A very good point you raise - bullies can often be very good at managing upwards. I personally have been fooled for a time. Asking for team member feedback and keeping an eye on interactions between team memebrs is useful in helping spot those bullies who are good at managing upwards. J
They are grandest of the grand of kiss ups double faced con artists to you and to the stupid manager not bright enough recognize what this person is about, any manager that loves or wants people like this should be on the companies dismissal list, these types of managers promote toxic and corrupt workplaces, yes they encourage dis honestly by liking people who kiss up to them, seriously few people like doing this but will do it if they know their manager is a bozo keep their job.. 14:38
Because they are brown nose and have to maintain their good image. Be charming to co worker and manager , so manager were always on their side instead of the real victim.
I agree. The one I dealt with - supervisor of our program actually was a self proclaimed gregarious academic. Only she wasn’t an academic….she was university staff.
I've seen this from someone who was not only a bully, but also narcissistic. As soon as she started, she pushed her way into interactions with management to show her "good" and "helpful" character, and then spread her tentacles in search of anyone she could use to promote her self-image. Despite causing at least 4 people who would otherwise have stayed, to leave, management will not hear a word against her.
Changing behaviour could entice, reward, the bullies. I 'defend' by sticking to work and keep outperforming. Once I detected bullying from inferior co-workers, it became ridiculous to let them be the arbiters of moral standard or just about anything. Learning about the dark traits of personalities and toxic work environments, and applying stoic principles, have been helpful.
How you manage bullying is such a personal thing. I am glad you have an approach that works well for you. If one approach doesn't work that well, try another. I do think it is important for managers to keep an eye for signs of bullying within their team or to their team members. Bully is very damaging as well as being horrible to experience.
I've seen the mod bully. You can't out preform in that environment. They'll work together to undercut you. You're only hope is good management who recognize past performance and who wisely observe the real reasons for current poor performance.
Most bullies target great performers, yes you are a threat to their lazy incompetence, you are encouraging the organization to do better, and expecting better work performances from all the other toxic loses who don't want to do better on any level, so you are the target get you gone. Some workplace have more than one bully some work in teams and will play like they are your friend beware and becareful few to no one is your friend at work, most are gossipy and love to ad extra logs to the fire, because what you say about your self, better to keep anything about yourself private.. bullies will use anything you say against you and adding more lies to the gossips they spread, it all about destroying you, managers today are stupid and love to listen to it some even actually believe and enjoy it. So beware.
A lot of what you say is all too true unfortunately. I have been bullied by peers because I was doing a good job and they felt threatened. Anyone can be bullied no matter how confident you are...
Having experienced this so often in different workplaces I think the U.K. workplace has now become so toxic it’s like being back in the 1970’s again when employment laws were nearly non-existent.
@martinriley106, sorry to hear that you have experienced so much bullying in the workplace. There is definitely too much bullying happening and too little being done about it. 66% of employees have experienced or seen bullying. That is pretty scary. J
Absolutely. I quit my career 13 years ago with suicidal thoughts till date. I worked as technology project manager. The mobbing experience still gives me panic attacks and flashbacks.
@999timepass - the scars from bulling can be serious and long term for lots of reasons. It is horrible to hear so many people are so impacted by bullying over the long term.
Good list and I've experienced things from all the lists presented. Bullies are deceptive sociopaths, they usually feel nothing for others and can be very narcissistic, willing to cause others to lose their jobs to help theirs or make them look good. They dont care if you end up on the street or how much your family suffers due to their behaviour, all they care about is themselves. If I am ever a manager and I so much as hear a squeak of a bully, I will take every disciplinary action available and applicable to the situation. I'll ensure that person thinks twice before trying to bully again.
@c.b.295 - thanks for the comments. Those that bully can be pretty horrible. I wish more managers would work to stamp out bullying in their teams and companies. It would be very beneficial for them personally if they did, as well as for everyone else.
@caroltruffa6811 I agree - bullies get good at hiding their bullying and pulling the wool over the eyes of people in authority (they have to so they can carry on bullying). It is hard being in a managers shoes with two different versions of events - which do you believe? That is why evidence and examples is so important. Good management will jump into action to help you. Poor management may become part of the problem. It is really tough to be bullied at work, no matter who you are and your confidence levels.
@Enhancetraining Which version will the manager believe? Let me rephrase and clarify... Who does the manager "need" more? Who stays and who goes depends on which person is more likely to be more employable elsewhere AND who is less likely to file and have a credible case with any labor relations entity.
A experienced manager that is actually interested in making the workplace a great workplace would know how to go forward, however there is a lot of managers that are seriously incompetent close minded and completely not interested in any of team building concerns they believe they are smarter than the teams and do not consult anyone on the team. Such managers usually destroy great organizations.
@gregoryforrest8970 I agree that there are many closed minded and unmotivated managers employeed. These do tend to damage team performance rather than improve it. Good leadership and culture starts from the top in my view. J
I appreciate that way too many managers don't care - they are probably scared of being bullied themselves. Ignoring it is an easier and safer option in the short term. Bullying damanges trust. A manager not doing anything about bullying damanges trust. If trust falls, team performance falls. Managers are judged on team performance so every manager should care!
I can assure you some do (myself ex manager) today witnessed something I thought I never thought I’d see in a professional company that holds it values so highly I’m literally on here right now because I don’t know what todo (I’m not a manager at this company) I’m just the new guy first week day 4 and I’ve witnessed Toxicity and unprofessionalism on a astonishing level making fun of appearances and weight etc on their new team leader (not me) another person that joined the same time as me. There’s literally no senior staff present longest serving staff is 8 months and then ofc manager and team leaders two of them one of which is in training along with me and the other I charge of the whole team while we’re in training (learning company system etc) today was a fucking zoo is the only way I can explain quiet afternoon so everyone was talking to each other being very loud and the occasional call which would be answered by very rude members of staff with no soft skills what so ever. I was about to lose my mind and scream in the middle of the office from what I saw and heard all this was done infront of other departments and because no senior member of staff or leader/ manager present at the time on the floor there was literally 0 discipline and quite frankly I’m not sure wtf todo because this is like a dream job of mine and I’ve finally got it and now I’m here and seeing this I feel disgusted. Disgusted because I’ve seen how the company operates and it’s professional through and through then there’s my department and it’s literally the equivalent to detention with our teachers or adults just complete bedlam Think I’ll be having words with my trainer on Monday and if can’t come to some understanding I’m gonna have to leave and find somewhere else which fucking sucks because I genuinely WANT this job.
@@jordanjolley get out of there immediately. I also landed in the past in a similar toxicity hoping that if I am neutral and don't bother anybody, I would be safe - Big mistake. Now I know I should have left right away.
Recently Left Corporate America due to my last three employers being Robber Barons. I keep getting offers for employment, but I'm far from ready to take any of them. This last place was so awful that I don't want to go back into an office ever again. Literally, I felt helpless, and HR is never for the employee. Moral injuries are the worst injuries.... most of my coworkers were abused, too.
Sounds horrendous. I am glad you are out of there and also hope you work out what you are going to do next in time and whatever your choose works out a lot better for you. J
I feel you, sis. Going through the exact situation. I was forced to leave previous company last year October, or risk termination + black-mark record on my resume which will decrease my chances of being hired in the future. I received job offers too, but I sabotaged myself & didn't take up on the offers, due to lingering trauma & fear I'll experience another set of workplace bullies + same abuse cycle all over again. Not to mention going through conpany's bodyguards a.k.a. HR, who may show initial support, but backtracked on me or you later on, at the behest of bullies (who can be quite persuasive with their own victim narratives, manipulation & threats) + the depression affecting us, etc. Right now, I don't know the right answer to deal with (future) workplace bullies, while you get to keep your job safely. I can only hope & pray the next company won't be as toxic. I hope you'll get or have gotten some side gigs to support you, especially during emergencies + eventually, a better work company who treats you better 🙏🏼
@rebeccaliew2247 There are good companies and managers out there who will not tollerate bullying etc. and who do care about their staff. Depressingly bullying appears to be far too common place...
Withholding information is SUCH a big thing. I was victim of this often. Thank you for bringing this up Oh also a new thing: it depends on the work surroundings but I've once worked on a canadian farm with 2 mean french girls from france and belgium who were new there, too. The girl who told us the instructions was french, too (I can't speak french) and she explained everything in french so that I got excluded and made mistakes. They also gossiped right next to me in their language and even tho I didn't understand every word, I knew they talked about me. I had to ask them about every task so they made me dependent on them. The constellation 2 against 1 played a role, too. I feel like this would have never happened if it was only one girl and me. But anyways. I'm back in Germany now, thriving in a field they thought I wasn't capable of doing ;)
A very similar thing happened to me. I worked on a production line and was new. The more experienced people are supposed to teach you and show you the ropes. Instead they withold information from you, exclude you from discussions on whats happening, and gossip constantly behind your back. And unfortunately the area I work in, most of the guys are like this. It makes people very unproductive and the entire team and company suffers as a result. Either way, I have a game plan. And I realized most are very threatened by me, thats why they dont want to show me anything, in case I get ahead of them. Thats the case more often than not, insecure people who dont want to share knowledge.
@@c.b.295 thank you for sharing! Good to know I'm not alone with this experience. Sometimes I really was thinking I'm the weird one or the freak because I didn't do anything to them and they behaved like this. One girl once shouted at me "now it's too late!!" when I just followed her instructions and made a mistake. So basically, she made me do a mistake to ridicule me afterwards. I was actally older than her and she was so disrespectful still. And you are totally right. They know you are good and feel competitive.
@stellameii That's one of their tactics to try and belittle and undermine you, by setting you up to fail a task or look bad. They will then blow it entirely out of proportion to make you feel like you made a horrible mistake. I've had this happen too. But it's definitely not you and you aren't a freak, this is very common and it happens alot at my workplace, so much that good people left the company because of horrible co workers that treat them like trash. And I work for a multi billion dollar company, just our factory has over 1400 employees. You'd be shocked that a company that is so big has such bad people employed there. Its a sad reality. I'd leave but the salary and benefits are very good. I have a game plan to change the sector I'm in as there are much better areas with better people, I'm literally in the worst section on the worst shift, and I've spoken to others that know it too. So dont worry you aren't alone and dont blame yourself. Even if you do great, those sorts of people will never be happy and always try put you down.
@stellameii - I agree withholding information is a big thing and a big problem. It is easy to withhold information, relatively low risk in terms of undermining behaviour and harder to prove than many other bullying actions. The leaders in the team set the tone of behaviour. There is lots that managers can to stop team members withholding information - such as very visibly sharing information themselves, asking people directly and publicly to share information and expertise and so on. Insecurities can get the best of all of us at times.
I'm an executive manager being bullied by a manager under me. It's really bizarre to know I hired her and she has made my life hell from the day she started. I now have anxiety, panic attacks and nights without sleep. After a recent confrontation I spent an entire day crying uncontrollably in a storage closet and like I said ... I'm an executive
I’m a manager and I feel like I’m being bullied, I’m being so badly micromanaged my manager has been examining my spelling in emails to the point she has called me out for poor spelling because I missed the “d” off acknowledged. She’s also made me physically read out my emails to her so she can find a fault, to the point one time she told me have I proof read my email? I said yes what’s wrong with it? She said ok read it to me, so I started.. nothing told me to read the next paragraph again nothing. Eventually she said oh must just be me must have been another email.. I feel so degraded I have dyslexia and she knows this, my spelling will never be perfect even with tools to help. I stood up for myself today and said she’s done spelling mistakes so have my colleague and so have many others across the department but they never get highlighted so why are mine. She couldn’t say just put me on a support plan that I’ve refused to sign.
Well done for standing up for yourself. I know this is not an easy move. Putting you on a support plan for spelling alone seems very unfair and given you have dyslexia and she knows it - potentially very risky for the company. I have this video to help with bullies who are you manager ua-cam.com/video/FEseItw5Moo/v-deo.html Fighting your manager for fair treatment is tough - getting supporters is vital. It can be easier to get a job elsewhere.
If she's mistreating you/singling-you-out for a learning disability, you may have a legal claim against her. If HR doesn't help, you may want to speak with an employment lawyer. This doesn't mean you have to sue your company. Sometimes a strongly-worked email from a person of authority (i.e. lawyer) can do wonders for getting HR to actually do something in your favour. The last thing the company wants is a lawsuit and potentially bad press.
I appreciate you making this video. This kind of behavior from people that bully is NOT right and they would face Jesus to explain how they treated HIS children!
Thanks for your comments. I agree bullying is not right. It is important to make it has hard as possible for bullies to get away with bullying within the workplace. This helps everyone.
Around half the bullying at work is done by managers (per various surveys). It is extra tough tackeling a bully who is a manager. Building allies and getting lots of evidence showing a bullying pattern is really important. Take a look at this video for managers undermining you ua-cam.com/video/FEseItw5Moo/v-deo.html
Gain evidence and confront.Don’t back down or leave.If it’s covert bullying then record for labour tribunal.I’ve been there,not at tribunal but being bullied.Don’t wait.
I am the sole target of the workplace bully. Any time I bring it up to my manager. He tries to turn it on me being the problem and makes excuses for her. She is a friend of his that he brought into the organization. Currently looking because I can't take it anymore
@jenniferjohnson7975 You are in a difficult and unfair situation. Getting a new job is likely to be ht easiest route out of the situation. It might be a hassle, yet you spend so much time at work it is not worth putting up with poor treatment while you are there. Best of luck to you. J
Just recently I had to do some training in an agency as part of my degree! So the manager of that department was young and inexperienced! I was excited to learn new things so after awhile I start receiving irrelevant and unfair criticisms every time I try to do sthg right! I corrected her two or three times on some basic knowledge in the field …at the end she refused to write the final report for my uni with me So she wrote a paragraph portraying me in a negative way as being defensive etc Felt devastated because that was unfair they put you on the defensive and accuse you of being defensive What shocked me I wasn’t aware I was bullied until I read the comments at home! Nobody I spoke too understood I feel lonely in this I felt like I am winging and gossiping to people ! It is a humiliating experience
@joliejolie817 Your experience sounds unpleasant and unfair. It is never nice when two people don't get along and refusing to write the final report is somewhat harsh. It would be worth you thinking about how you made the manager feel when correcting her. Was her poor behaviour triggered by feeling threatened? This doesn't excuse her behaviour. It might help you avoid similar situations in the future.
It used to be called slightly bullying behind closed doors. Or in the back office in the company with the bullying within the business. Also, if the manager or management team will also assist within the bullying process of the business. Course some time it's the whole damm management team.
As to physical threats. I was the target of an incident where a boss threw a pen at my face. He justified himself by saying that “… the pen flew off his hand…”
Physical threats (I hope for most) are pretty rare at work. Repeated incidents or "accidents" would be a major concern and probably something you could take the police as much as internally to leadership or HR. Bullying in whatever form it takes is not easy to deal with, especially when managers are the bully. J
Unfortunately many companies dont care or not a lot if ypure bully. They may even side with the bully manager .they just hope you leave so it makes things easy for them
In my opinion, any company or manager worth working for will care a lot about bullying. Bully is very damanging behaviour to any team, not to mention tough on the victim. I agree that human nature is often to take the easier route. Easy is not always best!
The research shows that over 50% of bullying at work is done by those with more authority than you i.e. managers. Sad but true. It is very important for managers to have a good toolkit, and to use power very responsibly so they don't need to resort to bullying to try get their staff to perfrom. J
Its happening to me in the gym the manager is tellin all the members not to talk to me an spreading Rumours, everyone's just staring at me, when i walk in the gym everyone Leaves, now im isolated an cut off @@Enhancetraining
Thank you. I needed to see these facts and patterns objectively to understand my situation. You helped me see the truth in all the manipulation, that my own spider sense was tingling about. Namaste! I can now act, and be confident.
Thank you! Very useful information. I am a new employee who has experienced bullying behaviour by my manager. I feel isolated and that my account has not been validated. I am considering tendering my resignation
If you are new to the role and already being bullied you are in a very tough position. Leaving may well be the best move - get a better job with a better boss! Here is a video on how to tackle bullying if you go down this route ua-cam.com/video/k9CykoXmx9M/v-deo.html
Covert bully can be disguised as routine performance management (supervision, feedback), which give covert bully legitimacy and protection for the bully. Bullying needs to be defined in legislation as far more than overt bullying witnessed by others and an assault on the physical person.
Covert bullying is much worst than overt - because it is so much harder to deal with. Legislation is only useful if authories police and use it. I believe managers and leaders have a very important job to set the tone within an organisation and to root out and deal with bullying and other negative behaviours. This is in the interests of everyone including the leaders (except the bullies of course).
i feel like a bully because i keep calling people out in front of everyone at the meeting about the things they say i dont like ...ive also told them i will not tolerate any disrespect
May I suggest that you talk in general terms (without naming specific people) while in public, and then have conversations in private with specific people. I think it is important to follow "praise in public, criticise in private". You suggest that your team does not respect you as much as you want... have I got that right?...How do you feel towards your team? How are you helping them as a manager (which leads to earning their respect as a manager)? Maybe worth thinking about both questions?
Having a lead always yelling at you. Having you leave main job, to start a secondary job, then asking you to help over in another area, but never allows you time to finish the second job. Then orders you back to the main job, because your co worker isn't keeping up. Then gets mad because I have not finished the second job....
@BooBahh-uh5jk sounds like the manager is totally unrealistic. I can't see you "winning" or having a reasonable time at work if this is the case - maybe find a better job in a company with a better culture...
I ended up quiting without notice. Pray for me. My body is very thankful. The day before I quit we had a new hire who worked with the lead for 1 shift and he never came back. It didn't help seeing other departments getting new hires, but not the warehouse. Plus my co worker who was half my age was doing less than me and also he was using me for his therapist. There was no moving up in this company either.
There is a real need for understanding and help for 'isolated workers' such as those in Community Support. Platform Technology seems to have exacerbated this as well as increased the 'very real isolation' of these employees. It is a large part of the workforce allied to healthcare. The consequences range from financial (income.... as work can be withheld), through to physical (acknowledged by GP's) and Mental Safety at Work (covered under H&S, but as with much H&S this workforce fall through some large gaping cracks.
@jaynelong-taylor791 - you raise really good points. With more working from home, hybrid working and getting work through technology platforms - there are less people around to provide support and these workers are more isolated than workers were in the past (when working next to team members etc). I can imagine that the opportunity to be bullied, be overworked, be treated unfairly etc have gone up as a result.
I would hope that HR & the leadership would be very keen to stop bullying. I also know that plenty of people put bullying into the "too difficult" to stop category. Bullying doesn't help anyone except perhaps the bully themselves.
We all can go on giving videos of examples but this is an old age happening but nothing changes, the bullies retain their jobs or get promoted and you're classed as not a good fit and removed from you job. Until the government recognises this is a serious threat to people's mental health and none productive financially for the company as well as losing good productive staff. What they don't tell you companies encourage psychopaths and Narcs fearing of greater threats from these people. The first time I experienced these evil acts of bullies and the pathological liars was 15 years ago, nothing changed since just greater threats using the system to cover themselves. The victims look edt to battle through tons of paperwork to prove their innocence while in the mean time they continue to gaslighting the victim.
Humans are social creatures and form groups. All groups have some kind of pecking order. When you combine power, insecurities and fears, and groups it seems there will always be some that use bullying to protect themselves or their position in some way. They find it easier and less effort to put others down rather than lift themselves up. J
Just a neverending story repeating over and over. What we like to know, when this will ease or stops? As I understand Pathological liars, bullying, and Narcissistic staff are on the increase more so than ever. I hope eventually they all jammed in working in the same companies that retain these behaviours and see how long the company survives. Because in the end they will all give each other their deadly venom, this is enough to bring a company down.
You get no protection, neither by the manager or above them. Other colleagues are bystanders, asked for support from them will only get you thrown under the bus to keep their job.
The good managers and the good companies will absolutely protect staff from bullies - it is 100% in their own interests to do so. Bully destroys trust and teamwork, which in turn seriously damanges individual and team performance. Unfortunately there are too many managers that don't put in the effort to spot bullying or to tackle bullies. I suspect a good portion of these managers simply don't know what to do.
I've experienced worst bullies in my workplace, can this be taken on legal grounds as I was undergoing some personal situations in life and I was stalked and bullied during that time as I would be lost, it has caused huge losses for me Just a huge price to pay for just having a job Some help on whether legal action can be taken would help
@sandhiyad194 - the legal routes depend on your country laws. For example, in the UK you need to be in your job for more than 2 years before you get some legal protection. You would still have to take the company to tribunial which is time consuming and costly. Easier to spend the time and energy getting a better job in a better company in most cases. J
I have had a rough 17 years of Covert workplace bullying, can you tell me if all the devotees and bystanders will become upstanders if an external investigation takes place, especially if they are made anonymous.?
If feedback is truly anonymous and they trust that it is, you usually get people telling the truth. Depending on how an external investigation is run, I would hope that bystanders will be of use in creating change. Sorry to hear you have had such a tough time. It really is horrible to be subject to covert bullying from anyone at work. J
I have been and some of my team members got criticised in team meeting and to avoid that local language we have to hardword to complete the task I'm afraid of complaining it as I couldn't boldly talk about it i I have some recordings of that lady speaking harshly could it be used to complaint against her ... I have health issues because of the stress caused by her😢😢😢
Recording colleagues or managers proably won't be looked on very favourably by the company and should only be used as a last resort. Are you able to write down exactly what she said and how she said (along with where and when). Would your colleagues back you up or provide their own examples? The more people raising the same issue, the more action favourable to you will happen. J
Bullying where ever it happens is not for anyone. I agree that if everyone worked harder to make sure bullying didn't happen (especially the bullies!), our homes and offices would be a much better place. J
I think this depends on how often this happens. If it is a one-off or a rare occurance, then in my opinion no it is not bullying (we are all human and make mistakes etc). If tlosing your temper happens regularly then it could be argued you are trying to intimidate and therefore could be bullying. J
@jeffknowlton5200 - I would suggest finding other ways of coping when feeling stressed or in conflict? I would argue behaviour that damages relationships is going to lead to more stress and conflict which creates an even bigger problem for that person. J
@Enhancetraining I agree that having maladaptive coping behavior and not handling stress or conflict well shows emotional immaturity. A person with those issues probably needs help. Or he or she has some mental health or neurological issues and may need help for that. As for bullying, I think that comes with a different mindset. Bullies need a victim and they want to harass others. They'll harass and mistreat someone even if there is no stress or conflict present.
@jeffknowlton5200 I agree that many bullies personally feel better about themselves when they are putting others down. Horrible but true. I have not yet met a person that is confident and happy with themselves and who is also a bully.
@Superman-xm8ki Unfortunately, you are absolutely right. Employees are much more likely to be bullied. (Don't forget nearly everyone has a boss - plenty of managers get bullied by their boss). It is bad news for anyone to be bullied. J
I would agree - always check a version of events. You can then understand exactly what had happened and understand the honesty of each party. Both very useful in these difficult situations. J
I disagree. It is in the company's and management's interests to stop bullying. Bully damages trust, which in turn damages team performance. Plus on top of this the company exposes itself to legal and reputational risk and potential damage/cost. Added to that - who likes to be bullied - so there is a moral obligation too. I appreciate these compelling reasons may not change some peoples actions.
I realize that my experiences are not all-encompassing, but your video is for a world that does not exist. I once reported a bullying boss ( and quite frankly mentally unstable) and was fired the next day. I worked in numerous places where at least one manager was notorious for mistreating his/ her people and nothing was ever done. I understand that your video is aimed at managers but I’d be shocked if even one took it to heart.@@Enhancetraining
It would seem that I have had very different experiences to you. Sorry to hear that you have not had good experiences. I know there are plenty of companies and managers that have horrible cultures and approaches and are much more focused on protecting the status quo that doing the right thing - morally and for the business. There are good companies too. J
The bully is often incredibly gregarious with forming a positive social connection and charm of the manager as well.
A very good point you raise - bullies can often be very good at managing upwards. I personally have been fooled for a time. Asking for team member feedback and keeping an eye on interactions between team memebrs is useful in helping spot those bullies who are good at managing upwards. J
They are grandest of the grand of kiss ups double faced con artists to you and to the stupid manager not bright enough recognize what this person is about, any manager that loves or wants people like this should be on the companies dismissal list, these types of managers promote toxic and corrupt workplaces, yes they encourage dis honestly by liking people who kiss up to them, seriously few people like doing this but will do it if they know their manager is a bozo keep their job.. 14:38
Because they are brown nose and have to maintain their good image. Be charming to co worker and manager , so manager were always on their side instead of the real victim.
I agree. The one I dealt with - supervisor of our program actually was a self proclaimed gregarious academic. Only she wasn’t an academic….she was university staff.
I've seen this from someone who was not only a bully, but also narcissistic. As soon as she started, she pushed her way into interactions with management to show her "good" and "helpful" character, and then spread her tentacles in search of anyone she could use to promote her self-image. Despite causing at least 4 people who would otherwise have stayed, to leave, management will not hear a word against her.
The bully is often friends with the manager
Unfortunately yes.
Yep
Changing behaviour could entice, reward, the bullies. I 'defend' by sticking to work and keep outperforming. Once I detected bullying from inferior co-workers, it became ridiculous to let them be the arbiters of moral standard or just about anything. Learning about the dark traits of personalities and toxic work environments, and applying stoic principles, have been helpful.
How you manage bullying is such a personal thing. I am glad you have an approach that works well for you. If one approach doesn't work that well, try another. I do think it is important for managers to keep an eye for signs of bullying within their team or to their team members. Bully is very damaging as well as being horrible to experience.
I've seen the mod bully. You can't out preform in that environment. They'll work together to undercut you. You're only hope is good management who recognize past performance and who wisely observe the real reasons for current poor performance.
Most bullies target great performers, yes you are a threat to their lazy incompetence, you are encouraging the organization to do better, and expecting better work performances from all the other toxic loses who don't want to do better on any level, so you are the target get you gone. Some workplace have more than one bully some work in teams and will play like they are your friend beware and becareful few to no one is your friend at work, most are gossipy and love to ad extra logs to the fire, because what you say about your self, better to keep anything about yourself private.. bullies will use anything you say against you and adding more lies to the gossips they spread, it all about destroying you, managers today are stupid and love to listen to it some even actually believe and enjoy it. So beware.
A lot of what you say is all too true unfortunately. I have been bullied by peers because I was doing a good job and they felt threatened. Anyone can be bullied no matter how confident you are...
Having experienced this so often in different workplaces I think the U.K. workplace has now become so toxic it’s like being back in the 1970’s again when employment laws were nearly non-existent.
@martinriley106, sorry to hear that you have experienced so much bullying in the workplace. There is definitely too much bullying happening and too little being done about it. 66% of employees have experienced or seen bullying. That is pretty scary. J
Absolutely. I quit my career 13 years ago with suicidal thoughts till date. I worked as technology project manager. The mobbing experience still gives me panic attacks and flashbacks.
@999timepass - the scars from bulling can be serious and long term for lots of reasons. It is horrible to hear so many people are so impacted by bullying over the long term.
Good list and I've experienced things from all the lists presented. Bullies are deceptive sociopaths, they usually feel nothing for others and can be very narcissistic, willing to cause others to lose their jobs to help theirs or make them look good. They dont care if you end up on the street or how much your family suffers due to their behaviour, all they care about is themselves. If I am ever a manager and I so much as hear a squeak of a bully, I will take every disciplinary action available and applicable to the situation. I'll ensure that person thinks twice before trying to bully again.
@c.b.295 - thanks for the comments. Those that bully can be pretty horrible. I wish more managers would work to stamp out bullying in their teams and companies. It would be very beneficial for them personally if they did, as well as for everyone else.
There's one at my workplace...most people thinks she's so" great" she's pretty slick
Our bully has our leader completed fooled. I have mentioned things to her, but she turns it all back on me as if " I'm the problem".
@caroltruffa6811 I agree - bullies get good at hiding their bullying and pulling the wool over the eyes of people in authority (they have to so they can carry on bullying). It is hard being in a managers shoes with two different versions of events - which do you believe? That is why evidence and examples is so important. Good management will jump into action to help you. Poor management may become part of the problem. It is really tough to be bullied at work, no matter who you are and your confidence levels.
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Which version will the manager believe? Let me rephrase and clarify...
Who does the manager "need" more?
Who stays and who goes depends on which person is more likely to
be more employable elsewhere
AND who is less likely to file and have a credible case with any labor relations entity.
A experienced manager that is actually interested in making the workplace a great workplace would know how to go forward, however there is a lot of managers that are seriously incompetent close minded and completely not interested in any of team building concerns they believe they are smarter than the teams and do not consult anyone on the team. Such managers usually destroy great organizations.
@gregoryforrest8970 I agree that there are many closed minded and unmotivated managers employeed. These do tend to damage team performance rather than improve it. Good leadership and culture starts from the top in my view. J
let's be honest - no manager cares whether someone is bullied in their department.
They are the main bullies themselves 😂 As above so below
@@gjinkalla23 exactly
I appreciate that way too many managers don't care - they are probably scared of being bullied themselves. Ignoring it is an easier and safer option in the short term. Bullying damanges trust. A manager not doing anything about bullying damanges trust. If trust falls, team performance falls. Managers are judged on team performance so every manager should care!
I can assure you some do (myself ex manager) today witnessed something I thought I never thought I’d see in a professional company that holds it values so highly I’m literally on here right now because I don’t know what todo (I’m not a manager at this company) I’m just the new guy first week day 4 and I’ve witnessed Toxicity and unprofessionalism on a astonishing level making fun of appearances and weight etc on their new team leader (not me) another person that joined the same time as me.
There’s literally no senior staff present longest serving staff is 8 months and then ofc manager and team leaders two of them one of which is in training along with me and the other I charge of the whole team while we’re in training (learning company system etc) today was a fucking zoo is the only way I can explain quiet afternoon so everyone was talking to each other being very loud and the occasional call which would be answered by very rude members of staff with no soft skills what so ever. I was about to lose my mind and scream in the middle of the office from what I saw and heard all this was done infront of other departments and because no senior member of staff or leader/ manager present at the time on the floor there was literally 0 discipline and quite frankly I’m not sure wtf todo because this is like a dream job of mine and I’ve finally got it and now I’m here and seeing this I feel disgusted. Disgusted because I’ve seen how the company operates and it’s professional through and through then there’s my department and it’s literally the equivalent to detention with our teachers or adults just complete bedlam
Think I’ll be having words with my trainer on Monday and if can’t come to some understanding I’m gonna have to leave and find somewhere else which fucking sucks because I genuinely WANT this job.
@@jordanjolley get out of there immediately. I also landed in the past in a similar toxicity hoping that if I am neutral and don't bother anybody, I would be safe - Big mistake. Now I know I should have left right away.
Most bullies are narcissistic, in my experience
Many are - I agree.
Recently Left Corporate America due to my last three employers being Robber Barons. I keep getting offers for employment, but I'm far from ready to take any of them. This last place was so awful that I don't want to go back into an office ever again. Literally, I felt helpless, and HR is never for the employee. Moral injuries are the worst injuries.... most of my coworkers were abused, too.
Sounds horrendous. I am glad you are out of there and also hope you work out what you are going to do next in time and whatever your choose works out a lot better for you. J
I feel you, sis. Going through the exact situation. I was forced to leave previous company last year October, or risk termination + black-mark record on my resume which will decrease my chances of being hired in the future. I received job offers too, but I sabotaged myself & didn't take up on the offers, due to lingering trauma & fear I'll experience another set of workplace bullies + same abuse cycle all over again. Not to mention going through conpany's bodyguards a.k.a. HR, who may show initial support, but backtracked on me or you later on, at the behest of bullies (who can be quite persuasive with their own victim narratives, manipulation & threats) + the depression affecting us, etc.
Right now, I don't know the right answer to deal with (future) workplace bullies, while you get to keep your job safely. I can only hope & pray the next company won't be as toxic. I hope you'll get or have gotten some side gigs to support you, especially during emergencies + eventually, a better work company who treats you better 🙏🏼
@rebeccaliew2247 There are good companies and managers out there who will not tollerate bullying etc. and who do care about their staff. Depressingly bullying appears to be far too common place...
Withholding information is SUCH a big thing. I was victim of this often. Thank you for bringing this up
Oh also a new thing: it depends on the work surroundings but I've once worked on a canadian farm with 2 mean french girls from france and belgium who were new there, too. The girl who told us the instructions was french, too (I can't speak french) and she explained everything in french so that I got excluded and made mistakes. They also gossiped right next to me in their language and even tho I didn't understand every word, I knew they talked about me. I had to ask them about every task so they made me dependent on them. The constellation 2 against 1 played a role, too. I feel like this would have never happened if it was only one girl and me. But anyways. I'm back in Germany now, thriving in a field they thought I wasn't capable of doing ;)
A very similar thing happened to me. I worked on a production line and was new. The more experienced people are supposed to teach you and show you the ropes. Instead they withold information from you, exclude you from discussions on whats happening, and gossip constantly behind your back. And unfortunately the area I work in, most of the guys are like this. It makes people very unproductive and the entire team and company suffers as a result. Either way, I have a game plan. And I realized most are very threatened by me, thats why they dont want to show me anything, in case I get ahead of them. Thats the case more often than not, insecure people who dont want to share knowledge.
@@c.b.295 thank you for sharing! Good to know I'm not alone with this experience. Sometimes I really was thinking I'm the weird one or the freak because I didn't do anything to them and they behaved like this. One girl once shouted at me "now it's too late!!" when I just followed her instructions and made a mistake. So basically, she made me do a mistake to ridicule me afterwards. I was actally older than her and she was so disrespectful still. And you are totally right. They know you are good and feel competitive.
@stellameii That's one of their tactics to try and belittle and undermine you, by setting you up to fail a task or look bad. They will then blow it entirely out of proportion to make you feel like you made a horrible mistake. I've had this happen too. But it's definitely not you and you aren't a freak, this is very common and it happens alot at my workplace, so much that good people left the company because of horrible co workers that treat them like trash. And I work for a multi billion dollar company, just our factory has over 1400 employees. You'd be shocked that a company that is so big has such bad people employed there. Its a sad reality. I'd leave but the salary and benefits are very good. I have a game plan to change the sector I'm in as there are much better areas with better people, I'm literally in the worst section on the worst shift, and I've spoken to others that know it too. So dont worry you aren't alone and dont blame yourself. Even if you do great, those sorts of people will never be happy and always try put you down.
@stellameii - I agree withholding information is a big thing and a big problem. It is easy to withhold information, relatively low risk in terms of undermining behaviour and harder to prove than many other bullying actions. The leaders in the team set the tone of behaviour. There is lots that managers can to stop team members withholding information - such as very visibly sharing information themselves, asking people directly and publicly to share information and expertise and so on. Insecurities can get the best of all of us at times.
I have worse experience with frecnh too.....I feel you.
Most bullies are bosses
The stats certainly back up your statement - well over half of bullies are in management positions. Sad but true.
But why?
I think power does funny things to some people.
line managers supported by hr/senior personnel - organisational bullying/abuse - I work as a TU rep in the NHS - it is rancid...
I'm an executive manager being bullied by a manager under me. It's really bizarre to know I hired her and she has made my life hell from the day she started. I now have anxiety, panic attacks and nights without sleep. After a recent confrontation I spent an entire day crying uncontrollably in a storage closet and like I said ... I'm an executive
I’m a manager and I feel like I’m being bullied, I’m being so badly micromanaged my manager has been examining my spelling in emails to the point she has called me out for poor spelling because I missed the “d” off acknowledged. She’s also made me physically read out my emails to her so she can find a fault, to the point one time she told me have I proof read my email? I said yes what’s wrong with it? She said ok read it to me, so I started.. nothing told me to read the next paragraph again nothing. Eventually she said oh must just be me must have been another email.. I feel so degraded I have dyslexia and she knows this, my spelling will never be perfect even with tools to help. I stood up for myself today and said she’s done spelling mistakes so have my colleague and so have many others across the department but they never get highlighted so why are mine. She couldn’t say just put me on a support plan that I’ve refused to sign.
Well done for standing up for yourself. I know this is not an easy move. Putting you on a support plan for spelling alone seems very unfair and given you have dyslexia and she knows it - potentially very risky for the company. I have this video to help with bullies who are you manager ua-cam.com/video/FEseItw5Moo/v-deo.html Fighting your manager for fair treatment is tough - getting supporters is vital. It can be easier to get a job elsewhere.
If she's mistreating you/singling-you-out for a learning disability, you may have a legal claim against her. If HR doesn't help, you may want to speak with an employment lawyer. This doesn't mean you have to sue your company. Sometimes a strongly-worked email from a person of authority (i.e. lawyer) can do wonders for getting HR to actually do something in your favour. The last thing the company wants is a lawsuit and potentially bad press.
agreed
I appreciate you making this video. This kind of behavior from people that bully is NOT right and they would face Jesus to explain how they treated HIS children!
Thanks for your comments. I agree bullying is not right. It is important to make it has hard as possible for bullies to get away with bullying within the workplace. This helps everyone.
Very helpful but what if the manager is the bully?
Around half the bullying at work is done by managers (per various surveys). It is extra tough tackeling a bully who is a manager. Building allies and getting lots of evidence showing a bullying pattern is really important. Take a look at this video for managers undermining you ua-cam.com/video/FEseItw5Moo/v-deo.html
Quit the job first chance you get! I know I’ve been there!
If you don't want to fight, nor put up with the bullying, then leaving the only sensible option left. I am have been there too.
Gain evidence and confront.Don’t back down or leave.If it’s covert bullying then record for labour tribunal.I’ve been there,not at tribunal but being bullied.Don’t wait.
For me it's always the bosses
Unfortunately, some of the biggest thugs and gossips in my organisation are on the Senior Leadership team …
Yes I agree. The stats show that over 50% of bullies in the workplace are in more senior positions. J
I am the sole target of the workplace bully. Any time I bring it up to my manager. He tries to turn it on me being the problem and makes excuses for her. She is a friend of his that he brought into the organization. Currently looking because I can't take it anymore
@jenniferjohnson7975 You are in a difficult and unfair situation. Getting a new job is likely to be ht easiest route out of the situation. It might be a hassle, yet you spend so much time at work it is not worth putting up with poor treatment while you are there. Best of luck to you. J
Just recently I had to do some training in an agency as part of my degree! So the manager of that department was young and inexperienced! I was excited to learn new things so after awhile I start receiving irrelevant and unfair criticisms every time I try to do sthg right! I corrected her two or three times on some basic knowledge in the field …at the end she refused to write the final report for my uni with me
So she wrote a paragraph portraying me in a negative way as being defensive etc
Felt devastated because that was unfair they put you on the defensive and accuse you of being defensive
What shocked me I wasn’t aware I was bullied until I read the comments at home!
Nobody I spoke too understood
I feel lonely in this
I felt like I am winging and gossiping to people ! It is a humiliating experience
@joliejolie817 Your experience sounds unpleasant and unfair. It is never nice when two people don't get along and refusing to write the final report is somewhat harsh. It would be worth you thinking about how you made the manager feel when correcting her. Was her poor behaviour triggered by feeling threatened? This doesn't excuse her behaviour. It might help you avoid similar situations in the future.
It used to be called slightly bullying behind closed doors.
Or in the back office in the company with the bullying within the business.
Also, if the manager or management team will also assist within the bullying process of the business.
Course some time it's the whole damm management team.
When you are in a toxic culture where bullying or agressive management practices are common place, moving is often the better option. J
As to physical threats. I was the target of an incident where a boss threw a pen at my face. He justified himself by saying that “… the pen flew off his hand…”
Physical threats (I hope for most) are pretty rare at work. Repeated incidents or "accidents" would be a major concern and probably something you could take the police as much as internally to leadership or HR. Bullying in whatever form it takes is not easy to deal with, especially when managers are the bully. J
Thanks for that info. It’s good info when I’m trying to put things into perspective.
You are welcome.
Unfortunately many companies dont care or not a lot if ypure bully. They may even side with the bully manager .they just hope you leave so it makes things easy for them
In my opinion, any company or manager worth working for will care a lot about bullying. Bully is very damanging behaviour to any team, not to mention tough on the victim. I agree that human nature is often to take the easier route. Easy is not always best!
It usually is the manager.
The research shows that over 50% of bullying at work is done by those with more authority than you i.e. managers. Sad but true. It is very important for managers to have a good toolkit, and to use power very responsibly so they don't need to resort to bullying to try get their staff to perfrom. J
Its happening to me in the gym the manager is tellin all the members not to talk to me an spreading Rumours, everyone's just staring at me, when i walk in the gym everyone Leaves, now im isolated an cut off @@Enhancetraining
Thank you. I needed to see these facts and patterns objectively to understand my situation. You helped me see the truth in all the manipulation, that my own spider sense was tingling about. Namaste! I can now act, and be confident.
You are so welcome. J
Thank you! Very useful information. I am a new employee who has experienced bullying behaviour by my manager. I feel isolated and that my account has not been validated. I am considering tendering my resignation
If you are new to the role and already being bullied you are in a very tough position. Leaving may well be the best move - get a better job with a better boss! Here is a video on how to tackle bullying if you go down this route ua-cam.com/video/k9CykoXmx9M/v-deo.html
Thank you, very helpful
Glad it was helpful!
This is amazing. Thank you so much for this.
You're very welcome! Glad you found it useful. J
Covert bully can be disguised as routine performance management (supervision, feedback), which give covert bully legitimacy and protection for the bully. Bullying needs to be defined in legislation as far more than overt bullying witnessed by others and an assault on the physical person.
Covert bullying is much worst than overt - because it is so much harder to deal with. Legislation is only useful if authories police and use it. I believe managers and leaders have a very important job to set the tone within an organisation and to root out and deal with bullying and other negative behaviours. This is in the interests of everyone including the leaders (except the bullies of course).
i feel like a bully because i keep calling people out in front of everyone at the meeting about the things they say i dont like ...ive also told them i will not tolerate any disrespect
May I suggest that you talk in general terms (without naming specific people) while in public, and then have conversations in private with specific people. I think it is important to follow "praise in public, criticise in private". You suggest that your team does not respect you as much as you want... have I got that right?...How do you feel towards your team? How are you helping them as a manager (which leads to earning their respect as a manager)? Maybe worth thinking about both questions?
It sounds like you need to stop doing that.
Having a lead always yelling at you. Having you leave main job, to start a secondary job, then asking you to help over in another area, but never allows you time to finish the second job. Then orders you back to the main job, because your co worker isn't keeping up. Then gets mad because I have not finished the second job....
@BooBahh-uh5jk sounds like the manager is totally unrealistic. I can't see you "winning" or having a reasonable time at work if this is the case - maybe find a better job in a company with a better culture...
I ended up quiting without notice. Pray for me. My body is very thankful. The day before I quit we had a new hire who worked with the lead for 1 shift and he never came back. It didn't help seeing other departments getting new hires, but not the warehouse. Plus my co worker who was half my age was doing less than me and also he was using me for his therapist.
There was no moving up in this company either.
@BooBahh-uh5jk Well done for getting out of there. We are all hoping you get a great job in a nice company with a good boss soon!
The covert bullying segment was great, thanks
Glad you found is so useful. J
There is a real need for understanding and help for 'isolated workers' such as those in Community Support. Platform Technology seems to have exacerbated this as well as increased the 'very real isolation' of these employees. It is a large part of the workforce allied to healthcare. The consequences range from financial (income.... as work can be withheld), through to physical (acknowledged by GP's) and Mental Safety at Work (covered under H&S, but as with much H&S this workforce fall through some large gaping cracks.
@jaynelong-taylor791 - you raise really good points. With more working from home, hybrid working and getting work through technology platforms - there are less people around to provide support and these workers are more isolated than workers were in the past (when working next to team members etc). I can imagine that the opportunity to be bullied, be overworked, be treated unfairly etc have gone up as a result.
When I hear a story about workplace violence, I wonder about bullying. HR doesnt want to hear it.
Its a wonder it doesnt happen more often
I would hope that HR & the leadership would be very keen to stop bullying. I also know that plenty of people put bullying into the "too difficult" to stop category. Bullying doesn't help anyone except perhaps the bully themselves.
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Helps the bully in eliminating competition. Not good for the organisation.
@999timepass - True
Great, very useful information. It’s happening in the pass 3 years I know and don’t know how to stop and point out. I learnt from this video.
I am glad that this video was useful to you. Good luck! J
We all can go on giving videos of examples but this is an old age happening but nothing changes, the bullies retain their jobs or get promoted and you're classed as not a good fit and removed from you job. Until the government recognises this is a serious threat to people's mental health and none productive financially for the company as well as losing good productive staff. What they don't tell you companies encourage psychopaths and Narcs fearing of greater threats from these people. The first time I experienced these evil acts of bullies and the pathological liars was 15 years ago, nothing changed since just greater threats using the system to cover themselves. The victims look edt to battle through tons of paperwork to prove their innocence while in the mean time they continue to gaslighting the victim.
Humans are social creatures and form groups. All groups have some kind of pecking order. When you combine power, insecurities and fears, and groups it seems there will always be some that use bullying to protect themselves or their position in some way. They find it easier and less effort to put others down rather than lift themselves up. J
Just a neverending story repeating over and over. What we like to know, when this will ease or stops? As I understand Pathological liars, bullying, and Narcissistic staff are on the increase more so than ever. I hope eventually they all jammed in working in the same companies that retain these behaviours and see how long the company survives. Because in the end they will all give each other their deadly venom, this is enough to bring a company down.
Agreed.
You get no protection, neither by the manager or above them. Other colleagues are bystanders, asked for support from them will only get you thrown under the bus to keep their job.
The good managers and the good companies will absolutely protect staff from bullies - it is 100% in their own interests to do so. Bully destroys trust and teamwork, which in turn seriously damanges individual and team performance. Unfortunately there are too many managers that don't put in the effort to spot bullying or to tackle bullies. I suspect a good portion of these managers simply don't know what to do.
I've experienced worst bullies in my workplace, can this be taken on legal grounds as I was undergoing some personal situations in life and I was stalked and bullied during that time as I would be lost, it has caused huge losses for me
Just a huge price to pay for just having a job
Some help on whether legal action can be taken would help
@sandhiyad194 - the legal routes depend on your country laws. For example, in the UK you need to be in your job for more than 2 years before you get some legal protection. You would still have to take the company to tribunial which is time consuming and costly. Easier to spend the time and energy getting a better job in a better company in most cases. J
Everyday.
That is really tough. Do you have reasons to stay?
I have had a rough 17 years of Covert workplace bullying, can you tell me if all the devotees and bystanders will become upstanders if an external investigation takes place, especially if they are made anonymous.?
If feedback is truly anonymous and they trust that it is, you usually get people telling the truth. Depending on how an external investigation is run, I would hope that bystanders will be of use in creating change. Sorry to hear you have had such a tough time. It really is horrible to be subject to covert bullying from anyone at work. J
I have been and some of my team members got criticised in team meeting and to avoid that local language we have to hardword to complete the task I'm afraid of complaining it as I couldn't boldly talk about it i I have some recordings of that lady speaking harshly could it be used to complaint against her ... I have health issues because of the stress caused by her😢😢😢
Recording colleagues or managers proably won't be looked on very favourably by the company and should only be used as a last resort. Are you able to write down exactly what she said and how she said (along with where and when). Would your colleagues back you up or provide their own examples? The more people raising the same issue, the more action favourable to you will happen. J
My teachers should have seen this like 15 years ago
Your school sounds tough...
Honestly, if men can learn this at home, I think you probably have a beautiful household
Bullying where ever it happens is not for anyone. I agree that if everyone worked harder to make sure bullying didn't happen (especially the bullies!), our homes and offices would be a much better place. J
Is it bullying if let's say you have a misunderstanding or communication breakdown with a team member and your temper gets the best of you?
I think this depends on how often this happens. If it is a one-off or a rare occurance, then in my opinion no it is not bullying (we are all human and make mistakes etc). If tlosing your temper happens regularly then it could be argued you are trying to intimidate and therefore could be bullying. J
@Enhancetraining or it can be argued someone has maladaptive coping behavior and doesn't handle stress or conflict well.
@jeffknowlton5200 - I would suggest finding other ways of coping when feeling stressed or in conflict? I would argue behaviour that damages relationships is going to lead to more stress and conflict which creates an even bigger problem for that person. J
@Enhancetraining I agree that having maladaptive coping behavior and not handling stress or conflict well shows emotional immaturity. A person with those issues probably needs help. Or he or she has some mental health or neurological issues and may need help for that. As for bullying, I think that comes with a different mindset. Bullies need a victim and they want to harass others. They'll harass and mistreat someone even if there is no stress or conflict present.
@jeffknowlton5200 I agree that many bullies personally feel better about themselves when they are putting others down. Horrible but true. I have not yet met a person that is confident and happy with themselves and who is also a bully.
Mostly emplyees, not the boss, are victims of office bullying.
@Superman-xm8ki Unfortunately, you are absolutely right. Employees are much more likely to be bullied. (Don't forget nearly everyone has a boss - plenty of managers get bullied by their boss). It is bad news for anyone to be bullied. J
And if you believe the lies that some people tell and you decide to punish the victim, you and the victim will quickly be out of a job.
I would agree - always check a version of events. You can then understand exactly what had happened and understand the honesty of each party. Both very useful in these difficult situations. J
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This is my last job!
Had to quit without notice, nothing was being done. Felt like high school shop class
Well done for leaving a bad situation. That take courage!
I want to talk to you
Please email me at support@enhance.training and we can go from there. J
I cant imagine this guy this guy getting bullied
Anyone can be bullied.
@@Enhancetraining I'm sure you are right about that and this guy proves ur point- he seems nfident tall handsome and articutale I wld not expect it
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thanks for the comment
Nice video, but no one cares. It’s up to the victims to change jobs.
I disagree. It is in the company's and management's interests to stop bullying. Bully damages trust, which in turn damages team performance. Plus on top of this the company exposes itself to legal and reputational risk and potential damage/cost. Added to that - who likes to be bullied - so there is a moral obligation too. I appreciate these compelling reasons may not change some peoples actions.
I realize that my experiences are not all-encompassing, but your video is for a world that does not exist. I once reported a bullying boss ( and quite frankly mentally unstable) and was fired the next day. I worked in numerous places where at least one manager was notorious for mistreating his/ her people and nothing was ever done. I understand that your video is aimed at managers but I’d be shocked if even one took it to heart.@@Enhancetraining
It would seem that I have had very different experiences to you. Sorry to hear that you have not had good experiences. I know there are plenty of companies and managers that have horrible cultures and approaches and are much more focused on protecting the status quo that doing the right thing - morally and for the business. There are good companies too. J
Victims don't always have the option to change jobs.
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