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that's what narcissists are....been there, done that...and it's not a pretty sight...you will really loose yourself and if you don't get out, it will be more difficult as time goes by...because of your trauma bond with them. YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH! YOU ARE SPECIAL AND YOU DESERVE BETTER! (note to self!)
Nakalimutang idagdag ni kuya Darbs. Nasa maling tao ka kung di ka nya nirerespeto by being a womanizer or manizer. He or she is not loyal to you. That’s top reason why you’re in a wrong relationship. Otherwise his list is good. 👍
Sometimes you just need space. honoring your marriage until the end brings you blessings and gifts , it gives you future blessings like blessings the future of your kids
it seems that I wasted the persons who loves me so truly, she sacrifices a lot for me : time, efforts, gifts, friends and love. and in exchange is tears. I wasted it. it's been 2 yrs but I still love you Hannah. I'm glad na hindi na tayo. masaya ako na na makita kang hindi na nsasaktan ng dahil saken. I'm happy for you.
Sapol na Sapol!!!!, It happens to me recently, I was in a wrong Guy for two years, akala ko magbabago!, Thank God !, He gave me the courage to let him go!..Salamat Darbs sa mga very inspiring video mo, Keep it Up!!!.
LDR kami, nakilala ko sya nung grade 10 kami, and now 4 years na kami. 3rd year college na sya, that time na nasa work ako, i sacrificed my time dahil miss nya na ako na umabot sa point na nag break kami. That's why umuwi ako para makasama nya, i can see how happy she is nung magkasama kami, and naayus ko ulit yung relationship, kapalit non natanggal ako sa work pero buti mabait yung isang team ng sales marketing na pinag trabahuan ko kaya after 2 weeks kinuha ulit ako at tinanggap ulit ako sa work, and then naging ganon nanaman. He misses me, at umuwi ulit ako, and i stayed for 1 year this past 2021 february, then naging okie na ulit, then now na nakabalik na ako sa maynila, nakipag break na ulit sya and ayaw nya na ako makita, she will kill herself, and now di ko na alam gagawin ko. Mahal na mahal ko sya pero now it's done.
Colossians 3:18-19, sometimes you go back to the basic, our thoughts should be aligned with GOD Almighty so everything follows accordingly. Walang maling tao, taong walang Diyos na pinamumuhay marami. Yung pinag iisip natin tungkol sa 2 tao na nagmamhalan, pero bakit ikaw sa sarili mo, sa pamilya na kadugo mo, kaibigan mo, kapitbahay mo, kahit pulitiko magkakbabayan o kahit bansa sa bansa common na di nagkakaintindihan, nagtatalo nagiging toxic lahat. Nagiging bulag tayo kasi naniniwala tayo sa tama base sa tama sa mundo, pero kung lahat ipamumuhay yung GODly Life doon lang tayo magkakaroon ng free and non toxic life. Kita mo mga pulitiko, mga dalubhasa may kanya kanyang argumento at pagtatalo, ikaw na simpleng mamayan na nakikipagrelasyon pa kaya. walang bulag na aakay sa kapwa bulag.
What I needed to hear after a failed 7 years relationship. When everything was on point and glad to finally realized that I'm with the wrong person, which I keep ignoring the signs. The road I choose now may be hard, being alone but not lonely, but soon this shall pass. Let time heals and focus for self love. ❤️
Hi. Same tayo, 7 yrs kmi and nag end this month lang. Sobrang sakit pero kailangan kong maging malakas para sa sarili ko. Ngayon solo ako at kumuha ako ng bhouse ko, everyday umiiyak ako kasi di ako sanay na di sya kasama pero alam ko darating din tau na kaya na naten na wala sila pray labf tayo 😊😇
@@sapphireshye Ako din be. Pero makakabangon ka promise. Magtiwala saken. Pa onti2 mkakabangon ka. Sa una mahirap, sa una masakit pero valid yan. Ako nga be e, I need to be strong para sa sarili ko. Kaya e2 ako be pinapalakas ko loob ko.
00:44 YOU CANT BE YOURSELF 3:01 THEY DONT WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY 3:51 THEY DONT LISTEN TO YOU 6:20 THEY DRAIN YOU 10:46 DOESN'T BUILT YOU UP
After you watch this video and realize that you are in the wrong relationship, I want to remind you that it’s not your fault. Don’t stay in a toxic, manipulative, or abusive relationship just because you have been together for years. Don’t ignore the red flags. You can always start a new life and be in a new relationship again, regardless of your age. Your past relationship does not define who you are. Have the courage to save yourself from your toxic/manipulative partner to end your suffering from the abusive relationship cycle. You deserve to be happy and be in a healthy relationship. Choose to be with someone who will bring out the best version of yourself. Lastly, don’t regret being in a toxic relationship because it is a life lesson that will make you a better and wiser person.
Now I understand that's why hindi nag work yung relationships sa boyfriend ko for 3 years nasa wrong person pala ako..lahat ng sinabi ni kuya Darbs eh yun yung ginawa sa akin ng boyfriend ko
Watching you sir making me realize what had been wrong for my past relationship but also what's wrong about me and about my traits. You sir helps people to know to learn and to enlighten themselves to the reality. We can feel this because you sir and what you're doing is very effective. Thank you sir darbs for making this contents, it helps us out with our problems and brings us to realizations then leads us to the solutions or the right move that we should do to fix something, someone or maybe ourselves.
after i heard this video. i realized na sobra pala ako magmahal. kasi at the first place palang nag adjust na agad ako. i've changed to be able to fit in lang sa buhay nya. bakit pagdating sa kanya hindi nya alam pano mag bago? i know toxic na pero still, im here holding on. kasi nag eexpect padin ako na baka magbabago rin. baka on process padin yung pag accept na sa way na mag bago for the better.
I followed your UA-cam Channel after seeing your videos on Facebook.. and maraming aral kang makukuha.. please continue doing this, it will surely help those people na naghahanap ng mga kasagutan sa kanilang mga katanungan..
Watching this..made me happy coz 5 out of 5 checks.(( ang kabaliktaran sa 5 na nasa maling tao ka)...iam indeed with the right person..my dear husband i thank God for giving me to u
Heart evangelista's mother said on her interview said he likes sen chiz cause he lets Heart to be who she is. He lets Heart grow and supports her on everything she wants to do.
Ouch... Parang ako Ata yung wrong person to my someone... O my G... What I have done... Thanks Kuya darbs.. For awakening me... I become very bossy.. But now I understand now.. I will try to fix myself before I go with a person I love.. I hope he still there for me... I really sorry and guilt of it.
Whenever I’m listening to every issue u discuss gumagaan pakiramdam ko feeling ko me mga tanung s isip ko at second thought s buhay ko na nasasagot mo. Thank u for giving positivity on everyone’s life at least somehow nkakagaan ng loob specially when I’m feeling down. 💜
Is not accidentally i saw your video kua nasa healing process palang ako im really enlighten sa content mo hndi siya kawalan siya ang nawalan balang araw mag sisi siya na iniwan nya ko ill be happy and ill be a better version of myself.💙
all of this is exactly I’m dealing now makes me confused and fed in everything! Every time I see him I’m nervous can’t talk what realy in my mind because he will used it against me and he will judge me that’s why I stop opening what I feel and he don’t allow me to talk from what I feel I do on the message I can but in physical he realy stop me So much insulting degrading and I found myself crying 😭 ! I don’t know what to do he keep blaming me in everything that I’m the crazy one that I need to understand him but in reality he is the one who has a mental issue! No doubt I’m in the wrong person Thnks kuya Darb God bless you
Para talaga saakin to.yung ginawa ko lahat Lahat.binigay ko sakanya mga happiness pero di nya na appreciate at di nya binigyan nanh value kasi nabulag sya.then thank you dahil tinapos mo.kaya nasasabi ko nasa maling tao ako.thank you kuya darbs.
thankyou so much as in i been crying the whole time since nung iniwan niya ako and thinking that she did it for no reason... ngayon alam ko na alam ko na gano ako ka toxic nung magkasama kami at sa 3 and half years namin together i been so needy to her and been so rude... kahit gano kasakit tong ngyare thankful parin ako sakanya for giving me a chance to know my mistakes and thanks kuya darbs for assisting me to accept everything
I really like.. kasi lahat naranasan q na.. sa haba panahon.. may minahal aq.. isang tao lubos.. its hard to express.. how.. but lahat topic now.. naranasan q.. at pinakamasakit nawalan aq anak dahil sa takot aq magalit xa paghindi q sinunod gusto niya.. 8 months na tommy q noun.. gusto niya mghintay aq ilang oras sa kanya.. hindi niya pinakingan ang situaition q mahirap if buntis tau mglakad lalo na gabi na.. its too late.. i lose my child.. i lose all my gots.. its too late realize i am wrong to man i love.. now i am free bcoz i let it go.. no matter what even its very hurt.. i choose my freedom..
3,4,5... 😔 Ung ginawa ko lahat para mabuo siya pati sa pamilya niya, inintindi hanggang Kaya ko.. but he didn't see those things.. He just see himself,he just know himself.. yes I'm so drained and I'm so tired to understand him.. 😔😔
I've lost my 6years and 5mos relationship and now I realize na nasa maling tao Pala Ako . Ang tagal kong nabulag sa pagmamahal, finally Ako na Ang kusang sumuko Kasi diko na kayang lumaban talaga sa Dami nang maling nangyari and now being alone is not easy but need kong masanay . That's part of life
100%✔️✔️agree. I endured an abusive relationship for 8 yrs. The most difficult decision xmpre is when u have kids together. Im still on the process of putting myself back together again pero God is good. Build & strengthen your faith lang. Self love is powerful.
New ..here po..thanks po dami ko n realize..asking my self..im into relationship on going..deeper..but later prang ngbbago npo sya..hirap..but buti po ldr... ..nkktuwa po kyo mg xplain. God bless po ..
wtf ..while watching and listening...my tears fell... we're together for 15 years and still waiting for him to appreciate me.. all the signs na nasa mali akong relationship nasa kanya pero may mga anak na kami😭😭😭
I'm a subscriber already, yet hindi ko pa napapanood ito, maybe hindi lang basta aksidente na napanood ko ito, I'm fine now, but this video made me feel better, feeling ko, this is a confirmation of my decision. Thanks kuya Darbs.❤️
I get the message. WHY WASTE TIME IN A RELATIONASHIP kung napaka complex ng pagdadaanan mo then in the end you will pursue freedom from your bondage. All those years has been wasted emotionally & financially only to find out his very wrong for you. REAL TALK LANG.
Thank you kuya Darbs for your video nakakatulong po talaga to define Kung nasa maling Tao kahit ano palang pagiintindi ko sa kanya hindi niya maiintindihan at all respeto nya sa akin nawala and pagsabihan ka na mamatay kana sana .super nakakadown at baba sa sarili..ever since 2017 till now nagsusuffer pa din ako ng pain from him na lagi ko siyang pinapatawad because I love him so much na Sabi ko patawarin ko nalang ulit because nagawa nya lang akong saktan dahil sobrang mahal niya Lang ako Mali pala..then after that parang unti na unti na akong nawawalan na assurance sa kanya pero I love him pa.pero ayoko na because you know your worth eh at Hindi mo deserve na gawin yun sayo na Alam mo sa sarili mong karesperepeto kang tao at babae na you treated deserve at Hindi puro pain.. even now hinahayaan ko nalang na sana marealize nya din yung worth ko at pagkakamali nya sa mga nagagawa nya for me... Basta lagi ko nalang pinagdadasal ang lahat even na ganun siya sa akin.. Sana marealize nalang niya.
Thnk you po....ngyn alam kong nsa maling tao ako.Kailangan kong iwan sya kht subrang sakit makaka move on rin ako sa tamang panahon ...2 years in relationship kya masakit.Salamat po ng marami
Lagi ko siya iniintindi dahil may trust issue siya, dati kahit Hindi pa siya nakikinig saakin Hindi ako nag sasawa iparamdamdam at ipapakita sakanya na Mahal ko siya pro lagi Niya sinsabi saakin na niloloko ko siya kahit Wala nmn ako gingawa...inaaway Niya ako Lagi at ako nmn lagi ko pinapatunayan na he's the one sabay aasa na Makita Niya Rin Ang Worth it ko pro Hindi eh nasayang Yung 3 years na tiniis ko, mas lalo kmi naging toxic.
Wala naman tlgang maling tao eh kc lahat tayo creating by god.nagkataon lngna mali ang panahon kaya karamihan nasaktan sa karelasyon nila.lahat naman tau my chance para kilatisin muna bago mo pasukin.walang maling tao maling panahon lang.
In the end... You havs to be yourself in order for you to love someone....be with someone no matter what happen it will chooce you again and again... Charrr!!!
He told me this.!! I did it... I had you... And i left ..... Not you.... I left the situation !! I Dont understand him.. he let me go.. he want me to be friend of him i told him I don’t want to be he’s friend and be like we don’t know its other to move on..it so painful to me and so hard but I try everything till now to end this pain..!! I always watch here and it help me..thank you so much sir!!
Tumutulo yung luha ko while watching. Then ina analize ko tama lahat 😭 I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO RIGHT NOW ❗ I LOVE HIM SO MUCH . LIVE IN NA KAMI . PINAG LABAN KO YUNG RELASYON NAMIN I CHOOSE HIM OVER MY FAMILY . GRABE ❗❗ TAPOS BASTA NAPA KA HIRAP ❗❗❗❗ HINDI KO ALAM ANG GAGAWIN KO . TAPOS SYA PARANG WALA LANG ??? SOMETIMES OKAY NAMAN KMI PERO MAG MARAMING BESES NA PARANG NA FE FEEL KO NA WALA SYANG PAKI ALAM SA AKIN MAG 10 YRS NA KAMI 😭😭😭😭😭
I really appreciated all of your words it makes me feel something especially to myself that this isn't me anymore with him. He is try to manipulate me and take advantage of me. All of this signs are in him it is so hard for me to think that those things that you are pointing on of. It's really happened often. Sad to say 😢😢😢😭😭😭😭
NASA relation pa rin Ako na toxic....pero tangina kahit ganito Hindi ko parin sya kayang iwan,10 years na kame pero sa sampung taon na relation Namin Dami naming pinagdaanan,kahit nasaktan na Ako ng sobra,walang Araw ,Oras minuto na Hindi Ako umiiyak dahil sa kanya..nawala na Ako ng communication sa mga friends ko dahil ayaw nya..Basta toxic talaga Yung relation Namin pero nagiistay pa rin Ako...
Wow im so impressive n your thoughts…Lahat ng mga nabanggit nyo Ay Tama… nagpatali sa MALING TAO… subalit nagagalak aq ngayon sapagkat nakawala na aq sa knya…
Sarap tlga pakingan ng boses mo kuya darbs. Kung sana ganyan din magisip nag partner ko. Edi saya ng life ko. 😂Thank you kasi napapanood at may ganitong content ka na kahit malayo mga kaibigan ko. Or wala available na makausap para. Magcomfort.your words ang explaination. Comfort me as well. Thank you. ☺️
This video completely helped me in my situation right now, it pushed me to do the right choice and to take control of my life. I can’t wait to move out and find happiness whether being alone or with someone who will accept me for who I am🙏❤️
S tagal din nmIn d ko nalabas siNo aKo Jolly and true po yn khit pumnta ako s close friend Ko nbbwlaan ako sobra limit nging fren ko ngimg kmi. but im happy nkalaya ngsing npo ako. mgnda po ung cnb nio ky mc lissed relate din po ako. thank you kuya darvs❤❤❤
Almost 12yrs in this relationship with 2 kids. simula #1 hanggang #5 wala man lang naekis. sapol lahat! Ive been so scared na makipag hiwalay kasi magmumukha kaming kawawa ng mga anak ko. kasi hindi niya ko pinagttrabaho hinayaan ko yung sarili ko umasa sa kanya sa lahat. pero ngayon, pagod na ko. ubos na ko. simula umpisa nag adjust ako para maging maayos lang lahat palagi, hindi ko na kilala sarili ko. hindi ko alam kung kakayanin ko. natatakot ako para sa mga anak ko. ayokong lumaki sila with broken family. yun yung pangako ko sa sarili ko noon kaya nagtiis ako maliban sa mahal ko naman talaga siya. He's a good provider. Mabuting tatay sa mga anak ko. pero sa akin? yes. i commit mistakes lalo na nung sakal na sakal na ko sa relationship sa dami ng bawal. pero kahit anong paliwanag ko never niya kong narinig, inintindi o tinanggap yung paliwanag ko. habang pinapanood ko to napaka fresh pa ng lahat ng sagutan kagabi. ang sakit sakit pa ng puso ko. pero sabi ko nga, kaya ko to!! kakayanin ko!! ako naman!! sarili ko naman!!
how to know if nasa maling tao ka 1. you cannot be yourself.. suppressing your individuality. 2. they don't want you to spend time with your friends and family. 3. they don't listen to you. they listen with an intent to reply and not to understand you. 4. they drain you. too much toxicity. 5. that person doesn't build you up. and likewise..
Ganian po ung ex.ku sa lahat ng cnabi nio napakatoxic dn po nia and we split cause he cheated to me 2 times but now almost one yr n kme hiwalai and i love my self more now and waiting to my rgth person ❤ tnx kua dards lake help nio po tlga 😊
Kuya Dabrs alam ko po na naa toxic relationship po ako...kasado po kami gusto ko na pong sumuko kaso lagi kong iniisip mga anak ko ayaw ko po nah maranasan nila angbroken family kaya ko kahit gustong gusto ko ng makipaghiwalay di ko po magawa....iniisip ko din po paano na ako kaya ko po ba mataguyod mga tatlo kong anak ng mag isa...ang hirap na po talaga...
i'm with her for almost 5 yrs lahat yan naramdaman ko sa kanya, ang gusto ko sana mabago ko ung mga mali namin dahil nag hiwalay na kami pero gusto ko syang bumalik kahit na alam kong mali oo andon ako mali pero ang gusto ko po sana matulungan namin ang isa't isa para mabago ang mga pag kakamali namin salamat po
This episode is an eye opener for me. Now, I'm very sure that I'm definitely with the wrong person. Thank you for all the inspiring words. May God bless you always. 😇
Kuya Darbs, paano naman kung lahat ng katangian meron siya.. I mean, I can be myself whenever im with him, he loves the craziness and everything about me even my weirdest side.. he wants me to spend time with my family and friends too, he's happy whenever I'm happy.. he listens to me, and not only listen but he understands what im trying to say.. he didn't drain me.. and lastly he's been supporting me even since to achieve my goals, to be the best that i can be.. but despite of all these, he's still manage to cheat on me how many times .. i mean, that's a red flag too, a huge warning that he's not the one...but what i wanted to ask is, why this still exists? Na kahit halos nasa kanya na lahat, stil kaya ka nyang ipagpalit and still act as the good dude who supports you still..
He doesn't love you, if a person love you in the first place he won't cheat and hurt you. Pinapaikot ka lng nyan since he knows you forgive him many times. Don't give chance to those kind of people, they will just abuse you emotionally.
Marami pa kasing di sinabi si kuya darbs, ung sinabi niya ngayon, isa lang un sa mga bagay na pwde mong tgnan. At dahil cheater siya alam nya panu ka sakyan para hindi siya ma-out sa game. Para bang "I'll do everything to be a good boyfriend pero I will cheat as long as nagagampanan ko naman ung trabaho ko" so it means siya ang gumagawa ng rules sa relationship. If I were you let him go
basically, hindi ka nya mahal. iba rin yung toxic na issue. di nga sya toxic pero mas malala naman sya dahil pinapaikot ka lng talaga. he's FAKING the love. whereas, yung sa mga toxic mahal naman talaga nila yung bf/gf nila, minomold lng nila into something na IDEAL version for them, hence the possessivess and demands. aka self-centeredness.
that's what narcissists are....been there, done that...and it's not a pretty sight...you will really loose yourself and if you don't get out, it will be more difficult as time goes by...because of your trauma bond with them.
YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH! YOU ARE SPECIAL AND YOU DESERVE BETTER! (note to self!)
ang sakit nung " ang taong hindi ka gustong intindihin ay ang mga taong hindi ka talaga mahal".
Nakalimutang idagdag ni kuya Darbs. Nasa maling tao ka kung di ka nya nirerespeto by being a womanizer or manizer. He or she is not loyal to you. That’s top reason why you’re in a wrong relationship. Otherwise his list is good. 👍
Yes 20yrs for being stupid nskakapagod din Pala.. Now I give up my marriage, I'm happy now with my kids.. Love yourself is the key😘😘
Same here
If i am not happy with my marriage po..what should i do?😥
Yesss!.. it’s a long process
I feel you dear.... 👍👍👏👏👏
Sometimes you just need space. honoring your marriage until the end brings you blessings and gifts , it gives you future blessings like blessings the future of your kids
it seems that I wasted the persons who loves me so truly, she sacrifices a lot for me : time, efforts, gifts, friends and love. and in exchange is tears. I wasted it. it's been 2 yrs but I still love you Hannah. I'm glad na hindi na tayo. masaya ako na na makita kang hindi na nsasaktan ng dahil saken. I'm happy for you.
Ps: btw I'm trying my best to be a a seaman sana lang kasama kita at sana dimo to mabasa hahahahhaha
Sana, ganyan din siya. hahahahaha, I sacrificed a lot, and in kapalit puro sakit.
Sapol na Sapol!!!!, It happens to me recently, I was in a wrong Guy for two years, akala ko magbabago!, Thank God !, He gave me the courage to let him go!..Salamat Darbs sa mga very inspiring video mo, Keep it Up!!!.
LDR kami, nakilala ko sya nung grade 10 kami, and now 4 years na kami. 3rd year college na sya, that time na nasa work ako, i sacrificed my time dahil miss nya na ako na umabot sa point na nag break kami. That's why umuwi ako para makasama nya, i can see how happy she is nung magkasama kami, and naayus ko ulit yung relationship, kapalit non natanggal ako sa work pero buti mabait yung isang team ng sales marketing na pinag trabahuan ko kaya after 2 weeks kinuha ulit ako at tinanggap ulit ako sa work, and then naging ganon nanaman. He misses me, at umuwi ulit ako, and i stayed for 1 year this past 2021 february, then naging okie na ulit, then now na nakabalik na ako sa maynila, nakipag break na ulit sya and ayaw nya na ako makita, she will kill herself, and now di ko na alam gagawin ko. Mahal na mahal ko sya pero now it's done.
Colossians 3:18-19, sometimes you go back to the basic, our thoughts should be aligned with GOD Almighty so everything follows accordingly. Walang maling tao, taong walang Diyos na pinamumuhay marami. Yung pinag iisip natin tungkol sa 2 tao na nagmamhalan, pero bakit ikaw sa sarili mo, sa pamilya na kadugo mo, kaibigan mo, kapitbahay mo, kahit pulitiko magkakbabayan o kahit bansa sa bansa common na di nagkakaintindihan, nagtatalo nagiging toxic lahat. Nagiging bulag tayo kasi naniniwala tayo sa tama base sa tama sa mundo, pero kung lahat ipamumuhay yung GODly Life doon lang tayo magkakaroon ng free and non toxic life. Kita mo mga pulitiko, mga dalubhasa may kanya kanyang argumento at pagtatalo, ikaw na simpleng mamayan na nakikipagrelasyon pa kaya. walang bulag na aakay sa kapwa bulag.
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What I needed to hear after a failed 7 years relationship. When everything was on point and glad to finally realized that I'm with the wrong person, which I keep ignoring the signs. The road I choose now may be hard, being alone but not lonely, but soon this shall pass. Let time heals and focus for self love. ❤️
Hi. Same tayo, 7 yrs kmi and nag end this month lang. Sobrang sakit pero kailangan kong maging malakas para sa sarili ko. Ngayon solo ako at kumuha ako ng bhouse ko, everyday umiiyak ako kasi di ako sanay na di sya kasama pero alam ko darating din tau na kaya na naten na wala sila pray labf tayo 😊😇
God preparing you for your next best season .. Haha ako din nag failed sa 5 years relationship last october ..
Almost 7 years din kami, kkabreak lng namin last week. Ang hirap pag nsanay Ka kasama mo ang Tao na Yun SA araw2
@@sapphireshye Ako din be. Pero makakabangon ka promise. Magtiwala saken. Pa onti2 mkakabangon ka. Sa una mahirap, sa una masakit pero valid yan. Ako nga be e, I need to be strong para sa sarili ko. Kaya e2 ako be pinapalakas ko loob ko.
@@sapphireshye dasal lang be. Ako mag mag 2 months nang wala. May mga times naiiyak padin Like ngayon umiiyak ako
00:44 YOU CANT BE YOURSELF
3:01 THEY DONT WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY
3:51 THEY DONT LISTEN TO YOU
6:20 THEY DRAIN YOU
10:46 DOESN'T BUILT YOU UP
Pano Po magmove on sa ganyang ugali Ng partner pero may anak po kme
Well said😘
@@jeaceryaliliran pareho po Tayo mam
Thanks kuya Darbs, I'm glad that kind of relationship is over... It made me realized not to chase him anymore, now I can move on ☺️
Glad to know you learned something
tama lang pala umalis ako sa maling tao sa huling relasyon ko...buti nlng ngayon nasa tamang tao na ko😍
i wanna be with the person who has the same mindset with you kuya darbs and in order for me to have that person, i should be that person first.
5years kami pero sobrang sarap sa pakiramdam na makaalis sa gantong klaseng relationship.
After you watch this video and realize that you are in the wrong relationship, I want to remind you that it’s not your fault.
Don’t stay in a toxic, manipulative, or abusive relationship just because you have been together for years. Don’t ignore the red flags. You can always start a new life and be in a new relationship again, regardless of your age. Your past relationship does not define who you are.
Have the courage to save yourself from your toxic/manipulative partner to end your suffering from the abusive relationship cycle. You deserve to be happy and be in a healthy relationship. Choose to be with someone who will bring out the best version of yourself.
Lastly, don’t regret being in a toxic relationship because it is a life lesson that will make you a better and wiser person.
Now I understand that's why hindi nag work yung relationships sa boyfriend ko for 3 years nasa wrong person pala ako..lahat ng sinabi ni kuya Darbs eh yun yung ginawa sa akin ng boyfriend ko
Sa 4 years of my moving on process, Kuya Darbs' videos played a big part of it.. and now I'm okay.
I'm glad you already moved on ako kasalukuyan palang ninanamnam ung sakit 😢
Watching you sir making me realize what had been wrong for my past relationship but also what's wrong about me and about my traits. You sir helps people to know to learn and to enlighten themselves to the reality. We can feel this because you sir and what you're doing is very effective. Thank you sir darbs for making this contents, it helps us out with our problems and brings us to realizations then leads us to the solutions or the right move that we should do to fix something, someone or maybe ourselves.
this is really beneficial specially to those person whose been in a relationship that was really traumatic..dont look back..we are on the right track❤
after i heard this video. i realized na sobra pala ako magmahal. kasi at the first place palang nag adjust na agad ako. i've changed to be able to fit in lang sa buhay nya. bakit pagdating sa kanya hindi nya alam pano mag bago? i know toxic na pero still, im here holding on. kasi nag eexpect padin ako na baka magbabago rin. baka on process padin yung pag accept na sa way na mag bago for the better.
"This is for me. 🥺 You know what sir. Alam ko nasa maling tao ako pero hindi ako makalet go 😔
I feel you 😭
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Same thing po. Pero deep down in our heart, we're still hoping na magiging okay pa sya, kami.
I followed your UA-cam Channel after seeing your videos on Facebook.. and maraming aral kang makukuha.. please continue doing this, it will surely help those people na naghahanap ng mga kasagutan sa kanilang mga katanungan..
Watching this..made me happy coz 5 out of 5 checks.(( ang kabaliktaran sa 5 na nasa maling tao ka)...iam indeed with the right person..my dear husband i thank God for giving me to u
May depression na po ako at stress na dumating na sa point na gusto ko ng mawala sa mundo.pero dahil sa anak kakayanin ko ito.😢😢😢
Thankyou kuya darbs❤ Nasa tamang tao na ako right now and i hope he will be my last by God's Grace💖😊
Yung nASA tamang tao ka pero ikaw Yung Hindi tamang tao para sa kanya 😢
Sobrang relate ako dito. This is my current situation. All points are correct.
Heart evangelista's mother said on her interview said he likes sen chiz cause he lets Heart to be who she is. He lets Heart grow and supports her on everything she wants to do.
Ouch... Parang ako Ata yung wrong person to my someone... O my G... What I have done... Thanks Kuya darbs.. For awakening me... I become very bossy.. But now I understand now.. I will try to fix myself before I go with a person I love.. I hope he still there for me... I really sorry and guilt of it.
Whenever I’m listening to every issue u discuss gumagaan pakiramdam ko feeling ko me mga tanung s isip ko at second thought s buhay ko na nasasagot mo. Thank u for giving positivity on everyone’s life at least somehow nkakagaan ng loob specially when I’m feeling down. 💜
Now I realize na matagal na pala ako sa maling tao bat pinagpatuloy ko pa
Salamat kuya Darbs
Trying to move on here 😊
Is not accidentally i saw your video kua nasa healing process palang ako im really enlighten sa content mo hndi siya kawalan siya ang nawalan balang araw mag sisi siya na iniwan nya ko ill be happy and ill be a better version of myself.💙
all of this is exactly I’m dealing now makes me confused and fed in everything! Every time I see him I’m nervous can’t talk what realy in my mind because he will used it against me and he will judge me that’s why I stop opening what I feel and he don’t allow me to talk from what I feel I do on the message I can but in physical he realy stop me
So much insulting degrading and I found myself crying 😭 ! I don’t know what to do he keep blaming me in everything that I’m the crazy one that I need to understand him but in reality he is the one who has a mental issue! No doubt I’m in the wrong person
Thnks kuya Darb God bless you
hirap no?
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Para talaga saakin to.yung ginawa ko lahat Lahat.binigay ko sakanya mga happiness pero di nya na appreciate at di nya binigyan nanh value kasi nabulag sya.then thank you dahil tinapos mo.kaya nasasabi ko nasa maling tao ako.thank you kuya darbs.
thankyou so much as in i been crying the whole time since nung iniwan niya ako and thinking that she did it for no reason... ngayon alam ko na alam ko na gano ako ka toxic nung magkasama kami at sa 3 and half years namin together i been so needy to her and been so rude... kahit gano kasakit tong ngyare thankful parin ako sakanya for giving me a chance to know my mistakes and thanks kuya darbs for assisting me to accept everything
narealize ko din. ako pala yung toxic. 😔
thanks kuya darbs
I really like.. kasi lahat naranasan q na.. sa haba panahon.. may minahal aq.. isang tao lubos.. its hard to express.. how.. but lahat topic now.. naranasan q.. at pinakamasakit nawalan aq anak dahil sa takot aq magalit xa paghindi q sinunod gusto niya.. 8 months na tommy q noun.. gusto niya mghintay aq ilang oras sa kanya.. hindi niya pinakingan ang situaition q mahirap if buntis tau mglakad lalo na gabi na.. its too late.. i lose my child.. i lose all my gots.. its too late realize i am wrong to man i love.. now i am free bcoz i let it go.. no matter what even its very hurt.. i choose my freedom..
3,4,5... 😔 Ung ginawa ko lahat para mabuo siya pati sa pamilya niya, inintindi hanggang Kaya ko.. but he didn't see those things.. He just see himself,he just know himself.. yes I'm so drained and I'm so tired to understand him.. 😔😔
I felt these, all sad feelings...😔😔😔
Gusto gusto kong ung about sa energy sa 9:15. 🥰.. Thank you Sir Darbs. Nakakatulong talaga ung mga advise mo para makapag-isip2 ako.
I've lost my 6years and 5mos relationship and now I realize na nasa maling tao Pala Ako . Ang tagal kong nabulag sa pagmamahal, finally Ako na Ang kusang sumuko Kasi diko na kayang lumaban talaga sa Dami nang maling nangyari and now being alone is not easy but need kong masanay . That's part of life
Konting mali ko lang, galit agad sya. Mas ako pa ung nag-eeffort.
buti nalang natapos ung relationship namin. now i can be myself just the way who i am :)
Thnks Kuys Darbs dami kung nalaman about sa relationship and ang galing ng explanation mo... kudos sayo more Vids pa po.
100%✔️✔️agree.
I endured an abusive relationship for 8 yrs. The most difficult decision xmpre is when u have kids together. Im still on the process of putting myself back together again pero God is good. Build & strengthen your faith lang. Self love is powerful.
New ..here po..thanks po dami ko n realize..asking my self..im into relationship on going..deeper..but later prang ngbbago npo sya..hirap..but buti po ldr...
..nkktuwa po kyo mg xplain.
God bless po
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wtf ..while watching and listening...my tears fell... we're together for 15 years and still waiting for him to appreciate me..
all the signs na nasa mali akong relationship nasa kanya pero may mga anak na kami😭😭😭
Same here😢😢
Nice 🙂
Open communication.
Someone who will listen and understand.
Being yourself.
All of the above..Now I feel lessguit in my self..thanks!☝🏻
I'm a subscriber already, yet hindi ko pa napapanood ito, maybe hindi lang basta aksidente na napanood ko ito, I'm fine now, but this video made me feel better, feeling ko, this is a confirmation of my decision. Thanks kuya Darbs.❤️
Thank you so much kuya darbs for helping and realize to make a decision.😭💔
I get the message. WHY WASTE TIME IN A RELATIONASHIP kung napaka complex ng pagdadaanan mo then in the end you will pursue freedom from your bondage. All those years has been wasted emotionally & financially only to find out his very wrong for you. REAL TALK LANG.
Thank you kuya Darbs for your video nakakatulong po talaga to define Kung nasa maling Tao kahit ano palang pagiintindi ko sa kanya hindi niya maiintindihan at all respeto nya sa akin nawala and pagsabihan ka na mamatay kana sana .super nakakadown at baba sa sarili..ever since 2017 till now nagsusuffer pa din ako ng pain from him na lagi ko siyang pinapatawad because I love him so much na Sabi ko patawarin ko nalang ulit because nagawa nya lang akong saktan dahil sobrang mahal niya Lang ako Mali pala..then after that parang unti na unti na akong nawawalan na assurance sa kanya pero I love him pa.pero ayoko na because you know your worth eh at Hindi mo deserve na gawin yun sayo na Alam mo sa sarili mong karesperepeto kang tao at babae na you treated deserve at Hindi puro pain.. even now hinahayaan ko nalang na sana marealize nya din yung worth ko at pagkakamali nya sa mga nagagawa nya for me... Basta lagi ko nalang pinagdadasal ang lahat even na ganun siya sa akin.. Sana marealize nalang niya.
Why Kuya Darbs!? Tagos e, ito yung need ko marinig at malaman. Thank you ✨
Thank you for making a good decision now. Mahirap pero dapat...
Thnk you po....ngyn alam kong nsa maling tao ako.Kailangan kong iwan sya kht subrang sakit makaka move on rin ako sa tamang panahon ...2 years in relationship kya masakit.Salamat po ng marami
Tama.. salamat sa 6 years na control sa buhay ko..
Lagi ko siya iniintindi dahil may trust issue siya, dati kahit Hindi pa siya nakikinig saakin Hindi ako nag sasawa iparamdamdam at ipapakita sakanya na Mahal ko siya pro lagi Niya sinsabi saakin na niloloko ko siya kahit Wala nmn ako gingawa...inaaway Niya ako Lagi at ako nmn lagi ko pinapatunayan na he's the one sabay aasa na Makita Niya Rin Ang Worth it ko pro Hindi eh nasayang Yung 3 years na tiniis ko, mas lalo kmi naging toxic.
Wala naman tlgang maling tao eh kc lahat tayo creating by god.nagkataon lngna mali ang panahon kaya karamihan nasaktan sa karelasyon nila.lahat naman tau my chance para kilatisin muna bago mo pasukin.walang maling tao maling panahon lang.
Why so 🥺🥺🥺sa Lahat na mga nag a advice about relationship dito ako napaluha na touch, thank you so much ❣❣❣ po Kuya, God bless 💖
Thank you po kuya darbs. 🥺❣ ngayon masasbe kona tlga na nasa tamang tao na ako! 😌❣
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Kamusta na kaya to ngayon after four months?
In the end... You havs to be yourself in order for you to love someone....be with someone no matter what happen it will chooce you again and again... Charrr!!!
He told me this.!! I did it... I had you... And i left ..... Not you.... I left the situation !! I Dont understand him.. he let me go.. he want me to be friend of him i told him I don’t want to be he’s friend and be like we don’t know its other to move on..it so painful to me and so hard but I try everything till now to end this pain..!! I always watch here and it help me..thank you so much sir!!
Tumutulo yung luha ko while watching. Then ina analize ko tama lahat 😭 I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO RIGHT NOW ❗ I LOVE HIM SO MUCH . LIVE IN NA KAMI . PINAG LABAN KO YUNG RELASYON NAMIN I CHOOSE HIM OVER MY FAMILY . GRABE ❗❗ TAPOS BASTA NAPA KA HIRAP ❗❗❗❗ HINDI KO ALAM ANG GAGAWIN KO . TAPOS SYA PARANG WALA LANG ??? SOMETIMES OKAY NAMAN KMI PERO MAG MARAMING BESES NA PARANG NA FE FEEL KO NA WALA SYANG PAKI ALAM SA AKIN MAG 10 YRS NA KAMI 😭😭😭😭😭
Laban lang tayo maam..
Thanks About This Videos
Wow .
So Inspired This
Self Love
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I'm happy to come to know your flatform. It makes me smile and happy to know I'm wrong weak but ready to change.
God bless 😇🙏🥰😘🤘
Sir..thank you sa advice...may natutunan ako....maraming salamat and Godbless❤🙏
Thankyou ❤️ narealize ko na ako yung maling tao. At alam ko na ang mga dapat baguhin.
Very inspiring..love it..
I really appreciated all of your words it makes me feel something especially to myself that this isn't me anymore with him. He is try to manipulate me and take advantage of me. All of this signs are in him it is so hard for me to think that those things that you are pointing on of. It's really happened often. Sad to say 😢😢😢😭😭😭😭
Ganda ng messege ! SUPERB VERY PRECIOUS !
All you said was right,this is of great help to those that are still blinded ..it is an eye opener indeed
Na miss kita Kuya darbs...nice topic po and feeling no talagang nag advice. Gusto ko pong mag appointment for one to one p.o....
Thank you kuya Darbz sa Wonderful Signs, You make me realize everything. 😊😊
Thanks for advice
NASA relation pa rin Ako na toxic....pero tangina kahit ganito Hindi ko parin sya kayang iwan,10 years na kame pero sa sampung taon na relation Namin Dami naming pinagdaanan,kahit nasaktan na Ako ng sobra,walang Araw ,Oras minuto na Hindi Ako umiiyak dahil sa kanya..nawala na Ako ng communication sa mga friends ko dahil ayaw nya..Basta toxic talaga Yung relation Namin pero nagiistay pa rin Ako...
Thanks for the useful info kuya, I've been stupid for 16 yes, I'm totally drained now nagising ako s MGA cnabimo thank you so much
Wow im so impressive n your thoughts…Lahat ng mga nabanggit nyo Ay Tama… nagpatali sa MALING TAO… subalit nagagalak aq ngayon sapagkat nakawala na aq sa knya…
Sarap tlga pakingan ng boses mo kuya darbs. Kung sana ganyan din magisip nag partner ko. Edi saya ng life ko. 😂Thank you kasi napapanood at may ganitong content ka na kahit malayo mga kaibigan ko. Or wala available na makausap para. Magcomfort.your words ang explaination. Comfort me as well. Thank you. ☺️
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I'm getting there.. Not now... But soon...
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Thank you Darbs for an inspiring words and wisdom..
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This video completely helped me in my situation right now, it pushed me to do the right choice and to take control of my life.
I can’t wait to move out and find happiness whether being alone or with someone who will accept me for who I am🙏❤️
Salamat po sa advice nato alam ko ang dapat kung gagawin about in relationship ❤❤
Thank you 😊 relates much
Relate sir.. All of the above are true.
S tagal din nmIn d ko nalabas siNo aKo Jolly and true po yn khit pumnta ako s close friend Ko nbbwlaan ako sobra limit nging fren ko ngimg kmi. but im happy nkalaya ngsing npo ako. mgnda po ung cnb nio ky mc lissed relate din po ako. thank you kuya darvs❤❤❤
Almost 12yrs in this relationship with 2 kids. simula #1 hanggang #5 wala man lang naekis. sapol lahat! Ive been so scared na makipag hiwalay kasi magmumukha kaming kawawa ng mga anak ko. kasi hindi niya ko pinagttrabaho hinayaan ko yung sarili ko umasa sa kanya sa lahat. pero ngayon, pagod na ko. ubos na ko. simula umpisa nag adjust ako para maging maayos lang lahat palagi, hindi ko na kilala sarili ko. hindi ko alam kung kakayanin ko. natatakot ako para sa mga anak ko. ayokong lumaki sila with broken family. yun yung pangako ko sa sarili ko noon kaya nagtiis ako maliban sa mahal ko naman talaga siya. He's a good provider. Mabuting tatay sa mga anak ko. pero sa akin? yes. i commit mistakes lalo na nung sakal na sakal na ko sa relationship sa dami ng bawal. pero kahit anong paliwanag ko never niya kong narinig, inintindi o tinanggap yung paliwanag ko. habang pinapanood ko to napaka fresh pa ng lahat ng sagutan kagabi. ang sakit sakit pa ng puso ko. pero sabi ko nga, kaya ko to!! kakayanin ko!! ako naman!! sarili ko naman!!
Spot on!
Salamat sa pag Share neto
how to know if nasa maling tao ka
1. you cannot be yourself.. suppressing your individuality.
2. they don't want you to spend time with your friends and family.
3. they don't listen to you. they listen with an intent to reply and not to understand you.
4. they drain you. too much toxicity.
5. that person doesn't build you up. and likewise..
I really appreciate and need this sir! Thank you so much. More power to you and your mission 🙂
Ganian po ung ex.ku sa lahat ng cnabi nio napakatoxic dn po nia and we split cause he cheated to me 2 times but now almost one yr n kme hiwalai and i love my self more now and waiting to my rgth person ❤ tnx kua dards lake help nio po tlga 😊
Kuya Dabrs alam ko po na naa toxic relationship po ako...kasado po kami gusto ko na pong sumuko kaso lagi kong iniisip mga anak ko ayaw ko po nah maranasan nila angbroken family kaya ko kahit gustong gusto ko ng makipaghiwalay di ko po magawa....iniisip ko din po paano na ako kaya ko po ba mataguyod mga tatlo kong anak ng mag isa...ang hirap na po talaga...
Continue sharing sir., para kht papano mabawasan yung mga nag ppatulfo sa partner
i'm with her for almost 5 yrs lahat yan naramdaman ko sa kanya, ang gusto ko sana mabago ko ung mga mali namin dahil nag hiwalay na kami pero gusto ko syang bumalik kahit na alam kong mali oo andon ako mali pero ang gusto ko po sana matulungan namin ang isa't isa para mabago ang mga pag kakamali namin salamat po
galing nio po tlg magadvice kuyA darvz dmi Ko realization kht s mga past Ko dmi Ko po cnayang pla
Thank you po. ♥️ This is exactly what i needed to hear 🙏
Thank you so much ❤❤❤
This episode is an eye opener for me. Now, I'm very sure that I'm definitely with the wrong person. Thank you for all the inspiring words. May God bless you always. 😇
Same po❤️
Very well said darbs. ❤
Walang peace of mind...ung dapat masaya ka pero parang may kulang...mas masaya pa nung mawala cya😅 at nagkaron pa ng peace of mind❤
Excellent
Kuya Darbs, paano naman kung lahat ng katangian meron siya.. I mean, I can be myself whenever im with him, he loves the craziness and everything about me even my weirdest side.. he wants me to spend time with my family and friends too, he's happy whenever I'm happy.. he listens to me, and not only listen but he understands what im trying to say.. he didn't drain me.. and lastly he's been supporting me even since to achieve my goals, to be the best that i can be.. but despite of all these, he's still manage to cheat on me how many times .. i mean, that's a red flag too, a huge warning that he's not the one...but what i wanted to ask is, why this still exists? Na kahit halos nasa kanya na lahat, stil kaya ka nyang ipagpalit and still act as the good dude who supports you still..
Girl i feel you 😭 so me 😭
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I guess hindi nga siya toxic but cheater nmn sya... Iba nmn klase ng problema ng pagkatao yan....
He doesn't love you, if a person love you in the first place he won't cheat and hurt you. Pinapaikot ka lng nyan since he knows you forgive him many times. Don't give chance to those kind of people, they will just abuse you emotionally.
Marami pa kasing di sinabi si kuya darbs, ung sinabi niya ngayon, isa lang un sa mga bagay na pwde mong tgnan. At dahil cheater siya alam nya panu ka sakyan para hindi siya ma-out sa game. Para bang "I'll do everything to be a good boyfriend pero I will cheat as long as nagagampanan ko naman ung trabaho ko" so it means siya ang gumagawa ng rules sa relationship. If I were you let him go
basically, hindi ka nya mahal. iba rin yung toxic na issue. di nga sya toxic pero mas malala naman sya dahil pinapaikot ka lng talaga. he's FAKING the love.
whereas, yung sa mga toxic mahal naman talaga nila yung bf/gf nila, minomold lng nila into something na IDEAL version for them, hence the possessivess and demands. aka self-centeredness.
Kuya darbs I find peace thru ur voice 🥰. Thank you... Stay safe and Godbless 🙏