in complex PC roleplaying games, you can save before making a decision that leads to branching options that may or may not lead you to the desired result (sometimes a de-escalation or escalation to combat situation, but the interesting stuff is more complex)
I'm gonna be a stick in the mud and share a personal story ne'er do I share much. I was friends with a vet who told me about terrible things he'd done and been through. 90% of the time we got along swimmingly and I enjoyed his company. We worked well together as I was a good listener and he needed someone to air out to. I didn't make a mind on what he said happened or what he did and we carried on. Some time later I decided to defuse a tense situation as it was. He had gone and knocked up a girl. He snapped when I grabbed his hand and told him it was going to be alright. He began choking me out and clearly out of his mind, grilling me about odd questions like "what is your age?" but kept reaching behind him... Behind him was a butcher block. He never managed to reach it, thank god for his short stature and shorter reach. I always check into that situation as a person who carries because were I in those shoes now, would it have been different? His elbow in my throat and his wild eyes as he grilled me about nonsense? Would I have shot him? I can never know. He was genuinely trying to choke me out over nothing and becoming more violent. Ultimately I made it out, but I always check back into that situation as my check for deescalation. It wasn't working and I wasn't sure at that moment if I was going to make it out. Obviously I did, but were circumstances different, I don't know I'd like to know I'd made choice I couldn't take back from a recent father, either. It's a tough call sometimes. And sometimes it takes getting a little roughed up. What haunts me is that were that same situation put upon me now, I imagine I'd draw. I doubt lightning strikes twice.
Many moons ago, when I worked for a camera store in Seattle, I was in charge of the repair dept. It was a total mess when I started (a box under the counter really). I regularized it and made actual repair records when I could. But one day, I cam back from lunch to find a bunch of fishermen returned from Alaska and the biggest baddest one of them had our store manager by the throat, demanding to know where the fuck his god damned camera was. Of course, we did not have his camera, nor any record of it. He and his friends were getting ready to destroy this crappy camera store and everybody knew it. I sized up the situation and jumped over counter and picked a Nikon off the back shelf and handed it to the fisherman, "here is your camera, sir!" Immediately, he deflated. "Really?" I now knew I'd picked a camera better than the one he had left with us. "You bet!" I said. By the time he and his friend left the store, they'd bought a whole bunch of stuff and the store had basically broken even on the deal. The store owner was delirious. He didn't have to spend money to put the store back together. The cops didn't show up. Nobody was in the hospital and nobody was going to see him in court. I could do no wrong. Sometimes it is understanding what is the focal point of the dispute and dealing with that effectively.
I'm almost learning it pays more to be a wise criminal and beggar than to have a job. I've read too many stories where the perp comes out on top. What is happening to our country?
This topic is no less important than all the range time, equipment readiness and lawyer fees. 👍
in complex PC roleplaying games, you can save before making a decision that leads to branching options that may or may not lead you to the desired result (sometimes a de-escalation or escalation to combat situation, but the interesting stuff is more complex)
I'm gonna be a stick in the mud and share a personal story ne'er do I share much.
I was friends with a vet who told me about terrible things he'd done and been through. 90% of the time we got along swimmingly and I enjoyed his company. We worked well together as I was a good listener and he needed someone to air out to. I didn't make a mind on what he said happened or what he did and we carried on. Some time later I decided to defuse a tense situation as it was. He had gone and knocked up a girl. He snapped when I grabbed his hand and told him it was going to be alright.
He began choking me out and clearly out of his mind, grilling me about odd questions like "what is your age?" but kept reaching behind him...
Behind him was a butcher block. He never managed to reach it, thank god for his short stature and shorter reach. I always check into that situation as a person who carries because were I in those shoes now, would it have been different? His elbow in my throat and his wild eyes as he grilled me about nonsense? Would I have shot him?
I can never know. He was genuinely trying to choke me out over nothing and becoming more violent. Ultimately I made it out, but I always check back into that situation as my check for deescalation. It wasn't working and I wasn't sure at that moment if I was going to make it out. Obviously I did, but were circumstances different, I don't know I'd like to know I'd made choice I couldn't take back from a recent father, either.
It's a tough call sometimes. And sometimes it takes getting a little roughed up. What haunts me is that were that same situation put upon me now, I imagine I'd draw. I doubt lightning strikes twice.
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Many moons ago, when I worked for a camera store in Seattle, I was in charge of the repair dept. It was a total mess when I started (a box under the counter really). I regularized it and made actual repair records when I could. But one day, I cam back from lunch to find a bunch of fishermen returned from Alaska and the biggest baddest one of them had our store manager by the throat, demanding to know where the fuck his god damned camera was. Of course, we did not have his camera, nor any record of it. He and his friends were getting ready to destroy this crappy camera store and everybody knew it. I sized up the situation and jumped over counter and picked a Nikon off the back shelf and handed it to the fisherman, "here is your camera, sir!" Immediately, he deflated. "Really?" I now knew I'd picked a camera better than the one he had left with us. "You bet!" I said.
By the time he and his friend left the store, they'd bought a whole bunch of stuff and the store had basically broken even on the deal. The store owner was delirious. He didn't have to spend money to put the store back together. The cops didn't show up. Nobody was in the hospital and nobody was going to see him in court. I could do no wrong.
Sometimes it is understanding what is the focal point of the dispute and dealing with that effectively.
I'm almost learning it pays more to be a wise criminal and beggar than to have a job. I've read too many stories where the perp comes out on top.
What is happening to our country?
Get on with it! First half is bla bla bla
@@jrexchandler1 Ha ha! Rex Chandler wins the Internet! Well said, Mr. Chandler! =)