Genuine Love is unconditional unfortunately many people don't understand love and when they put their "love" into practice it does more harm than good. People claim to love others for many reasons whether it be financial or for control over the other person. Some parents are perfect examples as they only "love" their kids if they do certain things they like. This could alter the view of others as the "love" they experience whether in childhood or romantically wasn't genuine. Don't let others cloud your judgment. Love others unconditionally without expecting anything and you will find genuine love!
Loving someone as a person and loving someone as a lover are two different things. The Greeks use two different words to describe this, "αγάπη" when it comes to loving others as people and "έρωτας " when it comes to loving someone as a lover. I think that this video appeals to the term "αγάπη" and I truly believe that we can love everyone as a human, despite our differences. But when it comes to loving someone as a lover, I do believe that it is impossible to feel like that for everyone.
The Japanese also have two different words for love, daisuke and aiishiteru. Daisuke is used from parental relationships to sibling relationships to even bf/gf relationships. Aiishiteru is only used by married couples in private
Love is understanding. It's paying attention and caring about the other person. We don't need to over complicate it. We can only be saved when we love the other as much as ourselves. Great video.
Expand this love. This is human love and is not to be disregarded. But there's a deeper love, a love we all have and the worst thing that can happen is losing it. And the best thing is fully experiencing it. It's the love for life and everything in it. You are life. The deepest love is the one you have for yourself.
1. I have a guitar student who comes for a lesson every Thursday evening and he always comes drunk. It is really heart breaking. He is an elder gentleman and he is always very kind and if it wasn't for the smell of alcohol, you wouldn't notice anything. To be honest I was hoping that he quits the lessons at some point, but he doesn't. If you never had trouble with alcohol, you don't understand these people. You even have a certain arrogance, thinking that it is just their "weakness" and lack of will power". But because of this student, I had to think a lot more on the issue. I have read some stuff, heard some podcasts and watched documentaries etc. Especially the documentary " Drinking to Oblivion" by Louis Theroux touched me deeply. You will never look at an alcoholic person the same way after watching it. There was a woman in that documentary who had some very heavy issues with her mother in her childhood. Then the mother left. It seemed to me that poor girl was lost since then. She explained the kind of anxiety she felt everyday when she woke up, which led her to start drinking as the first think in the morning.That was the only thing that calmed her down and gave her consolation. She started drinking when she was 13. I thought what she described was exactly the same anxiety that I feel everyday when I wake up, that leads me to start reading a book or making music as the first thing in the morning .. So indeed I could perfectly BE that woman if I hadn't found the "consolation" elsewhere as a child for the first time, by pure coincidence!!! So if we are more less mentally sane, so much of it is just luck... If we had enough time, curiosity and clarity of mind to look way back into everyone's personal history, we would find it much harder to judge them or dislike them. We would certainly end up loving them. Because we would know that they most probably didn't receive enough affection, had gone through a lot of humiliation and didn't have a single person around to show them where to find consolation. 2. One of my heroes Bryan Stevenson has an excellent speech on youtube called " Boldly Going". He is an Afro- American lawyer who saved 125 people from death penalty! The speech is about how to change the world!! And there he gives us the example of an awful guy, a really disgusting, racist, arrogant, appalling person, who happens to be a prison guard. He humiliates Mr. Stevenson every time he goes there to see his client. You will see what happens then. It is hard to believe but even that guy has a lovable side... 3. I highly recommend everyone the movie " Angst Essen Seele Auf" ( Ali: Fear Eats The Soul ). It is Fassbinder's masterpiece! One very sad but very beautiful love story, that once again proves that you could indeed love anybody if you are compassionate and brave enough. Thanks a lot for this wonderful lesson and the excellent animation. After watching for a second, I already knew it was made by Peter:-) Congratulations once again!
Hello Chris! Thank you so much:-) I am very glad that you want to watch that video. Bryan Stevenson is really a treasure. His TED talk called " We need to talk about injustice" got the longest standing ovations in TED's history! I have also read his book "Just Mercy" after that. It is one of those books that really changes you. I mean after you finish it you are not the same person anymore. So, I thank you once again and wish you a very happy 2017:-)
@@adambarber1090 Declaring your atheism can be a possible strategy when encountered by someone who's foisting their religious beliefs on you. It can come in handy when fending off those who are so insecure that they want you to believe what they believe. Some, however, are so hell-bent (see what I did there?) that nothing works.
remember kids you don't have to love abusive people, either physically, emotionally, financially abusive, douchebags and or cluster Bs . Love yourself, protect yourself
+Rachel Wood Well many people are abusive because of events in their childhood. If you trace back to that you can still find a way to empathize with that person and still love them BUT just because you love someone does NOT mean you MUST be in a relationship with that person. You have to leave an abusive relationship, not only ll just leave but get that sob in jail. But once again you don't have to be in a relationship to Love, Love the person like a troubled sister or brother in need of help (because they do need help), not as a spouse. Or of course, you can just say fuck them and completely move on, the choice is entirely yours.
love is not about supporting someone but helping them/forgiving them. yes, someone has abused you, yes you may disgust/ hate that person for the rest of your life.but rather than holding onto that weight, maybe do smthng that will eradicate any further chance of that person's abuse. like realizing maybe he got abused too in childhood and so put them in therapy. or even give them proper punishment ( jail) so that they dnt further their chance to become even more of a bad person. yes, from common eye sending someone to jail is not Love, but helping them to never get in the wrong path again or giving them the chance to repent is a different kind of love. maybe not directly to them, maybe to your ownself/ society. :)
It’s 3 years after this video is posted and I have nothing to add. Just want to say thank you for the uplifting content. This is not the first time I’ve felt downtrodden by a harsh and unyielding day, browsing through a sea of familiar auto-suggested memes, trivialities, and thinly disguised commercials, only to stumble upon a School of Life video... and upon watching I am reminded of so much - the beauty of life, the importance of understanding, the immense power of love - by a kind-hearted video bobbing amidst the chaos. The imagery of a light shining through the darkness comes to mind. I am so glad that you share that light with us! Much love
leila es Other people can sense the beliefs we hold by the non verbal and verbal communication. If you believe noone will ever xyz, then you could be rejecting that possibilty. Try being open to the idea, and sometimes what you want might happen
This video is a prime example of the good religion can do. Even if you don't believe in any particular religion, it doesn't mean there is nothing to gain from the teachings they have. If you don't consider Jesus to be the son of God, there's no reason why you couldn't consider him to be equivalent to Socrates or any other thinker.
Lego Insomniac that's true. i'm an athiest, but when i hear stories from the bible, i see them as just things that i can pick morals from and learn from just as any other book.
I agree with you! Despite your beliefs or religion Jesus was still one of the most profoundly influential and important thinkers/philosophers! Atheist educators and teachers will steer clear of him for the stupid reason of being seen as "religious". There is nothing wrong with being religious. Everyone is religious.
That's all fine and good, but sometimes people can go a bit overboard and become doormats for some very shitty people. How do you balance between being accepting, charitable, while still holding others accountable for mistreatment and not becoming an enabler for shitty behavior?
well there was that time Jesus chased the shop keepers out of the temple with a chord of rope. I guess we should be loving but strong willed in what we think is right or how people should be treated? Life is complicated i guess...
Great message. I was starting to forget how important it is to always go beyond immediate appearances in favor of discovering a person's real identity.
Soshi Nine I can say things too, look: death is the result of someone dying from death. Wow incredible right? And even better if I explain myself more deeply. The fourth reasons for death is cancer.
Tuko Pomwene "They are understanding the hurt the others are having," Empathy def. the ability to understand and share the feelings of others. Compassion def. sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others. Empathy is the one that deals with understanding. It doesn't require as strong a feeling as love to accomplish something like empathy though. It is simply, putting yourself in someone else's shoes. Something that does not require you to love the other person in any way.
Alex Li "there is no love without empathy" This I can agree on. Suggesting that simply being empathetic towards someone means you love them is a stretch. Love is a far more stronger feeling than empathy is. Empathy is a step towards love, but it most certainly doesn't equal love.
Alex Li no, you're gonna end up making the devices for profit not empathy, love is the primary motivator for empathy, I will not try to understand someone I do not care about, I for one am currently an aspiring doctor and I can tell you you cannot be a good doctor if you do not genuinely care about people, my love for people drives me to try to understand them and help them.
In Buddhism, we have a concept called "Metta." To me, this has the same essence with Christianity's "love" as it refers to wishing others goodness and happiness. The virtue goes further by encompassing all living things, not just humans. Interestingly, there are similarities in every religions if you search for it. :)
Dear creator(s) of this video, Thank you so much, your channel is on of very few that are beautifully pure, focusing on bettering people and opening their eyes to the world. I wish you the best in the growth of your channel, life, and everything else. (I just want to make a little change in the world and say, I'm Muslim; and I love/respect everyone)
What I love about The School of Life videos, is that all of them always encourage us to be empathic, to try to be in the other person's shoes... because isn't that what we all need after all? Much love to everyone!
One thing that can make you like/ love a person is vulnerability. It really is. Seeing how they think, their emotions, what's hard, what's easy. I've always said that you can like anyone if you get to know them well enough. I guess everyone is loveable in their own way, and there are just people out there who can better and are quicker to appreciate those qualities.
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Can't really take every video as truth. Just thoughts and ideas to explore. It's nice to see the comment section on these videos showing exactly what this video in particular speaks of, which is the many, many different sides of humanity.
I'm so glad I've finally found someone else, especially someone so public, who understands this. There's so much hate, bigotry, and above all tribalism in the world, all fundamentally because the natural tendency of the human mind is the dichotomization of the good from the bad. I sorely wish this was understood more widely...
Imagining what someone's childhood was like is an excellent move. Works for me, as it allows for a closer understanding of them. Great video #spreadlove
For the last months I've been thinking about what this video says: you can find nice things on every person. It's just a matter of time to see what's good. And so, everytime i see someone do something arrogant, selfish, or disgusting, i think about all the good things they could offer to this world, and i don't judge
3:32 "We might try to picture their mother, overcome by passionate love for this new little life" Empathy [Medium: success] "There, there, you were someone’s child. You deserve to be loved"
Jawa Sawana "Evil" as we label it, through intended aggression, deception or violence, comes into fruition by the validation of love. "Love" as we label it, through intended compassion, harmony, and benevolence, comes into fruition by the validation of evil. One without the other cannot exist. Opposition will always present itself when significance is given to a label.
I've always believed that everyone has nice and beautiful things that others (and themselves) can appreciate; even when the negative sides get all the attention, there's always some kindness, some respect, anything positive to hang on to.
A wonderful message. Like some in the comments I used to mistake love for complete self-sacrifice and acceptance of abuse. But showing love to all has to include oneself - not a maladapted self-centeredness, but an understanding that you too are human with boundaries and needs. "Love your neighbor as yourself."
Love starts with looking, attention, transcendence of the superficial. Most people rather judge a book by its cover, because they can't handle the uncertainty of complexity, they are embedded within closed systems of thinking that provides simple know-it-all answers to the mystery of existence.
So true. I know a person who is the most annoying mean nasty person. And I can only imagine that their childhood was... bad. Its not hard to have compassion pity and forgiveness. Its like you transcend their bitter toxic pool. You understand. You're above that.
Compassion is part of love. There's a reason biblical scholars and even preachers use Greek terms for love a lot of times. English has one, which is just stupid.
The capacity to love anyone came to me when (as I describe it myself) I experienced an ego death. To completely let go of your pain, anger, even happiness and become one with the true self (the emptiness one experiences or as I call it, the god) after a long session of meditation. I now can't feel any resentment towards anyone, including the people that hurt me badly. I began to see people as simply flawed beings who lash out at others because they are missing something vital from their childhood. Of course, that doesn't mean we should allow them to hurt us again. We can unconditionally love others and make peace with the fact that some people are the way they are, maintain a safe distance, and relationship with these folks. Thank you for making these videos. I find the lessons really helpful in my day-to-day life.
Yea, work on developing greater consideration and not hurting people because life gets better.:) Numbing or other escapes are a mindtrick but they don't really work.
I've been really thinking about this lately. Also forgiveness, it's been a rough year and a half but I know I have a great life so little things don't bother me and if they do I tell myself how ridiculous it is that I'm letting it get to me.
It reminds me of a quote, which tells that we can love anyone, after knowing their story. Once we know the experiences, difficulties and moments of happiness they have gone through, as well as their perception of them, we can truly understand and 'love' them.
I'm honestly freaking out. This is exactly what I have always felt and thought about everyday of my life. I think about what everyone is going through, why they are the way they are, and what could have happened to them. Sometimes I give people to much credit and to many chances, but for the ones that I help or look past what has happened to them, I have made the greatest friends and heard the most beautiful stories of strength. 2:41-4:20
For all of you Atheists childishly commenting about "abusive religion," (included with your obsession over a God you don't even believe in) please grow up and recognize the irrefutable fact as to how this video doesn't argue for or against the divinity of Jesus. It simply illustrates a clear point provided with a concept that *is* religious. I'm not hating on you, I'm just pointing to the absurdity of your close-minded bias.
I love this channel. I watched this video years ago, and I still came back to re-watch it because this channel gives such an un-erasable stamp on me. Much love!!
This is what I keep telling everyone. I can love almost anyone, only women in a sexual way but nevertheless almost any woman. But everyone around me is caught up in the whole dating game. Girls I know won't take the next step with you sexually until after a couple of dates. And all they seem to care about in guys is their money, confidence, social standing, and of course attractiveness. Love should be about connection. I need to find more open-minded women.
This is the second video I've seen from this channel and I can tell these are going to be a daily thing for me. Constantly, I encounter people who fall into these cycles or "deeply established responses" of the mind. They repeat behaviors that, though self-destructive, are familiar to them and therefore more comforting in a sense. So they keep doing it. There aren't many people in my life that say, "Hey, this doesn't seem right. We should question it," which leads to me doubting myself when I question these things. This was a breath of fresh air and also very validating.
I think you're confusing love with compation and understanding è_è U can be understanding towards people whom you view as "odd" but falling in love with them seems a bit off puting :/
romaissa djidel There are different kinds of Love. Love from Your parents and Family members are a lot different from that of a Romantic Love for example.
Yes, I agree. He jumped from being understanding toward others to romantic love, implicitly suggesting (whether he meant to or not) that a lover should put up with all kinds of objectionable behavior because the individual is an injured soul). That is not a good idea and it is not the message of the gospels, and, in fact even with strangers the gospels sometimes show Jesus as being relatively harsh. He threw the money changers out of the Temple. saying they had made it "a den of thieves." Luke has him as saying, "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple." The books of The Bible are written by many, many people, so they are quite contradictory, and it's risky business using them to support one simple idea. It's risky business oversimplifying anything, one can always think of contradictory examples.
Rachel Wood This wish washy thinking is called psychology a subject that is the basis of this channel.Taking a step away from you life and all the drama that comes along with it and seeing the deep meaning behind actions,ideals and lifes.Its called looking at the bigger picture.
These videos are brilliant. They speak truth throughout but in the most subtlest of ways which persuade you to think critically for yourself. At least that's what I get from them.
Man... if I was a teacher, I'd start off each week with one of these videos, and have my class discuss the concepts behind it, and how they view them. Then challenge them to take the message and apply it to their week.
this is very helpful and for those who don't necessarily believe in the religious aspects of Christ's teachings, to still be better people and make our world collectively a little less horrible. I chose to believe in the Divine source of his insights. but it is nice to find a resource to share with those who don't necessarily share my view.
All your videos are very personal to me. Thank you school of life for sharing your ideas to those who are in need. They are food for the soul of the searched or the existentialists. That you.
School of Life you've done it again! That was great. On another note, I think that the church for the most part has completely messed up Christ's teachings. I've read the Bible a few times. When I read what Christ says, I think it's so beautiful. It baffles me that the church has it so twisted.
V Pee I completely agree. The Christian Church however, despite the many denominations, identifies as one church. It is considered the body of Christ. When I talk about the church, I'm talking about that.
As a whole "institutional group", I agree with you. However, for me it is too broad a comment, because there are a great many, many congregations getting it right. Look for the good, and so it shall be. ;)
V Pee I don't have the ability to go to every single church on that exists. I'm talking about my own experience and understanding of the church. I hope that was clear.
Lord Ragaci christians don't hate homosexuals they hate sin, but love the individual. In the same way they hate sexual immorality/adultery, greed, jealousy. The bible says to "hate what is evil and love what is good"
I've always thought about this and came to a realization myself that technically everyone COULD be loved. I never knew how to explain it to other people and you did it well!
True! Meditated on this and reached the same awareness... There is no loving one and despising another. Love comes with the whole. And in that whole there is your partner/lover/wife/husband as well.
This was a very nice video :) I actually wasn't aware that other people don't think like this. I have aspergers, so I've developed a way of thinking that's very similar to this. I have to try very hard to put myself in another's shoes. Thank you for broadening my horizons once again! :)
Loving people unconditionally - especially your enemies - is a silly idea, in practice. It's like the difference between empathy and a genuine understanding. To love somebody is to delude yourself in their favour. You even touch on this. It's weaving excuses for the angry man in the restaurant; or the creepy guy in the street. Better, wouldn't it be, to approach or rely on a standard of - I dunno - sympathy? To see a person's point of view and react in an intelligent and rational (though not robotic) manner? Self-delusion is HORRIBLE advice. And though we may need it to function in the messy societies that we inhabit; or under the crippling weights of reality that stifle our dreams or beliefs; to encourage us to weave tall tales about how the skinhead yelling at his shadow loved playing charades on the wall with his father, this is HARDLY productive - and I might even argue dangerous if your intent is to follow up and try to find common ground. :P Our emotions are nice; but they aren't an infallible method by which for making decisions. I would argue, in fact; that emotions are more important to the recipient, than the person who feels obligated to feel them. Touching a leper is all well and good; but only if he appreciates it. Really, this whole thing is super duper vague. And I don't appreciate it! :P
Mystery Yoghurt you speak as of emotions would be the only cornerstone of guidance. Yet their message is to love someone at its very core, without conditions. From there you can make decisions about how you deal with someone. You don't need to delude yourself, everyone can have the value to be loved and true greatness lies in those who can do so. this doesn't prevent you from protecting yourself, you can still see a person in all his colors and still love them. emotions are not the best teachers but they are our foundation, they are the reason why we do things in the first place and one of the greatest and most productive ones we can have is love.
Azrael Exlibris That doesn't mean anything. If I'm loving somebody, but acting as if I don't love them, then what's the point of even calling my attitude towards them "love"? :P
Don't think binary, it's a scale. You don't act on off, you have a multitude of actions you perform and those are influenced by the emotions behind it. To demonstrate it on a extreme example, you can kill someone you love just as you can kill someone you hate. But your reasons will be very different.
Azrael Exlibris Lemme try again: if my "love" for this stranger is no different than not loving said stranger, then why is it love? If I'm not deluded or otherwise infatuated with this person; or if I don't hold them in any particular emotional regard; or value; or think to know them in any way - then by what context do I "love" them? Say that person I shoot (that I love) was JUST introduced to me. At gunpoint. He wants to kill my family. I love everyone, equally - but I kill him. "I love you!", I say, before I shoot him. This is the part I'm having trouble grasping. :P
He is not a complete stranger in some sense, he is a human beeing, further he is an entity that lives. This idea changes the way you perceive the world and thus changes the world with it. It's the difference between watching a movie out of boredom and watching it because you like it. It's recognizing the robber you just killed is a person with a story on its own. It doesn't change the fact that you had to kill him, it changes how you live after that. This might sound very esoterical, but I'm actually a very empirical founded psychologist. I just happened to meet someone who showed me what true and pure living means and that love is an inseparable essence of that. You don't need love to live a happy life, but in the end you don't need to live at all. Love is just one of the things that gives live it's worth.
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I would never forgive nor love the person who caused me to feel emotional pain and who abused me mentally by calling me the most horrendous things imaginable. I don't care if it's "unhealthy" to not forgive or hate because I feel justified in my way of thinking.
Lovecove4 they cannot give you emotional pain, you percieve their need (perpetrator/ego) through your (victim/ego), but they just want/ed your attention (love) to give them boundaries, which can appear as 'negative' attention seeking, 'pressing your buttons' etc. Once you know this it's easier to be empowered in the knowledge they are just a surrogate of earlier abuse.
@jonny plat Having an emotional reliance on another.. Being forced to leave the thing you relied so much on.. Suffering because you're trying to recover.. I understand this, but is this what Love between two people is supposed to be like? For a permanent relationship I mean. you seem to be someone who might be able to give me a scientific answer to this :)
TheSteamGamer1080 essentially yes the whole of our experience and behaviour can be easier explained by going all the way back to the origin most can't remember, that we were born mindless, egoless, totally unconditionally loving babies. This baby knows no identity, no mind, so has no bodily boundary, only pure awareness, Buddha mind, blissfully happy when basic needs are met. As mind comes awareness of a body seperate from surroundings forms, this bodymind is then used to deal with percieved unloving behaviour, so all kinds of complexes can be associated with it and people can become more and more self conscious, but the crystal clear, boundaryless babe remains as the driver, the inner child, keeping tabs in a self created cocoon. So then it can be easily known that to want to be as the inner child is where true happiness is.
Remember kids even god uses love on you. We learn from history, Christianity converted Central Asian Turks, Uyghurs with message of "god loves you". Then these were converted into Islam with message "god hates non-Muslims". Converted not by sword, but by trend or political reasons. Why? - with new love, old love should be abandoned.
I really love this, truly, thank you for putting this up, sometimes it's hard for people to be almost so vulnerable to love but at the same time it is the most powerful thing you can do. Love is great and freeing too. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
"Love is the only reality and it is not a mere sentiment. It is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation." - Quote said by Rabindranath Tagore.
"A person who understands love can love anyone." Very true. Genuine love is unconditional.
There is no such thing.
That’s a big cap
Everything in life is conditional, including love.
Genuine Love is unconditional unfortunately many people don't understand love and when they put their "love" into practice it does more harm than good. People claim to love others for many reasons whether it be financial or for control over the other person. Some parents are perfect examples as they only "love" their kids if they do certain things they like. This could alter the view of others as the "love" they experience whether in childhood or romantically wasn't genuine. Don't let others cloud your judgment. Love others unconditionally without expecting anything and you will find genuine love!
Post Millennial -- How do you live on such pablum?
How come almost every video of this channel appears as a masterpiece to me? The animation. The deep thought. The understanding.
Because you are wise and kind!
LUKE 6:40 The student is not above the teacher, but everyone who is fully trained will be like their teacher.
So its because YOU who is wise and kind.
I can totally relate. Some of these are profound.
I agree. I highly recommend this channel💕
I agree, too. These videos are well made, serious yet not ponderously so, succinct and calm. The ideas presented ring true.
Loving someone as a person and loving someone as a lover are two different things. The Greeks use two different words to describe this, "αγάπη" when it comes to loving others as people and "έρωτας " when it comes to loving someone as a lover. I think that this video appeals to the term "αγάπη" and I truly believe that we can love everyone as a human, despite our differences. But when it comes to loving someone as a lover, I do believe that it is impossible to feel like that for everyone.
I think people kind of make the choice to make a life with people they aren't passionately inlove with. That was the idea I had over the video.
The Japanese also have two different words for love, daisuke and aiishiteru. Daisuke is used from parental relationships to sibling relationships to even bf/gf relationships. Aiishiteru is only used by married couples in private
Because it’s a combination of love and lust, which is in our biological brain, not in the social and psychological aspect only
Love is understanding. It's paying attention and caring about the other person. We don't need to over complicate it. We can only be saved when we love the other as much as ourselves. Great video.
The greatest and truest love is between a mother and her child. That way I can understand this video.
Expand this love. This is human love and is not to be disregarded. But there's a deeper love, a love we all have and the worst thing that can happen is losing it. And the best thing is fully experiencing it. It's the love for life and everything in it. You are life. The deepest love is the one you have for yourself.
Buddha's Sun Who says we all need to be saved? If to be loved is to be saved then we will have an unhealthy desire for love
moon tan we need to be saved from our nature, greed and loneliness. It's not to be loved that will save us, but to love.
Buddha's Sun Only Jesus can save our souls!
This channel has to be my favorite on UA-cam. Best non waste of time ever.
Thanks.
1. I have a guitar student who comes for a lesson every Thursday evening and he always comes drunk. It is really heart breaking. He is an elder gentleman and he is always very kind and if it wasn't for the smell of alcohol, you wouldn't notice anything. To be honest I was hoping that he quits the lessons at some point, but he doesn't. If you never had trouble with alcohol, you don't understand these people. You even have a certain arrogance, thinking that it is just their "weakness" and
lack of will power". But because of this student, I had to think a lot more on the issue. I have read some stuff, heard some podcasts and watched documentaries etc. Especially the documentary " Drinking to Oblivion" by Louis Theroux touched me deeply. You will never look at an alcoholic person the same way after watching it.
There was a woman in that documentary who had some very heavy issues with her mother in her childhood. Then the mother left. It seemed to me that poor girl was lost since then. She explained the kind of anxiety she felt everyday when she woke up, which led her to start drinking as the first think in the morning.That was the only thing that calmed her down and gave her consolation. She started drinking when she was 13. I thought what she described was exactly the same anxiety that I feel everyday when I wake up, that leads me to start reading a book or making music as the first thing in the morning .. So indeed I could perfectly BE that woman if I hadn't found the "consolation" elsewhere as a child for the first time, by pure coincidence!!!
So if we are more less mentally sane, so much of it is just luck... If we had enough time, curiosity and clarity of mind to look way back into everyone's personal history, we would find it much harder to judge them or dislike them. We would certainly end up loving them. Because we would know that they most probably didn't receive enough affection, had gone through a lot of humiliation and didn't have a single person around to show them where to find consolation.
2. One of my heroes Bryan Stevenson has an excellent speech on youtube called " Boldly Going". He is an Afro- American lawyer who saved 125 people from death penalty! The speech is about how to change the world!! And there he gives us the example of an awful guy, a really disgusting, racist, arrogant, appalling person, who happens to be a prison guard. He humiliates Mr. Stevenson every time he goes there to see his client. You will see what happens then. It is hard to believe but even that guy has a lovable side...
3. I highly recommend everyone the movie " Angst Essen Seele Auf" ( Ali: Fear Eats The Soul ). It is Fassbinder's masterpiece! One very sad but very beautiful love story, that once again proves that you could indeed love anybody if you are compassionate and brave enough.
Thanks a lot for this wonderful lesson and the excellent animation. After watching for a second, I already knew it was made by Peter:-) Congratulations once again!
Thanks so much; and Peter is a genius.
Lua Veli Thank you for your great contribution. I will look up the videos you mention.
Hello Chris! Thank you so much:-) I am very glad that you want to watch that video. Bryan Stevenson is really a treasure. His TED talk called
" We need to talk about injustice" got the longest standing ovations in TED's history! I have also read his book "Just Mercy" after that. It is one of those books that really changes you. I mean after you finish it you are not the same person anymore.
So, I thank you once again and wish you a very happy 2017:-)
And the same to you!
Lua Veli
Have you seen eternal sunshine on a spotless mind ?
I think that is the best movie with Jim.
As an agnostic, this was the greatest thing I learned as a Christian growing up.
This is an agnostic?
@@hijodelaisla275 no, this is Patrick
@@adambarber1090 Patrick needs to watch his misplaced modifiers.
@@hijodelaisla275 ughh I don't think so? Also, I'm full blown atheist now... if anyone cares. Screw religion. Hail Satan 😈
@@adambarber1090 Declaring your atheism can be a possible strategy when encountered by someone who's foisting their religious beliefs on you. It can come in handy when fending off those who are so insecure that they want you to believe what they believe. Some, however, are so hell-bent (see what I did there?) that nothing works.
The animations really made this video come to life!
Daniel Väeger as always
Hello Daniel. The animator is really brilliant! His name is Peter Caires, in case you want to subscribe to his channel. Happy Christmas:-)
merry christmas to all of ya
The artwork is amazing on this one.
Exactly what i was thinking when i finished the video and looked at your comment!
"What is love? Love is the absence of judgement." - Dalai Lama
remember kids you don't have to love abusive people, either physically, emotionally, financially abusive, douchebags and or cluster Bs . Love yourself, protect yourself
Ahhhhh Duality sucks sometimes...
I think you misunderstood the meaning behind the video.
+Rachel Wood Well many people are abusive because of events in their childhood. If you trace back to that you can still find a way to empathize with that person and still love them BUT just because you love someone does NOT mean you MUST be in a relationship with that person. You have to leave an abusive relationship, not only ll just leave but get that sob in jail. But once again you don't have to be in a relationship to Love, Love the person like a troubled sister or brother in need of help (because they do need help), not as a spouse. Or of course, you can just say fuck them and completely move on, the choice is entirely yours.
love is not about supporting someone but helping them/forgiving them. yes, someone has abused you, yes you may disgust/ hate that person for the rest of your life.but rather than holding onto that weight, maybe do smthng that will eradicate any further chance of that person's abuse. like realizing maybe he got abused too in childhood and so put them in therapy. or even give them proper punishment ( jail) so that they dnt further their chance to become even more of a bad person. yes, from common eye sending someone to jail is not Love, but helping them to never get in the wrong path again or giving them the chance to repent is a different kind of love. maybe not directly to them, maybe to your ownself/ society. :)
Loving doesn't have to mean putting up with shit :)
This is how I strive to live my life. Finding the positive aspects of every single person
ditto
Me too!
It’s 3 years after this video is posted and I have nothing to add.
Just want to say thank you for the uplifting content. This is not the first time I’ve felt downtrodden by a harsh and unyielding day, browsing through a sea of familiar auto-suggested memes, trivialities, and thinly disguised commercials, only to stumble upon a School of Life video... and upon watching I am reminded of so much - the beauty of life, the importance of understanding, the immense power of love - by a kind-hearted video bobbing amidst the chaos. The imagery of a light shining through the darkness comes to mind. I am so glad that you share that light with us!
Much love
Falling in love is brutal especially when it's unrequited...
I want to love all but some people use me and it's just hard
leila es well they did the same to jesus numerous of times and yet he continued trying. thats all we as human beings can do is keep trying
i dont want to be walked all over. i want people to treat me as a person. oh well.. no one will treat with respect or love me. I'm too naive
leila es Other people can sense the beliefs we hold by the non verbal and verbal communication. If you believe noone will ever xyz, then you could be rejecting that possibilty. Try being open to the idea, and sometimes what you want might happen
@Kera Atkins Shes not trying to help these people, thats a poor comparison
if you still believe in love than i love you .... and if i love you ,you will find someone who do so in real life
There's an Islamic concept to this its called husn I thann (حسن الظن) meaning to always try and think the best of somebody
Yeah. And one could never no what good reads this person has done, we can’t judge the outwardly view
We are just broken pieces taped together chasing a carrot on a stick in the quest for the next must haves.
fish and banana I want some of whatever you're on.
"And in the end, we were all just humans, drunk on the idea that love, only love, could heal our brokenness."
-Christopher Poindexter
This video is not about religion. It's made with such a loveable intent. #Respect
This video is a prime example of the good religion can do. Even if you don't believe in any particular religion, it doesn't mean there is nothing to gain from the teachings they have. If you don't consider Jesus to be the son of God, there's no reason why you couldn't consider him to be equivalent to Socrates or any other thinker.
Lego Insomniac Nicely said ^.^
Lego Insomniac thank you for saying that.
I find it disturbing frankly
Lego Insomniac that's true. i'm an athiest, but when i hear stories from the bible, i see them as just things that i can pick morals from and learn from just as any other book.
I agree with you! Despite your beliefs or religion Jesus was still one of the most profoundly influential and important thinkers/philosophers! Atheist educators and teachers will steer clear of him for the stupid reason of being seen as "religious". There is nothing wrong with being religious. Everyone is religious.
That's all fine and good, but sometimes people can go a bit overboard and become doormats for some very shitty people. How do you balance between being accepting, charitable, while still holding others accountable for mistreatment and not becoming an enabler for shitty behavior?
well there was that time Jesus chased the shop keepers out of the temple with a chord of rope. I guess we should be loving but strong willed in what we think is right or how people should be treated? Life is complicated i guess...
good advice!
MarathonRunner2
Yea, i wish they'd portray that side in the video as well.
Amber Laird
alright.
Amber Laird Well said, and inspiring.
Great message. I was starting to forget how important it is to always go beyond immediate appearances in favor of discovering a person's real identity.
Love and empathy are two different things.
there is no empathy without love
Soshi Nine I can say things too, look: death is the result of someone dying from death. Wow incredible right? And even better if I explain myself more deeply. The fourth reasons for death is cancer.
Tuko Pomwene
"They are understanding the hurt the others are having,"
Empathy def. the ability to understand and share the feelings of others.
Compassion def. sympathetic pity and concern for the sufferings or misfortunes of others.
Empathy is the one that deals with understanding. It doesn't require as strong a feeling as love to accomplish something like empathy though. It is simply, putting yourself in someone else's shoes. Something that does not require you to love the other person in any way.
Alex Li
"there is no love without empathy"
This I can agree on. Suggesting that simply being empathetic towards someone means you love them is a stretch. Love is a far more stronger feeling than empathy is. Empathy is a step towards love, but it most certainly doesn't equal love.
Alex Li no, you're gonna end up making the devices for profit not empathy, love is the primary motivator for empathy, I will not try to understand someone I do not care about, I for one am currently an aspiring doctor and I can tell you you cannot be a good doctor if you do not genuinely care about people, my love for people drives me to try to understand them and help them.
In Buddhism, we have a concept called "Metta." To me, this has the same essence with Christianity's "love" as it refers to wishing others goodness and happiness. The virtue goes further by encompassing all living things, not just humans. Interestingly, there are similarities in every religions if you search for it. :)
Dear creator(s) of this video,
Thank you so much, your channel is on of very few that are beautifully pure, focusing on bettering people and opening their eyes to the world. I wish you the best in the growth of your channel, life, and everything else. (I just want to make a little change in the world and say, I'm Muslim; and I love/respect everyone)
Deepest thanks for your very kind words.
What I love about The School of Life videos, is that all of them always encourage us to be empathic, to try to be in the other person's shoes... because isn't that what we all need after all? Much love to everyone!
One thing that can make you like/ love a person is vulnerability. It really is. Seeing how they think, their emotions, what's hard, what's easy. I've always said that you can like anyone if you get to know them well enough. I guess everyone is loveable in their own way, and there are just people out there who can better and are quicker to appreciate those qualities.
Man, I come to rewatch this video every few months. It must be one of the, if not the best video TSOL has ever made.
This was beautiful. You are doing it brilliantly SoL! So proud of you! :)
Thanks so much.
+The School of Life awwww. You replied! Thank you for your time.
+Namita Wali you guys have really helped me. Seriously. I wish I could help you. In some way.
Sorry. I am a little stoned. :/
Being stoned has its role! If you ever want to help us, do come and buy some of our brilliant books:
www.theschooloflife.com/shop/the-school-of-life-library/
Where are you from? You look like a familiar face to me.
Can't really take every video as truth. Just thoughts and ideas to explore. It's nice to see the comment section on these videos showing exactly what this video in particular speaks of, which is the many, many different sides of humanity.
The visual style of these is always astounding! Keep up the good work :)
Wisdom , huh? Oh wait there is a "X" .
Joe Stoneword yep :), its an ign
I don't understand
Joe Stoneword do you play video games? people put an X before their username, its a thing ^^
o i see
We also could hate anyone
Oh yes, for sure. That comes very easily - though not wisely.
Love and Hate both come very easily, and both as wisely (or unwisely).
Spoken like your average youtube subscriber! Bravo.
If we hate everyone, then we have achieved true equality. If we love everyone, then we'd also achieve true equality
Atryan sometimes everyone
I'm so glad I've finally found someone else, especially someone so public, who understands this. There's so much hate, bigotry, and above all tribalism in the world, all fundamentally because the natural tendency of the human mind is the dichotomization of the good from the bad. I sorely wish this was understood more widely...
Imagining what someone's childhood was like is an excellent move. Works for me, as it allows for a closer understanding of them. Great video #spreadlove
For the last months I've been thinking about what this video says: you can find nice things on every person. It's just a matter of time to see what's good. And so, everytime i see someone do something arrogant, selfish, or disgusting, i think about all the good things they could offer to this world, and i don't judge
3:32 "We might try to picture their mother, overcome by passionate love for this new little life" Empathy [Medium: success] "There, there, you were someone’s child. You deserve to be loved"
"Love everyone, love all" is a naive ideal to adopt. Evil has it's way with those who open themselves to it.
Jawa Sawana Exactly
Dont be stupid be also dont be naive, instead be wise.
I think that understanding evil is only the first step to defeating/preventing evil, but it is the most important
Jawa Sawana Ooooh interesting thought.
Jawa Sawana "Evil" as we label it, through intended aggression, deception or violence, comes into fruition by the validation of love. "Love" as we label it, through intended compassion, harmony, and benevolence, comes into fruition by the validation of evil. One without the other cannot exist. Opposition will always present itself when significance is given to a label.
Jawa Sawana Evil had its way with Jesus but he still impacted millions of people of future generations.
For all the bad things that happened this 2016, this is a perfect video for this holiday season! We need to spread more love to our fellow people!
This was definitely the most profound christmas video I've seen so far. Thank you!
Thanks!
I've always believed that everyone has nice and beautiful things that others (and themselves) can appreciate; even when the negative sides get all the attention, there's always some kindness, some respect, anything positive to hang on to.
“See the lovable side of pretty much anyone”
Except Pluto apparently...
If everybody watched this channel, this would be by far a better world.
I'm not religious or believe in god but I believe in love and only love.
So, you haven't paid your taxes?
It is better to be feared than loved.
A wonderful message. Like some in the comments I used to mistake love for complete self-sacrifice and acceptance of abuse. But showing love to all has to include oneself - not a maladapted self-centeredness, but an understanding that you too are human with boundaries and needs. "Love your neighbor as yourself."
Love starts with looking, attention, transcendence of the superficial. Most people rather judge a book by its cover, because they can't handle the uncertainty of complexity, they are embedded within closed systems of thinking that provides simple know-it-all answers to the mystery of existence.
The clarity this channel has given to me and my life is invaluable and for that i am extremely grateful. Thank you to all apart of these videos 🙏
I love this channel. You guys do such a great job. Important role on the internet
We're delighted you think so. Thanks Meghan.
So true. I know a person who is the most annoying mean nasty person. And I can only imagine that their childhood was... bad.
Its not hard to have compassion pity and forgiveness. Its like you transcend their bitter toxic pool.
You understand. You're above that.
I must agree with some others here. You're talking about compassion, not love. You can have compassion for anyone but you can't love anyone.
Compassion is part of love. There's a reason biblical scholars and even preachers use Greek terms for love a lot of times. English has one, which is just stupid.
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I'll give a homeless person money because I have compassion for him/her. I'll spend 5 hours on a plane to see my best friend because I love him.
The capacity to love anyone came to me when (as I describe it myself) I experienced an ego death. To completely let go of your pain, anger, even happiness and become one with the true self (the emptiness one experiences or as I call it, the god) after a long session of meditation. I now can't feel any resentment towards anyone, including the people that hurt me badly. I began to see people as simply flawed beings who lash out at others because they are missing something vital from their childhood.
Of course, that doesn't mean we should allow them to hurt us again. We can unconditionally love others and make peace with the fact that some people are the way they are, maintain a safe distance, and relationship with these folks.
Thank you for making these videos. I find the lessons really helpful in my day-to-day life.
Paradoxically, your post sounded so Egocentric, egotistical, and cliche. Lol! Im just being provocative. I bet you are trying not to get pissed off.
Just ordered a book from you guys! So excited to read it and understand more about life whilst also supporting your incredible work! Thank you!
Thanks so much; hope you enjoy it.
Essentially, recognize that everyone has value, dignity, and worth
I feel exactly the same,, I feel bad whenever I hurt someone even if they hurt me,,
Yea, work on developing greater consideration and not hurting people because life gets better.:) Numbing or other escapes are a mindtrick but they don't really work.
V Pee I try not to,,
Don't just try, commit to it.
you are a beautiful soul so please protect yourself also ..
This is one of the most objective and heartfelt channels when it comes to humanity. Well done.
I've been really thinking about this lately. Also forgiveness, it's been a rough year and a half but I know I have a great life so little things don't bother me and if they do I tell myself how ridiculous it is that I'm letting it get to me.
It reminds me of a quote, which tells that we can love anyone, after knowing their story.
Once we know the experiences, difficulties and moments of happiness they have gone through, as well as their perception of them, we can truly understand and 'love' them.
Perhaps this bit should be called “Why We Should Love Everyone”
I'm honestly freaking out. This is exactly what I have always felt and thought about everyday of my life. I think about what everyone is going through, why they are the way they are, and what could have happened to them. Sometimes I give people to much credit and to many chances, but for the ones that I help or look past what has happened to them, I have made the greatest friends and heard the most beautiful stories of strength. 2:41-4:20
For all of you Atheists childishly commenting about "abusive religion," (included with your obsession over a God you don't even believe in) please grow up and recognize the irrefutable fact as to how this video doesn't argue for or against the divinity of Jesus. It simply illustrates a clear point provided with a concept that *is* religious. I'm not hating on you, I'm just pointing to the absurdity of your close-minded bias.
Compassion/empathy stems from love. Love comes in different forms. Great video!
we are all equal, same air, same love.
I love this channel. I watched this video years ago, and I still came back to re-watch it because this channel gives such an un-erasable stamp on me. Much love!!
This is what I keep telling everyone. I can love almost anyone, only women in a sexual way but nevertheless almost any woman. But everyone around me is caught up in the whole dating game. Girls I know won't take the next step with you sexually until after a couple of dates. And all they seem to care about in guys is their money, confidence, social standing, and of course attractiveness. Love should be about connection. I need to find more open-minded women.
This is the second video I've seen from this channel and I can tell these are going to be a daily thing for me. Constantly, I encounter people who fall into these cycles or "deeply established responses" of the mind. They repeat behaviors that, though self-destructive, are familiar to them and therefore more comforting in a sense. So they keep doing it.
There aren't many people in my life that say, "Hey, this doesn't seem right. We should question it," which leads to me doubting myself when I question these things. This was a breath of fresh air and also very validating.
I think you're confusing love with compation and understanding è_è U can be understanding towards people whom you view as "odd" but falling in love with them seems a bit off puting :/
romaissa djidel There are different kinds of Love. Love from Your parents and Family members are a lot different from that of a Romantic Love for example.
He did use the word "partner" So i assumed he was speaking of romantic love
Yes, I agree. He jumped from being understanding toward others to romantic love, implicitly suggesting (whether he meant to or not) that a lover should put up with all kinds of objectionable behavior because the individual is an injured soul). That is not a good idea and it is not the message of the gospels, and, in fact even with strangers the gospels sometimes show Jesus as being relatively harsh. He threw the money changers out of the Temple. saying they had made it "a den of thieves." Luke has him as saying, "If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters--yes, even their own life--such a person cannot be my disciple." The books of The Bible are written by many, many people, so they are quite contradictory, and it's risky business using them to support one simple idea. It's risky business oversimplifying anything, one can always think of contradictory examples.
romaissa djidel well said
Rachel Wood This wish washy thinking is called psychology a subject that is the basis of this channel.Taking a step away from you life and all the drama that comes along with it and seeing the deep meaning behind actions,ideals and lifes.Its called looking at the bigger picture.
These videos are brilliant. They speak truth throughout but in the most subtlest of ways which persuade you to think critically for yourself. At least that's what I get from them.
Before I even looked down at the comments, I already knew people would be more prone towards hatred rather than love. And I wasn't surprised.
Agreed, it doesn't make it any less annoying though.
HEY!
SCREW YOU BUDDY!
Man... if I was a teacher, I'd start off each week with one of these videos, and have my class discuss the concepts behind it, and how they view them. Then challenge them to take the message and apply it to their week.
this is very helpful and for those who don't necessarily believe in the religious aspects of Christ's teachings, to still be better people and make our world collectively a little less horrible.
I chose to believe in the Divine source of his insights. but it is nice to find a resource to share with those who don't necessarily share my view.
This is the prettiest video I've seen in UA-cam. Congratulations! Less than 5 minutes, and you've changed my way of seeing Christianity.
Looks like Jesus is wearing socks with sandals.
David Maxfield nah he's not American
That's because he doesn't care about stupid fashion rules. Only people.
All your videos are very personal to me. Thank you school of life for sharing your ideas to those who are in need. They are food for the soul of the searched or the existentialists. That you.
I've been reading books from Alain. Thank you very much. A very bad situation attacked me but I am still looking for the warm side of love.
Thanks so much.
This is one of the best things I've seen in a long time.
School of Life you've done it again! That was great. On another note, I think that the church for the most part has completely messed up Christ's teachings. I've read the Bible a few times. When I read what Christ says, I think it's so beautiful. It baffles me that the church has it so twisted.
Thanks!
There are so many churches, it would be ignorance to say they are all the same.
V Pee I completely agree. The Christian Church however, despite the many denominations, identifies as one church. It is considered the body of Christ. When I talk about the church, I'm talking about that.
As a whole "institutional group", I agree with you. However, for me it is too broad a comment, because there are a great many, many congregations getting it right. Look for the good, and so it shall be. ;)
V Pee I don't have the ability to go to every single church on that exists. I'm talking about my own experience and understanding of the church. I hope that was clear.
Because everyone is worth loving
Just perfect for the holiday season. Thank you for making me a better person School of Life :)
School of Life. My partner in this lonely quarantine. ❤️
How nice, probably the best video ever :)
I'll try my best to fit this in my life
The drawing of this episode is absolutely fantastic.
Yet christianity blantantly disregards Homosexuality.
Lord Ragaci funny because this video isn't about religion at all.
Lord Ragaci christians don't hate homosexuals they hate sin, but love the individual. In the same way they hate sexual immorality/adultery, greed, jealousy. The bible says to "hate what is evil and love what is good"
samson Sam according to the Bible, everyone is sinful and deserving of punishment, death.
da what,no?
Jay Franklin Do you have a problem with equality bro?
I've always thought about this and came to a realization myself that technically everyone COULD be loved. I never knew how to explain it to other people and you did it well!
Would you ever be able to do a video on high expectations that others may have about you?
Like how to let people down.
Nice suggestion. You have my like. :)
They have a video on people-pleasing that you might like!
True! Meditated on this and reached the same awareness... There is no loving one and despising another. Love comes with the whole. And in that whole there is your partner/lover/wife/husband as well.
This was a very nice video :)
I actually wasn't aware that other people don't think like this.
I have aspergers, so I've developed a way of thinking that's very similar to this. I have to try very hard to put myself in another's shoes. Thank you for broadening my horizons once again! :)
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 very nicely said. I especially liked how you incorporated individuals back stories and how others might view them.
Loving people unconditionally - especially your enemies - is a silly idea, in practice. It's like the difference between empathy and a genuine understanding.
To love somebody is to delude yourself in their favour. You even touch on this. It's weaving excuses for the angry man in the restaurant; or the creepy guy in the street. Better, wouldn't it be, to approach or rely on a standard of - I dunno - sympathy? To see a person's point of view and react in an intelligent and rational (though not robotic) manner?
Self-delusion is HORRIBLE advice. And though we may need it to function in the messy societies that we inhabit; or under the crippling weights of reality that stifle our dreams or beliefs; to encourage us to weave tall tales about how the skinhead yelling at his shadow loved playing charades on the wall with his father, this is HARDLY productive - and I might even argue dangerous if your intent is to follow up and try to find common ground. :P
Our emotions are nice; but they aren't an infallible method by which for making decisions. I would argue, in fact; that emotions are more important to the recipient, than the person who feels obligated to feel them. Touching a leper is all well and good; but only if he appreciates it. Really, this whole thing is super duper vague. And I don't appreciate it! :P
Mystery Yoghurt you speak as of emotions would be the only cornerstone of guidance. Yet their message is to love someone at its very core, without conditions. From there you can make decisions about how you deal with someone. You don't need to delude yourself, everyone can have the value to be loved and true greatness lies in those who can do so. this doesn't prevent you from protecting yourself, you can still see a person in all his colors and still love them.
emotions are not the best teachers but they are our foundation, they are the reason why we do things in the first place and one of the greatest and most productive ones we can have is
love.
Azrael Exlibris That doesn't mean anything. If I'm loving somebody, but acting as if I don't love them, then what's the point of even calling my attitude towards them "love"? :P
Don't think binary, it's a scale. You don't act on off, you have a multitude of actions you perform and those are influenced by the emotions behind it.
To demonstrate it on a extreme example, you can kill someone you love just as you can kill someone you hate. But your reasons will be very different.
Azrael Exlibris Lemme try again: if my "love" for this stranger is no different than not loving said stranger, then why is it love?
If I'm not deluded or otherwise infatuated with this person; or if I don't hold them in any particular emotional regard; or value; or think to know them in any way - then by what context do I "love" them?
Say that person I shoot (that I love) was JUST introduced to me. At gunpoint. He wants to kill my family.
I love everyone, equally - but I kill him.
"I love you!", I say, before I shoot him.
This is the part I'm having trouble grasping. :P
He is not a complete stranger in some sense, he is a human beeing, further he is an entity that lives. This idea changes the way you perceive the world and thus changes the world with it. It's the difference between watching a movie out of boredom and watching it because you like it.
It's recognizing the robber you just killed is a person with a story on its own. It doesn't change the fact that you had to kill him, it changes how you live after that.
This might sound very esoterical, but I'm actually a very empirical founded psychologist.
I just happened to meet someone who showed me what true and pure living means and that love is an inseparable essence of that.
You don't need love to live a happy life, but in the end you don't need to live at all. Love is just one of the things that gives live it's worth.
OMG OMG whoever is the author... these were my thoughts and experiences EXACTLY. Thanks for this.
This is the best clickbait video on the internet.
I love you Schooloflife!
We associate clickbait with something that attracts THEN disappoints. We hope to attract then charm and stimulate and console. We may not always get there, but we're trying every week.
I meant that it did that for me, and I hope for a lot of people.
Apologies for misusing the term.
can we all take a minute to appreciate the talent of whoever makes the graphics of the school of life ?
aww this video made me feel happy
It's not who I am underneath, but what I do that defines me.
I would never forgive nor love the person who caused me to feel emotional pain and who abused me mentally by calling me the most horrendous things imaginable. I don't care if it's "unhealthy" to not forgive or hate because I feel justified in my way of thinking.
I think you both are missing the point of the video XD
Lovecove4 they cannot give you emotional pain, you percieve their need (perpetrator/ego) through your (victim/ego), but they just want/ed your attention (love) to give them boundaries, which can appear as 'negative' attention seeking, 'pressing your buttons' etc.
Once you know this it's easier to be empowered in the knowledge they are just a surrogate of earlier abuse.
@jonny plat Having an emotional reliance on another.. Being forced to leave the thing you relied so much on.. Suffering because you're trying to recover.. I understand this, but is this what Love between two people is supposed to be like? For a permanent relationship I mean. you seem to be someone who might be able to give me a scientific answer to this :)
TheSteamGamer1080 essentially yes the whole of our experience and behaviour can be easier explained by going all the way back to the origin most can't remember, that we were born mindless, egoless, totally unconditionally loving babies.
This baby knows no identity, no mind, so has no bodily boundary, only pure awareness, Buddha mind, blissfully happy when basic needs are met.
As mind comes awareness of a body seperate from surroundings forms, this bodymind is then used to deal with percieved unloving behaviour, so all kinds of complexes can be associated with it and people can become more and more self conscious, but the crystal clear, boundaryless babe remains as the driver, the inner child, keeping tabs in a self created cocoon.
So then it can be easily known that to want to be as the inner child is where true happiness is.
jonny plat ok i understood like 50% of what you said. Is this some type of buddha philosophy?
This channel shares perspectives we rarely ponder upon, i've been writing for about four years now, and these perspectives have broadened my horizons❤
This is kinda fishy - some will use "love" to use it on you
HotZetiGer being a loving person doesn't stop us from being clever
Remember kids even god uses love on you. We learn from history, Christianity converted Central Asian Turks, Uyghurs with message of "god loves you". Then these were converted into Islam with message "god hates non-Muslims". Converted not by sword, but by trend or political reasons. Why? - with new love, old love should be abandoned.
it's time to stop. k? clever is ego, being totally unconditionally loving annihilates ego to percieve another's need for loving attention.
jonny plat we not only can love ANYONE but also ANYTHING so DO WHAT YOU LOVE!
HotZetiGer when we unconditionally love, we are always doing what we love doing MMM, cleaning toilet.
I really love this, truly, thank you for putting this up, sometimes it's hard for people to be almost so vulnerable to love but at the same time it is the most powerful thing you can do. Love is great and freeing too. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Well... this was very eye-opening. You got very deserved like ☺
"Love is the only reality and it is not a mere sentiment. It is the ultimate truth that lies at the heart of creation." - Quote said by Rabindranath Tagore.
I wanna learn to love people more openly now. :3
Nah.
Nah, I just don't believe that I need to date people to love them.
Why do your videos always put me on the verge of tears
This video should be 'How We Could Love Anyone'
compassionate at its finest . love earth guys