Helping overwhelmed mom organize stuff dumped on her doorstep by her ex
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- Опубліковано 18 лис 2023
- I am helping to clean and organize this home for a single mom with ADHD who had a pile of stuff dumped on her front doorstep by her ex-husband before he moved to Australia, which was quite overwhelming for her. She is actually quite organized in most areas of her home and having this dumped on her suddenly created a problem as she just couldn't mentally deal with it all, so she asked for my help.
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Don't knock yourself because you aren't cleaning up massive hoards. This house is what most overwhelmed moms are dealing with, not bugs and mold and huge piles of unnecessary stuff. This is real life for a lot of folks. What you do is help folks who are struggling to see how to organize the "messy" house, rather than the "hoarded" house. I loved your interaction with the homeowner over the OVEN. How to remove that day in day out oven grease. THAT is useful to know.
Thank you! I'm so glad to hear that. I am actually in the planning stages of doing a series of serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home because it has become a little neglected since I started this channel and I thought it would be fun to do a video once or twice a month of my own home and how exactly I tackle each thing in more detail. There is only so much I can do at other people's homes, specifically with paperwork, etc., so you never really get to see how I would actually declutter and organize it if it were my own. I will still keep my focus on helping other people and doing my free cleanings, but have that as an extra video series on my channel for those who are interested in that. And, as an added bonus, I won't be so stressed about how far behind I am getting on my own home!😊❤ Thanks so much for your support!
Thank you for saying that because it makes me feel like I'm not alone. I have MS and am housebound at the moment, so I can't do much of anything. It's overwhelming.
I have severe arthritis, two kinds. I have been unable to do a lot of things for several years while trying to get it under control. Some days, though, I still can't keep my balance and walk, or I'm in too much pain to do any kind of steps. There are a ton of adaptive tools out there, but you may have to learn to do things in different ways.
I have learned to vacuum while sitting in a rolling chair. I use my dishwasher to wash everything (dishes, decor, hair brushes) I do smaller loads of laundry and use a rolling laundry basket to move clothes from place to place. @@melodykubiak5850
Hey Bonnie! Just my two cents.... I like the "not so hoarderish " videos too. Sometimes the trash and dirt is a bit overwhelming and it's comforting to see a more realistic mess. Also, the organizing gives me ideas on how to reorganize my own space! Keep going, sister! ❤
Thank you! I love that kind of feedback. I have actually been thinking about doing a series of videos of decluttering and deep cleaning my own home with a lot more detail about how I do it. I think it would be based off of Marie Kondo's ideas with my own twist to it. I think there are a lot of people who would be interested in that and it would help me to not feel so stressed about how neglected my house has become since starting this channel. My main focus would still be on helping people, but I think just having a video here and there to add to a series like that would be fun to do.😊
Plus if your filming your own home organizing your killing 2 birds at once, I call that a win win!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wpI'd love that!! Sometimes a good break for you and your audience to do regular messy house....not necessarily hoarded house 😊
I agree!!!
The homeowner really utilized cubbie shelves. I use two six-cubbie shelves for my craft supplies. They are wonderful.
These disorganized houses aren’t as dramatic, but they’re still interesting. I liked that you showed the cleaning products.
This mom has been through it. She went through a divorce and her husband moved to another country to be with the new woman and dumped a huge amount of furniture and toys at this apartment. Essentially leaving this mom with two homes of stuff jammed into a smaller home while she becomes a single mom to the children and he gallavants off to a new country with a “new family”. It’s a amazing that the house is in as good shape as it is. I hope this mom is in a good place now. ❤
Right?! That would be so annoying to deal with. They have actually been divorced for 4 years, so I think she has done fairly well up until this point when it all got dumped on her.
I don’t know about others, but it’s not necessarily about how dirty a house is that I am watching being cleaned. It is about learning techniques to achieve goals in conquering my own issues that I most look for. It would be so helpful if there was focus on technique and tips added. Few content developers spend time on these areas they just show the before and after pretty much.
I think it's great that you're helping these people that aren't as bad as "hoarders." Maybe you're helping them from progressing to that point!?
Yes, I hope I'm preventing it from getting to that point.😊
Please ignore the nasty comments, and continue to share as much as you feel comfortable about your autism! Believe me, you are making a positive difference talking about it and making people like me feel less alone for being "different". Be authentically YOU, in the type of cleanings you take on and what you choose to talk about during the voiceovers. It all adds up for the unique, enjoyable videos I and thousands of others love watching♥
I love this! 😊
Thank you so much! I guess you must have seen that nasty comment before she deleted it. I actually wasn't going to delete it because I knew there would be a whole bunch of people who would come to defend me, so it looks like she's the one that ended up deleting it herself.😄 I understand that not everyone is going to be interested in the autism aspect of me and it's not like I'm going to talk about it in every single video, but this is a brand new diagnosis for me and I thought it would be helpful for people to know sort of where I'm coming from and also that I relate a lot to some of the struggles that people have. I have always wanted my channel to be a lot about mental health and different things that people struggle with, and that includes myself, so it is weird when someone wants to point out that they are no longer going to subscribe because I talked about my autism. So crazy! Anyway, thank you for being so supportive. I really appreciate it!🙏❤️❤️
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp You're a few years older than I am, but I've been diagnosed myself for awhile longer so when I saw that comment, my "older sibling" type of instincts kicked in and I felt like I had to say something even though I've never commented on a UA-cam video before, LOL! When someone is discovering an aspect of themselves like this and it's still new, it can be even more hurtful and demoralizing to have someone say, "No, don't talk about it. Hide it away. Don't be yourself or we won't accept you." It hurt my heart that there would be even a chance you'd look at that and think you should mention it less or feel ashamed for talking about being neurodivergent. And I'm so glad you have a wonderful, supportive community you knew would stand up and say "NO" to any of that!
Ramble over, back to lurking... thank you for your content ♥
@@a.t.6535 Thanks so much for being willing to jump in as an "older sibling" to comment about this and help me to feel better about sharing this aspect of my life. I really do have the best, most supportive subscribers, which really helps when stuff like that pops up. I'm learning there will always be those bullies out there who just have to try to tear others down. It's sad, really. I can't imagine she has a lot of friends if she is that blunt and rude. It's a very shallow kind of life. Anyway, your comment is appreciated. Thank you so much!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp I saw your videos and thought. O, she is so relatable. Than I came to the point where you talk about autism and I am so: "OK, that's why..." I was in counseling and think about getting a diagnosis as well. I suspect being autistic for two years, probably AuDHD. I think it is very helpful to hear diagnosed people talk about their experiences. Also I have scars on my fingers from chewing and picking and I am VEEEERYY happy you don't speed the videos up like Midwest Magic Cleaning. I know, a lot of people like the "Chipmunk" voices but they HURT!
Her ex moved to Australia?! What a dream come true! Congrats to her!
Right?! You make me laugh!😜😂
for real 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
The fast talking is quite annoying…..
I'm glad you are requiring the homeowner to be there. I think they should be there the entire time AND be helping. They can be decluttering off-camera, giving input about where they want things to go, and seeing all the work you all are doing. It's also good from a legal perspective to deter accusations of theft, property damage, etc. You're doing them a huge favor, doing these cleanings. You're not a maid service. Some responsibility on their part should be part of the package.
I agree on them being there for at least part of the time. I think it would be really hard for a lot of them to be there the entire time I am since they either have jobs they need to go to or kids that need to be taken different places, etc. Plus, I actually prefer to work without them there because it makes me less anxious without them kind of hovering over and watching things. I have kind of a system down where I just get things sorted out into different categories and then a lot of the time I have them be the ones to put it away or to go through the box to decide what they are keeping and what they are getting rid of. Now, if they were off getting their hair done or going to lunch with friends or something like that while I was at their house cleaning, that wouldn't really fly.🤔😊 Anyway, that's the reason why I just require at least a little bit of their time. It's also helpful to have them there the first day so that I know what things are okay to throw out and things like that.
There are also people who have anxiety, especially social anxiety that are NOT going to ask for help if it requires them to be there. It's too overwhelming for them.
That’s a great idea to get the homeowner involved in the cleaning. It builds that ‘cleaning’ muscle again that they weren’t exposed to as young people or was just temporarily suspended.
I recently helped an autistic friend clean one shelf in her pantry; she didn’t know that you pulled everything out of one shelf, throw away outdated food, wipe the shelf and put things back.
It took us ten minutes - she was so shocked at how easy it was she has since cleaned her entire unit.
Being physically there is important.
I totally agree. It's fascinating to me to realize how many people truly just don't even know how to clean or organize. I've always taken for granted that I was, not only taught some of those things, but was curious enough to figure out a lot on my own, but it really doesn't come natural to a lot of people, just as there are a lot of things that don't come natural to me. That's so nice of you to show your friend how to do that and to show her it really isn't that difficult. She is probably pretty proud of what she can do now and that's the most important thing!
I literally just learned you can lift the hood of some electric ovens like a car hood from this video! I had no clue and I've been cooking with one for years 😂
I'm really happy you're not adding background music.
So am I.
It’s nice to watch just overwhelmed mothers and not really hoarders videos. Thanks for all you do.
Bonus; Sidney not being an experienced cleaner just shows that anyone can do this. Everyone can learn along with her and see that its okay to be a rookie and still jump in and tackle things anyway
Right?! That was another reason I thought it would be nice to have her as a helper. As much as it would be nice to have someone who already knows how to do all of this stuff, my main purpose in starting this channel was to spread a little love and kindness as much as possible and this is just one of those ways because, if I can show love, kindness, and patience with other people, I hope that it brings a little joy to others and that they also feel like doing a little bit of good for others as well. So I'm glad you pointed that out because that really was intentional.😊❤️🙏
You are one of my very favourite people in this genre. I prefer reality to hoarder situations---totally grossed out by bugs, mould, garbage. Your videos and voice overs are very real to my situation. Thank you.
Wow, thank you! I'm so glad it's appreciated. 🙏
You have made an excellent village of community helpers. Sydney not being a cleaner, learning and teaching at the same time is priceless. Mom bringing the wisdom, the resident getting needed help and education/experience. You are the catalyst that brought that all together. That’s a huge deal Bonnie. It’s a legacy already.
Thank you so much! That was kind of my intention when I started this channel was to see how much good I could spread, so I'm glad you noticed that I did that intentionally. I also have been able to get rid of some of Tisha's items, like a sofa, to give to another family in need. I love making those kinds of connections where everybody wins!🥰
As for myself, I find these videos much more relatable than hoarder ones. They tend to overhelm whereas in these you see a really nice outcome plus organization input .❤
This is much more “real life, busy family living” than “disaster to perfect.” The other gets wow points but this is much more touching because it affects so many more people. Thank you for taking the time to do this.
Aw, thank you. ❤️
Personally I find your videos highly relatable and calming. We don’t all live in a hoard or a perfectly clean home so obviously it’s nice when you are cleaning just “regular” homes. We all need to see that our homes get messy and need some purging and organizing every now and then. It’s perfectly normal.
Thanks for normalizing the beautiful messes around the world.
Aw, thank you! I'm glad to hear that people still like this kind of content. It probably is relatable to way more people.🥰
Just to give you some feedback - I enjoy both organizational transformations and messes being cleaned up. I like the before and afters. Just saying no need to worry about not having huge hoarder messes to clean up in your area - I think a lot of people like seeing a more "normal" mess. You have a huge heart to help others and that's part of why I enjoy watching your channel. Keep on keeping on! 🙂
Thanks for the feedback! So are you saying I should just "let it bee?" Haha! We should "collaborate" and I can come help organize something in your house and the thumbnail could be "Let It Bee A Beautiful Mess." LOL!😜❤
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp LOL. Love that video idea!!! 🤣❤️
Welcome Sydney! Loved her comment that as she looked at the pile of papers if they were hers she knew exactly what to do. I grew up in a house with 9 kids, never dirty but often messy 🫣 Good luck to the mom, seems like she's doing a great job, this looks like a happy household!!!!
Yes, that's why I left her comment in there without talking over it because it proves that she is just the right person to do this since she has struggled with the same kind of thing, but has been able to get a lot better handle on it and can now give some advice on how she deals with all the piles of stuff that ADHDers tend to have. Glad you picked up on that!❤️
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp perfect helper!!!!
Bonnie, don’t be hard on yourself. Your viewers are patient. Your husband was very sick, of course you were busy.
Lots of Mothers here, we are patient.
I love 💕 your videos. You are wonderful, don’t forget that.
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I love my viewers so much! Ya'll make me feel so good. Thank you!🥰
I love the idea of organized boxes of paperwork for everyone to go through. The mom could take a Sunday afternoon and say,let’s rewatch a favorite movie ( so that they don’t feel like they’re missing something important) and everyone goes through their first box,afterwards get a pizza!🙌🏻
I love it! I used to do this exact thing when my kids were younger. Now they aren't as attached to school work and such and there isn't much to organize, but I loved doing this. Them, not so much, haha!
I can’t understand why anyone would leave negative comments. We are all different and nobody is perfect. Being healthy and happy is the most important thing. I admire everyone who is brave enough to ask for help, it’s the first step and a very big one. X
Right?! It blows my mind that anyone thinks it's okay to write negative comments, especially when this was a hard thing for them to do in the first place, to ask for help. Thankfully, 99% of the comments are very positive. Thank you for being one of the nice ones!😁🙏
Sweet heart you can't compare yourself with Mack and Barbie because you all do so many great things and you do it your way. Barbie is like a super cleaner for unbelievable messes and you are a wonderful cleaner but you are a super organizer and Mack is 50/50 super cleaner and organizer. That is why when you did the collab, you worked on both of your strengths and weakness to get the job done. I love your videos because it makes my old OCD soul calm. LOL This was a wonderful job for all three of you and it turned out wonderful. Keep up the great work sweetie and don't compare your work with anyone else as your are unique. Ok? See you next time!
Thank you, you're so sweet! It was a great collaboration for that reason. We do all have our strengths. When I started my channel, I really only knew of Auri and the big messes she would clean, so I thought I would need to duplicate that to actually do well on YT, but I have since realized she is an anomaly and already had the professional cleaning background and contacts and now has a lot of help finding those homes, so there is no way I could ever compare to that, and that's fine! I would actually rather organize than clean up huge messes and there is a niche for that as well. I am actually in the planning stages of doing a series of serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home because it has become a little neglected since I started this channel and I thought it would be fun to do a video once or twice a month of my own home and how exactly I tackle each thing in more detail. There is only so much I can do at other people's homes, specifically with paperwork, etc., so you never really get to see how I would actually declutter and organize it if it were my own. I will still keep my focus on helping other people and doing my free cleanings, but have that as an extra video series on my channel for those who are interested in that. And, as an added bonus, I won't be so stressed about how far behind I am getting on my own home! 😊❤Thanks so much for your support!!
Don’t underestimate the importance of organizing. It’s nice to see a video that isn’t filled with bugs! Poor Barbie. Can’t wait to see the transformation ofMiras kitchen. I’ve been following her channel since you mentioned it a few weeks ago. I bet it’s going to be fantastic!
So true! Yeah, I feel bad for Barbie having to deal with bugs all the time. And, yes, Mira's kitchen turned out fantastic! I can't wait to show it to you all!
Your intervention at this stage helps lives not turn into bigger problems! What you do is extremely important.
I think it is wonderful your mom can come and help out. Also, very helpful to see the items you are using to clean. You are doing a great job, thanks for sharing.
You and your team are working with a lot of stuff which can be a greater challenge then “trash”. Thank you for sharing.
i actually do love having the pictures of the products on the screen, as well as the less hoarder cluttered home because sometimes my own house gets that bad just because you can get overwhelmed! I am ADHD and get overwhelmed so my house can sometimes just get really badly and need ideas on where to start
You all did a great job. And it's a bit heartening to know that perhaps there aren't very many "hoarder" houses in your area. I really never realized there were so many people suffering from that until I began to watch the cleaning videos. They are a tremendous amount of work I'm sure. So it's nice that you get to help some people who have just gotten a bit overwhelmed by life's demands and maybe resources limited and make a difference for them. You're so sweet and special and you're doing good things ✨️ 💗
Thank you! I'm not sure that there is a lack of hoarder homes in my area or if people are just too ashamed to ask for help. I know Mack said that it's pretty much an epidemic where he lives, so I think people are not quite as ashamed of it because a lot of people live like that. So, if I ever get houses like that, I will consider it a bonus, but in the meantime, I will just focus on helping people with whatever it is they need. Thank you for your support!🙏❤️
This is exactly the kind of home I want to help! I’m sure the homeowner felt a sigh of relief at the fresh start!
This is my favorite kind of home to clean. I can do the super dirty ones, but I would much rather organize things. Have you had any luck with your Venture into free cleanings?
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp hey!! My church got back with me and offered to help start me with some supplies! And then of course a bunch of things were going on in my personal life that put everything on hold for the last month and a half. It’s still definitely on my radar! I won’t be starting a channel anytime soon but I just want to do it on the side to help others for now.
So nice to see your mom helping you again, she’s amazing too❤. How nice that you now have a helper, welcome Sidney! I also love seeing ones where instead of just hoarding and cleaning, you show how to organize and declutter those mysterious things that always appear 😂. Great job to all of you! I can’t wait to see Mira’s kitchen. I just love her and so glad you suggested her channel. She is a huge inspiration to so many and doing an awesome job job
Thank you so much! And I am soooo excited to show you Mira's kitchen! It was an amazing transformation!
Bonnie, I’m sure you know this… when plunging either a sink or bathtub, as you plunge, hold a cloth tightly over the overflow space ( not sure the proper term ) it works almost every time. It creates a strong suction. Hope this helps. A plumber showed me this.
Love all your videos ♥️
Did I plunge something in this video? If I did, I totally forgot...LOL! But that is good information. I did not know that!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp No you didn’t plunge in this episode. Just told you so you know. It’s crazy the difference it makes. It works better if another person holds the cloth over it but we have two arms!! Lol
I find houses which are more on the regular side easier to watch, especially when there's a bit of organising in there as well. My personal preference also steers towards shorter videos, so anything around the 15min mark. Obviously this wouldn't be the whole house then but just 1 or 2 rooms 😊
I also prefer slightly shorter videos, like 15 to 20 minutes. I have had more feedback though that people like the longer ones, which is why I started making them a bit longer. But, I guess on these longer ones, you can watch them in two or three sessions rather than all at once. Thank you for your feedback! I'm also glad to know that you like the more regular type houses over the super dirty and cluttered ones.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Hehe you can't please them all can ya? At the end of the day, it's your channel, so the format should be something you're proud of and can live with. I liked the little pictures of the cleaning products you used btw!
My daughter in law is a hoarder. She literally does NOT see the mess. She can just step on stuff and have No inkling to pick it up. I have helped her countless times. It will never stay clean & unhoarded. Just gotta keep helping over & over cuz I love her
Sounds like ADHD and executive dysfunction. Pretty much 80 to 90% of the people I help have the same issue. That's nice of you to continue to help her.❤️
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I liked this video very much. Please stop comparing yourself to other sites. You have your own niche - view it that way. No need to feel insecure with your talents. Not a lot of people would be kind enough to do this for others. Be yourself! You are great! For me, this transformation was just as good as a heavy hoard transformation. Many people have messiness like this for different reasons and your tips and organization abilities are helpful to those watching. Thank you.
Aw, thanks so much!❤️🙏
You said you don't have a lot of messy, messy houses to clean. Well I also enjoy organizing videos as well so I would love to see those. Thanks for all you do for people. God bless your business and efforts. ❤
Thank you! I am actually in the planning stages of doing a series of serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home because it has become a little neglected since I started this channel and I thought it would be fun to do a video once or twice a month of my own home and how exactly I tackle each thing in more detail. There is only so much I can do at other people's homes, specifically with paperwork, etc., so you never really get to see how I would actually declutter and organize it if it were my own. I will still keep my focus on helping other people and doing my free cleanings, but have that as an extra video series on my channel for those who are interested in that. And, as an added bonus, I won't be so stressed about how far behind I am getting on my own home! ❤😊Thanks so much for your support!
I'm so excited to see Mira's kitchen! She has been working so hard on her home - I feel like getting you in there to assist with a task she's found overwhelming is a nice reward for everything she's done so far, as well as a motivation to keep going through her home.
It is an amazing transformation! I am a little worried about her though as I was supposed to go up there tomorrow to work on her bathroom and she texted me last night to let me know that her older dog is not doing well and that he might need to be put down this week. Then today, she texted me again to say that he had a seizure and went floppy and so she decided it was time and so she had to put him down today. I know those dogs are her life, so it worries me that, with her grieving, it might set her back on her decluttering journey. I hope that with all of her viewers encouragement and support, that she will be able to keep going after a few days of grieving this loss. I'm so sad for her. 😪
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp It took me months to get over the loss of my dog. Let her grieve as long as she needs. Decluttering is not as heart wrenching or as important, and you can always go back to it. Once the dog is gone, it's gone except for memories. And it hurts.
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp How sad! From what she's shared, she's clearly devoted to her dogs. Sounds like the right decision, but I can imagine how hard that's been for her to make. I hope we the viewers can offer her support to take care of herself while also working on her decluttering goals. I want her to have her scrapbook room cleaned out so she can make new pages to honor his life and help her process her feelings. I'm so glad you're there to help her - I'd offer to help if she lived anywhere near me.
It is wonderful for you and the resident to clean together. It’s a huge gift of education. Being part of the process is good for the soul
I agree. I actually prefer to clean without them there because sometimes they get anxious about things, and it makes me a little anxious, but I know it's important for them to also be involved in the long run.
I like having the extra pictures telling the products you use. 👍
Appreciate seeing this house / doesn’t need to be super dirty or super trashed. You each have your own style and videos. I love how much this helps a mother.
Thank you so much!!
I really like your videos that are more like what I experience. Not horrible houses, just ones that got away from the owner and they just need a little extra help to catch up.
I'm so glad. Thanks so much for the feedback!
The stress this woman is dealing with is enormous! The emotional blow from her ex dropping off stuff and leaving it for her to deal with would be overwhelming to everyone! Keep on keeping on Bonnie, Mom, and Sydney!! Your videos are awesome!
Thanks so much!
I was very impressed by the homeowners storage of items, but and there is a but she and her kids have a lot of stuff. I have been trying to declutter myself and it does make cleaning so much easier and it also less stressful to the mind. This might be something this mom may want to try there are a lot of resources out there on this especially on UA-cam. It really does make life a bit easier with less stuff to manage. I hope the mom considers this in the future.I liked this video I don't always need to watch a very messy home cleanup video.
As hard as it may be, don’t compare your videos to others! You have plenty of people here to watch you, and to support you! What you’ve done for this family, and others, is absolutely beautiful and so generous. I really enjoyed this video. Thank you for what you do!
Aw, thanks so much! I appreciate that!❤️❤️🙏
I watch Mira too, and I cannot WAIT to see your collab with her and her new table!
Me too! We had an unfortunate thing happen this week though. The plan was for me to go up tomorrow to clean her bathroom and at the same time I was going to pick up her table since it was only like 15 minutes away from her house, but she texted me last night to let me know that her older dog is not doing well and it sounds like she may need to put him down so she is wanting to reschedule the cleaning of her bathroom which means the table may not be featured in this week's video.😪 I may just have to post a picture of It from the ad in the classifieds. I'm sad for her, too, as I know her dog's mean everything to her. He didn't look like he was doing well when I was there last week and I kind of felt like it was really close to the end of his life. Poor Mira!😢
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Oh no! We had a bad scare with my older dog this week too :( She loves her fur babies, and that makes me so sad for her.
@@homeschoolteenswithjenny Isn't it so hard? We put ours down in July and it sucks! I just heard back from her and she, indeed, has to put him down tomorrow actually. I'll be surprised if she gets a video out this week and I hope this doesn't set her back with her decluttering journey. I will give her lots of love and hugs next time I'm up there. So sad!
@@ABeautifulMessExtremeCle-zl1wp Ugh it is so hard! I hope it doesn't set her back, too. That's a lot to work through. I'm so sorry you also experienced that loss recently! Give her a hug from me too!
I love that you’ll be helping Mira! I am cheering for her every week!!
Great idea to have homeowner part of organizing and making decisions! And pride of the finished product!
Right?! In some ways it's a lot easier when they aren't there because it can create some anxiety (for both of us...they get anxious and then I'm anxious about them being anxious...haha!), but I think it's good for them to be involved for at least part of it.
You are making such a positive difference in this world, Bonnie! Love it!! ❤
Thanks so much! I'm sure trying.
To the lady you are cleaning the house for "living well is the best revenge" you will get through this!
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What a great transformation! Love your videos, Bonnie! You do an awesome job 😊
Thank you!🙏
You will find your groove. I think you're doing great. A little patience and more good things will come, you said you were a little wowed at getting this far right ? Be the little engine that did. Be Beautiful Bonnie and we'll all keep watching and rooting for you and the growth of your channel.
You are the best! It's comments like this that really helped to motivate me to keep going on those weeks that I'm a little burned out, so thank you!🥰🙏
Welcome to the Autism club 😃 I hope that your diagnosis gives you some peace of mind. I didn't think my dx would make a difference, because I was already 'coping' (or I thought I was), but it was life-changing and I am still learning things about myself even 4 years later.
Thank you! It has certainly been interesting to learn how much of this stuff I do is related to the autism. I have felt guilty for so long that I am not that affectionate towards my husband. I love him so much, but that has always been a sore spot in our marriage is that I'm just not that affectionate and I have never been able to figure out why I am that way until this diagnosis. So, I feel a little less guilty about that. I still feel bad that I'm not always able to give the amount of love and attention to him as he needs, but at least I can cut myself a little slack. But I think now that I am more aware of why I am that way, I can figure out some ways to still make him feel loved and appreciated even with the way my brain is wired.🤔😊
Don't count yourself short, you do as much as they do
I wish this momma all the best. Thank you so much for helping her out, Bonnie and Sydney ❤ The bedspread is so lovely. Her home is like my vibe: lots of bits and ends. A maximalist if you will. I hope you keep sharing with us, Bonnie. This was the perfect mix of chatting, explanation, and lovely cleaning ASMR. We are eagerly awaiting the Mira video too! 😊❤❤
Thank you so much! ❤️
Bonnie I’ve been meaning to thank you for disclosing your autism diagnosis. It made me realize I had preconceived ideas about what autism looks like and I’ve since begun to suspect im also autistic. It’s changed everything about the way I think of my weirdness.
Aw, thank you. I'm glad it has helped. I also had preconceived notions about autism. I had no idea there were different levels based on how much support they need. I think we almost always think of level 2 (requiring substantial support) or level 3 (requiring very substantial support) autism when we say that someone is autistic, but there are probably hundreds of thousands of people who are level 1 autistic and not even know it. They just know something is different about them. It is really nice to have answers as it helps to navigate the world a bit better.
I absolutely love Mira's channel!!! She is moving and rocking. So proud of her!!
I know. She's so inspiring!
I found your channel through Mac. Thank you so much for your help and support for people. I have Progress MS and can barely walk. I can't clean or cook like I use to. It is crazy how much I can't do. My son is 24 and does everything for me. I am so greatful to him for helping me . Know that you're help with people is appreciated.
I'm so glad you have someone in your life who can help you with that. That is not the case for so many people and it makes me really sad to think of somebody getting more and more overwhelmed with no good way to get on top of it, which is why I love to do this. God bless your son for helping you with those things that you just can't do anymore.🙏❤️❤️
Your mum is Amazing! She seems very fit and energetic! You are Blessed💞
That business about her ex dumping a bunch of stuff on her doorstep reminded me of this story: several decades ago, I got a job in the welfare department. One of my clients was a divorced woman who told me that when her then-husband decided he no longer wanted to be married, he drove her and their two kids to the welfare department and dropped them off. Can you imagine?? Then he moved, coincidentally, to Australia! From what I could tell, she seemed to do a good job of raising her kids, totally without any help or child support from him. In comparison, having “stuff” dropped at your door wouldn’t be as bad. But certainly not one bit pleasant or helpful. I really admire your ability to go in and help people like this woman, Mira, and the others. I’ve been wishing you lived in Minnesota!
Wow, it never ceases to amaze me what some people have to go through.😔 Those are the kinds of experiences that make or break us. It sounds like this woman was better off without him.👏
Happy Thanksgiving! Just to put my two sense in, I find videos like this, and your editing skills very pleasurable. I loved watching it. So nice seeing your mom included. She's a gem.❤
Thanks so much!
I also like this house cleaning process. Looking at this house is like my house. It is not filthy like a hoarders house. This house just needs organization. I think many people struggle with organization. I know I do. This is a good video.
Thank you!
There are viewers like myself who enjoy watching you organize things. I think it’s your forte, you really seem to have a knack for organizing. My thoughts are you could organize and your helpers could clean. Either way, do what you enjoy and ignore the meanies. ❤
Oh thank you! I love both cleaning and organizing, but organizing is definitely my favorite! I am actually in the planning stages of doing a series of serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home because it has become a little neglected since I started this channel and I thought it would be fun to do a video once or twice a month of my own home and how exactly I tackle each thing in more detail. There is only so much I can do at other people's homes, specifically with paperwork, etc., so you never really get to see how I would actually declutter and organize it if it were my own. I will still keep my focus on helping other people and doing my free cleanings, but have that as an extra video series on my channel for those who are interested in that. And, as an added bonus, I won't be so stressed about how far behind I am getting on my own home!😊❤ Thanks for your support!
Don’t worry about feeling you have to have a hoarded house, I’m sure this woman feels like ye solved the hoard and she can breathe again. Dealing with so much stuff all at once can be overwhelming. I know for me I freeze and can’t do a thing (partly because I’m procrastinating). Having people help and guide you is absolutely priceless. Well done to you all. Have a great week. Mary, Joes wife 👏💪👍🙏💐🐈⬛
Yes, thank you, Mary!
Hi Bonnie, i love that you share your personal experiences with us. Its so real. And it can help other people. I love that u included the cleaning products used! That is one of the reasons i started watching cleaning videos. Many people that have been doing cleaning videos for awhile have stopped sharing that info. So thank you for that.
Thanks so much! I hope I continue to remember to add those products that I'm using. I am also in the middle of planning a new series that I want to do on my channel where I declutter, organize, and deep clean my own house bit by bit because I can do a lot more close up stuff when I'm not in a time crunch and stuff like paper clutter is really hard to do the same way I would handle it at my own house because there is so much of it that the homeowner still needs to go through before it can truly be organized. Anyway, I think it might be kind of a fun little series of videos and it will also help me to stay on top of my home which has been quite neglected since I started this UA-cam thing!😄
even though it was not a super messy home it was nice to watch, a regular home be fancied up...... everyone has to live
How incredibly kind that you do this.
Thank you for making a difference for this overwhelmed mom! We've all been there before and it's such a comfort knowing there are people out there like yourself to help them out. God Bless!
I actually like that your channel shows more organization. I struggle with organizing. For example I have boxes full of chargers, computer cords, game console and all their attachments, phone lines and the computer phone line things. I am afraid to go the next step because I want to make sure that I have all the cords remotes computer stuff etc for the stuff I have before I let go of the other stuff. So I can macro organize but not finish off. I have learned a lot from your channel. For example I put my paperwork vertical in boxes until I can organize it.
I am actually in the planning stages of doing a series of serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home because it has become a little neglected since I started this channel and I thought it would be fun to do a video once or twice a month of my own home and how exactly I tackle each thing in more detail (like cords!) There is only so much I can do at other people's homes, specifically with paperwork, etc., so you never really get to see how I would actually declutter and organize it if it were my own. I will still keep my focus on helping other people and doing my free cleanings, but have that as an extra video series on my channel for those who are interested in that. And, as an added bonus, I won't be so stressed about how far behind I am getting on my own home! I'm so glad you are using the vertical organizing...it's a game-changer! Thanks for your feedback!
I cannot get over the stove tops in the USA. There are so many levels to clean! I’m from Europe and am over 60, but none of the electric stove tops I have seen anywhere are this difficult to clean and dangerous looking. Those heating coils and their contacts so open! In 2013 I finally switched to induction, even easier to clean. But you are doing fantastic work!
My brother is 66 this year, and we have just come to the conclusion that he is on the spectrum ... it explains quite a lot ... no one really thought about it when we were children (I also have a few traits) - - Love watching the way you clean these homes and help these people
Isn't it interesting to now realize that there are a lot of people who have likely gone their whole lives without ever knowing they are on the Spectrum? It's nice that there is so much more information about it now and more acceptance and understanding.
Don’t worry about having a huge transformation, this is more of what I’m used to. I enjoy watching MMC and Barbie. All the bugs in Barbies videos creep me out.
I'm so glad! I guess I have just felt like it needs to be a big transformation in order for it to stand out on UA-cam because there are so many cleaning channels where they clean up messes that aren't really that terrible. But, I guess most of those they are cleaning their own homes, so I guess my Niche will be helping other people with their homes, especially those who have mental health struggles or just a tough situation that they are dealing with. Thank you for your feedback!
I really love the organizational aspect of your videos, Bonnie. It’s sooooo satisfying!!
Thank you! I have actually been thinking about doing a series of videos of decluttering and deep cleaning my own home with a lot more detail about how I do it. I think it would be based off of Marie Kondo's ideas with my own twist to it. I think there are a lot of people who would be interested in that and it would help me to not feel so stressed about how neglected my house has become since starting this channel. My main focus would still be on helping people, but I think just having a video here and there to add to a series like that would be fun to do.😊
Great call on the vinegar for mold/mildew, Bonnie! It is so common for folks to think that bleach is the answer, but cleaning vinegar is the product to use, and very inexpensive.
I can see why people would think bleach for mold. If I hadn't heard Mack mention it on his channel a couple of months ago, I probably would have made the same mistake.
Oh Mira's kitchen. I'm looking forward to that!
Me too! We had an unfortunate thing happen this week though. The plan was for me to go up tomorrow to clean her bathroom and at the same time I was going to pick up her table since it was only like 15 minutes away from her house, but she texted me last night to let me know that her older dog is not doing well and it sounds like she may need to put him down so she is wanting to reschedule the cleaning of her bathroom which means the table may not be featured in this week's video.😪 I may just have to post a picture of It from the ad in the classifieds. I'm sad for her, too, as I know her dog's mean everything to her. He didn't look like he was doing well when I was there last week and I kind of felt like it was really close to the end of his life. Poor Mira!
Your mother is awesome 👍🏾 veral ❤ on-point and doing it😊😊 goooo mom 🎉
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I love your mom's cute double apron! Congratulations on your autism diagnosis! I'm only self-diagnosed so far, but my life and personality make so much more sense now!
I think a self-diagnosis is good enough. If it fits and makes sense, no need to spend the money to get an official diagnosis, but it is interesting to realize you might be autistic. All of a sudden, all of the pieces of your life fit together a little better and make sense.🤪❤️😊
I like these Bonnie they look far more realistic. I have no boundaries either and it’s exhausting. Im learning albeit very slowly!
Darling you!! I really love your videos ❣ Please don't compare yourself with "whom ever"! We look at your videos because of you, and what you do GOOD for other people!! OK!? 🥰 Greetings from Sweden!
You are very sweet! Thank you so much!🥰
It's easy to understand how this mom got overwhelmed. Geez, if my kids' stuff had nearly doubled overnight, I would have been overwhelmed too!
I'm glad you were able to get her family organized and give her some tips and tricks to make it easier for her to keep up with the routine messes.
I'm glad you have an assistant. Welcome, Sydney! You did a great job sorting through all of those papers!
Right?! That would be a little daunting for anyone, let alone a single mom in a small apartment, limited space, and dealing with ADHD! This was a super fun one for me. And, yeah, Cydnie did amazing with that paperwork. I was so proud of her and I know she was proud of herself because that's been really hard for her in the past.
Prayers up for the hubby!! May he😊 feel better soon; sorry this interrupted your "Vacation "! Don't belittle your videos! Ocd gf here; love love organizations!! ❤🎉❤🎉
Am counting the days...til I can move into my 1st new home and organize it!! ( hopefully not moving in a blizzard)😮🙏🙏
No closing date yet...
Beautiful bedroom set!! Tyfs!!🎉❤🎉
Thank you. Hubby is on the mend, but now it seems I am getting it...boo!
That's SUPER exciting to move into your first home! And, OH. MY. GOSH! I LOVE organizing when I move into a new home. Sometimes I want to move out just to declutter and deep clean and then move back in to start "fresh." LOL! I am actually in the planning stages of doing a series of serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home because it has become a little neglected since I started this channel and I thought it would be fun to do a video once or twice a month of my own home and how exactly I tackle each thing in more detail. There is only so much I can do at other people's homes, specifically with paperwork, etc., so you never really get to see how I would actually declutter and organize it if it were my own. I will still keep my focus on helping other people and doing my free cleanings, but have that as an extra video series on my channel for those who are interested in that. And, as an added bonus, I won't be so stressed about how far behind I am getting on my own home!😊❤
Good luck with the move...prayers for no blizzard! Thanks so much for your support!
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Good to hear on the hubby, boo indeed on you
Ty!! ..take care of you!! 😪🤑🙏🙏🙏
I try to declutter every time I move!! (Before hand)
Would love to see that series!!💯❤️💯❤️💯 Decluttering is good for the soul!!❤️💯❤️💯
God bless
It’s awesome know matter if it’s a hoarding video or helping organize and clean for a person that needs just a good clean and some help. Great video. I’m halfway through and it’s late but I will return to finish. I ❤ to see the results makes me feel good and it’s not even my home. It motivates me too. Thank you Bonnie.
Thank you, Sheila. That's so nice of you!💕💕
I'd love to see a decluttering series with this house. With ADHD it's important to have less visual stimuli. If she were to pare down a little, reorganize, and have things a bit more hidden, it would help her to stay a little tidier. That is a bit of a delicate balance though because object permanence is a thing with ADHD. "Out of sight out of mind" is very detrimental when it comes to important items and daily items like meds and food. Struggle Mountain is what I have named the whole situation 😂🤦♀️😭
Struggle Mountain...LOL! That's funny that you've named it! Yes, I'm starting to understand that out of sight out of mind is a very common theme with people with ADHD, so, you are right, it's a delicate balance. I think having just the stuff out that is needed on a daily basis is a great idea and then maybe putting labels on the other things just so you don't have to see them, but you still know where to find them.😊❤️
Oh, and by the way, I am going to start doing a decluttering and deep cleaning series on my own home as it has kind of been neglected since I started this UA-cam thing and could use a good decluttering and deep clean, so I thought it might be interesting to do that maybe once a month and have it be part of a series to help people organize and deep clean their own homes. I can only show so much organizing when I clean other people's homes because, of course I don't have time to go through and get rid of all the paperwork and then put it in files, Etc, but I could actually show how I manage paper clutter in my own home and things like that.
Honestly, I just found your channel recently and I think it's amazing how you're helping people. Sometimes people just get overwhelmed and don't know how to start, but given a helping hand changes their lives...I'm enjoying all of your content ❤️
Thank you so much!
I love your positivity!
I’m here for the cleaning and the ASD content, it’s the best of both worlds for me! I liked seeing the products you were using too.
I’d like to know how you clean all the things you clean with, brushes, rubber gloves, etc? Thank you Bonnie.
Yay! Thank you! I'm actually in the planning process of doing a video series where I do a serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home where I can go into a little more detail about how I do certain things. When I clean these homes, there is only so much I can do because it's ultimately up to the homeowner how they want to manage things, so it's not always the way that I would do it. For instance, paperwork... it's hard to get it all organized into file folders and such since the homeowner still has to go through it and get rid of a lot of it, etc. So, I thought it would be helpful for people to see in more detail how I actually do things in my own home. And I'm not always the best at it, but I will be doing more research on some of the better methods of doing different things and hopefully it will be good content to help those who struggle with organization or deep cleaning certain areas of their home. And as a bonus, I get to stay a little bit more on top of my home since it's been a bit neglected since I started this UA-cam channel.. haha! Of course my main focus will still be on the free cleanings for people who need it, but this will just be something that I do maybe once or twice a month in place of those videos.
Blessings 💞🙏🏾 to your Mom 😊
Love this..true to most of us. Thank you!
Love the product pics. Big thanks to the homeowner for sharing this with us. It is so encouraging and inspiring.
Im so glad she shared her home. Its nice to know that someone elses home looks like mine and im not alone. ❤
Loving your moms smock/ apron. Super cute!!
She has had that thing since I was a teenager.. seriously!
Great job! I hope the mom is doing well. Big hug for her!! 😊🐦
I do enjoy this more realistic view of an average every day messy house. I’ve found for me the easiest way to manage stuff daily, is to have less. This has been pretty difficult for me as I grew up in a house CRAMMED with stuff. My parents still live like that. They have lots of kitchen counter space but are only able to use about six to eight inches of it b/c my mom wants everything out on the counter. I’m still not a minimalist, but I’ve come to realize that I have higher anxiety when I feel like there’s too much stuff around me. It’s also difficult as my husbands side are total hoarders. He grew up like that (barely able to walk through a room) and so he doesn’t see all the “stuff” as an issue. It doesn’t bother him in the least. I’ve got four kids, and three of them are also like that. Having to live with someone like that is also pretty frustrating, as I feel like I’m the only one who cares enough to tidy the house.
I'm so sorry that hoarding disorders seems to be rampant in your family. It's hard to be the one who wants to be tidy when no one else is on board. But, you are absolutely right... the answer is getting rid of stuff. I know for a lot of people with hoarding disorder, it is such a comfort for them to have all of the stuff around them and those of us who don't want to live like that, it makes us anxious, so that's a really bad combo. That's so hard and I don't know what the solution is, but it sounds like you are trying to at least get rid of what you can. Hopefully your husband doesn't fight you too much on what you choose to get rid of. Best of luck to you!💜🙏
I enjoy seeing the little pictures of the products you are using!
I had the same fridge for years but finally mastered it! A real pain.
Great video, thank you!! Lovely to see a relatable clean up/tidying. I’m really enjoying the organizing aspect these days.
Can’t wait to see you and Mira work on her kitchen! Thanks for recommending her, she’s so lovely! ❤
Thank you! I am actually in the planning stages of doing a series of serious decluttering, organizing, and deep cleaning of my own home because it has become a little neglected since I started this channel and I thought it would be fun to do a video once or twice a month of my own home and how exactly I tackle each thing in more detail. There is only so much I can do at other people's homes, specifically with paperwork, etc., so you never really get to see how I would actually declutter and organize it if it were my own. I will still keep my focus on helping other people and doing my free cleanings, but have that as an extra video series on my channel for those who are interested in that. And, as an added bonus, I won't be so stressed about how far behind I am getting on my own home!❤😊
And, oh my goodness, yes, I can't wait for everyone to see Mira's kitchen transformation! She's such a wonderful person!
Sounds great! Can't wait to see videos of organizing/decluttering/cleaning of your home.
How sweet that your mom cleans with you ❤
I absolutely love the mother daughter duo!! ❤️❤️
I'm so excited to see you & Mira's collaboration!!!
So happy to hear the video with Mira is coming out, been waiting for that!
Great job. For the moldy sealant around the bath, use some kitchen paper/tissue/cotton wool soaked in bleach and press onto the sealant. After an hour or two, take the tissue off and rinse. The mold should be gone.
Great tip!