It's completely true that someone who is trained and has been in situations involving violence would usually try to deescalate the situation, but he also later has some amount of regret, where he know he could have easily beaten the other person. This is human nature, but then thats what you learn through experience. You guys come up with amazing topics, i just love it.
I had a situation like that. I was walking to work on morning, and this guy on a bike was coasting along behind me..I don't know why he did this, but he rolled his tire into the back of my heel..I stopped and were both just sitting there. I thought about reacting, but then I stopped myself and asked. Is this guy worth going to jail? Is it worth possibly ruining my.uniform?.I decided to step aside and waved him on. I said next time stay on the street bloke. He just rode off.
Never want to fight...but always be prepared to defend yourself... body language for me is the biggest indicator if someone is going to actually attack...
Situational awareness, presense of mind, quick physical reactions or reflexes, mental strength or toughness, courage, composure, self-confidence, resourcefulness, the instinct or the will to fight back and defend yourself, and your self-defense skills and techniques (if you have any or some) which you have spent long periods of time practicing and training, can drastically increase your chances of successfully defending yourself and surviving potentially violent self-defense encounters. Speaking based on my personal experience as a self-defense practitioner.
I never had an ego about fighting; if a fight is inevitable, as soon as I know that, I turn it on. Reminds me of a "fight" I had with I guess an ego guy. I was partying with some people all day and night long, and one dude kept wanting to fight me, like 5 or 6 times he squared up with me and I simply talked my way out every time. Except the last time he was coming at me with blood in his eyes. I hit him with a 5 punch combo and before I was done he was pleading for me to quit! There wasn't a problem the rest of the night. I would have never hit him, if he was just going to be an egotistical loudmouth, to each his own.
I really appreciate your break down of the mentality of deadly force... I dont understand completely... so it is nice to have a civil discussion... keep it up Gentlemen!
Thanks for taking the time to comment and for the great feedback Nicholas. Let us know exactly what wasn't clear in this video and we can either discuss in the comments here, or in a future video where we covering something particular in more depth. - Jack
Appeasement only makes the aggressor more aggressive. When someone is in your face with evil intent, you must defend yourself. Bullies love to prey on the weak because they know you won’t fight back. When you do stand up for yourself, they will question their motions and tend to back off. Backing out would only cause you more problems in the future.
Thanks for the great suggestion Shane. We are working through a list of requests from comments on the channel, so we will be sure to cover this in the future. - Jack
@@fightscience please analyze the situation ua-cam.com/video/z4QTa4NSDl4/v-deo.html poor man got attacked over an accident his son cannot fight back very sad to see.
@@CintronEd I know I've seen him refer to that video in one of his recordings. Not sure if it was in reference to your request but it is on one of them.
Listen to interviews with anyone who's ego has put them in a prison cell away from their families and loved ones. It's never worth it. You hit them, their head hits the floor and next minute you're serving a life sentence because somebody stepped on your shoes or called you a name
I've seen only three reasons: hurt pride, jealousy and my father... The latter is hard to explain, but having the personality of an internet troll and a propensity for gaslighting is definitely part of it and at some point its just too much...
@@edi9892 "having the personality of an internet troll and a propensity for gaslighting is definitely part of it" what exactly do you mean by that? and what about the father?
@@Stacey0909 Sure walking away is usually best if you can, but have they ever been bullied? You can't really stay away from a bully in school. You have to walk the same halls to your classes, go to the bathroom, etc. They will eventually get bullied and if they just walk away each time, it will happen every single day, until they stand up for themselves. Sure, you think it's not worth it, but eventually they won't be able to walk away, like when him and his buddies corner them in the bathroom. How do I know? Because it happened to me, and at that point I had no choice, threw a few punches and the bullying stopped.
@@Stacey0909 women will never fully understand what men go through on a daily basis. Women can ignore situations and let things go many times but men on the other hand sometimes the only way is to fight
If you are going to do violence, remember the single most important factor: DENIABILITY. If you are going to do it, time and plan it so there can be strong deniability on your part. Part of that is be aware of cameras and avoid extraneous witnesses, or be vague looking enough that cameras or witnesses cannot clearly ID you. Just saying.
Wait a minute....it was you wasn't it! You sound like the bad guy! Remember deniability aaaannnd articulation. Jokes aside everyone please make an attempt to avoid violence unless it is truly necessary.
There are a multitude of situations that can avoided or dealt with. As a trained defender, I will give 2 options up to the aggressor? Only 2 ... Jail or Hospital. Cause one of us is going either way.
Very interesting indeed. Understanding the why navigates a path to the who, where, what, when and how. I listened to the discussion about ego with additional interest. As an older man, it has surprised me just how quick to anger I have become compared to when I was younger. Alarming really when you consider that age may reduce inhibitions and one's willingness to back down but it also reduces physical abilities! I admit that older doesn't always mean wiser, underlining your previous tutorials about remaining calm. Thank you for your thoroughly enjoyable and thought provoking videos.
I watched this thrice before adding this, the 5th "Hypervigilance." The 4th way, ability, can trigger a 5th reason, hypervigilance, the need to attack to defend someone else or a crowd, even if you don't know them. Example, I saw a bar brawl erupt one evening, most of us ignored it, some hooligans fighting amongst themselves. The fight got out of control and some of the people in the brawl started attacking patrons that had been minding their own business. As one poor fellow got pinned into a wall and beaten in front of his wife and co workers I snapped, having nothing to do with this brawl other than the feeling of needing to protect this man and his friends, I ran in and knocked out a few of the original trouble makers. I had no intention of fighting, it was a physiological response ending in an attack. People with PTSD and a trained ability can easily go into a hypervigilant mindset where it's just "go mode" and what one considers an attack, we consider pre-emptive defense.
This is a great forum, and your followers are thoughtful and appreciative. I want to share something I saw in the late '80s that may be useful. I attended an outdoor party with a friend that was thrown by the son of a man that owned a meat company we used. We planned to circulate, be seen, and then leave, as these things usually get silly the more the alcohol flows. My interest is that this man was the only person I have met that actually participated in those bare-knuckle Any Which Way But Loose kind of fights and I was intrigued, as some of them would be there. As a side note, I asked him how he trained, how he defended against the other fellow. He looked kind of puzzled, and said, "We just hit each other until somebody goes down." so no training tips there. Anyway, one of the fellows was from Louisiana and had a thick Cajun accent he was rather bashful about, but he was big and pretty muscled. He had just brought his fiance up (we were in California) and was kind of showing her off. As expected a scrawny little guy that had worked overtime on getting more than his share of the drink (it was a kegger. For those of you not familiar, a keg is a large metal beer can with a pump, so you got a paper cup and helped yourself) and decided to flirt with the pretty lady. Tempers flared, words were hurled, and even though the size disparity was comical the little fellow wouldn't back down, resulting in our man pulling off his shirt, presumably to avoid blood splatter from his undernourished opponent, but more likely to intimidate and show off his physique, and proceeded to do the monkey dance. After being shoved a few times, our little man pulled out a Raven .25 pistol and magdumped on the guy, killing him on the spot. I have never forgotten this and it has colored all my dealings with angry people. I am so sensitive to anger and triggers I think it helped me avoid a lot of trouble. When my ego flares and I start to do the monkey dance and argue over petty things this comes to mind. And this was 1990! Things have gotten a lot tenser since then, with folks battling over parking spots and shooting each other over snow removal. Always find the alternatives!
You’re videos are very educational and puts ppl actions into perspective. That’s for producing these. We all want to be the good guy and unfortunately doesn’t workout that way. It’s a shame ppl can get a bad rap for standing up for themselves against ppl go only see physical or arguing as only alternatives.
People who are insecure often resort to violence in my experience and its a coping strategy for there feelings at the time, plus a lot of these guys do it when there drunk or in a group.
@@harlem1223 but do you dig the channel for the martial arts content (casual interest) or do you want to feel more prepared if someone attacks you on the street?
Thank you very much for your work and effort... To defeat the opponent before the fight. Its always the object. I Think this is what you teach me. Nice smile too. Thank you. Respetuosamente Saludos cordiales, Coyoacán México.
Thanks, that was really interesting. Shame is a big trigger in violent crime too. It all sounds like psychotic behaviour, not well reasoned thought. There's a book called The Spirit Level written by a couple of epidemiologists which looks at why more economically unequal hypercapitalist societies create unbearable mental stress and a violent society. This thesis is backed up by American Neuroscience studies in violent adults and the relationship between an inability to empathise with the pain of others, after a childhood of poverty. NB * worth noting that the conscious mind is late to the party, and unaware of what the course of action that the subconscious mind has decided 10 seconds earlier! Just to underline how fast violence escalates without any conscious decision making - that comes afterwards as "justification" by memory. People don't know what they are doing, yet they are still doing it - especially when drunk/high, emotionally unstable / ODing on stress hormone from having a bad life , injured, tired etc - it's the vibe of a historically disenfranchised community like where I live...
Geoff Thompson states in "3 second fighter" to always picture the situation ending up in court and having to explain yourself IE; Judge "so this man called you a twat and you thought it necessary to retaliate with beating him to an inch of his life" or "this man looked at you in a way that you didnt like and so you pulled out a knife and stabbed him" In reading that book I identified with so many behaviours within myself that I eventually eliminated the need to react to this kind of shit and saved myself a hell of a lot of bother.
Thanks so much for your ideos - really great. Wondering how you would handle a situation where de-escalation is impossible i.e. a road rage incident where guy jumps out of a car at a perceived slight and comes to your car ? Get out, stay in the car ? Curious to hear your thoughts on best cause of action
For me, aggression and hostility is a dealbreaker. You're in my cypher (within arm's range if me)? It's game time. I've seen it too many times. Dudes get aggressive and hostile and next thing you know, the other dude is on the floor. It will not happen here.
If you could help us understand, why and how we can overcome our own fears even while training.. Say while learning Krav maga, I get hit few times and it affects my thinking. Please 🙏🏼
great dialoug and conversation. howvere after reding some comments imma add my 2 cents. I aint gonna tell you i dont like to fight, just the opposite. i LOVE it, punching, kicking, struggling and getting punched. however i do it in safe enviroment with like minded people 1x per week during weekly sparring. no ego, no attitudes (wouldnt be allowed) no beefs, no scores to settle. just skill for skill can i exert my will over you. with respect and honor for the honorable combatants. period. no untrained goombas, you have to prove you can stay on your feet. if your the BB and your sparring a green belt its on you to control and pull punches. let them get the workout and i focus on footwork, blocking and speed. and when its another BB we go at it blow for blow. I LOVE it!! on the streets im not a bully (asshole, prolly). if you really think you wanna put hands on me i aint gonna say shit to convinve you otherwise other than give you one or two chances to walk it back (but urybodys an ego manic so very few take the opputunity). once im convinced your commited to violence, its gonna be over before it begins, ion need you to swing at or hit me first. press into my personal space and theres not gonna be any pushing or posturing, your gonna eat my elbow.
Do not agree. I would categorise the reasons people attack as follows: 1 - A person feels disrespected. e.g You looked at them funny or their girlfriend funny, you spilt their drink, you barged past them etc 2 - You have something they want. e.g Money, laptop etc, drugs - robbery. 3 - They feel backed into a corner. You are approaching them and they pre-emptively strike because: they misread your body language for aggression, or you were bribing them,.or threatening to report them to the police etc. 4 - They are off their tits on something. e.g - never turn your back on a drug. MOST attacks will occur because of one of those four above.
I am surprised that Dr. Phillips does not mention fear. First, a person may back down when someone steps on his foot - though he is angry, insulted and believes a violent reaction is justified - because he is afraid. Also, a man may be afraid to back down because he will be perceived as a pussy. You step on someone's foot - by accident, or on purpose to disrespect him, or because you are drunk and clumsy or do not care about the other guy's feelings because you perceive him as a nobody - and then he gets infuriated because you do not apologize and then what are you going to do? You cannot at this point avoid the fight - as some commentators advise - like show your moral superiority and confidence that you have nothing to prove, since you can handle yourself - so he is going to attack you and you have no choice but to defend yourself. And this happened because the person was so afraid and got so upset he had to get physical.
Let's take a page from what we should be learning in concealed carry classes. To justify using lethal force in self-defense, the question isn't "Can I shoot this guy?". It always should be "Do I have to shoot this guy?". If we treat physical altercation scenarios as if they could have lethal consequences, the question isn't "Can I punch this guy in the face?". It should always be "Do I have to punch this guy in the face?". Obviously, there are times when the answer to the latter question is going to be "yes" in both scenarios. There are going to be times when you will, in fact, be forced to use force for your own well being. The outcome depends on the quality of the decision you make.
Many thanx Dr. Mark! Premium stuff. For me the legal (incarceration) angle is the big deterrent. That & I know I will go to far. I just walk away. Slde note: learned about Sifu/Sensei, thanx to those who follow as well, be safe 🦊
Violence isn’t always the right answer, but it does make you feel better. Haha. Actually you should always keep personal feelings out of violence and try to think clearly. IMO
I would never fight unless I had to. Meaning I or someone was being hurt or what ever. I'm pretty well trained but I am more in tune with protecting myself or loved ones from major harm or death thus my main focus is to carry my 9mm wherever I go of which I am a competitive handgun shooter. I am really not concerned with a fight, more on the violent criminal inflicting major harm concept. And keep on SMILING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Trying to defend your ego is not worth it if it can dissuade violence. Heard a saying one time that went "Sometimes it's better to be a live chicken than a dead duck."
I'm old enough to realize that if someone does you wrong in a way that doesn't involve them physically hurting you . It's not worth your time because 9 times out of 10 kharma always gets them .
what about those situations where forgiving a minor grievance leads others to perceive your kindness as weakness, and just treat you like a doormat or worse, like in prison or school or a ghetto neighborhood.
Yes, strength helps a good bit. But, if you have time for only strength training or technique training, then do technique. I train in krav maga, and I know some tiny little ladies who can kick a strong man's butt using technique.
Yes but wearer darker clothes that hide the lines of your physique, there are people that will start a fight with you just for looking muscular. Dress unassuming.
Interesting discussion. I believe, politeness goes a long way. Apologize for stepping on shoes. If the higher primate won't accept it and wants to hit you, give him your shoes. If he still wants to hit you give him your socks. If he still wants to hit you, strangle him with your underpants. That'll calm his pulsating ego.
Man steps on your foot , first question. Was it an accident? If so ", sorry for stepping on your foot " problem solved . Was it on purpose ? Walk away he,s a jerk and not worth your time .
People are trash 💯🥱and not nice 💯🥱🥱💪🏾that's why and some people might be very insecure because of long term abuse , violent behaviour comes from this 🤛😤sorry
lost my second street fight ever on friday after binging ur videos we agreed to bring 3 people each he bought ten they all shook me up before the fight and during the fight i got ready dodged his first attack then he just did bitchy grapples and pulled my shirt over my head 😐
I’d offer to pay for your new shoes, in attempt to calm you down. If that doesn’t work, you may end up with dirty shoes AND cracked ribs. It’s a 50/50 chance.
IDK man, I fight to win and get paid... what? Yes I know your not talking about organized sanctioned events... neither am I, that little old lady at the ATM never knew what hit her.
It's completely true that someone who is trained and has been in situations involving violence would usually try to deescalate the situation, but he also later has some amount of regret, where he know he could have easily beaten the other person. This is human nature, but then thats what you learn through experience. You guys come up with amazing topics, i just love it.
I had a situation like that. I was walking to work on morning, and this guy on a bike was coasting along behind me..I don't know why he did this, but he rolled his tire into the back of my heel..I stopped and were both just sitting there. I thought about reacting, but then I stopped myself and asked. Is this guy worth going to jail? Is it worth possibly ruining my.uniform?.I decided to step aside and waved him on. I said next time stay on the street bloke. He just rode off.
Never want to fight...but always be prepared to defend yourself... body language for me is the biggest indicator if someone is going to actually attack...
Could not agree more
I relax eat my food if i see body language and the person starts my sensi always told me stay calm then attack
A thinking man's channel. Thank you Sifu.
Thanks for the great feedback Shevet, glad you are finding value in the content. - Jack
Ego is the biggest enemy, realize where the attack is coming from, act accordingly, great video as per 🙏
Situational awareness, presense of mind, quick physical reactions or reflexes, mental strength or toughness, courage, composure, self-confidence, resourcefulness, the instinct or the will to fight back and defend yourself, and your self-defense skills and techniques (if you have any or some) which you have spent long periods of time practicing and training, can drastically increase your chances of successfully defending yourself and surviving potentially violent self-defense encounters. Speaking based on my personal experience as a self-defense practitioner.
I never had an ego about fighting; if a fight is inevitable, as soon as I know that, I turn it on.
Reminds me of a "fight" I had with I guess an ego guy. I was partying with some people all day and night long, and one dude kept wanting to fight me, like 5 or 6 times he squared up with me and I simply talked my way out every time. Except the last time he was coming at me with blood in his eyes. I hit him with a 5 punch combo and before I was done he was pleading for me to quit!
There wasn't a problem the rest of the night. I would have never hit him, if he was just going to be an egotistical loudmouth, to each his own.
Respect💯
You hit him 5 times and he was still able to have a convo?? . Mate hit harder eh?
@@musheopeaus4125 That was when I was a kid, and hit for the center of the head, no matter what the punch.
It isn't how "hard," but where you hit.
@@Win94ae As a kid you were partying all day and night long?
@@TexZenMaster When I ran away I lived with bikers. I'm not like the other kids.
I really appreciate your break down of the mentality of deadly force... I dont understand completely... so it is nice to have a civil discussion... keep it up Gentlemen!
Thanks for taking the time to comment and for the great feedback Nicholas. Let us know exactly what wasn't clear in this video and we can either discuss in the comments here, or in a future video where we covering something particular in more depth. - Jack
You confuse people more by avoiding conflict....
I first learned of JACA in the book "The Gift of Fear." It's a great book (especially for women) if anyone is looking for a good read.
Thanks 😊
Agree
Thank you so much!
@@wifeofagrumpyoldmarine428 Semper Fi. I'm also married to a marine :)
My friend refers this book to all of her students
Sifu, could you maybe do a video on- De-escalating a situation without losing frame..?
Appeasement only makes the aggressor more aggressive. When someone is in your face with evil intent, you must defend yourself. Bullies love to prey on the weak because they know you won’t fight back. When you do stand up for yourself, they will question their motions and tend to back off. Backing out would only cause you more problems in the future.
Thanks for the great suggestion Shane. We are working through a list of requests from comments on the channel, so we will be sure to cover this in the future. - Jack
@@fightscience please analyze the situation ua-cam.com/video/z4QTa4NSDl4/v-deo.html poor man got attacked over an accident his son cannot fight back very sad to see.
@@CintronEd I know I've seen him refer to that video in one of his recordings. Not sure if it was in reference to your request but it is on one of them.
Listen to interviews with anyone who's ego has put them in a prison cell away from their families and loved ones. It's never worth it. You hit them, their head hits the floor and next minute you're serving a life sentence because somebody stepped on your shoes or called you a name
I've seen only three reasons: hurt pride, jealousy and my father... The latter is hard to explain, but having the personality of an internet troll and a propensity for gaslighting is definitely part of it and at some point its just too much...
Could you elaborate further? Would really like to hear your thoughts on that matter. Could be an important point.
@@mercatorjubio3804 Could you please rephrase the question? What exactly would you like to know?
@@edi9892
"having the personality of an internet troll and a propensity for gaslighting is definitely part of it"
what exactly do you mean by that? and what about the father?
Unless you or your family's life is at threat then avoiding conflict and backing down is not a sign of weakness but more a sign of maturity I believe
Agreed !!! 👍
THIS is exactly what I teach my boys, nephews & son in laws 💙 👏
@@QuantumPyrite_88.9 🙄🤬🤔🤣
@@Stacey0909 Sure walking away is usually best if you can, but have they ever been bullied? You can't really stay away from a bully in school. You have to walk the same halls to your classes, go to the bathroom, etc. They will eventually get bullied and if they just walk away each time, it will happen every single day, until they stand up for themselves. Sure, you think it's not worth it, but eventually they won't be able to walk away, like when him and his buddies corner them in the bathroom. How do I know? Because it happened to me, and at that point I had no choice, threw a few punches and the bullying stopped.
@@Stacey0909 women will never fully understand what men go through on a daily basis. Women can ignore situations and let things go many times but men on the other hand sometimes the only way is to fight
@@-g.k.4389 as the ancient saying goes “women b living on easy mode” - lao tzu
If you are going to do violence, remember the single most important factor: DENIABILITY. If you are going to do it, time and plan it so there can be strong deniability on your part. Part of that is be aware of cameras and avoid extraneous witnesses, or be vague looking enough that cameras or witnesses cannot clearly ID you.
Just saying.
Wait a minute....it was you wasn't it! You sound like the bad guy! Remember deniability aaaannnd articulation.
Jokes aside everyone please make an attempt to avoid violence unless it is truly necessary.
You articulate and break it down well
There are a multitude of situations that can avoided or dealt with.
As a trained defender, I will give 2 options up to the aggressor?
Only 2 ... Jail or Hospital.
Cause one of us is going either way.
Very interesting indeed. Understanding the why navigates a path to the who, where, what, when and how.
I listened to the discussion about ego with additional interest. As an older man, it has surprised me just how quick to anger I have become compared to when I was younger. Alarming really when you consider that age may reduce inhibitions and one's willingness to back down but it also reduces physical abilities! I admit that older doesn't always mean wiser, underlining your previous tutorials about remaining calm.
Thank you for your thoroughly enjoyable and thought provoking videos.
I watched this thrice before adding this, the 5th "Hypervigilance." The 4th way, ability, can trigger a 5th reason, hypervigilance, the need to attack to defend someone else or a crowd, even if you don't know them. Example, I saw a bar brawl erupt one evening, most of us ignored it, some hooligans fighting amongst themselves. The fight got out of control and some of the people in the brawl started attacking patrons that had been minding their own business. As one poor fellow got pinned into a wall and beaten in front of his wife and co workers I snapped, having nothing to do with this brawl other than the feeling of needing to protect this man and his friends, I ran in and knocked out a few of the original trouble makers. I had no intention of fighting, it was a physiological response ending in an attack. People with PTSD and a trained ability can easily go into a hypervigilant mindset where it's just "go mode" and what one considers an attack, we consider pre-emptive defense.
This is a great forum, and your followers are thoughtful and appreciative. I want to share something I saw in the late '80s that may be useful. I attended an outdoor party with a friend that was thrown by the son of a man that owned a meat company we used. We planned to circulate, be seen, and then leave, as these things usually get silly the more the alcohol flows. My interest is that this man was the only person I have met that actually participated in those bare-knuckle Any Which Way But Loose kind of fights and I was intrigued, as some of them would be there. As a side note, I asked him how he trained, how he defended against the other fellow. He looked kind of puzzled, and said, "We just hit each other until somebody goes down." so no training tips there.
Anyway, one of the fellows was from Louisiana and had a thick Cajun accent he was rather bashful about, but he was big and pretty muscled. He had just brought his fiance up (we were in California) and was kind of showing her off. As expected a scrawny little guy that had worked overtime on getting more than his share of the drink (it was a kegger. For those of you not familiar, a keg is a large metal beer can with a pump, so you got a paper cup and helped yourself) and decided to flirt with the pretty lady. Tempers flared, words were hurled, and even though the size disparity was comical the little fellow wouldn't back down, resulting in our man pulling off his shirt, presumably to avoid blood splatter from his undernourished opponent, but more likely to intimidate and show off his physique, and proceeded to do the monkey dance. After being shoved a few times, our little man pulled out a Raven .25 pistol and magdumped on the guy, killing him on the spot. I have never forgotten this and it has colored all my dealings with angry people. I am so sensitive to anger and triggers I think it helped me avoid a lot of trouble. When my ego flares and I start to do the monkey dance and argue over petty things this comes to mind. And this was 1990! Things have gotten a lot tenser since then, with folks battling over parking spots and shooting each other over snow removal. Always find the alternatives!
You’re videos are very educational and puts ppl actions into perspective. That’s for producing these. We all want to be the good guy and unfortunately doesn’t workout that way. It’s a shame ppl can get a bad rap for standing up for themselves against ppl go only see physical or arguing as only alternatives.
Great info, as always, thanks 🇺🇾🇺🇾🇺🇾
Thanks for taking the time to comment Juan Marcelo, is there anything in particular that you would like us to discuss in upcoming videos? - Jack
@@fightscience defence vs crazy grapplers 😅 or defence vs dog attacks 😓
People who are insecure often resort to violence in my experience and its a coping strategy for there feelings at the time, plus a lot of these guys do it when there drunk or in a group.
I would find it most interesting to know which kind of people mostly end up here.
You. Obviously.
Introverts like me
@@Monkforilla you don’t say!
@@harlem1223 but do you dig the channel for the martial arts content (casual interest) or do you want to feel more prepared if someone attacks you on the street?
@@DimljenaRiba this channel really only has one goal and that’s to inform and showcase
i havent thought of it in these ways......well stated.
Thank you very much for your work and effort... To defeat the opponent before the fight. Its always the object. I Think this is what you teach me. Nice smile too. Thank you. Respetuosamente Saludos cordiales, Coyoacán México.
You leave everything open to Wise Choice
Thanks, that was really interesting. Shame is a big trigger in violent crime too. It all sounds like psychotic behaviour, not well reasoned thought. There's a book called The Spirit Level written by a couple of epidemiologists which looks at why more economically unequal hypercapitalist societies create unbearable mental stress and a violent society. This thesis is backed up by American Neuroscience studies in violent adults and the relationship between an inability to empathise with the pain of others, after a childhood of poverty.
NB * worth noting that the conscious mind is late to the party, and unaware of what the course of action that the subconscious mind has decided 10 seconds earlier! Just to underline how fast violence escalates without any conscious decision making - that comes afterwards as "justification" by memory.
People don't know what they are doing, yet they are still doing it - especially when drunk/high, emotionally unstable / ODing on stress hormone from having a bad life , injured, tired etc - it's the vibe of a historically disenfranchised community like where I live...
Geoff Thompson states in "3 second fighter" to always picture the situation ending up in court and having to explain yourself IE; Judge "so this man called you a twat and you thought it necessary to retaliate with beating him to an inch of his life" or "this man looked at you in a way that you didnt like and so you pulled out a knife and stabbed him"
In reading that book I identified with so many behaviours within myself that I eventually eliminated the need to react to this kind of shit and saved myself a hell of a lot of bother.
Anger overcomes fear of consequences, on a continuum of correlation.
That is the usefulness but also the danger of getting angry.
Wow. Just wow. And subscribed
Good stuff
Great listening top man
Its painful to admit, but ego is a factor. Ive been watching your videos for a while and I have been forced to separate my ego from situations.
Thanks so much for your ideos - really great. Wondering how you would handle a situation where de-escalation is impossible i.e. a road rage incident where guy jumps out of a car at a perceived slight and comes to your car ? Get out, stay in the car ? Curious to hear your thoughts on best cause of action
For me, aggression and hostility is a dealbreaker. You're in my cypher (within arm's range if me)? It's game time. I've seen it too many times. Dudes get aggressive and hostile and next thing you know, the other dude is on the floor. It will not happen here.
Excellent.
If you could help us understand, why and how we can overcome our own fears even while training.. Say while learning Krav maga, I get hit few times and it affects my thinking.
Please 🙏🏼
great dialoug and conversation. howvere after reding some comments imma add my 2 cents. I aint gonna tell you i dont like to fight, just the opposite. i LOVE it, punching, kicking, struggling and getting punched. however i do it in safe enviroment with like minded people 1x per week during weekly sparring. no ego, no attitudes (wouldnt be allowed) no beefs, no scores to settle. just skill for skill can i exert my will over you. with respect and honor for the honorable combatants. period. no untrained goombas, you have to prove you can stay on your feet. if your the BB and your sparring a green belt its on you to control and pull punches. let them get the workout and i focus on footwork, blocking and speed. and when its another BB we go at it blow for blow. I LOVE it!! on the streets im not a bully (asshole, prolly). if you really think you wanna put hands on me i aint gonna say shit to convinve you otherwise other than give you one or two chances to walk it back (but urybodys an ego manic so very few take the opputunity). once im convinced your commited to violence, its gonna be over before it begins, ion need you to swing at or hit me first. press into my personal space and theres not gonna be any pushing or posturing, your gonna eat my elbow.
Need to do Podcast
what about juvenile violence ? would like to have an opinion about if possible
You're very awesome channels sifu
Do not agree. I would categorise the reasons people attack as follows:
1 - A person feels disrespected.
e.g You looked at them funny or their girlfriend funny, you spilt their drink, you barged past them etc
2 - You have something they want.
e.g Money, laptop etc, drugs - robbery.
3 - They feel backed into a corner.
You are approaching them and they pre-emptively strike because: they misread your body language for aggression, or you were bribing them,.or threatening to report them to the police etc.
4 - They are off their tits on something.
e.g - never turn your back on a drug.
MOST attacks will occur because of one of those four above.
Will send this to my sixteen year old kid who always thinks he has to step up when the situation calls for it!
I am surprised that Dr. Phillips does not mention fear. First, a person may back down when someone steps on his foot - though he is angry, insulted and believes a violent reaction is justified - because he is afraid.
Also, a man may be afraid to back down because he will be perceived as a pussy.
You step on someone's foot - by accident, or on purpose to disrespect him, or because you are drunk and clumsy or do not care about the other guy's feelings because you perceive him as a nobody - and then he gets infuriated because you do not apologize and then what are you going to do? You cannot at this point avoid the fight - as some commentators advise - like show your moral superiority and confidence that you have nothing to prove, since you can handle yourself - so he is going to attack you and you have no choice but to defend yourself.
And this happened because the person was so afraid and got so upset he had to get physical.
Let's take a page from what we should be learning in concealed carry classes. To justify using lethal force in self-defense, the question isn't "Can I shoot this guy?". It always should be "Do I have to shoot this guy?". If we treat physical altercation scenarios as if they could have lethal consequences, the question isn't "Can I punch this guy in the face?". It should always be "Do I have to punch this guy in the face?".
Obviously, there are times when the answer to the latter question is going to be "yes" in both scenarios. There are going to be times when you will, in fact, be forced to use force for your own well being. The outcome depends on the quality of the decision you make.
Many thanx Dr. Mark!
Premium stuff. For me the legal (incarceration) angle is the big deterrent. That & I know I will go to far. I just walk away.
Slde note: learned about Sifu/Sensei, thanx to those who follow as well, be safe 🦊
It's the law and possibly jail that has kept me out of it...
Instead of jumping in without thinking
Cool🥋
Violence isn’t always the right answer, but it does make you feel better. Haha.
Actually you should always keep personal feelings out of violence and try to think clearly. IMO
I would never fight unless I had to. Meaning I or someone was being hurt or what ever. I'm pretty well trained but I am more in tune with protecting myself or loved ones from major harm or death thus my main focus is to carry my 9mm wherever I go of which I am a competitive handgun shooter. I am really not concerned with a fight, more on the violent criminal inflicting major harm concept. And keep on SMILING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Trying to defend your ego is not worth it if it can dissuade violence. Heard a saying one time that went "Sometimes it's better to be a live chicken than a dead duck."
I'm old enough to realize that if someone does you wrong in a way that doesn't involve them physically hurting you . It's not worth your time because 9 times out of 10 kharma always gets them .
what about those situations where forgiving a minor grievance leads others to perceive your kindness as weakness, and just treat you like a doormat or worse, like in prison or school or a ghetto neighborhood.
Does training my strength matter with fighting guys ?
It does matter. If you want to go that route. Like the animals, people attack only if they are sure they can beat you.
No, stop exercising immediately!
If you bulk up too much it could well provoke some arsehole but I can't say that increasing strength is going to harm. Core strength is always a plus
Yes, strength helps a good bit. But, if you have time for only strength training or technique training, then do technique.
I train in krav maga, and I know some tiny little ladies who can kick a strong man's butt using technique.
Yes but wearer darker clothes that hide the lines of your physique, there are people that will start a fight with you just for looking muscular. Dress unassuming.
The more violence your exposed to, the more ready you are to handle it and the less likely you are to use it.
The number of people I'd like to attack is so great😆
Body language is the key
What if someone picks on your friend
😁 #DRFIGHTBOSS/#FIGHTBOSS !!
Interesting discussion. I believe, politeness goes a long way. Apologize for stepping on shoes. If the higher primate won't accept it and wants to hit you, give him your shoes. If he still wants to hit you give him your socks. If he still wants to hit you, strangle him with your underpants. That'll calm his pulsating ego.
why you wouldn't a video with graphic violence like your past videos?
#FIGHTBOSS
i'm so glad i look ridiculously hard. no one has ever messed with me even though i am a pretty bad fighter :)
Well if this works for you then all fine:)
What about unwarranted violence? A serial killer for example.
Man steps on your foot , first question. Was it an accident? If so ", sorry for stepping on your foot " problem solved . Was it on purpose ? Walk away he,s a jerk and not worth your time .
Boi unk with the tats shaved up his face and took half his eyebrow with it😉
When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.
who is the new guy with headphones?
Jack here. I am working with Mark to produce content for the channel and build a podcast format for longer form conversations. - Jack
People are trash 💯🥱and not nice 💯🥱🥱💪🏾that's why and some people might be very insecure because of long term abuse , violent behaviour comes from this 🤛😤sorry
lost my second street fight ever on friday after binging ur videos we agreed to bring 3 people each he bought ten they all shook me up before the fight and during the fight i got ready dodged his first attack then he just did bitchy grapples and pulled my shirt over my head 😐
Honestly the more I've trained the less intention I have to harm
Normal people don’t engage in violence.
My white Nikes innit? I'd just had my boyfriend bleach the laces.
My 6 mates agreed it was right,
things got out of hand... Your Honour...
Be humble
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I farted
Hehe I gotta admit I'm probably one of the ego driven cases
I'd offer him a tenner for shoe cleaner.
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I’d offer to pay for your new shoes, in attempt to calm you down. If that doesn’t work, you may end up with dirty shoes AND cracked ribs. It’s a 50/50 chance.
This kinda describes Putin's behavior.
Dr ? Is he a medicine doctor or sin science?
Mark is a Doctor of Criminal Psychology. - Jack
IDK man, I fight to win and get paid... what? Yes I know your not talking about organized sanctioned events... neither am I, that little old lady at the ATM never knew what hit her.
Jokes people... perhaps in poor taste, but still, it's just for the lulz.
Man I don't remember this guy having dark skin,strange.
Holy shit I've just had a Mandela effect !
I do not like people with silly tattoos, is that a justification? 🤢
Second here
No, i was! 😂
Ha, second comment!
Nice
Early
Do u have any advice for black men that are hunted by racist police in america? True question.