10 Signs You're A Genuine Empath
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- Опубліковано 19 бер 2022
- Empaths are often overlooked, misunderstood, and undervalued, in spite of their incredible gift to understand and connect with people on a much richer and deeper level. Why? Values like drive, ambition, and competitiveness come to replace empathy in today’s success-oriented society. This is why being an empath is uncommon these days.
Want to know more about what certain traits and characteristics make an empath? Watch this video!
Did you know that "dark empaths" exist? Watch this video to find out more: • 5 Signs of a Dark Empa...
Writer: Chloe Avenasa
Script Editor: Vanessa Tao
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References:
Kossak, M. (2015). Attunement in expressive arts therapy: Toward an understanding of embodied empath. Charles C Thomas Publisher.
Greiner, J. (2018). Empath: Understanding Your Gift, Protecting your Energy and Finding Peace in a Chaotic World. Roland Bind.
Schott, M. R. (2020). The Empath: Individual and Socio-Cultural Considerations of Deep Empathic Sensitivity (Doctoral dissertation, University of West Georgia).
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Sweet
Can you heart this I love your videos! What’s an empath tho?
Both? Can't decide :3
Literally eating butter popcorn and a pop tart right now
0:48 You're highly intuitive
1:19 You're highly conflict-averse
1:43 You're everyone's "therapist" or "life coach"
2:13 You need time to recharge
2:37 You tend to self-isolate
3:03 You dislike crowded spaces
3:26 You're overwhelmed by intimacy
3:54 You have difficulty setting boundaries
4:20 You feel like you don't fit in a lot of the time
1 month ago?!?!??
@@Ssamar.r they joined the channel so they got to see the video earlier
Am I a true empath then? That’s nice. 😊
Ty
@@lotspire ohh ty
As an empath I’m so happy a fellow empath can empathize with my empathic feelings
🥰😆🙌
The worst part trying to explain it someone sound like a fake super power so ppl often think you bs it
Yo dawg
@@larsthemartian9554 wat it do wats happenin
🤣 10/10 comment
Ive always been highly empathic and hit all the boxes with this vid. Being an empath is a double-edge sword. Caring too much and being empathic about things that are too powerful can rip you apart.
Exactly
Totally, i felt that :(
When i look at the Top, where all the successful people are.. i see NO mexicans 😪it makes me sad. I review weed products on my UA-cam channel for a living.. trying to make it out !
felt that on another level 😔
It can be draining sometimes :(
It’s a gift and a curse. People tend to take advantage of us
YES.
Had fake friends and currently prob still got them in outer circle
Yup
This just hit home hard. Not only do I relate to all ten of these, but I almost cried on the last one. As another, all I can say is "Very true." I love the channel's content, and I'm so glad I randomly discovered it a good bit ago. Thank you, and keep up the great work!
@@watynecc3309 Most definitely and indeed. Like, I try so hard to value the fact that I am kind and have always lived to help people, yet I hate that I have to feel bad about being so me in moments. It's very up and down, and all the key points of this video just puts in perspective a lot.
Please don’t cry . We appreciate your support so much!
@@Psych2go Aww! Thank you so much! I don't know how to explain the responsiveness other than some type of hypersensitivity to certain things. And I appreciate your kindness so much.
@@watynecc3309 Oh my gosh yes! I forgot all about that! I am an INFJ-T, The Advocate. And man! It just makes me feel that much more isolated and alone in this world, it's crazy. But you called it, that too is a thing for me.
Yes. Only empaths would feel the last one. ❣️❣️ And be proud of being one who think of others before ourselves. But, please stay strong. Bcoz you should remain healthy in your mind to help others. Very useful content in this channel. Appreciate it.
I wondered for a while why I feel most at ease when my family members are all asleep, besides that being when I can get my "alone time" - I've begun to feel that it's because, when they're asleep, not only is that a sign of "peace" in the household (my family members are sleeping peacefully), but I'm also not being impacted by their emotional energies/wellbeing :o
I'm exactly the same.........I absolutely love my alone time......But feel very at ease when my family is sleeping and I am awake and alone.
Dude you just explained so much. This is why night time is the best me time.
I BLESS YOU FOR THIS BEAUTIFUL COMMENT, WHERE HAVE U BEEN ALL MY LIFE?? 😭😭😭
ME TOO OMGGG
That makes a lot of sense, i didnt think about that. I stay up hours later than anyone else and view it has my time and tend to get annoyed if anything runs into those hours
There are some points that I want to emphasize here, assuming that I am an empath. We can engage into conflict, but we only try to choose battles worth fighting. Some conflicts only drain you for the sake of toxicity, no room for improvement. Intimacy can also be applied to these, some people only drain you, energy takers, who don't care about you and are just pure selfish people. That's why, I learned the very hard way, and choose my circle because of this. Some people painfully hurt me, never apologized, and ruined me for no apparent reason at all. I choose people now, who will inspire and uplift my spirit. Toxic people are so common nowadays, best try to avoid them.
@CSIKK You see, I am still being bullied, and my privacy is still being invaded. You need to protect your friend, because he needs your support. You know him more than his bullies. Give him the assurance that he has someone by his side. I know the feeling, trust me. Talk to him. He will appreciate it. :)
P.S. No one deserves to be bullied. We all need respect and kindness. If he has done something wrong to someone, tell him to reflect into his actions. But, if he didn't do something wrong, tell him that it is not his fault, but the personality and character of the bully/ies are the problem. Thank you for reaching out!
@CSIKK You are a good friend, by the way! The world needs a lot of people like you! :)
So true, I am a empath and have anger management problems so I have been forced to use my anger as motivation to work harder
Very true! It also gets harder for those of us who have trust/vulnerability issues alongside being an empath as well (which leads to some of that self-isolation a lot too). Even the best people who aren't toxic can still (usually unintentionally or not) hurt others, because close vulnerable relationships can be complicated, and being in a vulnerable position with someone can be like gambling (and things can easily go south even if everything about the relationship seems right/healthy).
Source: I have some mild social anxiety (not to a degree I'm agoraphobic, but getting close to others is a struggle) and trust/vulnerability issues myself, and I have come to wonder if it's due to struggles with establishing emotional boundaries as an empath ever since I was a little kid (something I still struggle with in a different way as an adult). :(
Honestly, trying to watch the news as an empath is TORTURE. My parents always have it on and it hurts.. watching all those people suffer.. i can't 😥
Oml… I cannot agree more here! 😭 Most of the time I am willingly unaware of things that are going on around the world and all those atrocities and suffering, bc it just gets to my heart and drains me so much.. 😣 (as example what is going on right now in Europe and during the 1st year of covid)
10/10. Life as an empath in these times is really hard. Lately mostly. Imagine how awful it has to be to watch all these videos about Ukraine all the time, knowing you're powerless, feeling the pain of these people. I had in this month already 6 serious meltdowns, one even with suicide tendencies. And I was fine before for half a year. This is a lonely path... *sigh*
Yes we all are powerless and all this news is really bad for empaths but all we can do is have hope and we all are lonely inside you deserve so much love
Exactly, we take in the world around us and it’s energy constantly we have to learn to jump over and avoid the bad energy waves lol as if we can see them but we really do though just like watching the news. we just have to take the negative and turn it inside out into a positive.
And knowing someone online who currently lives near that whole conflict makes it even worse... it just hurts knowing there's nothing I can do to realky help them in any way besides waiting it out and hoping for the best
Gratitude is literally the only thing that helps the soul and avoiding the toxic news is the other. Don’t let these paid puppet new anchors use their fear mongering on you (paid for by the corporate conglomerates) to ruin your beautiful soul , your better and smarter than that . ❤️🙏
It’s okay to avoid the news if you’re an empath. It’s more damaging emotionally, to an empath. Please seek out help so you can get better sooner. God Bless You!
0:48 - Sign 1: You're highly intuitive
1:19 - Sign 2: You're highly conflict - averse
1:43 - Sign 3: You're everyone's "Therapist" / "Life Coach"
2:13 - Sign 4: You need time to recharge
2:37 - Sign 5: You tend to Self - Isolate
3:03 - Sign 6: You dislike crowded spaces
3:26 - Sign 7: You're overwhelmed by intimacy
3:54 - Sign 8: You have difficulties setting boundaries
4:19 - Sign 9: You feel like you don't fit in a lot of the time
4:41 - Sign 10: You have a hard time not caring
I hope this helped 😄
The cult has arrived…
Totally colorful...period!💜💜💜❤
This is me.. But sometimes empath also needs validation
Thank you! I appreciate you!
Thank you.
This is ironic my trauma turned me into an Empathetic person bc I never want anyone to go through what I go through
I feel like if you have the INFJ personality type ( as I do) you’re automatically some what an empath, or at least on the spectrum of it. Marked most of the boxes, although some of them were yes but not really..that’s why I think it’s a spectrum haha. Love your videos so much! Truly inspiring 💙
Same thing with INFP types
U true bro
I am an INFJ, and I am empathetic to a high degree ^-^
@@solonada9602 Imo it's a blessing and a curse
@@matthewyang7893 It is :( You can't help but to feel somewhat sympathetic for everyone involved one situation one way or another, but at the same time you know who's really good and who's not
I'm a normie myself but one of my friends is very empathetic and based on this an empath, the video and comments gave me some insight on her I wouldn't have otherwise had. Thanks gang!!
The personal therapist thing hit so hard.. really, every single one of them did- but especially the therapist and boundaries.
Not knowing when to say no or being better at telling somebody I couldn’t help them through every emotional thing on their side has always been hard for me. And I’ve been sadly used for my ability to empathize and having a listening ear ready.
Thankfully, I’m out of the relationships with supposed friends that took me only for therapy and their need to control. I’m still growing from that, and I still suffer, but I’m getting better a little bit over time.
Being an empathetic is definitely nothing to be ashamed of or hate yourself for, both which I’ve felt for letting myself get used and not being as good in fun social situations like parties and meet and greets.
Our abilities give us more then they take us down, and you all deserve to know that you can grow and improve from the hurt you struggle within yourself and the ones you feel for everyone else.
It’s hard, but it’s possible. You aren’t alone.
Agree hit me hard too. I was always a Personal therapist since I was really small child . I know things about people , my parents to strangers, that no kid should ever know. I would get punished for emotional outbursts. And told to Toughin up if I cried even if I was sick or hurt. I had difficulties connecting with other kids.
I feel this so much I’m a personal therapist for friends and family and some need it more than others and it hurts me so much because they don’t realize what they are doing to me but I hate letting people down and always feel like me speaking up for myself would cause conflict so I just don’t answer as much anymore. It’ll leave them feeling some type of way but I can’t worry about nobody else anymore I’ve done it too much
I’m not alone. But that’s the problem, isn’t it?
Thanks. Your comments have helped me.
Caring about others and their feelings is one of my favorite ways to show people that I care. Sometimes all someone needs is a listening ear and understating 💜💜
so true,but such a person is so hard to get
@@tonimachowdhury2463 they don't exist cause nobody cares
This is why we have such an amazing superpower being empaths 🤗
suggestions: video about the OCEAN type personalities and what they mean aand video about double empathy problem
What’s the ocean type??
What’s that
@@nillawafabutblack5604 I believe it's a type of Personality Test, with OCEAN being an acronym for different traits, with each person getting a different rating (in percentage) on each of the traits.
I'm not sure what each means, but I think it's
O: Openness
C: Contentiousness
E: Extraversion
A: Agreeableness
N: Neuroticism
Hope this helps!
I hate that there’s the kind of “pick me” category for being an empath, when it’s an actual thing haha. I don’t really tell anyone but I’ve had all my therapist tell me I’m very empathic/an empath. And it’s crazy all this stuff is SPOT on!! It is really tough bc I want to be social but it’s so draining, the crowded spaces is very true as well. Its just all so overwhelming sometimes.
I hope I can learn how to deal with all of this Bc it does hold me back a lot which is hard
same here, I am most likely an empath, but it really doesn't show in me because I came from a religion that's saying things like you have to only show happy emotions, and that combined with me having diagnosed autism most likely led to me shutting off my emotions on the outside, but on the inside, I have constant and very strong emotions running through me all the time
I understand your struggle and you've done well! you got a big heart! I know it's tiring but hang in there :)
Bruh I feel you and to make it worse i dont even have friends they all just use me because I don't know where to draw the boundaries but I've promised myself if somethings bothering or hurting me I'd stop doing it. It's just soo hard to find friends I hate it I have no one of my own or something.
I hope u aren't mad by seeing this long of a message I kind of just throwed all my emotions in there cause I haven't talked to someone about my true feelings......
@@beowolf9480 what kinda religion is that? You gotta feel the feelings, they’re all natural!
@@gektoast4968 I do feel all emotions, but I was only allowed to express positive ones, as for what religion it was, well, that would be mormonism
all this time i though i was a just a introvert. but now i realized i am actually an empath. thank you for telling who i am~♡ now i feel better knowing me and understanding myself better~♡
We are glad you found it useful!
I’m a nice person, I care about others and really understand others by reflecting on past experiences of mine, I think that very well proves that I am a “genuine empath”
Yay!
Came for lols and found out something new about myself. All of these have hit directly into myself. My cousin has a hard time voicing how they feel so I remember a hard discussion where they brought me into the room and I apparently translated how they felt perfectly into words. There are times where I just feel overwhelmed entirely after being around multiple people, and thanks to ur types of introverts i just assumed it was social introversy. This explains it alot more.
Glad you were able to get insights!
Being really empathic has given me so much wonderful things like friends that I trully care for as much as I would do for my family but has also given me somewhat of a burden sometimes when I feel like I am everyone's psychologist (especially with a narcissistic "friend" that I had). But at the end of the day, I appreciate that people choose to show me their weakest side around me because they trust me. Because helping those who I really care for by trying to cheer them up, comforting them or just listening to what they want to tell me it's one of the things that brings me the most joy in life.
if you read up to this point, thank you for lending me your time to read about my life and I hope you have a very nice day :D
I relate to everything especially the always caring part, no matter how hard i try i still cant hate the ones who hurt the most
I thought I can't feel empathy anymore like I used to..
but after watching this made me realized that I'm drained from people constantly looking for me to listen to them. Every time I avoid them, I can't help but feel guilty and regretful not being their for them. I became tired being affectionate to them because I thought that it's unfair how they don't return back to me the affection and care I gave them...
I am definitely an empath, I have everything; although due to this I've been taken advantage of a few times. I just can't stop sympathizing with people, I'd always ask for both sides in a story; I would even sympathize for villains because it could have been stopped with some guidance. I pay attention to people & while that's a good thing a lot of times it ends me up in situations that overwhelm me which leads to burn outs haha.
Life is Strange: True Colours. I love that game! Alex Chen is my favourite character! Me, an empath sensing there are other people who find this relatable.
i feel like the “therapist” and not being able to know when to stop giving themselves to someone go hand in hand for me. i completely shut down on one friend because they were being super vulnerable around me and their burdens were making me increasingly more depressed. i’m trying to help them set boundaries now so i can live my life and know that they’re happy in theirs
My intuition about people tends to be spot on and it sucks when I know someone’s boyfriend is not a good dude but I don’t get involved like that so I just have to watch it play out then be there to help with the aftermath. I help when they come to me but otherwise I have found it’s not good to get involved. It still sucks to know before everyone else what kind of person someone really is when it comes to negatives.
I've been wondering why I'm so rude whenever someone shows their feelings in front of me. Turns out I'm not a bad person, it's just that my empathy completely drains me and makes me feel pressured. Thanks 💜
This is the comment I look for. Despite the fact that I am an empath, I still feel the pain of others and sometimes even lash out at them with the sadness and anger they are feeling.
YES I know exactly what you are talking about. If someone is having a rough day it can tarnish even the most pure days for me. Its frustrating to be the cup that catches all the emotional runoff of everyone around you.
Honestly, same here. Lately I’ve been very overwhelmed and don’t have the energy left to be filtered or fake happiness. Glad you feel it too I guess? Hope it gets better though.
Glad I found my people! Take care of yourself, you guys, and don't feel bad for it. It's ok to be "selfish" sometimes. You come first
@@saltycracker4623 You say that, but I'm willing to bet none of us will do that. Lol
"You feel like you don't fit in a lot of the the time."
That one hit the hardest for me.
I've always known I'm a very empathetic person, but I've never called myself an "empath". Seeing how closely I identify with every single one of these points - some of which I had previously put down to simply being my introversion, though it now appears to be a combination - it looks like I may have to call myself that after all. Thankyou for helping me become more aware of myself.
All of these are true to me. I even cried at the last one, along with the one about not fitting in. I have a really hard time making friends and school gives me a lot of anxiety from how many people are there. Whenever the teacher tells us to pick partners, I just sit there. I feel like a burden whenever I do something that makes me feel guilt; it sits in my stomach for all of my life. My friends don’t understand why I care so much about them, whether I’m telling them to get more sleep, or to make sure to eat breakfast. Sorry sorry, I know it’s a little jumbled but I hope people who watch this can relate, so I’m not alone.
I can relate. You are not alone ❤. You'll hopefully find someone with your sensitivity to be friends with, and it will be a great, true friendship!
I had lots of friends, I guess, but I suppose that mostly they were " strong aquantainces." 😂
Not entirely one sided, but I know most people don't try to give it the energy I would. ❤
I used to check all the boxes, but I’d say I’ve mastered my empathy in a way that it doesn’t affect me badly anymore and I am an even better support for others. What I still find difficult though is to be understood by people. I can litterally count the times when someone gave me empathetic advice. It felt like finally being able to breathe. Empathy is a gem indeed. I think the reason that it’s so important for me to give it is because I know what it’s like to miss it.
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I relate to every single word that you said
I would love to get to know you are you interested in getting to know each other ?!
I always knew i was an empath, but this really confirmed it, thank you
Between the deep divides of the past decade politically (in USA), the pandemic as a whole and the conflict and sorrow it has brought, and now the atrocities being committed in Ukraine, being an empath has been an immense burden. My depression and anxieties have skyrocketed recently, and even though I’ve tried to cut myself off from getting too invested in global issues I have no control over, I can’t help it sometimes and everything is overwhelming me. At the same time I keep finding new health issues cropping up, both in my own life and in my friends and family.
I don’t dream about a brighter future anymore, all I hope for some is some sort of reprieve.
Yes I agree with you.
I think that because I find it so hard "to not care", that leads me to always being there for everyone. I don't really identify with number 7 for that reason. No one really complains about me not responding or missing calls. I try to give myself some space and time, but I really really care, and I need to hear what my friends and family have to say. So I end up incredibly overwhelmed lol
Ok, I test positive for most of these. It's weird hearing myself be explained to me! Keep up the good work, this stuff is really interesting!
Question: Has any one else who realized they are empaths ever thought to themselves, "this ability could be used for evil?" Sometimes I wondered if there were people out there who used their keen sense of emotional intuition to manipulate people instead of helping them.
Psych2Go has a video on dark empaths. Darker personalities x empathy = dark empath.
Yeah but we’re to smart to do bad lol then it’ll be impossible to live with the guilt after 😂
Eh..
Yeah of course, I could rule the world
If I wanted. Lol
All the time, and then I feel bad for thinking that way
Oh my god the last one hit close to home. I was mistreated and pretty much bullied in highschool by my “friends”. I’m not with them anymore, but as soon as I can sense them feeling something negative, or when I see them going through something, I can’t help but feel bad for them. I know I should feel happy for them when something bad happens because they bullied me, but no matter how much I try, I can’t.
You just said my life the reason I’m always drained is because I’m always with people but I can’t say no and that I need time alone
@Riverz Wyte well I’m happy for you but no thanks I’m okay I’m going to see someone to help me out already
I already knew I had all of these, both because of my MBTI type and understanding how I am just in general. What was extremely funny to me though is the one about being conflict-adverse. Lemme tell you I HATE drama. I literally take into account how to avoid any drama with every conversation and word I say just to avoid having to deal with social problems with other people.
Same I HATE drama and conflict and causing people to be mad at me
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Thanks Psych2go you gave me an interest in Psychology and I hope your channel will continue growing
HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!
I've started going to counselling and the day before I went I distinctly remember saying to myself 'I wish I could save everyone out there struggling mentally' and the next day my therapist told me I'm saving people instead of supporting them, causing me to be a mess and stress too much. I'm also connecting with people so that when things go bad it puts a strain on me. It's lead to stress, anxiety and mild depression. To all you other empaths out there, you can't save them all! you are the most important person, make sure you take self-care days and try having more positive people around you.
Man, no wonder I know and have many friends that talk to me a lot. Also I do get eaten up when I can’t help things in pain. It feels like I I can rarely control it, and when the bell rings it over loads my brain with thoughts, and I am a gifted learner, which being a empath at the same time is like knowing to much about the person you just met. It has its ups and downs.
I relate to every aspect this video points out! Especially being in tune with other peoples thoughts and feelings. It’s like a sixth sense in a way, I can just intuitively know how someone is feeling just by being near them.
I suppose I’m a particularly strong empath, as I’d usually be clueless how do something up until I reach out to an expert on the subject, and then suddenly I’m talking with them on their level just by being in contact with them. It’s like I’m connected to their thoughts and wisdom when it happens, and it’s rather helpful for me during the learning process! Also, I’ve even felt a similar connection to my friends online, like I can feel their emotions while chatting with them, even when they’re hundreds of miles away. My theory is that all it takes for me is to have the other person in mind, and the internet acts as a sort of conduit.
For those who are empathic like myself, learn to practice daily meditation and spend some time alone and disconnected from the internet. It’s very helpful with regards to resetting one’s mind after being bombarded with everyone else’s life force daily.
Braggert
@@tomahawkfromscandinavia9406 To be honest, it's a blessing and a curse. I can't just switch it off when I please.
As a result, I get quite overwhelmed in large crowds, due to sensing hundreds/thousands of people all at once. Also, being adverse to conflict hurts relationships in the long run, because I don't address problems as they come up and set healthy boundaries. It takes me quite a lot of effort and courage to overcome that.
Your videos always help me to know the signs of anything and it helps my life more easier
We are just a cat!
Omg yess!! Reasons why I am training to be a therapist. The feeling drained a lot happens especially seeing clients. It's important that we do self care and try to focus on ourselves even if it's hard.
I be feeling so bad from withdrawing from friends but I realize that it’s to help me and my mental state. I be needing to recharge and sometimes that take day or days
Although I can relate to all of these characteristics, I could add one of my own. Easily bored with existence.
Wow, these really hit home with me - I was so shocked at the accuracy of it!! I experience all of these thing and that makes me feel so understood, thank you for helping me to know more about myself ✨✨
Thank you for watching!
It's really hard sometimes feeling other's emotions....it's overwhelming, if i see someone suffering it just doesn't leaves my mind until i help them.... i can't sleep.....i could relate with all of the ten points...i really like this channel.
I've always been somewhat of a therapist to my friends but have also always struggled with making the right ones, I seem to be drawn to people who struggle more emotionally and who take it out on me because I think they know I'm safe... Though it can be increadibly mentally and emotionally draining, sometimes even physically. Some of the things in this video hit really hard especially the feeling like I don't fit in anywhere and feeling unappreciated or misunderstood. I related to a lot to this video Thank you psych2go, your videos are always a good part of my day and your voice is always so relaxing to listen to, thank you❤
Well from my experience as a hardwired INFJ I can tell that being an empath is most of time hell on earth, particularly in this actual raw, soulless and technology-based (or let's say "ridden") modern world one has to live in. When watching a film, one has to skip any scene containing unjustified and gratuitous aggression due to the intolerable nature of it, and when it comes to animals or children being mishandled or tortured, well that is genuinely unbearable to the highest degree. But the main problem is that aggression per se is to a certain degree something natural, there are situations in life when diplomacy and the will to strive for the good of both parts simply does not apply so that conflict cannot be avoided, and this leaves you with an unbearable sense of impotence and keeps you wondering why this has to be like that. I do not recommend empaths to have pets, for when they die, well that is the closest thing to the end of one's own life, something no empath can overcome even after a long period of time after the passing away of that pet. And trying to mediate between two contending parts can be extremely energy draining, especially when those parts are driven by ulterior motives fuelling the dispute, that is, hidden reasons apart from the apparent ones which one can see and tries to harmonize so that the dispute may be settled. "You don't talk enough" is an ear-grinding sentence which keeps being thrown at you by everybody and leaves you with a sense of guilt 'cause of thinking one may be antisocial and "spiny" towards people till one realizes that nothing can be farther from the truth, it is just people around you who has no understanding about one's attitude towards life. We love small cozy spaces we can retreat to and daydream for hours on end, this mainly being our bedroom which we set to be as cozy and cushy as possible. Setting boundaries is nearly a mission impossible, you just hope that the person you are with at a given moment will eventually realize for him-/herself how draining his/her presence is and will leave you alone, but you can't tell him/her that so as not to be blunt. So, all in all, being an empath may be considered as being a very demanding quality with many drawbacks in view of the world we live in now. We just don't fit in.
One of the biggest drawbacks to being an empath is that because of your idealistic nature and tendency to give people the benefit of the doubt you can be totally clueless about the narcissists in your life who are deliberately manipulating you on a constant basis. Narcissists have such an alien thought process to an empath which is why they're so hard to spot. Because empaths are so giving they have a hard time imagining someone deliberately using their empathy against them in a malevolent way. The problem is, there are plenty of people who do that and are very good at spotting and manipulating empaths and hiding their true motives from them. Empaths have a high level of overconfidence in their ability to read others not realizing how easily they can be read by malevolent manipulators like narcissists, and psychopaths.
same; I always have to look away from certain "cringe-inducing" moments in movies, and I'm an INFJ
me,(an empath), sensing this video was about me
all jokes, I really appreciate all your videos! your videos help me understand myself and my feelings better
I'm also an empathy.
My sister always dispose her emotions and problems to me and I will listen all night without getting bored. I am like her safe locker where she can place anything. One time I asked her "why do you trust me so much? , do you not think that I may threaten you or blackmail you with this?"
And she replied " I know you won't and even if you done that I'll still come to you ". After that I have been even more excited in listening others =)
Checking every box here.
I often feel so sad and even ashamed that I can't help everyone, I have a hard time rationalizing that the emotions random people feel aren't relevant for me, and I do feel guilty that I'm just not the friend who regularly wants to spend time with people. I feel very much like an outsider. My dad doesn't understand that I can't just change my perspective on things, or tune stuff out like sounds/words, lights, emotions and atmosphere (I'm a HSP as well). Sometimes I don't even notice something is stressful because I feel overwhelmed *most* of the time. People don't even know how overwhelmed I am because I learned how to cope with it, so they only notice like 30% of my discomfort.
And yes, I'm an INFP/INFJ (literally 50/50 on the last letter) - have been called ISFP and in the past ENFP too tho, so idrk who to believe haha
Wow… I feel you on all this! INFJ here…
I can relate to all the things showed in the video. I know I am an empath. ♒☯️🎭🦉☮️🦊Have a wonderful Day everyone! 🌹
I relate to 9 of those 10 (except number 1) and yet I'm told people with Autism lack empathy. The Double Empathy Problem.
Jeesh what's wrong with people lol. I'm sure you're really empathetic you just keep doing you
ugh, that "no empathy" myth. We don't lack empathy, we just either have so much that we try to hide it or we have just as much empathy as allistics (a term for people who aren't autistic) but we have issues expressing it.
As an empath, I've learned to put up mental shields, which help me with all these issues
My partner and I are both empaths, him more strongly than me. Both of us are skilled at rechannelling our empathic energies to make a positive difference in the world; I've learned a lot from him because he's been doing it purposefully for so much longer. It's amazing for both of us have such a deep connection with someone who understands so intuitively!
So I'm right when I think people hate me :')
I think most infp people are empaths.
I could relate to all 10 of these. Kinda sad how empaths are the nicest people out there but still are misfits
INFPs and INFJs. I also related to all 10 and I'm an INFJ
I’ve always known I was an empath since I was a little girl. Sadly, all these traits fit me, especially the bad ones. Sometimes, I can feel an emotion in me from behind me. Someone is walking behind me and I can already feel the emotion inside them. Some people know about this and treat me like a fool. They think it’s impossible to feel other people’s emotions, yet the very few of us here know that’s not true. I also often draw people without smiles or frowns, just a line. What I’m trying to say is, empath or not, try to understand others. ❤
My first and only boyfriend, of 3 1/2 years, passed away in February 2021. Since then I've been on a survival mission. Thank you for always being here to help me. ❤️❤️
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so, i have a question. Is there a type of empath that doesnt feel excessive empathy? I feel like i can understand everyone elses emotions and can relate with other things said in the video, but i feel like i have a fluctuating amout of empathy for others. Id love to hear about this too!
I’m 100% positive it fluctuates for everybody, after all you cannot have opinions and treat everyone the exact same within you mind at the same time.
"Once an idiot will always be an idiot."
I’ve known I was an empath for the past couple of years, but still I feel like you’ve explained everything perfectly. Especially the last part. I feel like when I can’t help people it physically hurts me
I am thoroughly empathetic, kind, virtuous, and pious :3
I can vividly imagine how others feel like, and I am always willing to help the ones who are struggling in predicaments. Such activity vivifies and exhilarates me.
I’m a huge empath lol
I relate to it all...
I realised I was an empath only when I started crying for world news. Like crying for people whom I'm not at all related with or will never be able to see. I also realised that it's a bad thing for me if I don't learn to control the "bleeding heart".
I feel like watching many of these videos and relating to all of them on almost every single point is telling. I actually want to explore this with my therapist the next time I see her
I’m a therapist to all my friends and I relate to everything in this video, but normal empaths take time every now and then for themselves, after 10+ years of having no break I’ve been feeling really drained lately.
Being the therapist, or life coach extends past my friends and family. The customers I see at work all tend to want to share there life story with me, and all I want to do is get my job done. It gets tiring
I relate to this so deeply. I find is so hard to fit in with other people and make friends because I feel so different to them. Sometimes I wonder if the only way to fit in is to stop being me. But I can’t help if I’m overly sensitive or caring, shy and quiet, I feel so grateful to have this gift, even though it’s hard at times. I always do my best to make others happy and keep smiling ☺️
Thank you so much for this lovely video!
Didn't know this was a thing, always thought I was weird for being like I am , especially being unable to show much intimacy to loved ones(they always complain)
Sounds exactly like me. I’ve always felt different and I’ve always felt way more empathetic then the people around me.
Omggggg
I'm so glad I found out where I fit in...
I always tought I'm the only one like this! I tought I might have the hero complex or something. But now I know 1000% that I'm actually very empathetic!
Since I was young life made me more and more empathetic. I think this is a good thing as well as it is a bad thing.
I completely relate to the fact that I always want to help and If I can't I will feel drained, destroyed.
When it rains, I always get the snails out of the road so ppl don't step on them, etc!
And the most improtant part is the fact that I like helping the most when ppl don't know I did it. I don't like the attention or I don't want ppl to feel like they owe something to me.
Thank you for this video💕I feel understood in a deep level💝
Setting boundaries is the most difficult thing I am trying to learn. It just feels like saying "no" to someone (especially when in need) is so impossible. I hate hurting others, so I just wind up giving my time over to someone else's needs. I pride myself for being reliable and trustworthy in a world of flaky, selfish people. But now and then...some time to myself is all I look forward to. 😊
Holy shit this ticked all the boxes I feel like I understand everyone but I can never be truly understood by any one person I love being like this because I love helping people, but I hate when they won't let me, and people tell me I'm way too nice and my close friends always tell me i need breaks. Idk if this'll make sense to anybody but I want psych2go to know you have helped me and my friends in more way you could ever know tysm
I have to 100% agree with you there..! I would say that from all the comments I’ve read, this is the one that’s most accurate to me. Only except the part where you say your close friends tell you to take breaks… For me, it’s my mom. Aka the only person along with my gf that truly knows how I really feels with all these overwhelming feeling I absorb from my close friends and others, and are able to understand truly understand me.
But thanks to them I’ve learned since not so long ago that I also need to take care of myself too, and that I need to put myself boundaries. It is still hard, but knowing for once and finally that I am really understood by someone after letting it all out, seriously let out a lot of pressure and weight on my shoulders.
Everyone that feels empathy on a deep and bittersweet level should have someone that can really understand them to talk to! Otherwise you’ll just end up feeling crushed and on the verge of collapsing in pieces :( 💔 To anyone reading this, you got this!!! Tell yourself it is okay to think about yourself for once and connect with YOUR feelings, in order to act upon them and help yourself feeling better in life 💜
Me, an empath, sensing there might be some of y’all that may need these advises haha✨
I am a HUGE empath. Which has upsides and downsides. Upside is I can tell how people think down to the fiber. Even through simple texts at times. But rather than people getting drawn to me, it actually intimidates them. Which is terrible because that’s the last thing I want to be. And god forbid your empathy gets exhausted. That’s an absolute nightmare. Because it doesn’t shut off. You can’t decide what to pick up and what not to, you choose what sticks. And when your empathy gets exhausted 2 things happen.
EVERYTHING sticks, and because you’re exhausted, you assume it’s your fault and blame ALL of it on yourself. Feeling mad even though nothing should? Well something I did made me mad. Crying for no reason? Must be subconsciously bothered by my past. But it’s NOT that. And without the ability to recognize it, it essentially takes someone ELSE to notice and help you unravel. And it gets worse because the buildup can go so long depending on your tolerance.
I found my limit and LEGIT thought I was going to die. I am eternally grateful to my friend that got me out of that headspace. And now I can keep using my gift to the fullest.
My therapist told me I was, and this is spot on! I'm and INFJ and an Empath
I've had to take a break from a career in health care and have a alternate form of work to prevent me from just shutting down.
this is litteraly me. i sometimes really do have a hard time fitting in my friendgroup, and i often feel misunderstood. i also can’t handle crowded spaces, and i get really strong vibes and feelings from people around me.
Confirmed my feelings that I, too, am an empath. Good info. Thanks
Great...I'm genuinely an emphath. Felt this especially "you have a hard time not caring" .this has caused me some struggle in the past. Really had to find the balance between being selfless and taking care of myself too :')
Confirm. My intuition is very high, I can see everyone’s point of view and “potential” but couldn’t ever see my own potential. I tend to need emotional connection, and talk about it with others. I have high telepathy and can feel when people think about me… which is crazy. I am learning I am an empath today. I do however like to party, lol, crowds don’t make me uncomfortable but I do tend to relate to people based on their traumas and I need it to stop 🤦♀️
The thing with recharging and being an empath, is that you kind of absorb all of the feelings and it can get really stressful and overwhelming. This also applies to being sandwiches in between conflict and empathizing with both sides. The thing I always use to prevent the stress and overwhelmed feelings, is to put on my emotional sunscreen.
To put on emotional sunscreen is to “block” out the feelings. By ‘block’ I mean to “control” the intake of emotions you “absorb”. I put my emotional sunscreen on when I’m talking about something seriously emotional with a friend or family member, that way I don’t end up feeling the exact same way the person feels, or at least similar to how they feel. Of course you want to feel how they feel, but only to an extent.
In this sense, other’s emotions are like the sun, and when I put my emotional sunscreen on, I “control” how much feelings I am going to take in. If I don’t put my sunscreen on the sun will burn me, burn as in i will have taken in too much emotion. So putting o the sunscreen ensures that I don’t get overwhelmed or stressed when I listen to the feelings of my friends and family. Of course this doesn’t prevent having to recharge, but it sure does help with emotional intake and stressed and overwhelming feelings! :D
Hopefully my insight was helpful to whoever might have read this! Also ty for taking the time and reading this :D
This sent me through a roller coaster of negative emotions
Beautifully put..This describes so many people...
I relate to all 10 of the things you mentioned, and I also attract toxic people... I plan on doing CBT and setting healthy personal boundaries.
Good. Because before you can be of help to anyone else, you need to take care of yourself first.
I saw CBT and was like "hol' up" but it's cognitive-behavioral therapy lol
Yup im definitely a genuine empath after hearing this description of my life.
Thanks for the info, it's been very helpful😇
All of them! Confirmed! Thank you so much!
This is me all the numbers. Very fascinating. Thankyou x
That was a fantastic video! Mine has gotten stronger over the years. I'm just now learning that how I am isnt how most people are.
Totally me.....you know, my name means joy,and I have the word joy in my name....so everytime I feel like i can't help someone I love I tell myself: "if i'm truly joy....why can't I make people I love happy??"....I have all the 10 signs.... that's why I decided to study psychology so that I can help everyone more....And last but not least,this channel made me choose psychology,because helped me a lot.... THANK YOU!!
I really need to thank this channel for even existing since you really helped me realize a lot of things about myself I really can’t even describe how thankful I am
Your voice is so relaxing and so relatable, continue doing what you’re doing because it means a lot for some
The last one is true on so many different emotions. Usually I think I’m a doormat for my cousin and a good listener to her problems. Sometimes she makes me feel jealous and I can’t tell if it’s deliberate or not.
Sometimes a thought/s would cloud into my head that I know aren't mine and it covers my own thoughts that I can't help but give in to what they need because it eats me up until I do something about it