The Difference Between Gaslighting and Lying?

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  • Опубліковано 15 гру 2022
  • Gaslighting is a term used to describe the psychological and emotional manipulation of someone's sense of reality. But what is the difference between gaslighting and just lying? Not always easy to spot as gaslighting often involves lying.
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  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Рік тому +21

    Thank you for a great description of the differences between lying and gaslighting. Spot on.

  • @private755
    @private755 Рік тому +19

    An example my ex lied when he said he wasn’t having an affair with a nearby barista.
    When I saw both their behavior with my own eyes and he saw my reaction, he then *gaslit* me into thinking I am just a jealous insane naive projector who has trust issues and belongs in a mental institution because I am just so unable to understand how humans think and behave.. so that he could proceed with the obvious affair.
    So much more insidious than simple lies and way too common a buzzword used online.

    • @johnrauner2515
      @johnrauner2515 Рік тому

      And you were attracted to this sort of person because?

    • @private755
      @private755 Рік тому +4

      @@johnrauner2515 thanks for demonstrating a perfect example of what victim blaming sounds like

  • @gredalynn
    @gredalynn Рік тому +5

    This is a question I ask myself all the time! Thanks for the video!

  • @lovelyweather8794
    @lovelyweather8794 Рік тому +4

    This is eye opening.
    Wish I had known the difference earlier, I would have been able to protect myself. Anyways, better late than never. But knowing the difference would have saved me from many a heartache and financial loss caused by (now I realize ) gaslighting by people I thought loved and cared for me.
    Thank you for putting up this video and explaining the difference between lies and gaslighting.

  • @susancosgrove5010
    @susancosgrove5010 Рік тому +3

    Thank you for the clarity, and I laughed when you said 'the liar has to remember what version of what they told to who!' 🤣🤣 Always enjoy your channel 👍

  • @dawnhewitt1
    @dawnhewitt1 11 місяців тому

    Great video, thank you. Interestingly, when I confront the person who is always trying to gaslight and sabotage me, when she realizes she's been caught out in her response is always a lame regular lie, like "oh well, I don't remember that".

  • @TC-gx3qn
    @TC-gx3qn Рік тому +3

    This was so excellent, Darren! You perfectly captured the subtle difference. It's all about the motivation behind the lying. Have a wonderful weekend.

  • @johnrauner2515
    @johnrauner2515 Рік тому +2

    Landmark Education. I think they call themselves Landmark Worldwide now.

  • @izawaniek2568
    @izawaniek2568 Рік тому +1

    If you tell the truth, you do not have to remember anything. Thank you Darren.

  • @user-fk8rb8ue5h
    @user-fk8rb8ue5h Рік тому +1

    I found the worst part of the Gaslighter was when I gave her solid evidence that she had been gaslighting me. She just turned round and said "laughable". That is the kind of person that you are dealing with. Once you know the score, make as much distance, as you can between you, and that person.

  • @dodgerstone
    @dodgerstone Рік тому +4

    Thanks, Darren. 👍
    That Helped Loads...
    Can You Please Explain
    What Narcissistic Amnesia is?

    • @DarrenFMagee
      @DarrenFMagee  Рік тому +4

      I made a video on toxic amnesia if you’d find that helpful?

  • @hydvhjjvdthhc7861
    @hydvhjjvdthhc7861 Рік тому +1

    When you spotted a narcissist you know right away when he or she tries to start gas lightening. Don’t trust even a word they say. Don’t let them make you doubting yourself.

  • @thecustodian1023
    @thecustodian1023 Рік тому +1

    I have a pair of narcissists in my life and it's wild how when one lies the other one will go right along with whatever wild made-up on-the-spot nonsense the first one said. The sad part is the lies they make up and run wih are completely pointless and serve no purpose whatsoever.
    They will say X, then proclaim that it was me who said it and not them, then jump to claiming that it is a bald-faced lie I told and I need to be punished for it, (By them of course) even while knowing they are being recorded on body cam or cell phone or security cameras doing the whole routine start to finish.

  • @danieljohnson2349
    @danieljohnson2349 Рік тому +2

    The truth is like kryptonite a narcissist .

  • @pinkpaisley4520
    @pinkpaisley4520 Рік тому +2

    Thanks Darren, spot on again 👍🏻.
    I just wish I had found your channel BEFORE my daughter was put under her Ex narcissist spell. I would have been able to help her and not let things get so out of control!
    Again, your examples are concise and help people to easily understand the differences.
    Keep up the amazing work 👍🏻👍🏻 , oh and Merry Christmas 🎅🏼

  • @thorn-rc9lz
    @thorn-rc9lz Рік тому +4

    Darren, I love the Star Wars collectibles in your cabinet back there! is that Tardis art I see?

    • @DarrenFMagee
      @DarrenFMagee  Рік тому +4

      It is indeed 👍

    • @buddyneher9359
      @buddyneher9359 Рік тому +4

      @@DarrenFMagee haha you've got the trifecta: original Star Trek Enterprise, Star Wars and Doctor Who 😄 I see you're dedicated to inclusivity! 💥🚀🛸

  • @sarahkemp1454
    @sarahkemp1454 Рік тому +6

    Great video, Darren always looks like he's just stepped out of the shower??

  • @carinbruin8362
    @carinbruin8362 Рік тому +3

    Thank you.

  • @nereidmarie
    @nereidmarie Рік тому

    I truly appreciate that you provide knowledge on this platform while also being a practicing professional. You’re not just sitting on high like some other UA-camrs talking about mental health without qualifications. I’ve learned my lesson and will stick to listening to the professionals who are working hard in the midst of it. Thank you!

  • @barneyw9529
    @barneyw9529 Рік тому

    Thank you for this, really helped me to understand

  • @skathwoelya2935
    @skathwoelya2935 Рік тому +1

    This is very useful to know.

  • @symbolsandsystems
    @symbolsandsystems Рік тому +3

    Gaslighting = Sophism ?

  • @thrivingnow7395
    @thrivingnow7395 Рік тому

    The ex narc arrived with a dog that I was terribly allergic to. He tried for two years to wear me down by saying I had agreed to have the dog. It was exhausting and I was constantly ill. Even after the dog was eventually rehomed, he would randomly still try to gaslight me about it. I didn't realise about narcissism at the time. I did question myself because he was so convincing, but I always said it isn't true because dogs make me very ill. He would never let go. I think it was like a test of if he had managed to break me fully yet.

  • @danieljohnson2349
    @danieljohnson2349 Рік тому

    DFM 👍

  • @lordfreerealestate8302
    @lordfreerealestate8302 5 місяців тому

    The misuse and misunderstanding of "gaslight" is very damaging to actual victims. The word has become so diluted. Gaslighting is WAY more damaging that just lying.

  • @terrid.9204
    @terrid.9204 Рік тому

    Watch the movie Gaslight with Charles Boyer and Ingrid Bergman if you want to see a blow by blow example of what gas lighting is and how it is done. It will curl your hair.

  • @realnaveen
    @realnaveen Рік тому

    The downside of depending on outer lies is not being able to trust inner voice for navigation of truth. That's why there is misery in feeling lost.
    Real is effortless and natural!Muscle test (David Hawkins) exposes hidden weaknesses such as lies. Just saying.