Why narcissists hate when you ignore them

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  • Опубліковано 8 гру 2023

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  • @nopereradicator
    @nopereradicator 8 місяців тому +106

    One thing I learned is to never let them talk too long. That gives them time to hypnotize you and cast their spells.

    • @ainahaga
      @ainahaga 8 місяців тому +5

      This is so true! Mine did this to me. Casted spells on me to get me to kiss him, cause I didnt actually want to😳🤢 in The end of The relationship

    • @emilycunningham8125
      @emilycunningham8125 8 місяців тому +15

      Good point! Maybe this is why they get so frustrated when you attempt to interject and have a two way conversation.

    • @sinsin999
      @sinsin999 8 місяців тому +3

      💯

    • @ainahaga
      @ainahaga 8 місяців тому +7

      @@sinsin999 if I ever meet mine again I will run! I will not open my mouth to him. Ive heard that they can also stand at your door. Im not opening either then! Or I will pretend Im not home. But I do not think my narsisist will ever return.

    • @sinsin999
      @sinsin999 8 місяців тому +3

      @@ainahaga 🙏🫂 please stay strong and safe

  • @ets5697
    @ets5697 8 місяців тому +35

    Most people have feelings. Narcissists have fuelings.

  • @heatherwagar5868
    @heatherwagar5868 8 місяців тому +52

    I will never surrender my dignity again. No matter how I feel he will never know. I took my power back and I rest in that fact

  • @qubex
    @qubex 8 місяців тому +41

    I’ve been Hardcore No Contact for 34 weeks now after a fourteen month relationship. Days pass easily and I’d rather cut off an arm than to reach out to her.

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 8 місяців тому +7

      Impressive. It’s only been a few months for myself but the negative memories are starting to drown out any positive ones 👍

    • @rambultruesdell3412
      @rambultruesdell3412 8 місяців тому +3

      Yup😊😊 not easy.. i have been on cold no contact since April this year. Spoke by text once, "not interested in anything from/with you." 😊

    • @qubex
      @qubex 8 місяців тому

      @@rambultruesdell3412 I broke contact in April too. We must be in a similar timeframe.

    • @adamishaq9184
      @adamishaq9184 5 місяців тому +1

      Very impressive approach

  • @johnnycorn7225
    @johnnycorn7225 8 місяців тому +48

    50 years old and she still can't figure out why her 100% inexcusable abusive toxic behavior makes me run. They never change, they're always dying to feed.

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 8 місяців тому +8

      My ex was 52 and would rage and act out like a toddler, never once taking responsibility or self reflecting,,
      Just pathetic.

    • @johnnycorn7225
      @johnnycorn7225 8 місяців тому

      @@stillhuman4662 you realize that it really is a lack of brain function and complete disorder after witnessing it how the hell do you not grow up at all 50 years right

    • @SoniaProteau-cj6tk
      @SoniaProteau-cj6tk 8 місяців тому +4

      You end up like who u hang out with, that a why I keep to myself, I enjoy my own company.

    • @johnnycorn7225
      @johnnycorn7225 8 місяців тому +2

      @@SoniaProteau-cj6tk I can agree with every word of that, much better without all the negative for certain!

  • @BrendaBaBoom
    @BrendaBaBoom 8 місяців тому +27

    They feel abandoned when you ignore them even though their behavior warrants it. Take your power back from these subspecies.

  • @stillhuman4662
    @stillhuman4662 8 місяців тому +46

    The funny thing is they are only interesting when mimicking us, so we essentially fall in love with ourselves 😆
    They are empty, boring and not fit to evaluate anyone. Never let anyone tell you your worth, your self worth is priceless.

    • @familiamckenziefriend1130
      @familiamckenziefriend1130 8 місяців тому +5

      Oh my god that's the truest thing I heard!!! The narc ex knew nothing about art when we met..nothing. I was happy to show him, and enjoyed doing so. He literally said to me in front of someone else about 6 months before we split "well you know how much I love my art". 😂 Total mimics.

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 8 місяців тому +1

      @@familiamckenziefriend1130 😆 what a fraud.

    • @notaclue822
      @notaclue822 6 місяців тому +1

      It's true. They are so empty it's bizarre. The fact that others often respect their point of view more than yours is completely bizarre.

  • @kp153
    @kp153 8 місяців тому +16

    As long as the supply isn’t me and they keep away from me I’m good.

  • @busman2169
    @busman2169 8 місяців тому +35

    This is remarkably accurate. My ex, who displayed narcissistic traits, perplexingly reached out to me just five days after a period of giving me nothing and ultimately discarding our relationship. She casually inquired about how I was doing. I confidently replied the next day, letting her know I was doing great. This seemed to confuse her. Later, she noticed a jewelry box, mistakenly assuming it was for her. In reality, it was a graduation gift for my sister, a detail unknown to her. Her curiosity peaked when I calmly stated that the recipient of the jewelry box was none of her concern. I could see the confusion in her eyes as she tried to process this. Given her past behavior, I suspect her current partner might now be facing her wrath. But that's no longer my concern.

  • @dclarke1896
    @dclarke1896 7 місяців тому +17

    Excellent video! The narcissist that I went no contact with told me he took advantage. When I asked him what he meant he wouldn’t answer. Now that I have been healing I know what he meant he took advantage of my kind and caring nature. Since it comes naturally to me I didn’t know what he was talking about. What a piece of trash! Going no contact was one of the best things I ever did!

  • @IsabellaPiesch
    @IsabellaPiesch 8 місяців тому +25

    I don´t care - I ignore for my peace!

  • @SF-wr4zn
    @SF-wr4zn 8 місяців тому +10

    “Love is the quality of attention you show someone”…this is what the narcissist used as her social media profile slogan.
    I never knew what this really ment until it was too late!

    • @rambultruesdell3412
      @rambultruesdell3412 8 місяців тому +1

      Narcissists and BPD alike often are smart and cunning... good quote... shame the author is offering a clue and not a personal virtue 😐.

  • @mattsmith1137
    @mattsmith1137 8 місяців тому +29

    My god there is a $hit load of information and channels dedicated to this topic. Apparently our entire society has become narcissistic. Thanks social media. 👍

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 8 місяців тому +6

      It absolutely has! Keep educating yourself & getting the wisdom💪 It's your duty to now. It's Us against the Narcississt 🙄🙏

    • @familiamckenziefriend1130
      @familiamckenziefriend1130 8 місяців тому +6

      It is better that those of us who have experienced multiple narcissistic relationships (one is one too many) are educated. We're also not stupid and can separate the inaccurate and unhelpful resources from the helpful. These resources have saved my sanity.

    • @mattsmith1137
      @mattsmith1137 8 місяців тому +2

      @@familiamckenziefriend1130 Absorbing this content has helped me as well. Been a rough last couple months. A lot of the misinformation and bad advice can be attributed to how the meaning of the word narcissist has over time morphed from clinical diagnosis to a trendy insult people like to hurl at each other willy nilly.

    • @emmarae4322
      @emmarae4322 6 місяців тому

      Ever think there might just be more knowledge?

  • @Ikecantstop1
    @Ikecantstop1 8 місяців тому +10

    We were at the " I'll discard you if you're looking at me wrong" stage in a relationship.
    It almost felt like I was in Boot Camp. No mistakes allowed sir!!! Do you UNDERSTAND!? OR I'LL DISCARD YOU!
    To think the first 2 months we didn't have a single argument.

    • @dervish108
      @dervish108 6 місяців тому +1

      My ex discarded me because she claimed I looked sad at lunch.

  • @franknhonest
    @franknhonest 7 місяців тому +6

    Got a Christmas present and hoover letter. Discarded the present, tore up the letter, and staying no contact.

  • @flowergirl-yz3ki
    @flowergirl-yz3ki 8 місяців тому +11

    Stay resilliant. Great word. As usual...beautiful images.

  • @slayerofsatan1049
    @slayerofsatan1049 8 місяців тому +18

    Excellent work. Keep up the good work. I like your delivery. You’re right on point. Thank you.

  • @sherrie1111
    @sherrie1111 7 місяців тому +7

    I detached and didn't even realize what I did I was just so tired and my glass was empty...then I met my real husband the devil himself, not the lie I've spent 7 years with.

  • @lifeofaninteriordesigner1305
    @lifeofaninteriordesigner1305 Місяць тому +1

    The narc once told me he hates when I ignore him. That was before I knew he was a covert Narcisst. Seeing all the signs after can be overwhelming but I've learned so much!

  • @KR-pp7wp
    @KR-pp7wp 3 місяці тому

    If they owe you money, they think your silence signifies they have won....nothing could be further from the truth...

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 4 місяці тому

    I absolutely love listening to joes soothing old school radio voice

  • @1stBorn538
    @1stBorn538 8 місяців тому +5

    Need a video on the plethora of things empaths dislike about the narcs...

  • @Ms_SexxyDiva504
    @Ms_SexxyDiva504 Місяць тому +1

    💫I don't do drama nor manufactured drama to get my attention and negative reaction and drain my energy and I don't like toxic people nor foolishness. I'm glad to be rid of demon ex narc. My PEACE and SOLITUDE and HEALTHY mental state is far more important to me. I have remained 2 years with no contact and I keep my far distance from the demon ex narc and it feels amazing . 😊 Nolalower9Ward ⚜️⚜️

  • @leoallan2225
    @leoallan2225 7 місяців тому +1

    Once she cross the line she was deemed as toxic, and I am far less needy than she is.

  • @karenmurphy6003
    @karenmurphy6003 8 місяців тому +9

    I am starting to think I am with a narccisist I am constanty thinking why he came back 8 months ago and no change with him. Cold and distant.I see him differently now.No emotion from him. What you are saying is how it is for me at the moment

    • @lioubovgrant1935
      @lioubovgrant1935 8 місяців тому

      Watch it, girl, Joe gave you all clues !

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 8 місяців тому +3

      Get away asap, it's only gonna get worse. Reverse discard him before he discards you!

    • @stillhuman4662
      @stillhuman4662 8 місяців тому +5

      Whether he is a narcissist or not, you don’t need a label if he is abusive.
      Just get away and be safe Karen.

    • @BrendaBaBoom
      @BrendaBaBoom 8 місяців тому +2

      RUN! ….🏃🏽‍♀️ …. 🏃🏽‍♀️ ….

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 4 місяці тому

    Oh it’s like they are gasing you when they talk to a blackout of promises

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 4 місяці тому

    They seriously need a rehab for this horrible addiction it’s worse than drugs and alchol

  • @scottwwsi
    @scottwwsi 6 місяців тому +2

    it was around my third attempt at going no contact, but I didn't block every avenue....I got a text.."why won't you talk to me? do you really hate that much?'

  • @onlydebra4580
    @onlydebra4580 7 місяців тому +2

    They need you yeah, but don't care if you need the smallest thing..

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 8 місяців тому +3

    Good morning ! 🌞 Thank you for a nice surprise, new video and a cup of joe ☕☕ with Joe is my favorite thing, also i always enjoying all beautiful images 😍, loved the music too, when you added it to your videos sometime. 🎸🎷 Thank you Joe !!! 🤗❤

    • @SagittariusBabe87
      @SagittariusBabe87 8 місяців тому +2

      I really like when he has music 🎶 in his videos, too. It's calming and soothing🎶

    • @lioubovgrant1935
      @lioubovgrant1935 8 місяців тому +2

      @@SagittariusBabe87 Yes his choice of images for his videos absolutely the best , choice of music is the best too😊🤗

  • @fjc11212
    @fjc11212 2 місяці тому

    Thank you,

  • @glennosborn8400
    @glennosborn8400 4 місяці тому

    You become a MONSTER FIGHTING A MONSTER ❤

  • @terencehennegan1439
    @terencehennegan1439 6 місяців тому

    They try to make you feel obligated to give them attention especially when they’re falsely being nice. Don’t fall for it, it’s one of their tactics.

  • @carolovesteven
    @carolovesteven 5 місяців тому +2

    If you coming with a source of “envy” you might want to re-evaluate yourself. I had disdain for his behavior and pain in my disappointment when I came to knowledge that he was a fake. A fraud. Envy? No. I’d never want to be like him. I praise God for making me in the way that God has.

  • @lizp5449
    @lizp5449 5 місяців тому +1

    If u feel the bad guy,you need to reflect on this, that's all programming

  • @PenninkJacob
    @PenninkJacob 8 місяців тому +2

    ❤❤❤👍

  • @notaclue822
    @notaclue822 6 місяців тому

    The one i know needs eveybodys supply. I was only a casual aquaintance and i got the full on smear campaign. She gets a lot of attention from that and I don't think she could ever get enough of that.

  • @yoskeezo
    @yoskeezo 8 місяців тому +1

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 29 днів тому

    I’m lucky as he can’t drive n lives with his mommy who cooks n cleans n drives his old skinny ass around. And he gets his bottle at bedtime called Pilsner 😂

  • @1111spiritualone
    @1111spiritualone 8 місяців тому +3

    is this even when they discard you?

    • @juliettehasenbar9211
      @juliettehasenbar9211 8 місяців тому +6

      Yep. Particularly after the new supply is no longer shiny and new for them, they think you have recovered and have more to offer.

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 29 днів тому

    When I dumped my ex off at his mothers I said I wouldn’t have entertained you if I had of known that he sleeps in his mothers bed and is actually married to her n he’s 53 ewwwww

  • @marasoltanis3596
    @marasoltanis3596 8 місяців тому

    You Are Womderfu

  • @darnellanders8768
    @darnellanders8768 7 місяців тому +2

    I am done with narcissist now after years of the mind games taking my kindness for weakness especially now knowing that too many have trespassed on what i thought was private property. The narc constantly discarded the sign all behind much needed validation to ease their fragile ego. I had even started doubling up to protect myself. I now know that the only validaion I need is from God who loves us and whom will never leave us or forsake us. The narcissist is doomed to be alone within their misery with no one to project it on. THis is when they will be forced to reflect on all of their wrong doings. No one excapes that.. Not even the narc..

    • @user-qs5hz4mf3p
      @user-qs5hz4mf3p 6 місяців тому

      Yeah the next someone blatantly disrespects you, you'll say something and stick up for yourself

    • @FWGFX
      @FWGFX 2 місяці тому

      “Every knee shall bow”

  • @godekchen9658
    @godekchen9658 7 місяців тому

    Why their attention is not the other fuel : human shit

  • @AJ-gd6cy
    @AJ-gd6cy 5 місяців тому

    With me it was my narc ex having his new supply try to contact me several times. I didn't read any of the messages. I just deleted them. I got another one from her recently even though I haven't spoken to my ex or seen him since our break up 3 years ago. I don't want to get sucked into anything that has to do with him in any way.