A good friend of mine, a combat veteran, said, "never pull a knife or a gun, unless you're prepared to use it. Never explain, never seek permission. Once you have the weapon out, the time for words is over. Use it or go away." Like the guy in a bank robbery, had a 1911 shoved in his face. He turned it around and had it in the robber's mouth - the robber had pulled the trigger and the guy had his thumb preventing the hammer from falling. He said "3, 2, good choice." Words can state a posture, but use them sparingly.
If I am following this right... around the 7:00 mark, our good host mentions he thinks it is crazy that an armed person, making threats toward another person (regardless if they are armed), should suffer a heavier penalty in the eyes of the law. If this is the case, I respectfully disagree. When one is armed, I believe one *should* be held to a higher standard. If someone yells, "screw you!" to me, I try not to say it in return but instead, "I am sorry you feel that way. I am willing to hear you out." But if one is armed, I don't believe one rightfully has the option of saying "screw you!" back. If you have a firearm or other deadly weapon on your person, I think it is a huge mistake to carry on as if you don't. A weapon is not an excuse. I feel one must be the adult in the matter, not the parent, not the child. Try to reach their adult that you may both deescalate. Just my opinion. Also, I have a method I like to use to disarm/deescalate emotional situations (especially when blame is perceived); I like to talk things around until the problem itself becomes a third party. If the angry person(s) and I can just join forces, boy, that problem will be easier to tackle. It tends to go from, "I have a problem and you're a jerk in my way," to "how do we solve this problem together? Let's do this!" It has worked for me. May it work for you, too. The more peace and harmony in the world, the better! =)
A good friend of mine, a combat veteran, said, "never pull a knife or a gun, unless you're prepared to use it. Never explain, never seek permission. Once you have the weapon out, the time for words is over. Use it or go away." Like the guy in a bank robbery, had a 1911 shoved in his face. He turned it around and had it in the robber's mouth - the robber had pulled the trigger and the guy had his thumb preventing the hammer from falling. He said "3, 2, good choice." Words can state a posture, but use them sparingly.
Good food for thought.
If I am following this right... around the 7:00 mark, our good host mentions he thinks it is crazy that an armed person, making threats toward another person (regardless if they are armed), should suffer a heavier penalty in the eyes of the law. If this is the case, I respectfully disagree.
When one is armed, I believe one *should* be held to a higher standard. If someone yells, "screw you!" to me, I try not to say it in return but instead, "I am sorry you feel that way. I am willing to hear you out." But if one is armed, I don't believe one rightfully has the option of saying "screw you!" back. If you have a firearm or other deadly weapon on your person, I think it is a huge mistake to carry on as if you don't. A weapon is not an excuse. I feel one must be the adult in the matter, not the parent, not the child. Try to reach their adult that you may both deescalate. Just my opinion.
Also, I have a method I like to use to disarm/deescalate emotional situations (especially when blame is perceived); I like to talk things around until the problem itself becomes a third party. If the angry person(s) and I can just join forces, boy, that problem will be easier to tackle. It tends to go from, "I have a problem and you're a jerk in my way," to "how do we solve this problem together? Let's do this!" It has worked for me. May it work for you, too.
The more peace and harmony in the world, the better! =)