The Hidden Symptoms OF Complex PTSD After Narcissistic Abuse
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- In this video, we will discover hidden Complex PTSD (CPTSD) symptoms after narcissistic abuse.
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Are you struggling to understand the hidden symptoms of Complex PTSD (CPTSD) after experiencing narcissistic abuse? You're not alone. In this video, we uncover the lesser-known signs and help you on your journey to healing. Join me, Caroline Strawson, a trauma-informed coach and therapist, as we discuss the hidden symptoms of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) that often arise after surviving narcissistic abuse. I'll share my professional insights, personal experiences, and practical tips to identify, cope with, and recover from these challenging symptoms.
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I have C-PTSD. probably have all my life, I am 56. I was married to a covert Narcissist for 31 years, then learned that my mom is a covert narcissist also. Divorced 2019, and healing since 2017, but no matter how many counselors I go to, I cannot get the chronic tension headaches to go away. I have been to a neurologist, acupuncturist, chiropractor, PT, naturopath, nothing has helped. I am triggered all the time, in a fear state, don't sleep well because of dreams of him, my memory is bad, I cant concentrate, even watching your youtubes I have to rewind and rewind and still my mind doesn't process & retain the info. I do agree that the trauma is stuck inside me, even after all my dedicated work to heal myself, so how can I help myself get the the bottom layer when my mind wont allow me to remember, and to feel? I feel a lot as I am very sensitive, but I have never been angry at him, I think I should be, I think its possible I am scared to be angry, am I scared to let go, of the emotions inside me?
EFT or emotional freedom technique has been helpful for many as well as EMDR and cannabis therapy. Thankfully there are several options available to heal.
Try EFT tapping? Very strong for trauma release like emdr
The only thing you will be able to do for relief is to try anesthetizing the brain for short periods with cannabis, shrooms and ketamine, so you can see the other side. The brain will then remember after guided clinical treatment. Follow the literature for very ill combat veterans for measurea and hypotheses..good luck
Include a practice of meditation daily.
Preferably in the morning, to set the tone for the day.
Echart Tolle is a good teacher if meditation and it's benefit to heal the pain body ( trauma) .
Me too and I am 89 had it all my life only thing different is I married a good wife she has some similarities with me . We been married 60 years this year .
This has been the most validating and informative thing I’ve come across in months. Thank you so much for this!
I am almost certain that I have c-ptsd. I suffered from childhood abuse. Not 100% sure what all mental illnesses my mother has but she definitely has problems from her own childhood trauma. She raised my brother and I as a single mother and most of the time it was a living hell. I was filled with so much anxiety every single day coming home from school. Never knew what kind of mood she was in and if it was a bad one I knew my brother and I were in for it the rest of the night. I am now 45 years old and I know there is still trauma locked inside of me. Because just like you said in the video when something happens I am completely traumatized until "the dust settles" so to speak and then I feel fine until the next trauma and it happens all over again. I've been in counseling most of my life but it's only been talk therapy and only helps to a certain degree. Definitely need to do more so I can finally live a normal life. I'm so sick of this emotional rollercoaster! 🥺
If you haven’t gone no contact, you probably should consider it. When in contact with a narcissist, it doesn’t feel safe to heal or to let down your guard. Going no contact made all the difference for me. They will manage without you there to target.
I was. Drugged and held captive for 4 months by my ex , abused for over 12 hrs was so badly beaten ( most nights he would do this) he almost killed me many times .. Goes so much darker than this.... But me and my 3 kids all have cptsd..... And i have 6 otther disorders due to the severity of my cptsd. .... Im just thankful we are alive ..... Some arnt so damn lucky ..... Suffer severe insomnia due to night terrors and paralysis.... I dont live anymore i exist.... Having 6+ attacks daily plus other things is really not easy to live with....
You do find out youre true frisnds and famiky once you hit the bottom.... Thr ones who stay.... Hold onto them...
Im better now than i was 2 yrs aho.... But im still a long way from being better .... If there is such a thing. But ya just have to keeo trying. X
Sorry to hear you been trough that sister sending you love , love you , hold on
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Holy crap, I'm really sorry you went through this. You are strong as hell. I was not beaten by my abuser but he made indirect threats. One thing he did was warn me I better never go to his mother and tell her anything about him (we're nearly 50) and he said "if anyone ever causes my mother to lose respect for me... well let's just say I can understand why some people go to prison for murder."
As he abused me his final time, he told me (yet again) to stay away from his mother. I finally texted her, and ratted him out that he's an abusive alcoholic and that he demanded I stay away from her.
That's when I realized, she is the culprit who has controlled him his entire life. She is the reason he's screamed at me in rage and told me "no one will ever control me! You're a control freak!!" He wants to get away with doing what he pleases no matter what, and the smallest question would send him into an episode of volcanic rage. Screaming so bad he was gasping for air. Calling me a "sick f#@!" because I dared question him.
And yet still, I am trapped in the cycle of unanswered questions, needing to get my pain out, wanting to hold his feet to the fire, and feeling the resentment, anger and rage myself.
I never lived with him and it still changed me so bad I don't know if I'll ever get past it.
Lanna, keep holding on . . . It does get better but must pursue healing everyday! Keep it up, you and your family sre worth it. Dont claim your wounded-ness but claim your healing.
I've got all of this. I've had it for ever. Was in very bad relationship for 28 years. Trying to get counciling now. I'm now able to explain to the councilor what is going on. Thank you.
Sorry to hear this lovely. I have free support group that would be good for you to join- facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse/
I was in a relationship with a narcissist from the age 17 to 22. This really completely fucked me up and now after a year after the breakup I still suffer from it. I think it will stay with me the rest of my life. Breaking up with this person was the hardest thing I’ve ever lived through but I made it somehow and it’s like a completely new life afterwards. I can’t even imagine what my life had looked like if I had stayed in that situation. My life is so much better now but so different. I totally see how my mind has to get used to this situation that life is so easy and not this constant stress. The relief I feel sometimes is so huge when I realize I’m not in this relationship anymore. And then there are situations where I feel anxious and full of panic and then realize I’m safe now and this person is super far away from me. Love is a crazy thing but I was not in love I was addicted to this person. I wanted to break up with this man for 5 years but never made it. I was under this constant stress knowing I had to break up but I couldn’t. And if we had a break for like a few days I always ran back to him. It’s still so surreal for me how I managed to break up with him in the end and not getting back to him. I was really lucky with the circumstances at this time which forced me to stay away from him. And still sometimes when I have a hard moment in life I feel this urge to text him even though I hate him. And I still don’t trust myself with that. It’s crazy that’s like having an addiction. But luckily the more time passes the stronger I get. Now I’m just afraid that I will ever get back in a situation like this. I just hope I learned from that and stay away from people like that. I‘m so sorry for everyone who has to go or has gone through that. But if you are going through this right now I’m telling you you will get out of this at some point. At one point you will have the strength.
"My husband has this condition." "His nocturnal flashbacks were in remission whilst attending the neuro outpatients department in Edinburgh." "But my father in laws continued stonewalling." "Brought the trauma flashbacks back more aggressive than what they were." "He awakens covering his face like he is being assaulted." "And screams stop hitting me after 3am or 4am in the morning." "This is what I witness sharing a bed as a married couple." "And consultants have examined the episodes at the telematery sleep clinic." "What I will say never hit your child because brain damage is ireversable & incurable." "Some parents shouldn't be allowed to have children especially if they strike them knowing that they left the child infertile & assaulting them for that is cowardly.
I haven't been physically abused. But I've experienced being gasslighted. Ie my asthma and anxiety was another made up health condition to my partner. The citizens advice bureau told me, Gaslighting Is a form of coercive control under the 2019 new domestic abuse law. This makes it a crime for a person to verbaly engage in a course of conduct, that is likely to cause such harm to the victim. The domestic abuse officer told me if my partner used methods like this again they would have a word in his ear so to speak.
@@leavingbricksatbackgate548there would never be any such laws in USA. Here, it is literally all over the news, as gaslighting is even used by politicians. "It never happened", and "they're coming for you," and "you will lose everything if you don't vote for me", and all kinds of gaslighting is all over shameless American politics. It's all meant to cause rage. Our own media is engaging in reactive abuse. The politicians let the lions out of the cages to attack us, and then tell us they're saving us.
Good video, thank you for this
Thank you so much!! Very useful!!! God Bless you!!
Thank you so much for this life changing information. This was so effective for me to help explain it to my wife, who suffered narcissistic abuse for 30 years. It was so well said and relatable. Just thank you ❤
Wonderful video ❤thank you
Thank you, very very helpful in
understanding what is going on with my loved one
You’re welcome my friend x
Spot on!
I am just getting out of a 28 year relationship. It's devastating. There is so much going on within me. It's affecting everything in my life. Legal stuff, there is a full order stay away. I don't know where to begin I am traumatized for sure. 😢
Awee I'm so sorry sweetie
I am going through a very similar situation although my addiction to him made me come back
Traumabond and addiction doesn't care if the law decides.for me anyway.
Abuse and narcissistic abuse are not the same.
They can happen both at the same time
I'm starting to suspect that I have C-PTSD. I think I was just disassociated from my childhood trauma until my narcissist ex discarded me in November. Now it's full blown.
So glad my admission was not posted. Sure it was deleted because I am ready to end it. I can’t find help whereI live that my insurance covers. Mental Health is an under served medical need everywhere. I don’t know where to turn. Peace be with you all.
Thank you i feel now im not going crazy , i supected this after 24 yrs of covert abuse unbeknownst to myself & as this journey progresses to recovery & difficulty in new employment i was curious about this cptsd as it effected me deeply & could see simptoms the fog the blank memorys , the numbing , the not listening to instructions even thou i did but couldnt follow the steps to my disbelief of knowing how to do the job , also the sleeping or lack of , but now validated , so now i have a process to recover thanks again 😂
Ive had all of these symptoms most of my life due to constantly being bullied at school then emotional challenges in the couple of relationships i had. Seems ingrained in me now. Wish i could move on.
I have been diagnosed with CPTSD. I have been referred to EMDR. Is it possible that you don’t conciously think, it jjust manifests itself as anxious. I do think about it conciously. I avoid everything . I question everything,, brain fog sucks. Insomnia is exhausting ...
you really don't need to be kidnapped or go to war to have CPTSD. Just have contact with people. This planet is hell, monsters are among us.
But angels are also. The good can outweigh in our lives, but we must choose the light snd deny the darkness. Yes, we need healing like she is teaching, but the Lord came to save the world, and he brought lightness into this world to offer-set the darkness. Choose it and Ive found healing but it took time,e amd effort of focus. Blessyou.
I had c-ptsd from domestic violence and sexual assaults and stalking with multiple break in and a death and police escort out of state only to be found again then held hostage and severely beaten and a gun stuck to my head and trigger pulled Lucky not killing me. Police involved that helped my abuser. Decades and decades of abuse. Domestic violence only gets worse.
I was neglected by my narc mother and haven't seen each other for 18 years.We are currently in no contact after many years of minimal contact but the thoughts of our relationship often bring anger and hurt
I can emphatize with the anger and hurt. I was her primary carer till she passed in 2020. Never appreciated me till the end. I didn't know about narcissism till I separated from my borderline malignant narcissistic husband of 25 yrs. Now I've gone no contact with my maternal family and trying to heal from so much abuse. Inner child healing is the way to reclaim your self esteem and set boundaries
I’m having problems sleeping and having flashbacks or like flashes of lightning waking me from sleep with visuals of women with my husband whom I’ve never seen.
Same. I keep waking from sleep after seeing visions of him with other women or hearing words he said to me or having flashbacks, and I hear the words in my mind, "I hate my life." I feel so much pain but at the same time feel completely shut down. I'm terrified of what my life will be like without him. He gaslit and tortured me and dumped me so many times it was like a torturous cycle that didn't stop whether he was there or gone.
@@alouise3557 I’m sorry to hear, that you have been treated so horribly and having flash backs. I’ve found reading or watching my favorite tv before bed helps keep my mind occupied. I’m 58 and I to am terrified of what my future holds. I married my husband 40 years ago and had no clue he was narcissistic. Im currently staying at my parents having thoughts of going back to him.
But by educating myself, I see he’s never going to change. Now that I know, he’s never loved me and all the lies and infidelity, I’m terrified to stay. I keep telling myself, I deserve better And, So Do you! You don’t hate your life, you were in your relationship with good intentions, you have a good heart and we’re taken advantage of. I think we’re always gonna have bad days and intrusive thoughts, but we need to just take one day at a time and try not to be so hard on ourselves. They’re not worth it. I have confidence in you and you deserve love. Stay Safe
My aunt keeps telling me she believes I have cptsd from abuse from my narc father 26 years of abuse.
Is post narcissistic stress disorder a variation of CPTSD?
Complex Post Trauma Stress Emotion cPTSE per Marty Glenn
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I still have all of these even after 4 years. I really thought I was moving on but I can’t seem to heal further. I have returned to the Uk after 38 years abroad. But whom do I ask for help? Many thanks.
You can ask me for help with your healing❤️🩹
Here’s a starting point, my free support group- facebook.com/groups/thriveafternarcissisticabuse/
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I think I have C-PTSD
The only cure for mental anguish is physical
Sorry, I'm almost 5 minutes in and so far all I'm seeing is a sales pitch. The video is just too long for me to sift through for useful content. Just do your introduction and get into it, and leave the treatment options toward the end. Don't start with the expensive sounding solution. That's like saying math is important, it's important that we know math for reasons. 3. But why 3? We'll get into that, but I like to use a calculator with my clients. Anyway, because the question is 1+2