How My Dad FOUGHT Parental Alienation (with 11 Tactics)
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- Опубліковано 18 вер 2024
- Knowing the truth, I can reflect on how my dad tried to get through to me during the past 20 years of parental alienation. Here are 11 things that my dad did RIGHT... and why his past efforts mean so much to me now.
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This woman is single-handedly giving many fathers who have lost alot of hope… some hope
And many mothers too.
I pray to god that my little girl turns out like you.
Omg you’re so sweet 🥹
@@TheAnti-AlienationProject I genuinely mean it my little girl is in the same position you were so I understand how incredibly difficult it must have been for you to realise what had been going on. If my little girls turns out as intelligent, caring and well balanced as you then It will be the best possible outcome for her. Keep doing everything your doing it is so important.
I’m praying for you Ghost. Pray for me and my son.
Amen 🙏🏾
Going through this now. “My Dad”, hearing You say those words, really brings joy to me. I love my girls. I waited my whole life for them.
I love you Anja and Runa Vernon.
I’ll not give up.
Thank you Miss for your testimony. 11:38
I'm praying about mine too. Also here to learn.
As a Father pushed out of my babies lives. This gives me hope.
Did the mother get a 20 year sentence? Parental alienation is pure evil, Hell seems to be only sentence worthy of it.
They never do.
I totally agree with that.
I suffered the loss of my children due to unknowingly married in to a Devilish Cult hidden in plain sight.
It has been 2 years since I have held my child. He is 15 now...this was very helpful!
Me too..
Well done, Maddie. What happened to you was not your fault. Every child has a right to know both parents. More love is never a bad thing. There is NO place for hate.
Thank you for bringing attention to how traumatizing this horrible abuse is!. At 65 I'm feeling anger, betrayal, rejection, neglecr.. I love my Dad and I believe she was jealous of my Dad's empathy and compassion for me ❤❤❤
When my daughter reached out after three years of silence, she sent me the nastiest most hate filled letter full if some things yes i clearly could have done better but most was things that never happened clearly this aweful narrative she was fed. I got this advice once from an alienated parent - when your child finally grows up and reaches out know it will be angry etc but responfmd simply by saying You are right, I failed you, I was not the parent u needed and I am so deeply sorry. I love you and I am so thankful to hear from you and that you felt safe enough to share your feelings and thoughts with me. I said this to her. I did not get defensive. I did not say no I did not your dad made that up. I made myself an open vessel to hold all her difficult feelings. This was the turning point. This crashed down that false narrative. We have a close relationship now and she lives with me. Trust me on this. It works. In time they will see the truth on all those false things. Best of luck and big hugs to all of us going thru this pain.
It sounds like you handled the difficult situation really well and that it worked out for you and your daughter - good for you!!
I badmouthed my ex twice in 17 yrs. Everyone told me he was ready to hear it at 13/14. He wasn't. The ex used it masterfully to make the child a greater weapon against me. I'll play the long game and when he hits detective mode in his late 20's it won't be considered badmouthing. It will just be the truth. I love the point on setting up a good life for yourself. Many experts say the same thing.
Yes!!! That good life that you set up will provide the much needed security and stability for your child down the line
@@TheAnti-AlienationProjectgrandchildren too
me to.
Even telling your kids truths like » that’s not what your mother and father agreed » , or « what your mother told you is wrong, I didn’t say/do that » can be considered badmouthing because it puts the kid in an i winnable position and they don’t know who to trust, but they take the side of the manipulator cos that’s where there are no consequences for them being in disagreement with a parent.
I always struggle between finding the right line to correct the kids when they’re repeating untrue things (like « daddy left mommy cos he was cheating and mommy didn’t know until later », which is totally untrue, it was an amicable and mutually agreed divorce).
It just seems like none can win. Everyone loses no matter which way the chips fall.
Please GOD let my son Michael remember our strong relationship and all of our good times and we can have that relationship back and that we can have a healthy relationship again.
“A dad would stick around for 20 years just to manipulate?” My best friend’s song to his kids was “I I Hope You Dance”. That’s amazing. Thanks for sharing.
I was talking to expert/>> EFFROSINI KRITIKOS ,ABOUT DISCOURSE & THE TOPIC_ on how to "focus & function" Through DISFuNCTION -weather it be in house on streets or the community, we agree its always spill the beans 🫘
My son is 25. I last held him when he was a baby. The hurt never stops.
You are nor the only one.
Bless your soul
We are all hurting. Like a tire that can’t inflate my heart aches every day
Im 2 years into this alienation. My boy is now 13. Im not sure i will ever get over it.
@@guddsitizen4024 ' you must not die, but, must live and declare the works of the god'. Only thing I did was using all that negative energy to put a curse on all the evil law makers and rulers. Do it at least once a week in sync with moon cycles and you will see those leaders and rulers collapse one by one. They do not deserve any mercy from us as all what they do is capitalising from the problem and make a living and pushing their slavery agendas on all the way down to families to keep us distracted and control us to make their slaves
@connel09. you don't get over it. You learn to live with the pain.
Denying a child love & time with a parent & family members, when they are safe & loving, is time the child will never get back.
Thank you for sharing your story. Sending love from India 🇮🇳
Stop #parentalalienation
Exactly.
I am a father who has had a child turned against him. I have read extensively on parental alienation, and have watched numerous videos as well. This video is excellent and fills me with hope. I am currently working to do the things you mentioned that your dad did during the dark years to demonstrate that he cared for you and would never give up on the relationship. Thank you Madi!!
Your dad is a wise man, Maddie. I find myself intuitively doing most of these things, and your testimony is confirmation that it'll work out just fine IF I continue to play the long game - as you said. 🙌🏼💯
Love that!
As an alienated father i love this video. I hate that you and your father had to go through this, but its great that he remained solid in his love as a father and even more amazing that after 20 years u came to see and appreciate him. You had to come to a realization of multiple things at once. And its bittersweet that when you realize that u have a loving dad finally u have to simultaneously realize that your mother has in fact harmed you for your entire life. This must be traumatic. Wow.
EVERY targeted parent should watch this! Alienated kids all: you can be free of the guilt. The moment you decide to put it fully on the alienator's shoulders and REFUSE to EVER pick it back up, you will be free from the alienator's mind control. They want you to feel guilty, responsible. Reject the guilt/control. I am beyond grateful for these videos! ❤❤
Not knowing all this "stuff" until the last few months, I'm so proud of you AND your dad. Both of you deserve happiness. Love you both.
MARTHA!!!! Thank you SO much. That means the world to me--I can’t even express how much I appreciate your support. I love you.
My daughter is 2 and this is the 3rd time that I have been kept from seeing, hearing from, and knowing how she is doing, and seeing you at 20 kicks me in the ass as I could see my babylove in you without me. This is the most EVIL thing anyone can do
This channel is an inspiration to me because it gives me hope that I'll be able to reconnect with my daughter. She's 11 now, so we're at the beginning of this journey. I'm not ready to give up on family court at the moment, but it's looking pretty damn bleak at this point. I view this as abuse and am trying to get them to see it as such.
The courts don’t care. He who has the power and money wins. It’s really that simple and that frightening.
I was always advised against court, that my eldest son would get to choose and dictate what happened, which wouldn’t protect my youngest daughter.
Some say it’s biased towards women.
Actually I think it is biased towards the weaker party, and it’s so open to their manipulation.
My kids are grown now, but we’re now going through this again with my husband’s kids.
I think we will avoid court, as it will waste so much money, take years, and the manipulation is so bad that even if he won, his girls would resent us.
We don’t want them to live in a battleground.
It’s very very hard.
We all have to find our own way of not giving up. As best we can.
Here is another strategy with regards to badmouthing. A pathogenic parent doesn't have to do it at all. It is sufficient that the children know that the other parent is not supposed to be mentioned, they are not supposed to put pictures from vacations on their Facebook, they are not supposed to show they are happy with the other parent, they simply are not supposed to show anything even that they have the other parent in their life. All this is done silently while the pathogenic parent never talks about the targeted parent directly and only gives impression that that parent is bad. This was my case. But today *I* get accused about talking against that parent who effectively destroyed my relationship with my kids. Because of the comments I made about the behavior I didn't approve, actual actions that no good responsible parent would approve, actions which only pertained to what decisions were made in particular situations and never comments about the character, I get accused today of talking against that alienator parent while she "never talked against me." So, badmouthing doesn't have to exist. It suffices that natural love for a parent is suppressed by silent treatment and obvious displeasure if a child shows affection/happiness for their targeted parent. In my opinion, this is the most insidious strategy for alienation and only sophisticated alienators are able to do that. This was the strategy used in my case.
I'm sorry this happened to you in this way. Yes, it can be very insidious and that makes it all the more difficult to figure out what is actually going on, for everyone involved, the kids and the other parent.
Yes this has happened to me also this week, however in my case any affection shown results in extreme anger towards myself, it has made forming any kind of cooperative relationship impossible and has resulted in severe abuse being sent my way. This is brainwashing plain and simple and while the child is with the abuser sadly this mental state will continue to perpetuate in a cycle.
I feel the same way.
My husbands daughters are not allowed to be happy with us. They’re not allowed to enjoy activities they do with us. Always some excuse
…the pool is making their skin bad, they don’t like skating it’s too dangerous, blah blah blah…
Activities have to be selected by the mother and are imposed on our time. Our weekends are not our own.
Constant messages and texts about how « terrified » the girls are to be with us. It’s such nonsense but the girls are starting to repeat it. It makes no sense..they’re being gaslit and their behaviour is becoming very bad in school.
I think based on this video I’m going to make the girls photo albums to remind them of the fun times with their dad, so that they réalise that their father does spend time with them and doesn’t ignore them like their mother has told them.
He’s such a good father. I wish my own kids had such a good father. It’s tragic for them that they’re being prevented from just being able to love and be loved by their father without fear of consequence from their mother.
This has been my experience… its like I don’t even exist
Exactly why I'm posting all the evidence and praying he sues me. The truth will come out!🙏🏼💜🙌🏼
I am seeing my son for the first time in 14 months today thanks for your videos.
That is awesome! Best of luck!!
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Let's change this abuse! You all are the best, we can do this
As a father myself, I have given everything to protect my daughters! The long game of love, hope, truth, faith, and never giving up is vital! Much respect to to your father too! ❤❤❤
All true! Thank you ❤️🤘✝️ God with us all still dealing with and recovering from the evil
“Parental Alienation” & Narcissistic abuse from ex spouses.
Still fighting for my two teens son & daughter, been over two years now since I have seen them.
My dad watched this today - thank you so much for sharing, Madi! He is already doing the majority of those 11 tactics. I told him to keep it up. We really appreciate all that you are doing to advocate for all the alienated family members!!!
I’m so glad you guys find my videos helpful!! I’m really sorry you’re going through this :(
Good stuff, the no "bad mouthing" is really hard especially when the alienation is blatantly obvious. Sounds like your Dad is a really good man.
It is hard, especially when the child is being used in so many ways and they can't see it. They are too young to see that you are taking the high road aswell.
I was able to not bad mouth the other parent. Instead of thinking about myself, I thought about the damage it would do to my children. I didn't gaslight when they experienced upsetting moments. I validated what they felt from their perspective. A statement that came in handy was " you want your dad to be an orange. You just love oranges, it's what you desire. Your dad is an apple and it doesn't matter how much you wish he's an orange, he won't be. So you learn to accept he's an apple. ". It seemed to help them accept the reality. It helped them I think.
I’m so grateful I found your channel Maddie ❤ my daughter is 22 not seen her in 10 years no phone calls nothing. Her dad after our divorce married a woman for money and they started brainwashing her immediately! I’ve been to hell and back due to this and was painted out as the BAD PARENT and the lies flew out of their mouth like vomit! I was called a drug addict a alcoholic and the truth came out in October of 2020 her father OD to escape his unhappiness and my daughter remained with her stepmother and she helped with the manipulation 💯 I’m so thankful I seen the video that was confirmation for me when you said if you wonder does your child still love you that answer is yes! Thank you so much Maddie ❤ I have absorbed your videos they give me hope and I will never give up on my daughter. She went to college and became a RN but the years I’ve missed hurts so bad. It’s like a death but with no date or time of the death if that makes sense, cause you go through the grieving process like a death but your child is still alive. Thank you Maddie so much your a Angel and I’m so happy that you and your dad can now be happy. Keep doing the videos it’s helping people so much. I didn’t even know others was going through this cause as a parent you feel like a failure a nothing cast aside as someone else calls the shots on your own flesh and blood. Thank you sweetheart ❤💯🥰 My daughter showed up in July of 2021 something told me to go outside and sit on my porch so I did I was watching UA-cam videos with my ear pods in and something said look up and she whipped her jeep in but she wouldn’t get out of her jeep I didn’t charge at her I took baby steps towards her jeep she wouldn’t look at me nor talk she just sat there and I softly said if you don’t want to get out that’s ok and I know you have a lot of questions and when your ready you come back and we can talk but for now I’m going back to the porch and you can go if you like it’s up to you, I slowly made my way back to the porch and sat down and she sat there then she started her Jeep and left. Not seen her since. I was so excited that day then I collapsed in tears 😭 Did I do the right thing or did she feel rejected?
Thank you so much for saying this. It’s hard to keep going sometimes. Knowing it helps some people means everything to me!! I’m really, really sorry you’re going through this. If they knew the truth, everything would be different
Thank you Maddie❤️ I felt when she showed up in 2021 the way she pulled in I thought she was coming for my throat but she didn’t she done nothing but sit there and stare I’m sure it’s normal behavior but I worry about down the road the effect it will have on her.
I'm so sad, ❤ BUT so happy SINCE 2018 AMERICANS & THEIR CHILDREN ARE FULL THROTTLE, EXPOSING ❤ PARENTAL ALIENATION
As a dad who is currently experiencing alienation from my daughter, it truly feels hopeful to hear your story! It is just disgusting and heartbreaking that a “parent” can take part in alienation behavior!
Dad jokes are important.
They serve a vital purpose in the father/daughter dynamic.
This was beautiful. Thank you this is great advice as I’m dealing with this term of parenting alienation with my 19 year old daughter. Your genuine ability to be so transparent is inspiring that it’s a light for us at the end of this journey.
5 years in, losing hope, 3 major court trials, judges are a joke and allow mom to get away with everything
My respect to your dad 🫡I fought the system and my ex for 20 years. plus. I lost every battle. I no longer have my kids due to a narcissistic ex. I have move-on. Life could be worse. Good bless 🙌
The best gift any parent can give is a critical mind, freedom to disagree, to always hear both sides of any story, provide tools for any growing person to make their own minds up regardless of propaganda. Parental alienation is just emotional propaganda. Let them be the character judges in the future.
Because they will be.
My dad died 13 years ago, he still guides me. My mom still has the nerve to talk about him as if he was still alive (in her sick mind he is, through me).
I ended up rebelling and holding a very close relationship with him up until he died. Undercover, of course. He knew better than anyone else (besides me) the rage she could summon. My MATERNAL grandmother used to cover up for me when I went to visit my dad (oh the irony of acting against her own daughter).
We kids find a way.
Glad I didn't miss out on my dad because of my mom.
Girls need their daddies. No other man will ever love us as much.
To this day I still have to suck it up when my mom badmouths him (no respect for the dead whatsoever).
But my trick is to bask on the sweetness she failed to take from me. Without ever realising it.
Karma I guess!
To all struggling fathers out there, keep the faith. Especially with girls, because narcisistic moms are our greatest enemies. Forever.
My Dad died 6.5 years ago. Mom continued to bad mouth him for years after he died. Had to learn to set strong boundaries with her. Have made progress working through the rage I had for her for all she took away from me and .y relationship with my Dad
Thanks so much for sharing
My daughter is 12 now, and after a long court battle, we share custody. However the challenges of doing the right thing in the face of manipulation, distrust and uncertainty have been the hardest part. It means so much to see your story.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I’m currently in California alienated from my two daughters living in Australia. And it’s hard😢… not much help around, losing court herrings, receiving breaches of our family court order, all while not being able to keep in touch
I am a therapist, and just passed on your video to an alienated father. Soooooo helpful. Thank you!
Glad it was helpful! Thank you!
Important to remember (not you, Madi but your audience 😊) that this also happens to mothers.
My daughter has been alienated from her daughter (my granddaughter) by her ex-husband and his toxic new wife. The courts have been less than helpful (& mostly clueless), but my daughter seems to understand many of the things you’re saying. Thank you for speaking out.
We’re not giving up on our girl and she knows that (it’s a family effort, all hands on deck!)
I’m grateful for your commitment to speaking out and wish you only the best on your continued healing journey ❤
I see so much of you in my granddaughter and pray that she will be able to get through the gaslighting cognitive dissonance that her mother is putting her through.
I am an alienated mom - - rebuilding her life slowly but surely and i continue to have hope.
You gave me solace and some sense of my heart can rest, thank you.
Brought tears to my eyes. My little girl, now 9, has had to grow up much too fast, too hard. She's a lot like me so we have that connection. A connection that her mother actively acts to destroy. My son, 7, is more like his mother, but we have our connection too. We are in the process of divorce, and we all still live together. The parental alienation is intensifying... but I'm not giving up. This is a season of withdrawing. Everything I do is met with suspicion at best and outright hostility at worst. My daughter just yesterday came up and kicked me several times while I was doing the dishes and laughed, daring me to do something. My wife didn't say a word and was right there the entire time. If I punish my daughter, it reinforces the narrative that I'm the bad guy. If I allow the behavior, well, it continues. There's no winning. I'm hopeful that getting out of this relationship and house and having 50/50 custody will remedy the situation. I'm about to go back home, and I'm scared. I don't want to, but I must. My kids are worth it. Pray for me. I pray and hope that one day the poison will be drawn from their veins and they'll see. This video is encouraging. I'm not alone. Thank you.
This young lady is fantastic.
Aww thank you:)
My daughters are 2 and 4, and my soon to be ex has passive aggressively begun to alienate. Thank you for giving me hope. She knows I love my girls but it's the only way she can punish me for choosing a peaceful life free of a narcissist's control and dishonesty.
I'm so truly happy for you Maddie. Your story provides hope that in some cases happy endings are indeed possible !
She is so sweet. It breaks my heart to know how brainwashed she was by her Mom against her Dad. It is so painful and unnecessary. All four of my sons were pulled out of my life for over 20 years and are still not back. And over time my ex husband has also kept my two grand daughters from me as well. And I am not an abusive person at all. It's such a distructive way to handle a divorce that hurts children, grandchildren and the alienated parent deeply. And shows how much the other parent is such a selfish coward to use innocent children as a weapon to hurt other people.
Dope 🙏🏾Rarely hear the child openly express the appreciation for a Dad's struggle to be there 💯We Fathers Appreciate You , it's a rough road 😔Blessings and Prosperity to You and Yours , Special Salute to your Dad also , Utmost Respect 🥇
Thank you so much for giving us parents your perspective. It means so much and is so helpful for us that dealing with these situations. Be Blessed Love
Glad he's still alive to see the day and getting back with his daughter. He certainly missed out on a lot because of the other. My brother-in-law is going through what you had to go through and it's terrible to see him have to go through this. The best to you always.
Amazing lady. So strong. I have so much respect for what you have gone through but how well you have come thru.
Thank you so much!
Thank you for doing this. Im a codependant super dad divorcing his narcissistic baby momma and in the process of venting the immense pain she caused me to the only two witnesses who saw it, i am alienating them from her unintentionally. Their mother loves them deeply.. a great mom.. a terribly abusive cheating wife. But my son is now badmouthing her to buddy up to me and ive been having to say no no.. i can tell my truth about what she did to me.. but your truth is she loves every hair on your head so dont you disrespect your mother to me. Shed cut her fingers off for you.
Ty for posting this perspective. Parental alienation is destructive to children and the targeted parent. I’m glad you are on your healing path ❤️🩹 🎉
Your confessions about these hardships resonates with me. I found your videos trying to seek wisdom for my own hardships. I thank God for this blessing of hope.
I love this! It truly gives me hope! I have been alienated from my granddaughter. I have not been able to contact or talk to her in 2 years. I do realize this is my grandchild and not my child, but it is just as hurtful. I try to do all these things, except the cell phone. I doubt she is allowed to have the packages I send. Again, thank you for all you do, Madi !❤
You can bad mouth the alienator with the truth when you need to and still be the better parent. Absolutely nothing wrong with that.
Not true!! It will back fire!
I'm not sure why you would want to do that to your kids. They love that other parent, even if that parent is pathological. Badmouthing their other parent only hurts the kids. Maybe you mean blowing off steam with your close friends in private.
@@robingreenlee3266 it's not like I would just voluntarily bad mouth the alienator but the truth is the truth regardless if I'm just blowing off steam to another person or even to my child and it doesn't have to have anything to do with bad mouthing but just talking to my child and letting my child know about the truth again it's nothing wrong with it. I don't have to bad mouth because I can tell the truth and don't have to lie but again the truth is the truth 🤷🏾♂️
@@user-fo9nk5ty1m that's just a matter of opinion. I will tell my daughter whatever and what she wants to know. Maybe you're about hiding the truth but I'm not. It's one thing when you're talking shit about the other parent when it's a lie and then theirs is different when you're talking shit about the other parent and telling the truth. The child will respect the fact that the parent told the truth as opposed to being told a lie. 🤷🏾♂️
Make sure it’s age appropriate. You have to do what you feel is best for your child, but remember they’re so much more immature than we think they are. I’m not sure any of us know the right way to handle any of it, none of them come with instruction manuals and we seem to mess something up along the way.
My daughter’s father was a very bad man. He lost visitation. I never spoke ill of him, I just told them that he wasn’t healthy and made bad choices that were not good or right to do to them. And mommy was so sorry I couldn’t stop it. I’d never let him harm them again. Of course as they got older the language was older but the message stayed the same. When they turned 18, and after years of counseling and I was sure they were mature and strong enough to handle what the truth was, I handed them all the evidence, court documents, cps records, journals, medical records and answered any questions they had. One daughter refused to read any of it, she didn’t need to, didn’t care and didn’t want to know. The other, the youngest, has read everything cover to cover many times. She even took it with her to her own home reviewing it all with her husband. I’m not sure I did the right thing. But it was my decision just like you are doing what you feel is best for yours.
You don’t need to defend yourself to strangers on UA-cam. You just make sure she knows she is loved, that she is safe, and she is heard! That’s all we can do!
Thank you. I needed this. I've been a devoted father to my precious children. My wife is emotionally abusive and I feel a covered narcissist.
She had me put in jail for domestic assault which I did not do so I'm having to fight that and she got a protection order against me. I filed for divorce because of it all. She's using all of this to weaponize my children against me and it's breaking my heart.
My oldest child is emancipated and we see each other weekly which alleviates the pain. I had to hire a Guardian Ad Litem to get involved and she's seeing the destruction my wife is doing to them but everything is so slow.
I feel the court system doesn't recognize the gravity of this form of abuse like they should. If the courts could see visible bruises on my children they would be forcibly removed from my wife. Yet, they are still with her. I'm trying to be patient and it's hard.
I’m going through this now. My therapist says it will pass. Hearing You speak on Your situation helps. Thank you.
I’m so sorry you’re going though this. If your child knew the truth, everything would be different!🤍
praying for everyone who has experienced this
I’ve been fighting so hard for years and I am so mentally exhausted I don’t know how to anymore
keep busy. work. travel. gym. gaming. whatever works for you 👍
my daughter was moved 900 km away when she was super young moms hid her and contact with her its been 6 yrs since ive heard or seen my daughter i miss her so much if she ever sees this know i love and miss you
Thank you so much for sharing this video. A good word of encouragement for a dad on a long mission to reconnect with his alienated kids. Never give up!
Thank you for this video! I am going through the same thing with my soon to be ex wife and we have a daughter. Your old man sounds like a stand up guy. My ex used the Army against me (I’m in the Army) and it was difficult in the beginning. I did most that was on the list #7 I need to work on. At one time I didn’t see my daughter for 3 months until I obtained a lawyer and got visitation which helped our relationship. I will use your list in the future. What hurts the most is that I want to be in my daughter’s life and her will do anything to disrupt that. I appreciate your channel I truly do. Dads want to be in their kids lives too.
Great video Madison! So glad you're working it out with your dad! It seems like you're feeling some guilt about how you behaved while you were stuck. You don't have to keep that. Completely forgivable. It's ok to get rid of it and just enjoy what you are having now with your dad. He sounds pretty ok and it seems that he would rather you eject that stuff too. Happy recovery!
Yes! Thank you! You’re absolutely right. I appreciate your support :)
So thankful for you speaking up. It means the world to me to hear your story. My son is going thru the same thing with his 11 year old son. It’s so heartbreaking. Thanks for your insight. Many Blessings to you💕💕
This is so beautiful. I applaud your dad for never giving up. I also applaud you for all the work you've done to foster healing and growth. I know I just commented on another video, but I'm so glad you're speaking out as an alienated child.
Thank you for giving me hope.
This is SO VERY IMPORTANT. Any loving parent who experiences this has the breath knocked out of them every single day.
What drains us the most is all of the wonderful memories from when they were young contrasted with now contemplating the entire rest of your life without your child's love and it is completely overwhelming at times because you don't know what to do. It is such a helpless feeling.
Thanks for videos like this that give us Hope where we had none.
Love the internet it exposes the truth.
This is precisely what I have been telling parents to do for years, and I am so thrilled that your dad was able to stay grounded and be present for you AND live a life of joy and purpose. Well done dad!!!! I am sharing this in my Facebook group, the Alliance to Solve Parental Alienation. I loved everything you shared; one thing that you shared was a very interesting perspective. When we are working with parents who are trying to reunite with children and are starting to kick the reunification door open, we avoid the trip down memory lane at first as it is very triggering of guilt button even what you were sharing about the eye-rolling and annoyance is typical. When we facilitate a High Road to Reunification, we never start with memories, or it would take forever to achieve the success we achieve in the workshop. We start with unlocking empathy. Many times, kids who have been through the wringer in court, ineffective therapy, etc are on high alert and waiting to find fault and oftentimes are told we are just trying to brainwash them (comical I know) so memory lane is often a trigger earlier on. Thank you for your brave bold heart in sharing. The more adult children we have speaking up and sharing THE truth and the message is constant the more children will be recovered.
I have never stopped texting them. This has been nearly 3 years.
I have given up on my kids recently, but hearing your story is resonating with me now that there IS in fact hope! I will do better 🙏🏻 thank you so much for sharing!!
Thank you for speaking up.
It gives me hope to see you make it through this type of abuse. It’s a dream I have everyday for me and my children.
God, this was helpful! Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I have held myself back from doing a lot of the things that you mentioned because I worried that the kids would build “bad muscle memory,” meaning they would develop habits of rejecting me that would last. This perspective shows me that I need to “play the long game.”
Had a tough moment last night. Have been looking for some soothing since trying to stay calm n keep it together
I am sorry for your troubles. ♥️
Thank you. I needed to hear this because im going through the same thing your father did!!!! Brought tears to my eyes
Today is my daughters HS graduation and she has ceased communicating with me at all. There was never any winning for me. I e always kept trying. In many of the ways you’ve mentioned. It’s exhausting though. To have had that love then realizing that it’s gone and you didn’t even know it was happening. I will go today. Sit alone as I always have for every single play, concert, or event. I’ll keep trying. I hope she sees what you eventually have seen. Thank you for sharing. 💔
You were never to blame. Thank you for sharing. You have given me hope. 💔
You are doing God's work! Thank you.
I Pray that you have continued success in all of your relationships.
Best Wishes from Montana! M.H.
So glad to find you and hear your brave and beautiful voice! Thank you for giving me hope!🙏🏾❤️
I am sitting here in floods of tears Maddie. Thank you for this insight. It helps beyond anything I have tried to get my head around for the last seven years and counting. Hope indeed remains.
Wow, im really happy you made this. Really nice video. Its made me think about my daughters point of view.
This is powerful and might save some lives of Fathers out there who feel powerless and suicidal
Im going through the same. My little girl is 10. Im experiencing tge same things from her as your dad did from you. Praise God that you woke up. So many don't. I pray that my daughter will.
I write my daughter letters every month on the day of her birthday. I email them to myself and file them away in a folder named after her. I don't believe if I sent them she would receive them. The next time I'm blessed to see her I'm going to print them out and give them to her I'm on letter 15 will be 16 this month.
That's a great idea! I love this! 🤍
I don't know that my dad was anywhere that epic, but he didn't give up, and he doesn't hold any of it against me, so when I was ready, he was right there waiting. I feel like he's one of my most down to earth parents now, when I thought he was so manipulative before.
I’m so sorry you can relate. I know exactly what that feeling is like!! We have a support group for people that have been through PA as kids! You’re not alone facebook.com/groups/866343211792820/
Your dad sounds like a Legend! Well done to both of you for getting through this!! I believe I have similar courage/resilience that he has to get through my current PA situation and i hope my son is as forgiving as you
The number of comments on here is heartbreaking, no one should have to suffer this pain. I'm writing from my son's profile, maybe he'll see this. Children need to be educated, the narcs won't stop their abuse, maybe this is the way.
Needed this today 🙌🏽❤️
Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope that someday I can reconnected with my daughters. ❤
Thank you so much for sharing your experience through child eyes. I’m an alienated parent who truly loves my daughter. The other parent bad mouth about me to my daughter, and this changed the relationships with my daughter. But I don’t bad mouth because that’s not me. I decided to be authentic version of myself.
Hi Madi. I sent you an email with a song I wrote 5 years after I left. Your videos are soooooo validating. Ice messed up so many times. But I've tried to make the right choices. The song, I sent it to my daughter a few months ago. I got a text back "nice". Its a start, and I think a long way yo go if it ever gets there st all. Sent it to my don a few years ago. Hostility. Going to be a long time if ever. K
I will check it out thank you!! Sorry I’m so behind on responding to e-mails 🤦♀️
They do. I’m not giving up. Again, thank you.
All my love to you and your father. 20 years is a long time but better later than never. 💚
I am so proud of the deep person you are.
25 years. Every time I try to contact I get told to FO and Die. Excruciating. I am Glad your Father was able to keep going. It did not Occur to me the X may do to them what She did to me. I too bought each child a cell phone preprogramed with my number. Never used.
Thank you for this… I’m realizing this is going to be a journey for me as a father that it’s going to be a long term battle of forgiveness against the mother of my child and my child being portrayed as the villain
Wow, thanks for sharing. This will help me be a better father!
Thank for this🙏🏻 It gives me hope.
This is such a difficult situation. I hope that my son knows that I love him and miss him a lot❤️
Wow you are so brave Maddie🥰 I am SO thankfull for this🙏🏻☀️
I've been going through the same exact same thing with my daughter my ex wife had an affair and when I started dating and moved on she filed an op claiming I abused her. My ex not my daughter. But for months I wasn't allowed to even talk to my daughter and after we proved none of it was true my daughter believed it and blamed me. I won't trash her mom to her at all she is a child. It's been 5 years and my daughter is only here every other weekend and to this day she says if you didn't do the stuff mom said then why do you only get me 3 Days. It kills me everyday I pray she comes around like you have seemed to it's terrible I've lost her entire childhood but will take anything at this point. I'm not sure how someone can be so cruel to the child to keep them away from the other parent and courts work aginst dads. I proved several times about her lies thinking it would change things and it didn't.
Love what you’re doing Maddie! Thank you