how to transform your self image

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  • @NewelOfKnowledge
    @NewelOfKnowledge  Місяць тому +103

    The community has just hit 200k members. I appreciate every single one of you. Thank you for all your support. No comment goes unnoticed and all feedback is more than welcome. May we continue to improve our mental health & social skills together. Until death do us apart.
    Lew x

    • @mrnice7570
      @mrnice7570 Місяць тому +1

      I can't believe how well put together you are ( mentally/spiritually) for someone so young. You young sir will go far

    • @GamerOX1000
      @GamerOX1000 Місяць тому +1

      Found your channel recently, been watching tons of vids and have really enjoyed em! It's like if someone combined all the awesome things I learned in therapy with genuinely useful self-help skills.
      Commenting mostly because it keeps coming up in passing but is actually almost touched on here: at 2:30, you point at how self-image is broken into different categories, and you include a 6th for "sexual" (but describe it by describing it as gender roles).
      I'm nonbinary (one of those "they/them"s) so gender was always one of those things that felt like dividing by zero - it made no intuitive sense, and the longer i'd spend trying to make sense of it, the more likely I'd be to get frustrated and give up. No combination of parental figures or people I looked up to or internet knowledge seemed to make a difference; at best it felt like some arcane knowledge where if I did the right rituals and gaslit myself into embracing the ideals laid out by someone else, then I could finally "fit" somewhere. But ultimately, I always felt imprisoned in a glass box of other people's creation, which I forced on myself because everyone else was doing it (and also seemed equally as miserable, so obviously it must be NORMAL).
      I'm writing all this out because while I've never felt acknowledged in your muchacho/a sign-off, that's fine (society actively tries to disregard people like me anyway, it's not a you thing), but here you pretty directly gesture to it without actually going into it at all. I'm curious to know why - I personally don't have any sense of this mystical 6th aspect, not in myself and not in other people (I can identity descriptive qualities that others attribute to masc/fem, but I don't intuitively make those associations on my own). So I'm genuinely curious if this is something you think people deeply have a sense of, or if it's more something people begrudgingly accept and then force onto themselves so as to make the distinction mean something to them. I know plenty of people who deeply intuitively know what "box" they belong to (to the point where they choose to make their lives hell by aligning with what they know to be true about themselves, to the ire of society that "disagrees" with their existence), but most people don't seem to be that way at all. You seem like a kind level-headed guy, so I'm curious to know what you think

    • @jinjerlyapotatobe4629
      @jinjerlyapotatobe4629 Місяць тому

      Thank you for everything that you do! I appreciate all of your videos and the insights from it! Thank you so much!

    • @Puff942
      @Puff942 Місяць тому

      You just explained the entire last year of my life in one sentence.

    • @Gtokkk
      @Gtokkk Місяць тому +1

      use bigger text on the whiteboard? It would make note-taking simpler....

  • @johnwebster9312
    @johnwebster9312 Місяць тому +402

    Big fan of the content with no music and no ADHD jump cuts. I feel like its detox for my mind.

    • @akaSimplex
      @akaSimplex Місяць тому +17

      As someone with adhd I second this

    • @AllThingsConsidered333
      @AllThingsConsidered333 Місяць тому +7

      Same! These vids have good info, calm presentation & not overstimulating, pleasant voice to listen to..
      ADHD + multiple chronic tick infections that affect my nervous system and make me pretty sensitive to sensory stimuli..

    • @kc-ze6wz
      @kc-ze6wz Місяць тому +21

      the adhd jumpcuts are usually more distracting instead of engaging, despite what those creators think

    • @Dontknowmyrealdad1
      @Dontknowmyrealdad1 Місяць тому +3

      That will come later, 1 step is to plagiarise others peoples work from books, internet etc. step 2 once the subs have plateaued is to make the vids more slick while repeating content they’ve already made. Who would of thought so many in their early 20s would have so much wisdom 🤔

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +1

      It's a calmer style for sure 🙌

  • @luhohnel
    @luhohnel Місяць тому +176

    I’ve noticed that people with low self-esteem attach their identity to the mistakes they make. While people with high self esteem just make peace with the mistake and say, it’s part of the game.

    • @signedupfordoconly4275
      @signedupfordoconly4275 Місяць тому

      Yeah so how to undo that?

    • @luhohnel
      @luhohnel Місяць тому

      @@signedupfordoconly4275 fake it till you make it ?

    • @luhohnel
      @luhohnel Місяць тому

      @@signedupfordoconly4275 in all seriousness. apply the practical step he gave us. And when you visualize your ideal self. Visualize you taking losses at the chin.

    • @Aliasaliasaliashh
      @Aliasaliasaliashh Місяць тому

      ​@@signedupfordoconly4275it starts with trying.

    • @ElleJeane_
      @ElleJeane_ Місяць тому +3

      it’s in the video. You did watch it to the end?

  • @ENSO-wildsound
    @ENSO-wildsound Місяць тому +98

    "to love yourself, behave in ways you admire". Lewis @31.40ish.
    Absolute. Gold.

    • @NewelOfKnowledge
      @NewelOfKnowledge  Місяць тому +8

      I would love to have claimed these words but I believe it was Irvin D. Yalom who said them first ahaha!

  • @ricolearns
    @ricolearns Місяць тому +529

    My golden rule is this: If you're thinking too much you're not moving enough.

    • @MrclMcx
      @MrclMcx Місяць тому +34

      Poor advice that is pretty much bro science, you just become exhausted and unable to ward off the negative thought patterns. I've been regularly exercising for 15 years to the point of exhaustion and it hasnt helped

    • @ximenaMartinez-st4wf
      @ximenaMartinez-st4wf Місяць тому +5

      @@MrclMcxgotta start making them money moves then

    • @akaSimplex
      @akaSimplex Місяць тому +32

      @@MrclMcxit’s not bro science it’s malleable advice. It doesn’t necessarily mean you have to run a marathon or do 15 muscle ups whenever you’re ruminating, the point is to focus 100% on something external. Even just breathing exercises.
      The mind obsessively worries about past/future, but you can always re-centre yourself back to the present moment by focusing on the physical. Although I still had a breakdown a few hours ago so you probably shouldn’t listen to me lol

    • @MyChihuahua
      @MyChihuahua Місяць тому

      Work smarter, not harder

    • @ibrahimkarasis8274
      @ibrahimkarasis8274 Місяць тому

      Damn.

  • @charthers8903
    @charthers8903 Місяць тому +48

    I love to see young people take on the original self help concepts of the 70s - back then it was all about identity, none of that ‘just grind bro’ superficial bs

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +6

      It all starts with our identity 🎯

    • @NewelOfKnowledge
      @NewelOfKnowledge  Місяць тому +17

      Hahaha, thanks for the comment! I do wonder when it all changed from identity focus to just grind bro. I guess when social media became a thing, showing other people how hard you work became the new status symbol - which caused people to want to be like the grind bros - so the grind bros would offer the advice of just grind. ahahaha. one big grind cycle! Anyway, I'm rambling. What do you think?

  • @strwb3bi
    @strwb3bi Місяць тому +51

    Now this is what i call high quality content
    Thank you

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +2

      Ya this was excellent 💯

  • @vooooooooooooo
    @vooooooooooooo Місяць тому +10

    Im in process of self healing my childhood traumas and while waking up for toilet i got anxiety attack, went on yt to distract myself and this video showed. Video was not what i needed, but the way you spoke felt so natural and precise it completely resonated with me, and i went trough your videos, your explanations helped me deal with trauma 26 years old. Because it happened when i was 5 this fear took away all my urges and all my self and i was living like nothingness all my life. I finally got to it, accepted my emotions, understood it, explained it, and felt such ease that i just cannot express how thanfull i am. I never stopped fighting, i got over depression, self destruction (because i hated my empty self), drug and alcohol addiction, but there was always this ugly trauma that would just sweep away any urge or instinct, emotion, desire i had, and i was pretty much clueless and helpless until now. I want you to know how big thing you helped me to discover. I want to donate to you, if you plan on making patreon ill be first to sign up. ❤❤❤❤

  • @jamienotamy
    @jamienotamy 21 день тому +6

    Your babushka exercise made me realize I love that I will stop everything to help someone in need. My two favorite things I've ever done were rescuing a cat dumped in my neighborhood on a below-freezing day, and giving a car-less coworker a ride to the hospital to visit her mom on mothers day. When I did those things I felt 100% clear-headed, confident, and calm. I would love to feel that way about other aspects of myself. Thank you.

  • @KingaGorski
    @KingaGorski Місяць тому +28

    In order to transform our self-concept, that's a massive point you made that's all too easy to gloss over: in order to change, a key aspect is learning to *interpret things differently.* In the messy middle of personal alchemy, that shift often requires us to go against every fibre of our (usual) being, depending on the automatic programmed thinking-feeling response that's flooding us in the moment, depending on the circumstance.
    It's no small undertaking, though that being said, *change is always possible.*
    P.S. Huge congrats on 200k! Yoooooo! 🎉

  • @lukehd4081
    @lukehd4081 Місяць тому +25

    I will admit that I subconsciously h8 myself and it has manifested in repeated self-sabotage. This is the cycle I want to free myself from.

  • @AceH1gh
    @AceH1gh Місяць тому +23

    Never in my life I thought that I will take pen and paper and write notes about youtube video 😂

    • @LiaBouzo
      @LiaBouzo Місяць тому +2

      lol same, it brought me back to my interested student phase

  • @minnies782
    @minnies782 Місяць тому +43

    This was brilliant. I really like your style! Simple and focused. Music, animations and other extras are not needed when the topic is interesting and necessary and the performer is charismatic. Thank you!

  • @xg2513
    @xg2513 Місяць тому +101

    12:06 So to summarize, my brain is constantly trying to gaslight me (based on a few past bad experiences) into thinking that all future things are bad because they were bad one time!

    • @NewelOfKnowledge
      @NewelOfKnowledge  Місяць тому +22

      hahaha, there you go!

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +12

      Our brain always wants to predict the probability of future outcomes based on the evidence provided from past events. In order to change, we must focus primarily on possibility-on what we can create in the future moving forward-versus our tendency to always look back to past "proof". 💡

    • @lori1760
      @lori1760 Місяць тому +1

      ​@@KingaGorski your comment resonated with me. You seem knowledgeable about this so I was wondering if you could give me an example of focusing on the future vs past

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski 21 день тому +1

      ​@@lori1760 Hi Lori! Happy to expand. Say you have a goal you want to strive towards. Because of the human brain's natural negativity bias (focusing on problems and potential threats to our safety and security), we automatically tend to steer our thinking towards negative "what ifs..."
      What if this fails?
      What if I embarrass myself?
      What if I never amount to anything?
      These negative "what ifs" are almost always tied to past events where we experienced things not working out the way we'd hoped, so we predict the likelihood of future outcomes based on what we've already experienced in the past.
      "If it didn't work out then, why would it work out now?"
      Instead, with that knowledge of the sneaky ways our brain plays tricks on us, we can train ourselves to think in more beneficial ways to help us grow and create new results-at the very least, summon the courage to take action, regardless of the outcome.
      We can intentionally guide our thoughts towards ideal future outcomes that would serve us in a more productive and better feeling way. Leaning into positive "what ifs..."
      What if this succeeds?
      What if I gain the confidence I desire?
      What if it works out better than I imagined?
      Future thinking = Possibility
      Past thinking = Probability
      Is that helpful? 💡

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski 21 день тому +1

      @@lori1760 Hi Lori! Happy to expand. Say you have a goal you want to strive towards. Because of the human brain's natural negativity bias (focusing on problems and potential threats to our safety and security), we automatically tend to steer our thinking towards negative "what ifs..."
      What if this fails?
      What if I embarrass myself?
      What if I never amount to anything?
      These negative "what ifs" are almost always tied to past events where we experienced things not working out the way we'd hoped, so we predict the likelihood of future outcomes based on what we've already experienced in the past.
      "If it didn't work out then, why would it work out now?"
      Instead, with that knowledge of the sneaky ways our brain plays tricks on us, we can train ourselves to think in more beneficial ways to help us grow and create new results-at the very least, summon the courage to take action, regardless of the outcome.
      We can intentionally guide our thoughts towards ideal future outcomes that would serve us in a more productive and better feeling way. Leaning into positive "what ifs..."
      What if this succeeds?
      What if I gain the confidence I desire?
      What if it works out better than I imagined?
      Future thinking = Possibility
      Past thinking = Probability
      Is that helpful? 💡

  • @Bluevioletsoul
    @Bluevioletsoul Місяць тому +20

    I've been looking forward for this, let me get my tea, snacks and notebook ready 🍵📖 thank you!

  • @progressiveparadigm
    @progressiveparadigm 18 днів тому +2

    Having autism alongside generally messy neurochemistry, I feel like I've been praying for something instructional for this for so long. Got out the pen and paper for this; much love and thanks mate.

  • @keithrockefeller9808
    @keithrockefeller9808 Місяць тому +9

    when you teach me this way, u make feel sensations
    and the teacher i ever wanted, lewis, i want to send my heartfelt thanks to you, its a blessing having content from u, greetings from kampala uganda

  • @0761x
    @0761x Місяць тому +6

    i’ve been in a really dark spot, and this video helped me immensely. thank you

  • @nattfreitag
    @nattfreitag 17 днів тому +1

    Thank you very much for your content, it's so pacific, calm yet so important. One thing that helps me a lot to bring my unconscious to the light of knowledge it to freely journal asking 'why' and write down whatever comes to mind, do an analysis and compare if what I think reflects on material reality ( such as how people respond to me or what are the consequences of my acts ), keeping in mind a positive action - emotional process and I'm not always wrong about what I think of myself, but helps me to be more flexible and understand where I need more attention, such as insecurities . Helps me a lot !

  • @lessthanthreemetal
    @lessthanthreemetal Місяць тому +17

    Newel - you are the best content creator for our generation on UA-cam. Keep it up.

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +1

      Agreed, stellar stuff ✔

  • @WOLV
    @WOLV Місяць тому +10

    The best video I've seeing so far about self-image and its connection to NLP. Very well explained, nice communication from you to us, and actually really useful. 💪💪 Keep the channel going mate! The knowledge and info you are bringing to the table is pure gold

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +1

      Really appreciated the dive into NLP also 🧠

  • @beanrunnerWA
    @beanrunnerWA Місяць тому +5

    Each of your videos gives me 1% that I retained and use. That 1% from each video shifts my course 1%. Thanks for the little nudeges in the direction my dreamz.

  • @littlesquishy9951
    @littlesquishy9951 Місяць тому +3

    I’ve been really struggling with my self image for years, mostly due to bullying and an abusive relationship. I struggle with PTSD and depression, and I’m neurodivergent. I hadn’t realised until a few months ago that I really don’t like myself. This video was so needed thank you! Im going to try harder to be the person I want to be, and not just the victim of everything that has happened to me, because I can be so much more than that!

    • @ElleJeane_
      @ElleJeane_ Місяць тому +4

      You sure can, focus on one small step at a time, break it down to short mind shifts.

  • @GratitudeHealth8888
    @GratitudeHealth8888 Місяць тому +7

    Really connect with your energy man, we are similar and both like scarves. The work you're doing is beyond valuable and in good timing. Zen

    • @NewelOfKnowledge
      @NewelOfKnowledge  Місяць тому +3

      my fellow scarf man. I appreciate you.

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +1

      The energy is chilllllllll! 🧘‍♀

    • @GratitudeHealth8888
      @GratitudeHealth8888 Місяць тому

      @NewelOfKnowledge my life is changing for the better, I'm learning to be here for myself and care for myself from a whole new perspective. I feel like we would be neighbors in an alternate reality. I'd like to support what you do as my life stabilizes. To give back, because of the value received, beyond grateful. 🙏

  • @SHUBH1
    @SHUBH1 Місяць тому +4

    Inside out 2 really explained this concept of self very well

    • @0piumaeternum
      @0piumaeternum 26 днів тому +1

      i need to rewatch. the one thing that burned into my mind what that mantra that plays for each flower for riley’s personality; when met with a big experience one of the strands are plucked which reflects how she felt about herself in that moment.

  • @MisterJingo93
    @MisterJingo93 Місяць тому +3

    Once again the right topic at the right time. I can´t stress this enough, but I really think what you do is more important than you might even think.

    • @KingaGorski
      @KingaGorski Місяць тому +1

      Lots of wise people out there. Lew is definitely one of 'em 💡

  • @Simonriley291
    @Simonriley291 Місяць тому +2

    It might be of 44 mins but it took me more than 2 hours to understand and relate every points with my life and it's quite practical and I found it helpful, I'll try my best to get out of this time of my life. Thank you.

  • @Al-fatihSayed
    @Al-fatihSayed Місяць тому +6

    Exactly what I need right now

  • @dannerbanner2343
    @dannerbanner2343 Місяць тому +4

    Thank you so much for this video! It has helped me understand why I sometimes struggle to make genuine connections and friendships with others. I’m going to use this knowledge to reprogram my thoughts and develop better friendships. Keep up the great videos!

  • @itwaslegendari
    @itwaslegendari 16 днів тому

    i expected this to be a whole lot of nothing like many other videos like this on UA-cam but oh my god I am actually amazed at how good and helpful this is

  • @Melih-ro9vd
    @Melih-ro9vd Місяць тому +3

    I definitely needed this. I will watch this video once again and take some notes, it will help a lot. Thank you!

  • @strwb3bi
    @strwb3bi Місяць тому +3

    really appreciate all the work you put into the videos❤

  • @trimp9939
    @trimp9939 23 дні тому

    I really can't say enough how valuable this channel is to me. Some of this information you share is enough to draw emotional responses. Thank you for all your effort in your videos, they certainly make an impact.

  • @quoi1957
    @quoi1957 13 днів тому

    This is the first time in my life that I truly feel I’ve learned something important about human complexity and also about myself. So, I would like to thank you, and I also want to say that this is my first time commenting on UA-cam because I don’t usually do this, but I had to because you’ve really changed my point of view. This is also the first time someone has really explained something in such an easy and pedagogical way. So thank you. Thank you, and just continue doing what you’re doing right now. It’s amazing !

    • @NewelOfKnowledge
      @NewelOfKnowledge  13 днів тому

      Thank you :) I'm honoured that this was the first video you commented on :)

  • @dylanrupprecht4031
    @dylanrupprecht4031 Місяць тому +2

    I am grateful for your content, sir. This is so helping me out right now, all your videos this year have been a guiding light in a dark time of my life. Please keep up the great work 💜

  • @MinisterAngel777
    @MinisterAngel777 Місяць тому +3

    Thank you for the video, your presence helps me to be grounded. You deserve everything that this life has for you. 777

  • @jmrumble
    @jmrumble Місяць тому +1

    I love that you use an actual whiteboard, but also edit the video to remove the whiteboard things that just take up extra time like drawing complex things, erasing things, realizing you accidentally used the wrong marker that one time and having to scrub over it with a real whiteboard marker and then erase that a couple times to get the marks off, and making silly jokes about your drawing skills to fill the time while drawing is happening...
    So basically - it's like school but more engaging :)
    Every stroke you actually show is either making a point or serving as a transition into a new part of what you're talking about! And because it's a whiteboard and not an animation, it's easier to not get distracted thinking about how the animation might have been made or how it could have been done better. Keeps the focus on the topic. (Had to write this up for that same purpose xD Now back to watching!)

  • @GogosUTube
    @GogosUTube Місяць тому +2

    I've been excited for this one! Thank you for this upload.

  • @minashah9933
    @minashah9933 Місяць тому

    Absolutely brilliant. Only channel where the videos are full of substance, not air and chatter. I’m actually taking physical notes, crazy!

  • @chewablee
    @chewablee 24 дні тому

    thank you so much for your advice. you inspired me to buy a whiteboard myself a while back, and once again you've babushka'd me into becoming a better person. i hope you know that unlike videos where i feel as though i've already listened to their self-help tip a million times over, your knowledge is refreshing and charming, and it makes me feel genuinely interested to learn more and experiment myself. it brings out the warm and fuzzy feelings of accomplishment :)

  • @patriziaaa
    @patriziaaa Місяць тому

    I love how you are getting better and better at Spanish in every video. And thank you for the videos you make. One of the best channels for self-improvement I have found so far.

  • @anjali8803
    @anjali8803 16 днів тому

    I absolutely loved your Detailed explanation as if you are my college professor and the dedication omg ❤ I really satisfied my curious brain the way you fragmented and explained with most realatsble examples. Loved it!

  • @mvandell
    @mvandell Місяць тому +1

    Brother you are so talented and so appreciated.
    I have been focusing on bringing awareness and conscious understanding to myself and others mainly through embracing the peace that lies within and letting our self perceived often low self images melt away in the love that is at our foundation of life. This is very powerful work you are doing and i for one am extremely grateful to you.. the more tools we have at our disposal to bring ourselves into balance and non prejudice towards ourselves and others the better! Thank you 🙏❤️🔥💯

  • @jennodine
    @jennodine 24 дні тому

    I think I’ve been doing this for the past week or so without knowing I was. Thank you for a great lesson. I agree with the comment about how pleasant is it to watch a video without a zillion cut always and background music. It’s like makeup - less is more. Simple elegance. Yes.

  • @laralebeu36
    @laralebeu36 Місяць тому +1

    Amazing video!
    One thing that I noticed about NLP is that it does not work directly with inner children psyche parts (see IFS) which hold the belief systems that are of the past and are now limited and dysfunctional. Without shadow work NLP can be used to repress those belief systems without liberating the stuck energy that is still stored in those limiting beliefs. What I take from this video is that NLP and shadow work need to go hand in hand. Thank you for this gem of a video!

    • @janny.p
      @janny.p 25 днів тому

      How do you heal the inner child

  • @jeffreylevongo4959
    @jeffreylevongo4959 4 дні тому

    I appreciated this video. Format and presentation was simplified to an extent where it removed all the fluff and I could understand the concepts easily.
    Well done🙏 keep up the good work❤

  • @lukehd4081
    @lukehd4081 Місяць тому +3

    Great video mate, this really helps me to set real goals.

  • @Entwicklungshustle
    @Entwicklungshustle Місяць тому +17

    17:20 I think that's a very important point and that's why I want to explain it a bit more. Also I like explaining.
    Every situation has no value on its own. When a loved one dies, someone insults you, someone gives you a present or whatever. All these situations are like a stone dropping onto another stone. No value, just molecules moving around. YOU, who perceives the situation, create the emotion in your head. YOU give it a value, YOU create the responding emotion. When someone dies, that is not sad. It makes you feel sad. When you play a game, the game is not fun. You experience fun while playing it. And not archieving something you worked for isn't disappointing and doesn't mean you were too lazy. You interpret the situation in a certain way, so that you conclude that you were too lazy and that disappoints you. Emotions are ALWAYS a representation of reality that is also heavily biased based on your personality, past, believes, etc. DO NOT BELIEVE THAT ANYTHING YOU FEEL IS THE ACTUAL REALITY

    • @jenmdawg
      @jenmdawg Місяць тому +1

      Almost right. You need to live a little more and see why the death of a loved one is sad no matter how much clinical stoicism or nihilism is involved.
      How one carries the involuntary, natural and unavoidable grief is what matters.

    • @Entwicklungshustle
      @Entwicklungshustle Місяць тому +1

      @@jenmdawg it's good that you say this, because, even though we create the emotion in our brain, that does absolutely not mean that you have full control over them. Realizing that emotions come from our brain only helps to disconnect from a situation, but of course, depending on the situation, sometimes you cannot just disconnect and throw away the emotion. I would personally say that I am mentally prepared for a death of a loved one, but due to lack of experience, I, of course, cannot be sure there. But what I want to say is, I honestly don't really know ehat can help a person, who is suffering under the loss of someone. Sadness in that case is also hardwired in our brains to some degree, so I guess, to some extend, you cannot do anything and have to 'endure' it (when the pain doesn't fade, then there is a reason for that that can be found and solved). So what I want to say is, the emotion is still being created inside our brain, a situation itself is just a situation that everyone perceives differently. But that doesn't mean that you can just say "the emotion comes from my brain so I just turn it off" or something. Depending on the exact problem, it can be incredibly much more difficult

    • @valca3867
      @valca3867 Місяць тому +1

      Thank you, mate!

    • @nittani.
      @nittani. 20 днів тому

      I have to agree

  • @spontaneousbootay
    @spontaneousbootay Місяць тому

    part of the explanation in 2 helped me to clarify a point ive been working on. why we obsess and like you said think negatively, its yourself feeding emotion into a thought. thats why its important to examine your thoughts without judgement and this allows them to pass smoothly.

  • @schoolneverteach
    @schoolneverteach 10 днів тому

    I needed to hear this.
    Reminds me of a comment by friends saying I apologize too much and I tend to come across as needy of help....

  • @WhitneyMorris-iz7ei
    @WhitneyMorris-iz7ei 9 днів тому

    I had an epiphany at around 22 minutes. Thank you ❤️

  • @marlasinger2810
    @marlasinger2810 Місяць тому

    I have appreciated every video of yours that I have watched so far! Thank you for being you. Thank you for helping me be a better version of myself.

  • @cheerfulgoth
    @cheerfulgoth Місяць тому

    You have no idea who I am or why I watch your videos, but I have been watching for a long time. As a former psych major (studied psyche for years and always felt like “but yeah, I’m not interested [well, not exactly true] in dealing with fucked up people, I’m interested in the greater scope of humanity and knowing why they follow the patterns they do) I have been nothing short of impressed with the knack you have for distilling basic, but crucial, concepts into something consumable by the masses. Kudos to you! I was hit with a heavy blow at 6am whilst at work, from an unknowing colleague. They asked me about someone who is a friend of mine but they asked in the past tense. I’d been “off-island” for 4 days and focused on the person I was visiting, so had no idea that my friend had taken their own life whilst I was away. Fucking gutted. Had to wait my 10 hour shift to go home and begin to sort my shit out and your video popped up and I thought, yeah, fuck it, I like this dude (sorry, California girl; only recently been brought to my attention that I refer to lots of PNW folks as ‘dude’ hahaha) and although this vid didn’t have much to do with the grief I am navigating, it still brought me comfort and, honestly, awe at the breadth and depth of the human experience that you consistently cover in your videos. As a woman who is days away (Nov 5 😭) from her 51st birthday, you make me long for the wisdom I would have benefitted from years ago, in spite of the fact that I started out in psychology! I’m sorry this was so rambling, but I am dealing with some raw fuckin’ grief but wanted to give you some feedback since I watch (listen, really) to your content regularly. Damn, son, keep up the excellent work. When I have the money I will absolutely support you on Patreon.

  • @bumman117
    @bumman117 29 днів тому

    I seriously appreciate the hard work and energy you put into these videos. I learn a lot and it really helps to give my long term mental health goals real hope.

  • @kowissss
    @kowissss 23 дні тому

    THIS IS SO GENIUS I HOPE IT WORKS WITH ME!!!!!

  • @krejziks3398
    @krejziks3398 Місяць тому

    There is a reason why forgiveness is so liberating and, imho, the best feeling in this world. On top, next to love.

  • @nouramoustafa7898
    @nouramoustafa7898 Місяць тому

    Thanks for ever little details you have covered.. but just want to add one thing is that fear and anxiety comes from the fact of protecting our selves from the unknown what is coming for us.
    Thanks again ❤

  • @kittcompton
    @kittcompton Місяць тому +23

    As a woman self help is my jam. And I absolutely love being taught by a smart, attractive and sexy teacher as yourself. I have to watch multiple times because I keep getting lost in your vibe and miss the message ❤

    • @King_WhiteWolf
      @King_WhiteWolf Місяць тому +7

      😂 Well shit, imma straight man but I suppose I can admit he is a handsome fella, and his voice is certainly easy on the ears.

    • @enwe6487
      @enwe6487 Місяць тому +3

      @@King_WhiteWolf It's the very specific tonality for me - yeah he's handsome and his voice is nice, but I love the easy going, positive tone that has something sinatra-ish in it - makes you feel like evrything is pretty good and going dandy, what else!

    • @neenz_m
      @neenz_m Місяць тому +6

      If the gender roles in this comment were swapped, would this comment still be appropriate? Just something to consider.

    • @jwilsss
      @jwilsss Місяць тому +6

      ⁠​⁠@@neenz_m I don’t think it’s appropriate this way round either.

    • @jasonfinnerty5711
      @jasonfinnerty5711 Місяць тому +1

      Guys can handle it

  • @stustrange6647
    @stustrange6647 Місяць тому

    I just subscribed to your channel… absolutely brilliant content! I’ve got very high self-esteem, but your video is causing me to ponder just how much smarter I could have become if any of my teachers/professors were as brilliant and able to deliver content as well as you!

  • @R4KT1M
    @R4KT1M Місяць тому +1

    Good video lewis.
    If we can change our concept of self, then our surroundings will change easily. This is the science behind success, many people get rich can't explain how or why they got rick except consistency, hard work.
    The working of sub concious mind is the science of success n failure.

  • @CorePathway
    @CorePathway Місяць тому +1

    I would add that the language of the subconscious is feelings. Our conscious mind translates this into thoughts. Practice and rehearse the feelings that support the thoughts that will create the results. Feelings first.

  • @djmileski
    @djmileski 21 день тому

    Thanks for the monumental presentation. Skills.
    Very helpful and enjoyable actually

  • @GregoryMathieu-d1u
    @GregoryMathieu-d1u Місяць тому +1

    I’m subscribed since a while now, but this video was special. As you posted that you were currently editing it, I set time apart for your content, took notes once you published it and now I’m happy and ready for change. Thanks to you, mate. Muchas gracias amigo mío as you’d prolly say and have a wonderful day, Dieu te bénisse

  • @MrZigljasin
    @MrZigljasin Місяць тому

    Hey man thank you so much for your videos they have literally been a lifesaver since im going through a break up after 8 years of dating. Im depressed and fcked up but little by little following some of your advice im getting on the right track. Again thanks muchacho!

  • @theyrlucifer
    @theyrlucifer Місяць тому +1

    i am not running away, i am running past them towards the destination

  • @sofiadiazzzz
    @sofiadiazzzz 15 днів тому

    amazing video!! everything you said was gold, I loved how you explained it!

  • @carriewalker4284
    @carriewalker4284 Місяць тому

    Thank you so much for your content. This is my favourite video so far! Super interesting and I love your humor sprinkled throughout. Adorably you 😄

  • @bakujahn6430
    @bakujahn6430 22 дні тому

    I have no idea who you are, where you are from or what you do but this video showed up right when I needed it.
    Thank you very much stranger.

  • @tiffanymilanese4696
    @tiffanymilanese4696 27 днів тому

    Even though the concept of self worth seems simple- it’s so complicated! Thank you for breaking down the hours of research you must have done for us in your informative video.
    I’ll be sure to apply ‘maintaining a positive attitude’ as well as being more self aware that my present view of a situation is based on past experiences and how I subconsciously view myself.
    If you can just wave your magic babushka and find some information as to how an alexathymic person with terrible interoception can recall positive past experiences and how those experiences physically felt I could fulfill the other portion of the reprogramming and be all set 😝

  • @Noukz37
    @Noukz37 23 дні тому

    With great videos, come great (as in large) comments:
    It is so refreshing to see this kind of simple YT video. Who says that each one has to have incessant seizure inducing editing, expensive backgrounds, multiple cameras, SFX and 3D animations? What YT is lacking is pure humanness and humour. And whiteboards!
    I'm positively surprised that most of your audience is male. That is quite reassuring because most dudes desperately need to work on changing and reprogramming themselves. This is coming from a male mediation teacher, who held lessons and workshops to people of many cultures and backgrounds, but "unfortunately" mostly women.
    This was a lot to take in, but considering the importance and the scope of the topic, I'd say you've condensed it pretty good! I'd just like to add something simple that always works for my reprogramming - I assume I could be wrong. Even about myself!
    One-word mantra of the year: Maybe.

  • @valca3867
    @valca3867 Місяць тому

    Thank you Lewis!, this video helped me. now I know what's the problem that I'm dealing with. without realizing and have zero knowledge of them! Before!.

  • @mennaayman9689
    @mennaayman9689 Місяць тому +1

    There's this best friend that I had growing up in a foreign country for 17 years and for some reason I had to leave after high school and go back to my country. Anyways. 15 years later, he came to visit me in my homeland and I was so nervous and clumsy the whole time he was there and he pointed it out which hurt my feelings. I realized the reason I was acting this way is that I was afraid he wouldn't like the person I've become because I don't like her. So I guess believing something about yourself makes it true to others as well. I want so much to change the image I have for myself in my mind.

  • @shanu6478
    @shanu6478 21 день тому

    REALLY REALLY ENJOYED WATCHING THE VIDEO LECTURE, MADE NOTES TOO. SELF AWARENESS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING OUT THERE, THANK YOU SO VERY MUCH FOR SHARING YOUR KNOWLEDGE.
    WROTE ALL THAT IN BIG CAPS JUST TO LET YOU KNOW I AM GENUINELY APPRECIATE OF THE EFFORTS AND THE KNOWLEDGE.
    WOULD LIKE TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR INSIGHTS ON MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMING... People daydream either as a coping mechanism to escape the hard reality or to relive experiences which may have a bad influence on them maybe to act out the way they must have acted
    Plz make a video on this a detailed one like any other i sometimes suffer from this

  • @dc5189
    @dc5189 Місяць тому

    This material is a weapon. For good. Thank you.

  • @Entwicklungshustle
    @Entwicklungshustle Місяць тому +3

    I just want to say that the fear of f.e. a job interview is not always based on past experiences, based on the personality or anything else like that. I was very afraid of a job interview even though I had literally not a single reason. I would take every outcome as it is, there was not a single scenario I could come up with that would make me feel bad during or after the interview. That's where I realized that my fear is literally the same like my fear from spiders. I know that both my parents are very afraid of such things (job interviews, calls and such stuff) and I think epigenetics played it's role and I inherited that from them. It is a fear that fully disappeared after the second job interview, so, I just want to say, sometimes you are just born with a fear that you can only fight (but absolutely most of the time the reason lies within you)

  • @OmogoloSathu
    @OmogoloSathu 24 дні тому

    Thank you Lewis.

  • @oliviaclark8233
    @oliviaclark8233 29 днів тому

    Lol i love your videos, the way you make them and how you talk about everything

  • @maderastuff
    @maderastuff Місяць тому

    Isnt it crazy how naturally unsuited the human mind is to probability & uncertainty? Cant wait to start anchoring my mudras & emotions to market triggers! Bro idk if you trade markets, but your mental game would suit it well. Much appreciated 👵 (baba emoji)

  • @rik7295
    @rik7295 29 днів тому

    This is really good! A step-by-step guide to improve your self image, I wish I'd come across this 20 years ago. Just two sidenotes:
    - If someone is severely depressed, this might not help them. They'll need professional help.
    - I think you'd look better winthout the moustache.
    😃
    Muchas gracias, muchacho.

  • @Xavier_kelvin
    @Xavier_kelvin Місяць тому

    Wowo i enjoy watching your videos they make my evening .....so much enjoyable

  • @nataliemakedon4478
    @nataliemakedon4478 29 днів тому

    This video is so helpful!!Thank you!!!:)))

  • @legalcake6125
    @legalcake6125 Місяць тому +1

    Love the content brother thank you 👍

  • @krystinehamre7851
    @krystinehamre7851 18 днів тому

    I started watching your videos and now when a real life situation happens where my amygdala kicks into over drive i talk my self down narrated by you 😂 nothing helps calm amy like a good laugh

  • @printsipessa
    @printsipessa 26 днів тому

    Glad you popped on my feed, subscribed 🎉😊

  • @laugt440
    @laugt440 Місяць тому +1

    omg I need a sticker of that dog drawing 10:18 🐶 thanks for the amazing video!

  • @veezyv100
    @veezyv100 16 днів тому

    This helped a lot. Thank you

  • @malb159
    @malb159 29 днів тому

    Great video. Commenting for the algorithm.

  • @julie-anneoconnor8027
    @julie-anneoconnor8027 Місяць тому

    Brilliant, very informative and useful, definitely can take some things away to try. Thank you 🎉

  • @djmileski
    @djmileski 21 день тому

    Improves fragile narcissism. Well said 31:38

  • @ianhenkel7157
    @ianhenkel7157 Місяць тому

    Thanks brotherman, the diagram was insightful

  • @bumman117
    @bumman117 29 днів тому

    Build self-esteem by doing esteemable acts

  • @Tomy_Yon
    @Tomy_Yon Місяць тому +2

    I sure do have a different image of myself than others do. 😊

  • @R9YRAMIR9Z
    @R9YRAMIR9Z 17 днів тому

    thank you your videos are helping me sm! I love your channel

  • @yannikovsky7041
    @yannikovsky7041 Місяць тому

    wonderful vid, def would need a second watch a bit later. would love to ponder about in the mean time :)

  • @michellegarcia6081
    @michellegarcia6081 Місяць тому

    this is so necessary you are so handsome and your intellect is greatly appreciated🪐🪐💗💗

  • @AlexLimon-h9j
    @AlexLimon-h9j Місяць тому

    amazing content. hoping to take this concepts and apply them in the real world

  • @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch
    @JanaSzIsBasicGlitch Місяць тому

    Acctually I think I am on the path... Because today was the day I discovered that some groups make narc behaviour from every little thing and that they should check themselves little bit on that, also, I know of it, but I no longer vibe with the environment of it, because it is too much from left and right and even if it is help at some point on other point it is kinda negative clutter

  • @5thgrdrz
    @5thgrdrz Місяць тому

    your videos have changed my life :)

  • @Cinematografun
    @Cinematografun Місяць тому +2

    38:55 The part about blood pressure really took me by surprise, are you telling me the most I talk about my ideal self the more lethargic I will feel? Please explain further that balance 😅

  • @AwestaKhalid
    @AwestaKhalid 11 днів тому

    This video came to me at such a perfect time