Cheating triggers a toxic relationship. It just changes the other person from being supportive to being toxic. And it's sad because some people tries to play victim and does guilt tripping which makes you feel na kasalanan mo pa na nag cheat sila. 🥺
Actually nararanasan kopo yan ngayon. Laging pinapamukha sakin lahat ng pagkakamali ko. Pero lahat ng pagkakamali ng partner ko lagi niyang pinagtatakpan o hindi niya pinupuna😔
@@heizelle3888 Same here tanggap ko naman ang pagkakamali ko at humingi ng chance para makapag bago at makabawi pero wala ng excitement :( kasalanan ko din naman :(
Psychological effects of false accusations in a relationship are very real. Being constantly accused of something you didn't do tears into the very heart and core of your identity.
The problem is some people's reason of listening is just to reply, not to understand. As partners, you must learn the art of communicating WITH the effort of really understanding each other. It's not you against your partner rather, you and your partner against the problem.
A week ago I realized these things and was able to let go of a toxic relationship. Sana kayo rin because being in a relationship that is very unhealthy is exhausting. I used to suppress my own feelings just to avoid him to feel that I don't understand him. There were times when i'd start up a fight then will end up na susumbatan pako. Times when i'd feel lonely, because I can never find the perfect comfort from him. Times when I would feel like he's stoping me from my own growth because even going to gym is restricted, hair cuts, wearing dresses. And now, I hope he learns from our previous relationship. I still love him tho, but I can't always be the dominant one.
Oh.. This just opened my eyes, I'm now fully aware at how things are so toxic between us. No matter how I confronted him for the better, it do feel like I was being judged rather than being understood
"Your feelings are invalidated... and that insights fear... you don't trust your partner well enough to understand you" "the freedom of becoming the person your supposed to be is lost" I hate how accurate you are. 🙃
New subscriber here. Tagos sobra!I was in denial for many years, but I was too glad I realized how toxic my relationship was. I got my freedom back yeheyyyy and I don’t care anymore if I am getting old and single. What’s important is I was able to save my heart from drowning and looking forward for that special someone. God is great! Just keep the faith and positivity guys!
Napaka sakto naman neto. I'm actually not okay right now because of my depression attacks and I'm scared na sabihin to sa boyfriend ko cause i don't want him na mag worry we actually happy wala kami problema nasaakin kasi as of now yung problem and I'm questioning my life right now and i don't know why . I really want to be positive but yung thoughts ko yung nagpupush saakin maging ganto. After watching this na enlightened ako na I need to stand up wag ako matakot majudge kasi kaya siya andyan to help me.
There are points in this video that helped me realize the actions that I should have and will portray towards my girlfriend and the things that I need to change for myself and for the betterment of our relationship. Thank you for making things clear, precise and straight to the point. I will reflect on the things that you have mentioned and I will strive for a healthier relationship with her. Thank you!
I also experience unhealthy relationship. There's a lot of struggle. I thought as long as I can give all the support and love to my partner ok na kaso hindi ko alam nasasakal na pala siya. Now I know how to handle this kind of experience thanks for sharing a very knowledgeable informations. Trust and communication is very important.
I just watched this last night, so many things came up on my mind and made me realize, where am I rn sa relasyon, I hope it won't happened na ppunta sa punto na obsessive and mging toxic. She's always be the right and, controlling me about everything I want to do,Pinapayuhan ko sha na sometimes we need to be more understanding sa mga bagay2 at mging considerate. Bago palang kami 2 weeks na pero pinpafeel nya sakin na pra nya akong empleyado sa companya na lahat ng decision ko na against with her gingawa nyang negotiation to deal with me.Paghindi ako pumayag case closed agad, hindi man lng nya pinpakinggan yung gsto ko sabihin to be understood and clear sa knya kong bakit minsan nakakasakal na. Pero thanks po nito nalalabas ko ang bigat ng dinidibdib ko.. You helped alot of people na maiintinhan nla kong saan ka nga ba sa relasyon na hihirapan. Kaya salamat talaga ng subra..m
In short, humanap kayo ng partner na worth suffering hindi yung hindi ka sasaktan. Bakit? Kasi kahit sinong babae o lalaki pwede kang saktan and tanungin nyo muna ang mga sarili nyo kung ready na kayo pumasok sa isang relationship because relationship is not all about hugs and kisses, dating on expensive restaurants etc!
Buti nalang andito si boss Darbs! Salamat sa mga word of wisdom mo kase grabe I learned alot to my previous relationship 2 years and 2 years din akong nakipag balikan sa kanya akala ko mananalo ako sa huli un pala hindi dahil siya na ang nag tulak sakin para bumitaw na at hindi ko na kayang maibalik pa ung relationship namin noon. Well kasalanan ko naman talaga bat pa umabot ng 2years ung pakikipag balikan ko sa kanya pero sa 2 years nayan alam ko it's a waste of time at marami talaga akong natutunan. Salamat Sir!! I'll be the right Man for someone😊☺️
Yun yung gusto ko sa relationship namin. Masyado na siyang naka focus sa akin. I always tell him na kailangan niyang makipag interact sa iba at hindi lang siya nakafocus sakin pero ayaw niya. It might be boostful but ginawa niya akong mundo niya. Yes masaya sa umpisa pero as time goes by nakakasakal din pala. And the worst part is gusto niya ganun din ako. Wala kaming boundery. Feeling ko masosofocate ako. Thats our problemm. But sadlyyy tinapos ko din. Ayoko ng ganun. He's loosing himself. Same as mine kaya mas mabuting tinapos na lang. We are in a toxic relationship and its not healthy for the both of us..
@@jeminahsuarez5597 Don't hanggat kaya mo pang hawakan huwag mong bitawann. Marupok na kung marupok pero nakipagbalikan ako sa kanyaa ako yung nanghingi ng cb. HAHAHAH And you now what happen?? He change, he change a lot. He become the oppposite of the man whom I love. Dati nasobrahan siya ngayon parang wala na lng
I am happy and greatful that I found my understanding, supporting, and kind boyfriend. He always here in my heart to support and accept who I am even in my worst part. Real man really exist just wait the right time. Ldr doesn't matter as long as you both love and trust eachother. I know this is not yet the happy ending, but we are both ready to fight and coop to those challenges we will face in future.
That's good to hear. Cus we all have toxic traits. That we somehow ignore. It's better you went here this early. And then, You and your partner can discuss and fix the problem asap.
@@spectrem-4157 Sad thing is we already broke up. We just recently broke up because of these. I'll just take this time to make myself better and maybe someday if god allows, we will be together again more matured.
That’s how I feel ! Even thought I want to talk and speak up about how i feel , I feel like he will tell me “ what are you saying again or his not trying to understand what I am trying to say . I feel like his the only one whose the right to say things . That’s why I rather keep it to myself how I feel because I don’t want to get judge . I tried my best and to everything to make him happy , it he doesn’t see that .
Sobrang hirap na hirap ako , kase for 2years ngayon lang kami nagkaroon ng gantong away, like sobrang sakit, hindi siya normal na away lang. Tas nakiusap ako kay God na bigyan niya ako ng idea or sign kung ano ba dapat kong gawin, after 5 hours eto dito ako dinala😭❣ Mahal talaga ako ni Lord❤
He told me that I am the toxic one. He want's me to let him free.. Masakit na palayain sya Pero mas masakit mga sinasabi nya. Nawawalan na sya ng respeto sakin. At dahil yun yung wish nya pinapalaya ko na sya at alam ko rin dun sya magiging masaya kahit ikakasakit kopa😢😢
Thank you for this Kuya Darb's. Marami akong na realize ngayon nsa TOXIC RELATIONSHIP pla ako. Sana maging okay na kmi ksi my baby na kmi ei. Huhu 😭😢😢😭
Tama poh kuya darbs lyk mi 4 yrs n kmi s x q sympre mga problema q cnsbi q s knya nd q pla alm n stress xa. Sakn. Kya nghnp ng iba pngplit lng ung 4 yrs nmin s smpleng problema nd q alm bka alibay nya lng un nd q akalain n mgw anya s akn un. Ung taong lging umiiyak sau pg kunting dhiln lng ng aaway
Bkt aq, binigay q lhat ng support q sknya, kung san nya gustong pumunta n ksama kaibigan nya, I let him, when he wants to make blogging, tinuturuan q xa kung ano mga kailangan nyang gadgets at kung ano ggwin nya, when he needs my help I gave it. I offer myself to be his videographer and editor, I let him to do whatever he wants coz I don't want him to feel na sakal xa o sinasakal ko xa. Though I felt that I'm not his priority, it's OK. But still I love him. OK lng sakin kung marami xang kchat, pero ang msakit kc sakin n ngawa nya, ung mkipgrelasyon xa sa iba habang my relasyon kmi. 😢😢 and that was the time na dumaranas aq ng postpartum depression dahil bgo lng aq nakunan sa baby nmin. 😢😢
Oo nga, tama.. mahirap lang yung nagiging open kna nga s kung ano nararamdaman mo, pero bakit gnun? Pinapaalam mo n mga kung ano nraramdaman mo sa relasyon nyo pero ang feeling nya nagddrama ka lang. 😒
SOLIDDD!! Uploaded naa! 😁 Another video to help others and know the difference of being in a healthy relationship than unhealthy! P.s pucha 23k subs naa!! Yunnn! 🔥🔥🔥
For almost 4 years iniintindi ko yung partner ko kahit sobrang toxic na as in, everytime na magsasabi ako ng nararamdaman ko sa kanya nagagalit sya agad then ako pa manunuyo. Kaya ko pa ba? Sobrang nakakasakal pero kaya ko pa ba? Ive been carrying this feelings since then but WHY IM STILL HERE STAYING WITH HER the answer is Idk maybe I'm afraid to be alone. But kuya Darbs thank you so much for this video it helps me a lot to think how can we resolve the problem in our relationship. I hope that my partner will see this video 😔
now ko lng narealize na nasa toxic relationship ako andun yung takot kang magsabi sa kanya ng nararamdaman mo or hinanakit mo{tampo) sa kanya kasi magcacause yun ng away sa inyo yung ineexpect mong iintindihin ka. ang ending naging malaking away pa kaya kahit yung maliliit lng na bagay nag aaway kami. mabilis kasi siyang magalit sa mga bagay bagay at iniintindi ko yun. Minsan kahit may masabi ka lng na mali na yun para sa kanya ikaka galit niya na yun dahil na misinterpret yung gusto kong sabhin (madalas minamasama niya yung mga sinasabe ko lahat ng kilos ko) at sa tingin ko hindi kami open rcommunication, nasa unhealthy toxic relationship ako. sabi nga nila kasama mo siya sa ginhawa pero sa lungkot wala na siya. nakakalungkot lng pero kailangan tangapin hihi : )
Kung ganon pinapalala ko pala problema namin dalwa. Salamat. May narealize ako. Pero sana bumalik pa sya saken at wag nya ko sukuan. Gagawin ko Yung best ko para masolusyunan Yung problem namin.
Sobrang supportive ko sa kanya. FREEDOM... yun yong binibigay ko sa kanya. But one day nlaman ko na buntis yung friend nya na babae . Nag message ako kay girl para mag congrats.. hndi ko alam ang ama ng baby nya ay boyfriend ko pala 💔
Awwww🥺Siguro po ang lesson. Sa experience niyo it"s okay to support your partner but you should have agreement about boundaries.I pray that God will protect you from the wrong person and He will direct you to the right place and right person.
Dati nag oopen up ako sa partner ko pero ngayon hindi na. Paano ba naman kasi sa tuwing nag oopen ako ng problem, lagi nyang sinasabi na "ang drama mo na naman." Or " ayoko ng away" kasi alam nya na hahantong sa away yong pag uusap. Di na kami madalas nag uusap para maiwasan yong tampo o inis. Kapag matagal kasi kami nag uusap, ang tendency nyan magagalit ako kasi ang pangit ng pinapakita nya sakint attitude. Di ko na alam gagawin ko nong mga nakaraang araw pero kahapon, muka na naman syang jowa ko kasi nag I love you and goodnight which is di nako sanay. Skl hahahah
Dont let your partner dominate in a relationship. Dpat parehas kayong heard, parehas kayong naguunawaan. Hnd ung isa lang nag aadjust lol. Ex ko ganyan. "Drama mo naman" "ayoko nang nag aaway tayo" di kami nag away ever. Sobrang napaka minsan. Turns out, it drove us away from each other. But I think its a blessing in disguise. I found someone who became my bestfriend, we always fight but then thats because we try to hear each other. And after being heard, we only become better versions of ourselves. :)
Most of the time, we are blind that we are in a toxic relationship. It's like being drunk last night and you just discovering the wounds and scratches you have in your body
I’m in a toxic and unhealthy relationship for almost 11years. But we already ended it up. I’m still in a process of moving on like still in so much pain rn, but he already have someone new. But I’m still holding on, because I believe someday somehow, this pain will be over. I do still love him, but I’m starting to accept the fact that he has already someone he loves and that I’m no part of his life happiness at all.
Need din ng COMPREHENSION pag nag sosolve ng problems kasi kahit mag COMMUNICATE kayo at di siya nag listen at di siya nag comprehend malamang maging defensive sila may kanya kanya pa naman tayong diff ugali pag cinonfront
Bakit ngayon ko lang nalaman 😔😔 thank you kuya darbs.. weve been together since 2015 and we got married last april 7 2018 and today is our 3rd wedding anniversary but last april 2,2021 he end up everything between us..
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
Why do I feel this on another level? Sobrang eksakto sa pinagdadaanan ko ngaun. Sobrang takot ako magsabi dahil baka isipin niyang immatured ako na dahil sa maliit na bagay, nagseselos ako agad. So all I do is hide my pain inside & suffer. Pretending to be ok.. kc ano ba karapatan ko diba? Ni label di nya malagay. Shattap na lng ako kung may nilalandi syang iba...
Being possessive is like acting as if mag "Asawa" na kayo even if mag gf and bf palang kayo and then sasabihan ka "di mo matiis mga tropa mo pano nalang kapag mag ka pamilya ka na" like huh iba Yung may pamilya na sa gusto lang I cherish Yung moments ng mga kaibigan mo Kasi Yan Yung di na gaano mababalikan kapag may pamilya na as long as Wala ka ginagawang mali
question: what if gusto mo baguhin yung bad attitude or habits niya then all you want is for him/her become a better person. for example masama ugali niya sa nga tao sa paligid niya then pinagsasabihan mo siya na sana wag siya ganon kasi para sa ikakabuti din niya yon and lagi niya sinasabi na "huwag mo ko baguhin kung sino ako" "ang toxic mo kung hindi mo ko tanggap na ganto ko hindi mo ko mahal"
When I seen this video I click it. No how that at this moment this video makes me to realized that I’m in unhealthy relationship 😭😭😭😭😭😭. Thank you to u sir.
sabihin nyo nga to sakanya, kasi hinahayaan niya nalang ako na di kami okay, ang sakit lang kasi dati di niya kaya makatulog ng di kami okay tas ngayon iba na
Hehe kuya.. Nawawalan napo kc ako ng tiwala dto sa bf ko.. Napaka babaero kasi.. Pero dkopadin maiwan.. Gang sa nagiging paranoid nako.. Kc lahat ng app na kalandian meron xa.. Lahat pa ng mga combo ng mga nilandi nya nabasa ko.. Ang hirap hirap.. Parang palage nako paranoid mahal koxa pero dko padin xa maiwan.. Minsan umaasa ako na mag babago xa. Pero minsan susumpungin nanaman ako maaaway ko uli xa kc naaalala ko mga nagawa nya.. Baka and for sure ata ginagawa padin nya ngaun.. 😔
Kung mahal ka niya may respect siya sayo, di niya gagawin mga ganyang bagay. Naapektuhan na mental health mo dahil sa kanya nagiging paranoid and overthinker ka, which is not good. Makakahanap ka pa ng mas better at deserve yung pagmamahal mo. 💜
What if she already lost the belief or faith that you can do much better before of previous mistakes in your relationship? Yes, you recognize and know your mistakes and know you are will aware that because of that mistakes you can make a better decisions. But what if, she already lost it? That faith that she keep on saying that she will believe in you before but now she just say that "stop, because it's useless". You're fully aware that you committed a mistake and I will never gonna happen again. But yeah... (I'm really redandant) What if, no matter and how much you prove to her that you can fix and solve all of the problems, she already lost the interest and don't have the faith in you?
Yes lods Mahirap humanap ng perpektong relasyon pero may matinong samahan. Hindi ka sasaya kung alam mo sa sarili mong hindi ka marunong makuntento. Morning lods.
Ang masakit yong nagtiwala ka sa umpisa, pangalawang beses and 3rd time ma surpresa knlang niloko ka. Tinanggap sya ng buong buo binaliwala q lahat ng mga maling ginawa nya dun sa mga nakaraan nya. Pero sadyang lumihis parin😢
Kahit sabihin ko yung nararamdaman ko na nasasaktan ko he will not understand kasi para sa kanya maliit na bagay lang yun and he will say "ano issue nanaman sayo" but then I end up. Hindi ko nalang sinasabi yung nararamdaman ko. Supportive din sa pagbabae niya HAHHAHA . Nasa UNHEALTHY RELATIOSNHIP ako
In and off po yung relasyun nmin away bati po kmi... Nkkapgud na dn po pala yung lging ikw ang ng uunwa at ng papakumbaba... Now I decided na tposin na lang po even mahl q sya at mskit po.. Ldr po kming dlwa kuya Darbs tama po ba yung ginwa q ksi po nsa toxic relationship napo kmi ned advice po thank you
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
Nakakapagod na rin kasi yung tipong ubos na ubos kana sakaka intindi in the end ganon parin sya tapos naapiktohan kana rin minsan kailangan ding bumitaw kong nakakasama na sya sayo yung tipong na di depressed kana rin
Im getting married this january, i dont know why I ended up watching this hehe. But thanks a lot I've learned so much. Now , i realized my toxic sides. God bless you. ❤
Yes lods nice advice. Nag lalove advice din po ako sa ytc ko lods and isa kapo sa mga idol ko thanks much lods. Mahirap gawin mundo ang isang tao. Lalo na sa panahon ngayon sobrang gulo na ng mundo at walang kasiguraduhan kung bukas ay ok paba.
Problem ..the things is when we have conflicts nowadays, he avoids it and throwing me away instead in talking it with me. To the point he blames me and sometimes starting to threaten me like, "wag mo ako susubukan" "wag mo pagsisisihan gagawin ko" ..even I don't have the clue why, .. that's why I am asking and wanting to talk to me. He fell out of love of me last time. .. we're okay esp when we are happy but when I refuse to do or follow what he wants that I'm not comfortable to do, he gets mad or tampo. I'll just continue to support and stay calm. I don't want to argue with him anymore. I'm too tired explaining myself so I'll better shut up that being so open to him. I even don't know if I'm the one he wants or his ex MU that he keeps on reaching out whenever he wants to hurt my feelings coz he knows how much pain I feel whenever he does that. I'll trust in God and destiny's work nalang. np: someday by nina
Isolating. Me right now, can't go outside and if i really need to go outside to buy groceries i need to take a video on it. It's really hard but i love him:((
I'm in a toxic relationship too. Kung baga he is not proud na ako ang girlfriend niya. In my part kasi dapat maging open siya. Maging open siya sa lahat lalo na sa pamilya ko. Naiinis kasi ako lagi sa kanya kapag lahat ng gusto niya e dapat kong sundin. Kung baga wala akong freedom kung ano sa side ko kasi lahat ng gusto sa kanya dapat sumusunod. Ano ba ang dapat kong gawin? Gusto ko palitan mga bagay na dapat palitan. Gusto ko maging matured na siya. :(
Cheating triggers a toxic relationship. It just changes the other person from being supportive to being toxic. And it's sad because some people tries to play victim and does guilt tripping which makes you feel na kasalanan mo pa na nag cheat sila. 🥺
Yezzz
True 😰
true po hayst
True...
True
my mga partner na ayaw pinakakikielaman. ayaw pinapansin ang pagkakamali. ung ijujudge ka sa mali mo, pero mali nila hindi nila mapansin..
Sinabi mupa
Tapos ang masaklap pa non break up parati ang solution pag d nasunod ang gusto. 💔
Yan ginawa NG asawa ko sKin
Actually nararanasan kopo yan ngayon. Laging pinapamukha sakin lahat ng pagkakamali ko. Pero lahat ng pagkakamali ng partner ko lagi niyang pinagtatakpan o hindi niya pinupuna😔
@@heizelle3888 Same here tanggap ko naman ang pagkakamali ko at humingi ng chance para makapag bago at makabawi pero wala ng excitement :( kasalanan ko din naman :(
Psychological effects of false accusations in a relationship are very real. Being constantly accused of something you didn't do tears into the very heart and core of your identity.
So true, ang masaklap pa sakin, ginawa sakin to ngayong pasko lang😞
true 💯 sasaktan ka at titiisin mo tas pag sumabog ka na ikaw pa ang masama, ikaw ang loka loka 🙄
Ganyan na ganyan ako now ako PA nga ang villain sa kanila NG kabit nya
The problem is some people's reason of listening is just to reply, not to understand. As partners, you must learn the art of communicating WITH the effort of really understanding each other. It's not you against your partner rather, you and your partner against the problem.
A week ago I realized these things and was able to let go of a toxic relationship. Sana kayo rin because being in a relationship that is very unhealthy is exhausting. I used to suppress my own feelings just to avoid him to feel that I don't understand him. There were times when i'd start up a fight then will end up na susumbatan pako. Times when i'd feel lonely, because I can never find the perfect comfort from him. Times when I would feel like he's stoping me from my own growth because even going to gym is restricted, hair cuts, wearing dresses. And now, I hope he learns from our previous relationship. I still love him tho, but I can't always be the dominant one.
I'm so glad na makaalis sa toxic relationship! iba yung peace iba yung saya
Yung feeling na binubuo mo pa yung sarili mo at sa kanya ka na lang humuhugot ng lakas pero ikaw lang lagi yung problema. 😭💔
Same sis
Toxic na pag
"Pa ulit-ulit na lang yung mali,at pa ulit ulit na rin yung sakit"😞
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Oh.. This just opened my eyes, I'm now fully aware at how things are so toxic between us.
No matter how I confronted him for the better, it do feel like I was being judged rather than being understood
Now im aware that im in a toxic and unhealthy relationship. Thankyou!❤
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Me too
Same here.
Samee
Same!
"Your feelings are invalidated... and that insights fear... you don't trust your partner well enough to understand you"
"the freedom of becoming the person your supposed to be is lost"
I hate how accurate you are. 🙃
This is very true! And he broke up with me because I shared lahat ng nararamdaman kong sakit.. Nagalit sya. So wala na.
Hayyy same.
Ako minessage ko babae nya ako PA Inaway inayawan Yung kabit
Iniyakan kabit
New subscriber here. Tagos sobra!I was in denial for many years, but I was too glad I realized how toxic my relationship was. I got my freedom back yeheyyyy and I don’t care anymore if I am getting old and single. What’s important is I was able to save my heart from drowning and looking forward for that special someone. God is great! Just keep the faith and positivity guys!
Napaka sakto naman neto. I'm actually not okay right now because of my depression attacks and I'm scared na sabihin to sa boyfriend ko cause i don't want him na mag worry we actually happy wala kami problema nasaakin kasi as of now yung problem and I'm questioning my life right now and i don't know why . I really want to be positive but yung thoughts ko yung nagpupush saakin maging ganto. After watching this na enlightened ako na I need to stand up wag ako matakot majudge kasi kaya siya andyan to help me.
Ano balita sa relationship niyo?
There are points in this video that helped me realize the actions that I should have and will portray towards my girlfriend and the things that I need to change for myself and for the betterment of our relationship. Thank you for making things clear, precise and straight to the point. I will reflect on the things that you have mentioned and I will strive for a healthier relationship with her. Thank you!
I hope my partner have this kind of mindset too 🥺
I also experience unhealthy relationship. There's a lot of struggle. I thought as long as I can give all the support and love to my partner ok na kaso hindi ko alam nasasakal na pala siya. Now I know how to handle this kind of experience thanks for sharing a very knowledgeable informations. Trust and communication is very important.
CHEATING IS ALWAYS A TOXIC and TRUST IS BROKEN....sad buts TRUE 💔😭
I'm currently in toxic relationship. But we fixed our problems.
I just watched this last night, so many things came up on my mind and made me realize, where am I rn sa relasyon, I hope it won't happened na ppunta sa punto na obsessive and mging toxic. She's always be the right and, controlling me about everything I want to do,Pinapayuhan ko sha na sometimes we need to be more understanding sa mga bagay2 at mging considerate. Bago palang kami 2 weeks na pero pinpafeel nya sakin na pra nya akong empleyado sa companya na lahat ng decision ko na against with her gingawa nyang negotiation to deal with me.Paghindi ako pumayag case closed agad, hindi man lng nya pinpakinggan yung gsto ko sabihin to be understood and clear sa knya kong bakit minsan nakakasakal na. Pero thanks po nito nalalabas ko ang bigat ng dinidibdib ko.. You helped alot of people na maiintinhan nla kong saan ka nga ba sa relasyon na hihirapan. Kaya salamat talaga ng subra..m
Because of this. Finally. Nagkalakas na ko ng loob makipaghiwalay sa kanya
Hahahaha
hahahaha gagi🤣🤣🤣
In short, humanap kayo ng partner na worth suffering hindi yung hindi ka sasaktan. Bakit? Kasi kahit sinong babae o lalaki pwede kang saktan and tanungin nyo muna ang mga sarili nyo kung ready na kayo pumasok sa isang relationship because relationship is not all about hugs and kisses, dating on expensive restaurants etc!
Thank you bro .darbs ....nagising ako sa katotohanan.....ilang yrs narin ako na unhealthy relationship.....but now i am try to stand my life right now
Ang sakit sakit lang... minsan maaalala ka. minsan hindi.
hindi mo alam kung meron pa bang iba. or kelangan mo pang intindihin.
Buti nalang andito si boss Darbs! Salamat sa mga word of wisdom mo kase grabe I learned alot to my previous relationship 2 years and 2 years din akong nakipag balikan sa kanya akala ko mananalo ako sa huli un pala hindi dahil siya na ang nag tulak sakin para bumitaw na at hindi ko na kayang maibalik pa ung relationship namin noon. Well kasalanan ko naman talaga bat pa umabot ng 2years ung pakikipag balikan ko sa kanya pero sa 2 years nayan alam ko it's a waste of time at marami talaga akong natutunan. Salamat Sir!! I'll be the right Man for someone😊☺️
Yun yung gusto ko sa relationship namin. Masyado na siyang naka focus sa akin. I always tell him na kailangan niyang makipag interact sa iba at hindi lang siya nakafocus sakin pero ayaw niya. It might be boostful but ginawa niya akong mundo niya. Yes masaya sa umpisa pero as time goes by nakakasakal din pala. And the worst part is gusto niya ganun din ako. Wala kaming boundery. Feeling ko masosofocate ako. Thats our problemm.
But sadlyyy tinapos ko din. Ayoko ng ganun. He's loosing himself. Same as mine kaya mas mabuting tinapos na lang. We are in a toxic relationship and its not healthy for the both of us..
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Same tayo. Ang pinagkaiba lang may courage ka to let him go, ako hindi ko alam.
@@jeminahsuarez5597 Don't hanggat kaya mo pang hawakan huwag mong bitawann. Marupok na kung marupok pero nakipagbalikan ako sa kanyaa ako yung nanghingi ng cb. HAHAHAH And you now what happen?? He change, he change a lot. He become the oppposite of the man whom I love. Dati nasobrahan siya ngayon parang wala na lng
He find his happiness lreadyy pero di na ako kasama sa mga hapinness na yun. I am devastated right now kasi diko mahanap yung halaga ko sa kanya
Pag iisipan ko po.
Super helpful siya kuya💖 now I'm aware that I'm being unfair to my partner. Thank you kuya!❤️
I am happy and greatful that I found my understanding, supporting, and kind boyfriend. He always here in my heart to support and accept who I am even in my worst part. Real man really exist just wait the right time. Ldr doesn't matter as long as you both love and trust eachother. I know this is not yet the happy ending, but we are both ready to fight and coop to those challenges we will face in future.
Congrats girl sana ako din 🥰
Thank you. Because of this I became aware of my toxic traits and understood that he as well.
That's good to hear. Cus we all have toxic traits. That we somehow ignore. It's better you went here this early. And then, You and your partner can discuss and fix the problem asap.
@@spectrem-4157 Sad thing is we already broke up. We just recently broke up because of these. I'll just take this time to make myself better and maybe someday if god allows, we will be together again more matured.
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A lot of my friends really needs to hear this.
That’s how I feel ! Even thought I want to talk and speak up about how i feel , I feel like he will tell me “ what are you saying again or his not trying to understand what I am trying to say . I feel like his the only one whose the right to say things . That’s why I rather keep it to myself how I feel because I don’t want to get judge . I tried my best and to everything to make him happy , it he doesn’t see that .
Sobrang hirap na hirap ako , kase for 2years ngayon lang kami nagkaroon ng gantong away, like sobrang sakit, hindi siya normal na away lang. Tas nakiusap ako kay God na bigyan niya ako ng idea or sign kung ano ba dapat kong gawin, after 5 hours eto dito ako dinala😭❣ Mahal talaga ako ni Lord❤
I’m the toxic one, kaya pinakawalan ko na siya.
Thank you Sir. I feel much better now.
Thank youu for this advice it really help me in our relationship to build a healthy and trust not a toxic traits😩💗
Mahirap pero hindi impossible! I like this thought! Cheers 🥂
He told me that I am the toxic one. He want's me to let him free.. Masakit na palayain sya Pero mas masakit mga sinasabi nya. Nawawalan na sya ng respeto sakin. At dahil yun yung wish nya pinapalaya ko na sya at alam ko rin dun sya magiging masaya kahit ikakasakit kopa😢😢
lucky enough we both open to each other 🙏🏼 even the things we hate to know sometimes haha
That takes a lot of courage! I commend the two of you! ❤️
Always choose each other everyday! Wishing you both well! ❤️
Ako nga laging support but may nagsabi padin na may kakulangan me then nambabae pa
I was invalidated of my past relationship. Too toxic, I just left. Gwapa ko- Elen Adarna
yes mahirap magkaroon ng partners na ikaw ng ikaw ang aasahan sa lahat ayaw mag effort kahit maliit na bagay
Thank you for this Kuya Darb's. Marami akong na realize ngayon nsa TOXIC RELATIONSHIP pla ako. Sana maging okay na kmi ksi my baby na kmi ei. Huhu 😭😢😢😭
There's no perfect partner/relationship. Di naman pag sinabing "LOVE" masarap lang 😅, masaya lang. New subscriber here. ❤️
Tama poh kuya darbs lyk mi 4 yrs n kmi s x q sympre mga problema q cnsbi q s knya nd q pla alm n stress xa. Sakn. Kya nghnp ng iba pngplit lng ung 4 yrs nmin s smpleng problema nd q alm bka alibay nya lng un nd q akalain n mgw anya s akn un. Ung taong lging umiiyak sau pg kunting dhiln lng ng aaway
Bkt aq, binigay q lhat ng support q sknya, kung san nya gustong pumunta n ksama kaibigan nya, I let him, when he wants to make blogging, tinuturuan q xa kung ano mga kailangan nyang gadgets at kung ano ggwin nya, when he needs my help I gave it. I offer myself to be his videographer and editor, I let him to do whatever he wants coz I don't want him to feel na sakal xa o sinasakal ko xa. Though I felt that I'm not his priority, it's OK. But still I love him. OK lng sakin kung marami xang kchat, pero ang msakit kc sakin n ngawa nya, ung mkipgrelasyon xa sa iba habang my relasyon kmi. 😢😢 and that was the time na dumaranas aq ng postpartum depression dahil bgo lng aq nakunan sa baby nmin. 😢😢
Oo nga, tama..
mahirap lang yung nagiging open kna nga s kung ano nararamdaman mo, pero bakit gnun? Pinapaalam mo n mga kung ano nraramdaman mo sa relasyon nyo pero ang feeling nya nagddrama ka lang. 😒
SOLIDDD!! Uploaded naa! 😁 Another video to help others and know the difference of being in a healthy relationship than unhealthy!
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Hahaha! Road to 100k power! Hahah
For almost 4 years iniintindi ko yung partner ko kahit sobrang toxic na as in, everytime na magsasabi ako ng nararamdaman ko sa kanya nagagalit sya agad then ako pa manunuyo. Kaya ko pa ba? Sobrang nakakasakal pero kaya ko pa ba? Ive been carrying this feelings since then but WHY IM STILL HERE STAYING WITH HER the answer is Idk maybe I'm afraid to be alone. But kuya Darbs thank you so much for this video it helps me a lot to think how can we resolve the problem in our relationship. I hope that my partner will see this video 😔
same to you bro
Relate 🖤 but I know my boundary. His very free...
now ko lng narealize na nasa toxic relationship ako andun yung takot kang magsabi sa kanya ng nararamdaman mo or hinanakit mo{tampo) sa kanya kasi magcacause yun ng away sa inyo yung ineexpect mong iintindihin ka. ang ending naging malaking away pa kaya kahit yung maliliit lng na bagay nag aaway kami. mabilis kasi siyang magalit sa mga bagay bagay at iniintindi ko yun. Minsan kahit may masabi ka lng na mali na yun para sa kanya ikaka galit niya na yun dahil na misinterpret yung gusto kong sabhin (madalas minamasama niya yung mga sinasabe ko lahat ng kilos ko) at sa tingin ko hindi kami open rcommunication, nasa unhealthy toxic relationship ako. sabi nga nila kasama mo siya sa ginhawa pero sa lungkot wala na siya. nakakalungkot lng pero kailangan tangapin hihi : )
This made me realize that I’m also somehow toxic sometimes :( I’ll try my best to change for my guy.
Kung ganon pinapalala ko pala problema namin dalwa. Salamat. May narealize ako. Pero sana bumalik pa sya saken at wag nya ko sukuan. Gagawin ko Yung best ko para masolusyunan Yung problem namin.
Sobrang supportive ko sa kanya.
FREEDOM... yun yong binibigay ko sa kanya. But one day nlaman ko na buntis yung friend nya na babae . Nag message ako kay girl para mag congrats.. hndi ko alam ang ama ng baby nya ay boyfriend ko pala 💔
Awwww🥺Siguro po ang lesson. Sa experience niyo it"s okay to support your partner but you should have agreement about boundaries.I pray that God will protect you from the wrong person and He will direct you to the right place and right person.
Dati nag oopen up ako sa partner ko pero ngayon hindi na. Paano ba naman kasi sa tuwing nag oopen ako ng problem, lagi nyang sinasabi na "ang drama mo na naman." Or " ayoko ng away" kasi alam nya na hahantong sa away yong pag uusap. Di na kami madalas nag uusap para maiwasan yong tampo o inis. Kapag matagal kasi kami nag uusap, ang tendency nyan magagalit ako kasi ang pangit ng pinapakita nya sakint attitude. Di ko na alam gagawin ko nong mga nakaraang araw pero kahapon, muka na naman syang jowa ko kasi nag I love you and goodnight which is di nako sanay. Skl hahahah
I feel you sis. Huhu
I feel you 😢 yung nag tampo ka pero di ka susuyuin, galit ka galit din sya.
Madami ganyan ngayon hehe. I hope maging okay na kayo mga siszums. Cheer up! Magaganda tayo ❤
Dont let your partner dominate in a relationship. Dpat parehas kayong heard, parehas kayong naguunawaan. Hnd ung isa lang nag aadjust lol. Ex ko ganyan. "Drama mo naman" "ayoko nang nag aaway tayo" di kami nag away ever. Sobrang napaka minsan. Turns out, it drove us away from each other. But I think its a blessing in disguise. I found someone who became my bestfriend, we always fight but then thats because we try to hear each other. And after being heard, we only become better versions of ourselves. :)
Feel na feel kita sissy
Everything's clear now. Thank you for this 🙏🏻🧡
Most of the time, we are blind that we are in a toxic relationship. It's like being drunk last night and you just discovering the wounds and scratches you have in your body
He always call me stupid because he said he wants me to learn.
I’m in a toxic and unhealthy relationship for almost 11years. But we already ended it up. I’m still in a process of moving on like still in so much pain rn, but he already have someone new. But I’m still holding on, because I believe someday somehow, this pain will be over. I do still love him, but I’m starting to accept the fact that he has already someone he loves and that I’m no part of his life happiness at all.
yes, your big right. 🥺
Need din ng COMPREHENSION pag nag sosolve ng problems kasi kahit mag COMMUNICATE kayo at di siya nag listen at di siya nag comprehend malamang maging defensive sila may kanya kanya pa naman tayong diff ugali pag cinonfront
I lost my self and now still picking the broken pieces of me. It was so hard nakakapagod at sobrang sakit pero it was the right thing to do. 💔😭
Bakit ngayon ko lang nalaman 😔😔 thank you kuya darbs.. weve been together since 2015 and we got married last april 7 2018 and today is our 3rd wedding anniversary but last april 2,2021 he end up everything between us..
I got my help from someone, he was the only one who was able to help me bring back my ex husband back to me and he save and solve my relationship problem
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Why do I feel this on another level? Sobrang eksakto sa pinagdadaanan ko ngaun. Sobrang takot ako magsabi dahil baka isipin niyang immatured ako na dahil sa maliit na bagay, nagseselos ako agad. So all I do is hide my pain inside & suffer. Pretending to be ok.. kc ano ba karapatan ko diba? Ni label di nya malagay. Shattap na lng ako kung may nilalandi syang iba...
same haha
Thanks Darbs.....your such a good advisor ....Keep it up
Being possessive is like acting as if mag "Asawa" na kayo even if mag gf and bf palang kayo and then sasabihan ka "di mo matiis mga tropa mo pano nalang kapag mag ka pamilya ka na" like huh iba Yung may pamilya na sa gusto lang I cherish Yung moments ng mga kaibigan mo Kasi Yan Yung di na gaano mababalikan kapag may pamilya na as long as Wala ka ginagawang mali
Learned so much from this Darbs. Thank you.
question: what if gusto mo baguhin yung bad attitude or habits niya then all you want is for him/her become a better person. for example masama ugali niya sa nga tao sa paligid niya then pinagsasabihan mo siya na sana wag siya ganon kasi para sa ikakabuti din niya yon and lagi niya sinasabi na "huwag mo ko baguhin kung sino ako" "ang toxic mo kung hindi mo ko tanggap na ganto ko hindi mo ko mahal"
When I seen this video I click it. No how that at this moment this video makes me to realized that I’m in unhealthy relationship 😭😭😭😭😭😭. Thank you to u sir.
Your words are full of wisdom 🙌
Watching this. Makes me realize of something 😔
sabihin nyo nga to sakanya, kasi hinahayaan niya nalang ako na di kami okay, ang sakit lang kasi dati di niya kaya makatulog ng di kami okay tas ngayon iba na
Hehe kuya.. Nawawalan napo kc ako ng tiwala dto sa bf ko.. Napaka babaero kasi.. Pero dkopadin maiwan.. Gang sa nagiging paranoid nako.. Kc lahat ng app na kalandian meron xa.. Lahat pa ng mga combo ng mga nilandi nya nabasa ko.. Ang hirap hirap.. Parang palage nako paranoid mahal koxa pero dko padin xa maiwan.. Minsan umaasa ako na mag babago xa. Pero minsan susumpungin nanaman ako maaaway ko uli xa kc naaalala ko mga nagawa nya.. Baka and for sure ata ginagawa padin nya ngaun.. 😔
Iwan mo na, hindi dapat ganyan. Toxic. Never na yan magbabago kung paulit ulit. You deserve better girl, know your worth. 💜
Kung mahal ka niya may respect siya sayo, di niya gagawin mga ganyang bagay. Naapektuhan na mental health mo dahil sa kanya nagiging paranoid and overthinker ka, which is not good. Makakahanap ka pa ng mas better at deserve yung pagmamahal mo. 💜
I feel u ate
What if she already lost the belief or faith that you can do much better before of previous mistakes in your relationship? Yes, you recognize and know your mistakes and know you are will aware that because of that mistakes you can make a better decisions. But what if, she already lost it? That faith that she keep on saying that she will believe in you before but now she just say that "stop, because it's useless". You're fully aware that you committed a mistake and I will never gonna happen again. But yeah... (I'm really redandant) What if, no matter and how much you prove to her that you can fix and solve all of the problems, she already lost the interest and don't have the faith in you?
This makes me know and realize that i'm in a toxic relationship
lately me and my partner have been arguing/fighting a lot, this helped me a lot
Yes lods Mahirap humanap ng perpektong relasyon pero may matinong samahan. Hindi ka sasaya kung alam mo sa sarili mong hindi ka marunong makuntento. Morning lods.
Ang masakit yong nagtiwala ka sa umpisa, pangalawang beses and 3rd time ma surpresa knlang niloko ka. Tinanggap sya ng buong buo binaliwala q lahat ng mga maling ginawa nya dun sa mga nakaraan nya. Pero sadyang lumihis parin😢
Maging single nalang para masaya! Wooooooo!🎉
Kahit sabihin ko yung nararamdaman ko na nasasaktan ko he will not understand kasi para sa kanya maliit na bagay lang yun and he will say "ano issue nanaman sayo" but then I end up. Hindi ko nalang sinasabi yung nararamdaman ko. Supportive din sa pagbabae niya HAHHAHA . Nasa UNHEALTHY RELATIOSNHIP ako
Relate 💔☹️
In and off po yung relasyun nmin away bati po kmi... Nkkapgud na dn po pala yung lging ikw ang ng uunwa at ng papakumbaba... Now I decided na tposin na lang po even mahl q sya at mskit po.. Ldr po kming dlwa kuya Darbs tama po ba yung ginwa q ksi po nsa toxic relationship napo kmi ned advice po thank you
Sana po madali lang mag let go sa taong mahal mo pero may mahal ng iba 😔
Thank you now its more clearer!
Paubaya no more 🕊✌️
he deserves 1m subscribers!!!!
hinanap ko talaga 'to kuya para lg makahingi ng advice para sa relationship namin
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Thank you for this wonderful advice I learn a lot from this video Thank you very much💖
Nakakapagod na rin kasi yung tipong ubos na ubos kana sakaka intindi in the end ganon parin sya tapos naapiktohan kana rin minsan kailangan ding bumitaw kong nakakasama na sya sayo yung tipong na di depressed kana rin
Learning so much with this. Thanks
Thank you for the advise kuya Darbs,diko alam kung paanu kasi,nag open up ako sa bf ko,iniwan tuloy ako😢😢😢
Its hard to get out from in a relationship evrn its toxic
Hello po kuya darbs, I learned a lot for every video na ganito. Salamat po. More power and you'll continue enlighten us.
thank you so much for this. 🙂❤️
Im getting married this january, i dont know why I ended up watching this hehe. But thanks a lot I've learned so much. Now , i realized my toxic sides. God bless you. ❤
Yes lods nice advice. Nag lalove advice din po ako sa ytc ko lods and isa kapo sa mga idol ko thanks much lods. Mahirap gawin mundo ang isang tao. Lalo na sa panahon ngayon sobrang gulo na ng mundo at walang kasiguraduhan kung bukas ay ok paba.
Nagkaroon din ng sagot lahat ng tanong sa isip ko, alam ko na ngayon ang gagawin ko, Thank you for making this video.
Problem ..the things is when we have conflicts nowadays, he avoids it and throwing me away instead in talking it with me. To the point he blames me and sometimes starting to threaten me like, "wag mo ako susubukan" "wag mo pagsisisihan gagawin ko" ..even I don't have the clue why, .. that's why I am asking and wanting to talk to me.
He fell out of love of me last time. .. we're okay esp when we are happy but when I refuse to do or follow what he wants that I'm not comfortable to do, he gets mad or tampo.
I'll just continue to support and stay calm. I don't want to argue with him anymore. I'm too tired explaining myself so I'll better shut up that being so open to him.
I even don't know if I'm the one he wants or his ex MU that he keeps on reaching out whenever he wants to hurt my feelings coz he knows how much pain I feel whenever he does that.
I'll trust in God and destiny's work nalang.
np: someday by nina
this is what i always need. thanks sir darbs
Isolating. Me right now, can't go outside and if i really need to go outside to buy groceries i need to take a video on it. It's really hard but i love him:((
I'm in a toxic relationship too. Kung baga he is not proud na ako ang girlfriend niya. In my part kasi dapat maging open siya. Maging open siya sa lahat lalo na sa pamilya ko. Naiinis kasi ako lagi sa kanya kapag lahat ng gusto niya e dapat kong sundin. Kung baga wala akong freedom kung ano sa side ko kasi lahat ng gusto sa kanya dapat sumusunod. Ano ba ang dapat kong gawin? Gusto ko palitan mga bagay na dapat palitan. Gusto ko maging matured na siya. :(
Sobrang eye opener. Thanks for this! 💚