THIS is The REAL Reason YOUR EX COMES Back AFTER LEAVING You (And How HANDLE THEM)
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- THIS is The REAL Reason YOUR EX COMES Back AFTER LEAVING You
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The less you care the more they care
It's been 9 months. I don't think they're coming back. And, I'm ok with that. In the beginning I used to want them back so badly. Now, I see how they treated me in the end. I didn't deserve the dishonesty, immaturity, and disrespect. I deserve better. So, yeah. I don't think they're coming back and I'm feeling OK about that.
Reflection is useful
V😊 5:16 5:16 😅 5:16 😅ooh 😅♥️
So true. 🤗 No contact enables disconnect which removes the rose-colored glasses. We see things so much more clearly. “Dodged a bullet” is my perspective. 💪✨
Ditto! Feel ya…. For real!
Mee 2
Broke up 7 months ago and went into no contact since March not heard a dime from her. Yesterday was her birthday I didn’t send any wishes I’m staying 💪.. I know my value.. and if I never hear from her again I’m not fussed. I finally let go and feeling great. I was good before her and I’ll be even great after her.
good move man, shits hard
Same !
Stay strong, brother
Avoidants are so focused on testing their love interest
to make sure he/she will be a good partner
that they don’t even notice that in the process...
THEY have become a terrible partner!
We have to let people walk away. That creates a space for the right person.
I will not hide what I feel.
I will NEVER sugarcoat what I say.
Radical honesty is my highest calling and my greatest value.
I only accept consistency. I deserve it. I accept nothing less than being treated as the queen I AM.
I think I’m starting to get over my ex. I used to watch these videos and cry. Now I watch them & I’m like dang Coach look good 😂
What helped the most ?
When I stop thinking of her, she reaches out to talk crap, make jealous or breadcrumb. Happened 3x last month and 1 time this month. Strange how the universe works! I'm still NC
My girl left me about 3months ago and at first I was begging and pleading to get her back. I couldn’t eat I couldn’t sleep I swear I thought my life was ending but I’m here to tell u it gets better over time. I still miss her a lot but I’m no longer hurting and I really dnt know if she’s coming but I’m starting not to care and that’s the beauty of it. Plz stay in no contact and try to move on
Broo ... me too 3 months ago... but i didn't really go no contact well because sometimes she'd text me about random stuff ... but oh well it truly gets better
Wow, I thought I was the only person going through this. Iam 3 months, no contact to. I miss him too, but I no, he is not good for me. Stay strong 💪
@@sandymcpherson497 you'll pull through don't worry
@blacademic_0 we ended up not talking completely to her ignoring my text full day💀😂😂
9 times out of 10 if the relationship was even semi good they’ always come back. It might weeks, months, or even years but they always seem to find their way back in your life but it’s up to u if u want them back or not.
If they left you once, most likely they will do it again. Never let the same person put you through the same pain. When they leave, you have to mentally leave as well, the person who left won't be the same one that's coming back. Harsh truth.
THIS. Don’t go backwards to an ex. There’s 4 billion men/women on this planet.
Today is the anniversary of our engagement. I accidentally ran into her yesterday. Said a quick hello and went on my way as she was heading to work and i needed to get home. I wish she saw value in our life together. 10 years...for nothing
That's how it goes king
This month it would be 2 years. Now he’s in a new relationship while I’m still single. He left at my lowest point, and I’m doing a lot better. It still hurts so I need to really heal before meeting someone new
I broke up with my ex because he was causing me too much pain
Seek commitment identity people. I coined this phrase. Any other person is a non starter. This is to protect you, your mind, your heart. If they left you, this hurts….but the reality is….this is not your person, your happily ever after. You have to untangle and purge every experience, memory and emotion from your mind, body and soul. It’s going to be a hell that you must go through. Don’t gaslight yourself, it is running away from the hell you must go through. Do not involve another person as a rebound to heal. It doesn’t heal, you are using them and causing them pain. Single, celibate and reconstruction is the healthy response. It’s what chemo is to the C word. It’s your only real hope and you have to go through it. You. Will. Heal.
Wow, thanks. I needed to read this. I was married for 20 years and went through hell. No contact 3 months.
Gentle breeze of hope lol thanks
Really needed to hear this tonight. Thanks.👍🏻
I really appreciate this video needed to hear the message today
She ended the relationship 2 months ago. I have greived the 'loss'. I am over it now and currently dating. Nothing serious but currently dating. I am currently taking kickboxing and animation lessons. My ex can kick rocks for all I care!
Thank you Sir, apart from feeling better I learn a lot from you
Ty ♥️. He hadn't gone to counseling nor has he fixed the issues 💔 but he has repeatedly reached out. I have fortunately been growing and focusing on me. But I've also noticed that when we do talk,I hear tge tone in his narcissistic,ego driven and frustrated voice that he's doesn't know what to say,and that he's easily triggered. I've taken pictures of him popping up unauthorized. The betrayal was the nail in the coffin. Even though he verbally apologized,it wasn't sincere. One of his problems besides anger issues are that he's not uses to being told NO!! IVE been sticking to my boundaries and my word because his effort is piss poor in my opinion. It's alot......very draining. At this point,I can wait on my next and not my ex and let him deal with his pride because ive tried.....
thank you coach for a long form video ♥
Great video
Hey coach black I just got dumped a week ago my ex thinks I’m never gonna change I recently signed up to mentally therapy trynna change for myself and save this relationship
Brother you are doing the right thing💪
Do it for yourself first
@@RaulGarcia-x5xstay in no contact and unless she says something significant ignore her, if you answer to every little breadcrumb she gives you you’ll never get her back and she will not respect you! Work on yourself, get yourself straight, go to the gym, make money, clear your head and once you’re at the point where you’ve become better. You won’t care anymore - trust me lol my ex who left me keeps creeping on my Instagram now, they always come back bro
Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to move on, I really loved her so much i can’t stop thinking about her and the memories we shared. I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail. I’m frustrated, and i don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts, but i can’t. I don’t know why I’m saying this here, but i really miss her and i wish i could get her back.
I have been in such a situation. My relationship ended about three years ago, but i could not let her go. So i had to do all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back. We are back together, and i must say i am enjoying every moment.
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach one?
Her name is Maurice Gleti, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
Just want to say thankyou.. feel so good to hear what you said in this video.. i love the way you talk, very calm so that i can understand the words.. GBU
THAT JERSEY 🔥🔥🔥
Im feeling that earl campbell , Coach
❤Very helpful, thank you ❤
I dont think she is coming back, its a situationship that didnt last long and she switched up out of nowhere and I chose to walk away. I really did see something with her though. Unfortunately I think she’s gone for good. With how it ended I cant be the one to reach out. And she hasnt reached out to me after about a month and a half give or take. It hurts but It is what it is. At this point I just want an apology. we had a good friendship and good chemistry. I guess I still hope she isnt the person her actions show her to be. But thats probably a fruitless hope. Probably for the best
Thank you Black 🥺🥺🥺
Dont want them back
Thank you coach Blac, your videos has really helped me a lot.
Mine eventually came back after 6wks but I didn’t wanna be with him anymore, I immediately blocked him after he reached out & he started to follow me on Instagram with a different name I know of.
This guy walked away after an argument & destroyed all my business plans I had put together, was heartbroken but your videos helped me pushed through.
Please do a video on breakups when there is a significant age gap ( girl older/guy younger) or execs where one person is a single relationship. Thanks
I want Coach Blac he's gorgeous looking and talks to my heart x
my ex is a virgo and he’s so stubborn i don’t think he would come back even if he wanted to. his family hates me so i know they influence him to stay away. it’s been 3 weeks and im hurting. i love him and im trying to heal.
My husband is a Virgo too. We been broke up 6 weeks but it’s only been a week we haven’t talked. His family definitely influence him to stay away from me. I prepared the divorce papers but haven’t filed yet. I pray we can work through this after some healing on both our parts but I’m unsure. Sounds like we in a similar situation. 😅 Virgo’s are very stubborn
Hold up Coach… Moment of silence for the *DRIPPY* man’s is sauced 🆙
I went through a lot of pain, hurts, devastated emotions 💔
i realised the less i post on my tik tok the more he stalks, its as though hes waiting for me to post new content.... but the more i post he will only stalk like one a week.
Bro dripped out
I just want to say I love the fit and I just like the sound of your voice lol. Very soothing. You should do ASMR.
Ha, thank you. I get that quite often actually
That's true..😊. I have no ex that i want back at all, but i listen to these videos coz his way of speaking and his voice helps me fall asleep 🪄🪄🪄😊 truth. 🤷🏖️🏖️
4months ago I wanted my wife back… now I want to find someone else and continue my family legacy. Preferably with a beautiful Latina to give me pretty half black and Latina babies. I deserve it!
Coach, they came back after no contact and moving out, but my body was telling me something was wrong so I set boundaries for me to walk away & pull back. They only took 3 days and came into my work asking why I’m ignoring her
Never
It's been almost 2 years and I still have sad dreams about him. I always had the hope that he would just call and ask if we wanted to do something together... we have a child so we are always in touch a little and see each other sometimes.
it hurts and I'm desperate 😢
You should do a video on how to re-attract your ex if you actually are the one who messed up. Like weren't present enough etc. Also a video around long distance.
Weren’t present isn’t a great reason to breakup in my experience. It is very likely much deeper than that.
Are you ACTUALLY in no contact? Honestly
@@blacademic Ya, I'm actually in no contact. And in terms of not present, we were long distance for a long time. It was mostly my fault not moving the relationship closer and there were times I could have made more of an effort to see here when she was asking and trying to see me.
@@blacademic to her she felt that i was one foot in one foot out. even though I was just being avoidant in a way. Im working on that by the way now.
Breakups are terrible what people especially wise men can become after healing is not to be play with thanks though Coach we still healing and moving.@@blacademic
@@blacademichi Coach , I had ask if you can advice ..is having coffee, having Male friends and talking to guys in the gym ... Disrespect or Emotional Cheating ..I told my girlfriend stop all these. she flakes and ghosting me Day 19...should I take her back ...is this week ?
Im going into 5 month period.. i still hurt but i can move on, im just at a place where im going to stand here until god tells me to move
She went beyound to insult me and made her friend insult me as well after i begged and plead with my manager. She then blocked me on all social media. I think it wouldn't work out again after she told me no matter what she wont be with me again. So coach is there still hope after all the disrespect and the insult
Be men and move on please God, someone better out there for you please God 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 amen
Who cares, my new flex is pure fire...and totally different. Wish I met her before my ex..😉
🙏
Strange seeing you here watching this video and even taking your time to comment on it. When you have a new "flex" who is pure fire. Do you watch it together with your new flex?
@@HSSTV1312😂 TRUTH
☠️😂@@HSSTV1312
@HSSTV1312 thats a good question pimpin....I agree
You Get 1 Chance sometimes 2 but........................... RARELY..........................................
She contacted me after about a month of nothing. She wanted us to get together to have a breakup ceremony of sorts, "conscious uncoupling" thing. I declined and said that I'm not interested since our breakup wasn't mutual and i wouldn't be able to show up for that, and that she should reach out if she changed her mind about us. Was that a proper response? She hasnt responded since I wrote that.
Yeah you did good
Perfect. You let her know you want her. Leave her with that thought & dissappear. Stay in no contact & move forward with your life
A quick mind hack….imagine you are in a movie theater watching and listening to your ex from the seats, and your ex is talking to Jesus (whatever they are saying to you). However you think Jesus would act, behave, say…..that’s the way you respond. Jesus did not emote, be long winded, try to convince someone. He was direct, clear, quiet, controlled, unemotional, and did not seek team work, cooperation, or understanding. He communicated these things. So….third person yourself.
I haven't seen him we chat brief I told him free me but he want say nothing but I'm lost for words
Earl Campbell!
I have a question - Is there anyone who did say "no" to their ex who came back, but actually REGRETs for it later in their life, and still wondering the "what if", and is missing them, and secretly want to contact them again, but ego is in the way, and don't know what to do now? Just curious, anyone? Or do I have a special case?? :(
Hey Coach, hopefully you can give insight in this one:
What if you were the rebound, and during no contact they went back to their ex? Ex was with her somewhere within the range of 6-8 months in early 2023. Moved in with him, he kicked her out due to insecurities. A few months later (August 2023), got into a relationship with me. We were going steady for about 8 months and cut it off this past April. They're a dismissive avoidant. I initially was willing to let it go but a day after got into a car accident and needed that emotional support, which followed was over a month of communicating still and trying to get them back. Last May I started moving into no contact. I gave minimal responses when they would "breadcrumb". Last month (June) I reached out twice (within a span of about one week per) with certain topics but not deep. They'd respond immediately, and were responsive- I would cut the conversations short to not drag them on. Found out they were starting to see their ex, and I confirmed this past week they're definitely seeing their ex regularly. It's been almost 2 weeks no contact.
All in short- What's your take on being a rebound to a dismissive avoidant? I've heard others takes on it, I want to hear yours. Thanks, big love from Chi-town
HAPPY INDEP3NDENCE DAY !!!
Coach, can you kindly make a video on how to get your fearful avoidant ex back after you’ve screwed up no contact for 6 months after break and they’ve blocked you and made a lot of begging and also when they hold a lot of resentment from the mistakes of the past long long ago I’ve done. Also if I was inconsistent with my tasks.Please advise.
Hey coach blac noticed my ex uploads Instagram stories now that I stopped uploading mine. Is it just a coincidence. She used to watch them all the time and I feel like she stopped watching them to get me to react so I stopped uploading stories to my page. I don't look at hers ever so have no idea what she's sharing. Been no contact for a while now
Hi Coach. I have a question about something you mentioned in the video at around the 4:00 mark. You said that they don't want to see us in pain. However, from watching your videos, I've noticed you've said several times that they actually want us to chase after them and be sad because it justifies their decision to leave. This allows them to see that the dumpee's life hasn't improved, reinforcing their belief that their decision was correct.
Thanks.
Two different timelines, when they first dump you. It’s a hard enough conversation, they don’t want to see you crying, begging etc. as it just makes the conversation more difficult and uncomfortable
But afterwards, days or weeks later they don’t want to see you just totally move on without grieving the loss of the relationship.
It’s just human nature, we all to some extent want to feel like we matter
Hey Coach, Can you Talk about Limerance and falling in love with someone in a Month, 2 Months? That's what my Ex is in with someone he's met. How's does that even happen?
So my ex dumped me. That same day I said ok never call or text him again. So we worked together he did it all showing my friends pictures seeing me trying to touch me crazy stuff. But I never pay attention to him. So now he’s acting like we r talking again and the next day not speaking.
Sounds like he’s having mixed emotions about the breakup. Hot and cold. My husband been doing this quite a bit since we split up 6 weeks ago. I’m currently in no-contact
Well he left me 8 month's ago we have a child together if he's breadcrumbs me but he'll say things wen we was together how he think bout wen he drunk he thought bout coming over then he say we not together anymore can we be friends like i said i aint even see u as a friend .if it aint bout the baby i call call him i dont case or beg
My ex and I were in a committed relationship for 3 years, but have known each other since childhood. He dumped me and moved out a couple weeks ago mid-fight. He’s been on dating apps since a few days after. I begged for a few days post-breakup, but have been respecting the boundaries he said he wanted, and have tried to go no contact since. But he will not stop texting me everyday, even though his tone is cold. He tells me every detail about his day, and gets offended if I stop responding. Even though when breaking up with me, he claimed that I was terrible and awful, he claims he still sees me as his “best friend”. It’s making me crazy, coach. I’m so anxious, and I want him back so badly, but I know I can’t ask again or come on too strong…
Stop responding and stay in no contact or you’re gonna ruin it if you want him back. If he can’t stop texting you then you’re in a good place to get him back. But only if you do no contact.
His not feeling break up as you are still there entertaining his bullshit. Block him and move on. He will beg to be with you. Absense is needed to miss and understand someone.
@@TheSinfulSiren_ thank you! I’m going to follow this advice
@@hemlatagattagalla-foodreci1438 thank you for responding. Doing exactly as you say starting today!
Im in the SAME situation, please stay strong, they need way more time to process the consequences of their actions. Truly work on yourself bc you’re clearly still in love and needy so it’s not just for him, but for YOU and your health, take ur power back
Nope!!!
Hello Coach! Good to see you! Action = interest….otherwise, move on. Too many other fish in the sea. 😉☺️
Man I recently just got dumped I really hope you reply back to me, she would check up on me and I would want to get right then there, I would cheat and be abusive. I start going to mentally therapy this Monday and now I just really wanna get back with her all my past relationships I never knew who to give space but now I’m willing to change myself and not go to alcohol or drugs and not stay the same cause I dont wanna blow it if I get another chance my birthday is coming up in three weeks and we was together for almost three years
You sound very needy even in your comment and full of fear. The feelings are valid but you need to work on the things you said you would work on and stop worrying too much
Hello coach she break up with my ex on my birthday April. And now she seeing my our boss what do you recommend please can i still get back with me?
My ex is asking if am seeing anyone after 5 months of no contact
I cheated during our break and the relationship was toxic 2 years I begged and pleaded until I was blocked on everything including cashapp… then within a week I seen her hanging with another guy outside her parents house lol. I exploded and it turned out bad her dad came outside and everything. Then she told me we’d never be back right after I did that. Now this was Father’s Day weekend 24 as of today July 6th she already has this man’s 2 kids in her bio on Facebook. I was strung along until the night I showed up and snapped on them btw. And not to mention the guy she’s with is a known abuser around town and has been arrested for beating the mother of his kids. Is this a rebound? Because before I snapped I brought her flowers 2 times and we sat outside her house and talked for 2 hours one day I just need to know. I mean my breaking point was the kids in the bio but I just want to know for sure what you guys think
Also the last time I asked her would we ever be anything in the future she said she didn’t really know right now, I just feel like since I treated you that badly in the relationship it would’ve been a straight up no. This was after I snapped and she said we wouldn’t ever get back together
Also the last time I asked her would we ever be anything in the future she said she didn’t really know right now, I just feel like since I treated you that badly in the relationship it would’ve been a straight up no. This was after I snapped and she said we wouldn’t ever get back together. Not to mention this girl is 21 years old in her first long term relationship outside of high school and the first thing she does is goes and gets with a guy with 2 kids that she doesn’t know beats his women is insane🤣🤣🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️but I guess she’ll figure it out sooner or later. She literally told me he makes her feel better than I did and that was within a week of them talking… she got me fucked up. I know I messed up but she’s only hurting herself more honestly. Cuz she definitely hasn’t healed but when things get bad with them she’s gonna be fuckeddddd
Coach I meet someone 3months ago everything has been going well but I noticed he’s been pulling away so we meet and I asked him what was happening and he said that he knows I’m good for him, he likes me a lot he wants to be with me but he feels the pressure from my side I asked how he said he’s afraid of disappointing me since I’m a nice lady. I asked him if he needs space he said yes but not long term space. I gave him the space but he’s been texting me off and on. He told me he’s afraid because his previous relationship his x was more in masculine energy and he was in feminine energy and he was just tagging along. So i don’t know what I should do because im confused if I should just move on and forget about him though i like him. We had good time together in those 3months.
Leave him alone, he is wasting your time. This is how situationships are born. He’s not interested in building anything serious
The timing?? 😮
My ex recently broke up with me I did the no contact rule 5 day’s later she reached out to me but we had a trip planned she stilll said she wants to date me and go on the trip my friends told me dead her I want to reconcile what do I do
My gf broke up with me, but she doesn't want to say anything why she is leaving. She is telling me to move on, I'm guessing it's probably because of her ex. She use to tell me sometimes that her ex is begging and crying to be together. They were together till 2022 dated 4 months I'm guessing she is clearly lying coz i came to find out they were from same hometown and moved to different city for jobs. We've been together since 2023 march - 2024 may. And i wanted to ask the guy directly, if i have the answer then maybe i would be able to move forward. Would that be good?
My boyfriend left me in February and he blocked me from everything. Then atter 3 months of No contact, (May), he emailed my niece and he asked about me and he said that he will send a graduation gift for my daugher, since when we were together, he really gave money to my 2 kids.. Then, my niece asked my Ex if he still loved me. My Ex's answer was, "Not anymore". But at that time, he unblocked me and we talked. We talked and he sent money for me and his gift for my daughter. Our conversation lasted for 1 week and we enjoyed it even though we didn't talk about the relationship. Then, until one day I became clingy and he felt that I was jealous and he said that it was wrong that we talked again and he blocked me again. I was worried, did he mean it when he told to my niece that he doesn't love me anymore?
When he said that he doesn't love me anymore, was he sincere? So he just wanted to give me money, that's why he reached out?
Sounds like he cares about your daughter, that's easy to see, I don't know your situation but it seems like he has moved on. Probably seeing if the grass is greener elsewhere. If there was any interest there on his part it would have shown after all that time apart it. It reminds me of my ex, the same thing happened (she left) I speak to her after 2 months of no contact & she is a different person, turns out she was with someone for about 6 months prior to us breaking up. I'm now 6 months into no contact and i hear she is getting married next month. Listen, please don't waste your time, get in the gym, or do something productive to become the best version of yourself. Keep yourself busy and move on cuz life is short. You deserve to be happy. My life has changed recently & I feel great. I will never look back, you will get there too. Keep your head up.
@@Xx__1 Thank you, and yes you're right.. sorry to hear that, but when I hear the word "Marriage" I lose hope. But I think your Ex will still talk to you, not now, but right now he is still in the honeymoon phase so maybe one day he will talk to you. In our case, our relationship lasted for 2 years and we broke up 5 times and he came back😌He leaves and comes back.. I always accept him because I love him but it seems he abused me since he knew I was soft hearted. and he knows I will forgive him. The last time we broke up, he left for the reason that he and his wife got back together since they were separated. I begged, of course I was hurt. But he explained that it was for the sake of their 2 children, so I accepted the break up. Then after 3 months, he reached out to my niece and sent money for my daughter and for me and we talked but of course he seemed like a different person since he was with his wife 😌I had no choice but to accept it. If I push, I will just be another woman in his life.
@jhaneasipin7612
You're situation is similar to mine, they left for someone else. I was with her for 8 years. We split a few times duriing that period & got back together, but each time we got back, it was just that little bit more toxic as our bond was getting just that little bit more damaged each time. She took 1000's from me as I was financially supporting her too as she has kids, however as soon as i said I couldn't give any money as I was buying a home that was the end. She found a rich man with a business & decided that would be better for her and started a relationship with him & now they are getting married. I couldn't understand how someone could just switch off their feelings so suddenly and emotionally just invest into someone else over night & committed to a marriage? Its crazy. I could never do that. When I love I love 100%. All or nothing. Anyway I realised, she is never going to come back or contact me, unless that relationship/marriage ends or realises my value but to be honest, if someone treats you like that you shouldn't want them back. Would you do that to someone, or treat them like that? Why be with someone who don't respect you. It's been a few months of work but I feel amazing now, you just need to work on yourself, cut all communication and just move forward. Its hard but you can do it. With every hardship in life comes ease. There is always something in your life that's happening at the same time to be grateful for. Remember this saying, you will find success from it, I promise you. Its been my salvation
@jhaneasipin7612
You're situation sounds similar to mine. They both left for someone else. I was with her for 8 years. We split several times during this period, but always back together, but each time we did it things were bit more toxic as each time our relationship would be just that little bit more broken each time.
She took 1000's from me as I would financially support her as she had a few kids. One day I said I couldn't give any money as I was buying a new house & unfortunately that was the end of us. As soon as I said I couldn't, she went & found herself a rich businessman & started a new relationship with him.
I couldn't understand how a person could stop loving someone and just recommit to another, invest themselves emotionally 100% and agree to marriage overnight? I could never do that. When I love its 100%, all or nothing. They will only come back if their relationship fails. You would just be a back up plan. To be honest i wouldnt want her back. I couldn't be with someone who is like that & you shouldn't either. We are better then a back up plan. I'm sure you wouldn't treat someone like that I know I wouldn't. Just cut all communication & try to forget them. I did that and feel amazing now. I've leveled up. I'm better then what I was 1 year ago. Just remember thru every hardship come ease. Whilst you have something difficult in your life ongoing there is also something happening in your life at the same time to be grateful for. Remember this & you will find success
I'm sorry if I posted this twice I think I accidentally deleted it the first time
@jhaneasipin7612 all my messages to you seem to be getting deleted 😐
Did you see my reply by any chance
Please do a same sex type of video. I’d really like to know the perspective when there are two women present.
Coach I have a question, my girlfriend broke up with me a month ago, we were only together for a little over a month but it was a real connection, we are both in high school and when we started dating she just got out of a very toxic relationship and I made her smile again and made her really happy we would always say how much we love each other and we have also been mutual friends a while before we started dating, but then when school ended we haven’t seen each other since and we started having more arguments over text and I think that is what drove her away, but a couple weeks later she got into another relationship, she still cares about me because she still wants to be friends later, a couple weeks ago she reached out to my sister and asked how I was doing so it looks like she still cares about me. Do you think staying in no contact will help if I continue to work on myself and fitness, because we haven’t seen each other in person in a while we haven’t since way before we broke up, it was a really good connection we had, and we have good memories together, can this be fixed?
Not trying to be in sensitive, but you're in high school. You were only with her for a month. She doesn't want you like that. Act like you don't care. Stay in no contact. Work on yourself she may be back. For now, she's moved on and she's a game player like the rest of them.
Yea that’s reasonable, but the connection we had was really good and we really hit it off at first, lots of her other boyfriends were toxic while i actually loved her, we are both in the same friend group so we have been mutual friends for a long time, she still wants to be friends but she said she wants me to take time to get over her and that we can be friends later, I guess what I’m saying is she still cares about me but just doesn’t want a relationship, I still don’t know if I should talk to her when school starts or if I should allow her to miss me.
@ryanlong7345 Always allow them to miss you. Just stay strong and Act Cool like it's no big deal. The more you like them, the more they run lol. Be the bad boy that doesn't give a shit
@@Crazyd2050 thanks man I’ll do that
What if my wife has been reaching out to me since day one of the break up she is with another man but still engages in conversation and sex what do I do
Also my birthday coming up and I really want to hear from my ex, how do I get over the fact that it just may not happen!?
All in mind. Just move on and tell yourself one day at a time that's all we can do. Will get better
@@Crazyd2050 Thank you.
Even if she does come back, it's always on her terms - somehow women assume the power by default here. Better for the guy to just enjoy himself, and rate women accurately for who they are, women. If one falls in your lap, fine, but stay stoic. Indifference is key, not attachment to outcome.
What would you suggest if they start contacting you while they're in a rebound? Asking them to meet seems like a bad move in that scenario.
You should not be in communication at all, unless the rebound is over. These are common ways you keep yourself as a backup and further kill their interest in you
@@blacademic So should I ignore her when she messages me? She has contacted me twice in the last 6 weeks, asking how I am or how my dog is. I reply politely and never bring up the relationship.
She has been in the rebound for 6 months but still watches all of my instagram stories and still follows my friends and family.
@@blacademicmine tried to get me to sleep with her and I was like uhh no not validating you
@@robubik670she’s breadcrumbing you
Personally, I would say…”make and pay for the appointments” with a link to a couples therapist that deals with your issue (betrayal, etc;). This shows reality. If she wants you and is committed to it, she will do it. She also won’t do it if there is another man. All is exposed. If she doesn’t do it, complains, negotiates….you NEVER respond to ANYTHING. If she doesn’t do it you have your answer and you win the break up. Your boundary (her ticket price into your VIP life) is this. A real woman who loves you and committed will jump on it. Anything other was a manipulation.
I have no interest having them back lol
She had an affair and caught her two weeks into it. She left and saw AP several times probably in a relationship, but i’ve been chilling 2 months later I have like 3 girls rn
That’s unfair to the 3 girls. Let’s them know.
Women will always have someone on the other side before they leave. 90% of the time. If she tells you that she loves you but not in love with you and she starts fighting with you over no reason it’s because she’s cheating
Where u get these numbers from? Lol
I think that's made up numbers. Either sex can cheat if they want. Works both ways.
Thats not true at all
First part, likely
Second part, you're projecting
Yes! You are 💯 CORRECT!!!
Hello coach , first of all thank you!
She unfollowed me on IG but her best friend still following me, what not to post on IG stories? (Im in no contact now for 4 days).
I was wrong on the relationship, is there any hope?
Would appreciate it so much if you answer coach🙏🏼