Being highly sensitive doesn't mean that you're easily manipulated... we actually see the bs before everybody else does. That's actually a gasit statement.
We do see the bs, but the problem is we don't shut it down quickly. We think that we somehow can save people or something. We need to understand that we can't.
I'm Ray Charles to the BS, play blind and dumb I rarely react. That's what toxic people particularly narcissists want- a reaction. The more you feed into them, the more power you give them. Preserve your energies, only invest your energy to people and situations that raises your vibrations ✅
I put in my two weeks, manager turned all the staff against me. She lied and said that I couldn’t get my PTO payout and she was hounding me to do work down to the very last second of day. I hate when people like that get away with such things especially with me being a good worker/person. It’s completely unfair!
I'm an Empath and I've definitely learned how to deal with toxic people through trial and error even though they can be a nuisance. Unfortunately, we live in a world full of them.
Thank you, I really needed to hear this. I dropped a decade-long friendship because she refused to respect me even after trying to set boundaries and pointing out her behavior. She told me I couldn't take a joke. It hurt me, but I know I deserved better. Btw you're absolutely stunning. Take care 🧡
I loved the part toward the end where you talked about not overexplaining yourself or feeling like you always have to give your side of the story to defend yourself. I've been working on this recently but would love a whole video dedicated to this if its not already on the agenda. Love your videos always Karine~
It is a blessing and a curse to be an empath. Being an empath can be extremely draining a lot 😩 Thank you fir droping another gem. You are the greatest Karine 🤗❤️
I belonged to a church where different members would try to shame me if I cried in church. I knew I had to leave that unsafe space and find a safe loving church body. Which I did.
Yep, my whole family gaslight me all the time and have all labelled me as 'overly sensitive'....but I see it as them trying to discredit me coz I've seen something that they don't want me to see or know.
@@nalayini1504 Yep! Until I learned about Complex Trauma in 2020 - I never heard the term Fawning. Hearing it - suddenly burden of shame and guilt began lifting up. Until then I was convinced that something is wrong with me and that I do not know what it is. CBT and self help books blame anyone being abused as their own fault.
I needed this book recommendation. I put it on my audible wishlist. The church doesn't speak on these issues much, so thank you for doing this to help other Christians.
One of the worst things to say to a child or amyone is to not be a crybaby bc this invalidates the person's emotions amd then the person can repress all their pain and the emotional pain is there still bit is not released amd suppressed emotions cause anxiety depression or anger
Thank you so much for this video. I feel so validated and I use to feel so sorry for people with the sob story. I would do anything to make them feel special and cared for because I know how it feels not to have that. After learning the hard way, I took myself to therapy and learned how to spot the signs so people cannot manipulate me anymore. Now I use my sensitivity to detect those selfish and manipulative people. As soon as I notice any sign of manipulation, I grey rock. I keep those people at arms length. Brilliant video Karine ❤
Thank you Karine I needed this SO MUCH today. I just took my leave from a wild love-bombing situation with someone who seemed so amazing but very intense and I think lowkey manipulative. It hurts so much, but at the same time I feel relieved.
Painful problem for me is after all of this. I have zero support system not a single soul. I never had any love or support for my family so they’re not it and the few friends I did have are gone now after that relationship
Thanks for posting this! ❤ I’ve always been called “too sensitive” when I confront people about their abuse or open up to someone else about it. I’ve learned to just pray about my situations and block out what anyone has to say.
I needed this video. One of my close family members is a narcissist and its really hard to be around them. Im going to practice withdrawing my energy from them and limiting my interactions with them.
Had to pause at 5 mins to comment this: THANK YOU. when you said you often erase or forget about someone’s behavior that is something I (did) and didn’t realize how common it is! I genuinely thought I was crazy for this pattern. I’m working to undo this but I just wanted to say thank you
I have stopped smiling unnecessarily when greeting my elders when they open the door. I just greet them with a plain face because they have never smiled back at me. Now i mirror their energy.i have reduced the amounts of times i used to nod at every sentence they said. Now i just hear without any reaction or eye contact. I even look at my phone while talking to them. I also stopped asking how are you, because then they start a barrage of complaints and cribbiing about how difficult their lives are. Iam not a therapist n i dont need to hear the victim story.
Karine, just a thought but could you make a video about how to repair a relationships? I don't know how it would work but just an idea. Thank you for the video love 💗💗
I am definitely an Empath...for me it's hard to find the right people to be around...friends for example..because I don't think a lot like most folks 🌊🌊🌊
This is the first episode I've listened to! I just Subscribed to this one just yesterday...so sensuble, great video...yes...lots of Narcissists around.
Love love love this hair color on you. Because your undertone appears cool, this bluish black dark hair color is perfect. It makes you appear rich. Thank you for continuing to put out such inspirational content.
The answe is to stop being sensitive to their feelings and situation. Turn it back on them. I’ve started telling ppl that their feelings or situation isn’t my problem.
Hey Ms.Karine it’s Patrick I commented on your vids (I brung up Chyna) I must say this is a good video plus I didn’t have therapy today so thanks for posting this video and expanding my book pallet definitely gonna give it a read.
Pretty sure nobody wants to deal with obsessed delusional toxic people who clearly don't even want to deal with themselves ✌🏽 everything is not a mystery so stop the forced charades
Listening to the description of the narcissist and other toxic traits in people makes me think of both of my parents. I think they might both be narcissists. But I worried about unconsciously ending up like them.
Hola Karine, This honestly made me cry. But I’m so happy you shared. How do we join your book club? Are you taking new members right now ma’am?😂😅 This type of topic is just what I need right now to help me help myself stay strong as I’m doing the best I can + praying to gos for guidance & more conviction to BREAK FREE from the “easy to play with” or “easy to mentally, emotionally, verbally and spiritually ABUSE” SHACKLES. And over the past 2-4yrs I’ve learned so much from this channel AND your biography channel as well. I want to be happy and have healthier interactions with both toxic and healthy people moving forward so bad. But outside of that. Thank you for being you & thank you so much for all you do on this platform if no one’s told you lately. 🙏🏾🌹👑🤍
Where to draw the line? Set boundaries without feeling guilty!
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Before we continue with the topic on hand Miss @karinealourde, lets know how you did that make up❤😂😂 beautiful.
Being highly sensitive doesn't mean that you're easily manipulated... we actually see the bs before everybody else does. That's actually a gasit statement.
we lowkey are, we tend to me emphatetic so they play on our sympathy
We do see the bs, but the problem is we don't shut it down quickly. We think that we somehow can save people or something. We need to understand that we can't.
I think we learn to spot the signs quickly over time. Now a micro face expression and I know your motive
unfortunately this is not everybody’s story. some people had to learn the hard way before they can even arrive at this place.
@@denise76This!!!!
I'm Ray Charles to the BS, play blind and dumb I rarely react. That's what toxic people particularly narcissists want- a reaction. The more you feed into them, the more power you give them. Preserve your energies, only invest your energy to people and situations that raises your vibrations ✅
Thisssss
Narcissistic supply.
Please can you make a video for a highly sensitive person/empath on how to regulate our emotions and stay emotionally stable?
Oh yes that is a necessary one! I got you 🧡🧡
Just go grey rock and sat busy with your own chores..
Excellent topic suggestion ❤❤
Hobbies. REAL hobbies not tv the movies food. Active hobbies.
I put in my two weeks, manager turned all the staff against me. She lied and said that I couldn’t get my PTO payout and she was hounding me to do work down to the very last second of day.
I hate when people like that get away with such things especially with me being a good worker/person. It’s completely unfair!
She's probably mad that you moved on to something better. Your peace of mind is priceless.
She's a monster. Give them a title and they will show you, who they really are. They make everything personal. I work with one.
I'm an Empath and I've definitely learned how to deal with toxic people through trial and error even though they can be a nuisance. Unfortunately, we live in a world full of them.
With the years, there is definitely an increase.
@@karinealourdementalgems I agree
Thank you, I really needed to hear this. I dropped a decade-long friendship because she refused to respect me even after trying to set boundaries and pointing out her behavior. She told me I couldn't take a joke. It hurt me, but I know I deserved better.
Btw you're absolutely stunning. Take care 🧡
Never let someone diminish your feelings by calling you sensitive! I love that you were able to see through it. And thank you so much 🧡🧡
the sad & scary part is that these toxic traits are in most people thats why I keep to myself & mind my business🧿😏
Just in time! I'm about to fly down south to visit family 😂
Safe travels and have fun 🧡🧡
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I loved the part toward the end where you talked about not overexplaining yourself or feeling like you always have to give your side of the story to defend yourself. I've been working on this recently but would love a whole video dedicated to this if its not already on the agenda. Love your videos always Karine~
Karine is a beautiful and intelligent woman.
Amen sis. ❤
It is a blessing and a curse to be an empath. Being an empath can be extremely draining a lot 😩 Thank you fir droping another gem. You are the greatest Karine 🤗❤️
I belonged to a church where different members would try to shame me if I cried in church. I knew I had to leave that unsafe space and find a safe loving church body. Which I did.
That is so weird. Run away and stay away from those weirdos.
It's really a strength to be a Highly Sensitive Person, since we can clearly understand, pick up on and identify other's toxic traits and tactics.
It becomes flaw when we are taught and conditioned in ACE AcoA childhood to internalize blame.
Yep, my whole family gaslight me all the time and have all labelled me as 'overly sensitive'....but I see it as them trying to discredit me coz I've seen something that they don't want me to see or know.
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@@ranc1977 exactly right! I never knew there was a term for it let alone that it was a documented thing.
@@nalayini1504 Yep! Until I learned about Complex Trauma in 2020 - I never heard the term Fawning.
Hearing it - suddenly burden of shame and guilt began lifting up. Until then I was convinced that something is wrong with me and that I do not know what it is. CBT and self help books blame anyone being abused as their own fault.
I needed this book recommendation. I put it on my audible wishlist. The church doesn't speak on these issues much, so thank you for doing this to help other Christians.
Also in the Jamaican culture I was always told “crying is a sign of weakness” but however that has done a huge disservice to me
Im an empath and have been taken advantage of too many times. Lately ive learned to avoid anyone who is disrespectful towards not only me but others
I absolutely enjoy your videos ❤❤❤ you have helped me thru some hard ones. Thank you for creating and sharing, stay blessed
You are so welcome and thank you so much Angela 🧡🧡🧡🧡
One of the worst things to say to a child or amyone is to not be a crybaby bc this invalidates the person's emotions amd then the person can repress all their pain and the emotional pain is there still bit is not released amd suppressed emotions cause anxiety depression or anger
Thank you so much for this video. I feel so validated and I use to feel so sorry for people with the sob story. I would do anything to make them feel special and cared for because I know how it feels not to have that.
After learning the hard way, I took myself to therapy and learned how to spot the signs so people cannot manipulate me anymore. Now I use my sensitivity to detect those selfish and manipulative people.
As soon as I notice any sign of manipulation, I grey rock. I keep those people at arms length.
Brilliant video Karine ❤
Your thumbnails are so mesmerizing and your content is always so good! Thank you Karine xo
I agree and have applied those solutions to remove narcissists in my life (toxic and family members). Thank you for this video 🙌🏾
Black hair suits u the most...it brings out your beautiful face.❤🎉
Karine your timing is divine honestly ✨
Thank you Karine I needed this SO MUCH today. I just took my leave from a wild love-bombing situation with someone who seemed so amazing but very intense and I think lowkey manipulative. It hurts so much, but at the same time I feel relieved.
“Paranoia is Total awareness” Kurt Cobain”
Karine! Thank you,for your beautiful insights! 🌬️🤍 from Houston
Not sensitive bit toxic people can bemanipulativeand difficult
Thank you! I badly needed this. 😭😭😭😭 Very timely. May God continue to you! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Your videos have become apart of my daily dog walks! Love you! ❤
Painful problem for me is after all of this. I have zero support system not a single soul. I never had any love or support for my family so they’re not it and the few friends I did have are gone now after that relationship
Thanks for posting this! ❤ I’ve always been called “too sensitive” when I confront people about their abuse or open up to someone else about it. I’ve learned to just pray about my situations and block out what anyone has to say.
I needed this video. One of my close family members is a narcissist and its really hard to be around them. Im going to practice withdrawing my energy from them and limiting my interactions with them.
Thank you! I needed this! Great job! ❤
I'm way too super sensitive
Beautiful! 😍
Thank you so much 🙏🏼🧡
One a separate note your hair is amazing!
How to handle (in a Godly way) if the narcissist is your family specifically your mother? I want them to know God but I fear my safety.
Had to pause at 5 mins to comment this: THANK YOU. when you said you often erase or forget about someone’s behavior that is something I (did) and didn’t realize how common it is! I genuinely thought I was crazy for this pattern. I’m working to undo this but I just wanted to say thank you
I have stopped smiling unnecessarily when greeting my elders when they open the door. I just greet them with a plain face because they have never smiled back at me. Now i mirror their energy.i have reduced the amounts of times i used to nod at every sentence they said. Now i just hear without any reaction or eye contact. I even look at my phone while talking to them. I also stopped asking how are you, because then they start a barrage of complaints and cribbiing about how difficult their lives are. Iam not a therapist n i dont need to hear the victim story.
I enjoy how soft your voice is! 🥰
Thank you sis needed to hear this
Karine, just a thought but could you make a video about how to repair a relationships? I don't know how it would work but just an idea. Thank you for the video love 💗💗
At the right time, intention and purpose though lol
Great suggestion! I definitely can 🧡
@karinealourdementalgems thank you so much love 💗💗 always appreciate all your videos!!
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I feel so traumatized
OMG 😢. I was just thinking about this yesterday. You really are a gem. Please keep the videos coming, maybe a part two ? 🎉🎉❤❤❤
I am definitely an Empath...for me it's hard to find the right people to be around...friends for example..because I don't think a lot like most folks 🌊🌊🌊
My old toxic friends wants to label me
This is the first episode I've listened to! I just Subscribed to this one just yesterday...so sensuble, great video...yes...lots of Narcissists around.
I found out in not even sensitive. My family just has issues due to military conditioning😅.
Just realized my brother is gaslighting me. I walk away he comes back
What an Amazing video!!! Thanks so much😊 for explaining what is happening to so many of us. Gaslighting is what these bad ppl do to us often
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This message came right on time baby, thank you!!! ❤❤👏🏽
Wow, you look amazing😍✨✨
Love love love this hair color on you. Because your undertone appears cool, this bluish black dark hair color is perfect. It makes you appear rich. Thank you for continuing to put out such inspirational content.
The answe is to stop being sensitive to their feelings and situation. Turn it back on them. I’ve started telling ppl that their feelings or situation isn’t my problem.
Looking absolutely gorgeous ❤❤❤
It’s almost like you made this video for me!
She really blessed us HSP's with this video.
She is so lovely articulate and WISE beyond her years.
Another gem! thanks Karine 🤗
My ex used to tell me “You are too emotional “
You’re on a roll Karine. You don’t miss!
My Scorpio sis
Great vid! Can we get the hair details?
Im triggered again 🥴
I like your nails
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Hey Ms.Karine it’s Patrick I commented on your vids (I brung up Chyna) I must say this is a good video plus I didn’t have therapy today so thanks for posting this video and expanding my book pallet definitely gonna give it a read.
Can we be both sensitive and manipulative?
Wounded empaths.
Gorgeous Karine
Pretty sure nobody wants to deal with obsessed delusional toxic people who clearly don't even want to deal with themselves ✌🏽 everything is not a mystery so stop the forced charades
Listening to the description of the narcissist and other toxic traits in people makes me think of both of my parents. I think they might both be narcissists. But I worried about unconsciously ending up like them.
All try to support your channel if l can am used to rocking the boat
So many gems !! Sis whats the name of the book(s) you reference here?
Insightful
3 mins in & I’m over here like 😲🤯😩 & girlllll, this is right on time ! Gained a new sub 🤍
Ok, I need this. I am doing better these days, a lot of them are gone. Learn to say no, and if it doesn't feel right, stay away.
SO good❤
I'm highly sensitive way too sensitive
Thanks this was very helpful !!
And the thumbnails are inspiring!
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I know better to take things personal
Such a great video🧡
What’s the name of the book
I do need a better behavior
Answer to my prayers
Thank you 💙
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Excellent video that truly resonates.
IM HIGHLY SENSITIVE UGH❤ Empath. OH IM VERY GUARDED AND I TRY TO EXIT QUICKLY ❤. QUIETLY.VI DONT BLAME MYSELF.. I KNOW WHEN IM BEING MANIPULATED M
I haven’t even watched this yet and I’m dancing. You always bring the gems 🫶🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽💕
Hola Karine,
This honestly made me cry.
But I’m so happy you shared.
How do we join your book club?
Are you taking new members right now ma’am?😂😅
This type of topic is just what I need right now to help me help myself stay strong as I’m doing the best I can + praying to gos for guidance & more conviction to BREAK FREE from the “easy to play with” or “easy to mentally, emotionally, verbally and spiritually ABUSE” SHACKLES.
And over the past 2-4yrs I’ve learned so much from this channel AND your biography channel as well.
I want to be happy and have healthier interactions with both toxic and healthy people moving forward so bad.
But outside of that. Thank you for being you & thank you so much for all you do on this platform if no one’s told you lately. 🙏🏾🌹👑🤍