Why Hoarders Need Our Compassion, Not Judgement
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- Опубліковано 21 вер 2024
- This is part 2 of Julie's home. We will be sorting through piles in the living room and dining room and categorizing them. Some of the collections of particular items are fascinating!
Julie has had a lot of trauma in the past few years which has triggered some hoarding. She grew up in a hoarded home, but actually kept a clean and tidy home for the most part up until a few years ago when she had multiple traumatic events occur. Hoarding was one of the ways she dealt with the trauma.
We will talk about mental illness and hoarding disorder and what kinds of factors make you predisposed to hoarding and why chromosome 14 could be responsible for some of that.
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Bonnie I just love your videos. They are a nice combination of sped up and normal speed and you're humility is so charming.
This is how I remember: “stationEry” means “lEtters.” “StationAry” means it “stAys still.”
THANK YOU for not using filler music! Definitely prefer just the sped up sounds or voiceover.
I really admire what you do! I find myself getting angry with hoarders. I know its a mental health issue but they never seem to want to be treated and they put their family though so much misery. I'm impressed with how calm and compassionate you and your mom are.
I have had moments of frustration, for sure, but overall, mostly I just feel sad that this is such a struggle for them. 😞
Watch Midwest magic cleaning. So so compassionate and explains so much, and just oozes understanding and teaching that understanding to the world.
I've noticed a lot of mental health disorders seem to be triggered by trauma.
I think hoarding might be a kind of OCD. I saw a show about it and the brain scans of those with OCD are different to neurotypicals. Maybe the brain trying to protect itself against the trauma, but Its actually making things worse? Terrible to be locked inside yoir own brain like that.
When a hoarder asks for help they have to be willing to let stuff go otherwise nothing changes and no matter how patient you are it’s a waste of time. I think therapy is often needed. I do feel sad for other members of the family. This was a great one and a big difference was made x
Same. I've been watching cleaning channels for a few months, but while it's satisfying to watch, it also makes me irrationally angry sometimes. Probably because I grew up in a hoarder house and developed an obsessive need for cleanliness since. I know hoarding is a neurological disease, and so on, I watch Magic West Cleaning so I heard him talking about that stuff, but I can't get past it. He's right, while I wouldn't shovel everything into the trash like some people say, I also wouldn't go and do the work, so I keep my mouth shut and just watch them do it. I have nothing nice to say, so I say nothing and lurke in silence.
It’s a good mentality to have when getting out of this situation is that all this stuff means a chance to get to be abundantly generous. There are situations where essentials are REALLY needed. I help out with a group that twice a month has people lined up just to get a t-shirt and pants along with other items like shoes or coats, socks, etc and all these things come from donations. If someone can look at it as a privilege to get to be such blessing to people it makes it to have been worth it
That is a really good way of thinking 😀
Yes, I totally agree this is the best way to get rid of things.🤗 This is how my friend, Tisha, has been able to get rid of so much stuff is by giving it to people who need it because I usually run across people who need the stuff that she is getting rid of and, if there isn't a specific person to give it to, just donating it to the thrift store is even a good feeling because you know people are getting nice things at a reduced cost. I totally understand she wants to sell as much as she can to try to recoup some of the money she spent, but I hope that she is able to donate the things that don't sell so that she is not bringing those items back into her home and can bless the lives of other people. I think that might be the key to helping her let go of some of this is pointing out that she is providing a service to others because she really does like helping other people and maybe she hasn't really thought about the fact that she can just give this stuff away as a charitable thing to do. Love it!❤️❤️
You and your Mom and the other girl are really something. You all deserve a medal. Wow.
Middle age problems: Having trouble getting rid of empty boxes because they're like, really good boxes.
I'm working on cleaning out my house in preparation for putting it on the market and I discovered I had "good boxes" squirreled away in every corner of the house. It took three full Suburban loads to take them to the recycling center, even with them all flattened. (And that was only the less good of the good boxes because I kept a decent amount for the move.)
That's hilarious! It's funny to find memes that talk about a good box. My friend and I will exchange pictures sometimes when we find a good box and drool over each other's boxes. 😂😂
As I see the plastic shopping bags go I 😢! In 🇨🇦 we got rid of one use plastic, we don’t get plastic bags anymore 😭 I have to say you handled cleaning the fridge with her like a champ. BTW a your Mom is hilarious! There’s a special place in heaven for you Mack, Barbie, your Mom……. Keep the videos coming 🥰
Yeah, I wish I could get those. I use them for trash, now I have to buy single purpose kitchen trash bags, so we’re no farther ahead!
You from New Jersey?
@@louisedillon6797 no Canada 🇨🇦
I try not to get them all the time, but they're great for cleaning the litter box.
Holy cow that fridge with the bags!! I’ve never seen those used like that. That house is so overwhelming bc it’s not gross it’s just tons and tons of stuff. I love the happy atmosphere y’all had! That has to be so encouraging to the family. You guys are amazing!
Yes, that was my first time seeing shopping bags used like that in the fridge. It was kind of helpful though to contain what was kept in them so that, if they did leak anything, it didn't get everywhere. But that's probably also part of the problem is that you can't see what is in your fridge so you forget what's there.🤷♀️😊
Well, areas of neglect seem to get pretty gross.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp i think using those kind of bags in the fridge keeps what is in them hidden, thus less likely used. out of sight, out of mind kind of thing.
Your mom is just the cutest! I love it when she helps you.
Haha, Bonnie! I just realized that the back of your shirt says “I’d rather be WATCHING PEOPLE cleaning.” I didn’t see the “watching people” part until you were cleaning out the fridge, and your back was turned to the camera a lot more! Love it!! 🤣🤣
😁Yep, that was intentional so that I can have it in my merchandise shop when I have that up and going in hopefully the next couple of weeks. I think most people would rather be watching people clean.😉 But there are a few of us crazy ones who would rather be cleaning.🤷♀️😅
I loved the song that went along with your mom putting on the couch covers. Very cute!
Since humans are animals something that we all have is this tendency of being like squirrels storing our nuts. I guess the more survival or traumatic events, the urge to store nuts is greater
I did such a nice pile of laundry while watching this 😊
Also, had a laugh when you said you saw a corner of the table and then the table is round 😅
Haha, I guess that's very true.😁
The after shot of the kitchen - wow!!! Amazing job. Your mom is awesome btw. And so are you of course! ❤
Aw, thank you!💕
I normally find the HOA policies to be very restrictive and unreasonable but I totally agree with a HOA policy that prevents homes, property, pets and people from being ruined or destroyed by a hoarding situation. You all are doing an excellent job and should be very proud of yourselves. Keep up the great work. 🥳😘
I wish hoarding was more seriously regulated because it’s such a fire hazard and danger to EMTs that have to enter a house.
I agree and because this is a duplex, the fire hazard and insect infestation are paramount.
Yes, I totally agree. It's hard to explain to someone with hoarding disorder that they aren't being picked on, but that these kind of regulations are in place for, not only their safety, but the neighbors as well.
Yeah like because of the hoa intervention this house is going to get fixed up before it gets even more overwhelming. Also so many hoarded house become destroyed after years of things piling up and fixtures being unreachable if they're broken or leaking. Because she was forced to clean this up by the hoa she probably will revert because cleaning the house doesn't treat the hoarding disorder and the root of why she's hoarding. I hope that she is able to keep things safe after you're done because living in a house full of stuff to a point where you can't comfortably walk through it has to be stressfu.
Love your work here and I don't mind the noise in sped up video. If I find it a little irritating I just turn down the volume!! Problem solved 😂😂😂❤
Bonnie, you are doing such a great job & are so understanding & patient! I love how much you help others! ❤
I love watching your videos. You are very inspiring and informative with your information. Keep up the great work you do because I understand how much you are needed ❤💓🦋 love the black n white montage 😂😂😂
9:05 As I saw on Twitter once: _In Paul Rudd's attic, there's a painting of Paul Rudd. It also looks flawless._ 😂
Fantastic work as always!
I am a minimalist and this video is giving me anxiety. I would have gotten rid of everything single thing.
Great job having patience and compassion. I simply could not do this.
Oh that fridge! 😮 Great job cleaning it out!
Every time I watch one of your videos I go on a cleaning rampage!!!
Cleaning rampage 😅 hilarious
It must be so hard for the hoarder to live like this but very hard for husband/ family .
Unfortunately the guilt doesn't cure hoarding problem. No more than it would cure depression.
You are doing such a great job and so is your Mom....she is a worker for sure. Now .... that fridge...I would have just tossed it all and bought her new stuff.
Thank you so much! As for the fridge, I wish I could have just tossed it all and bought her new stuff, but I think that would have been really traumatic for her because, if there is anything that's still good in there, it feels very wasteful to her, which I understand on some level, but the way a hoarder thinks about it is on a whole other level.
I was impressed that the husband was helping. As you say it must be very distressing to live with a hoarder and he must have run out of patience many a time but he is still there helping with the task in hand.
You are very good at what you do. There is no way, no way I could do this. Cleaning for someone who is basically micro-managing you who doesn't clean it is insane. I would have been so frustrated, and anxiety would have been through the roof. Bless you and your Mom for helping this family. I still say horders buy more of what they have because they can't find things. And it becomes more and more things. I hope they continue with the cleaning because there is still a lot to do. I'm surprise they didn't have rats. Awesome job as always ❤❤
I know it probably does look like the homeowner isn't helping that much, but she was busy going through boxes of stuff that we would give to her. It's hard to show that though when I'm trying to keep her anonymous. We actually didn't want her moving around a lot because there was one particular day she was helping kind of all over the house and kept going up and down the stairs and, by the end of the day, her feet were so swollen that she could barely walk for the next couple of days. She sent me a picture and it looked awful. 😬 But, I can totally see how it does look like I'm being micromanaged while cleaning. There were a couple of times I felt like that, but for the most part, I was able to work on my own and then just give her boxes to sort through.
Interesting comment about the hereditary factor of hoarding. My mom was a hoarder my sister is a massive hoarder and thankfully I was able to break that cycle on my own. It hurt but I did it!
My mom was a neat hoarder and my dad was a not neat hoarder. After health problems and a bad marriage I became a semi neat hoarder. I’m trying read to do my last bag of mail. I shredded 4 bags already. Yes I clean. Yes I try to keep order but at times I just can’t. 😊
Great job! Love your mom! I enjoyed the "movie" of putting on the couch cover - making a humorous "Keystone Cops" type of film was a great idea! Looking forward to the next video!
Thank you!
We loved that video too! It just goes to show how difficult a sheet with the elastic is to put on anything sometimes! Great job mom and Bonnie!
I love your channel! I am addicted to watching your videos! Your awesome!
Oh, thank you!
I can't imagine trying to sort, tidy, and clean in a place like that! There's nowhere to work! You are an angel! I'd be like, can't you see that you have 10,000 towels, and nowhere to put them?
All I can say is bless ur heart for helping these folks. A helping hand is a great start.❤
I love the sped up sounds. I prefer them to random music! I feel satisfied hearing them, it's like a high energy boost :D
Glad you like them!
Another great video! You're amazing! ❤❤❤
You are a saint to be able to clean out that fridge with the owners standing behind you offering running commentary. A saint for sure.
Your mom vacuuming the couch is slaying me. 😂
The first time I saw one of your vids I thought "no way this is real", not because of the mess but because you are so beuatiful I was sure you are an actress.
I found that the You Tube channel ''A Hoarders Heart'' gave me a good insight of how a hoarder thinks and what techniques helped her to go from a Level 4 hoarder (scale 1-5) to a Level 1. Her videos started about 5 years ago. Good to watch from the start.
I actually mentioned to her that she should start following that channel. I listen to an interview with her that was very insightful and have watched a couple of her videos just to understand the hoarding mindset a little better. I think she would be very helpful for "Julie."
I don’t understand why you don’t have more followers. You’re one of my favorites. Just keep going you’re great at what you do. Just know that you are exactly where you’re supposed to be ❤❤
Awww, that's so nice of you. I'm actually pretty thrilled I already have almost 45,000 subscribers in less than 10 months. When compared to Mack, that's not much, but when it takes most UA-camrs about five years to get 10,000 subs, I feel like it's going pretty well. Plus, the stuff I've learned over the last year has been priceless. 😊
Mack is a legend lol you are doing great
Right?! He is definitely an anomaly. I think his advantage is that he has never really masked his oddities as an autistic, but as a female autistic, I think it's a little harder to unmask and show some of that odd behavior. I did a little bit in this video and hopefully I can get more and more comfortable with that because that really is how I am a lot of the time, but it feels really weird to show the world that side of me since really only my family usually sees that because I try to fit in with society outside of my home and tone down my weirdness. But, it seems when I do let a little of that side show, people like it because I think there are a lot more people than we realize that have that weird side to them that we never see, so I hope it makes others feel comfortable being a little more themselves. Anyway, I have basically written a novel here when I really could have just responded with, "Right? Mack is awesome!"😁
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp - I have an autistic son - he’s 40 now-it’s just a different way of seeing the world- we all have our issues trust me - love your channel
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I didn’t know that. So I guess congratulations then. Way to go. 👏👍❤️
You are amazing and so is your Mom. I lol at the movie.
I do watch your videos till the end!!! I have hoarding tendencies myself, so I go through every detail in your contents, as a part of my need to comprehend the tendencies that I feel. I do hoard shoes and purses. I have gloves and mittens too. Have kind of 6 full sets of china, 7 sets of silverware, linens a ton, etc!!!😢
Bags of bags! Yep! I tried to help a friend declutter her house and knew I was in over my head when I realized that the bags of bags were carefully bundled - AND DATED! Two tall boxes blocking one hallway, and another one in a corner elsewhere in the house. I was told they’re “needed.” Never mind that with every trip to the store, they were bringing in more. At 5c/bag where we live, they must have hundreds of dollars worth of bags - not kidding!
That's too funny! I can't believe she had them boxed and dated.😱 I also have a lot of shopping bags, but after they don't fit in the space that I have designated for them, I start getting rid of them. I think that's the key to limiting the amount of any item is picking a space for it and, once that space is filled, that's all you get to keep. That's something I have always done naturally, so I'm always surprised when that's not a natural habit for a lot of people.
I understand the bags of bags because I have done it myself and still do to a lesser degree now. I either take the extras to the charity shops or a local store and they are very grateful for them. A plastic bag in Ireland is 22 cent. You all did fantastic work with all the different categories of items including the bags of bags and putting in such a long day too. The fridge looks great. I’ve watched A Hoarders Heart for several years and she gives a great insight to hoarding too. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 🙇♀️👏💪👍🙏💐🛍
@@josephdaly2015I agree! Whenever I have stuff for the charity shop I fill a superfluous plastic bag. Great way to get rid of and re-purpose.
My jaw dropped at the after pic of the kitchen! Wonderful
Amazing job as usual, you and Mac are so lovable. Loved the Laurel and Hardy video. 😊❤
Thank you so much!!😄
This is lovely! I also have been enjoying a hoarders heart. I will always be a recovering hoarder. She does a great job dealing with her hoard. It’s inspiring how she speaks to herself. If you are watching this lady in the video, check her out. It’s great. Also, Marie Kondo.
I actually told her she should go check out A Hoarder's Heart. I think it would be great for her to hear advice straight from another hoarder.
Remi Clog is another great channel,@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp. She has ADHD and cleans for people who have health challenges also.
Minimal mom is an awesome one too
I am in awe of your work!
You deserve the Medal of Valor for tackling that fridge. Sulis Minerva!
I appreciate the honesty from other commenters. Here's mine. Way before my home became like this I'd have told my spouse to get in counseling and start cleaning up now, or they can live there as a single person. The abuse hoarders inflict on others is just not okay. I hope you'll do an update on this house, I'm cheering for them, but with doubt.
I'm getting bits of the story of this woman and her family each time I go, and it's all pretty complicated. I can't really disclose all of the information I know, but it is a very complicated history, lots of back-to-back traumatic events. She is in counseling, though I don't know if it is specifically for the hoarding or just the trauma. I can't really say one way or the other what I think they should do because I'm sure I only know a very small portion of what's going on. I just try to get them to a more manageable state and hopefully take one stressor out of their lives so that they can focus on healing. It is infuriating at times, and I'm not even family, so I can't even imagine how I would deal with this as a family member, but I know she has no intention of hurting them.
And, to be honest, I am starting to have some doubt that we can get the house back to a manageable state because, so far, she hasn't gotten rid of much of anything. We are just organizing it into categories, but until she can let go of some of this stuff, it's not going to change. Supposedly, this weekend, she will be having a big yard sale to get rid of stuff. We shall see...🤔
Bonnie you’re doing awesome!
Is that all the same silverware pattern she collects?
It seemed to me that she wanted to touch every item and relive the memories it brought. How did you deal with slowing down the process to accommodate this, and also the distraction?
She goes to thrift stores and buys silverware to try to make an entire set. There are a lot of vintage silverware sets that she has and they are actually really beautiful, but wait until you see the entire corner of her basement it fills up once we get it all together. We still keep finding it in every room and that pile becomes bigger and bigger. 😱I'm sure she has tens of thousands of dollars worth of silverware. If you can get an entire set of the Vintage silverware, it's worth about $500, so that's what she really wants to do if we can get a space cleaned up for her downstairs to properly sort through it and match things up.
As far as her wanting to touch every item, it might look like that in the video, but it actually wasn't like that with every item. Most of the stuff we could organize into different piles, but there were just a few things we were unsure about and I also wanted to show my viewers the types of things that we were finding just as an example, so those are the parts you are seeing and it makes it look like she has to approve every item we touch, but that wasn't necessarily the case. We got into a rhythm, and after the initial first couple of days, I was able to break off into other rooms and be a little bit more on my own, so it wasn't as distracting. That stuff will be shown in future videos.
What patience you show the homeowner, what a mammoth task. Well done to all of you.
I would give up body parts to do this with my mom, you are so lucky.
Interesting that hoarding is genetically linked. I have so many things from moving my mother to assisted living. I'm finally realizing I don't need to keep so much if it. Amazing to see all the bgas of 'food' in the refrig!
I save the plastic supermarket bags for cleaning the litter boxes
Yes. Especially since in certain areas they're always threatening to ban them.
I use them as trash bags. Many people I know do. Also for cat litter.
And I collect the extras to take to Walmart for recycling. I have a couple bags of bags in my car right now.
When you were talking about words like stationary and stationery, it brought back a childhood memory of never being able to remember which spelling went with which definition and checking my dictionary each time!
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Bless your heart for your compassion and dedication to helping others, awesome job!
Thank you so much!
😂 You are delightful! Your comments (and your mum's) had me cracking up!!!!!
😊 Aw, thank you!
I think the thing I like best about your videos is that you involve the people gat you’re helping. It makes it trickier to film, but it just makes so much more sense.
Yes, there is that balance between wanting them to help because I think they have a higher chance of success when they are helping, but it can be very tricky working with the homeowner right there. There have been days working at this house that I was able to work in another room more on my own so the filming was a little easier and there were less distractions, but she is still plugging along in another room sorting through boxes and bags that we are giving her.
Thanks for your support!💕🙏
In my OPINION I don’t like when the home owner is there and is hovering over you but I 10000000% understand it takes baby steps to get rid of things . I
Love your videos btw 🎉❤
love love love to you
Watching everything get hyper cleaned is kind of fun 😊
Wow thanks for the info on chromosome 14 - I watch Mack but don’t remember hearing this so Yay
Yeah, I found that so fascinating when I heard that.
I feel so bad for these people because someone had the need to feel important and run to the HOA tattle about the inside of the house..but that's ok because karma is real.i love your channel Bonnie.😊
but at the same time it wasn't safe. Especially since it was a duplex. It should have a firewall between but you never know
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You got so much accomplished in this video. Well done! I love how you created the list of stuff and then circled it when you got to it. That was fun. Looking forward to the next one!
Glad you liked it!! I haven't even had a chance to go watch your last video yet. I just got a new computer yesterday even though my other one is only 7 months old, but I wanted to experiment with a new computer and, so far, it is Leaps and Bounds better than my old one! I'm excited about that, but also very frustrated that my other one I have dealt with for the last 7 months being frustratingly slow. 🤬Anyway, now it's time to figure out what to do with my old one. I should get around to watching your video by tomorrow. Hope all is well!💕
I agree with watching until the end to help with the algorithm. I have that problem with my channel.
Yep. Only a UA-camr knows the algorithm struggle is real! 😜
On one hand, I am glad that these folks are making their house safer through cleaning. On the other hand, HOAs are a plague and (IMO) the antithesis of American values. Just my unnecessary 2 cents haha.
All your 1920s short needed was someone in a flattop hat and slapshoes doing some wild tumble and flip stunt each time the couch cover slid off a corner.
Excellent work!! I hope you all continue to make good progress!
I think they just incorporate the American (or more precisely the capitalism) values: Buy, consume, produce trash. Buy more. Consume more. Produce more trash. The only difference is, that the hoarders keep their trash in their homes, the others put their trash out and let it throw into landfills.
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In the last video,MANY were wondering how an HOA could have a say over the INSIDE of someone’s home but I saw a comment in this video where someone said that it’s a duplex. Well that’s a completely different story! The HOA laws protect the property on the other half from getting roaches and other pests from their neighbor,also many times there are bad odors that come through the walls from rotting food,neglected plumbing problems,etc. In that case, a good thing.
I am new to your channel. I just wanted to thank you for the blanket folding demo you did in one of your other videos. It was a game changer for me! 😊
Glad it was helpful! And welcome! Glad you're here!❤️
I adore your mom, so sweet and such a lively lady for her age! ❤
I don't believe I've ever seen soooo much stuff in my life. Wow, no one needs 90 percent of that. I don't believe she got rid of enough that's for sure.
She hasn't really gotten rid of anything yet. I have been trying to get her to do her yard sale since the second week we have been working there and it has yet to happen. Right now, we are just organizing things into categories and throwing away some trash, but if we don't start actually selling or donating stuff, I don't think I can continue working there because I don't like just shifting stuff around. Yes, it might be a little more organized, but it will just end up the same way unless she actually gets rid of stuff. I'm going to let her know this is going to be my last week working there unless she has a yard sale this weekend and sells a lot of stuff and donates what doesn't sell.
Love ❤
I know this is old, but if you don't already know, you can close the fridge for a few seconds and it will get the beeping to stop for awhile. Your voice overs are gold, btw. "Aha - I'll stop". Lol
Bonnie, you and your team are champs! Your Mom is adorable
I don’t doubt a genetic predisposition to hoarding. Is it nature or nurture?
My husband, retired Air Force flight engineer and mechanic, always says… it’s a combination of things that come together just at the right time to cause an accident, incident or situation.
So does she have genetics? Trauma? Modeling from parents? Or perhaps all?
Nobody knows 🤷🏻♀️
Best to proceed with caring and kindness
Well said!😊❤️👍
What you do is amazing, love that your mom is by your side helping you.
With all of the extra bags towels and thing's a good thing would be gift boxes For domestic home shelters people moving into new homes,ect.
Just a way of giving back The yd sale leftovers
Just a thought
Your old-time movie was hilarious! Those covers are monsters to put on. It looked great at the end.
Thank you for the video!
Great Video again, it helps me so much motivating me to get things done, you are such a blessing! A very good book for understanding why and how traumatic events can trigger mental illnesses and problems is Brain Saver by Anthony William. You really understand the world in a different way after reading it. I got even more compassion for people after reading it and it helps me with my chronic neurological illness too. Thank you again for your compassionate work full of love for others ♥
Thank you for the book recommendation! I will have to see if it's on Audible. I love to listen to that stuff while I'm cleaning just to learn more about the brains of the people I'm helping.😊
WOW !! You guys worked like crazy !! Great job !! 👏👏👏👏👏👍 ❤🇨🇦
I am a new subscriber and really enjoying your channel! God Bless you for helping people! Just a suggestion, I saw a lot of small tubs and plastic small baskets in this homeowners house-these would be very appreciated by teachers at your local school if they were donated. An idea for future clean ups if clients are willing. Thank you for video taping your experiences, you are changing lives!!💞
Bonnie! You are such an angel, with so much compassion, and understanding! xoxo
I can totally relate with wanting to keep empty boxes.
They’re too functional looking to throw away, right? I get it!
Well, my husband and I agreed, they had to go.
Then, 2 months later, (ago) we decided to downsize and sell our home. Now today, we will grab a bunch of huge boxes to start packing! 😂
It's a good thing there are so many of us box hoarders around so that, when you decide to get rid of boxes, there is always someone eager to take them and, when you need boxes, you can usually just look in the free section on Facebook or something and find a box hoarder getting rid of theirs. 😂😂They are so useful!!
I need to have you clean my fridge that looks amazing. Loved the little video so funny. Your mom is so sweet , you guys make a great team. Keep up the amazing, wonderful and uplifting job you do😁
Thank you so much!!
I think with most psychological issue's it's very much nature vs nurture! I'm not a hoarder per se but I have hobbies and i can be pretty obsessive when it comes to items related to them. I sew so I tend to create collections, my main one being fabric! Especially if i see full rolls (10 to 30mts) on offer. Suffice to say i probably own over 3000mts of fabric. I recently decided i wanted to make some of the homemade rolls my Dad used to make, this lead me to cooking/baking which lead me to buying every kitchen appliance you can think of (good job i have an extension next to my kitchen). But these collections have lead to some great home furnishings and delicious and varied meals for my family and friends. But i did have to build a summer house to store all the fabric 😮😢
Bonnie you aren't crazy and neither are we.
We CLEAN IT UP!
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I love your mom she's so funny and its great seeing the two of you together. What a phenomenal job all of you ladies did as well as the homeowners 🎉
I don’t know if I knew you are autistic, but I had to nod when you said it because of your “stationary” comment, and then needing to quit gymnastics because of the feel of the chalk. Both my daughter and my son are on the spectrum, and after I’ve learned more about autism, I really think I’m on the spectrum, too. I wasn’t allowed to have anything attention getting as a kid, so I learned to mask so much of myself. Really appreciate you putting yourself out here on your channel and with these folks that need your invaluable help! And I love your mom is involved as well!
If you have children on the Spectrum and suspect that you are as well, it's very likely that you are. I talk about my diagnosis in another of my videos right after I found out. I didn't know that there is a genetic component to it and, it wasn't until my 21-year-old daughter told me I was told she was probably autistic by her psychiatrist, that I decided to go get tested. I'm so glad I did because there are so many things that make a lot more sense now. I have also learned a lot more about autism since and how females are much better at masking, which is why it goes undetected a lot of times for females. I'm pretty good at acting neurotypical, but that's definitely not natural for me. It's been nice to be able to unmask a little bit and be a little bit more my weird self. 😁
CAN YOU SAY BAGS, BAGS, BAGS AND BAGS AND MORE BAGS. IM SORRY THAT DROVE ME BAGGIE. 😂😂😂😂 Wow I think when I get up tomorrow I’m throwing every bag I have away and I don’t have that many. 😂😂😂😂 Great job all of you. ❤❤❤❤❤❤
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Mack gave you a shout out and I decided to check you out. Now I am hooked.
Aw, thank you! Glad you're here!❤️
Love all of this Bonnie. What a great transformation on both rooms. Also love how you and your Mom work together.
You are a Wonderful person, I just imagined what that fridge must have smelled like. Leaving things in the shopping bags and just shoving it in the fridge is a sure way to lose food. So happy you are helping these people.
I know it would have been time consuming but the OCD person in me would have labeled everything in each box that was packed. So I could of just read each label when I wanted something.
Great job! I am not a minimalist, but even I feel like most of my stuff is garbage! I didn't see one item that I would have kept! Now I am wondering if I have a mental issue, because I like throwing stuff away.
I too love throwing and donating stuff away 😂❤ I wouldn’t be able to stop myself from disposing garbage and junk like I couldn’t do this kind of thing because I would obsessively need to get rid of a lot
Haha...there was a lot of stuff, especially the bags, that I had to use all my willpower NOT to throw away! Any other house, they would have been gone in a heartbeat, but that would have ruined the trust I have gained with Julie. This has definitely been a different experience...and a lesson in extreme patience. 😜
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpif this was my mum I would have been constantly at her to get rid of stuff and probably chucking stuff out without her knowing. I just wouldn't have the patience with her. She wasn't like that but I know how I would be with her 😅. BUT working with someone doing this I'd have the patience. I worked as a home carer and a few times a client would not want the intrusion. I seemed to be able to get on with the 'difficult' ones who nobody else could get along with. But I just took it slowly and basically gained their trust and a couple of them even looked forward to my visits. 😊
Interesting that most things in the fridge were parcelled up in plastic bags. I don’t think I’ve ever seen that before.
Goodness! You all did a lot of hard work! Lots of progress!
Hellooo Bonnie great video.
Thank you!
I am new to your videos and am already hooked. Thank you!
I'm so glad! Thanks for being here!
Your a great person
Jeez Bonnie that was amazing. You’re doing a brilliant job! Such an enormous task to take on - with a really challenging situation with regards to the homeowners struggle with their mental health. Your ability to manage these relationships and maintain trust with the client is so impressive. You seem to really have it down with the editing now, but I’ve always thought your production was great! You should be so proud of yourself and how far you’ve come. Take care, from the UK Xx
Aw, thank you! That was a very sweet comment.❤️🙏😊
I thought I wanted a smaller shop vac for moving around and getting smaller spaces but after watching how not great the one you have is, I think maybe I’ll just get a bigger one for upstairs
So much excess. I find myself thinking of all the money spent that could have been used elsewhere. I give you credit for your patience in dealing with situation. Hopefully she will get mental help as well so this will not just be cyclical both for her sake & her family.
You have a lovely speaking voice-very easy to listen to.
The fridge... glad you did that.