@@HeLpLOstGOdAny1 As the definition of bullying is to "harm, intimidate or coerce" it follows that more covert tactics would fall under the same umbrella term as well.
@@DaveGIS123 You're right David!! It gives them an opening to play victim, manipulate and sabotage others as other's telling about flaws and vulnerabilities are like chum to sharks. What's the answer to this I wonder? I guess they show themselves over time, mostly in how they respond or not to others and if their compassion is fake and self serving or not? I watch for serial pests, you get a gut feeling and give them a wide berth. Have a good day!! 💞
Who else is becoming overwhelmed with the realisation that in fact the MAJORITY of people are so easily manipulated? I genuinely never thought there was such a high percentage of emotional people out there.
@@kellyyork3898 yes people also need to realize that the people who want so badly to be at the top of the power and money structure tend to be Psychopathic and sadistic and predatory
I react like such a sheep in certain circumstances. I've realised that my childhood fear and thought processes of "don't make matters worse" as a self-protection strategy against bullies, no longer works as an adult. Sooo difficult after 50 years of cowering to the bullies to shift gears and face the confrontations. Damn it's hard. This whole 2020 hasn't been about the stress of illness. It's been about the stress of making a stand when everything inside is screaming "don't ruffle feathers". I've learnt a lot about myself and others in 2020 and one important thing is 'my life matters' and stop seeing every authoritative figure as my psychopathic parents. 'When you were a child you acted like a child, when you become an adult you should act like an adult'. The quickening and awakening of 2020 for us has been a rude awakening; forcing those who have the inner eyes to see, to make huge shifts in our mental, psychological and spiritual states. My childhood taught me "you don't matter". 2020 is trying desperately to teach me "yes, Rachael, you do matter, stand up for yourself, no one else is going to do it for you".
Beautiful Rachael. That's exactly what this time is about, taking personal responsibility, awakening our spirit and raising our level of awareness/consciousness of the true self. Know that you are NOT alone. Much love.
sheep need to protect eachother from wolves somehow. I have said that perhaps the sheep need to become wolves to avoid being prey But i'm not sure how that works out tbh
In reality it would be more like “GTF” and him punching them in the nose. I think Richard was being polite for the camera. The northern temperament is not ‘good day sir’ lol I know. I live a few miles down the road from him. In Manchester we’d just launch the b@stards, no questions asked. Down south however is much more ‘good day sir’ let me lick your boots! In Scotland they’d just headbutt you. It gets tougher the further north you go in the U.K. 🤣🤣
He who obeys the bully for safety or security of the moment gets more seriously screwed in the end. Domestic or government issues alike. Generally speaking.
...then again, me and my kids are still alive. I live in wonder at my parallel universes where I said No and either died or lived a far better life free of fear. I have no way of knowing if this current half-life is better or worse than my "what if" alternatives.
I grown-up in a ruf environment. When something really bad happened to me, i think, I turned psihopatic. No fear, no emotion, ready to die. And then they pulled back... I was lucky to escape, but I still have the psychological wounds. I wish you all a good life. Thank you for this video!
What I learned about Narcs in my very unpleasant relationship is that the more you give in and comply and show fear the more they come for you. Control is what they want and ultimately they want to squash the life out of you. There has to be resistance and non compliance. Drama isn’t needed because they like drama. Just quiet non compliance. Just get on with life, this is what I have done from the start. I’ll just add that if you watch TV you are letting them control you.
I stayed in a hotel and watched some tv. It’s been too long so I find it intolerable. It’s creepy like Craigslist; somewhat useful if you have powers of DISCERNMENT, otherwise it’s a shitshow.
Yup! Words I abide by: “The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.” Albert Camus
I was bullied about when I was a kid. I found if you basically attack them like a roman legionarie and get your ass kicked anyway... they generally leave you alone. They use threat of violence because that is what scares them most. They assume it works on everyone. Break their nose... they stay away. This guy puts too much thought into the subject. Be willing to be as violent, at the moment notice. Learn to become situationally aware and you can avoid these encounters. Half the people you meet on any given day are mentally dysfunctional, 1% are dangerous/pathetic.
Absolutely! You hit the nail on the head here. Bullies only understand ONE THING! Take them down HARD, THE VERY FIRST TIME. They do not “negotiate” and neither should you. I would also add, get witnesses’ names and addresses and, if possible, get them on tape. Make sure it is evident you were defending yourself against an attack the bully initiated. Then hire an excellent attorney/firm of lawyers-preferably one who plays golf with the local judge, and sue the bully, his parents, the employer or school system who allowed this to happen. Go get ‘em.
I agree completely with you, most people are still mentally dysfunctional they need to put you down and feel better about himself, and then they cover it up with a fake mask and pretend perfection in their dysfunctional life which is actually just full of garbage and chaos and misery two other people because they can't control their own emotions so they try to do other methods to make themself feel better in this world and in reality they are next to trash. Example is say you run 20 miles and they can't run at all well they're going to try to make you look like the dysfunctional one because they can't run but yet you can so you can see why they are so ugly to you it's because they are so low
G.M McLoughlin 💗 I have been listening to Tolerate this, by Manic Street Preachers for the last few weeks. Empowering songs are helping me, more than ever now, in; Times like these (Foo fighters) and This is not a love song (P.I.L) Stay strong 💪 everyone. Love to all 🥰😘
@@kibby5774 hi karla. If you click on my face. It will show my comment from this post on how childhood bullying effects how we respond as adults in bullying situations. I don't believe Richard is pushing political narratives. He's highlighting a worldwide phenomenon that's too good an example not to be used to teach why some unquestioningly obey whilst others question the narrative first. Are we taught as children to trust our instincts and intellect or are we taught to bugger all that and do as we are told or else. If the latter, we set ourselves up to always do as we're told... or else. He's asking us to question... "what is the 'else' that we fear that is worse than the consequence of using our own mind?
Torture hurts, torture is worse than death. Sometimes after a successful torture session death follows anyway. If you fight you MIGHT die. If you comply, you WILL BE tortured. After torture you may become sucidal, as the intire point of torture, is that it is worse than death. Don't get tortured, it wont be worth it. Fight for more than your life. 😁👌👍
thank you for stirring up this difficult point. People shrink back instead of accepting the risk of personal consequences of fight back ALL TOGETHER, which would annihilate the threat. Distrust and ignorance make room to the psychopath. A cohesive response against threats should be taught as 'good manners' in life. Thank you again.
Yours is such an important point. Let me say, it’s THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT. I’ll go further. There are NO OTHER SOLUTIONS. Two scenarios at a population level, when the authorities threaten us. Which THEY WILL. We can be CERTAIN of this, because the entire situation has as its goal to seize TOTALITARIAN CONTROL of the entire human race. Nothing that’s happened & continues to happen is accidental or inadvertent. It’s exactly as the presenter says. The threats, carefully thought-out, have as their goals to get you to comply with their absurd demands. Does the threat merit the response? Absolutely not. The narrative has the scenario of a respiratory bug going around & killing a fraction of the most frail and elderly. Not younger and more healthy people. So why the dickens is there this relentless propaganda and pressure to get multiply jabbed? I know, but most here wouldn’t accept it if I was to elaborate. But it’s bad. Very bad. I think of it as sat*nic. That’s where this global drive originates. If enough of us say “NO”, and mean it, the bullies’ power evaporates. Because what are they going to do? Beat up, shoot or even KILL the non-compliant? I don’t think they’ll do that. There are not enough people willing to do the implied “wet work” for that path to be effective. So though the authorities may make examples of a few, they cannot to that to the majority. If sufficient of us say “NO” & mean it, they lose. Provided we haven’t already relinquished our autonomy. If most of us comply with the threat, because of the “…or else”, we’re essentially being TAKEN TO A SECONDARY CRIME SCENE. You will lose all your freedoms, permanently, because that is the agenda of the perpetrators. Once they have totalitarian tyranny over every individual, what then do you think will happen? They’re obviously going to continue to insist you get jab after jab after jab. We know this because huge manufacturing facilities are being built everywhere. Also, our governments have already agreed to purchase sufficient jabs for ten (10) MORE injections per citizen. Nobody will survive ten more of these injections. Now do you understand that the equivalent of fighting & risking dying, as in the speakers example of a gun threat in the street (“Get in the car, or else”) is less bad than going along with the demand? You’re essentially allowing yourself to be taken to a secondary crime scene. Never, ever, allow that to happen.
The most sensible perspective I’ve encountered to date.....thank you Richard for unraveling my fear in this situation & reminding me that I can say “NO”!!💜
No no no! What’s happening now is crazytown!! I’ve lost my business! I have zero income! I would be shut down immediately by the bullies if I attempted to work again! I refuse to clap like a seal every Thursday! I’m positive that someone has noticed and has shamed me privately!! I simply don’t care!! The consequences of this disproportionate response by government bullies can’t be measured. The collateral damage it will create in human misery is immeasurable. And for what????
They said no more black and white. Only white. Business has to shut down because of their narcissistic false god complex. They don’t believe in anyone, just this mass cover up of truths they couldn’t swallow. Your western imperialism has debt owed. No more abuses to other nations until they pay up.
Double NO!!! " When injustice becomes law, resistance becomes duty" - Thomas Jefferson None of this makes sense. I've experienced that situation when I was 19. Gun to the forehead, demanded I get into my car, etc. I told him No! I am here today to speak about it.
Yeah. I'd say horrifying. They take the side of the bully. I've seen this. They tell you that you should feel sorry for the bully, that if they harm you its your fault or you just didn't understand, then they tell you that you're the bad guy if you don't forgive. I think bullies pursue groups of enablers who will hand over a victim. Its one of the hardest thing to deal with.
@@sage9836 and some will be high profile and know how to get social approval to a tee. Exaggerate things and appear to only have to repeat the lie: 'that didn't happen' to get by
@@jorgepeterbarton I like ypur explanation of their formula. Its so frustrating how they look awesome ans leave a trail of destruction. But then, I guess they never really get away with it because they have to deny things constantly. . .
I've had this experience as well. The people who you think will be on your side just seem to automatically turn on you and take the side of your enemy or just turn into non entities while the bully is in the room.
@@DrogoBaggins987 I'm glad I got involved in this conversation. I thought it might be unique to a small group I know who forms a welcoming committee for a bully or even criminal who targets one of the group. Perhaps its entertaining for them to watch an outsider put the scapegoat down because they find it affirming. I am so eager for sociologists to do analysis of this common problem.
It’s true, people feel super threatened when you stand in your power and freedom. Their fawn response is challenged and rather than stand up to the bullies and abusers, they scapegoat you cos you have the guts to stand up for what’s true and good.
@@carmel-wayfinder5401 So well said ! I've taken so much bad wrap for standing where others just fawned in the face of abuse, and then when the outcome was positive they thanked me for it, when the outcome was status quo or bad, they looked down on me. At least I felt like I stood up for my convictions
Excellent video. The world seems to have unleashed its bullies and it has become unnatural. Stay strong, folks. Many thanks for this precise and very powerful message, Richard. Greetings from Cincinnati!
Loved this! Every new voice I hear that speaks up about this gives me so much hope. More people are waking up but we can’t wait for everyone to wake up before we make a stand. We can’t underestimate our own power in saying NO! We are powerful beyond measure!
Never had it... Just learning in my late 30's. It was programmed out of me at a very young age. Getting to the bottom of it all though. I have eyes, ears, nose, mouth, a body and yes a brain. And they function quite well! Don't like other ppl telling me who I am, how I feel, what I see, what I perceive etc any longer. I am me from the inside out, no longer outwardly in. So... What Should be Common sense sadly is not to many who were trained from birth into emotional and mental blindness! Thanks for your comment! Makes my quest worth it to know the sense I'm gaining should be common...sorry of like saying it's my birthright. It's our birthright to honor our perceptions and conclusions and brainpower and feelings. Yes!
@@youtubingbabs no brother you are on the right path. Go within, discover spirituality, who you are. Don't listen to the news or organized religion. GO WITHIN. Trust yourself and your experiences. You just said you have eyes nose and ears. TRUST THEM. Trust what you see and hear trust what your body is telling you. They want us to feel like we need to confide in others what we feel in order for it to be true. And yes like the last guy said they are trying to rule over us. Across the world I'm watching people realize, people taking these messages more seriously. I guess I learned at a young age because I've been through hardship and I come from Chicago. I'm nineteen. All my friends have been robbed before, caught by police smoking weed, not me. Easy situations to avoid. Shit when I open the door for the mail man I have a knife on me at all times. Some people say I'm paranoid and it'll never happen so why are you worried, but you aren't paranoid when your car carries a spare tire or med kit. It's called being prepared. Just because waking up is an uncomfortable, harsh reality, doesn't mean sleeping through it and just being a drone/pawn is the right choice. Nothing good for you is easy. Think independently. Trust yourself. Go within. I know not what more to tell you, for I am just a young adult from Chicago. But I wish to share with you these lessons I find useful. Stay safe in this time of economic devastation. I hope everyone is doing well. 🙏🏻
Amen we must not Divide. We are more danger being 6 feet a part vs Safe precautions and forming a Collective with mass amounts of No we don't comply based on our Constitutional rights
Karla Bradley K Gandhi lead the Indian people to the sea to collect salt by mass which was illegal, it worked, there are thousands of examples in history where noncompliance on a Mescale has defeated tyranny, you can look it up yourself.
Wow! I didn't see where this was heading. Well done! One of the frightening things about bullies, and being abused by them, is sometimes they are not recognized for what they are and what they are actually doing. Our government, like our parents, only want the best for us, it's all for our own good, no matter how bad it feels....yeah right!
He said it's already happening, yeah right! Like, what's the explanation for not teaching taxation in school? If you don't pay your taxes, the police will kill you if you refuse going to jail. That's reason. Bullies and psychopaths are the outcome of that reality.
Question one: NO. The threat doesn't merit the response. Question two: YES. This level of response and acquiescence is much more destructive than the original threat. We have already allowed the bully to take us to a secondary crime scene. Economic fallout, food chain disruption, vitriol towards neighbors, STOCKHOLM SYNDROME. I can not tell you how sick it all makes me to think there are other humans who share my planet that will perpetrate this crime on their fellow man. Who do they think they are? Or, maybe, W.H.O. do they think WE are?
We are all in the same boat Globally and its become a floating prison for many. The mainstream media perpetrating an act of mental piracy selling their B.S story, repeated repeatedly. And the masses are buying it daily!. Malcolm X ......Oh, I say and I say it again, ya been had! Ya been took! Ya been hoodwinked! Bamboozled! Led astray! Run amok! I might get that printed on a T-Shirt. Titled Plandemic.
Put it the other way around - does the threat from response warrant the response? Because I see very little in term of response to the real threat arising from manufactured one, or that people are even able to conceive what their response might be. The threat that asks you to do nothing in response is always going to win over the one requiring action.
@@iawtc it's all a big fat lie - and they are hoping we find it out so that we riot. Riots give them a reason to bring martial law and total control! They can't wait!!
Sooooo agree. Great video. My go to response now is if the situation allows it is " i don't make big decisions whilst I'm emotionally fuelled, i need to calm down and be rational and think before i make big life decisions. "
Bravo Richard! Just sorry I didn't see this five months ago when you did it. This vid is extremely potent, and valuable to potentially flip the switch in people's minds to what is really going on, where endless conversations are futile when minds and indeed hearts are frozen. Delighted to have fallen over your channel. You have a clever ability to solidify what I try to explain to others but often fail. Succinct, to the point and easy to comprehend. I chose to watch this one as I have been bullied in one way or another my whole life. Only now learning to say NO! It has been like magic so far for me. Thank you! 🙏👏🌻
I've watched a few of your videos already, but this video is the one that convinced me to subscribe. Amen! Great job! Your help with Covert Narcissists is the best I've ever heard from anyone... with my father being one, I'm learning from the inside so to speak. God BLESS you!
Yep - economy IS lives. Yes - we ARE being forced. And I am raising my voice against this enforced tyranny on as many platforms as I can. So far many of my comments have been blocked- but I continue.
Solid, sobering advice . . . a way to find your way. Thank You with all my heart and for the people I stand up for as well as the Power Elites I stand up to, often alone . . . you are indeed a friend in my time of need.
You knocked that out of the park with a grand slam! Excellent explanation!!!! I see it exactly as you do I have been in those places before, it is true, the best option is always to say no and to fight! Especially in this crazy situation! You see how "honest" they were about the whole deal, everyday they get more draconian. Wish the Generals would care and see it the same way.
Having been bullied into submission is the source of my frustration most of the time, I’ve let bullies into my head out of sheer habit and need for community. I’m grateful to have escaped the chains of other folks’ fantasy for actually reality and true emotional security. Our culture depends on stereotyping, marginalizing, and isolating creatives and interesting individuals, while simultaneously parading their corporate/establishment “ENTERTAINER”, Flavor of the month”, or “Playmate of the month” if you prefer. Capitalism depends on your choice to embrace OBEDIENCE, and FASCISM will demand it outright. Be prepared for things to degrade quickly. By now you should know who your friends are, and more importantly, who they aren’t. Get real or get dead. 💪🏼🌞👍🏼
So well said, there is constant fear being put out by everyone on you tube but even though I have researched and listened to all points of view and decided where I am within it all, it seems around me everyone is doing what they are told, this can create fear in me that I am pretty much alone in my convictions, it's only when I come and look at the comments do I feel a bit encouraged. Let's hope there are enough out there who will stand up and be counted and not leave it to others
When you are strong in your convictions and the time comes to act upon them, the courage will arise. It's best not to look to your right or to your left. Stay focused on what you know is right. Your WILL, will follow. ❤
I completely understand what this video is saying. And personally that's what I've been saying to myself, I'd rather fight and risk my life than obey some thug.
only watching this today Richard but it is truly topical. Thank you. The protest in Dublin last Saturday had people screaming NO NO NO - it's such a powerful word! Thank you
@@martistankowski1792 Same , just still amazed how 90% of people are willfully blind/ cowards .Lost my faith in majority of society etc. Maybe gave too much credit before
Richard, well done not just about Covid, but about explaining the natural fear when confronted unexpectedly by an assailant, one of the first things I was taught was to hit first when attacked no taking, no thinking get in first. Also if a few of them always attack the biggest and loudest first the rest melt away.
NO And the response is most detrimental to life and liberty. The social shaming and "forced" quarantine is tyranny. Thank You Richard, most refreshing message.
Another great video, thanks to your hard work , Richard. People who are bullied can doubt that they are actually the victims, especially if they have suffered abuse from a narc parent when they were a child. It's crucial they see themselves as THE VICTIM. The bully can usually " scan " someone quickly and won't hesitate to play with their mind.
I am a partner of a company and I am saying no and keeping the business going, much to the disapproval of my other partner and employees. They are purely led by fear not facts. It’s been a real eye opener to see who would just “get in the car”....I would have been them before my ex npd dumped me. Finding this channel has helped me recognise my codependent ways and my way of healing is fighting this economic narcissist 💪🏽
Richie, I hadn’t seen one of your videos for a couple of years, then the one you did in Ibiza saying you were going to do more philosophy and less narc and abuse recovery popped up on my feed. Then didn’t see anything until the last few days. The series you are doing now is really good, useful, clear, concise, and compassionate. I’m not sure what changed your mind back to doing these videos but they are useful for many many people. I’m also glad you are doing your own thing rather than clubbing with Sam. All best 🤞🏽✌🏽
Richard is his own man. He has his own style. Please do not confuse "clubbing" with professional collaboration. At the end of the day the common goal should be to educate as many people as possible on how to protect themselves from any kind of abuse and Richard is doing an awesome job at that.
Richard is amazing! Sam is open and honest (maybe). Poor thing. Richard let us all see just how "human a narc can be" with Sam. Did I say poor thing! Yep - poor thing! If nothing else - we can all be glad we are not Sam!
June Gerber Sam at some point in his videos, once or twice, gaslights , or does something to garner narcissistic supply. When he does I out loud make a “no” comment. LOL. This keeps my muscles sharp, to see abuse and manage my nervous system in face of boundary invasions. Then I take the GOOD Intel, without the offense. Watching him feels like being a spy, like I’m reading communist Intel while protecting myself from the propaganda. I don’t necessarily recommend him for people who are new to recovery. But I am very thankful for his contributions to society.
What about a mugging on the street? I had a friend who had been mugged several times in Nottingham, England. I think if he had resisted they would have beaten the living daylights out of him. By complying he lost his money and his dignity but he kept his life. I also had a friend (a very mild, nice person) who was kicked in the bollocks at school by a really nasty guy. Later on, this friend ambushed this nasty guy and gave him a real beating. However, instead of ending the conflict that nasty guy kept looking for my friend to get revenge on him and there seemed to be nothing the authorities could do about it. I also remember a really big guy (he was a head taller than me) who bumped into me on purpose as I was reading a newspaper at a supermarket. I looked at him. And then he turned round towards me and said "Have you got a problem?". If I had said yes, this guy would have put me in hospital. I said nothing and he went away. I think you have to gauge very carefully the possible future outcomes.
Universal law states whatever you give permission to happen can and probably will. Submission is permission and we must establish our sovereignty and say NO. But in order not to have karmic repercussions we also need to send them love and release them back towards the light. We ain’t sheeple we people❤️
Simply amazing to share with people who are stuck in the fear response and to share with freethinkers who are frustrated with the people complying - Thank You Richard for this.
Richard, You are the voice of sanity in these surreal times! I totally agree, the devastation to our economy is unprecedented, I too have lost my job. But also the effects on peoples' mental health and wellbeing is being tested like never before. I believe that the government and their control of the media is causing untold damage. 🌄💗
Thank you Richard for sharing your wisdom and knowledge with us. I find myself engaging in this dynamic with people that are dysfunctional. You inspire me to be a leader of my own life and take responsibility for the decisions I make instead of choosing to becoming a victim of someone else's narrative.
I love to hear these things that are not directly related to narcissism (even though much of it applies to all situations where a 'NO' is a good response and could be used to maintain any set of boundaries.) Ok, I am probably one of those who has consumed thousands of hours listening to you trying to figure out how to exit a toxic relationship. Not there yet, but this video moves the focus to en entity outside of the relationship and I think that it for some odd reason is easier to grasp what action I would take if threatened, but it is the same I internally want to with all and any relationship with toxic persons. I have over the last few months noticed a change in my relationship with the self and this is a good thing. Less fear for saying no and less anxiety for the response when doing so.
Thank you Richard. You are a help and a comfort in these troubled times. I not only see the current situation in a new light but bullying in general. A lot of the time the threat does not justify the response but people make the threat seem bigger or worse in their own minds than it actually is. At least that's been my experience.
Thank you for your insight on this subject. I had a gut feeling that I went through this some time ago, but it was wrapped in “care” and “love”. Now know that noone who truly cares about you will ever force you to do or not to do something. When you stand up and do not let yourself being bullied and they leave, relief is inmediate, but a lot of damage was done.
Thank you, Richard. In these days you are a source of validation if not courage outright. Reading the comments though is slightly scary as much as it is consoling, makes me think you are preaching to the converted... But makes the day brighter to see there are people who have their wits about them.
Thanks so much for this! It explains a lot. I love having a rational explanation for what is happening, for as you pointed out, there is not much of that going on these days! God bless you and thanks again for your wisdom!
I get where you're going with this! How awesome is Richard? This video sums up everything better than hours and hours of other youtubers can. WE MUST RESIST!
I think what you say here is spot on, and definitely tactfully said. I took a basic urban SERE course from a former Navy Seal who also did personal security for two US presidents. He said the same things, but here you did it far more succinctly and easy to understand - something I think you have a rare talent for. Btw, I saw another tactic used locally. I don't know when it was started but now in my city you cannot get a virus test without first downloading a telemedicine (tracking) app. So not just threat of violence or shame, but confusion/uncertainty is definitely a tool of coercion. As if anyone here didn't know that one already.
Thankyou very much ,I really appreciate how you have approached this topic .Also look forward to more of these level ,balanced view of how to handle issues !
Bullies feed off their targets’ fear and uncertainty. Establishing boundaries is important to disarm them. Identify the bullying for what it is and be proactive. Be empowered and stay safe!
In my case I can't get rid of my psycho DA DV neighbours, believe me I've tried every legal recourse and then some and it's made it worse if anything, and I dont want to relocate after decades either. I'm subjected to crazy stalking, serious death threats, name-calling, extreme music and foul vocals, etc., and nothing seems to have worked, they just keep going and have a mafia type gang of druugies in and out random hours, unpredictable... It's who they are and I'm the opposite, quiet alone, a tortured considerate anxious empath feeling like I'm switching characters with them I feel so triggered but I don't react as I've learnt theyre sadistic and love to torture you for any possible or perceived fear or weakness like not wanting to go deaf or be killed or sent crazy by them. I'm not a victim, THEY act the victim!! but I'm not surviving very well like this although I'm working on myself more and documenting any standouts next door, and I'm not sure what to do next. Any ideas? 🙏🙏🙏
@@louisegarner8888 Get some power in your relationship with them. They blast music at your house when you try to sleep? change up your sleep routine, find out when they sleep and blast them with music. If you're in america, show them your carrying arms. They won't stop if you dont give them a reason to. Maybe the above advice is bad. Consider moving. Basically, move or change yourself. Don't try to be a decent person they will do everything to destroy decent persons.
@@formepvp I'm in Oz and police recovered all their weapons but you never know... At least landlord and police are on high alert and I've backed right off pretty much as it triggers the main offender while I'm going higher up at the same time to the Housing Minister to see them moved on. As it's been almost 3 years now I think it's probably more bluff, just extreme nuisance and harrassment and other neighbours are on watch but don't want to get over involved. I'm over it and I've been doing a few pattern interupts on them lately where another neighbour and I play ABBA, Elvis, Kenny Rogers, etc., loud front and back whenever they start up, set off smoke alarm strategically, loud on phone to get them wondering type of thing and one of them said sorry to me in driveway so maybe things will change or they'll destroy each other first? It's the drug minds I dont trust uno can get dangerous, so I'm extra careful just very tired and do switch times and places I sleep to cope. I was thinking moving may be best if nothing changes I'll see what the Minister comes up with first. Thankyou for caring to reply, it means alot!! 💞
Yes Richard I hear the message. Responses right now are similar to how we were raised in disfunctional families. Go along to get along;, dont do as I do, do as I say; don't you know the more you stir up sh$t the more it stinks. All this in the name of love and your own best interest. It's all unspoken messages, and if you don't comply you're called defiant, hard headed, argumentative. Our parents did a good job training us this way and it fell right into the government's lap. Thanks Mom and Dad for the valuable lesson unfortunately or maybe not! Warmest regards.
Yesss!!!! I 💯 agree with you Mr.Grannon and the facts are exactly what my mind ruminates on. What is the complete mind F is the reality “they” are forcing us into vs the reality of the situation. Thank you for saying all this because I needed a person like you to do so!!!!
Could not agree more. Thanks for being a commentator that has some damn guts. No the threat does not merit the response. Yes the response iis worse than the threat. AND the lies and deceptions being put out should be enough to have us all on alert.
I told my teenage daughters to never let anyone force them into a vehiclie. Finally, I hear someone else with the same mindset. Better dead than tortured and then killed.
I'll never forget a police officer saying this 20 years ago. "Imagine what they want to do to you when nobody is around to witness it? And at least being shot or stabbed where you are gives you a better chance of receiving medical help quicker". Best advice ever.
When i was a kid one kid keep bullying me, i though this will never end and next time i will fight him. I thought, i will get beaten but i will get beaten anyway, hopefully i can hurt him. Surprisingly i was so full of adrenaline made me much stronger that i though, i literally tear his shirt off and he run away and never bully me again. This event was a big eye opener in my life.
Cool. My buddy growing up had a three strikes rule. One kid was bullying my friend and he went to the principal told him what was happening and his rule. Kid bullied a fourth time and my nerdy buddy knocked out a portion of his front tooth. Principal knowing situation did nothing to my friend and bully got in trouble
there's a toxic tart I know that is trying to push me to my limits thing that bothers me though is that I am VERY capable of "losing it" with her one day if she pushes me too far and that did be VERY stupid on her part to provoke a victim of a forced adoption as a baby and subsequent childhood abuse so bitch had better back off me before it's too late for both of us!
Thank you again, Richard. I'm getting there with your constant education, support, and guidance. Bullying is in almost all aspects and areas of our lives. Work, school, home, out there...It's doing it or ELSE! Most of that came right from my FOO and went on too long. So, this is taking a while with your help. Blessings, Richard. Some question, BTW.
My gracious!......👀.... I am so grateful! You just gave me something quite major! Certain people think that I'm cold and analytical because I say "before we get all (insert appropriate word), let's logically look at the data"; and instead of looking objectively, they have this fawn reaction you were talking about at 15:38.....(!!!) I was trying to figure out their thinking processes; just subjective, and not objective..... I want to say thank you, thank you, thank you again, because you stated some words of wisdom that I very, very much needed to hear! The voices of fear and fawning and confusion, are getting louder than the voices of reason and so it takes more effort to maintain objective thought.
This is the best description to all this nonsense I’ve seen so far! Thank you for putting it so clearly for people to just think about it, they don’t have to agree but just thinking about it. I am on the side of saying “just shoot me!” because I will always choose death over going through a worse scenario (in this case oppression and totalitarianism)
Free yourselves people. Never ever be a slave to anyone or anything.
A A if they have your child you have no choice
@@joannebohan2243 So do you think it's a good option for you to let your child be a slave too...
@@joannebohan2243 That is exactly why I love our 2nd Amendment.
@@joannebohan2243 You always have a choice. You just may not like the consequences.
Carmel- Wayfinder if I take her they can arrest me
All the narcs use bullying to manipulate the victim.
No, some are spineless cowards, so use victim narratives, traingulation, projection, gas-lighting and other covert methods
And some use passive-aggressive guilt trips leaving the victim feel “crazy”
@@HeLpLOstGOdAny1 As the definition of bullying is to "harm, intimidate or coerce" it follows that more covert tactics would fall under the same umbrella term as well.
Narcs also use bullying to manipulate the other people watching. Narcs love to be big shots.
@@DaveGIS123 You're right David!! It gives them an opening to play victim, manipulate and sabotage others as other's telling about flaws and vulnerabilities are like chum to sharks. What's the answer to this I wonder? I guess they show themselves over time, mostly in how they respond or not to others and if their compassion is fake and self serving or not? I watch for serial pests, you get a gut feeling and give them a wide berth. Have a good day!! 💞
Who else is becoming overwhelmed with the realisation that in fact the MAJORITY of people are so easily manipulated? I genuinely never thought there was such a high percentage of emotional people out there.
I think most politicians ( and some pastors of churches ) understand how easily people are manipulated. ; )
@@kellyyork3898 yes people also need to realize that the people who want so badly to be at the top of the power and money structure tend to be Psychopathic and sadistic and predatory
Stanley Milgram experiments. Most people will administer shocks to innocent people at the behest of authority figures. Was done after WW2
I react like such a sheep in certain circumstances. I've realised that my childhood fear and thought processes of "don't make matters worse" as a self-protection strategy against bullies, no longer works as an adult. Sooo difficult after 50 years of cowering to the bullies to shift gears and face the confrontations. Damn it's hard. This whole 2020 hasn't been about the stress of illness. It's been about the stress of making a stand when everything inside is screaming "don't ruffle feathers". I've learnt a lot about myself and others in 2020 and one important thing is 'my life matters' and stop seeing every authoritative figure as my psychopathic parents. 'When you were a child you acted like a child, when you become an adult you should act like an adult'. The quickening and awakening of 2020 for us has been a rude awakening; forcing those who have the inner eyes to see, to make huge shifts in our mental, psychological and spiritual states.
My childhood taught me "you don't matter". 2020 is trying desperately to teach me "yes, Rachael, you do matter, stand up for yourself, no one else is going to do it for you".
Beautiful Rachael. That's exactly what this time is about, taking personal responsibility, awakening our spirit and raising our level of awareness/consciousness of the true self. Know that you are NOT alone. Much love.
Same here! I feel what you say. We deserve to be protected by us. We can support ourselves💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
sheep need to protect eachother from wolves somehow.
I have said that perhaps the sheep need to become wolves to avoid being prey
But i'm not sure how that works out tbh
"Give me all your money"
"I'd prefer not to, have a good day and goodbye"
😂 that couldn't be anymore British!
You forgot to tip your hat and tuck your cane under your armpit.
@@sonnyca 😂
@@sonnyca that's true, I'll also tug at my gloves and let my coat tails swash you in the face as I spin and leave. GOOD DAY TO YOU SIR!
😂
In reality it would be more like “GTF” and him punching them in the nose. I think Richard was being polite for the camera. The northern temperament is not ‘good day sir’ lol I know. I live a few miles down the road from him. In Manchester we’d just launch the b@stards, no questions asked.
Down south however is much more ‘good day sir’ let me lick your boots!
In Scotland they’d just headbutt you. It gets tougher the further north you go in the U.K. 🤣🤣
He who obeys the bully for safety or security of the moment gets more seriously screwed in the end. Domestic or government issues alike. Generally speaking.
That's a Facts 💚
Nicely said! Valid point! 💖💖💖💖💖
Not in my case
...then again, me and my kids are still alive. I live in wonder at my parallel universes where I said No and either died or lived a far better life free of fear. I have no way of knowing if this current half-life is better or worse than my "what if" alternatives.
satan doesn't spare anyone
I grown-up in a ruf environment. When something really bad happened to me, i think, I turned psihopatic. No fear, no emotion, ready to die. And then they pulled back...
I was lucky to escape, but I still have the psychological wounds.
I wish you all a good life.
Thank you for this video!
Love it!!! Just say NO to everything that’s against your morals, principles and will. God bless you and God bless freedom at all cost 🙏🏼 🇱🇷
Please do more talks like this Richard. I have not felt this normal in weeks. Love to all who had enough.
Seriously. And thanks!
☮️
Best video he's ever done. Are the Wilderness Years at an end?
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What I learned about Narcs in my very unpleasant relationship is that the more you give in and comply and show fear the more they come for you. Control is what they want and ultimately they want to squash the life out of you. There has to be resistance and non compliance. Drama isn’t needed because they like drama. Just quiet non compliance. Just get on with life, this is what I have done from the start. I’ll just add that if you watch TV you are letting them control you.
Speaking up is important because people need to understand what is happening
Exactly 💚
I stayed in a hotel and watched some tv. It’s been too long so I find it intolerable. It’s creepy like Craigslist; somewhat useful if you have powers of DISCERNMENT, otherwise it’s a shitshow.
Yup! Words I abide by: “The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion.” Albert Camus
@@SC-gw8np great quote!!
Try to explain this to 'stay home stay safe' crew.
happening now!
I was bullied about when I was a kid. I found if you basically attack them like a roman legionarie and get your ass kicked anyway... they generally leave you alone.
They use threat of violence because that is what scares them most. They assume it works on everyone. Break their nose... they stay away.
This guy puts too much thought into the subject. Be willing to be as violent, at the moment notice. Learn to become situationally aware and you can avoid these encounters.
Half the people you meet on any given day are mentally dysfunctional, 1% are dangerous/pathetic.
Absolutely! You hit the nail on the head here. Bullies only understand ONE THING! Take them down HARD, THE VERY FIRST TIME. They do not “negotiate” and neither should you. I would also add, get witnesses’ names and addresses and, if possible, get them on tape. Make sure it is evident you were defending yourself against an attack the bully initiated. Then hire an excellent attorney/firm of lawyers-preferably one who plays golf with the local judge, and sue the bully, his parents, the employer or school system who allowed this to happen. Go get ‘em.
I agree completely with you, most people are still mentally dysfunctional they need to put you down and feel better about himself, and then they cover it up with a fake mask and pretend perfection in their dysfunctional life which is actually just full of garbage and chaos and misery two other people because they can't control their own emotions so they try to do other methods to make themself feel better in this world and in reality they are next to trash.
Example is say you run 20 miles and they can't run at all well they're going to try to make you look like the dysfunctional one because they can't run but yet you can so you can see why they are so ugly to you it's because they are so low
Wow Richie .... you tell it as it is. "If you tolerate this, then your children will be next". 💚
G.M McLoughlin 💗 I have been listening to Tolerate this, by Manic Street Preachers for the last few weeks. Empowering songs are helping me, more than ever now, in; Times like these (Foo fighters) and This is not a love song (P.I.L) Stay strong 💪 everyone. Love to all 🥰😘
I went back to listen more closely to Silent Running by Mike and the Mechanics. I recommend highly!
'our' children, those who went to college, have been brain washed into this already. :(
YES! 💃 I've always believed that there is a ripple effect when we stand up. The buck stops with us!! ✊
@@kibby5774 hi karla. If you click on my face. It will show my comment from this post on how childhood bullying effects how we respond as adults in bullying situations. I don't believe Richard is pushing political narratives. He's highlighting a worldwide phenomenon that's too good an example not to be used to teach why some unquestioningly obey whilst others question the narrative first. Are we taught as children to trust our instincts and intellect or are we taught to bugger all that and do as we are told or else. If the latter, we set ourselves up to always do as we're told... or else. He's asking us to question... "what is the 'else' that we fear that is worse than the consequence of using our own mind?
BASICALLY, dont voluntarily embrace TORTURE... In an effort to not be... TORTURED...! 💖💖💖😊😊😊😊😊
Exactly 💚
@@carmel-wayfinder5401 "raise yo vibeee" 😋💖💖💖💖💖💙💙💙
& at least try to take one or more with you if they're going there.
Torture hurts, torture is worse than death. Sometimes after a successful torture session death follows anyway. If you fight you MIGHT die. If you comply, you WILL BE tortured. After torture you may become sucidal, as the intire point of torture, is that it is worse than death. Don't get tortured, it wont be worth it. Fight for more than your life. 😁👌👍
What Rich is saying is :not to accept torture even if we are being pressured,not voluntarily 🙄
thank you for stirring up this difficult point. People shrink back instead of accepting the risk of personal consequences of fight back ALL TOGETHER, which would annihilate the threat. Distrust and ignorance make room to the psychopath. A cohesive response against threats should be taught as 'good manners' in life.
Thank you again.
Yours is such an important point.
Let me say, it’s THE MOST IMPORTANT POINT.
I’ll go further. There are NO OTHER SOLUTIONS.
Two scenarios at a population level, when the authorities threaten us. Which THEY WILL. We can be CERTAIN of this, because the entire situation has as its goal to seize TOTALITARIAN CONTROL of the entire human race. Nothing that’s happened & continues to happen is accidental or inadvertent. It’s exactly as the presenter says. The threats, carefully thought-out, have as their goals to get you to comply with their absurd demands.
Does the threat merit the response? Absolutely not. The narrative has the scenario of a respiratory bug going around & killing a fraction of the most frail and elderly. Not younger and more healthy people. So why the dickens is there this relentless propaganda and pressure to get multiply jabbed? I know, but most here wouldn’t accept it if I was to elaborate. But it’s bad. Very bad. I think of it as sat*nic. That’s where this global drive originates.
If enough of us say “NO”, and mean it, the bullies’ power evaporates. Because what are they going to do? Beat up, shoot or even KILL the non-compliant?
I don’t think they’ll do that. There are not enough people willing to do the implied “wet work” for that path to be effective. So though the authorities may make examples of a few, they cannot to that to the majority.
If sufficient of us say “NO” & mean it, they lose. Provided we haven’t already relinquished our autonomy.
If most of us comply with the threat, because of the “…or else”, we’re essentially being TAKEN TO A SECONDARY CRIME SCENE. You will lose all your freedoms, permanently, because that is the agenda of the perpetrators. Once they have totalitarian tyranny over every individual, what then do you think will happen?
They’re obviously going to continue to insist you get jab after jab after jab. We know this because huge manufacturing facilities are being built everywhere. Also, our governments have already agreed to purchase sufficient jabs for ten (10) MORE injections per citizen. Nobody will survive ten more of these injections.
Now do you understand that the equivalent of fighting & risking dying, as in the speakers example of a gun threat in the street (“Get in the car, or else”) is less bad than going along with the demand? You’re essentially allowing yourself to be taken to a secondary crime scene. Never, ever, allow that to happen.
The most sensible perspective I’ve encountered to date.....thank you Richard for unraveling my fear in this situation & reminding me that I can say “NO”!!💜
No no no! What’s happening now is crazytown!! I’ve lost my business! I have zero income! I would be shut down immediately by the bullies if I attempted to work again! I refuse to clap like a seal every Thursday! I’m positive that someone has noticed and has shamed me privately!! I simply don’t care!! The consequences of this disproportionate response by government bullies can’t be measured. The collateral damage it will create in human misery is immeasurable. And for what????
For control. It's what bullies always want.
Depopulation
Global control by a few elite.
They said no more black and white. Only white. Business has to shut down because of their narcissistic false god complex. They don’t believe in anyone, just this mass cover up of truths they couldn’t swallow. Your western imperialism has debt owed. No more abuses to other nations until they pay up.
For human lifes maybe?
Double NO!!!
" When injustice becomes law, resistance becomes duty" - Thomas Jefferson
None of this makes sense.
I've experienced that situation when I was 19. Gun to the forehead, demanded I get into my car, etc. I told him No! I am here today to speak about it.
Braveheart I hear you
dee geo good for you
Wow, that's incredible, thank you for sharing that! Glad you are here!!!!
Resistance group yes . As in the war .
Sabotasjes , what can we do ?
I saved myself by fighting until I got away, took some huge pain physically. So true. Thank you
Somehow I feel like this will save a lot of lives. It's getting worse out there. So appreciate your wisdom.
yep, no-touch torture weapons attacks will escalate on anyone with integrity
It annoys me that my own close people seem to support the bullies whenever I say no.
Yeah. I'd say horrifying. They take the side of the bully. I've seen this. They tell you that you should feel sorry for the bully, that if they harm you its your fault or you just didn't understand, then they tell you that you're the bad guy if you don't forgive. I think bullies pursue groups of enablers who will hand over a victim. Its one of the hardest thing to deal with.
@@sage9836 and some will be high profile and know how to get social approval to a tee. Exaggerate things and appear to only have to repeat the lie: 'that didn't happen' to get by
@@jorgepeterbarton I like ypur explanation of their formula. Its so frustrating how they look awesome ans leave a trail of destruction. But then, I guess they never really get away with it because they have to deny things constantly. . .
I've had this experience as well. The people who you think will be on your side just seem to automatically turn on you and take the side of your enemy or just turn into non entities while the bully is in the room.
@@DrogoBaggins987 I'm glad I got involved in this conversation. I thought it might be unique to a small group I know who forms a welcoming committee for a bully or even criminal who targets one of the group. Perhaps its entertaining for them to watch an outsider put the scapegoat down because they find it affirming. I am so eager for sociologists to do analysis of this common problem.
It’s true, people feel super threatened when you stand in your power and freedom. Their fawn response is challenged and rather than stand up to the bullies and abusers, they scapegoat you cos you have the guts to stand up for what’s true and good.
Bravehearts don't fawn they stand💚
@@carmel-wayfinder5401 "FREEEEDOM!"
A A I’ve been scapegoated by my parents and ex husband for various reasons! I guess I must be a threat as I don’t comply to them 🤷♀️
@@carmel-wayfinder5401 So well said ! I've taken so much bad wrap for standing where others just fawned in the face of abuse, and then when the outcome was positive they thanked me for it, when the outcome was status quo or bad, they looked down on me. At least I felt like I stood up for my convictions
@A A I experience this frequently on forums, but never had a name to refer to it. Now I do, so watcht out you goddamned fawns! lol
Excellent video. The world seems to have unleashed its bullies and it has become unnatural. Stay strong, folks. Many thanks for this precise and very powerful message, Richard. Greetings from Cincinnati!
Loved this! Every new voice I hear that speaks up about this gives me so much hope.
More people are waking up but we can’t wait for everyone to wake up before we make a stand.
We can’t underestimate our own power in saying NO! We are powerful beyond measure!
This is a good refresher on some common sense knowledge.
Common sense is being wiped out for some reason.
Totally common senses is not common
Never had it... Just learning in my late 30's. It was programmed out of me at a very young age. Getting to the bottom of it all though. I have eyes, ears, nose, mouth, a body and yes a brain. And they function quite well! Don't like other ppl telling me who I am, how I feel, what I see, what I perceive etc any longer. I am me from the inside out, no longer outwardly in. So... What Should be Common sense sadly is not to many who were trained from birth into emotional and mental blindness! Thanks for your comment! Makes my quest worth it to know the sense I'm gaining should be common...sorry of like saying it's my birthright. It's our birthright to honor our perceptions and conclusions and brainpower and feelings. Yes!
May have been a stretch on my part in regards to your intentions with common sense... But that's my Takaway! 😌
@@youtubingbabs no brother you are on the right path. Go within, discover spirituality, who you are. Don't listen to the news or organized religion. GO WITHIN. Trust yourself and your experiences. You just said you have eyes nose and ears. TRUST THEM. Trust what you see and hear trust what your body is telling you. They want us to feel like we need to confide in others what we feel in order for it to be true. And yes like the last guy said they are trying to rule over us. Across the world I'm watching people realize, people taking these messages more seriously. I guess I learned at a young age because I've been through hardship and I come from Chicago. I'm nineteen. All my friends have been robbed before, caught by police smoking weed, not me. Easy situations to avoid. Shit when I open the door for the mail man I have a knife on me at all times. Some people say I'm paranoid and it'll never happen so why are you worried, but you aren't paranoid when your car carries a spare tire or med kit. It's called being prepared.
Just because waking up is an uncomfortable, harsh reality, doesn't mean sleeping through it and just being a drone/pawn is the right choice. Nothing good for you is easy. Think independently. Trust yourself. Go within. I know not what more to tell you, for I am just a young adult from Chicago. But I wish to share with you these lessons I find useful.
Stay safe in this time of economic devastation. I hope everyone is doing well. 🙏🏻
@@youtubingbabs well then you are like me a critical thinker because I know the horrible things that can happen next and prevent them
Mass non-compliance is always the solution to tyrannical government’s.
Absolutely!
Unity?
refuse the injections
Amen we must not Divide. We are more danger being 6 feet a part vs Safe precautions and forming a Collective with mass amounts of No we don't comply based on our Constitutional rights
Karla Bradley K Gandhi lead the Indian people to the sea to collect salt by mass which was illegal, it worked, there are thousands of examples in history where noncompliance on a Mescale has defeated tyranny, you can look it up yourself.
Wow! I didn't see where this was heading. Well done! One of the frightening things about bullies, and being abused by them, is sometimes they are not recognized for what they are and what they are actually doing. Our government, like our parents, only want the best for us, it's all for our own good, no matter how bad it feels....yeah right!
He said it's already happening, yeah right! Like, what's the explanation for not teaching taxation in school?
If you don't pay your taxes, the police will kill you if you refuse going to jail. That's reason.
Bullies and psychopaths are the outcome of that reality.
Love you from across the pond! Thanks. I hope you keep helping people who may otherwise not have access to this kind of help!
Question one: NO. The threat doesn't merit the response.
Question two: YES. This level of response and acquiescence is much more destructive than the original threat.
We have already allowed the bully to take us to a secondary crime scene. Economic fallout, food chain disruption, vitriol towards neighbors, STOCKHOLM SYNDROME. I can not tell you how sick it all makes me to think there are other humans who share my planet that will perpetrate this crime on their fellow man. Who do they think they are? Or, maybe, W.H.O. do they think WE are?
100%
I know someone who does that. Shocking.
Totally inhumane..1💚
We are all in the same boat Globally and its become a floating prison for many.
The mainstream media perpetrating an act of mental piracy selling their B.S story, repeated repeatedly.
And the masses are buying it daily!.
Malcolm X ......Oh, I say and I say it again, ya been had!
Ya been took!
Ya been hoodwinked!
Bamboozled!
Led astray!
Run amok!
I might get that printed on a T-Shirt.
Titled Plandemic.
Right?! The mandatory vaccine for public school or work is not just unconstitutional, its criminal. Violates God's law like no other.
Yes Richard the longer we leave it the worse it gets NO THE THREAT DOES NOT WARRANT THE RESPONSE
Put it the other way around - does the threat from response warrant the response? Because I see very little in term of response to the real threat arising from manufactured one, or that people are even able to conceive what their response might be. The threat that asks you to do nothing in response is always going to win over the one requiring action.
@@iawtc it's all a big fat lie - and they are hoping we find it out so that we riot.
Riots give them a reason to bring martial law and total control!
They can't wait!!
Covid 19 is there standing for all those who refuse to respect others🇦🇮
And now it's August 30th and it's still going on!
Thanks a lot Richard for this talk, it is so good to hear people that speaks like this!
I’ve recently discovered your videos and I really appreciate your viewpoints and training. Thank you
Talking about bullying is also talking about narcisists.
Sooooo agree. Great video. My go to response now is if the situation allows it is " i don't make big decisions whilst I'm emotionally fuelled, i need to calm down and be rational and think before i make big life decisions. "
Bravo Richard! Just sorry I didn't see this five months ago when you did it. This vid is extremely potent, and valuable to potentially flip the switch in people's minds to what is really going on, where endless conversations are futile when minds and indeed hearts are frozen.
Delighted to have fallen over your channel. You have a clever ability to solidify what I try to explain to others but often fail. Succinct, to the point and easy to comprehend.
I chose to watch this one as I have been bullied in one way or another my whole life. Only now learning to say NO! It has been like magic so far for me. Thank you! 🙏👏🌻
I've watched a few of your videos already, but this video is the one that convinced me to subscribe. Amen! Great job! Your help with Covert Narcissists is the best I've ever heard from anyone... with my father being one, I'm learning from the inside so to speak. God BLESS you!
Yep - economy IS lives. Yes - we ARE being forced. And I am raising my voice against this enforced tyranny on as many platforms as I can. So far many of my comments have been blocked- but I continue.
I hear you!! 😉
Way to go I'm with you ..💚
Amanda Brisbane Bless you from Texas I do not consent
Me too....im ready to walk away from my business of 22+ yrs....dont know if it/I will recover
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Keep sounding the alarm. Its keeping the few of us going.
AMEN! You are truly a voice of Sanity. Thank you
Solid, sobering advice . . . a way to find your way. Thank You with all my heart and for the people I stand up for as well as the Power Elites I stand up to, often alone . . . you are indeed a friend in my time of need.
You knocked that out of the park with a grand slam! Excellent explanation!!!! I see it exactly as you do I have been in those places before, it is true, the best option is always
to say no and to fight! Especially in this crazy situation! You see how "honest" they were about the whole deal, everyday they get more draconian. Wish the Generals would
care and see it the same way.
Having been bullied into submission is the source of my frustration most of the time, I’ve let bullies into my head out of sheer habit and need for community. I’m grateful to have escaped the chains of other folks’ fantasy for actually reality and true emotional security. Our culture depends on stereotyping, marginalizing, and isolating creatives and interesting individuals, while simultaneously parading their corporate/establishment “ENTERTAINER”, Flavor of the month”, or “Playmate of the month” if you prefer. Capitalism depends on your choice to embrace OBEDIENCE, and FASCISM will demand it outright. Be prepared for things to degrade quickly. By now you should know who your friends are, and more importantly, who they aren’t.
Get real or get dead. 💪🏼🌞👍🏼
So well said, there is constant fear being put out by everyone on you tube but even though I have researched and listened to all points of view and decided where I am within it all, it seems around me everyone is doing what they are told, this can create fear in me that I am pretty much alone in my convictions, it's only when I come and look at the comments do I feel a bit encouraged. Let's hope there are enough out there who will stand up and be counted and not leave it to others
When you are strong in your convictions and the time comes to act upon them, the courage will arise. It's best not to look to your right or to your left. Stay focused on what you know is right. Your WILL, will follow. ❤
@@SingularForce excellent advice as courage does not come from others courage comes within
I completely agree.. Never be compliant with your own life.. Unbelievable that anyone would not get that
Best video I've seen in weeks. I think I've watched it a good dozen times. Much gratitude, Richard.
I completely understand what this video is saying.
And personally that's what I've been saying to myself, I'd rather fight and risk my life than obey some thug.
Unfortunately some of these bullies aren't " thugs" they are most of our govt..legal " thugs"...
patricia griffin... and the neighbors, the people on the street who think it’s their duty to force your compliance also
No !!its become ridiculous at this stage !people are grassin people up for going out 🤔
only watching this today Richard but it is truly topical. Thank you. The protest in Dublin last Saturday had people screaming NO NO NO - it's such a powerful word! Thank you
Excellent. The days of being victim are way over. Thanks for this advice. NEVER, EVER get in the car. Even my children know this!
I agree..Never let a threat take you to a 2nd location...That is where the real horror is! Compliance is not always best!
@German Videos You can't trust the cops either!
2yrs on now , thoughts ?
@@Yusuf-kn6tg Yeah My Thoughts...I Fucking Called It!
@@martistankowski1792 Same , just still amazed how 90% of people are willfully blind/ cowards .Lost my faith in majority of society etc. Maybe gave too much credit before
@@Yusuf-kn6tg But Sometimes It's Just Called Financially Stuck..Not Blind To Or About Any Abuse Or Who The Hell People Really Are
Yes!!! We're at the point where we all need this drilled in our heads! Thanks so much.
Richard, well done not just about Covid, but about explaining the natural fear when confronted unexpectedly by an assailant, one of the first things I was taught was to hit first when attacked no taking, no thinking get in first. Also if a few of them always attack the biggest and loudest first the rest melt away.
Thank You Richard, your truth about bullying is needed more than any advice right now.
yep, the biggest con: I am only here for your money and your car. Just let me tie you up and you'll be alright.
As the saying goes give them a inch and they'll take a yard💚
NO
And the response is most detrimental to life and liberty. The social shaming and "forced" quarantine is tyranny.
Thank You Richard, most refreshing message.
Agree!
"Men occasionally stumble over the truth, but most of them pick themselves up and hurry off as if nothing had happened." Winston Churchill
Another great video, thanks to your hard work , Richard. People who are bullied can doubt that they are actually the victims, especially if they have suffered abuse from a narc parent when they were a child. It's crucial they see themselves as THE VICTIM. The bully can usually " scan " someone quickly and won't hesitate to play with their mind.
I am a partner of a company and I am saying no and keeping the business going, much to the disapproval of my other partner and employees. They are purely led by fear not facts. It’s been a real eye opener to see who would just “get in the car”....I would have been them before my ex npd dumped me. Finding this channel has helped me recognise my codependent ways and my way of healing is fighting this economic narcissist 💪🏽
Richie, I hadn’t seen one of your videos for a couple of years, then the one you did in Ibiza saying you were going to do more philosophy and less narc and abuse recovery popped up on my feed. Then didn’t see anything until the last few days. The series you are doing now is really good, useful, clear, concise, and compassionate. I’m not sure what changed your mind back to doing these videos but they are useful for many many people. I’m also glad you are doing your own thing rather than clubbing with Sam. All best 🤞🏽✌🏽
I followed the same order, only the Ibiza post that drew me in, was the 1 with the meditation sunset!.. I also agree with the rest in your comment..
Richard is his own man. He has his own style. Please do not confuse "clubbing" with professional collaboration. At the end of the day the common goal should be to educate as many people as possible on how to protect themselves from any kind of abuse and Richard is doing an awesome job at that.
Richard is amazing! Sam is open and honest (maybe). Poor thing. Richard let us all see just how "human a narc can be" with Sam. Did I say poor thing! Yep - poor thing! If nothing else - we can all be glad we are not Sam!
@A Nation of Shipwrecks: At World's End Sam Vaknin
June Gerber Sam at some point in his videos, once or twice, gaslights , or does something to garner narcissistic supply.
When he does I out loud make a “no” comment. LOL. This keeps my muscles sharp, to see abuse and manage my nervous system in face of boundary invasions.
Then I take the GOOD Intel, without the offense.
Watching him feels like being a spy, like I’m reading communist Intel while protecting myself from the propaganda.
I don’t necessarily recommend him for people who are new to recovery. But I am very thankful for his contributions to society.
Two thirds into this I realized what he’s talking about, lol. Great way of avoiding censuring.
What about a mugging on the street? I had a friend who had been mugged several times in Nottingham, England. I think if he had resisted they would have beaten the living daylights out of him. By complying he lost his money and his dignity but he kept his life. I also had a friend (a very mild, nice person) who was kicked in the bollocks at school by a really nasty guy. Later on, this friend ambushed this nasty guy and gave him a real beating. However, instead of ending the conflict that nasty guy kept looking for my friend to get revenge on him and there seemed to be nothing the authorities could do about it. I also remember a really big guy (he was a head taller than me) who bumped into me on purpose as I was reading a newspaper at a supermarket. I looked at him. And then he turned round towards me and said "Have you got a problem?". If I had said yes, this guy would have put me in hospital. I said nothing and he went away. I think you have to gauge very carefully the possible future outcomes.
Universal law states whatever you give permission to happen can and probably will. Submission is permission and we must establish our sovereignty and say NO. But in order not to have karmic repercussions we also need to send them love and release them back towards the light. We ain’t sheeple we people❤️
‘How can you have pudding, if you don’t eat your meat ?!’.
Strange thing, watching your videos is so calming thanks Richard for a whole lot of sense. Love your videos
Simply amazing to share with people who are stuck in the fear response and to share with freethinkers who are frustrated with the people complying - Thank You Richard for this.
Richard, You are the voice of sanity in these surreal times! I totally agree, the devastation to our economy is unprecedented, I too have lost my job. But also the effects on peoples' mental health and wellbeing is being tested like never before. I believe that the government and their control of the media is causing untold damage. 🌄💗
Only if we let it 💚
2yrs on now Natalie ,what are yr thoughts ?
I’m still baffled by all the cowardice around us (like 90% of people)
Thank you for posting this! This is exactly what I've been trying to convey to others at this time. Great way to help others see this Richard.
Thank you Richard for sharing your wisdom and knowledge with us. I find myself engaging in this dynamic with people that are dysfunctional. You inspire me to be a leader of my own life and take responsibility for the decisions I make instead of choosing to becoming a victim of someone else's narrative.
I just love you Richard. Thank you for all you do!!!
I love to hear these things that are not directly related to narcissism (even though much of it applies to all situations where a 'NO' is a good response and could be used to maintain any set of boundaries.)
Ok, I am probably one of those who has consumed thousands of hours listening to you trying to figure out how to exit a toxic relationship. Not there yet, but this video moves the focus to en entity outside of the relationship and I think that it for some odd reason is easier to grasp what action I would take if threatened, but it is the same I internally want to with all and any relationship with toxic persons.
I have over the last few months noticed a change in my relationship with the self and this is a good thing. Less fear for saying no and less anxiety for the response when doing so.
Thank you Richard. You are a help and a comfort in these troubled times. I not only see the current situation in a new light but bullying in general. A lot of the time the threat does not justify the response but people make the threat seem bigger or worse in their own minds than it actually is. At least that's been my experience.
I absolutely love this video. Thank you. 🙏💗🙏
Thank you for your insight on this subject. I had a gut feeling that I went through this some time ago, but it was wrapped in “care” and “love”. Now know that noone who truly cares about you will ever force you to do or not to do something. When you stand up and do not let yourself being bullied and they leave, relief is inmediate, but a lot of damage was done.
Thank you, Richard. In these days you are a source of validation if not courage outright. Reading the comments though is slightly scary as much as it is consoling, makes me think you are preaching to the converted... But makes the day brighter to see there are people who have their wits about them.
Many brave hearts in a tribe is a great source of empowerment. 💚
What is sad is when family courts put you in a position to give in to the bully ex. And when you resist they act like it is you who are the problem!
Thanks so much for this! It explains a lot. I love having a rational explanation for what is happening, for as you pointed out, there is not much of that going on these days! God bless you and thanks again for your wisdom!
What I love is that you morphed the content of the advice to a generic application, so clever and timely 😊
Thank you for making me a feel little less crazy today!!
I get where you're going with this!
How awesome is Richard? This video sums up everything better than hours and hours of other youtubers can. WE MUST RESIST!
One of your best videos. Thank you...
Great show! These are the reasons I have been thinking of going off on my own yacht or fishing boat.
Right on Richard! I woke up with this thought today: Fear.. less... => fearless. 👍🏼
I think what you say here is spot on, and definitely tactfully said. I took a basic urban SERE course from a former Navy Seal who also did personal security for two US presidents. He said the same things, but here you did it far more succinctly and easy to understand - something I think you have a rare talent for.
Btw, I saw another tactic used locally. I don't know when it was started but now in my city you cannot get a virus test without first downloading a telemedicine (tracking) app. So not just threat of violence or shame, but confusion/uncertainty is definitely a tool of coercion. As if anyone here didn't know that one already.
Thankyou very much ,I really appreciate how you have approached this topic .Also look forward to more of these level ,balanced view of how to handle issues !
Your videos make me think on a very deep level and I appreciate that.
Bullies feed off their targets’ fear and uncertainty. Establishing boundaries is important to disarm them. Identify the bullying for what it is and be proactive. Be empowered and stay safe!
In my case I can't get rid of my psycho DA DV neighbours, believe me I've tried every legal recourse and then some and it's made it worse if anything, and I dont want to relocate after decades either. I'm subjected to crazy stalking, serious death threats, name-calling, extreme music and foul vocals, etc., and nothing seems to have worked, they just keep going and have a mafia type gang of druugies in and out random hours, unpredictable... It's who they are and I'm the opposite, quiet alone, a tortured considerate anxious empath feeling like I'm switching characters with them I feel so triggered but I don't react as I've learnt theyre sadistic and love to torture you for any possible or perceived fear or weakness like not wanting to go deaf or be killed or sent crazy by them. I'm not a victim, THEY act the victim!! but I'm not surviving very well like this although I'm working on myself more and documenting any standouts next door, and I'm not sure what to do next. Any ideas? 🙏🙏🙏
@@louisegarner8888 Get some power in your relationship with them. They blast music at your house when you try to sleep? change up your sleep routine, find out when they sleep and blast them with music. If you're in america, show them your carrying arms.
They won't stop if you dont give them a reason to.
Maybe the above advice is bad. Consider moving.
Basically, move or change yourself. Don't try to be a decent person they will do everything to destroy decent persons.
@@formepvp I'm in Oz and police recovered all their weapons but you never know... At least landlord and police are on high alert and I've backed right off pretty much as it triggers the main offender while I'm going higher up at the same time to the Housing Minister to see them moved on. As it's been almost 3 years now I think it's probably more bluff, just extreme nuisance and harrassment and other neighbours are on watch but don't want to get over involved. I'm over it and I've been doing a few pattern interupts on them lately where another neighbour and I play ABBA, Elvis, Kenny Rogers, etc., loud front and back whenever they start up, set off smoke alarm strategically, loud on phone to get them wondering type of thing and one of them said sorry to me in driveway so maybe things will change or they'll destroy each other first? It's the drug minds I dont trust uno can get dangerous, so I'm extra careful just very tired and do switch times and places I sleep to cope. I was thinking moving may be best if nothing changes I'll see what the Minister comes up with first. Thankyou for caring to reply, it means alot!! 💞
Yes Richard I hear the message. Responses right now are similar to how we were raised in disfunctional families. Go along to get along;, dont do as I do, do as I say; don't you know the more you stir up sh$t the more it stinks. All this in the name of love and your own best interest. It's all unspoken messages, and if you don't comply you're called defiant, hard headed, argumentative. Our parents did a good job training us this way and it fell right into the government's lap. Thanks Mom and Dad for the valuable lesson unfortunately or maybe not! Warmest regards.
Reprogram yourself to be in the Now it's a process in the now for the now were your empowered Now it's up to YOU...1💚
Yesss!!!! I 💯 agree with you Mr.Grannon and the facts are exactly what my mind ruminates on. What is the complete mind F is the reality “they” are forcing us into vs the reality of the situation. Thank you for saying all this because I needed a person like you to do so!!!!
It’s sad that so many have been bullied their whole lives and feel comfortable under the bully’s threats, dare I say, loved and protected.
Could not agree more. Thanks for being a commentator that has some damn guts. No the threat does not merit the response. Yes the response iis worse than the threat. AND the lies and deceptions being put out should be enough to have us all on alert.
This is great....I'm from New Zealand and the bullying is in technicolor here... loved this video..have been following you for years. Thanks!
Brilliantly put - thank you so much!!!
Richard you are a beautiful soul and so clever.. Thankyou for this
I told my teenage daughters to never let anyone force them into a vehiclie. Finally, I hear someone else with the same mindset. Better dead than tortured and then killed.
I'll never forget a police officer saying this 20 years ago. "Imagine what they want to do to you when nobody is around to witness it? And at least being shot or stabbed where you are gives you a better chance of receiving medical help quicker". Best advice ever.
Yeah it’s specially useful with women, girls. here in Mexico you get raped tortured and videotaped for fun. It’s horrific
my mom always taught us that, too, growing up...
When i was a kid one kid keep bullying me, i though this will never end and next time i will fight him. I thought, i will get beaten but i will get beaten anyway, hopefully i can hurt him. Surprisingly i was so full of adrenaline made me much stronger that i though, i literally tear his shirt off and he run away and never bully me again. This event was a big eye opener in my life.
Cool. My buddy growing up had a three strikes rule. One kid was bullying my friend and he went to the principal told him what was happening and his rule. Kid bullied a fourth time and my nerdy buddy knocked out a portion of his front tooth. Principal knowing situation did nothing to my friend and bully got in trouble
there's a toxic tart I know that is trying to push me to my limits thing that bothers me though is that I am VERY capable of "losing it" with her one day if she pushes me too far and that did be VERY stupid on her part to provoke a victim of a forced adoption as a baby and subsequent childhood abuse so bitch had better back off me before it's too late for both of us!
Thank you again, Richard. I'm getting there with your constant education, support, and guidance. Bullying is in almost all aspects and areas of our lives. Work, school, home, out there...It's doing it or ELSE! Most of that came right from my FOO and went on too long. So, this is taking a while with your help. Blessings, Richard. Some question, BTW.
Excellent video thank you Richard, keep up the great work it's a big help.
My gracious!......👀.... I am so grateful! You just gave me something quite major! Certain people think that I'm cold and analytical because I say "before we get all (insert appropriate word), let's logically look at the data"; and instead of looking objectively, they have this fawn reaction you were talking about at 15:38.....(!!!) I was trying to figure out their thinking processes; just subjective, and not objective.....
I want to say thank you, thank you, thank you again, because you stated some words of wisdom that I very, very much needed to hear!
The voices of fear and fawning and confusion, are getting louder than the voices of reason and so it takes more effort to maintain objective thought.
This is the best description to all this nonsense I’ve seen so far! Thank you for putting it so clearly for people to just think about it, they don’t have to agree but just thinking about it. I am on the side of saying “just shoot me!” because I will always choose death over going through a worse scenario (in this case oppression and totalitarianism)
This was brilliant! Thank you. You are admirable. 🙏
Man! I am so so so glad to have watched this! I am so glad that there are other people out there that think the same way!!!