Can You Really Get Brain Damage From Narcissistic Abuse?
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If you've experienced narcissistic abuse, you may feel like you're dealing with lasting damage to your mental health. Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling powerless, confused, and deeply hurt. But there is hope for healing and recovery. In this video, we'll explore the brain damage caused by narcissistic abuse and show you how to reverse its effects.
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Brain fog, forgetfulness, constant tiredness, hyper vigilance, replay of bad memories, there are some days where I can’t focus… it’s hard. Narcissists aren’t just playing with your emotions or your health; they’re playing with your life.
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In places like Texas , and other parts of the country (and the WORLD ) 🌎 /for that matter. They are also playing with their own lives.
Body shuts down, Brain Fog, Self Blame. Try to Rest, Relax, Positive Journaling. You will recover. Be Safe. Be Well. Be Smart. Be Strong.
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Severe brain fog, can't remember shit,, vision distortion, lack of focus, severe chronic fatigue, headaches,,lack of interest in all you used to enjoy doing, dysfunction in your whole body especially the nervous system causing inability to feel intense emotions of All the good stuff like happiness, joy, laughter, bliss. It will cause you to agree/go along with things that you would never before even entertain
"I think that your memory is wrong and we need to go in and have it fixed, because I would never say anything so terrible to you"- My narcissist-
I am currently stuck in fight or flight mode. Also my body freezes heart palpitations my brain freezes that I can’t even think straight when someone’s talking to me when ever have I have a social interaction I think I may be suffering from severe CPTSD I come from a family of narcissists and I was the scapegoat in my family system. My entire lifetime I’ve recently realized most of my relationships/friendships have been with abusers/toxic individuals. I feel so broken now at 24, I used to be the life of the party and now I can’t leave my house. I recently got out of a relationship with a sociopath/malignant narcissist where I also became the scapegoat at some point in his family system. I also am stuck living with a narcissistic mother that verbally abuses me on a daily basis I see no escape from the abuse it’s like genuinely everywhere I go I seem to attract the same people that now I have severe trust issues I don’t even want to get to know anyone. They ruin lives may we heal and may they pay one day for their shameless sins against innocent good souls.
Yeah I have trust issues now
I am so sorry to hear :( I do understand. In my opinion I feel like you could benefit from some antidepressants or an anti anxiety medication and, if you're a girl, birth control. That helped SOO MUCH. I feel in control of my emotions now and can actually drive, go grocery shopping alone, talk to people, I feel like a new person thank God. I was scared to take medications but after years of suffering I was like screw it, worst comes to worst I will just taper off of it, but it actually improved my life so much
Meditation, fasting, hiking, spending time in nature help. And practise not reacting to the narcissist because that gives them supply. Imagine yourself stepping back and observing their toddler tantrums without engaging with them. Stay calm and curious in the moment.
I had a stroke while isolated with her in a foreign country
It continues while severely disabled. I cannot get. Away and get punished for my panic attacks. I think I am making it up and am trying to focus on a good life
Let's sue the narcs and their enablers for causing our brain damage.
If not a female it is a no way can you be a victim.
I used to have an amazing memory but ever since my divorce from an N I can’t remember anything. I cant remember experiences, people, etc. it really bothers me and I knew it had something to do with that.
Same
Omg, me too...and I was sitting watching this video and suddenly I realized I couldn't remember what elementary school my 5th child went to years ago. I'm upset because there are so many things now that I can't remember because of so much emotional abuse I've been living with for so many years now. This disgusts me. I guess my brain was so busy warding off attacks, protecting me, that it wasn't storing away properly my memories. This is so sad to have forgotten important things, dates or events, and people to me. It's just so devastating....
I never had a good memory my narcissist's got me from birth.
Yeah. It's all coming back to me now🎉. They lose
Its true
The brain fog is real. This is the best definition ever! Fight, Flight, or Freeze: So accurate.
I was abused as a child then my parents divorced, then I changed schools and was bullied. I came out of a very manipulative controlling relationship at Xmas and was suicidal. Maybe I have childhood trauma.
Lots of people do.
I hope your rebuilding.. 😎🎶🎵
There is more and more evidence all the time the answer to this question is yes. The level of hyper vigilance required to spend significant time with a narcissist throws your brain chemistry completely out of whack. There is now a lot of speculation narcissistic abuse can be a direct contributing factor to Alzheimer’s.
My brain feels really damaged! 🧠
Jesus can heal ptsd and frontal cortex damage I promise!
Mine too
@@jaimematus7308 Amen....yes He can just receive it in Jesus name Amen
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@@leoniehendrickson2530pathetic
I question EVERYTHING now. Brain fog and at one point I stop trusting my own instincts. My mind is always racing. Then the thoughts pop up of the abuse and trauma. It makes me shut down. My body aches and hurts. My joints have tension in them. I’m trying to get out of my abusive marriage.
I have had severe brain fog since my childhood and I'm going to be 30 this year, but since I left I have gotten a lot better. I experience a lot of being unable to remember when events happened either last week or the week before, I'll lose track of time so easily during the day, but my memory has been improving since I left my situation 7 months ago. I've been battling severe depression because the little kid inside is screaming to be held and loved like I wasn't. My parents found me to be really clingy and annoying when I was little, especially my mom. I remember being around 4 or 5 when she really started to push me away and stop holding me and snuggling me, telling me to get off of her and that I was annoying, with a disgusted tone. My parents were almost always negative and their criticism was always negative, never constructive. I would be berated for doing something not the way they wanted when they didn't give me any specific instructions. I would have to sit through hours long lectures and monologues, but it would be the same thing just on repeat, going around the barn and circling back and going over everything again and again and again, until they were satisfied that you understood them. I would be told I could do anything I want with my life, but I would sit through an hours long lecture about why I should do that and I should do this other thing that benefits them instead. I was used for labor for over 20 years, helped build several hundred thousand dollars in equity, and then when I leave, all I get is a portion of the equity, after all their loan notes on it are deducted because it was "all of our things".
I can definitely see how this can cause brain damage, especially in children, because if their fight or flight is constantly activated, their brains will develop with those circuits firing. Neuroplasticity in children will strengthen these neural pathways and... they will go through life almost always living in fear about things.
How can this brain damage be reversed? After a lifetime of severe abuse since childhood,then a 24 year abusive marriage, although we'd been together since I was 13 yrs old so actually longer under the influence of him. Then tried another relationship 3 years after I finally escaped him. And this one turned out to be a very dangerous sociopath according to 'our' therapist (long disturbing story how we ended up with the same teleheath therapist) malignant rather than covert like my ex-husband. I was in fight flight freeze AND fawn. Everyday....😢
The brain will heal itself... In time. Eat right.. Lots of fruits and vegetables and quality bread and grains. Drink good water... Half your wieght in ounces. VERY IMPORTANT as your brain runs mostly water. Exercise daily.. Sleep early and get up early.. Take a quality ginsing for a few years. Stay away from stress... Do this all well.. And the brain will heal itself. Also, eat a little raw walnuts with your meals..
I had no idea it was reversible. I thought I was screwed forever!
Was 13 when dad was stolen away by a divorced single mom who needed a dad for her two. I blamed me, and always will. I have learned from her actions after he died, she is a witch. Did this without a care, kept him hidden or out of knowing where he was to everyone. Probably kept him constantly preoccupied, at least for that first 5-10 years. Me, my sister & brother had no one. So poor.
Yes i have it brain fog,tiredness,not alert anymore
Why only women in your thrivers group? Men can be abused as well. Btw, this has been very informative.
Oh, the irony of all your sound effects setting off my alarm state... At least I realize what is happening, why it is happening, and to just let it pass through me taking the time it needs!
As soon as I heard about what happened to the brain, I felt damaged.
Um,,, mom didn’t want a child; she wanted a trained pet.
I have an unusually high IQ and she always felt challenged. She was a substitute teacher; so, had lots of monkey flying. I was put in remedial classes often.
Oh, in college they tested my IQ and I was in the top 1%, so yeah…. FTW
Sounded like my narcissistic parents who wanted to make me believe I was a retard and made others believe it as well. When I had an intellectual growth spur when I started high school, they went psychotic and tried to undermine me. They also would make me believe that I was not meant for university or to have a job, but to be disabled, homeless, in jail, or be dependent on them like a mentally retarded adult. This is why they also undermine my adult development and anything that seems adult like, like going to the bank, going to work, talking to people was a threat to them or something that they did not believe it was happening.
Thats very scary...
Im actually in the middle of this
Great pic and YES, YES, YES, no contact, you owe it to everyone to be and stay as sane as possible, of course we're crazy, they've shaken it onto/upon us!
Oh this happens all the time around narcissist and know what you need to do start recording them that's what I started doing and playing it back for them and they still tried to gas light me and deny it that's how sick they are they're literally just living in denial every day it's pretty sad and pathetic
Yeah exactly. I've got one as a roommate (from hell) and the one thing I've noticed after 4 years is he doesn't seem to remember things he did. They really don't know they are narcissists because they have an inability to self reflect because of an inability to empathize I think
@@andrewsmith3257They may self reflect but their sense of entitlement has them convinced they are always in the right.
@@SamStone1964 yeah either way it's overwhelming to live with one or even be around one..
Then you'll send it to your lawyer and the narc will then gaslight the lawyer. You can have all the proof in the world. The narc has their own truth-pathological lies
I’ve has serious narc abuse. I NEVER think it’s me and I’ll argue that until I die . It’s him…..not wired up right !
An amazing insight into brain functions that shows the effects of exposure to toxic relationships and how it changes normal functioning and healthy behaviour patterns. Walking on eggshells is the norm around narcissistic people, particularly vulnerable narcissist that are also hyper sensitive to the slightest criticism. In my experience trying to reason and get some accountability to resolve relationship issues , or try to feel seen heard and validated only results in frustration and conflict, denial, gas lighting and word salad mind games. If you inevitably get wound up and raise your voice or defend yourself you get accused of being abusive! Often it's easier to agree to get some peace. That's also used against you because they take that to be confirmation that they were right and you are the problem. I thought I had a reasonable understanding of the psychology and neurology involved but your overview is excellent describing the neurological effects of trauma in really easy to understand style. I went through childhood trauma and have been in a codependant relationship 21 years trying to navigate my way through the mine field. Therapy helped to focus on self validation, self care thus lessening the perceived 'threat' from narcissistic behaviour. I like your emphasis on a bottom up approach to Therapy as cognitive behaviour therapy needs a well integrated fore brain to absorb new ideas , so it's important to get the body on board to work together, otherwise all the positive thinking in the world won't convince the bodys nervous system. Thanks again, subscribed. ❤
Intro to video: “I was wearing grey baggy clothes-“
Me, having breakfast and wearing grey baggy clothes: oh no.
Living in narc relations donot change our condition ,before they damage our brain completely v should take action
cant deal with mad people directly and singly , v need real people s support and advise
Remember the character Bella in "Lost in Yonkers?" Some people thought she was crazy; other people thought she was stupid. I thought she was neither, but traumatized by her cold-hearted mother. Check out the movie if you haven't. Mercedes Ruehl is amazing in it.
For years I have wondered about why things were the way they were when I grew up. I had a rough childhood, most of which I do not want to remember. When I do all, I can remember is the Physical mental and emoting abuse. I do not want to play the victim here, I just wanted to understand why. After watching many videos like this I now understand sometimes a parent can be really sick in the head. Even though they think they are God's gift to the world, and they do not mind bragging about it. Now that I am over 60 I half ass understand this. And still half ass believe some of the lies that were beaten into me. It is strange how when thing do not go my way how those memories come flooding back. From watching videos like this they tend to suggest that even a child, how they can be more on the sickly side, I was. I guess it make sense that a child having to deal with trauma and stress on a daily basis, is not a good thing. I know first-hand what it is like to see daddy beat the hell out of mama. That has to be the best way to destroy a child. Many times, in my youth I got between dad and mom and got beat to hell. I have been married for over 40 yrs. I have never raised a hand in anger to my wife. I do not say unkind things to her or make hateful remarks to her. I spoil her with love and kindness. And it has taken many years for me to convince her I love her and will not do anything to harm her. Sometimes I get the feeling her family life was not as happy as she lets on. I hate that for her But I do not think it was as bad as mine. But at the same time, I realize I am not the only one.
And that trauma likely began when you were in the womb.
I have probably grown an extra amygdala by now. Man, I don't know what to do. I can't afford therapy (in USA and broke) and ugh I swear the older I get the worse it gets even though I left the bad relationship in 2010. Yes, the narc tried gaslighting but I always took notes and kept records with dates and everything. That's what it took. In fact I told him that every time he made a statement that he would do something financially, like borrow and pay me back, I would require a signature on a notarized contract or else it was a no go.
Meditation, nature, hiking, fasting help.
Dr. Brooke Goldner on youtube! Could help!
You can always listen to quran for comfort ❤ stay safe
Can you ever heal the hippocampus
Would it be possible to become a narcissist from narcissistic abuse?
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+1 …how to remedy..? 😳🙄
I wonder if meditation will help with this issue?
How about the migraines? Am I alone in this?
I get migraines in short bursts once in a while. Mostly brain fogs.
Ive asked god to please carry this for me now. Ill let him carry my pain. God is good.
Lol, good luck with that
Same 🙌
That's a pretty unfortunate thumbnail that plays off harmful stereotypes of neurodivergent education.
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