Fight Depression and Anxiety With Your Core Values 26/30 How to Process Emotions

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    Clarifying your core values is essential to fighting depression and anxiety.
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  • @hankcunnington2455
    @hankcunnington2455 2 роки тому +72

    The first thing I thought was "man I'm glad that 15 year old has such a good therapist"

  • @brittneygilchrist2744
    @brittneygilchrist2744 2 роки тому +172

    You’ve changed my whole world with me by doing what you do.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +12

      Thanks Brittney :)

    • @manishruhail4203
      @manishruhail4203 2 роки тому

      You are amazing 👏

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому +6

      @@manishruhail4203 Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @loidaremando635
      @loidaremando635 2 роки тому +1

      @@shyaaammeneen63thank you very much for sharing this, i hope this will help me more relaxed and avoid overthinking

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому +2

      @@loidaremando635 ​Do meditation without any expectations. Change will happen within you. Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even when I am walking alone, speaking on the mobile, when reading, before sleep etc and I am feeling healthier and relaxed. No deep breathing needed. Stillness reduces negative thoughts. Do the practice daily to develop your mental muscles during these challenging times.Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.

  • @Theandredamore
    @Theandredamore 2 роки тому +309

    Been watching and taking notes from your vides religiously and they have helped SO much. Thank you for taking the time to put out this content in a structured format. These are things I already learned in therapy, but they never “clicked” because I never had a “step by step” guide. Your content feels like said guide to me and it makes it easier to learn all the skills and branch out to do my own research.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +19

      awesome! Thanks Andre

    • @MANDS81
      @MANDS81 2 роки тому +22

      I agree ! been taking notes all the way, so many words stood out and makes sense. I have a session with my therapist tomorrow but , this has summed up everything I have been feeling and my reason for attending to begin with. Thank you Soo much for blessing me / us with these insightful , educating , healing words. Gods continued blessing upon your life.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +6

      Thanks Amanda

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому +4

      @@MANDS81 Try to reach a state of equanmity. Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @MANDS81
      @MANDS81 2 роки тому +3

      @@shyaaammeneen63 Hi Shyaaam, greatly appreciate your advice. I have so many times but not often as I should. Usually when I pray in the morning and evening are my most unwinding moments. The anxiety has shown in my physical health, gallbladder to be specific.
      God bless you for your thoughtfulness in Sharing. 💕

  • @hannahalcoba5990
    @hannahalcoba5990 2 роки тому +56

    A fellow therapist here, coming to learn how to better counsel my clients. Thank you for your rich depth and genuineness

  • @a.d.2719
    @a.d.2719 2 роки тому +92

    "There is so much more for you out there than the hedonistic pop psychology of coping skills and self-care." THANK YOU. Instant subscribe. I would love more videos about this topic.

  • @theChannel40
    @theChannel40 20 днів тому +1

    She literally is a Godsend man. If I ever see her in-person I would just cry and say thank you 😭❤️🙏

  • @Dbiss
    @Dbiss 2 роки тому +32

    I have been binge watching your UA-cam videos and just bought your "How to Process Your Emotions" course. I cannot thank you enough for making such valuable teachings available and accessible. This is exactly what I need to continue to grow in my life. You have a gift. Keep shining that light.

  • @wilsonfamily322
    @wilsonfamily322 2 роки тому +28

    I just found your videos! 58 yr old rebuilding my life from square one. Valuable info! Redirecting my focus to identifying my values. It’s sounds better to enjoy the journey instead of the daunting task of achieving my goals. Thanks.

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому +4

      Chevelle, Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @WhisperedDelightsASMR
    @WhisperedDelightsASMR Рік тому +11

    “Focus on the process, not the outcome.” 🙏🏽

    • @Mushroom321-
      @Mushroom321- 8 місяців тому

      Yes!!,& the practice mindset of what that means... 😮😮😊

  • @glenngibson9201
    @glenngibson9201 2 роки тому +28

    Emma you are providing such a wonderful service. Thank you for sharing your time, talent, experience and wisdom.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much!

    • @user-xy1sc5wq7w
      @user-xy1sc5wq7w 2 роки тому

      For every person suffering from depression, listen to the voice of the Noble Qur’anm.ua-cam.com/video/Z5zh5QCsjYY/v-deo.html

  • @CocaColeyy
    @CocaColeyy 2 роки тому +40

    This was soooo good that I have to watch it again. Very succinct yet deep. Thank you for this!

  • @Jacqueline_R
    @Jacqueline_R 2 роки тому +65

    This video makes so much sense! I'm 55 and have achieved a lot of my major goals, yet have experienced a major depression recently, and have suffered from anxiety for years. I may have lost track of what I really value, at least in part. I have recently told my therapist I don't even know what I value anymore, or hardly remember. I'm going to write that list of 10 values to help . Thx so much!!

    • @user-xy1sc5wq7w
      @user-xy1sc5wq7w 2 роки тому

      For every person suffering from depression, listen to the voice of the Noble Qur’anm.ua-cam.com/video/Z5zh5QCsjYY/v-deo.html😊

    • @carolynmcmickle9742
      @carolynmcmickle9742 2 роки тому +5

      I’m 64 and right there with you, Sister. Take good care.

    • @justinamusyoka4986
      @justinamusyoka4986 2 роки тому +3

      I'm 58 and value gardening and home keeping,cooking is an added value especially baking.
      I avoid toxic people.

  • @violaris3959
    @violaris3959 2 роки тому +18

    This video was kind of a milestone for my thinking. Values, integrity. So simple but I honestly never really thought about it. Now it makes sense to me why I feel like a little duckling in the wide ocean- absolutely terrified and helpless. I don't stick to my own promises! This was eye-opening. Thank you so much!

  • @darkstar-28
    @darkstar-28 2 роки тому +13

    I'm facing depression for 14 years, and most videos are kinda useful, but in the long run not really because they kept value what you did in the past etc... for a person like me who literally lost and never lived his youth, and i feel really bad and guilty about it because every friend i have just lived everything while i'm here at 25 years without having accomplished or lived anything (not for my fault, it wasn't my choice), this video is pretty inspiring and it's starting to point me towards a precise point for go out from this depression, after a long time. Thank you :')

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +14

      25 is still young. Start today. Even if you were 85. Start today. Values are about the present moment. the direction you're facing not where you are on the path. If you regret not being kind- be kind. If you regret not being adventurous- be adventurous. Start now to point yourself in the direction you want to go.

    • @darkstar-28
      @darkstar-28 2 роки тому +4

      @@TherapyinaNutshell i will! Thank you and have a good day :)

    • @stanleed.harold5457
      @stanleed.harold5457 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you so much

  • @sean4586
    @sean4586 2 роки тому +43

    Wow just found you! That was an amazing 15 minutes. It was very refreshing to have someone give advise but justify it from different angles. You have a new fan.
    Thank you

  • @justthisonestep1576
    @justthisonestep1576 2 роки тому +28

    When I made a list of my top ten values, I realized one of them includes all the others and is my core value. My top ten looks like this:
    Kindness
    LISTENING
    Relationships
    Learning
    Wellness
    Love
    Contentment
    Present
    Peace
    Health
    I put "Listening" in caps because I realized that one is at the core of all the others. Here's why:
    Listening means being kind with the other, valuing your relationship with them, giving expression to your love for them. It means being content with what is, it means being at peace with the present. For me to be able to really listen, I need to be well, I need to look after my health as much as I can. Truly listening always helps me learn about the other and about the world. Listening encompasses all my other values. It is my core value :)

    • @ThaMobstarr
      @ThaMobstarr 2 роки тому

      Awesome! Listening is definitely also one of my values. It's really interesting to see how you practise other values by listening to yourself and others. Sometimes though I feel like listening to myself isn't very beneficial, when I am in depressed mode lol.

    • @ThaMobstarr
      @ThaMobstarr 2 роки тому

      Oh one question. Where do I get this list of values that she mentioned?

    • @marjamerryflower
      @marjamerryflower Рік тому

      @@ThaMobstarr buy the course, if you can. it should be in there

    • @Maviiih
      @Maviiih 7 днів тому +1

      Since you mentioned health is another one of your values, LISTENING to your body may be at the connection between the two.
      Thank you for sharing your values. 🫶🏼

  • @1ArchiePluff
    @1ArchiePluff 2 роки тому +17

    Wow! Just wow. Never thought like this before, values over goals. Superb!

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  • @nikitaa7
    @nikitaa7 2 роки тому +8

    You are talking directly to millions of people , thank you so much for making these videos 🙇

  • @rode2888
    @rode2888 2 роки тому +6

    Thank you so much🙏
    This is the reason I am in such a tough depression right now, I totally dropped my core values a couple of years ago and everything has just been like a confusing life in fight flight. Thank you so much för this and everything else that you are sharing to help people heal🌼
    Rode from Sweden

  • @hannaa3854
    @hannaa3854 Рік тому +3

    I watched your “how to process your emotions series” all the way through twice. Your advice has helped me so much in my life. I feel more at peace with myself now that I know how to manage intrusive thoughts that don’t serve me. It’s helped me realize my full potential & I’m a lot more productive now. Thank you so much for what you do. It is greatly appreciated. ❤️

  • @d.dimitrov8972
    @d.dimitrov8972 2 роки тому +1

    I am so grateful for people like you! Therapists need more recognition!

  • @krishnakanukollu7695
    @krishnakanukollu7695 2 роки тому +2

    Ms. Emma, you are an angel to me. A God sent person.

  • @mern212
    @mern212 2 роки тому

    Your example of values and goals is perhaps the best I’ve ever heard

  • @77dris
    @77dris 2 роки тому +1

    These videos are like a warm hug for my soul.

  • @theguywhoknowsall22
    @theguywhoknowsall22 2 роки тому +3

    Amazing, you described in 15 min what took me 5-10 years to figure out (essentially my 20s were a struggle with this). Living in accordance with my values took being vulnerable as you stated, but I started to feel better the more I was able to. Thanks for this video!

  • @Maviiih
    @Maviiih 7 днів тому

    So much wisdom!!!

  • @noura4522
    @noura4522 2 роки тому +2

    That’s actually blow my mind, thank you for doing this. 💗

  • @rdm3805
    @rdm3805 2 роки тому +3

    It's as if you're talking directly to me. Thanks a lot. You're amazing.
    Thank you. 🙏🏻

  • @DaisyAruba
    @DaisyAruba 2 роки тому +7

    Literally what I did since her age. I wasn’t being the person I am inside, and it ate away at me. I am still repairing the damage.

    • @freshliving4199
      @freshliving4199 2 роки тому +2

      How are you repairing the damage?…and how long will it take you?

    • @DaisyAruba
      @DaisyAruba 2 роки тому +1

      I wish I knew. I’m repairing it through exercising my body. Eating healthier, more whole real foods. Spending time getting to know or “unknow” myself. Mourning my past and future. Not dating until I’m mentally capable. Bonding with my dog, longer walks, mental training games. Therapy. Some days I just lay in bed still. Like this week. After the 2nd shot of moderna hit me like a train. No idea how long it will take. I think I’m I will be recovering, relearning, and rediscovering who I was, who I am, and who I want to be for the rest of my life.

    • @DaisyAruba
      @DaisyAruba 2 роки тому

      *also taking my “hobbies” aka my deepest desires seriously this time around. I also have a super tiny circle of people I talk with.

    • @DaisyAruba
      @DaisyAruba 2 роки тому

      And meditation 🧘🏼‍♀️ journaling again 💗

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому +1

      @@DaisyAruba Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @Risa-fq7lr
    @Risa-fq7lr Рік тому +3

    Well this makes a lot of sense! As a person who suffers from social anxiety sometimes i thought choosing happiness as a goal for myself can help me out ! But it literally made it worse because each time i feel anxious , i think that i am getting far from my goal but instead now , right here, i choose calmness , being kind to myself , connection and mental health as my values 💗

  • @kelseybertels1054
    @kelseybertels1054 2 роки тому +2

    Will never be able to put into words how thankful I am for you and your courses! Thanks to your lessons and videos, I've never felt so hopeful and *in charge* of myself and that is so incredibly freeing and something I've never felt in my 30 years on Earth. Thank you, thank you, thank YOU for everything you do.

  • @krishnakanukollu7695
    @krishnakanukollu7695 2 роки тому +1

    Everytime i face a problem, you come up with a new video. And the problem gets solved.

  • @JDLandscapePainter
    @JDLandscapePainter 2 роки тому

    Best therapy videos on UA-cam. Thank you so much for all your effort to give this freely.

  • @sharonfisher3179
    @sharonfisher3179 2 роки тому +14

    I absolutely love that you clarified values are NOT based on religion.

    • @sharonfisher3179
      @sharonfisher3179 2 роки тому

      I tell everyone I know about this channel 😉

  • @mariapantelidou7924
    @mariapantelidou7924 2 роки тому +1

    You are a great influencer to me and the examples you use about others make more understandable the directions you give. Thank you.

  • @paulet990
    @paulet990 2 роки тому +1

    You're the best. Simple explanations, actionable plans.

  • @meaghenstandlee6644
    @meaghenstandlee6644 Рік тому +1

    I'm 33 Rebuilding my life starting with emotions thank you for your videos I listen while zoning at Walmart I feel less alone and more control over my future 🙏😊 💜

  • @taylorharvey4684
    @taylorharvey4684 Рік тому

    You have no idea the way your videos help me. Thank the Lord. Thank you so much.

  • @shanti888
    @shanti888 2 роки тому +2

    Excellently explained. Thank you. So true how dissonance between values and actions is a profound reason for not feeling good about oneself. One feels like a fake! Shakespeare said : “ This above all : To thine own self be true”. That’s the very foundation of integrity.

  • @tribalmuseum6490
    @tribalmuseum6490 2 роки тому +2

    Wish I would have had this kind of therapy when I was a teen. They just threw me on meds and I never learned coping skills.. just drugs.

  • @melindafulop7554
    @melindafulop7554 2 роки тому

    A healthy approach to our mental attributes and processes. That's what I experience every time I watch one of your videos. Thank you for the reminder.

  • @jurbua
    @jurbua 2 роки тому

    The best therapy channel hands down

  • @paradisemusiclibrary1756
    @paradisemusiclibrary1756 2 роки тому +8

    One of the ways to feel positive energy is to take your attention away from the negative and focus on everything that transmits positivity to you. Have a beautiful day! 💜💜💜

  • @amandaxicara
    @amandaxicara 2 роки тому +20

    I turned UA-cam notifications back on just to get notified when the next of your videos come up. I have to say this was one of the best ones. Absolutely spoke to me.
    God bless you and your family. Be sure the work you’re putting out here is helping a lot of people ❤️🙏🏻

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  • @juliecrockett6394
    @juliecrockett6394 2 роки тому

    Thank you! Thank you! I have become a fan. I just shared this with my adult children. You are a blessing!

  • @TheJimmiD
    @TheJimmiD 2 роки тому +12

    This topic seemed relevant for helping process long term emotional obsessions and sure was - dropped a few light-bulb moments and tied into what other people have been saying. THANKS EMMA !

  • @Timblisi
    @Timblisi 2 роки тому +4

    I think this is one of the best videos in the subject area of psychological, emotional, and spiritual health, that I've ever seen. Possibly the very best. Thank you.

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +2

      :) thanks, I'm pleasantly surprised that it's getting such a good reaction

  • @victoriadescalso6580
    @victoriadescalso6580 2 роки тому

    You have such a gift for presenting your knowledge in a personable manner. 🍃❤️🍃

  • @toastrecon
    @toastrecon 2 роки тому +1

    Your videos are a UA-cam treasure! Thank you!

  • @angelbaby78
    @angelbaby78 11 місяців тому

    You are simply amazing.. God bless you 🙏🏻

  • @rubin-healmysocialanxiety702
    @rubin-healmysocialanxiety702 2 роки тому +4

    Great video, I really love the quote that self-esteem comes from integrity. It's such a misunderstood but crucial nature to understand about self-esteem! 🔥

  • @YathieshHS
    @YathieshHS 2 роки тому +2

    Every single example and explanation is so valuable , Thank you so much for sharing this with the world

  • @leahstohr1469
    @leahstohr1469 Рік тому

    Thank you so much Emma! I've learned more through your videos than in my last years of therapy. The work you're doing is amazing!

  • @claudettesechler149
    @claudettesechler149 2 роки тому +2

    So valuable! You are always right on the money! Thank you

  • @cassandranc123
    @cassandranc123 Рік тому

    That last line is powerful! Coping skills and self care are not enough

  • @anitawinglee
    @anitawinglee Рік тому

    This video was so profound. Ive been going through this whole series and Emma I thank you so much for creating this!

  • @garylenny1757
    @garylenny1757 2 роки тому

    I'm so grateful for your advice on many of the matters people suffer with. You explain solutions in a very digestible way, so it's easy to understand. I always look forward to your content. Thankyou 🙏🏻

  • @phillipsantana2633
    @phillipsantana2633 10 місяців тому

    Not a bad one in the bunch and I've gone thru many of Emma's videos. The tone she sets and the overall message is priceless. Please continue in your counciling as we very much need it.

  • @Legacycreekretreat
    @Legacycreekretreat Рік тому +2

    I love this! Thank you!

  • @briannagallorini5535
    @briannagallorini5535 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for doing these. Much love💜

  • @elaynelinn9519
    @elaynelinn9519 Рік тому

    Your channel is so helpful, I watch every day. Thank you!

  • @athenaheart
    @athenaheart 2 роки тому +1

    Love this video...Thank you Dr Emma 🙂

  • @johannes3174
    @johannes3174 Рік тому

    You brought me through heavy weeks. I want to say thank you very much.

  • @indigoziona
    @indigoziona 2 роки тому +2

    I keep thinking about this video... It's a grower :) The idea that our values should be our focus rather than our fears and base instincts, but also rather than our goals, is a really helpful one.
    I made a long list of all the things that I feel make life worthwhile... I have also thought about attributes I'd like to cultivate and the actions I can take that express those more fully (at the moment, I'm just trying to do a few things that scare me). Taking note of those things has made it easier to both plan my time and appreciate the good things as they come to me.
    I think it's so easy to either be trapped in a reactive way of thinking - scared, angry, stressed, trying to bottle everything up and just survive - or else focusing on THE GOAL and ignoring all the nice things on the way. But we only get one shot at our own life, and living for our values is the way to be true to ourselves even when things aren't going our way.
    I'm pursuing a career goal at the moment and at times I get frightened about the risk that it entails. But thinking about my values really helps. I value being brave. I value the career I am pursuing. I value giving my dreams a shot even if I know that there are sometimes things that get in the way. I value the sense of adventure that I feel when thinking about this uncertain future ahead of me. It doesn't feel entirely safe but right now, I have other, more important values than just being safe.

  • @JRaymer315
    @JRaymer315 6 місяців тому

    This is awesome! You & your videos have literally changed my life for the better! Thank you so much

  • @paromitadesarkar1677
    @paromitadesarkar1677 2 роки тому +6

    Oh god..just when i needed to hear your voice Dr. Mcadam. You are godsend. Be well,take care. Many need you ,like i do. ❤️

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому +1

      Paromita, Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

    • @paromitadesarkar1677
      @paromitadesarkar1677 2 роки тому

      @@shyaaammeneen63 thank you for your concern and kindness towards me. 🙏 Take care.

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому +2

      @@paromitadesarkar1677 ​Since many years I have made it a habit to observe my breath sensations even when I am walking alone, on the phone, reading, before sleep etc and feeling healthier and relaxed. No deep breathing needed but a strong desire to transform from within is needed. Stillness reduces negative thoughts. Avoid constipation as poor gut health instantly affects mental health. Develop your mental muscles in these tough times. Best wishes. Shyaaam Sir-Counsellor.

    • @paromitadesarkar1677
      @paromitadesarkar1677 2 роки тому

      @@shyaaammeneen63 oh Sir, you are right! I have been experiencing gut health issues since the time i started having anxiety. It has been roughly 6 years . The intial years were hellish..i read a lot of books , then since last year i have been better at handling the palpitations that would happen for no reason. I used panic more initially. Dr mcadam's videos have surely pushed the therapeutic process further. Your words are so comforting. Thank you so much. You would not believe how rightly timed your reply was. 🙏

  • @veroniquebeaunoyer306
    @veroniquebeaunoyer306 Рік тому

    Bonjour! Thank you from Québec, Canada! 🙏💜✨

  • @dariuszsobecki
    @dariuszsobecki Рік тому

    This is amazing content. I listen to it, questions pop up, and it's like telepathy as you answer them exactly seconds later and it keeps going like that. This is a very refreshsing view how to look at values and work with them. Thanks for your time. Keep going 🙂

  • @mysticalforesttherapies-au9826
    @mysticalforesttherapies-au9826 2 роки тому +1

    I love watching your videos, they're always so helpful! 💗

  • @rjs2595
    @rjs2595 4 місяці тому

    Pure Gold!

  • @youngdeku6634
    @youngdeku6634 2 роки тому

    Thank you for all of your hard work and helpful content. I really appreciate it.

  • @sophiejohnson4907
    @sophiejohnson4907 3 місяці тому

    This cleared up the confusion I was facing, thank you so much for your help ❤ God bless you!

  • @Snow_Dancer
    @Snow_Dancer 2 роки тому

    You are one of the best psychologists I have ever come across! And the fact that you provide all this helpful information free online is amazing. I love you and have been watching your videos for over a year now. I wish I could find someone like you in my area but no such luck. I am 56 years old and struggle a lot with mental health issues. I just can’t find the right psychologist to feel comfortable with and seem to help me. It’s frustrating to say the least. But I always look forward to your videos as they do help me a lot. You are a wonderful human being. ❤️

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому

      That response was not the real me, someone has faked my account. But hi! keep working, there's always room for growth

  • @nishalashay4402
    @nishalashay4402 Рік тому

    This has helped so much 🦋 I stand by my core values 🦋

  • @a.garcia7127
    @a.garcia7127 2 роки тому

    Emma I would like to thank you for educating us about mental health. Your information is priceless. It helped me immediately. Greetings from New York City.

  • @arjunmrao4039
    @arjunmrao4039 2 роки тому +1

    This Video about VALUES is VALUABLE.. Too Good, pain avoidance is wrong and to overcome anxiety & pain what you are basically prescribing here is a sort of ERP .. Lead a life of values and good things will SURELY come to you is what you are prescribing here, thank you.. Wonderful Video .. .. I started watching your videos since April2020.. Now Thanks to you, I am in a totally different league .. .. I can write more here but want to keep it short & concise .. How to imbibe good values, THAT IS a very complicated lengthy issue

  • @user-kp6ss8sx8m
    @user-kp6ss8sx8m 2 роки тому

    Thank you for your videos. You are helping me so much!!! I send you a big hug from Chile.

  • @KazeAkihito
    @KazeAkihito 2 роки тому

    Thank you for bringing me back on my feet

  • @paulackerman9597
    @paulackerman9597 2 роки тому +1

    Love it. Thank you!

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 2 роки тому

    It is very important to know what your values are and LIVE ACCORDINGLY. It gives us so much strength and resilience in face of adversity. I is amazing what benefits true integrity of character can bring.Thank you for your help and support.

  • @user-yq4on9xg4n
    @user-yq4on9xg4n Рік тому

    You change our life Thank you for that 🙏 ❤

  • @willmurphy6663
    @willmurphy6663 7 місяців тому

    Thanks, I have really learned something, a goal driven life, versus a value driven life.... integrity, congruence, authentic self

  • @ssutherland9019
    @ssutherland9019 Рік тому

    This was such a helpful video. Been making notes all the way through both for myself and others. Thanks so much for these free bite size resources.

  • @jmarrero3nmnm
    @jmarrero3nmnm 2 роки тому +1

    Love this!!!❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @bonniew9960
    @bonniew9960 2 роки тому +1

    This one is life changing, especially if one of your top 10 is living a life of integrity

  • @BRoseCK
    @BRoseCK 9 місяців тому

    So powerful, thank you.

  • @judymarkel8029
    @judymarkel8029 2 роки тому

    In some of your other videos you talked about values. I kind of know about values but I wanted more. This video clarified it for me. Thank you

  • @sarah-louisehurst8908
    @sarah-louisehurst8908 2 роки тому

    This was a brilliant video. Ive been using Act with clients for years but how you explain values is superb. Loved it. Thank you

  • @kaylin8437
    @kaylin8437 2 роки тому

    Thank you . This is deep, helpful and meaningful !

  • @rebeccabower506
    @rebeccabower506 Рік тому

    I just happened across your videos and so pleased that I did. This one about values is such a powerful message!

  • @MikeAnn193
    @MikeAnn193 2 роки тому +4

    Hi Emma. I'm an atheist and secular humanist who watches and enjoys your videos. You've given me a number of good tips and I often find myself jotting something down on the pad I keep near my TV when I watch you. I just wanted to express my appreciation for you _not_ relying on religion or faith in your therapy. I get that it's important and beneficial to _you,_ and I occasionally hear you make a brief reference to it, but if it were a substantial part of your videos they wouldn't be for me.
    I consider myself an _agnostic_ atheist, by the way. That is, I have no belief in any gods (of the hundreds if not thousands humans have imagined), but I don't claim to _know_ that none exist. As with most things in life I'm skeptical yet open-minded. (I wish many more people were both, as I believe the world would be more harmonious.) As a staunch science supporter I respect that you seem evidence-based in your therapy, and I appreciate the articulate, easily-digestible way you present the information. 🙂

    • @Dbiss
      @Dbiss 2 роки тому +1

      Yes! What they said!! :)

  • @magnoliamike
    @magnoliamike 4 місяці тому

    Thank you I needed this, years of drug abuse really hurt my inner self

  • @athenaheart
    @athenaheart 2 роки тому

    Thank you Dr Emma ♥️

  • @sossa1989
    @sossa1989 2 роки тому

    This is gold!

  • @nehalinga
    @nehalinga 2 роки тому

    This was so relevant! As always, beautifully conveyed :)

  • @alvinagisborne3747
    @alvinagisborne3747 2 роки тому +9

    Thank you. You explained to me how to enjoy the journey called life
    You expanded on the meaning of that small phrase
    I am taking a long time doing it but enjoying a course about the science of happiness
    It is called the science of well-being
    Again back to our values and our we inline with them
    Thank you. May you be blessed for all the hard work you do!!!
    You and the professor are on the same page

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +3

      Thanks Alvina! I'd love to hear more about what you're learning

    • @alvinagisborne3747
      @alvinagisborne3747 2 роки тому +2

      @@TherapyinaNutshell hi. It is me Alvina
      I take this course from Coursera
      The course is The science of Well-being
      Professor Laurie Santos
      Happiness can be learned
      But Bias get in the way
      Misconceptions. Knowing is not enough
      Skills on how to be grateful but also savour the moments. Way more tools there
      Why are expectations can trip us up
      Understanding your annoying feature s of your mind
      Intuition can also trip you up
      How to overcome our Bias
      Than the good stuff what makes you happy
      Start talking about your values
      Actually Penn state has a quiz to see what your signature strengths are
      Found out my top 5
      Now just doing week 6
      Strategies for Better habits
      Love the course. Just life getting in the wa
      The course is 10 weeks long
      Take care
      They also did a course on Resilientcy
      From another university
      Fascinating

    • @TherapyinaNutshell
      @TherapyinaNutshell  2 роки тому +1

      very cool, thanks for sharing :)

    • @shyaaammeneen63
      @shyaaammeneen63 2 роки тому

      @@alvinagisborne3747 Reduce negative thoughts to have a healthier life with a simple practice. Your breath is directly related to your mind [brain] causing negative thoughts-anxiety. For a relaxed life sit on a chair, back erect, eyes closed, be as still as possible and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for around 5-10-15 minutes or more. Don’t fight with your thoughts. Slowly the mind will relax. No deep inhalation-exhalation needed. Anytime of the day or night before sleep sit or lie down on your back and observe your breath. Stillness brings internal peace. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a good life. Best wishes Shyaaam Sir. -Counsellor.

  • @kaylamorgan4855
    @kaylamorgan4855 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for this video. I just did the exercise where I picked my 10 (okay, maybe 13... with 6 big secondary options) most important core values. I discovered that optimism/encouragement may be the value I have most trouble living up to. I'm good at some of my other values like responsibility, dependability, and security. But some of my tendencies and thought patterns that make me good at those things can also make me seem like a Debbie Downer. I beat myself up a lot when I act too realistic (read: negative) while I should be having fun with my friends and family. So, if I feel so badly about that, then maybe it means encouragement is a core value that I truly want to convey but struggle to do so. I'll have to think more about working on that.

  • @lindahebb4832
    @lindahebb4832 Рік тому

    Thank you for posting

  • @sonjawick_
    @sonjawick_ 2 роки тому

    This was such an amazing episode! thanks a lot :)

  • @naomichisholm7709
    @naomichisholm7709 2 роки тому +2

    That’s great I really enjoyed this ,live the way that you want to !