As an attorney i represented fathers in high conflict custody cases. I can affirm that this toxic behavior is damaging to the father, but it is ultimately destructive to the children. After 25 years, I am now thankfully retired. Best wishes to the fathers and their children.
This had as much if not more effect on me. None of my 3 daughters speak to me. All because of the lies the mother told them. I couldn’t fight back effectively. Now I pay the price
Oh my goodness. You really hit the nail on the head with this video. Except for the last one, EVERYTHING ELSE HAS HAPPENED AND CONTINUES TO HAPPEN in my situation. Thank you cannot is not enough. These were golden nuggets beyond any price out there, PRICELESS!!! 🙏🏽
Thank you Liliya. Really appreciate your efforts for male victims of narcissism, and talking about this specific issue. My kids are instrumentalized and weaponized against me, since the separation with their narcissistic mother. It is a long game that requires a lot of patience and strategy. May God give strength and patience to all fathers who share the same painful situation. ❤
Schedule with me if needed, link in bio. Unfortunately the solutions to this are not simple. Damage control only goes so far coparenting with these people.
My son was my buddy. I taught him to walk, talk, fish, hunt, play guitar, play video games, cook, etc. The alienating began during our separation when he was 16 and in his junior year of highschool. I didn't understand what was going on. She accused me of being violent. My son knew i was not but i could not even get him to talk to me. She kept coming between us. She also kept coming to have sex with me periodically during our separation while i lived in a hotel. I told her i was filing for divorce. One night soon after she showed up acting weird and i knew something was up. I didn't want to deal with it so i went for a bike ride. I came back to find the cops at my room. I was arrested for felony domestic battery. I went to prison for 4 years. She had decided she didn't want a divorce or to split anything after 20 years. She got everything including my 3 kids, 3 dogs and all my worldly possessions. After 18 months in prison i was told my son had an aneurysm in his heart. It was the result of Cushing's disease. Her drama caused my son to have trouble in school. He didn't graduate. Sat at home stressed out all day and all night with the stress of knowing that she was killing us all. I imagine he felt guilt for not standing up for me and letting me go to prison. Plus the lies and manipulation he endured with me gone. At 19 he had to have open heart surgery. He was perfectly healthy before. Headed for university and then the Air Force like me. That dream was lost. He now has Cushing's, POTS and a vascular disease that is causing him to go blind at 27. She did all of this to hide her affair with her coworker. She completely destroyed her son and my 2 daughters futures and handicapped their lives. All so she could cheat. Now she just lives in denial and is losing her health from the stress. My son doesn't leave the house and hasn't in 12 years. She got away with it all with no consequences to herself. But my kids and i suffered extreme consequences for her narcissism. 4 lives destroyed...so she could cheat. The abuse is ongoing for us all. I haven't had contact with any of my kids in 12 years and am still legally married. She won't divorce me. I cant afford to file on my own anymore. She still files taxes every year in my name and lives in my house. Its sick. The courts were so pathetic not to see this. It was obvious what she was doing. But no one cared because she just kept insisting that i was violent and crying on cue. Even when i only wanted help for my kids she would distract everyone with tears and accusations of violence. I kept trying to save my kids and she just kept sabotaging us all... and cheating with the same guy. Her principal. Shes a teacher. Not one of her kids graduated from school. The same school where she is a teacher and her boyfriend the principal. She ultimately neglected my kids and made sure that they would not reach out to me for help by making me the bad guy. They each had 40 absences in their final year of highschool. She bypassed all of the safety protocols that should have protected my kids and called attention to the absenteeism. She would have been held accountable for failing my kids. But her and her principal boyfriend found a way around it so she could evade accountability. These people are supposed to protect kids. They used my kids like fodder. I told everyone i knew and people just looked at me like i was crazy. I didn't realize how conspiratorial it all sounded. To me it was simply the facts as i knew them. They both still have their jobs and are well respected by their peers. They've even received awards and accolades for their work as educators. There's a reason why there are so many mass shootings at schools in America. People like my wife and her boyfriend work in them.
@@brettcordes3602tried responding to you 3 times now. They won't post. I'm sympathetic to anyone who's going thru what I went thru. I don't know how to get around the UA-cam moderator.
She told me that my son who I had not spoken to in 4 years as a result of her alienation was experiencing suicide ideation. She told me he was depressed, hostile and suicidal. It was near Christmas. She actually wanted my advice because my son and I had been so close before she destroyed our relationship. I told her to get him into therapy immediately. Of course she couldn't do that because therapy would have revealed that she was manipulating him. Much later i found out that she had decided to catfish her son on Instagram. Rather then get him therapy, counseling or reunite him with his father she decided to give him an online girlfriend to occupy his mind. So she became his girlfriend on Instagram. It stopped the suicide ideation. But i cant imagine what it will create if he ever finds out the depths of her depravity. Im pretty sure this is how monsters are made. So sickening i can't even help him.
Wow! Nailed it again! I wish I had discovered you whilst I was still in my relationship with my Narcissistic ex-wife so that I could have been prepared for what followed with regards to my Parental Alienation. I was not prepared for the depths with which she would go and eventually went. I have had no contact with my children for coming up 9 years now. It's taken me this long to recover and I'm still not 100%. thanks once again for helping me make sense of it all. xxS.
Everything you are saying in the video is what my ex wife whom is a diagnosed in the spectrum is doing to me right now. She has moved my 10yr old 800 miles away… you’re spot on.
You are very welcome. I’m so happy to be back on my channel. A book on all this is coming soon. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me with content suggestions 🙏🏻
@@CoachLiliyaHi Liliya, Hope you are feeling better 🐬✨ A book! Well done congratulations! I will look forward to it.. As for content, anything on female coverts, especially the more covert things we generally wouldn't think about, I'd love more Aha's! Be well, be well..and thanks.🐬✨
Its like these women follow a playbook, I couldn't even have conceived of these tactics, until my ex did it to me and my kids. I didn't understand what was happening until it was too late, now they don't want me and ive had to walk away. How do they even come up with this?
They are vicious. She probably was with another man or several others in the past. You just one on a list. Like a QR code. That's what I have found. They love bomb you to get you over the line. Get a child from you. Trap you. Not reciprocate or appreciate. They then take advantage of men always being "angry and aggressive" . Its called reactive abuse. If someone punches you, you react. But you get labeled the abuser.
my wife is using my daughter against me. i was the stay at home parent and taught her everything. now my wife has booted me after 24 years together ,17 married, only after one year of buying our first house. doing everything she wanted done to the house first, not able to do what i wanted. my daughter is only 11 and i pray shes going to be ok from my wifes lies and problems. so far my daughter is still doing good in school and taking it well i think. but its been tbree months since i last saw her. my wife soon to be x will only make this worse by lieing to our little girl. i will overcome this and still be the father ive always been. nothing will take that from her and me. i will win in the end and my wife will just be the narrsicist she has become even more. love you bug! youre the best. love dad
I'm going through this now with my ex-wife. She's bringing up lie after lie. Solicitor now involved to defuse the situation.... but its horrid. Not sleeping and lost a severe amount of weight.
Great video, my ex has abducted my son now for over a month and trying to get the courts, police and social services involved as she has completely cut me off! 100% alienation
Wife and I are separated in the same house. My two daughters haven't spoken a single word to me in over 2 months. Once we divorce and move out, I can pretty much guarantee I won't speak with them anymore. They are 17 and 13. I miss them, I miss talking to them. My STBX fits all these criteria to a T.
They will realize in time. Have faith, their brains will mature as adults and then they can handle seeing the truth because her abuse will be directed towards them if you're not there. Keep reminding them you're there.
Wow. I'm very sorry. Children have nothing to do with the parents. But some parents cant get that in their head. Those parents need support therapeutic so that they can lay off the children.
I am going through this now. I haven't seen my son for a year. I asked my baby momma why she went to Iceland and didn't tell me where my son was when she was gone for 2 weeks and when I said I was coming to get him because I should of had him with me to begin with, she filed a restraining order on me for electronic harassment, played the victim perfectly and it was granted. Also smeared campaigned me with everyone in our small town to make me look like a dead beat dad with serve anger issues. Also the judge granted the restraining order on me with me son. All I am allowed to do is give positive electronic communication till the restraining order is up. It's been the hardest thing I ever gone through in my life. But it ends on Nov 9th of 2024 so I will be ready for parallel parenting for now on. But my son being without his dad and turning into a teen which I think teens need their dads even more, has been the hardest part to live with and I only live 6 minutes away and see him all the time riding his bike, skating at the skate park and I can't even say hi to my son. And to make it worse, he doesn't even text back when I do communicate with him. No Happy Thanksgiving, No Merry Christmas, No Happy Fathers Day, Not a thank you for any presents sent for his birthdays and holidays. So everything in this video is spot on.
Ive been literally dodging all the setups from her in London. She is trying everything to set me up and I'm recording everything. All pickups and dropoffs i have a recording device to show the police or court when or if necessary. She will possibly get men from her life to fight with you. No problem if you can handle yourself l. But..she will make it out that exchanges are too dangerous because you have anger issues. I'm sorry you are going through this. Ive been going through it for 3 years in court. Another hearing coming up and no end in sight. Thankfully psychologist are getting involved and realizing who she is
Hi, you brought me to tears. I am currently fighting a custody battle. I am poor. The mother of my.child has used my child against me and now suddenly, me and my family are completely cut off from my child. She is using a bogus ex parte as a tool to do this. All counts have been dropped via DCS. However I was advised to wait until speaking with judge. I need help. It's been months since I and my family have heard my daughters voice. I need help because my emotional state is becoming beyond my control. I should get court date next week. But even after, my daughter had to go through hell per DCS. They didnt find anything but everything she had to endure. I dont even know if my daughter will be the same. Mother stated to DCS she was scared of me.😥. Me and my daughter are and have always been best friends and spiritual continuity of each other. My ribs are breaking and my flesh is of nothing. My perception is like a dream. Even her dog is depressed.
Keep your head up and control your emotions. Poor is a state of mind. You are who the creator says you are, and he made you in his image and gave you his title "Father". Stand firm, and don't quit. I understand your pain.
My attorney doesn't know how to approach the judge since my baby momma has been keeping my toddler daughter away from me for almost 3 years since the baby was born. We just established paternity as my petition to the judge, now my atty is trying to pump me for more money, more courts and I am desperate to have my daughter in my life as the mother is falling into "Parental Alienation". I will follow your advice and tell my atty what to do and she doesn't it would be time to fire her end look for a new atty that listen to my concerns and accommodate my needs. Thank you for your professional input.
100%. Narc will use any excuse to alienate. Narc loves to surprise attack u and put u on trial for ur life. Kids be damned, crying cuz mom started another fight? I had to start screaming cuz daddy won’t listen. lol on and on.
Sad to say that I have suffered from the last comment, where the mother of my kid kidnapped my daughter at 2 months old. Life never prepares us for these things.
This is 💯 correct. My narcissistic and abusive girlfriend who I've been trying to leave for several years has taught my 4 year old daughter to disrespect me and undermine me. I cannot displine her when my girlfriend is around.
They are also so manipulative. Often done in ways that are covert rather than the kind of bad mouthing you would expect. It’s just disgusting. Fathers have a human right to see their kids. I went to court in the end. Only way she would listen is when a judge forced her.
I’m just coming to realise my ex is displaying every one of these characteristics you mention and more. Some of the abuse she is now inflicting on our 2 young sons aged 4 and 6 is becoming a massive concern. I look back on our 12 year relationship and now see so much narcissistic behaviour that I was blind to at the time. She has successfully moved a 10 hour drive away from me and has managed to almost totally erase me from their day to day life which is killing me. She is unaware that I am seeing her behaviour for what it really is so What is my best approach to take control back of my fatherly duties and regain a relationship with my kids ?
Try to find what hobbies interests you can participate with them in. Send them gifts within those things. I'm sorry. I have a similar pattern. My son is suffering due to her imbalanced mind. She was withholding in our marriage. Tortured me for 10 years from my mid 20s onwards. I say enough after 10 years. She still got people to believe that I was just a womanizer. Its despicable
I need your help in my situation. I have a medically fragile child that requires 24/7 care and I'm the alienated non-custodial parent. I'm out of money to keep fighting the narc.
How the narc cant accept culpability after several marriages, limited to no visiting allowed with all the previous grandparents uncles cousins, whoever. Everyone is stupid or bad in someway. Why can’t the narc see the pattern?
If a mother alienates the kids, does it mean she is narcissistic? I am in a marriage with a woman who does this and doesn't have empathy, she's had me arrested 4 times, and kept me away from home and the kids for most of the last 6 years. Now she hates me and doesn't want me home anymore.
Damn this exactly what I been Going thru with my 16 yr old daughter & haven’t seen my daughter since in months… Ex just randomly say I can’t come over no more! I’m like wtf! Now my Ex wife doesnt answer my calls my daughter ignores my calls too! Just gave up frfr! Been going thru this for the last 8 yrs! my ex doesn’t tell me anything about school grades let me take her to school picc her up I don’t know about events where about’s or nothing!
Send your kid text messages of encouragement and keep telling them you love them and want to be part of their life. Don't give up. The Narcassict will win. Good luck
An ex can also not challenge the child, even in adulthood, on behaviours which can be quite destructive i.e. anorexia. bulimia etc. so you become the tyrant!
My ex told my daughter that she really doesn't know me. I didn't know my daughter had a boyfriend for a year and she was going to prom, even though I talked to her every Sunday. Even though we had joint custody, my ex moved clear across the country, from Montana to Pennsylvania. My daughter sent me a very nasty text, I was pretty sure it was her mother.
As an attorney i represented fathers in high conflict custody cases. I can affirm that this toxic behavior is damaging to the father, but it is ultimately destructive to the children.
After 25 years, I am now thankfully retired. Best wishes to the fathers and their children.
Very damaging to the dad's. Shit is very sad how we go through things like this😢
This had as much if not more effect on me. None of my 3 daughters speak to me. All because of the lies the mother told them. I couldn’t fight back effectively. Now I pay the price
Oh my goodness. You really hit the nail on the head with this video. Except for the last one, EVERYTHING ELSE HAS HAPPENED AND CONTINUES TO HAPPEN in my situation. Thank you cannot is not enough. These were golden nuggets beyond any price out there, PRICELESS!!! 🙏🏽
Thank you Liliya. Really appreciate your efforts for male victims of narcissism, and talking about this specific issue. My kids are instrumentalized and weaponized against me, since the separation with their narcissistic mother. It is a long game that requires a lot of patience and strategy. May God give strength and patience to all fathers who share the same painful situation. ❤
Indeed.
Glad you are back. You get the problems exactly right. Hopefully the next video will be full of solutions.
Schedule with me if needed, link in bio. Unfortunately the solutions to this are not simple. Damage control only goes so far coparenting with these people.
My kids are grown up and they're still stuck ...
Me too. It's absolutely tragic for them. I just can't reach them.
My son was my buddy. I taught him to walk, talk, fish, hunt, play guitar, play video games, cook, etc.
The alienating began during our separation when he was 16 and in his junior year of highschool.
I didn't understand what was going on. She accused me of being violent. My son knew i was not but i could not even get him to talk to me. She kept coming between us. She also kept coming to have sex with me periodically during our separation while i lived in a hotel. I told her i was filing for divorce.
One night soon after she showed up acting weird and i knew something was up.
I didn't want to deal with it so i went for a bike ride.
I came back to find the cops at my room. I was arrested for felony domestic battery.
I went to prison for 4 years.
She had decided she didn't want a divorce or to split anything after 20 years.
She got everything including my 3 kids, 3 dogs and all my worldly possessions.
After 18 months in prison i was told my son had an aneurysm in his heart. It was the result of Cushing's disease.
Her drama caused my son to have trouble in school. He didn't graduate. Sat at home stressed out all day and all night with the stress of knowing that she was killing us all. I imagine he felt guilt for not standing up for me and letting me go to prison. Plus the lies and manipulation he endured with me gone. At 19 he had to have open heart surgery. He was perfectly healthy before. Headed for university and then the Air Force like me. That dream was lost.
He now has Cushing's, POTS and a vascular disease that is causing him to go blind at 27.
She did all of this to hide her affair with her coworker.
She completely destroyed her son and my 2 daughters futures and handicapped their lives.
All so she could cheat. Now she just lives in denial and is losing her health from the stress. My son doesn't leave the house and hasn't in 12 years.
She got away with it all with no consequences to herself. But my kids and i suffered extreme consequences for her narcissism.
4 lives destroyed...so she could cheat.
The abuse is ongoing for us all. I haven't had contact with any of my kids in 12 years and am still legally married. She won't divorce me. I cant afford to file on my own anymore.
She still files taxes every year in my name and lives in my house.
Its sick.
The courts were so pathetic not to see this. It was obvious what she was doing. But no one cared because she just kept insisting that i was violent and crying on cue.
Even when i only wanted help for my kids she would distract everyone with tears and accusations of violence.
I kept trying to save my kids and she just kept sabotaging us all... and cheating with the same guy. Her principal. Shes a teacher. Not one of her kids graduated from school.
The same school where she is a teacher and her boyfriend the principal.
She ultimately neglected my kids and made sure that they would not reach out to me for help by making me the bad guy. They each had 40 absences in their final year of highschool.
She bypassed all of the safety protocols that should have protected my kids and called attention to the absenteeism. She would have been held accountable for failing my kids. But her and her principal boyfriend found a way around it so she could evade accountability. These people are supposed to protect kids. They used my kids like fodder. I told everyone i knew and people just looked at me like i was crazy. I didn't realize how conspiratorial it all sounded. To me it was simply the facts as i knew them. They both still have their jobs and are well respected by their peers. They've even received awards and accolades for their work as educators. There's a reason why there are so many mass shootings at schools in America. People like my wife and her boyfriend work in them.
Man, I am sorry. Seriously, is there some way I could contact you? Your story made me nauseated…like PTSD…it was so familiar. I need help.
@@brettcordes3602tried responding to you 3 times now. They won't post. I'm sympathetic to anyone who's going thru what I went thru.
I don't know how to get around the UA-cam moderator.
She told me that my son who I had not spoken to in 4 years as a result of her alienation was experiencing suicide ideation.
She told me he was depressed, hostile and suicidal.
It was near Christmas.
She actually wanted my advice because my son and I had been so close before she destroyed our relationship.
I told her to get him into therapy immediately.
Of course she couldn't do that because therapy would have revealed that she was manipulating him.
Much later i found out that she had decided to catfish her son on Instagram.
Rather then get him therapy, counseling or reunite him with his father she decided to give him an online girlfriend to occupy his mind.
So she became his girlfriend on Instagram.
It stopped the suicide ideation.
But i cant imagine what it will create if he ever finds out the depths of her depravity.
Im pretty sure this is how monsters are made. So sickening i can't even help him.
Thank you for making this video
So spot on in my situation and the covertness is their super power for sure
Wow! Nailed it again! I wish I had discovered you whilst I was still in my relationship with my Narcissistic ex-wife so that I could have been prepared for what followed with regards to my Parental Alienation. I was not prepared for the depths with which she would go and eventually went. I have had no contact with my children for coming up 9 years now. It's taken me this long to recover and I'm still not 100%. thanks once again for helping me make sense of it all. xxS.
So sorry man. I can't belive that. Very unfortunate but I can see you have shown strength because you are still alive
Everything you are saying in the video is what my ex wife whom is a diagnosed in the spectrum is doing to me right now. She has moved my 10yr old 800 miles away… you’re spot on.
You are not alone. Schedule 1:1 with me if needed, link is in my bio.
You've just described my life as an alienated parent. To a tee
Again, spot on! Thank you for this series.
Thank you for coming back Liliya, your delivery and truth sinks straight in! Thank you...🐬✨
You are very welcome. I’m so happy to be back on my channel. A book on all this is coming soon. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me with content suggestions 🙏🏻
@@CoachLiliyaHi Liliya,
Hope you are feeling better 🐬✨
A book! Well done congratulations! I will look forward to it..
As for content, anything on female coverts, especially the more covert things we generally wouldn't think about, I'd love more Aha's!
Be well, be well..and thanks.🐬✨
Its like these women follow a playbook, I couldn't even have conceived of these tactics, until my ex did it to me and my kids. I didn't understand what was happening until it was too late, now they don't want me and ive had to walk away. How do they even come up with this?
Narcissists are the most predictable people when you know what's up. Schedule 1:1 with me if you need help processing/navigating. Link in bio.
They are vicious. She probably was with another man or several others in the past. You just one on a list. Like a QR code. That's what I have found. They love bomb you to get you over the line. Get a child from you. Trap you. Not reciprocate or appreciate. They then take advantage of men always being "angry and aggressive" . Its called reactive abuse. If someone punches you, you react. But you get labeled the abuser.
my wife is using my daughter against me. i was the stay at home parent and taught her everything. now my wife has booted me after 24 years together ,17 married, only after one year of buying our first house. doing everything she wanted done to the house first, not able to do what i wanted. my daughter is only 11 and i pray shes going to be ok from my wifes lies and problems. so far my daughter is still doing good in school and taking it well i think. but its been tbree months since i last saw her. my wife soon to be x will only make this worse by lieing to our little girl. i will overcome this and still be the father ive always been. nothing will take that from her and me. i will win in the end and my wife will just be the narrsicist she has become even more. love you bug! youre the best. love dad
I'm going through this now with my ex-wife. She's bringing up lie after lie. Solicitor now involved to defuse the situation.... but its horrid. Not sleeping and lost a severe amount of weight.
Sir I wish you well. This is just the start. Please brace yourself. Its going to get very bad. The court's will take her side. Be strong. Be strong!
Great video, my ex has abducted my son now for over a month and trying to get the courts, police and social services involved as she has completely cut me off! 100% alienation
Book 1:1 with me if you need help processing and navigating this, my scheduling link is in my bio. You are by far not alone.
Wife and I are separated in the same house. My two daughters haven't spoken a single word to me in over 2 months. Once we divorce and move out, I can pretty much guarantee I won't speak with them anymore. They are 17 and 13. I miss them, I miss talking to them. My STBX fits all these criteria to a T.
They will realize in time. Have faith, their brains will mature as adults and then they can handle seeing the truth because her abuse will be directed towards them if you're not there. Keep reminding them you're there.
Wow. I'm very sorry. Children have nothing to do with the parents. But some parents cant get that in their head. Those parents need support therapeutic so that they can lay off the children.
I am going through this now. I haven't seen my son for a year. I asked my baby momma why she went to Iceland and didn't tell me where my son was when she was gone for 2 weeks and when I said I was coming to get him because I should of had him with me to begin with, she filed a restraining order on me for electronic harassment, played the victim perfectly and it was granted. Also smeared campaigned me with everyone in our small town to make me look like a dead beat dad with serve anger issues. Also the judge granted the restraining order on me with me son. All I am allowed to do is give positive electronic communication till the restraining order is up. It's been the hardest thing I ever gone through in my life. But it ends on Nov 9th of 2024 so I will be ready for parallel parenting for now on. But my son being without his dad and turning into a teen which I think teens need their dads even more, has been the hardest part to live with and I only live 6 minutes away and see him all the time riding his bike, skating at the skate park and I can't even say hi to my son. And to make it worse, he doesn't even text back when I do communicate with him. No Happy Thanksgiving, No Merry Christmas, No Happy Fathers Day, Not a thank you for any presents sent for his birthdays and holidays. So everything in this video is spot on.
Ive been literally dodging all the setups from her in London. She is trying everything to set me up and I'm recording everything. All pickups and dropoffs i have a recording device to show the police or court when or if necessary. She will possibly get men from her life to fight with you. No problem if you can handle yourself l. But..she will make it out that exchanges are too dangerous because you have anger issues. I'm sorry you are going through this. Ive been going through it for 3 years in court. Another hearing coming up and no end in sight. Thankfully psychologist are getting involved and realizing who she is
Book 1:1 with me if you need help processing and navigating this, my scheduling link is in my bio. You are by far not alone.
This is great knowledge being shared.
This is exactly the script that my ex followed.
ditto, makes me sick
It is scary just how textbook these people are
You are amazing, all you say is 100% true
Working on it. You can always schedule 1:1 if needed, link in bio.
They don’t want them to no the truth. Anything to save face
Hi, you brought me to tears. I am currently fighting a custody battle. I am poor. The mother of my.child has used my child against me and now suddenly, me and my family are completely cut off from my child. She is using a bogus ex parte as a tool to do this. All counts have been dropped via DCS. However I was advised to wait until speaking with judge. I need help. It's been months since I and my family have heard my daughters voice. I need help because my emotional state is becoming beyond my control. I should get court date next week. But even after, my daughter had to go through hell per DCS. They didnt find anything but everything she had to endure. I dont even know if my daughter will be the same. Mother stated to DCS she was scared of me.😥. Me and my daughter are and have always been best friends and spiritual continuity of each other. My ribs are breaking and my flesh is of nothing. My perception is like a dream. Even her dog is depressed.
Keep your head up and control your emotions. Poor is a state of mind. You are who the creator says you are, and he made you in his image and gave you his title "Father". Stand firm, and don't quit. I understand your pain.
Wow. Thanks. The signs were there (red flags), but I ignored them. Don't settle. Heal.
My attorney doesn't know how to approach the judge since my baby momma has been keeping my toddler daughter away from me for almost 3 years since the baby was born. We just established paternity as my petition to the judge, now my atty is trying to pump me for more money, more courts and I am desperate to have my daughter in my life as the mother is falling into "Parental Alienation". I will follow your advice and tell my atty what to do and she doesn't it would be time to fire her end look for a new atty that listen to my concerns and accommodate my needs. Thank you for your professional input.
Take a ex who has remarried 6 times then blames you for everything
Mine blamed me for getting pregnant for another guy who didn't want her after separation.
We need more content from you.
100%. Narc will use any excuse to alienate. Narc loves to surprise attack u and put u on trial for ur life. Kids be damned, crying cuz mom started another fight? I had to start screaming cuz daddy won’t listen. lol on and on.
Spot on!!!
Liliya you are doing God's work. Keep it up.
Thank you for your words. Schedule 1:1 with me if needed, link in bio.
Scarily accurate
😢😢This happened to me. 😢😢She stopped my daughter and brain washed her from me
This women tells it as it is,as hard as it may be to listen too, it has to be said, the poor kids are traumatised forever in my opinion,so sad.
You described my wife exactly. How do I contact you. Do you accept insurance for therapy?
I don't accept insurance. You can book 1:1 with me if you need help processing this, my scheduling link is in my bio. You are by far not alone.
Sad to say that I have suffered from the last comment, where the mother of my kid kidnapped my daughter at 2 months old. Life never prepares us for these things.
This is 💯 correct. My narcissistic and abusive girlfriend who I've been trying to leave for several years has taught my 4 year old daughter to disrespect me and undermine me. I cannot displine her when my girlfriend is around.
They are also so manipulative. Often done in ways that are covert rather than the kind of bad mouthing you would expect. It’s just disgusting. Fathers have a human right to see their kids. I went to court in the end. Only way she would listen is when a judge forced her.
this is 💯 accurate
Describing my experiencie. Amazing
I’m just coming to realise my ex is displaying every one of these characteristics you mention and more. Some of the abuse she is now inflicting on our 2 young sons aged 4 and 6 is becoming a massive concern. I look back on our 12 year relationship and now see so much narcissistic behaviour that I was blind to at the time. She has successfully moved a 10 hour drive away from me and has managed to almost totally erase me from their day to day life which is killing me. She is unaware that I am seeing her behaviour for what it really is so What is my best approach to take control back of my fatherly duties and regain a relationship with my kids ?
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Try to find what hobbies interests you can participate with them in. Send them gifts within those things. I'm sorry. I have a similar pattern. My son is suffering due to her imbalanced mind. She was withholding in our marriage. Tortured me for 10 years from my mid 20s onwards. I say enough after 10 years. She still got people to believe that I was just a womanizer. Its despicable
I need your help in my situation. I have a medically fragile child that requires 24/7 care and I'm the alienated non-custodial parent. I'm out of money to keep fighting the narc.
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How the narc cant accept culpability after several marriages, limited to no visiting allowed with all the previous grandparents uncles cousins, whoever. Everyone is stupid or bad in someway. Why can’t the narc see the pattern?
Everything in this video happened to me.
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My wife literally told my 4 yr old son that I am not his father during one of her rage moments last night.
If a mother alienates the kids, does it mean she is narcissistic? I am in a marriage with a woman who does this and doesn't have empathy, she's had me arrested 4 times, and kept me away from home and the kids for most of the last 6 years. Now she hates me and doesn't want me home anymore.
Damn this exactly what I been Going thru with my 16 yr old daughter & haven’t seen my daughter since in months… Ex just randomly say I can’t come over no more! I’m like wtf! Now my Ex wife doesnt answer my calls my daughter ignores my calls too! Just gave up frfr! Been going thru this for the last 8 yrs! my ex doesn’t tell me anything about school grades let me take her to school picc her up I don’t know about events where about’s or nothing!
Send your kid text messages of encouragement and keep telling them you love them and want to be part of their life. Don't give up. The Narcassict will win. Good luck
@ we texted yesterday finally! It’s a uphill battle but Thanks for the advice too!
Can you recommend a narcissist abusive coach for men here in Michigan?
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An ex can also not challenge the child, even in adulthood, on behaviours which can be quite destructive i.e. anorexia. bulimia etc. so you become the tyrant!
My ex told my daughter that she really doesn't know me. I didn't know my daughter had a boyfriend for a year and she was going to prom, even though I talked to her every Sunday. Even though we had joint custody, my ex moved clear across the country, from Montana to Pennsylvania. My daughter sent me a very nasty text, I was pretty sure it was her mother.
23 years and counting
you have not seen your child in 23 years?
@@DanMorin007 no I w been with the person who has done the bad in my life for 23 years
@@johnnichols9340Ufff here is 25
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