physical pain as well and it's a curse
I can so relate. My family thinks I’m so strange that I feel pain if I see someone in physical pain. I can’t watch horror films or even when my kids were small and got cuts or splinters I HAD to get their dad to deal with it as I would feel faint or pain. They’re kind though as now they’re young adults they try not to show me cuts or talk too graphically. But funnily they can watch horror and see pain and not feel a thing, so it’s not hereditary lol
Same. Than I imagine the pain as if it were my own for a bit
There's a book called "wounded healer" by Henri Nouweb, that talks about similar things in a spiritual context. It may change provide a different perspective from empath as a curse
It's called mirror-touch synesthesia.
I'm an empath and it has greatly affected my life, good and bad. I've always been the therapist in a friend group up until recently. I always felt like i had to take other's problems into my own hands to fix them, but learned that trying to fix something as heavy as someone else's emotions can slowly break you down if you are not careful. I was taken advantage of on a daily basis and slowly learned how to say no and to stick up for myself when I felt uncomfortable by someone else's requests or actions. After going through with other people's requests and refusing to deny close but manipulative friends, saying no or going against someone's judgment makes me feel like I'm being aggressive or toxic when I'm simply expressing my own ideas.
One small thing I have noticed about myself is that I will take on any emotion, whether it's emitted from a friend or media. I find myself rarely able to watch shows or movies without another person there because I take on the character's problems in more of a literal and deep sense that can sometimes be overwhelming.
Though, despite all of the negative things that I have expressed, empathy is equally a gift. It allows me to form deep relationships with people I have known for short amounts of time. Helping someone talk through their emotions while keeping safe boundaries feels rewarding and allows you to grow a deeper bond with that individual. I have learned over time to set boundaries and to not take other people's problems into my own hands, rather talk with them and help them find a solution rather than trying to be the solution.
this is so true, whenever my grandma is stressed or something i imediantly feel stressed and my grandma get REALLY stressed so i could be just watching yt and i hear my grandma yell at my sisters so my whole day is ruined and my sisters just "tease" me about being so sensitive.
1. Being highly sensitive to others emotions
2. Needing alone time
3. People taking advantage of you
4. Knowing when someone isn't okay
5. Being labeled as "too sensitive"
6. Violence is deeply upsetting
Hope this helped! :D
Following you're dreams will be a fruitless endever.
I have all of these sometimes, other times I feel as if I'm completely cut off from the world
Feeling others emotions is huge for me. I’m better at centering my self but I want to be quicker with the centering. I’ll keep practicing 😊
I use to cry so easily as a child to the point I learned how to the point I tried not to show facial expressions or didn't react because I was afraid of being looked at negatively. I still cry easier than most but I'm no longer ashamed of it. I'm learning more and accepting myself as an empath, hsp, and being in a word of different personalities while having boundaries.
This is incredibly accurate. I’m an empath and have experienced all of these struggles 😩
Is there some where i can Stay .
Every one of them💯 learning more abt myself
For myself as well. Not only am I a true Empath like yourself, I'm also an Earth Angel.
I've pondered the idea of me being an empath for years, considering how easily I can often relate to videos talking about them to some extent, I can say that yeah, I probably am one.
I can say for this video
1. *Highly sensitive to others' emotions*: I have had other people literally crap my mood simply because they were exuding a very negative one themselves
2. *Needing alone time*: I uh... I tend to spend most of my time alone... people don't tend to do me good for long periods of time...
3. *People taking advantage of you*: yes... I have a very hard time saying no to things, it actually causes me emotional distress, and that's one of the reasons why I spend most of my time alone (online it's easier, but not always)
4. *Knowing when someone isn't ok*: usually more likely to happen when I'm more closely connected to someone, but yeah...
5. *Being labeled as "too sensitive"*: ask most people that know me, I'm too sensitive, cry too easily, can't handle simple jokes... yeah...
6. *Violence is deeply unsettling*: ok, if I know the violence isn't real, I can handle it, and may even take enjoyment in it, but I have issues just dealing with people yelling. it's overwhelming
You sound a lot like me lol. I have a bit of a weird question for you though, has anyone you've felt really close to get hurt (lots of blood, or maybe even a broken bone) and when you look at their wound, it's like you can almost _feel_ it on your skin? Like a ghost pain, very faint and light but you can almost feel it?
Idk it just happens to me and I wanted to see if it was the same for anyone else
@@drownedtrashrat3501 usually, it's more like an intense itching sensation for me. I have had to deal with pushing through the pain of pushing dislocated joints back into place for someone. it's really hard to push past the urge to stop because I am causing pain
All of it… same.
@@n1fffan I know what you mean, I get the itching sensation too and I can't cause others pain when they're already in pain
@@JustDoingThings. yeah, I get that jolt of 'coldness' too when I look at a loved ones injury
I relate to all of these. The other a new friend didn’t understand when I got quiet and seemed closed off. I had so much going through my mind which means I was feeling so much too. I was sorting through the thoughts and trying to get to My real thoughts and feelings. He thought I didn’t care and started assuming things about me. We only just met too. Then I felt guilty for upsetting him and hurting his feelings that I felt sick to my stomach. Took time for me to sort those thoughts and get to the fact that it wasn’t as big a problem as I was making it. Over thinking. Often feeling responsible for how others feel. 🤦🏽♀️ I only recently learned about Empaths and didn’t know that this is what I was all my life. I didn’t know that what I can do had a name. I’m still learning. 🌸
Thanks for the insight on trouble saying no. The idea of people pleasing or being a people pleaser is inaccurate for an empath. This helped me understand that.
I'm trying to value myself and my boundaries more and more as i always have a hard time doing it🥺🥺
same
Me too
Nice job! Im super proud of you! Keep at it, i had to struggle with the same thing, im sure you can do it!!! Dont worry if it takes a long time, nothing in life happens immediately. Keep it up! :D
I don't value myself I guess that's why I've always had partners who treat me badly oh and why I'm so quick to resort to violence
honestly same but we got this bestie!! its hard but we'll get there ^^
I always felt like a weird sensitive freak for being just like this....but thanks to this channel I know I'm not alone and I can see the bright side of being an empath!
being labeled/called seen as an "empath" makes me feel like I'm in some sci-fi movie and I'm part of the small percentage who were born with insane superpowers /pos /lh
All of these have affected me for 53 yrs now. My mom is the hardest to say no to. I get twisted inside even when I know the no is needed for my well being. Guilt is hard to deal with that situation. I love my mom and she has told me over the years how overly sensitive I am...she has no clue how minor manipulation affects me. I have learned to set boundaries and even ask for time to think about it before I give an answer either way. This has helped me navigate my schedule to where I give myself permission to stop and think if I can actually devote the ENERGY required to fulfill a request. It as been a relief from the stress of being put on the spot.
The struggle "be too sensitive to the violence" got me way too much, my family always watch the news when they eat and they always try to make me go eat with them, but I can't handle hear that the rest of someone were found in some creepy place, someone got kidnapped, someone were murdered and go on with the nightmares, that just ruin the rest of my day, but I have never try to explain them cause I thought it was a nonsense of mine, I'm glad it wasn't
(I'm still on the way of learning English well so if there's any mistake sorry and if you tell me how I fix it and learn, thanks)
How do you deal with it short of leaving or avoiding it? (Asking for someome else)
@@sybrandwoudstra9236I don't know if I can do it short so sorry in advance, Whenever I can leave I leave, but if I can't leave, the bad feelings are overwhelming and I end up in panic, I always use the oversensitivity against it self; most likely the people around me are more calm than I am so I focus on them and the good feelings, it that isn't the case I focus on where I am, that is normally a save place for myself, in the worst of the cases I end up in a corner but as long as I can feel fine back again I'll do what I feel I need, also I'm starting to be more open about this with my love one's and that a good way too, even a better one
@@ayrey9768 It was just the right length and contained usefull information. Copied the message with the snipping tool and put it in Google Drive to send to a number of friends.
@@sybrandwoudstra9236 I'm glad it was useful to you and I give my best wishes to your friends, I hope this can be useful to them too
I avoid both the news and horror/slasher films/non-combative violent scenes in films for the same reason. It does me no good having that on replay for days on end, especially when my brain insists on being the victim of whatever horrible thing happened and trying to relive their last moments.
It’s nightmare fuel.
Sometimes I feel emotional things and also like, if someone's crying my eyes start to water, and if someone's hurt I feel it
i always feel responsible for peoples struggles.. and i feel like im a bad/useless person when i cant help out
also whenever i watch the news about tragedies i always start crying and i start thinking about it for a whole week after.
and i hate when ppl are like “worry about yourself” or “its out of your control”
like im a human being and im capable of change and i just want to change everything that goes wrong in the world
I really needed to hear this, thank you ❤
I have a high amount of empathy and it's both a blessing and a curse. I love harder and hurt harder. It's to a point where I just cannot comprehend why a person would choose hate over love. And it hurts me seeing all the hate in the world. I frequently have to take breaks from reading news, or twitter, or anything like that. The bad ones can make me cry sometimes and they tend to ruin my day, or at the very least bring the whole day's mood down.
I mean, I wouldn't want to be hurt, so why would I purposely want to hurt others? I sit and wonder to myself why there are so many people that don't make that connection? Why don't people see that people are people? The world needs more empathy. Maybe not to my degree. It's painful. But to a degree of tolerance at the very least. If only...
And yes I know this is not a new or hot take. But it's just the way I feel. I love love. And people. No matter how much I've been hurt I just want to see the best in them.
Amen
Yes!!!
I’m not an empath, but i’ve been called “too sensitive”, and i can easily tell when someone is lying. but i don’t really act like a therapist, i try to balance it with my friends from normal convos to convos about mental health and how their doing and how i’m doing as well.
Do you feel like you soak up others emotions?
same
You're probably a highly sensitive person
@@musicals4thesoul Let's not try to draw such conclusions from small pieces of information. They might be an HSP, but their way of handling emotions may also just be a regular part of their personality
You seem unbearable to be around
All of those points are true. Being highly sensitive to others' emotions is something which is not appreciated often. People keep taking advantage of you and finally despite all your efforts to help and empathise with others, you are considered weak. You are dismissed as "too sensitive". Kindness and compassion are strengths of an empath.
I’m an empath, I find it hard when I know someone doesn’t want my help even though I try my best to make them feel better. It breaks me… I also read negative people very easily even if they are showing no signs of distress or need to escape from a situation. I also hate watching the news… I love being alone because I don’t have to deal with the emotions of others along with the energy drain of the pressing matters of trying to fix their problems. I sometimes but rarely get so overwhelmed overtime that I just straight up have an emotional break and I explode with either rage or a crying fit. I also can’t help but want to help people who really need it.
Me: Struggling to understand my own emotions
Psych2Go: EMPATHS ARE PEOPLE WHO CAN UNDERSTAND OTHER PEOPLES EMOTIONS AS THEY WERE THEIR OWN!
Actually, ironically, despite being an empath myself, while im really intune with other's emotions, i struggle with my own. When it comes to myself and what im feeling, im often at a loss
Not completely understand just feel them. And sometimes I have a hard time placing my own emotions so when Im feeling someone else's intense emotions it can get confusing. Like I can tell they upset but at what idk until they tell me
@@RosieGoldie85 it can be hard to pinpoint your own emotions when your constantly dealing with everyone else's. Only know that I've learned to set boundaries and do mind exercises that I have been able to kinda figured out myself but it's still a process
@@lunawolfheart336 yeah, exactly. Ive been getting therapy, and its honestly a really easy process to figure myself out. The only problem is that i was doing it alone. I need someone to bounce ideas off of and someone who can ask the right questions. Most of the things ive figured out about myself i did basically on my own, i just didnt know where to look, so having someone ask the right questions to get you looking in the right places is really important. After that, i can basically do the rest. Its like a puzzle, making a bunch of connections, putting things together and figuring out what caused them. Once i know where to look, and have the time to look, its fairly easy. The problem is knowing where to start
When I watch a movie I can understand the feelings of every character. I never really hate the bad guys because often they have good motives. After the movie I have to think a lot about it and have to talk to others, but they are often just annoyed.
Yes, omg! I'm always exhausted after movies, because so many emotionally loaded things happen
Actually you sound very interesting! I am not an empath (I think), but I love to get invested in a movie, and if its good, I really enjoy spending some time after the movie discussing the story, characters, and themes with the people who saw it with me! But too many people I know either fall asleep during or immediately after the movie, or talk a lot during it, or aren't paying close attention, and its frustrating. But I love them and they have a right to their own viewing style. I wish I knew more people who wanted to discuss movies with the same level of investment though
Yesssss i am an empath and I always feel bad for the bad guys in movies :( I never want to admit it tho because I fear that the people around me will judge me hahah
I get really sad, whenever I hear on the news or someone say that someone has died or a lot more people. Even if they're complete strangers and I don't even know how they look like nor do I know their backstory or personality, I still feel deeply upset.
OMG!
ALL OF THESE ARE SPOT ON POINT!!! I have STRUGGLED ALL MY LIFE with everything that has been talked about HERE..
I am STILL working on Myself..
Totally in TEARS now😭😭😭😭
Being an empath myself it's hard to carry other peoples emotion as you feel the same pain as the person and you want the pain to end somehow but you can't do anything. It's a scary place to be in.
My life summed up…heheh
My life story.
Yes. You feel so helpless and just want to take their pain away.
You need to grow up in a slum, worry about your next meal then others emotions
gosh, i think it's a gift. i wish more people would have this gift... wouldn't our world be so much more amazing...
I mean a world where everyone tries to understand each other would be very great.
if everyone has it it no longer is a gift
@@noobjitsu1743 that isn't necessarily true...
I know right 🤧
@@noobjitsu1743 I dont view it as a gift at all.
The part about people calling you hypersensitive is so true... I could picture those people who said that to me when I was just more compassionate.... It really hit when you said "more power to you"....
Thank you for the video ❤️
So just today, I’ve found out I’m an empath. I always called myself weird for feeling extreme sad emotions about single minor things, whether it be a empty water bottle being kicked to the curb, or even just a blank piece of paper being ripped to shreds. But no, that was just my empathy.
Me, an INFP with a high empathy level: oh yeah, this is big feel time
PLEASE IM THE SAME WAY 😭
same!!!
Truee
hey, twin!
SAME
If you see this, be kind to each other. Yes that includes yourself too!
Care about yourself as much as you care about others, its important after all as you cannot give what you do not have.
Random saying time!
"If you love something let it go, if it comes back to you then it will be yours forever, but if it doesn't come back, then it was never meant to be". hope this rambling session will help at least one person figure out what they need to with help from this
Feeling like you care so much about someone else reactions to the point you get anxiety is definitely an empathetic feeling. I find myself stuck between caring and guarded in today’s world. It’s a complicated feeling and no one in my life understands but me
I'm an empathic medium and it leads me to deal with alot of things, after watching this I can positively say you hit every nail on the head! It's crazy how relatable this is
True!
Just curious do negative things hide from you?
@@beccawise7216 Could you elaborate a bit please? I don't quite get what your asking.
@@ultimateree1007 negative seems to run and hide from me I was wondering if it was my empathic ability or something else
@@beccawise7216 So you don't have negative things happen to you often?
So, I was just being a genuine empath all my life and nothing was wrong with me!?
Oh! And that music, was too amazing!
yes i relate to everything and mostly when being taken too advantage of
Yes yes and yes. I’m mentally, physically, and emotionally drained from trying to please others and make them happy 😢
I can relate. I've been this entire year thinking, should I stop thinking about others and do what I want and focus on myself. I've learned this year that to help others the best, you need to be on your best.
P.S. Empathic is a gift for me. Sometimes it feels like a curse, but as we know our cruel world, nothing is perfect. You cannot make progress without feeling pain. That's unfortunately how life works. And a message to sisters, brothers and besties: Always stand up for your beloved ones! Parents aren't always there to help us so be the responsible for your little siblings and the ones that need help
When it talked about the sensitive emotion parts, I really felt it because I am usually part of a friend group who are usually frustrated in life most of the time. And I try to set a smile as best of I can. But sometimes it usually affects how I feel because I get overwhelmed by negative emotions so I wouldn’t even speak when that happens (unless it’s urgent). Other times I hide how I feel which is a bad habit to have (because I told that I was being too sensitive when for once I finally talked about my feelings). But nowadays whenever I have to be face with these negative emotions, I just ignore them and focus on the things that make me happy. If it gets too overwhelming for you to handle, spend some time for yourself. You deserve it :)
As an Empath I can relate to these. Especially when I was just starting 8th grade. I had a terrible time and I thought I just got depression but happily didn't. I just needed to take a 7 day break from my class and others. Even loved ones. This is fortunately the bottom of the iceberg. I can really relate to these struggles. Thanks for making this video!
It's so true about saying no. I'd rather feel my own emotion for doing something I don't want instead of dealing with the disappointement of the other person. 😕
When someone is like "oh no it's totally fine don't worry" and is genuinely not mad, it's really helping. 😇
I'm an empath and i can relate to all the issues, but like you said the key is learning to be aware of yourself. It isn't the easiest and sometimes you can flop but at least you have to try to learn self care.
Thank you for making this video, it really helps to know that I’m not the only one feeling challenged in this way♥️
Oh my god thankyou for teaching me about empaths I am one and I always felt like it was my fault for being too emotional. But now I feel loads better. ❤️❤️❤️
Fun fact: these videos makes our days better
The need for alone time is *real* my dude. I’m fortunate enough that my social circle has come to accept and understand that. It took a really really long time for everyone to get that I’m not excusing myself because I don’t like them or want their company, I just need time to ‘recharge’ so that I can come back with enough resources to genuinely enjoy my time with the group, and since I tend to ‘radiate’ how I’m feeling, it’s a better experience for them too.
I got called too sensitive recently and it was nice to have that reassurance that i shouldn’t apologize for being compassionate about the world
Love u guys! I hope everyone is doing okay!
As an Empath i have to say I struggle with a lot of them I do like vanilla horror movies but in general I stay away from violence and I've been labeled as hyper sensitive cause I'm constantly feeling my family's emotions
Im sorry to hear that, i hope things get better for you!! Just keep on being yourself and finding ways to get around the drawbacks, you can do it!!!
Hmm..
The thing with the news is soo true, as a child I was kind of forced to watch the news when I was at my grandmas.. and it shocked me to the bones every time and as I grew older I tried to distance myself from it but she really didn't understand what the big deal was. It's important to know about the world appereantly.. Nowadays I only check on the news when I'm fully charged and ready.
We never learned skills on being a empath. Skills of self compassion we all need. I am glad you posted this. i found i feel drained on video platforms so i don't do video blogs now. i write and i do better.. Social media been so overwhelming. We have a hard time with liers and scammers. it drains us. Proud empaths we need to be.
Psy2go is like a breathe of fresh air thank you from the community ❤️❤️❤️
Thanks for being part of the community. :)
I'm breathing the deep darkness that envelops my soul.
ua-cam.com/video/GqAquwaXaGc/v-deo.html.
I can feel others emotions but I don't try to make them feel better. I've never been good at supporting others, I've learnt that it's much easier to observe the world without changing it.
Finally,someone I can truly relate to
I read this and I think of my oc-
I'm so cringey
_Your perspective is not like mine but as you can see it is something I find interesting to consider_
Well sure, its easier, but is it better? You do you of cource, im not saying you're choice is wrong, but you should really think about whether you're okay with it, whether you can be proud of that decision
@@RosieGoldie85 I've done just fine so far
@@Lesopal alright then, thats good. I wont try to bullshit you with any sort of morally righteous stuff. All that matters is that you can be proud of your decisions. I hope you have a good day! :D
Sometimes it feels lonely to be an empath. It feels as if no one understands and it makes me feel terribly isolated yet I’m only at peace when I’m alone
finally something I can refer to whenever needed. It is beyond exhausting explaining why "something is wrong" with me...
I literally needed this video, to understand a bit more about how explain my empathic nature to me job.
I am exactly like this, and the worst part is because I can't say no, everyone just takes advantage
Ikr same.
Can relate to all of them, but since I finally realized what is "wrong" with me and embraced it, I have learned how to say no, how to protect myself and how to live a good life with minimum negativity. I pick my people extremely carefully.
YES YES AND MORE YES!!! It’s constant exhaustion for me.
As an empath I have definitely felt all of these before and it really does take a lot of effort to work on these. Like I used to be very unsettled with violence within anime and it prevented me watching a lot of shows. But with my gf by my side and easing me into more intense anime while making sure I am okay it has allowed me to watch more stuff that not even a year ago I would have been able to watch
1. Being highly sensitive to others emotions 0:59
2 Needing alone time 1:52.
3. People taking advantage of you 2:20
4.knowing when some is not okay 3:06
5.being sensitive 3:51
6. Violence is deeply up setting 4:25
Rip me
I experience all of these...all the time. My mom says all the time that when I was young I was a peacemaker but then I grew up. Honestly, as I've gotten older, it's harder for me to make everyone happy all the time and I just can't do it anymore. Thank you for this video! I'm grateful that I actually am not alone in this.
oh finally, someone gets that first one. sure could be useful for work, but if there’s a crazy situation where people overworked you can feel that burn out even though you’re not having it as much as work harder to help as much as you want to.
it’s so messed up though “ sorry I’m so stressed and tired because you’re stressed and tired”
The oversensitive one really hit home for me. Ever since we raised chickens in biology I havent been able to eat eggs, because whenever I do I just imagine the adorable little fluffballs I saw birne. I used to feel stupid for it because my family kept mocking me for it, saying I was being a little bitch, but I still stand by it.
Hey some people can't eat meat for similar reasons Wich is completely valid.
Yes I related to it all Love the little snippet about the horror shows.. I can’t watch them and nobody understands why.. thank you for validating my feeling ❤
You ain’t alone there. That shit is horrific, and not because of the scares. I’ll never get the one SAW scene I watched (out of curiosity) out of my head for the rest of my life. It’s like a waking nightmare whenever my brain randomly recalls something abhorrent like that.
I even have to leave the room for really bad scenes like executions, suicides, and tortures in movies. Deaths in combat doesn’t faze me, but deliberate, unavoidable, or carefully-inflicted death… no. _Hell_ no. I don’t need that on replay in my brain in first-person VR for the next 48 hours, thank you very much.
@@OneBiasedOpinion my guy, the first-person VR thing is so relatable! r/eyebleach is such a godsend for us empaths!