I find if you decide what you are willing to lose and not cross that boundary, you can maintain your personal power. Really listen to this video and act accordingly. I’m sure it can help.
She nailed it. I was thinking about waiting 4 days to call this girl after our first date but MY truth is no games and just to put myself out there to the world with loving intentions and txted her for a second date. In the end if someone truly likes you it won’t matter what games are being played because they will dissolve
How refreshing to hear this. I have always felt that it was a measure of strength and good self esteem to be able to confidently express your love to your partner but far too many life coaches and "relationship experts" suggest that it is a sign of weak neediness which turns off the recipient. What a load of rubbish. The truth sets you free. Own it and rejoice in it and quote right be proud of it! Totally correct that how your partner receives that truth and processes it is up to them. You have done the right thing.
Spot on Susan! I feel pre-programmed in today's society to not express how I feel, but play a "game"...it goes against my inner self...thank you for a great video!
I did the other day. I told him ... he didnt call anymore. It's a pity but I felt good. I will not lower my standards anymore just to find out later that it was not going to work out anyway. Thank u Susan. One day someone will stay. :)
Direct communication is powerful. It's also a little terrifying and takes guts if you're timid like me! I wonder what my next opportunity to be powerful will be.
Monique Forrester Sadly, in my experience women are the least equipped willing or able to be straightforward.It has been said that 'one can either love women or understand them'. It is not possible to do both.
@@63Baggies In order to love someone, understanding them is a requirement. Otherwise, you just like how they look/sound. (or whatever convenient thing they provide to your ego or needs)
I was in a relationship, which the guy didn't admit to, that was his problem. When I asked him about the future of it, he gave me reasons why he cannot be with me. Good. After 6 months of my no contact, he calls, but doesn't speak directly about anything. Just like you said Susan, my golden period came😄. I never felt so positive to speak up wisely in any of my previous relations about what I wanted, this happened only because of you. I wrote directly to the guy the very next day abt what and how I needed for the relation to work, and he didn't contact...😝 That's ok, but now I am clear in my head. Thanks a ton, Susan👍🏽
I love how Susan mentions the 'asking questions' aspect of relationships. I have so many friends who meet men and don't ask questions instead ask friends what a man might be thinking or feeling. Yes it takes courage but you have to be adult enough to open your mouth. Without knowledge people perish!
Yes! Some of my friends are afraid to ask their partners questions too. I'm not afraid to ask, because i'm looking for someone who knows how to communicate their thoughts and emotions effectively - so i'm not afraid of any answer they may give. Another thing is to not be judgemental in response to their answers. They then feel comfortable telling you the truth, and sometimes even offer without you having to ask, which makes it easier for everyone :)
Ahhh yes the old let's ask others about a person u know better than everyone mistake lol. ask other people that only want to see U happy and are never gealouse of your success or happiness. 🙄 Direct communication like mentioned in vid makes the other person accountable. For example, do U like me? If asked and answered yes then this makes that person accountable for there actions. If never asked and just assumed by u, this gives the other person an exuse, a get out of jail free card to play U and leave u. All they need to say wen they ghost U after using U is, I never said I liked U!. 🤷🏻♂️
And I must add that the truth does make you feel powerful. Since I told this guy in the beginning that I have alopecia I can say just about anything with so much confidence and without fear. Oh yes the truth shall set you free lol! Its empowering indeed.
OMG, where have you been, women. You are a breath of fresh air. I bow to you, my savior, I think I might just follow you off a cliff, if you said it was the right thing to do. I have just recently discovered you among the sea of love relationship "experts". Out here in UTube land. I confess, I only listened to the men, since well they know what's in San man's head better than us women, you are the first women who makes total sense. I will be following you, and writing you for sure . I am 67,and still looking for my Mr. Right. At least I know now, after all these years and many mistakes. Maybe I still have a change? Bless you and keep up the great work. Like me, I am sure as the sun rises each day, many feel the same about you. We need you!!! Sally B.
Last night i confessed to this guy i'm casually dating that for nights and mornings i have been intensely liking him and he took it really well. He just wants something casual right now and i dont want to be anything more but i just wanna say i like him very much and ...it may not go beyond..but i feel so much power and so much freedom in just saying it like a rock has been lifted off my chest. Thank you Susan for always encouraging truth and honesty
I think you're amazing. You are so emotionally astute and strong. You seem to read my mind and what's going on in my life. I've recently accepted I can't continue be in my head all the time. I have felt stifled the last few years, not true to my honest and open character. It's liberating. Thank you so much. 💜
Yes! It's so much better to be direct. It keeps a person from feeling uncertainty and bitterness. It is also definitely empowering. It's hard to see anything but good results coming from it. Especially if you hope to have a long term relationship with someone.
How freeing it is to be able to express what I feel. To have it all bottled up inside and not speak up, it's excruciating. It's refreshing to know that doing makes you proud of yourself to be able to take a stand. Though you fear what the result might be
Thanks Susan. I just wish more people would see this video. This is what truth and authenticity is all about. I'm very clear from the beginning with any date what I'm looking for in a relationship and been branded stupid at times by showing my hand. Well I know what I want and don't fear rejection either. This real life. You continue to validate some of my most desired values. I'm not settling for less and that's for sure. Gone are the days when I was young and stupid. Thanks again ☺
I'm writing a letter to my partner today....and the outline of my letter matches what you've shared in this video perfectly. Thank you for giving me confirmation. Your videos have been incredibly helpful to me!
THANK YOU & AWESOME HOLIDAYS, SUSAN! 🎄❤️✅You are such a GIFT to the world! I am so blessed to have found the right Dating Coach whose philosophy is congruent with HIGH VALUES & HIGH STANDARDS. Amen 🙏🏼🌺We LOVE YOU 🤗😘🎁
thats spot on, thank you! whenever i watch something inspiring i tell myself to watch it everyday to remind myself. we are quick to forget and often fall into old thinking habits. i will replay this video for sure.
As I am getting older, I have eliminated a lot of bs from my life.When I like a person I tell them, the love word unfortunatelly has a different meaning in our society, and people reserve it for a special occasion. I recently told a man I love you, and he responded a week later with I love you, BUT. The BUT part carries a lot of compromises and at the end of it, maybe a I like you is safer.
My ex boyfriend was scared away just because I told him I loved him. I still do have feelings for him, it I’m glad I told him that! You’re awesome Susan 💃
Wow!! Clarifying the difference between vulnerability really showed me that I am not really as vulnerable as I thought I was. I prefer direct communication. But I realised they are both different and I need to start being more vulnerable as well. Thanks a lot. I just love your videos. They make me so happy. I don't feel confused anymore. I feel sure about what I want and going for it. I absolutely love your advice.
Dear Susan, your videos are so liberating. With all the mess out there, I believed that I simply cannot be myself and honest because every time I was, I got rejected or ghosted and because I have never had plethora men courting me, I believed that something is wrong with me. So every time there was someone around, I played the games because I thought it is required but at the end of the day, it never worked and I felt like a fake. I guess I just need to learn how to express myself again and stop the guessing games. Thank you!
I love this! Soo what i needed to hear today. In a world where we are continually told what we need to do to get the guy. This seems to be the opposite..we are told to be mysterious and play hard to get..apparently that is the Crux of a high-value woman? I love how you put an emphasis on being true to yourself. I have had a history of being needy so I'm a bit scared to enter into complete honesty. I would love to just be able to share that truth too. Is that too much truth? And what if I'm not sleeping with the guy? Is the truth too much too soon? Can I just say I think that you're awesome! Thanks for being real :-)
Hi Becky. Thanks for your wonderful note. Certainly be your authentic self-but at the same time the measure much you choose to reveal to a new partner. Honesty evokes honesty. But no one needs a full history of every detail of your life. Those details are reserved for people you trust, at a later date.
As I was going about my day today, I thought I need a sign of some sort to help with where I’m at. I arrive home and your video is there, you are so spot on Susan. I knew this is what I had to do, but as you say, this being vulnerable was getting in the way. You have so cleared things up for me....thank you🌹
You speak the truth. I know what I want. I have not found her yet. So I continue to move forward each day. Being the best version of myself. Enjoying each day as a gift from God!!! I have faith that she will show up and desire the same thing. Thank you.
Amazing, thank you! I was direct with my man, and it made me feel powerful, because I saw it as being direct and truly believed there was no shame in this, despite what people say. I just didn't want to be stuck, and that motivated me to speak my truth, not only to myself, but to him, and not in a way like it's something that would make me vulnerable, but as something that's easy and natural and pure to do.
Being direct feels vulnerable to many people. As you know, I think it's powerful. It takes a lot of courage to speak the truth. But the best part is that everyone knows where they stand. There's much less confusion, and greater communication.
100percent Everything you spoke. Nothing worse than having the strength to speak your mind to then only be called insecure🤨 Apparently to decieve play games and never addmit you like some1 is were the power at. This vid gave me hope again Thank u
I Did it, actually this guy didnt look for the same thing among us, but Im not afraid anymore saying what and how I want. It feels great, thanks Susan !!
I honestly agree with everything you said but having said that, it still can be very challenging to be direct with people because people can suck and can enjoy knowing someone likes them
I love your videos Susan! I learn a lot from you that helps me in my relationship of four years with my woman. Direct Communication is the key to a happy healthy relationship
This is my favorite video. I struggle so much with this. I want to improve. I am going to therapy. I know what needs to be done but there is something holding me back. I need to address these issues in therapy. I am not living my life to the fullest.
I love you Susan! You just made my day! We speak the same language, for years And years I was labeled naive and stupid for stating what I feel and who I'm That made me afraid and ashamed to show the real me! Hahaha now I'm in a much better place mentally, physically and socially!! And where are all these people who tried to put me down? Have a guess🤔
The power of direct communication I've always believed in. Thank You for the info your videos provide. They've helped give me a much better insight on these subjects.
Hi Susan, this is my favorite video of your many greats. I resonated w/ it 100% as it captures everything I feel but have a hard time expressing. Thank you for sharing your insight on this topic. I really got a lot out of it!!! You are Awesome!!! I like you!!! 😉 All the Best to you~
The art of open and honest communication, is no longer practiced in this day and age of non verbal communication. People in general, are more comfortable communicating incognito. Via their electronic devices. unfortunately, this creates a superficial form of communication. Where no one connects on an emotional level. All very superficial.
Thanks. I left a comment on you last video about what happen to me. It seems I did exactly that and as you said I am not ashamed I did so. It's just the result has now left her not talking to me and me being so confused how that is possible when everything leading up to me asking to be in a relationship was absolutely great. I don't know what to do or how to fix it. I really like this girl alot. And she is awesome but somehow we are now here. I don't understand it at all. She was so into me it's inreal. And for it to be over just like that makes no sense at all.
Lee Colfax Many daters out there are very confused these days. In the heat of the moment, they get excited about a new person. Then, they get distracted, scared, or hear from their ex. There are dozens of reasons. You needn’t Waste your time trying to figure it out
This video kept popping up for me and i've only just gotten around to watching it - but it is everything i needed! You've clarified everything I've been thinking and feeling for the last year :P I knew it felt right, but hearing you clear it up has helped me shift. Thank you Susan, happy holidays xxx
I love this video. Thanks for the clarification. I thought I was going to lose my mind ruminating over an encounter where I experienced what is in this video. I feel better now.
You are simply awesome. I've learned so much from you and you give me more confidence . You're straight up and explain things clearly which helps me so much. Thank you 😘❤
❤ This.. Our Emotions Are Literally Too Powerful Even That Can Beat The Mind In Some Relationship.. So, Ladies & Gentlemen Step Out With Ur Bold & Beautiful Confident Vulnerabilities, There's No Shame To Show Our Openness Of Heart & Show Ur Shadow Self To The Loved One.. Coz, Ur Partner/Lover Has The Right To See "Who U Are In Real! So, LET THEM KNOW & Don't Hide The Shit"!!😊
NEVER LIVE A LIE . Do what your Heart tells you to do. Be real with yourself and others. What u say and do can and will be used against you by the Narcissist . Just know yes there are a few poeple that will use what u say to their advantage. This world Has gotten so fake And so many Games . I blame THE INTERNET. lol . And social Media. .
Thank you!! Actually, a speicific relationsip I had with a much younger man prompted me to write a book which became an international best seller. The interviews from TV and print made me realize I had a platform to assist people in love and those looking for love.
I had a feeling! We have A LOT of the same goals!! Can you send me a link to your book? Who is your literary agent? I'm trying to sell my book so I can get published, maybe by Hay House. I don't want to self publish. Thanks SO MUCH for all you do, Susan! You are a STRONG, intelligent POWERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, loving woman! You EMPOWER ME!!
Susan: If a girl doesn't seem to be 100% interested during the first date, what do you do when you unexpectedly run into her a week later? Also, how many girls would be willing to continue dating someone who would go back to their home country in a year? ...When I was younger, I was in the military and was stationed in Germany. I was on a coffee date with a local girl and her older sister, who was watching out for her and who spoke good English and asked lots of questions about me. I was inexperienced with dating, but I was my usual open, direct, and confident self. Although my date was very guarded in the first minute, she quickly opened up with her facial expressions and long eye contact. She was thinking hard and so deeply emotional in her head that she did not say anything the entire date, even though she spoke limited English when I first met her at a club. I could tell she was wobbling between "this is a good guy" and "there are problems". By the middle of the date, she seems to let her guard down and we just kept looking into each other's eyes ("hot"). But then at the end of the date, she started avoiding eye contact and acted more polite, as if she made a decision that the relationship ends there ("cold"). As they dropped me off, I just felt some bad vibes and noone talked about a second date, so I just assumed she didn't like me. A week later, we unexpectedly met again at a different club. We both gave each other big, friendly smiles and said "hi" from a few feet of distance, but then I just walked away. I was still thinking about the bad vibes from the date and just thought she didn't like me. Did I give up too soon or offended her by walking away or should I have tried to pursue her at the club and get her to like me more? Although it was not my intention, it seems like I acted as an Alpha male on the date and by just walking away with my take it or leave it attitude. We never contacted each other after that. Maybe she didn't want start a relationship with someone who is from overseas, as I was going back to college in the U.S. in a year.
Ryan, you're fears are unfounded. The girl doesn't speak English, you met in a club, and you're leaving the country. Way too much work for her. So don't think it was "you."
It’s true last time I told a guy I liked him he told me I shouldn’t be embarrassed and I was like why would I be embarrassed and what is wrong about being upfront I don’t get it ? Then he started to act cocky by saying he already knew and that’s when I knew he was not the one for me
Unfortunately,society conditions us to edit ourselves, especially women. It's a pity that some people need to work so hard on expressing their truth without fear of being rejected!
What about saying nothing, not because you're afraid of being seen as weak but because the other person is not ready to hear that you love them; It would scare them away because for them it's too soon. A certain amount of time is needed for them before being open to that kind of statement and I have to adjust to their time line.
Hey Susan! On this topic of direct communication... What are your thoughts on indirect communication (a possible video topic)? Such as a message that has a dual meaning, the kind that sparks an air of mystery and provoked thought. Something that communicates: ‘wait a minute... was that last statement about me, or about themselves’, allowing some interpretation and contemplating of the context, forcing some introspection on the part of the recipient. And also, possibly right at the point of walking away. Something that is neutral and vague enough to almost merge two into the thought process. In one sense, this is a bit mysterious. In another sense, it’s slightly confusing. And finally, it lingers a bit. Risky? Wasted energy? Or attraction building? What is the power of indirect communication?
I swear you are the sanest relationship/love coach of anyone on youtube as far as I've been exposed to. You are wonderful Susan!!
People tend to take advantage of you and take you for granted once he/she knows of the intensity of how you feel....it's a cold world out here...
I find if you decide what you are willing to lose and not cross that boundary, you can maintain your personal power.
Really listen to this video and act accordingly.
I’m sure it can help.
She nailed it. I was thinking about waiting 4 days to call this girl after our first date but MY truth is no games and just to put myself out there to the world with loving intentions and txted her for a second date. In the end if someone truly likes you it won’t matter what games are being played because they will dissolve
Yep. Games dissolve if you both actually like each other
I can't explain how much your videos have been helping me lately.
Same here!
Same here.
Susan is just so real.
Thanks.
How refreshing to hear this. I have always felt that it was a measure of strength and good self esteem to be able to confidently express your love to your partner but far too many life coaches and "relationship experts" suggest that it is a sign of weak neediness which turns off the recipient. What a load of rubbish. The truth sets you free. Own it and rejoice in it and quote right be proud of it! Totally correct that how your partner receives that truth and processes it is up to them. You have done the right thing.
Spot on Susan! I feel pre-programmed in today's society to not express how I feel, but play a "game"...it goes against my inner self...thank you for a great video!
Thank you for your awesome comment!
Agreed!
I did the other day. I told him ... he didnt call anymore. It's a pity but I felt good. I will not lower my standards anymore just to find out later that it was not going to work out anyway. Thank u Susan. One day someone will stay. :)
Direct communication is powerful. It's also a little terrifying and takes guts if you're timid like me! I wonder what my next opportunity to be powerful will be.
I love your attitude Monique.
Monique Forrester
Sadly, in my experience women are the least equipped willing or able to be straightforward.It has been said that 'one can either love women or understand them'. It is not possible to do both.
@@63Baggies To me the best way is straight forward and direct
@@63Baggies In order to love someone, understanding them is a requirement. Otherwise, you just like how they look/sound. (or whatever convenient thing they provide to your ego or needs)
I was in a relationship, which the guy didn't admit to, that was his problem. When I asked him about the future of it, he gave me reasons why he cannot be with me. Good. After 6 months of my no contact, he calls, but doesn't speak directly about anything. Just like you said Susan, my golden period came😄.
I never felt so positive to speak up wisely in any of my previous relations about what I wanted, this happened only because of you. I wrote directly to the guy the very next day abt what and how I needed for the relation to work, and he didn't contact...😝 That's ok, but now I am clear in my head. Thanks a ton, Susan👍🏽
I'd Much Rather be REAL than Detached and Cold!!! TRUTH!!! xo
Bravo!
I love how Susan mentions the 'asking questions' aspect of relationships. I have so many friends who meet men and don't ask questions instead ask friends what a man might be thinking or feeling. Yes it takes courage but you have to be adult enough to open your mouth. Without knowledge people perish!
You are absolutely correct black princess! The time to ask the questions is before you hit the sheets.
Yes! Some of my friends are afraid to ask their partners questions too. I'm not afraid to ask, because i'm looking for someone who knows how to communicate their thoughts and emotions effectively - so i'm not afraid of any answer they may give. Another thing is to not be judgemental in response to their answers. They then feel comfortable telling you the truth, and sometimes even offer without you having to ask, which makes it easier for everyone :)
Thank you, this is what I needed today!
Ahhh yes the old let's ask others about a person u know better than everyone mistake lol.
ask other people that only want to see U happy and are never gealouse of your success or happiness.
🙄
Direct communication like mentioned in vid makes the other person accountable.
For example, do U like me?
If asked and answered yes then this makes that person accountable for there actions.
If never asked and just assumed by u, this gives the other person an exuse, a get out of jail free card to play U and leave u. All they need to say wen they ghost U after using U is, I never said I liked U!.
🤷🏻♂️
I am sooooo taking this advice into 2018.
I'm tired of shutting up so I won't feel vulnerable. NO MORE!!!!
Thank you!!!!!
You will be a force to be reckoned with, Ms. Peaches. Here's to 2018!
And I must add that the truth does make you feel powerful. Since I told this guy in the beginning that I have alopecia I can say just about anything with so much confidence and without fear. Oh yes the truth shall set you free lol! Its empowering indeed.
OMG, where have you been, women. You are a breath of fresh air. I bow to you, my savior, I think I might just follow you off a cliff, if you said it was the right thing to do. I have just recently discovered you among the sea of love relationship "experts". Out here in UTube land. I confess, I only listened to the men, since well they know what's in San man's head better than us women, you are the first women who makes total sense. I will be following you, and writing you for sure . I am 67,and still looking for my Mr. Right. At least I know now, after all these years and many mistakes. Maybe I still have a change? Bless you and keep up the great work. Like me, I am sure as the sun rises each day, many feel the same about you. We need you!!! Sally B.
Yes to this! This advice applies to love, life, work and everything.
I didn't realize the concept and act of being vulnerable was attached to so much shame in my body until you made the distinction.
Last night i confessed to this guy i'm casually dating that for nights and mornings i have been intensely liking him and he took it really well. He just wants something casual right now and i dont want to be anything more but i just wanna say i like him very much and ...it may not go beyond..but i feel so much power and so much freedom in just saying it like a rock has been lifted off my chest. Thank you Susan for always encouraging truth and honesty
I think you're amazing. You are so emotionally astute and strong.
You seem to read my mind and what's going on in my life.
I've recently accepted I can't continue be in my head all the time. I have felt stifled the last few years, not true to my honest and open character. It's liberating. Thank you so much. 💜
You're welcome
Own your truth. Love that sentiment
Yes! It's so much better to be direct. It keeps a person from feeling uncertainty and bitterness. It is also definitely empowering. It's hard to see anything but good results coming from it. Especially if you hope to have a long term relationship with someone.
How freeing it is to be able to express what I feel. To have it all bottled up inside and not speak up, it's excruciating. It's refreshing to know that doing makes you proud of yourself to be able to take a stand. Though you fear what the result might be
Thanks Susan. I just wish more people would see this video. This is what truth and authenticity is all about. I'm very clear from the beginning with any date what I'm looking for in a relationship and been branded stupid at times by showing my hand. Well I know what I want and don't fear rejection either. This real life. You continue to validate some of my most desired values. I'm not settling for less and that's for sure. Gone are the days when I was young and stupid. Thanks again ☺
I'm writing a letter to my partner today....and the outline of my letter matches what you've shared in this video perfectly. Thank you for giving me confirmation. Your videos have been incredibly helpful to me!
Your six minute clip just helped me more than years of therapy and countless self help books that did not help at all.
Susan you are saving lives with these videos. So much support and strength that you’re teaching us. Thank you thank you thank you
Everyone should watch this video. It's very powerful.
THANK YOU & AWESOME HOLIDAYS, SUSAN! 🎄❤️✅You are such a GIFT to the world! I am so blessed to have found the right Dating Coach whose philosophy is congruent with HIGH VALUES & HIGH STANDARDS. Amen 🙏🏼🌺We LOVE YOU 🤗😘🎁
Hi Monica! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! Hope you had a wonderful Christmas.
Susan Winter Thank you for being there for us and sharing your mind, your heart and your Powerful YOU! 💙🤗🎄💜
thats spot on, thank you! whenever i watch something inspiring i tell myself to watch it everyday to remind myself. we are quick to forget and often fall into old thinking habits. i will replay this video for sure.
As I am getting older, I have eliminated a lot of bs from my life.When I like a person I tell them, the love word unfortunatelly has a different meaning in our society, and people reserve it for a special occasion. I recently told a man I love you, and he responded a week later with I love you, BUT. The BUT part carries a lot of compromises and at the end of it, maybe a I like you is safer.
My ex boyfriend was scared away just because I told him I loved him. I still do have feelings for him, it I’m glad I told him that! You’re awesome Susan 💃
This is so excellent. Probably the most important video out there. Do no edit yourself. Examine how you feel, and be able to share it.
Wow!! Clarifying the difference between vulnerability really showed me that I am not really as vulnerable as I thought I was. I prefer direct communication. But I realised they are both different and I need to start being more vulnerable as well. Thanks a lot. I just love your videos. They make me so happy. I don't feel confused anymore. I feel sure about what I want and going for it. I absolutely love your advice.
Thank you Susan...you really know what you are talking about!
You own what you say
Dear Susan, your videos are so liberating. With all the mess out there, I believed that I simply cannot be myself and honest because every time I was, I got rejected or ghosted and because I have never had plethora men courting me, I believed that something is wrong with me. So every time there was someone around, I played the games because I thought it is required but at the end of the day, it never worked and I felt like a fake. I guess I just need to learn how to express myself again and stop the guessing games. Thank you!
What a lovely comment Katka. Thank you
Susan, thank you so much for showing what authenticity looks like.
I love this! Soo what i needed to hear today. In a world where we are continually told what we need to do to get the guy. This seems to be the opposite..we are told to be mysterious and play hard to get..apparently that is the Crux of a high-value woman? I love how you put an emphasis on being true to yourself. I have had a history of being needy so I'm a bit scared to enter into complete honesty. I would love to just be able to share that truth too. Is that too much truth? And what if I'm not sleeping with the guy? Is the truth too much too soon?
Can I just say I think that you're awesome! Thanks for being real :-)
Hi Becky. Thanks for your wonderful note. Certainly be your authentic self-but at the same time the measure much you choose to reveal to a new partner. Honesty evokes honesty. But no one needs a full history of every detail of your life. Those details are reserved for people you trust, at a later date.
I think being "needy" has become underated. We need each other, otherwise why bother.
Love your advice Susan!!! Always so on point!
Jeguelaix THANK YOU!!😊
As I was going about my day today, I thought I need a sign of some sort to help with where I’m at.
I arrive home and your video is there, you are so spot on Susan.
I knew this is what I had to do, but as you say, this being vulnerable was getting in the way.
You have so cleared things up for me....thank you🌹
You speak the truth. I know what I want. I have not found her yet. So I continue to move forward each day. Being the best version of myself. Enjoying each day as a gift from God!!! I have faith that she will show up and desire the same thing. Thank you.
Thank you! I will remember to be direct!
Amazing, thank you! I was direct with my man, and it made me feel powerful, because I saw it as being direct and truly believed there was no shame in this, despite what people say. I just didn't want to be stuck, and that motivated me to speak my truth, not only to myself, but to him, and not in a way like it's something that would make me vulnerable, but as something that's easy and natural and pure to do.
Being direct feels vulnerable to many people. As you know, I think it's powerful. It takes a lot of courage to speak the truth. But the best part is that everyone knows where they stand. There's much less confusion, and greater communication.
100percent
Everything you spoke.
Nothing worse than having the strength to speak your mind to then only be called insecure🤨
Apparently to decieve play games and never addmit you like some1 is were the power at.
This vid gave me hope again
Thank u
I Did it, actually this guy didnt look for the same thing among us, but Im not afraid anymore saying what and how I want. It feels great, thanks Susan !!
I honestly agree with everything you said but having said that, it still can be very challenging to be direct with people because people can suck and can enjoy knowing someone likes them
I'm listening to you more now than ever, all my thoughts are exactly what you're saying
Kesha Powell Awesome Keaha! I love it.
Dear Susan, your words are so empowering. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Your channel is the best! Love, Dee
I love your videos Susan! I learn a lot from you that helps me in my relationship of four years with my woman. Direct Communication is the key to a happy healthy relationship
Susaaaan! Why is it that something happens in my love life..something apt from your playlist just pops into my recommended? Its insane
This is my favorite video. I struggle so much with this. I want to improve. I am going to therapy. I know what needs to be done but there is something holding me back. I need to address these issues in therapy. I am not living my life to the fullest.
I love you Susan! You just made my day!
We speak the same language, for years And years I was labeled naive and stupid for stating what I feel and who I'm
That made me afraid and ashamed to show the real me!
Hahaha now I'm in a much better place mentally, physically and socially!! And where are all these people who tried to put me down? Have a guess🤔
Susan where have you been all this while. Thank you so much with your advice. You are amazing.
Right on Susan!! This is so true.
The power of direct communication I've always believed in. Thank You for the info your videos provide. They've helped give me a much better insight on these subjects.
Susan Winter is A Rock Star
OH---THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!
Hi Susan, this is my favorite video of your many greats.
I resonated w/ it 100% as it captures everything I feel but have a hard time expressing.
Thank you for sharing your insight on this topic.
I really got a lot out of it!!!
You are Awesome!!!
I like you!!! 😉
All the Best to you~
Thanks for the wonderful message. I appreciate it.
This is so beautiful. Thank you.
5:45 I did that the other day. Oh boy did I. Left her speechless.
😱 I was literally thinking about this. Preach!! :)
We are in sync Carmela!
The art of open and honest communication, is no longer practiced in this day and age of non verbal communication. People in general, are more comfortable communicating incognito. Via their electronic devices. unfortunately, this creates a superficial form of communication. Where no one connects on an emotional level. All very superficial.
Thanks. I left a comment on you last video about what happen to me.
It seems I did exactly that and as you said I am not ashamed I did so. It's just the result has now left her not talking to me and me being so confused how that is possible when everything leading up to me asking to be in a relationship was absolutely great.
I don't know what to do or how to fix it. I really like this girl alot. And she is awesome but somehow we are now here. I don't understand it at all. She was so into me it's inreal. And for it to be over just like that makes no sense at all.
Lee Colfax Many daters out there are very confused these days. In the heat of the moment, they get excited about a new person. Then, they get distracted, scared, or hear from their ex. There are dozens of reasons. You needn’t Waste your time trying to figure it out
I love Susan Winter
You are the best coach ever. I love you
I needed to hear this perfect advise today. Thank you so much! 🙏🏼❤️
You are so welcome!
Thank you! That's it!!!!!! That's real power!
Direct communication led me getting rejected from some people and thankfully it's something rather prefer than games.
This video kept popping up for me and i've only just gotten around to watching it - but it is everything i needed! You've clarified everything I've been thinking and feeling for the last year :P I knew it felt right, but hearing you clear it up has helped me shift. Thank you Susan, happy holidays xxx
Hi Susan I love your videos. You should post more videos often.
Thank you, thank you! I do 2 a week. If I had more time I would do more.
I love this video. Thanks for the clarification. I thought I was going to lose my mind ruminating over an encounter where I experienced what is in this video. I feel better now.
Susan Winter is the best
omg love the way you explain this! ty!
Always pure gold, you validate and easy my anxiety everytime. Thank you Susan 😊💓
thank you Susan and please be sincere and admit that women are NEVER direct
You are simply awesome. I've learned so much from you and you give me more confidence . You're straight up and explain things clearly which helps me so much. Thank you 😘❤
❤ This.. Our Emotions Are Literally Too Powerful Even That Can Beat The Mind In Some Relationship..
So, Ladies & Gentlemen Step Out With Ur Bold & Beautiful Confident Vulnerabilities, There's No Shame To Show Our Openness Of Heart & Show Ur Shadow Self To The Loved One.. Coz, Ur Partner/Lover Has The Right To See "Who U Are In Real! So, LET THEM KNOW & Don't Hide The Shit"!!😊
Thank you Susan!
Great video! There's so much power in truth without expectation
NEVER LIVE A LIE .
Do what your Heart tells you to do.
Be real with yourself and others.
What u say and do can and will be used against you by the Narcissist . Just know yes there are a few poeple that will use what u say to their advantage.
This world Has gotten so fake
And so many Games .
I blame THE INTERNET. lol .
And social Media. .
Hi, all your videos are so accurate, so insightful. Susan you are so awesome. thank you for your videos. Happy New Year ! :)
Thank you Magda.
Thank you very much.
Awesome advice thnx Susan cheers from Australia, recently discovered your channel it’s the best thnx soo much for putting all this out there
Its a world of gamers and matured individuals.
Wow...this is so empowering Powerful! Susan
GREAT WORK Ms. Susan!! TY SO MUCH! What got you started on this career path and speaking about relationships?
Thank you!! Actually, a speicific relationsip I had with a much younger man prompted me to write a book which became an international best seller. The interviews from TV and print made me realize I had a platform to assist people in love and those looking for love.
I had a feeling! We have A LOT of the same goals!! Can you send me a link to your book? Who is your literary agent? I'm trying to sell my book so I can get published, maybe by Hay House. I don't want to self publish. Thanks SO MUCH for all you do, Susan! You are a STRONG, intelligent POWERFUL, BEAUTIFUL, loving woman! You EMPOWER ME!!
Susan: If a girl doesn't seem to be 100% interested during the first date, what do you do when you unexpectedly run into her a week later? Also, how many girls would be willing to continue dating someone who would go back to their home country in a year? ...When I was younger, I was in the military and was stationed in Germany. I was on a coffee date with a local girl and her older sister, who was watching out for her and who spoke good English and asked lots of questions about me. I was inexperienced with dating, but I was my usual open, direct, and confident self. Although my date was very guarded in the first minute, she quickly opened up with her facial expressions and long eye contact. She was thinking hard and so deeply emotional in her head that she did not say anything the entire date, even though she spoke limited English when I first met her at a club. I could tell she was wobbling between "this is a good guy" and "there are problems". By the middle of the date, she seems to let her guard down and we just kept looking into each other's eyes ("hot"). But then at the end of the date, she started avoiding eye contact and acted more polite, as if she made a decision that the relationship ends there ("cold"). As they dropped me off, I just felt some bad vibes and noone talked about a second date, so I just assumed she didn't like me. A week later, we unexpectedly met again at a different club. We both gave each other big, friendly smiles and said "hi" from a few feet of distance, but then I just walked away. I was still thinking about the bad vibes from the date and just thought she didn't like me. Did I give up too soon or offended her by walking away or should I have tried to pursue her at the club and get her to like me more? Although it was not my intention, it seems like I acted as an Alpha male on the date and by just walking away with my take it or leave it attitude. We never contacted each other after that. Maybe she didn't want start a relationship with someone who is from overseas, as I was going back to college in the U.S. in a year.
Ryan, you're fears are unfounded. The girl doesn't speak English, you met in a club, and you're leaving the country. Way too much work for her. So don't think it was "you."
It’s true last time I told a guy I liked him he told me I shouldn’t be embarrassed and I was like why would I be embarrassed and what is wrong about being upfront I don’t get it ? Then he started to act cocky by saying he already knew and that’s when I knew he was not the one for me
I'm sorry for that experience.
Unfortunately,society conditions us to edit ourselves, especially women. It's a pity that some people need to work so hard on expressing their truth without fear of being rejected!
What about saying nothing, not because you're afraid of being seen as weak but because the other person is not ready to hear that you love them; It would scare them away because for them it's too soon. A certain amount of time is needed for them before being open to that kind of statement and I have to adjust to their time line.
Trust your intuition on this one, Jack. If it's not the right time, then you shouldn't make that statement.
THANKS SUSAN 🌹
Hey Susan!
On this topic of direct communication...
What are your thoughts on indirect communication (a possible video topic)? Such as a message that has a dual meaning, the kind that sparks an air of mystery and provoked thought. Something that communicates: ‘wait a minute... was that last statement about me, or about themselves’, allowing some interpretation and contemplating of the context, forcing some introspection on the part of the recipient. And also, possibly right at the point of walking away. Something that is neutral and vague enough to almost merge two into the thought process.
In one sense, this is a bit mysterious. In another sense, it’s slightly confusing. And finally, it lingers a bit.
Risky?
Wasted energy?
Or attraction building?
What is the power of indirect communication?
Unbelievably good advice!
Wow! So powerful!
Once a again love your video. Sooo sooo wise.
hell yes!! 🌟
Thanks you so much for this. The perfect message for me, at the perfect time.
That's wonderful. Thank you for telling me.
Perfectly said!!!!!!!
You're awesome! Thank you for sharing all of it :)
Bam! Mos def.
Thanks Erica!
Susan Winter: You're welcome!
I love u Susan
4:37 yasssss