Child Free Women In Their 30s Share How They Live Their Lives - Must Watch

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  • @gojiberry7201
    @gojiberry7201 6 місяців тому +355

    In my 40s and childfree and single. It has given me the time to do lots of therapy and healing of generational trauma.

    • @n.g.l.
      @n.g.l. 6 місяців тому +35

      That’s why I get so annoyed when people call child free women selfish. They always ignore things like trauma, neurodivergent, etc. I’m so glad you’re getting help and healing

    • @gojiberry7201
      @gojiberry7201 6 місяців тому +6

      @@n.g.l. Thank you so much! :)

    • @n.g.l.
      @n.g.l. 6 місяців тому +1

      @@gojiberry7201 just a reminder Jesus is always at the corner. By the grace of God you’ve been chosen to go follow Him.

    • @skindippedingold
      @skindippedingold 6 місяців тому +9

      Yessss!!! I didn’t want to repeat yet another cycle of what should’ve ended many decades ago.

    • @yvetteihemesinwa2981
      @yvetteihemesinwa2981 6 місяців тому +3

      That's a good point. Good for you.

  • @FearfullyandWonderfullyMade.
    @FearfullyandWonderfullyMade. 6 місяців тому +422

    In my 30’s. No kids or a hateful man derailing my progress.
    I just graduated with a degree last Friday, with honors. 😍 I start my doctorate this fall. My Roth IRA of 11 years is growing nicely.
    Now that it’s summer, I go to sleep whenever I want and wake up whenever I want. My skin is smooth. The body is snatched! There’s no man in my ear telling me I’m not smart enough to do this or that.
    You do whatever you want, whether you want! Retirement was planned when I was 24 years old.

    • @DestinyUteh
      @DestinyUteh  6 місяців тому +36

      Congratulations sis 👏 🎉🫶🫶🫶

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 6 місяців тому +18

      Congrats!!!! 🎉

    • @irianaav.6120
      @irianaav.6120 6 місяців тому +16

      I love it❤❤❤ congratulations sister

    • @Rose-kj7rz
      @Rose-kj7rz 6 місяців тому +13

      Congratulations! 🎉🥳

    • @blessedcutie8983
      @blessedcutie8983 6 місяців тому +12

      Félicitation! Congrats 👏 Continue to choose peace. ❤

  • @Laoriginal718
    @Laoriginal718 6 місяців тому +245

    I’ll be 36 in two weeks. No kids. Never wanted kids. I love my life.

    • @kayshawnsimmons5585
      @kayshawnsimmons5585 6 місяців тому +8

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🥰

    • @candyxox
      @candyxox 6 місяців тому +9

      Oh my gosh girl same. I'm turning 36 in August

    • @ntuthukomdluli-pd9jv
      @ntuthukomdluli-pd9jv 6 місяців тому

      Are u a black woman ?

    • @femmybetts5494
      @femmybetts5494 6 місяців тому

      I’m 39 no kids and I really enjoy my life. I look good, I get enough sleep and my house is always clean.

    • @ebonyeverything2751
      @ebonyeverything2751 6 місяців тому +3

      Same. Now dating a great guy with 3 kids from previous marriage and I'm embracing the idea of being a bonus Mom❤

  • @chronicfatiguehermithiker3022
    @chronicfatiguehermithiker3022 6 місяців тому +173

    I’ve never heard any mom describe being a mom as fun, no matter how happy she is as a mom🥴.

    • @delicate1
      @delicate1 6 місяців тому +30

      Cause it's not

    • @semiragualraya1041
      @semiragualraya1041 6 місяців тому +8

      @@delicate1lol 😅

    • @ElleJae-b9q
      @ElleJae-b9q 6 місяців тому +8

      🎯🎯🎯🎯

    • @Dottiebonds
      @Dottiebonds 6 місяців тому +16

      😂it’s unpaid job nothing fun about it

    • @heyalexiajanee
      @heyalexiajanee 6 місяців тому +19

      Its fun when they experience something nice, or say something funny unintentionally. My kid keeps me rolling, and it's really fun when they finally go to sleep😂😂😂

  • @jahvonnad1738
    @jahvonnad1738 6 місяців тому +114

    33 I live my life
    -plan my vacations for the year
    -plan concerts
    -do pilates go to the gym every day
    -work on grad school
    -go to work
    -meal prep
    -visit family, friends
    -travel to different cities for shopping
    -take swim classes
    -most importantly, sleep in

    • @jmayo6880
      @jmayo6880 6 місяців тому +7

      Goals! 🙌🏾 Ps: we have the same name. Spelled differently ☺️

    • @jahvonnad1738
      @jahvonnad1738 6 місяців тому +5

      @@jmayo6880 😝 name twin

    • @catesj15
      @catesj15 6 місяців тому +2

      Sounds like me!

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 5 місяців тому +2

      Like it! Very smart Girl. Enjoy your life and DON'T have kids.

    • @TonicforNarcissism
      @TonicforNarcissism 4 місяці тому

      That's very smart way to live 😊

  • @themusicactor
    @themusicactor 5 місяців тому +9

    39 no kids 🙋🏾‍♀️ I focus on my ambitions, my peace, my hobbies.

  • @Slymphomie
    @Slymphomie 6 місяців тому +188

    32 & childfree. I work, I create lots of art, and my husband and I go on mini road trips almost every weekend. I love my life!

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 4 місяці тому +1

      @@Slymphomie Enjoy the best life decision. Childfree life - the only and best life.

  • @cb4017
    @cb4017 6 місяців тому +175

    51 child free: what I love the most is the control I have over my own time. No obligations whatsoever ❤ ultimate luxury

    • @lkeke35
      @lkeke35 6 місяців тому +7

      Yes. 54 and child free. I'm retiring early in a couple of years, and have my traveling plans together. In lieu of having kids, I babysit my sister's little ones, develop my many many hobbies, and will be writing full time after my retirement. My life is full.

    • @Nikki-ks6wi
      @Nikki-ks6wi 6 місяців тому +2

      It’s not fun all the time but what lifestyle is fun all the time life has challenges and maintenance no matter what. No job is completely fun all the time.

  • @StephSteph5
    @StephSteph5 6 місяців тому +101

    I’m 38 no kids. Traveling, meeting new people and courting myself so well. I’m loving it ❤

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 5 місяців тому

      You go Girl! Enjoy your life and stay Childfree.

  • @EmprezzWakanda1962
    @EmprezzWakanda1962 6 місяців тому +61

    I'm 62 and single and childfree, and I'm living my life like it's golden. ❤

  • @abellabarbie
    @abellabarbie 6 місяців тому +26

    That girl on the 57 day cruise needs to tell me where to book!!!

    • @ElleJae-b9q
      @ElleJae-b9q 6 місяців тому +1

      Correct! I need a separate video with a break down

    • @msaniese09
      @msaniese09 6 місяців тому +1

      SAME HERE!!! Like what’s her info !?? I got a few questions ! 😭 BTW I’m 33 with no kids ! I’m a teacher and I loooove traveling ! I’m also a licensed esthetician , bartender and makeup artist. ❤️❤️❤️ I do whatever I wants when I want !

  • @TiktokTownhall
    @TiktokTownhall 6 місяців тому +103

    I’m 26 and child free, I have my degree, certification, career, went on 3 vacations in the past 2 months and do whatever I want. Currently house shopping

    • @aliciakihouass4022
      @aliciakihouass4022 6 місяців тому +21

      26 🎉🎉 I mean, I don’t even know you but I’m very proud of you 😁😁

    • @TiktokTownhall
      @TiktokTownhall 6 місяців тому

      @@aliciakihouass4022 Thanh you so much!

    • @shaypope4732
      @shaypope4732 6 місяців тому +4

      U deserve it hun but please don't pay the asking price for any houses I'm 27 n every house r land I brought I never paid over 5000$ even for 10acres I built on good luck tho u got this

    • @anonymous101-sb1bf
      @anonymous101-sb1bf 6 місяців тому +2

      Hope you find a beautiful house ❤🎉

  • @txspacemom765
    @txspacemom765 6 місяців тому +101

    I have 1 child and I support y'all in any choices you make! I'm here to WOOT WOOT women through life, because y'all are doing some amazing things- kids or child free! WOOT WOOT!

    • @anitra_g_fit5601
      @anitra_g_fit5601 6 місяців тому +10

      Me too!!! 🥳🥳❤️❤️

    • @beeznhoney4323
      @beeznhoney4323 6 місяців тому +9

      Right back at ya❣️ woot woot 🙌🏾

    • @reesecup95
      @reesecup95 6 місяців тому +6

      Woot woot to you too 🙂

  • @genesbeans570
    @genesbeans570 6 місяців тому +7

    I'm 25, never wanted/want kids, it warms my heart to see childfree people living their best lives and listening to their stories makes me excited for my future 🥰

  • @MysteryUnfold
    @MysteryUnfold 6 місяців тому +65

    I love being child free. I have freedom and all the money I make is for me.

  • @322Mermaid
    @322Mermaid 6 місяців тому +18

    Im 38 and have daughter with my loving faithful husband. My daughter that the Creator blessed us with has fulfilled my deepest heart desire and is the apple of her father's eye. Ladies if you have children it needs to be with a loving husband who desires children and wants to be the best father in the world.

  • @bougiehippie
    @bougiehippie 5 місяців тому +4

    36 married. No kids. I use to want them but it wasn't in the cards. I notice most people only talk about having kids to support them when they are old or saying they wished they never had them. So honestly now i feel i dodged a bullet. I am a SAHW and a independent author so my days are mostly mine to do whatever i want while my husband works.

  • @chadguindon6909
    @chadguindon6909 6 місяців тому +9

    I’m 40 years old, single/unmarried and childfree all by choice. I’m an introvert and I enjoy my autonomy and freedom to do whatever I want whenever I want. That becomes impossible when you are married with children.

  • @tameka921
    @tameka921 6 місяців тому +91

    I'm 31 and I'm child free. I work, travel, shop, eat, read, sleep WHENEVER I WANT! I don't look a day over 25 because I don't deal with much stress. I absolutely love it. I eventually want kids but not right now. My parents are 66 and my mom had me at 34 so I really don't feel bad. I still got time!

    • @carinaadams6797
      @carinaadams6797 6 місяців тому +11

      Omg same! My mum has me at 33 so I’m not too fussed. Adoption isn’t below me either. A child to love is a child to love, whether I carried it or not.

    • @heyalexiajanee
      @heyalexiajanee 6 місяців тому +8

      Enjoy it! Marriage isn't a necessity. I didn't get married until 37. Had a baby at 39. So glad I enjoyed my single days because my life is over now😭😭😭a toddler runs me alllllll day long😂

    • @shaypope4732
      @shaypope4732 6 місяців тому

      ​@@carinaadams6797my mom had me at 33 too lol

    • @nwalden5744
      @nwalden5744 6 місяців тому +2

      Then you’re not child free you’re child less . Child free means you never want kids . Her contént is for more so childfree because she us childfree also. . Everyone’s genetic clock isn’t the same . My friends couldn’t have kids older even though their parents had them later in life . Hope it works out !

    • @nwalden5744
      @nwalden5744 6 місяців тому

      @@carinaadams6797is below you or isn’t ?

  • @zilness
    @zilness 6 місяців тому +64

    Just turned 32 a few weeks ago and have decided to not bring children into the world. I am WAY MORE helpful in my community, my rather large friend group and can dedicate so much mental energy to my beautiful relationship with my Husband. My heart is SO FULL. I do not feel as if I am missing anything in my life that a child could change. My husband and I get off of work at 5pm every day of the week and we nourish each other’s brains and lives, keep our three cats happy and healthy. My home is a safe place that I don’t think I could have cultivated if I spent so much of my time and energy to a child.
    I help hear my inner child and the inner children of my loved ones with all this unused Motherly energy.

    • @DestinyUteh
      @DestinyUteh  6 місяців тому +2

      Happy birthday in advance, sis.🎉🎉🎉🎂🎂🎂❤️❤️❤️

    • @DearYoungerSelf111
      @DearYoungerSelf111 6 місяців тому +6

      The Beauty of being a woman ❤- You still can invest your mother energy into others and yourself - in spite of not birthing children -

    • @divine9100
      @divine9100 Місяць тому +1

      If one has a Womb, we have the ability to "CREATE" via it to bring souls in this World or to pour our Gifts in World, God will still be Pleased✨

  • @valencia9981
    @valencia9981 6 місяців тому +16

    35 and I have never had the desire to have children. I work with children and it hasn't changed my mind.

  • @louisachalarca6494
    @louisachalarca6494 6 місяців тому +4

    32 years old and just whipped up a delicious spaghetti and meatballs for myself! Protested today and job shopping

  • @K.C.Uncovered
    @K.C.Uncovered 6 місяців тому +35

    34. Childfree and been celibate for over 2 years. I travel all the time and just bought a van to convert and live on the road

    • @ntuthukomdluli-pd9jv
      @ntuthukomdluli-pd9jv 6 місяців тому +1

      Plz convence ppl from third world countries to reduce poverty

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 4 місяці тому

      @@K.C.Uncovered You chose LIFE! Smart Girl!

  • @pleasantserenity9648
    @pleasantserenity9648 6 місяців тому +48

    24 and a baby on the way. I can respect women and men who decide to be childfree I really truly don't understand the hate they get. Y'all are just living your life the way you want❤

    • @carinaadams6797
      @carinaadams6797 6 місяців тому +16

      Wishing you a blissful pregnancy and birth and a healthy baby ✨🫶

  • @InconvenientTruth50
    @InconvenientTruth50 6 місяців тому +51

    Bought some land in the Caribbean, spent the last few years consumed with building a house. Now I am listening to this as I pack to head down to sleep in my new home for the first time. My best friend is heading with me for two weeks to assemble furniture and decorate. I have a list of child free friends who will be vacationing with me in my new home starting this August. No kids have allowed me to spend my money the way I want. Work and play are how I spend my days.

    • @queenbae6396
      @queenbae6396 6 місяців тому +5

      Congratulations, very proud of you. Wish you all the best and hope you enjoy your beautiful new home.

    • @InconvenientTruth50
      @InconvenientTruth50 6 місяців тому

      @queenbae6396 Thank you.

    • @wildkrattfan
      @wildkrattfan 5 місяців тому +2

      Wow, I'm 27, you're literally living my dream!

    • @InconvenientTruth50
      @InconvenientTruth50 5 місяців тому +2

      @wildkrattfan I am in my 40s now. When I was in my 20s, this was my always my ultimate dream. It's part of my retirement plan. I will eventually be renting it out when I am not using it. I won't lie. It's a daunting task (building a house from scratch is not for the feint of heart). However, the satisfaction of attaining this goal is endless. If you can dream it, you can do it.

    • @wildkrattfan
      @wildkrattfan 5 місяців тому +1

      @@InconvenientTruth50 it’s so crazy to read that you’re doing it ! It’s given me all the motivation.

  • @grimadean3432
    @grimadean3432 6 місяців тому +7

    36, married introvert with no kids. Daily, I do all the normal chores, but less, because no kids and my spouse is actually mature. I work in our business on my own schedule and enjoy my hobbies (writing, art, craft, knitting, designing, dog-training, exercise) daily. I waste time scrolling on social media (listening while I do other things), reading comics and books (fiction and nonfiction) and watching television when I eat, because I’ve *too many things I want to do* than just do one thing at a time. When money flow is good, I travel a number of times through the year, because I get cabin fever, but if I lived near friends or family, then I’d probably go out more than once a week for date night.

  • @netfilmbinger
    @netfilmbinger 6 місяців тому +19

    Just entered my 30s and I know if I had kids I would be depressed. I am blessed to be childfree, not really coz I support the kids in my family, but I love the freedom of still being able to work overtime on my goals. This is where my brain is at now...

  • @Roundthewayrose
    @Roundthewayrose 6 місяців тому +24

    I love this for those women who KNOW they don’t want to be a mother. It’s definitely overrated but I love both mine & can’t imagine life without them. I love how self aware they are!!!! Kids are not easy!

  • @DeannaBaileytheRavensFan
    @DeannaBaileytheRavensFan 6 місяців тому +7

    I turn 37 next month. I'm childfree by choice and I love coming home from work to just my husband and our cat. It's quiet and peaceful.

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 4 місяці тому +1

      @@DeannaBaileytheRavensFan The same! I love the feeling of coming home from work and being greeted by my wife and our cats. My wife and I are so happy and grateful that we don't have kids. We don't want them around us. 😂

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 Місяць тому

      ​@@gogicbasic7629my wife and I possibly will get a cat...26yrs married and we refused to bring a child here ✅

  • @claudettemcleod7877
    @claudettemcleod7877 6 місяців тому +21

    Being single and child free, is just having your life for yourself to make choices that do not involve having to take care of a child and most times putting their needs before your own and dedicate your life to getting yourself to where you want to be mentally, physically and financially without having to sacrifice your time and energy taking care of children.

  • @FireSilver25
    @FireSilver25 6 місяців тому +16

    48 and CF. I never really wanted kids or to get married and now I’m sooooo grateful to my younger self for sticking to my own path. I have so much peace and I only have to cook for myself. I can go do things when I want. I look and feel ten years younger.
    It’s amazing.

  • @creolenola
    @creolenola 6 місяців тому +51

    I am 50, and I am a lady of leisure. I have switched over to working remotely in my career field and have the mentality of I work to support me, my wants and needs. I go where I want to and do what I want to, and always have since I was a late teen. Never thought of it as anything but normal. I personally could not imagine taking responsibility of anything beyond a dogo.

    • @kayshawnsimmons5585
      @kayshawnsimmons5585 6 місяців тому

      🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🥰💯

    • @FireSilver25
      @FireSilver25 6 місяців тому +3

      48 CF and I confirm a life of leisure is AMAZING ❤

    • @Dottiebonds
      @Dottiebonds 6 місяців тому +1

      Lady of leisure 🤍💗🎀🎀🥰my kind of lifestyle!

    • @DiMagnolia
      @DiMagnolia 6 місяців тому

      Would you mind sharing what remote work you do?

  • @DeborahEvans-r2v
    @DeborahEvans-r2v 5 місяців тому +3

    Over 60, no kids or husband, having a happy life. I'm taking online classes, putting together plans for my own business, and keeping in shape by taking martial arts classes, also competing in local tournaments. Marriage and kids aren't the only things in life for a woman to be happy. 😊🥋

  • @JennyferPepin
    @JennyferPepin 6 місяців тому +18

    29 here, not having kids is living my life at my own pace. I somewhat have a routine that works for me, but if I need to stray from that routine for whatever reason, I don't get stressed out, which means I don't get unnecessarily angry or anxious or whatever negative emotion. I'm never in a hurry. If I have to wait in line somewhere, and it takes longer than it should, I never feel really bothered by it because I'm not a parent, and I don't have to pick up my kids from school or drive them to their sports game, or make sure they eat on time, and supervise their homeworks. My time is free and it's such a relief for my mental health. If I need to run to the store to buy something I'm missing, I don't have to bring the kids with me which would usually double/triple the time it takes to just run that errand.
    People say that not having kids will make you feel empty and without purpose but I have many interests, hobbies and goals in life. And my only wish is to live the life I wanna live on my own terms. I NEED quiet in my life. I cannot stand ear-piercing cries, screaming, loudness, chaos, tantrums, etc. I don't have the energy for that. Don't get me wrong, if a kid needed help, I would make sure they are okay and help them as best as I could. I believe in caring and protecting children in private or public spaces. But I don't want this responsibility 24/7, I can't do it. I would lose myself, fall into depression and probably grow resentful somewhere along the line, and I don't want that. No kid deserves a resentful parent.

    • @beeznhoney4323
      @beeznhoney4323 6 місяців тому +3

      I can fully relate to everything you said🙏🏾

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 Місяць тому

      Unfortunately, a lot of children were reared around resentful parents and grandparents...smh

  • @zandilecaluza7880
    @zandilecaluza7880 6 місяців тому +10

    33 ChildFree and Single by choice , love the quiet, free time and all the money I don’t have to spend on kids lol . Love it 🇿🇦

  • @BlackFairy-zk7wl
    @BlackFairy-zk7wl 6 місяців тому +2

    Im 23 and child free by choice
    I like to read, sleep, and listen to music while in nature
    I don't really follow a schedule unless I am at work or have a meeting, other than that I do whatever I feel like.

  • @SmileyAdventures
    @SmileyAdventures 6 місяців тому +36

    I’m 32 and Team childfree and single for life over here 🎉❤ I’ve been to 38 countries (some more than 3x) and I like to sleep in late when I want, I create plushies, I work in the corporate cannabis industry as a grower and process tech. I’m summited Mt Kilimanjaro and reached Mt Everest! I’m a climber and outdoorsman. I take high risks for high rewards in life. I’m an auntie as well. The list goes on….FREEDOM!

    • @karenmassey8354
      @karenmassey8354 6 місяців тому +1

      Did you travel to East Africa solo? I want to go but am wondering if it’s safe for solo wmn travelers.

    • @catesj15
      @catesj15 6 місяців тому +1

      You go girl! 🙏🏽💚✨

  • @Lex2034-f7y
    @Lex2034-f7y 6 місяців тому +24

    Recently turned 30 (5/6), childfree. Studying to be a doctor. 2 degrees (bachelor’s and masters), I paint and write poetry in my free time, engaged. I love aviation and will be getting my private pilot license later this year. I travel to different black history museums across the states, try different cultural foods, go to art and classical music events, nap, study science, spoil my nieces and nephews. Etc,
    I do what I want when I want. Furthering my education is important and becoming a surgeon. My partner and I ( DINK relationships) are happy 4B supporters. We do a lot of self care and making our it home ( man cave and glam room 😂) Perfect. I love it here!!! I am living out my dreams and doing whatever my heart desires.
    Some days I sleep and binge watch my favorite shows ❤

  • @blah7834
    @blah7834 6 місяців тому +23

    39 child free and man free. I be work I vacay I eat I work on being a better person I enjoy my friends and try new things all the time. I am absolutely in love with my life! Motherhood and marriage is not the all be all for me and never have been.

  • @fjones5890
    @fjones5890 6 місяців тому +7

    37 remote job with frequent work travel. I take every opportunity to extend my business trips and explore/relax! This year Bahamas, Belize and Key Biscayne highlights so far. One of the best things is being able to travel for Thanksgiving and Christmas! Europe, Asia, Jamaica, South America…skipping the holiday stress is my favorite part ❤

    • @tarotbhudevi
      @tarotbhudevi 6 місяців тому

      Wow I love what you wrote. I m 38, no kids no abusive man by my side. What do you do for a living that you can travel, it's fantastic!

  • @andreaaas
    @andreaaas 6 місяців тому +9

    Comparison is the thief of joy. Enjoy your children, if you have them. They're here now and so are you, that's what matters. Enjoy your freedom if you don't have children. All we can do is make the best of our own journey. Embrace everything, good and bad and take it as experience for whatever is awaiting us in the next life.

  • @successfulMillennial
    @successfulMillennial 6 місяців тому +3

    I'm in my 30's my house stay peacefully quiet and clean. I get to sleep in often. I cook whenever I feel like it. I don't have to look for babysitters or complain about the dad not helping. I don't have to worry about someone harming my kids or dying before them and thinking no one would care for them like I would. I don't have to stay in a loveless, unfulfilled relationship because of them. I get to spend my money on what I need and like. Get to travel or have a great time whenever I want. You're more appealing when dating because you don't come with baggage/ extra responsibilities.

  • @Risse14
    @Risse14 6 місяців тому +18

    It may not be a "right time" exactly. However, the right time is doing it on your own time /will & with the right person in a healthy dynamic. Until that happens....child free life is actually a world of peace & freedom & more food in the house. Instead of buying diapers I buy shoes. Praise him 🙌🏾

  • @zinabstar
    @zinabstar 6 місяців тому +4

    Wait is this UA-camr 29 or 39? If she’s 39, damn… she looks amazing!!

    • @olganova3058
      @olganova3058 5 місяців тому +2

      I went down to find this comment.
      she's so youthful and gorgeous ❤

  • @reesecup95
    @reesecup95 6 місяців тому +7

    I’m child free and it’s peaceful. I get to do whatever I want when I want when I’m not working or running errands. I get up when I want to, and I eat what I want to. Seeing this video made me realize that I should start to enjoy my freedom more

  • @jadasluxurybeautysupply9251
    @jadasluxurybeautysupply9251 6 місяців тому +10

    Spend my time watching Destiny Uteh on child-free content at 9:12am on Saturday morning, in my fluffy robe, in my bed... while eating coconut cream pie 🥧 😋.
    I'm chilling!

    • @coppertonedone
      @coppertonedone 6 місяців тому +3

      Since they wanna know 😂😂

    • @DestinyUteh
      @DestinyUteh  6 місяців тому +2

      You go girl 🤗🤪😘 You're the best!🫶🫶🫶

  • @wernstberger
    @wernstberger 6 місяців тому +20

    Most importantly, as a childfree woman in my 50s, I have time to think.

    • @catesj15
      @catesj15 6 місяців тому +1

      Good one; I love it

    • @leonahaslam4914
      @leonahaslam4914 6 місяців тому +1

      That has to be the best part!

  • @hollyfreeman1157
    @hollyfreeman1157 5 місяців тому +1

    32 and single, I read a lot and walk daily, practice yoga and pilates, I love cooking nutritious food, I sleep in on weekends and I cannot tell you how much I value the ability to just book a last minute break away on the same day even! 🎉 and the silence.... nothing could make me trade that, I need a lot of solitude to function, and then I can give everything I have to my family and friends 🧡 I'm currently house hunting and I cannot wait to finally live alone on my own terms!

  • @amoritarandall6738
    @amoritarandall6738 6 місяців тому +7

    I have one child at 23. And I have a grandchild. I raised my child until she was 3. Then I had to give her up for adoption. I had a TBI, PTSD, etc from the military. My child was from rape. It was a hard decision. I'm happy I had her, but I never wanted a child. So it was weird finding out how happy I was with her. She is now 21. I'm glad I didn't have her from then because of my injuries I needed a lot of help and had a hard time taking care of myself. Im 44 now.

  • @tyraaiken7159
    @tyraaiken7159 6 місяців тому +7

    Since I don't have kids (I'm 25 btw 😊 and on the fence about having kids) I plan on continuing my Bachelor's in English, furthering my education even more, writing and publishing books, traveling the world, making money, making friends, spending time with my boo, helping the less fortunate, making more money, having fun, opening schools/university for those who can't afford it, healing the Earth, ... Oh, and did I forget having even more fun!!! 🤣

  • @catesj15
    @catesj15 6 місяців тому +3

    33, child free 🥰 dedicating my life to healing and God. 33yrs of abuse, I need to be selfish. Don’t want anything tying me down

  • @blessedloaf6199
    @blessedloaf6199 6 місяців тому +4

    31 with no kids yet. Married and working on my Bachelor's to do a career change. Already have a house and 2 dogs 🐕 Planning to have a kid, but I refuse to do that in poverty 😂 so we're planning as much as we can.

  • @Kyvax
    @Kyvax 6 місяців тому +15

    32 and one half of a happy DINK lifestyle. 🎉 My MIL and FIL would love for us to have a child but we agreed we aren’t long before we got married.
    We love to work, make money together and give each other all our attention. Having a kid would put a wrench in all of that. My sister has 3 children with her husband and they do take care of them but they don’t sleep, they’re pretty broke and they really are relying heavily on “the village” to take care of them so they can have a break. I’m not necessarily a fan but I love my sister and BIL because at least they’re not entitled assholes about it.
    I just know I’m too selfish and lazy to take care of a baby. I’m not struggling financially but I don’t want to get in that pit before I even bring the baby home from birthing it 😮

    • @FEMININELY_ME
      @FEMININELY_ME 6 місяців тому

      DINK? 🙈

    • @Kyvax
      @Kyvax 6 місяців тому +1

      @@FEMININELY_ME Double Income No Kids

  • @suzettewilliams1758
    @suzettewilliams1758 6 місяців тому +2

    If like me it's your genuine feeling, you will not regret it. I am in my late 40s now. I love my life. Plus, I've had children in my life, and I'm a great aunty and godmother, and I've helped with little extras and be the fun aunty and give parents a break.

  • @Chitownbabe417
    @Chitownbabe417 6 місяців тому +37

    Oh I love these. I’m 32, my bf and I are LAT. I am a personal trainer, just got my associates, and I’m considering finishing my bachelors in nutrition. I am generally happy and relaxed day to day. I like to shop, try new recipes, read, and I just started looking into investing. I get to see my friends relatively often. Life is laid back!

  • @SMinor-wn3mp
    @SMinor-wn3mp 6 місяців тому +3

    29, work, save and sleep love it.

  • @pokemonfreak6669
    @pokemonfreak6669 6 місяців тому +4

    Im in my 30s and childfree. I work 50 hour work weeks then i come home relax with my husband and play video games (mosly Pokémon) I enjoy my peace and quiet.

  • @danox2851
    @danox2851 6 місяців тому +14

    I'm 40s no kids doing what i want😂😂😂

  • @NiaMaria
    @NiaMaria 6 місяців тому +4

    Trying to survive this inflation. Idk how women with children (especially single mothers) are doing it.
    I’m 33 on May 23rd. I personally think the right time is when you find your right partner.

  • @DuttyGyal718
    @DuttyGyal718 6 місяців тому +11

    I travel. I can spend my $$$ on me. I can sleep late and go where I want.

  • @t.f.6297
    @t.f.6297 6 місяців тому +3

    44 years old, my remote tech. job is sending me to London this summer. Im adding on a week to go to Amsterdam. I have other trips planned. I can travel when I want. I have friends all over, I also have my own business. Also love running so meet up with run groups when I travel. I also pet sit sometimes for my friend who is a widow and sometimes travels for work. I literally make money, work out, travel, hang out with friends and shop. No shade to kids or families, I just really love my freedom ❤

  • @ViolaHGlaze
    @ViolaHGlaze 6 місяців тому +2

    Im 55 happily married 1 stepson (grown) 1 fur baby 17+ nieces and nephews ....no regrets

  • @night2102
    @night2102 6 місяців тому +6

    Hold up...sis who got the travel 🧳 deals. Whats the tea ☕

  • @Tyrah1120
    @Tyrah1120 6 місяців тому +1

    27 years old child free, love the silence and peace.

  • @scarredbeauty
    @scarredbeauty 6 місяців тому +3

    35 no kids, sometimes I want kids but I'm always happy I don't have any. For some women having kids is the most fulfilling thing for them and I think that's amazing for those women. This may sound selfish but, I love knowing I'm only responsible for me. I'm in a relationship and neither of us have or want kids. We've been traveling and just living. We wake up and randomly take day trips. Hella spa days. Shit I'm just living 😂❤❤

  • @VloggyVloggs
    @VloggyVloggs 6 місяців тому +2

    Im 29. Waiting until I get married, hopefully in my 30s and will be having babies soon after. However way it works out, I won’t force it. I Love life without children it has been amazing for me.

  • @HeauxlisticLux
    @HeauxlisticLux 6 місяців тому +14

    Woke up 1hr before work, ate breakfast in bed...had two clients, got a massage, resting before heading to a paint and sip in a couple hours 😊...That's my Friyay🎉
    In general I work on self improvement, started a new career path 2 years ago that I'm building, watch way too much UA-cam, travel, sleep in when I can, have a protein shake when I don't want to cook, go to therapy and the the chiropractor weekly, workout 6 times a week...I'm living my life ❤❤❤

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 4 місяці тому

      @@HeauxlisticLux You are a smart girl! You are living your best life and enjoying it. I am sure that you are much more satisfied, happier, more fulfilled and have more energy, money, sleep, fun and less stress than breeders. Congratulations on your choice. You go Girl! 💪🏽

  • @ElleJae-b9q
    @ElleJae-b9q 6 місяців тому +6

    I visited a nursing home recently and all the people had multiple kids who didn’t want to take care of them 🤷🏾‍♀️

    • @joejackson7601
      @joejackson7601 Місяць тому

      Unfortunately, a lot of parents torture and abuse their offspring physically and mentally...a lot of parents don't think about that... when they are beating and whipping them...that those same children will divorce them... when they get older...smh

  • @Gemineye444
    @Gemineye444 6 місяців тому +28

    Uhh… fix title. Here they come to take advantage of the typo 💀

    • @Trylica
      @Trylica 6 місяців тому +1

      ye, ppl are so petty while genocides goign on((

    • @DestinyUteh
      @DestinyUteh  6 місяців тому +7

      Thank you 🙏

  • @Mochalolo1928
    @Mochalolo1928 6 місяців тому +5

    I had my one and only child at 32 and it was a perfect time for me and my partner. I think the women that are salty about some women being child free is bc they wish they were child free! They were sold a dream and got into and realized what it really was and that they’re not cut out for it so they want other people to be miserable so they themselves don’t feel so foolish for believing they had to have kids at all. You really got to have your stuff inline before having a kid. Our lives are so smooth and our son so calm. This is my best life! But I also know my perfect life is someone else’s nightmare 🤣😂

  • @_SheRoseee_
    @_SheRoseee_ 4 місяці тому

    I’m nearing 30 and childfree. I love hearing and seeing the perspective of so many childfree older women. Y’all are inspiring! ❤️✨

  • @samanthap.879
    @samanthap.879 6 місяців тому +3

    As a woman who had a child at 23 I do enjoy it but I also see their side too! We all have a different view on happiness :)

  • @ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx
    @ELIZABETHTORRES-em3kx 6 місяців тому +5

    37 I do lots of nothings like the girl on the towel hair. My house it’s a spa n lots of sleeps

  • @queensavage9896
    @queensavage9896 6 місяців тому +1

    40 today! No kids, in relationship but live separately. I don't think about any of this. Lol. I read alot, planning my masters program for spring, planning my cruise in October, sleeping, working, and playing with my dogs. 🤷🏽‍♀️

  • @Soleilsorrel33
    @Soleilsorrel33 6 місяців тому +2

    46 and child free... I do whatever I want. New Orleans, Cancun & Jamaica this summer. Let's go!!!

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 5 місяців тому

      That's life! Enjoy! There is nothing better than NOT having kids and having freedom. France, Portugal and Italy this summer...

  • @idontarguewithpeasants
    @idontarguewithpeasants 6 місяців тому +3

    Child free and late 30s. I do what I want when I want. I play video games, I’m finishing up my Masters which will be my 3rd college degree. I go hiking with my husband and travel when we can. It’s a beautiful, somewhat stress free existence and I would change a thing.

  • @realbrat40
    @realbrat40 6 місяців тому +3

    IDK why but I feel like her question is veiled in some way…..anyhow,I'm currently taking evening classes in skill based subjects that I am interested in. I just finished up tiling, next is plumbing and electrical. My dream is to build my own house, doing about 80% of the work myself. I do dance classes, workout.and later this year once a few of my classes finish up, I will be going back to swimming classes to perfect my technique. There are other things that I want to do too but this is already too long🤣🤣

  • @blessedcutie8983
    @blessedcutie8983 6 місяців тому +8

    To have kids or not is a personal decision. When to have children is a personal decision. People have to decide that for themselves based on their financial stability, emotional and physical health and support system. If you are lonely, feeling empty, or unstable, do not have children.

  • @cali-ji5hd
    @cali-ji5hd 5 місяців тому +1

    Childfree and 36. Just got a masters in stats from a top university. I love my job. I date sometimes, sometimes I don't. Sometimes I'm lonely, sometimes I'm not. Sometimes I feel like I'm missing out on having kids, sometimes I don't. It's just life babe! Loneliness, happiness, mistakes, successes, wins, misses, FOMO, resentment, peace. You cannot avoid these feelings no matter what path you choose.

  • @Shillery-n1i
    @Shillery-n1i 6 місяців тому +13

    I work and make over 170k yearly , take vacations, eat at new restaurants, go shopping at will , spa days , salon appointments, changing out things in our home , buying our home , planing entrepreneur ventures , learning new recipes, prioritizing my health , taking self defense classes because unhinged men are obsessed with us

  • @Rochelle94
    @Rochelle94 3 місяці тому

    I have 2 boys on the spectrum of Autism. Definitely keep in mind that you're rolling the dice when having children because they could be disabled. And it is not for the weak. Much love and great content ❤️ 👑

  • @kayshawnsimmons5585
    @kayshawnsimmons5585 6 місяців тому +8

    Im not having kids. Another life was chosen for me. A life of freedom, leisure, and traveling for work is what the Divine Feminine gave me.

  • @daijourcalloway998
    @daijourcalloway998 6 місяців тому +2

    29 no kids.
    I go to bed at 3 am and i sleep til about 2pm EVERY DAMN DAY! Lol then i get ready go to work comes home and watch UA-cam til i get sleepy. When im not working I still sleep til 2pm and i procrastinate on running whatever errands because ik i can just do them tomorrow. I go to a lot of concerts and basketball games i go out to eat a lot . I dont do much cooking nor cleaning cuz i don't feel like it and never do my own laundry cuz i hate doing it so i pay someone to do it for me same with cleaning. Its kinda fun. But this year im saving money plan is 10k by December and for Christmas im buying myself an island vacation. Ive moved 3 states in 3 years and i actually want to move again. I couldn't do any of this if i had kids! Yayy me no kis yayyyy

    • @gogicbasic7629
      @gogicbasic7629 5 місяців тому

      Oh, you look a lot like my wife. She also sleeps 12 hours a day, she doesn't like to do absolutely any housework (we pay a woman to clean our house, cook, iron). My wife goes to the gym, shopping, and everyone is jealous and envious of her. I adore her for being like that and for not wanting kids. 😉

  • @nomvuyomashile3373
    @nomvuyomashile3373 6 місяців тому +7

    🤭
    A growing pattern among child free by choice women are the fact that they’ve worked with kids before for them to come to that lifestyle choice 🙇🏽 whether it be babysitter, nanny or PRE-SCHOOL TEACHER (oh hi there🙋🏽).🫣

  • @LearnAsYouGo.
    @LearnAsYouGo. 6 місяців тому +5

    I’m in my early 30’s & I spend my free time doing whatever I want 😜 but quite literally I nap, relax, I have time to think about my career /finances/future, travel, I hangout with my family & friends. I just live life like everyone else! I’m able to focus on myself, my personal development, & my goals…that’s my favorite thing about not having kids.. I’m only responsible for myself!

  • @shaylamcgrady1048
    @shaylamcgrady1048 6 місяців тому +2

    Lol. I wake up whenever I want to. I also live in and travel the country full time with my truck and camper. 😊

  • @runwiththeqase
    @runwiththeqase 6 місяців тому +1

    I'm 32 and a kindergarten teacher. My job justifies more on why I don't want kids. Can't wait to resign and change my job.

  • @BigCrossVita
    @BigCrossVita 6 місяців тому +1

    39 Wake at 9a live downtown so walk to gym to meet girlfriends. Workout then brunch. Walk back home. Clean, shower, WFH 3-12a. Out to eat once a month. Vacation quarterly. Read lots of books. No pets. Just one plant. Really couldn't imagine having kids.

  • @srideout91
    @srideout91 6 місяців тому +3

    I have known since I was a teenager that I wanted to be child. I remember I told my parents when I was 15 years old. And they said all you are too young. You will eventually change your mind and give us grandkids. I am now 32 and my mind has not changed at all. I am happy and I’m living my life. So my parents think I’m miserable I am single and I don’t have a child. They have even tried to compromise with me by saying that they will be willing to take on all the childcare duties if I can just give them one grandchild. It has gotten so out of hand that I had to distance myself. The final straw is when they had my great grandma call me to try and convince me to give me a grandchild.my great grandma is 98 years old. That’s what I realize that I needed to limit my contact. I love my parents to death, but they went way overboard trying to get my great grandmother involved. I hope one day they can accept the fact that I do not plan on having kids. But until then I am just going to limit our interactions to phone calls only and if they do bring up kids I’m just going to politely hang up.

  • @commandery3574
    @commandery3574 6 місяців тому +2

    i’m 26, the ONLY way i’m going to have children is if my husband AND i are wealthy and financially comfortable. if not, i’m honestly COOL with just being the rich auntie and going HOME to my quiet house. i have so much trauma yet to heal, and so so much of my career to yet fully enjoy. i’m an artist, so for me it’s a longer game, and it requires a bit more than if i went the corporate route. so i’m happy right where where i am at

  • @Shaiyino.thebraveone
    @Shaiyino.thebraveone 6 місяців тому +1

    Most ppl who saying it’s good it don’t matter to them if they had kids or not or they didn’t want kids…. Many others are saying it’s lonely ( the ones who want kids )

  • @lkeke35
    @lkeke35 6 місяців тому +1

    I liked that one woman: I am the child.😂😂
    One thing people have not mentioned is the levels of anxiety about having a child in your life is waaay down when you don't have them. I don't have to worry about my child's safety and life and just the constant worry periodt! If I had a child my anxiety levels would be through the roof!!!

  • @louisachalarca6494
    @louisachalarca6494 6 місяців тому +1

    I can leave give myself some relax time before doing my dishes cuz I only got to feed myself

  • @virallcullture8585
    @virallcullture8585 6 місяців тому +1

    As a laid back 35, I help my mama out, I've had the opportunity to get a non corporate job, boosting my finances and have personal time, party when I want with others or by myself.. I have the energy and time for my kids having friends when they are exhausted and have fun a d share my childhood with those kids. I can focus on my health well bieng and ect. Hobbies, learning new languages, having the time for LEARNING so much stuff

  • @Melly16yr10
    @Melly16yr10 6 місяців тому +2

    29 child free 🆓 and life is good 👍😊. No man telling me how to live my life or use Domestic Voilence against me, my money 💰 is my own, I can come and go as I please, sleep 💤 😴 in when I want 😊, Dress 👗 how I want, hang around the mall as long as I like 😊, Eat what I want 😋, travel 🧳 to destination I want to visit 😊.

  • @victoriagreen3047
    @victoriagreen3047 6 місяців тому +3

    No time is right for me 😅

  • @EpicSillyPets
    @EpicSillyPets 6 місяців тому +3

    54 and childfree. For me, it's more than a choice, I was born with a natural disdain for kids. I do love kids and even work with them, but to be responsible for them, terrifies me. When I was younger, I feared pregnancy and childbirth. As I got older, it was more of a fear of being responsible for a child.

  • @Dottiebonds
    @Dottiebonds 6 місяців тому +2

    From what I’ve seeing and heard.its best to live life experience,unpacked and healed your childhood traumas. Set yourself up for a financial freedom then pop that baby out!!!!!❤

  • @virginialorthe1487
    @virginialorthe1487 6 місяців тому +1

    I’m 29 and only have a few months left. I’m child free and no man ! I work WHEN I want to cause I barely have any bills, I sleep, shop, going for my boating license next month ❤, I going on a trip at the end of the month

  • @TeriMYaki
    @TeriMYaki 6 місяців тому +8

    As a 33 year old childfree woman I enjoy caring for myself, I even gave my dog away because I got tired of the obligation and inconvenience . I enjoy doing what I want and I enjoy doing nothing when I want. However, I do give assistance to the single mothers in my life. I'm usually the one they come to if they need to borrow money, vent, babysit or have a good time. My money is strictly for me but I love children but I also enjoy peace and quiet.