What The Narcissist Does At The End Of Every Relationship
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If you've experienced narcissistic abuse, you may feel like you're dealing with lasting damage to your mental health. Narcissistic abuse can leave you feeling powerless, confused, and deeply hurt. But there is hope for healing and recovery. In this video, we'll explore the brain damage caused by narcissistic abuse and show you how to reverse its effects.
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Yes love this video so true about that
My husband has a whole family of narcissists. I am now at a point where I don't care what others think anymore. It hurts but I have God on my side.
Caroline, I’d he hasn’t cheated on you, would you still be with him? how would you have left?
💯💯💯
I believe a narcissist can give and give, but with it comes constant guilt trips, which kinda negates the positives.
stay strong and take care of you!
Same here ❤
'Givers need to know their limits, because takers don't have any'.
One of the truest sentences ever 👌
I’m so glad you mentioned how your ex completely switched character at the end and was cold.... my ex did exactly the same and it’s always confused me! I was like who is this man?? I kept pining for the man I met in the beginning and I thought he’d changed because someone had brainwashed HIM 🙄.... I was wrong. He’s still got about 50 different personalities and is manipulative and a liar and very untrustworthy.
I can identify. I actually thought someone switched his brains at night, am serious. 🤣
Agreed--after 32 years mine just turned into a completely different person. I could not recognize him and thought that aliens had abducted him and replaced him with a cold, heartless, unfeeling drone. It was horrible. And HE called ME the narcissist because my mother is one. Ugh.... hugs to all
Me toooo! I thought his friends were brainwashing him but it was his true colours coming out. My ex was soooo wicked during the discard he sent me selfies of him on a date.
Omg same situation
😳 50 different personalities that a lot!
You are spot on .. this is exactly what it feels like . The abuse gets worse once they know u see them for who they are
My husband of 12 years just discarded me 4 weeks ago for the secretary at his work. He said the same thing to me, "I need to be alone" I went through the phone records and knew one day after he left, who he left for.
Im here to Empower myself because I'm devastated. The discard was so brutal, he had dark eyes that were eerie.
I'm dealing with ptsd from my son passing away in 2014, now this. I'm so exhausted and it's almost like he wanted to finish me off
Dear Lady❤. I am so sorry about your son❤.
I feel so bad for you about your son.
My husband also had a mistress at work, after this woman broke up with him and I also filed for divorce he hanged himself. Before he threatened me to do it, if I would sue for maintenance from him. I spoke to my lawyer and she filed a support lawsuit on purpose. The miser kept his word.
@@sigridbohne I'm sorry you experienced this brutality as well. It's completely malicious what they are capable of
Stay strong, I’m praying for you!!!! Thank God he left tho because now you can meet the man that will treat you with total Love and gentleness that you so need and deserve!!!!!
@@camisnyder3460 Thank you so much for the prayers & kind words🤍🙏
17 years. I always thought it was the drug addiction that made him do the terrible things he did. I kept trying to help him quit drugs over and over again. Feeding his supply unknowingly, forgiving affairs and other betrayals. I thought as soon as he's clean he will be good again. He needs my help and love. I am so fatigued, sick distraught and now just trying to survive for my 3 children. We have no where to live at the moment besides his family home. It's torture but people who don't get it say to me how lucky that we can stay here. Your videos have given me hope when I thought there was no light at the end of this dark tunnel.
May you find peace with The ALMIGHTY and may HE help show you a way to go❤
Unfortunately, I understand EVERYTHING that you are saying- I’m getting divorced after 32 years with the ultimate narcissist. I have 4 children with him and my kids and I have no clue as to who he is. The sadness and failure of my family has left me literally frozen- I can’t leave the house or even make a phone call on most days. Thanks,Caroline for your honesty and insights Hopefully with channels like yours, I can educate myself on narcissism so I can start making some sense out of all this horror. The fear and anxiety are crippling.Thank you for giving all that I’m going through and feeling validation- it helps!
I know it doesn’t FEEL like it now, but it all will get better. And one day you’ll just suddenly realize you are incredibly thankful you are out of that relationship. You’ll just feel GIDDY with joy that you now have a chance at being happy! I actually kissed my divorce decree when I walked out of the courthouse. It still bears a pretty red kiss from my lipstick! 💋
Keep coming back here. Also Dr. Ramani, Dr . Les Carter. The Little Shaman have helped me tremendously and am slowly but surely building myself back from the inside out.
I hope you’re doing better! 😔💓💓
@@bethreaves403 From your mouth to God’s ears !🙏🤞🤞 it can’t get much worse?! Thanks so much ❤️
@@Heyy.elleee thank you! I wish I was but it’s so debilitating- sometimes ignorance is bliss- when I think about having spent so many years with someone I don’t even know today it makes me sick. I feel tremendous guilt for not seeing it sooner for my kids sake! He has turned on all of us and we haven’t gotten over the shock YET! I’m questioning myself in ways I never have before- was I blind? Maybe? Anyway, I don’t have a choice- I’ve got to survive for my family 🤷♀️😱❤️
I told my ex very early on- the things I don’t like and even how I would respond. Not to intimidate or manipulate but out of a place of honesty, understanding how it could be misinterpreted-he did EXACTLY everything over the next 3 years and some really unbelievable things. Because I loved him so deeply I kept renigging on my boundaries, which made me seem flaky or soft. It took a tremendous trigger and the realization that if I was going to be my best self, it was going to be AFTER I close out this cycle not while I’m in it….good days/bad days I try to face it, process it in real time and let it filter through and out. I pray and speak healing and balance to all who watch this video ✌🏾💜💪🏾
Im sorry that happened to you.. I understand completely
I also tried to always live my best self/best life while married to mine for 43 years. They just find new ways to destroy your spirit. I left over 2 weeks ago ❤
How are things now? ❤
So SPOT ON! When I broke up with the Narc I was very direct and zero drama or emotion. I told him I was done and that we were just not well suited for each other. It made no difference, he continued with texts, calls etc and he had already met another supply source. I told him I wished him well and to treat HER well. I knew that poor girl knew nothing about his ways and I did not blame her for anything.
You really should have warn that poor girl ,because I wish my ex’s ex would have warned me …otherwise I did not need to go through all of these …
@@Emma-ee6mcWould you truly have listened?❤
@@tmo.48 at least I would know I was not the crazy one when the drama happened
The narc I was with broke up with me . She also made me believe that we would work on getting back together. In fact , all I got was blamed for everything being the way it was , and why it was getting worse. She used ignoring me and the silent treatment for punishment. She also told me everything I wanted to hear in order to use me during and even after the relationship.
I’m about a month and a half out of the relationship.
She got to the point where she eventually just up and blocked me on social media and the phone .
Its funny when you tell a narc how you feel or how they make you feel , they take that as a personal attack , act like you’re hounding them , holding things over their head , or they just dismiss how you feel altogether.
The woman he cheated on me with knew he was living with me for 10 years and still carried on sleeping with him behind my back so she is as bad as he is
Yah! She new he was married with 2 children. I can only imagine he told her a lot of lies. He lied to me a lot. But we were married and I was living in the hope that he would grow up and realize what he had. A committed, loving wife and 2 healthy, beautiful children is not something to take for granted. So in the end she is living the hell I was living and I have a much better life.
It was about him! A sad damaged person! You made it! You made it!! Better future; helping others!
They can't face their demons. And their demons are killing them.
They project their shadow onto others and attack the shadow. Until the do the shadow work and accept those negative parts of themselves, they will project them onto those around, family, children, partners, drivers,cyclists etc.
@@paxtonlux6698 very true
@@paxtonlux6698 great explanation of the shadow. This is of great help to my healing..thank you 👍❤
And killing others mentally, emotionally, and physically one little bit at a time
They are Demons.
Spot on, but, with my ex covert narcissist he is also a sexual predator and targeted me for my children. I want justice!
My divorce took 15 years and 3 lawyers. His lawyers kept quitting on him. I was stalked,, kept sending stuff in the mail as gifts, (sent them back) and I moved twice to get away. I finally have contact with one of my children, but she won’t let him know. I won’t discuss him at all. He did ruin me. It’s been since I left 1997.
I need to re-watch this video every single day! It spoke to me like you wrote it straight from the experience I had with my ex narc. Thank you, Caroline!
I commented on a previous video that the guy I was engaged to was probably a Narcissist or very close to being one. I'm so glad I didn't marry him.
Here's the backstory (it's kind of long).
I talked to my bishop (I'm a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and that is what ministers are called) and he said to me, "I've been really concerned about you." He made a date for me with a guy who was in our church's singles group right then and there.
When I told the guy I was sort of engaged to (that's the only way I can describe it) about it he was angry. The first thing he said to me was, "No one will want to date you." I found out that while he was "engaged" to me he'd been dating other women but he was mad that I went on a date with someone else! He'd pretty much stopped seeing me by this time except at a few, irregular times.
(I'd moved 3,000 miles to live near him--but not to live with him. I think he thought I never would so he was "safe." He didn't act particularly pleased when I moved even though he'd asked me to.)
My bishop told me if I'd go on this blind date I'd have my answer by the end of summer whether or not this guy was the person I should marry. The last day my "boyfriend" contacted me was on Labor Day in September! I met my kind and gentle husband just a few weeks later. We've been married for 47+ years.
I saw this guy parked on the street above the chapel where I had my wedding reception. I mentally laughed and thumbed my nose at him.
When I was working on an oil painting this boyfriend kind of sneered and said, "You'll never be an artist." Well, surprise! I have paintings in two museums and have gotten major awards and have had several solo shows--and was even a juror for a show. I paid for my BFA Degree (Bachelor's of Fine Arts) with paintings that I sold through a gallery plus talent awards and a full scholarship. It felt like sweet revenge to prove the jerk was wrong!
This video is SPOT ON!! I feel like we have lived the exact same life!! Almost 2 years low contact due to us having teenagers. I had to really self evaluate to see the role that I played in all and to heal. So happy to be free!! ❤🙏🏽
Yes, minimal contact due to teens as well. 18mnths out 💃🏽🥳
@@divinelychosen5554 Good for you!! There is NOTHING like this feeling!! I promise you I feel like WTH have I been doing with my life all of this time. 23 years lesson learned 🙌🏽
@@finallyfree384743 for me❤
Thank you so much! 7 months out! I divorced him, he moved on to his next victim within 4 weeks. I have been through every word you are saying! Still on the rollercoaster ride! 5 steps forward 3 steps back.Even though there has been no contact.
Sometimes you just have to jump off that roller-coaster ❤. I'm off and am trying to heal. Just need to remember those MANY dark dark days to be able to enjoy being out of them.
You are so strong!!!!!!!!!! I haven’t even left my Narc. Because I know how hard it’s going to be. Good for you, now you can start living the life you deserve!!!!!
Tell me about it!! I was in exactly the same situation as you. PTSD so wasn't functioning well and I top of this I had stalking, silent phone calls , taking my kids from school unannounced. His family all cut me off too so we were isolated and had no support..But here I am 12yrs on stronger than ever!! Save your children if anything and you will see them grow up grounded and emotionally healthy like I have ❤❤❤❤
It's good when you go straight to the point...you will save time for everyone
You could have been describing my break up a decade ago. Scarily exact. And very comforting to hear. It certainly does make you a stronger person though
I had a co-worker that believed if a woman stayed in an abusive relationship, she deserved what she got! I tried to tell him that by the time it got to that point, the woman was probably already so beaten down emotionally or mentally that she was probably feeling like she wasn't worth anything better and he had probably already isolated her from anyone that really loved and cared about her that she felt she had no where to go. But there was no convincing him otherwise!
He most likely had narc tendencies. Every time a woman was reported on the news as beaten or raped my covert narc would say she probably deserved it. You couldn't get him to see otherwise.
@@tmo.48 you sound psycho. when you start trying to make everyone narcissistic you need to go sort your life out man. "he MOST LIKELY"...you dont even know this man! or the op. youre just saying stuff.
and truthfully at some point people DO need to analyze why they stay in abusive relationships cuz there is something not right with that. i can see people being like o i got married young or i was born into it or something like that. but you'll have people be like I was in this relationship for 25 years like wtf. especially if the had children. and thats whats sick to me. idgaf WHAT YOU say. youre some kinda weak azz woman or man if you let someone abuse on your kids. and there's something about that that just ain't right.
i DO believe in Stockholm syndrome. I DO believe people can abuse you so bad mentally that you dont know whats up or down. but ffs at what point do YOU as a person realize that i know good and well this ain't right cuz i feel awful every day and this person ain't changing. i mean be fr. if you've ever been around someone with NPD they have VERY limited intelligence and they tend to do the SAME bs over and over again. YOU KNOW they're lying. YOU KNOW its dumb mind games. and you know you hate your environment. so im saying once you realize this ain't no good then yes you damn well better get your ass out that situation. there's too many women who tell you they said hell no and LEFT. if you wanna sit around and be like oh they beat that person mentally or emotionally so bad they felt like they weren't worth anything, FOH!!!
YOU find your worth in life.
thats what yall fail to realize.
so yeah stop with the excuses.
you find your own mf worth. its not in someone else its not in a relationship. its not in a job. its how YOU want to live in this world.
yall be up here standing for bs. i mean what if that woman allowed sa to happen to her children or allowed her children to be mentally emotionally or physically abused in other ways? youre still gonna make excuses?
you do realize people overcome trials EVERY DAY. there are mentally and physically disabled people who overcome challenges and do well for themselves. there are people who survived wars zones and violent gang activity. there are people who left cults. there are people who were poor and decided to never put their family through that.
PEOPLE GO THROUGH SHT. PEOPLE OVERCOME SHT EVERY SINGLE FKING DAY. so youre really gonna sit up here and say that someone let some damn man or woman beat their self worth down and they just couldnt leave em because of trauma? if you dont HAVE to go through something then dont it.
you realize there's women men and children out here getting KIDNAPPED and sold or forced into selling themselves and you mean to tell me youre making excuses for a person so weak spirited that they wanna blame a narcissist for why you cant get your azz up and leave a situation YOU DONT HAVE TO BE IN?
NARCISSISTS ARE GONNA BE NARCISSISTS. thats all they know how to be. YOU dont HAVE to be a victim. does that make sense???
i get why the way that guy said it was triggering. cuz he was mean about it. he said that person deserved it but in all REALITY he's mostly right. only some circumstances i can see where that just wasn't an option for the person. other than that im sick and tired of people making excuses for why they cant take accountability for themselves. thats LITERALLY the same as why a narcissist cant take accountability. narcissists are too WEAK to adapt to the world and take responsibility for themselves and try to BETTER THEMSELVES AS A PERSON. so basically thats like admitting a person who wont leave a narcissist is with them because THEY SHARE SIMILAR QUALITIES. hello?
stop letting people run you and making excuses for why youre doing it. cuz at some point if you continue to do it you might as well keep it real with yourself and be like "im the type that let people run me and im fine with it." cuz if youre NOT fine with it? then you better be making a plan to DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT.
My dad was a narcissist and the most violent I have seen I cut him off my life at age of 16 and never saw him again. Thinking the problem was solved I kept attracting narcissists on the professional and romantic level too and ended up marrying one. We lived together before marriage all was well the moment we married everything went off the rails. After the experience with my dad I sure as hell wasn’t going put up with that nonsense. So 3 months after the marriage I was divorcing. The common mistake I see people doing is knowing you are in a relationship where you’re been mistreated and abused and you stay giving plenty of time for the narcissist get all they can out of you then going off with someone. My question is why wait!? I don’t pretend it’s easy I know it’s not in fact some people out there are absolute heroes.. my mum for one.. my mum had to literally run with the clothes on her back that takes all the courage you have and the one you don’t. Narcissists rob you of your emotions, identity, self esteem, self confidence, self worth, your health, your belongings and some that snap take your life too. So my question is why wait!?
I think the strongest supports are these channels from people who have been there. And get it. Thank you!
Incredibly perfect timing.. I’m filled with gratitude in finding you today!! The narcissist made such unbelievable accusations last week in court & I was ACTIVATED and completely followed the pattern that you’ve described! Now that it’s outlined I’m able to see I CAN NOT BLAME “her”.. The insanity STILL COMES FROM HIM! Duh!
Thank you for your work! Looking forward to educating myself and learning through your program! ♥️
Lynyl Cullen,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷,hope you are not with a narc 😈!!
It did feel safer to stay, I was in that same boat.
Lanie Rogers,You look stunning 🌹🌷🌷 dear
Great video. The best thing for me afterwards was learning about the deceit to the extent it was. Being kind hearted is who I am but when I found out how money was taken from my disabled son I am so glad he found a knew host. I lost all interest in him. I cut off intimacy while he was trying to decide what he wanted to do. Also knowing that o was the one taking care of the family and putting a my dreams on hold played a good part too. He began to rewrite the story and I began to wake up. I was so unhappy. There is happiness behind peace. Loving on myself now. His smear Champaign backfired and whoever wants him can have him. I would have never married the person behind the secrets. Its time to laugh and enjoy life. It took me a while but it really feels good. Understanding the craziness helped but understanding the fact that we are all great and that is why you were chosen reveals our value. Live life now to the fullest everyone.😘
There is no way a man sends a text ‘accidentally’ my guess is it was sent directly to hurt you or ‘bring you back in…’
The ex just did this 2 days ago.
He then offered to help me with my money that’s lost from his trading stuff.. he went on to say how he helps the people he cares for but don’t tell his parents cuz how they are with money. It was very robotic. & then he silenced me
2 days now.
I originally blocked and cut off contact and then he found any way possible to reach out.
They are Satan spawn. Wicked. And twisted. Appearing like an angel of light one moment and then their true colors come out In the next moment.
Wow! Caroline this was genius. You have given me a greater perspective about the aftermath of leaving the Narc.
And helping me to have a greater compassion for those choosing to stay.
Thankyou, Thankyou.
Absolutely have new supply when "they" move on.
Thank you, Caroline. I experienced the rejection of who I thought was a good friend because after telling her all that my ex was making me go through, I wasn't leaving. She actually said, "called me again when you love yourself". It really hurt, however, somehow inside I felt she was giving me a very good insight on what I was doing with my life. Not that I've spoken or will speak to her again, cause a true friend wouldn't do that, but it was a big lesson and I am kind of thankful to her for being so blunt. I've just broken up with my ex, finally, and I feel so confused, lost and with such lack of ability to think clearly and focus. Your videos are being a great help. Love from Spain.
I hope you are doing better now.
She loved you enough to be brutally honest❤
"Rewriting history" yes, that's exactly what my ex husband has done and is doing. I'm just floored how much everything is so spot on.
I am still married, but I recently saw this carry over into a recent bad experience in the workplace. I am totally that co-dependent person. It was definitely an OMG moment for me. Which, I can't lie, kind of scares me. Thank you for putting out these videos.
Its very interesting how the experience seems to be sooo objectively similiar with big amount of people
Truly Outstanding ! A teaching moment . Thank you so very much !🙏💪, Portsmouth, NH. USA
I wonder if your ex husband watches your videos, that thought just made me chuckle :)
I’ll bet he does!!! Narcissistic people can’t stand not knowing what you’ve said about them!!
I would think so . Now he probably tells or gives people a different spin on the videos would be my theory on that.
There's a man on UA-cam who recorded his Narcissistic father and uploaded it. The father checks on the comment board constantly (many of his comments are years old) and wrote nasty things about his son under multiple screen names and also to anyone who supported his son. He called his son a psychopath, but always spelled it wrong which was funny.
In the replies he always insists that the son is the Narcissist.
My last comment on the video was a year ago so maybe the dad finally went on to torture someone else. There are almost 83,000 comments so the video really struck a chord.
You could call this video Narcissism 101:
ua-cam.com/video/dpC6l4IRNTE/v-deo.html
YES the abuse does NOT END even after the relationship ENDS. I’m done with it !! ✅✅‼️‼️💯💯 Your sanity will be TRULY TESTED TO THE BRINK AND I CANNOT TAKE IT ANYMORE ‼️‼️
Get assistance
@@derekwfrazier I’m good
@@ShaisTimeYou're good now❤. I get those up and down feelings too. I renew my mind with GOD'S promise to direct my path❤
Another on point video where it feels like you are speaking directly to me... I have to ask Caroline, do you think that accidental text was actually accidental? The exact same “accident” happened to me and I knew right away that it was in fact no accident but more of his attempts to control my emotions and hurt me. I also want to say that I agree with you about the other woman....except for married/families. A person that involves themselves within that dynamic is truly showing their lack of character and concern for others. Thanks again keep these vids coming 💕
Sending love ❤️
@miss mandy, I had similar flaunt of new partner that was sent "by accident". Ex never sent anything in error, he was extremely cautious so I knew it wasn't an accident.
I suspect he was looking for my reaction so that he could say I was "crazy, jealous". I didn't react at all which I knew could cause him to feel angrier.
@@uknpdsurvivor660 You make an excellent point... silence really is our best weapons but damn that can be so hard to do! Even when we were together, if I could achieve not responding it would do one of 2 things... he’d sometimes just give up or he’d escalate until he tired himself out, silence was the only “win” I ever felt. Now being apart, silence is just as hard but I’ve been working hard and am getting much better at it. 💖
Yes I do think it was an accident as he was mortified initially but then reverted into defence and projection
@@CarolineStrawsonHealing that’s interesting... what a fool lol
You said it yourself in the beginning of this video. You saw your separation from your husband as a business matter and expected him to respond in the same way. He responded in an emotional way. It wasn't business for him.
Yeah, isn’t it weird watching UA-cam videos from people talking about narcissism who may actually be quite narcissistic themselves?! We all have a bit of it in us, that’s true.
Married 43 years and now realizing he is a narcissist. Leaving for good... no matter my age.
Wow Wow Wow!! I cannot express how much this resonates with me. Holy Cow. I think I need to listen to this video daily. Thank you!
I am writing a book ,started it 25 years ago. Wrote a special poem at the beginning of the book. Married 30,alone25. I’m the poster girl. Started writing when this wasn’t known. I used narcissist in my trying to understand. Greek mythology. He was in love with his own reflection in a pond. He drowned. I had insight to that on my own.🤔🤗
That's fabulous ❤! After 40 something years with mine I had to find out by reading comments and listening to a UA-cam channel!!! The answers were found quickly but I couldn't wrap my mind around it for the longest ❤❤❤
I just want to say you are the greatest you explained this so spot on and so everyone can understand about narcissom I know there is so much more its ashame there are people like this in the world you have one life and that's it you try and live it to the fullest with a person you thought loved you like you did them and the next thing you know your in cort paying for things you thought you already payed for you gave them the money to pay it and they didn't you half to pay things yourself to make sure they are payed I spent 14 years with a colvert narcissist before I found out the lies cheating and stealing that they do its ashame
You’ve just told my life - horrible, I felt broken - he wanted to stay and eat his cake. If he hadn’t been caught out. I felt relieved when he said it was another woman, not sure why they down grade. They have like split personalities. That’s proper NPD
So solid and on point. 👏 👏 👏
Thank you. Your content is fabulous! And keeps me on task
Girl!!!!!
I literally remember saying to my now ex of over 20 years: "Who are you?"
His mask was off and his smear campaign was already in place.
He was exactly how you described ur ex.
But I need to tell survivors that there ARE new supplies who want ur husband ur house ur cars n trucks and ur lifestyle.
Be pissed if ya have to.
My ex husband is a bitch and so is his dirty little secret who wanted my money and lifestyle.
You'll know the difference.
i left my ex narc husband - although it felt like a reverse discard. He told me to leave - and then said if i did, id ruin our daughter’s life. Fast forward a year, he recently told me he wanted me to divorce him and then that he tried to cheat on me after I left but was unsuccessful.
Narcs are freaking crazy.
Thank you for sharing your story!!
The “Accidental” text he sent to u was prob....not an accident... Everything they do is purposeful...my ex still sends “Accidental” text meant For other people to me and my mom from time to time....smh. #BenignHoovers
My ex-wife totally became a different person when she announced the divorce. It was all my fault. She started telling mutual friends outright lies about me.
My husband is a complete covert Narc. We have been married ten years and have two kids together. He drove his ex wife insane and she left and I was soooooo ignorant and believed HIM that she was crazy. I ended up raising his three daughters and our kids. He was caught cheating and then I found out there were others. I never leave. I worked so hard to get the house of my dreams and the kids love their father. I constantly think I should divorce him. There’s ZERO trust. If I leave the kids will hate me. I don’t want to break up my family but I’m slowly dying. Right now I’m getting the silent treatment which actually I’m doing better than ever lol. Please pray for me and my kids.
My narc started at 6 years old controlling with power unbelievable power I reckon demonic but I keep praying it out even though she doesn't live here anymore! She grew angry abusive. I put up with it TIL she was 20 She now doesn't live with me and is 27 now. I still love her unconditionally. God loves her more and WILL heal her
Omg my ex turned into a total different man I asked myself who is this man from the man he was before 🤨
So true had this several ways indirectly so can see if you were close to them
That’s how my ex is now.. He’s a coward! I don’t know him
What the f do they do to leave you so crazy and never wanting love again 😭.
Boof like magic after the shock and confusion of disguard you are stripped down to your soul... and cant bounce back easily like you do, like under a spell. Crazy if you havnt gone through it you cant describe it to the 'forget and move on' normies. 🙁 so sad and isolating and soul and moral and mind destroying, yet your mad at yourself why?
Eve, u are spot on!!! The spell is the worse!!!
@@carmenjustcarmen4449 I know exactly like this crazy spell. But I think there is method to their madness that ingrains and hooks into our psyche especially if going through this at the time unaware. Some go as far to say there is an element of hypnosis here, but I see it also in heignsight as an array and over longterm larger and minute calculated physiological actions all happening at once, slowly seeps, and has the ability that will hook any mind. Obviously an element of 'self love deficit' makes the whole scenario so much worse. I feel even knowing the knowledge afterwards is not enough to entangle ones mind around it ; aside the cognitive dissonance. There are many psychological elements that keep you there long after any 'normal grieving process' or 'breakup' would. And they can drop it all like you never existed. It's very painful, especially if they if they dangled a carrot to try always harder to reach some veigue goal, so you try harder and harder to reach some goal to keep the relationship going, all the while they are lovebonbing someone else behind your back. As hard as the truth is I would of coped to hear it and overcome the grieving, but they are two timing instead and the plan making me try working harder, deliberately sabotaging and trying to do right nothing will be enough, and trying in any way to prove you are a bad person, and hold it in, figure it out, when his intention on how to get rid of me by ruining things and trying to prove I'm suddenly a problem or not good etc while I'm biting my lip to keep the peace and show I was 'healthy enough not to get "triggered" ' ie not validate my feelings even when bullied, I was trained to stay silent, but when he traumatised me at disguard and didnt yet let me have my say and was begging etc he puts me on loudspeaker to rant and cry to myself, not saying anything to or in his defence etc
Am really happy to bee apart of your UA-cam family
My Nac said the same thing ,he said he has being hurting me for long time and he needs to stop hurting me …in the same time he picked up all the fights from nothing ,which just made me feel he needs to run away…so he has new target right ? It happened before our marriage and after my surgery of miscarriage.
I was always in a state of can't leave can't stay, I was staying for my kids, but I would rather them see a happy dad than a miserable dad.
Thank you
Thank you for sharing this God bless you!!!!
My ex narc discarded me after only 8 months like 3 months ago. I know there was and still is no new supply. He started doing weird things. I blocked him but somehow ... suffice it to say that he found a loophole so that he could keep me posted on what was going on in his life at that time. First, the family dog passed, then he went on a holiday that he refused to do with me (going to Hamburg) and stuff like that. He even created a second Facebook account in which he is still in a relationship with me. So it's a little bit of silent treatment, punishment as well as hoovering. I'm really confused and sadly these ploys kinda work because I'm still "addicted" to him. Still wondering if the pictures of him being in Hamburg with his friends rather than with me
were a punishment ... Why would he create a second account then after I blocked his "real account"? So confusing! At one point he even said that no matter what he would always come back to me.
After 24years of being with a malignant narcissistic sociopath, I survived many attempts to end my life people tell me I am lucky to be alive. Maybe so but I don't feel lucky. In fact being alone at 56 is not very inspiring.. I was left with nothing but my loving dog. How do you find someone new. It's not like there are a lot of single wemam out there. So I have had to except the future of lonelyness. I don't know how I will make it when my dog is gone. I spend all my time and money making him happy. It is sad but he's all the love I HAVE left Where do I go from here.
This happen to me with my ex
Ha! My ex did the same thing”accidentally “ texting me instead of his affair person. He totally did it on purpose so he could say I was crazy. So many layers of manipulation, makes my head spin.
Oh my God, yes this is what happened, i was divorcing him because of horrible circumstances, where the police were involved, he then smeared my reputation with family and friends , basically saying I wanted the divorce because I wanted to be ith 21 year olds and more, you can imagine! This shocked me! But what did I expect from a pathological lier! And his flying monkeys believed it! Then after 25 years I was free! He was stalking me, but thank God, gave up!🙏👏👿
Can you do a video please about narcissistic bosses? Ive had a burn out because of mine. Thankfully i dont have to go back to this job but it makes me very nervous about starting another job in case im in this position again.
Very gud vidio. Thank ❤
Mine left her bed next day in mine 4 years on me on and off
20 years for her !!
I’m grateful I’m out and will thrive with freedom x
You can do it. I have done it to my father. It’s MAGICAL. 😉👌🏻🔥
So, what I'm hearing is that both the narcissist and the co-dependant have deep childhood wounds and feelings of unworthiness. And I completely get that the narcissist never plays fair. However, (and here's the bit that most people don't like), if you look at all the aspects of co-dependancy, many of them are manipulative, but carried out in a caring loving, sometimes victimmy way. So ultimately, there is the question........ is most of our hurt coming from a place of, this person duped me, but I always had this gut feeling, however my unmet childhood wounds hurt so much, I ignored my rational adult, (gut instinct)?
Seems like many people have stories where their spouse has turned into something cruel and evil. Why does this happen? Clearly they would not get married knowing this. Are couples ignoring red flags or are people hiding their true self ? My ex wife hid everything - until she dropped the mask and she showed what evil is. The answer to NPD is to have all couples write out a pre nup so both sides knows how everything will be split. Educate young couples on this personality trait so it's not a surprise 8 years later. You will save on the lawyer bill too. Pre nups should be a positive for woman, not an emotional obstacle. Marriage is a true business contract.
Am new to your channel from jamaica ❤❤
He was the golden child but his father walked out on the family
The new partner joined him in the abuse and accusations. I’m afraid I think he met himself in her
😥😥😥😘Thank you.
Is it common for a narcissist to be physically abusive? I never hear professionals bring that characteristic up.
Hi Stephanie no one on this earth has the right to physically abuse you it's wrong on every level. There's serious issues with that person please seek help to give you support and strength
I'm so sorry your going threw this but please believe me life is better standing alone with lots of self love
Big love and hugs I pray you look for help to help you remember your worth and that no one ever has the right to abuse you xx
@@carolinecarson9631 thank you.
Did you find happiness after this ordeal?
Hi Caroline,
How do I connect for 1 to 1?
I have gone through your website contact page, without success.
Thank you
That’s strange. Apologies but drop me an email hello@carolinestrawson.com ❤️🙏
There should be no reason to converse when papers are ready...
They have supply when there with you there never alone.
There a over grown adult child brats they think there so special there not there evil in every way
He and his flying monkeys went badmouthing me everywhere
I need help. I feel like I'm going crazy how do I get to chat to someone?
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He has accomplished so much 10 yrs navy 4 yr college almost went pro basketball and now a local celebrity singer in south Florida so actually this monster always looks good on the public eye and is an alcoholic
They just cut you off.
It's so not like any other break up... To be fair a bloke whose only job was a trolley dolly clearly has issues... A woman's job?... No wonder why he treated you so badly... So lacking in masculinity...
I told him your just like everyone else just less than lol that was pretty bad
Nope sorry, I'm not sorry or hold empathy for the new supply, she knew he was married. It took 2
Mr Hyde turned up! I loved Dr Jeckal but he died!
I love your talks...but could you shorten your sessions...in my defense I can't stay with a lengthy talk...I don't have a lot of patience...I love what you say...
Haha!!! I have others asking me to talk longer and I’m more depth!!! Maybe just listen in chunks as attention span can be part of the effects of trauma
Lol.
I never knew that a Narc was created by the inherent conditioning of parenthood. My person had her father leave her at a young age and divorce must have become the Narc nail for her cranium as coffin to her hearts desire. Her pattern was similar to her childhood where she divorced her husband due to his sex addiction and so infidelity ensued on more than one occasion. when she figured that out, she first made him pay for a boob job which went badly for her. Her right breast encapsulated and now has to have them removed. She basically mutilated herself because the woman that her husband cheated on had bigger tits than she. Then she divorced as her parents did, leaving her own two children in the lurch of emotional tsunami's which left the youngest to suicidal attempts. She has been divorced now for three years or so and is co-parenting with him. The relationship she has with him is also of a co-dependent one. My observation, anyway. What is interesting is that the two years I've known her, the LOVE of my life. I have been forced to break up with her many times during the course of our relationship. I keep walking into her trappings because i am a co-dependent because of my lack of self love due to my parents abandoning me at eight years of age. I have yet to recover. I broke up with her recently, the 20th time, and this time i promised myself that i would no longer contact her. WELL...4 days later after not receiving her calls or texts the bitch shows up at my doorstep with my book that i left at her house. I opened the door and tried to take my book back. She took it away behind her back and asked if she could come in. I let her, i wanted my book back. I was very defensive and an argument developed....She pissed me off to the point of my screaming at her, GET THE FUCK OUT OF MY HOUSE !!! I removed her physically and kicked her in the ass, not hurting her at all, as she was on her way out. I thought GREAT, I did it, we are DONE. She came back the next night, unannounced and she began telling me that she loves me and that she wants to kiss my handsome face and that she wants to make love to me....So I did. Four hours of incredible sex after not having any sex for six weeks prior whilst in relationship ! As to why she uses sex as cake and sweets just to refuse me on many occasions is beyond me. Also she has not allowed me to spend one night with her in the two years that has passed dating her, also beyond me . Well , this time my allowing her back into my co-dependent heart, I prepared myself knowing that if she takes her self from me again, refusing me from my trying to express my loving her and having sex on a regular basis, that I would leave her for good. Well after 4 days of straight sex, every night, and coming to my house for a change...she has not been in my house for nine months. It's always me going to her with flowers , chocolates, etc....giving, giving, giving....Well she repeated her pattern and told me she did not want to make love to me when it's already been a week that has passed with little affection. I told
her to go home, called her a Narc, tried clarifying to her that her behaviour is not supportive of a healthy relationship even though she tells me that she loves me. Man, am I a stupid ass...I need to face being alone. I need to learn how to self love. I need to leave us alone as there is no us ! It felt good to write this...thank you one and all....
Any one who thinks himself/herself infalliable, perfectly honest, or take self pity, and other person, in whose relationship he or she, is completely intolerable without his fault may be a narrsist
Thank you.