How do we get a quality partner for a real relationship?

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  • Опубліковано 22 сер 2024
  • Viewer Alexandra asks, “For those of us who want to get a real partner for a real relationship- which are the right steps to achieve this? How do we spot the right man for that, or right woman?” Learn why the foundation of your relationship is created by the foundation of your thoughts.
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 133

  • @penelopeplimsoul3617
    @penelopeplimsoul3617 6 років тому +92

    Honesty is a form of respect. I'm honest with my dates. I'm not talking about oversharing. I'm talking about being emotionally honest and telling them whether I believe we're a good match or not. There's no point in wasting their time or mine.

  • @ecaterinasavenco6680
    @ecaterinasavenco6680 4 роки тому +24

    Finally found someone who i feel safe to take advice from, without worrying about being trapped in a bundle of tricks and short-term solutions. Thank you! Your content is much appreciated!

  • @ems8717
    @ems8717 6 років тому +53

    I love that you say this because most videos are about mindgames but it's to much. With the right person you dont need to play tricks

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +10

      Thank you Jana. You just can't build a true relationship from the rubble of the game. It's not possible. Better to start with a great foundation of honesty and clear communication. Thanks for your comment.

  • @mollymoe6712
    @mollymoe6712 6 років тому +36

    You are great Susan! At a point in my life I tried to convince myself I was the "chill girl" who didn't want a long term relationship. Then I started dating and realized I had to stop being not me, and learn to not only be okay wanting a long term relationship, but to actually own it.
    I just started watching your channel....you're very well spoken!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +1

      Hi Molly. Great to have you here.

  • @alexandramaria7754
    @alexandramaria7754 6 років тому +51

    Thank you so much Susan for use my question in your video. All you said Yes it's so true, I've been single for almost two years and it's something I use everyday, being me :) I don't care if they run away after the first date, or the second or the third... I just know what I want and what I want is not play games with anybody, just catch the right partner to share my life with.
    One super mega huge kiss from Portugal ;)
    Alexandra

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +10

      THIS WAS FOR YOU, Alexandra. I'm so pleased you liked it.The best thing you can do is to hold the vision of what you want, and live your life fully. That's how it occurs. Wishing you well.Thanks for the topic suggestion.

    • @alexandramaria7754
      @alexandramaria7754 6 років тому +2

      That's so true Oxana Smith, that's so true. But you know in nowadays seems like most of guys are sleeping and waiting for women do all the work... and that's so silly! Yes we have to show our interested but never guide the boat all alone. The question I made was for clarify women and even men that we don't have to work that hard when the right person appears and never, but never lose our own way ;)

    • @alexandramaria7754
      @alexandramaria7754 6 років тому

      Yes I will ;) I don't really worry about it. I know who I am and where I am going, it's a question of time for him to comes up ;) ;) Kisses Oxana!

    • @zhangfan5955
      @zhangfan5955 6 років тому +1

      Oxana that is so true what u saying here !!!!! I totally agree with what u said on - When a right guy will show up, he will be the one who will try to catch you, and it's absolutely different dynamic when real guy comes around !!!

    • @UnexpectedWonder
      @UnexpectedWonder 4 роки тому +1

      @@alexandramaria7754 What kind of Guys are you dealin' with? I'm encountering that I often have to majorly pursue, which is different from chasing.

  • @richb7682
    @richb7682 6 років тому +5

    I really like Susan and her perspective of what i'll call refreshing reality. As respects this video, it seemed to be about being authentic and real - no games, just being comfortable with yourself and portraying same. Letting the quality of whom you are shine thru and let it attract the same in someone else. This quality is what I think makes Susan so popular; and, she has some wisdom to share that is valuable and will stand the test of time. I don't wish to learn how to play a game well. Life is too short.

  • @luulips
    @luulips 6 років тому +10

    This is so true! I started with a guy I was dating straight up and real by first telling him I had alopecia. From that time on I can’t even change from anything but real. Even if I try to tell myself I will do something else. I come back to myself and blurt out nothing but me, lol! And whenever I do that he responds even better than before and in such a happier way. Omg! And I had stopped talking to him for a little while because he wouldn’t call, he just kept texting and it drove me nuts. I broke off in the sweetest way. He came back in the sweetest way and now calls just the way I want and I call him. See I had to do it in a way that was right for my personality so I believe that’s why it worked out and got through to him.

  • @Gardenpath11
    @Gardenpath11 6 років тому +3

    I am so delighted to hear someone finally say be true to what you want. I'm exhausted listening to advice on how to act. I always thought to myself just be yourself, Which is a genuinely nice person. Yet when I was , men misconstrued it for desperation and neediness of which I'm far from. I personally forced myself to date because I have no problem being alone...and yes if they run then they just weren't for me! I want what I want!!!!
    A million times I thank you Susan Winter💕

  • @johnwarak5375
    @johnwarak5375 3 роки тому +4

    This is one of singular, most useful dating advice I've ever got. Thank you Susan. I discovered your channel couple of weeks ago and I can't get enough of all of your exceptional relationship advice. PS. I love it how genuine you seem and are. Blessings to you :-)

  • @care6414
    @care6414 6 років тому +31

    YOU ARE SOOOO AWESOME!!! This has to be played all over again for everyone, THANK YOU!!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +1

      That's kind of you to say. Thank you, care.

  • @lisaweglinski7999
    @lisaweglinski7999 5 років тому +1

    I literally watch this day in and day out. Probably the best advice EVER. Be The Person; its that easy, Keeping your vibration high is key. Thank you, thank you for such wonderful work!

  • @tavi885
    @tavi885 6 років тому +2

    Thank you so much for reminding me to be honest with myself...”Start real, be real, be the person that will attract the person you want at all times.” What great advise!!! 🙏🏽 thank you!

  • @katherinegoodacre9519
    @katherinegoodacre9519 6 років тому +6

    Thanks
    Will be looking Forward to Sharing
    the Journey!!!
    What we All really want is to be Loved.

  • @JessicaSkyy
    @JessicaSkyy 6 років тому +2

    great advice. I made the mistake a few times of listening to friends instead of being real and staying authentic to what I wanted. I switched gears slightly and Things went left. These video are indeed going help me to step back into trusting myself and My power . Thank you susan!

  • @zoejin8107
    @zoejin8107 6 років тому

    know the values and quality you want in your partner, and BE that person, Heart Mind Soul, send out a consistent and strong signal, he will recognize you in the crowd, because you are the women he is praying for. thank you, Susan, I truly admire your Wisdom. love from China.

  • @NarnianLady
    @NarnianLady 5 років тому +1

    excellent. of course, being genuine won't guarantee that you won't attract wrong people for the wrong reasons.. but being real is the only way to eventually find happiness.

  • @LisaGemini
    @LisaGemini 3 роки тому

    This makes a lot of sense, Susan. I am a really open, honest person and I hope to attract the same. You have to BE what you are seeking. You're so right! I never play games. Those are for kids!

  • @mohammadalimoinfar9041
    @mohammadalimoinfar9041 6 років тому +1

    Thank you, Susan! 👌This video is utterly relieving. I believe remaining true to your authenticity and original values is the key to personal happiness in a healthy relationship.

  • @AxelSituation
    @AxelSituation 6 років тому +1

    Real gets Real, and Game gets Game. Love it!

  • @katherinegoodacre9519
    @katherinegoodacre9519 6 років тому +8

    Excellent Advice.
    "To the Known Self be True"

  • @JM.TheComposer
    @JM.TheComposer 4 роки тому

    This is absolutely brilliant. I love how you break this down logically, and get to the viewer's question, without taking down to or denigrating other 'technologies' for interpersonal and intimate relationships. Thank you for this, Susan! I'm filing this in my 'really good relationships info' playlist.

  • @maipham4766
    @maipham4766 6 років тому +3

    hi susan, i was watching your videos when i was single, and you helped me a lot, now i'm in a great relationship for more than one year and we moved together, and we are really happy and excited, however, i start to feel anxiety and pressure, that everything is on one way too much for me, but on the other way i am so happy and want it to be perfect and scared to loose him, because we live together, i start to think like "he is loosing interest because i am now more available and so on, i know somehow it's not real, but on the other hand, it stick so strong in my head and would love to hear your opinion about it - thank youuuu

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +4

      Great self-awareness. You've got to work on your head (your thinking). Most people would be happy to have achieved a relationship and living together. Trust your love, and trust yourself.

  • @mrsbobbicisse
    @mrsbobbicisse 5 років тому

    As i was divorcing, I was dating and we both expressed we didn't want a relationship and I knew at some point I would be more open than he. He ran after 3yrs as our conversations changed and we had an argument about something unrelated I believe because he knew I wanted a relationship. We're in limited contact but will hopefully be friends for the rest of our lives as we've always been.

  • @ms.hawkins7919
    @ms.hawkins7919 5 років тому

    “Listen to yourself” simplicity! 💓 u Susan

  • @carriea.2467
    @carriea.2467 6 років тому +6

    I agree with you Susan 100% it backs fire you.🌴

  • @cosmopolitanbay9508
    @cosmopolitanbay9508 6 років тому +6

    Thought - word - deed - heart ... Love it!

  • @carolynanderson3338
    @carolynanderson3338 6 років тому +4

    You are amazing! I found you through The Art of Charm. Such words if wisdom! 😊

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +1

      Carolyn Anderson I love Art of Charm and Jordan’s wonderful interviews. Thanks for joining me here as well!!

  • @dougmannix2559
    @dougmannix2559 4 роки тому

    That makes a lot of sense!!! Thanks for the insight Susan. I have a situation that is very different from most but listening to you helps me see things much more clearly.

  • @Lana0624
    @Lana0624 6 років тому +4

    Thank you Susan!

  • @lisaweglinski7999
    @lisaweglinski7999 5 років тому

    I literally watch this every day as a reminder.Thank you.

  • @MrAitorSJ
    @MrAitorSJ 5 років тому

    You're amazing, Susan. You're doing so much good to people. Thank you so much!

  • @kpopangel
    @kpopangel 6 років тому +2

    Thank you, Susan! Thank you again and again. Now I know I've been meeting all the wrong guys, and it's not my fault, nor is it theirs. We just wanted different things, that's all. Now I wish we know how and where to meet men who actually want real relationship. :')

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +2

      Continue to radiate your vision, and open your eyes to every time you're out in public.

    • @kpopangel
      @kpopangel 6 років тому +1

      Aww.. thank you for always taking the time to review readers' comments. Hugs and kisses.

  • @gerrimiller3491
    @gerrimiller3491 2 роки тому

    Hello gorgeous Susan 💞you're so wise and very sweet!! I am determined to meet someone who is somewhat compatible mentally, physically and spiritually. I pray that the guy is not arrogant ☺️

  • @jo444
    @jo444 6 років тому +3

    Thank you Susan!❤️

    • @dianepopnick5850
      @dianepopnick5850 4 роки тому

      I have always been real but can't find what I want. At this point I am much happier single than settling for less than I deserve. I never played games and never will.

  • @MariamShaalan
    @MariamShaalan 6 років тому +4

    Lovely, thank you!

  • @nurzaidah931
    @nurzaidah931 3 роки тому

    Thank you so much Susan😊

  • @carlitacabrera5845
    @carlitacabrera5845 5 років тому

    I totally love and needed to hear these words Susan!. Specially from someone like you who I respect so much.. Thank u.

  • @margoquintana2283
    @margoquintana2283 2 роки тому

    Fabulous colors in the top you're wearing in this video. Really play up your eye and hair color!!!

  • @kelpiegirl
    @kelpiegirl 6 років тому

    Fabulous Susan. Be true to yourself. No games.

  • @marcyallison5996
    @marcyallison5996 6 років тому +8

    Being lesbian our gay world is very small wherever you live and it is very hard to meet a quality person who is looking for a real relationship. I have talked to others all over the country and I am hearing the exact same thing. I am not into the bar scene so I do the dating sites and wow are they discouraging!! Please trust me on this. Any advice Susan?

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому

      I do understand. Though you may hate it, look online. And try for a niche market- unified by activities, and common interests. Best wishes!!

  • @marissaspieker9316
    @marissaspieker9316 6 років тому +2

    Perfect!...thank you for this truth.

  • @farhiaaddedadeed1836
    @farhiaaddedadeed1836 Рік тому

    Wonderful massage

  • @ifenyah9416
    @ifenyah9416 6 років тому +3

    Loved this. Thank you.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому

      I'm really happy to read this. Thanks Ife.

  • @jenhug8
    @jenhug8 6 років тому

    Love your videos Susan. They are so refreshing in the most empowering and optimistic of ways! My philosophy regarding the above is, "He's going to find out who you are sooner or later," and if you are afraid of that and/or he doesn't ultimately like you for who you are, then you are going to be miserable anyway!!! And really, why date a silly fellow like that. So, that is my two cents worth and thank you for all the great work you do!!!

  • @ghadag8128
    @ghadag8128 6 років тому +4

    Thank you so much susan for this gorgeous vidio , you are my helpful wonderful sister i don't have i love u

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому

      Ghada G What a beautiful comment! Thank you.

  • @nelasolanovillegas2043
    @nelasolanovillegas2043 4 роки тому

    Just AMAZING!!!! Thank you!!! Love and respect from Argentina 🇦🇷

  • @ilsewenzel7227
    @ilsewenzel7227 6 років тому

    20 K subscribers, congratulations Susan

  • @longtermst
    @longtermst 4 роки тому

    People can feel weakness. Fear just sucks the life out of everything. Two people fearless about the same goals and plans is rare. Too much masculinity on the market. Men already have an abundance of that in themselves

  • @bebeskoda
    @bebeskoda 6 років тому +4

    Love you love you love you!!! Xoxo, From your bestie from the westie

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому

      haha. Love reading your notes. Thanks!!

  • @SparklyGirl9911
    @SparklyGirl9911 5 років тому

    Smart advice! It all makes perfect sense! Yes, I’m going to keep praying for “the perfect Bookend”.

  • @genna2586
    @genna2586 5 років тому +1

    So true Susan. Being genuine is the best policy.

  • @elidaqt
    @elidaqt 6 років тому +6

    Preachhhhhh!!!!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому

      Hi Carmela.

    • @elidaqt
      @elidaqt 6 років тому +1

      Susan Winter Hey Susan! Thanks for your insight!

  • @ThatCarEnthuZiastBrittany
    @ThatCarEnthuZiastBrittany 4 роки тому

    I’ve been wondering the answer to this for years now!

  • @etherealexperience4302
    @etherealexperience4302 11 місяців тому +1

    so good

  • @mareden6555
    @mareden6555 6 років тому +1

    Great advice. Thank you. 🍎

  • @whisperingwind7730
    @whisperingwind7730 6 років тому +1

    Excellent video!!!! 🙌🏻😄👍🏻
    Thank U for sharing ur great insight!!!!
    Much love Susan~ 😘❤️

  • @atread1001
    @atread1001 6 років тому +6

    OMG YES!!! The most truth in dating yet here, boom.

  • @sc8649
    @sc8649 6 років тому +3

    yes yes yes

  • @davidthomspson9771
    @davidthomspson9771 4 роки тому

    Yes your right.

  • @goldenstar9379
    @goldenstar9379 6 років тому +3

    Just wondering how you get all the information. Amazing

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +6

      Thanks Penelope. I apprciate your kind words. i think it's part of being an only child. I grew up thinking about things, and needing to make sense out of constructs that other's seemed okay with glossing over. Regardless, I do hope to be of assistance in finding love and relieving heartache.

    • @goldenstar9379
      @goldenstar9379 6 років тому

      Thank you for your answer ,I wasn't expecting it because there's so many questions but then I have noticed that you always replied to people's comments. That's really good of you Susan . I am going to learn a lot from you because I always getting things messed up people. Have a nice day ,stunning lady .

  • @ONLYLOVEIZATION
    @ONLYLOVEIZATION 4 роки тому

    This is great! Thank you

  • @LifeTrucking
    @LifeTrucking 6 років тому

    Thank you Susan. Quick Question- do you send a valentines day gift to someone you met in November and you’re spending time as friends but also flirt and touch on subjects such as sharing future goals?

  • @LiveDangerously77
    @LiveDangerously77 4 роки тому

    Its a lot easier to be Real than play some type of game to attract their attention. Be the person u want to attract! Thank u :)

  • @MB-qm2re
    @MB-qm2re 6 років тому +3

    Thank you Susan. I hope you could also save some people who live fake everyday this way!

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +2

      Maryam B Awakening to one’s Authenticity is on its own time schedule. However, it’s possible that speaking of a this topic can catalyze that awareness and jumpstart the process. Thanks for your input!

  • @feliolipa3851
    @feliolipa3851 5 років тому +1

    You speak the truth

  • @confusedspoons
    @confusedspoons 4 роки тому

    Thank you 💜

  • @newbeginnings1543
    @newbeginnings1543 5 років тому

    I’m being real but dating just isn’t working for me. Thank God I have a wonderful life otherwise. Maybe I’ll give up on this area. Just too complicated. Thank you for your wonderful work 😊

  • @fidjicz
    @fidjicz 5 років тому

    Susan, but it’s a real thing that a woman can’t show interest and happiness at the beginning unfortunately. Guys just consider that woman an easy target if she does it. He’s got an upper hand and is in charge of the situation. I can see where you’re coming from and it’s very frustrating for us who are honest and serve themselves on a silver plate.
    From my personal experience this applies for men across all age groups. Being my naive self I’d think a man in his fifties would be different (compared to those in their thirties).
    Thanks for your videos. Whenever I feel like I’m losing my sanity your videos help a great deal. X

  • @laurahoffman8562
    @laurahoffman8562 6 років тому

    Love this!

  • @dyfrigshandy
    @dyfrigshandy 6 років тому

    THANK YOU, SHIFU

  • @ilsewenzel7227
    @ilsewenzel7227 6 років тому

    I am listening to you through my email today, Susan I wonder if it would be good to do a segment about dating at an older age. There are so many baby boomers who may listen

  • @d333pmind8
    @d333pmind8 6 років тому

    Yay! a spiritual approach

  • @ritz25winters98
    @ritz25winters98 4 роки тому

    Thiis video hit me hard ..I played games before..Right Susan ..games gets games😉I’m not happy about it☹️

  • @1701patrick
    @1701patrick 5 років тому +2

    I met a women, I took it slow, let the fire build, it became romantic, I made her come come like no tomorrow, then boom, I don't think you are what I want in a boyfriend. Boom! She leaves, I get a email the next day ". You make me happy and smile, I value our friendship and " extra benefits", Should I take her up on that and see if I can change her mind while having great sex, or let her go, cause I know I love her and want it all from her.. What to do??

    • @jadehalliday6636
      @jadehalliday6636 5 років тому

      You let her go. She already told you that you're not her preferred person for a relationship.
      It's rare that you're able to change someone's mind like that.

  • @entermiracle6
    @entermiracle6 4 роки тому

    Susan you are the best 💓 I love you soo much ❤️

  • @rjstarfish4367
    @rjstarfish4367 5 років тому

    'Real gets real.'

  • @evygil
    @evygil 6 років тому

    AWESOME!

  • @emanuel_soundtrack
    @emanuel_soundtrack 5 років тому

    exactly

  • @carmelahorvath3128
    @carmelahorvath3128 6 років тому +7

    so many mistakes to make whether real or game.

  • @axlVino
    @axlVino 6 років тому +1

    wauw Suzanne im starting to fall in love with this beauty person nut she wants tot take it slow. so .wants a relation

  • @barbarawilson3153
    @barbarawilson3153 3 роки тому

    Well I want a relationship is there any real men out there that want one too?

  • @ritz25winters98
    @ritz25winters98 4 роки тому

    ❤️❤️❤️

  • @avaj2825
    @avaj2825 2 роки тому

    What kind of whatever are those people looking for???

  • @theyekketheyekke2362
    @theyekketheyekke2362 4 роки тому

    If you’re over 33 as a woman, it’s game over for you. Just be younger

  • @12345fasttrack
    @12345fasttrack 4 роки тому

    Susan i'm into white women and so how do i find a beautiful older white woman like you in a relationship?

  • @koalajane7397
    @koalajane7397 6 років тому +6

    You rock, Susan. We appreciate you.

    • @SusanWinter
      @SusanWinter  6 років тому +1

      You're a doll to say that. Thank you

  • @UnexpectedWonder
    @UnexpectedWonder 4 роки тому +1

    I'm very Real and only desire a Real Relationship. It's really difficult when you keep gettin' turned down initially or after awhile though...