I love this. It’s my third go round and I’m not feeling lost, broken or despondent. Just like a weight has been lifted. I didn’t recognize who I was with him anymore. It’s only been two weeks and I’m starting to feel really light again.
my ex husband lied about me on his death bed and caused relationship damage with me and my daughter. I can't believe he kicked me from his death bed and I wasn't even there. He's gone now, can't do any more but he left a haunting for me that will never go away.
I’m choosing that this is the final discard. I fully realize that blocking him everywhere means nothing. But the trauma bond is broken. He holds no power over me anymore. He can come back all he wants. I see him for what he is. Sad and broken.
I have never been roovered, and at first, for many, many years, I did not know anything about narcissists, not even from my narc husband of 10 years who tried to roover me for 12 years until he died. I am a Sigma Empath, and whenever you hurt me one time to many, I leave you and never look back again. I always go no contact and never break it. And I don't belong to anybody but myself. It's great that I have always been independent and can take care of myself, and I can not be addicted to anyone or anything. I get out and stay out. So I don't understand the dynamic of disengaging, engaging , getting roovered being put on the shelter , I don't understand any of it because I think long and hard before I leave with one way ticket. I am not a masochist.
Unfortunately I think I am about to be hoovered again- fourth time in 5 years. It tends to happen in January- and I feel sick thinking about it. The good news- I never answer the intercom- no matter how long he and she stand outside and buzz away at the intercom.... I am never tempted to open the door- but- it feels me with horror...
Even if my final, calm, controlled words of saying in my then ignorance of a covert narcissist "You are a coward, I do not ever wish to speak with you ever again with the way you have treated me. Coward". He was portraying the helpful victim at this moment. Unbelievable.
I left and went back more times than I can count. The last time I finally realized what he was. I guess I always knew but thought I could “fix” him. That if I loved him enough he would learn to love me, not just use me. I think he just wanted to win. Not cared whether I was there or not. It just had to be on his terms. Sad thing is I still love him I always will. But I’ll never see him or speak to him again. I have to do that for me. I won’t be a victim again
HG is right. At exactly 1 year of GOSO, I had the drive by Hoover, then somehow the spam notice must have ended on his email, hence receiving the Holiday email Hoover. As well as a text from his son. The torture never ends.
23:20 I never want the hope the narsisist will come back after the "final" discard. I have switched off my emotional thinking about the narsisist. The basic principle is that empaths sometimes don't have a hidden hope of the narsisist coming back in their lives. I even consider to rellcate to another part of the country where there is zero chance that I may walk into the narsisist in a shop. Except if the narsisist find out where I live and visit that area on purpose to try and hoover me.
12 yrs hoover free & plan to keep it that way. It’s about to get better as I’m moving to another state far away (due to life not him) & am now going to be unlisted because of information in these videos. Better safe than sorry. That bastard has done more than enough damage. I don’t care to ever cross paths with him again.
I changed vehicles, addresses, and my eyes stayed open for them. They would never see me again. Once I moved far away, they could never see me again. They are now gone from my life. What a relief.
Thank u for this video this is helping me to stay clear away from that wako is not a Nacr decide for me he discard me he will never get the chance to hoover me again muchless to get any fuel from me . I decide what is best for me and that wako can just think about me but cannot come near my house , my number, or any friends or family of mine
How about someone leave marriage after many years ( but everything was fine! We had plans and everything and she had no sighns) of personality disorder ) just from one day to another. Literally: like leave room and turn lights off and no coming back. No emotions no good bye no agression even. Just something " i don't need you anymore for anything"And she dissappear for 3.5 years avoiding clousure conversation.You don't know where is she and what is she doing? Complete stonewalling. No response for your mail appealing for potential divorce...No nothing...That put you in wright cognitive dysonance ( especially if you don't know person behaving like this ) . Quite opposite; nice warm " gentle soul" . Just if you start analysing you see passive aggressiveness behind modesty and " niceness "
He will never contact me even he said that I am his friend, he will never talk to me again, I haven’t blocked him, but I am 100% sure that he will never contact me, I am not scared of him
Thought the “final” discard would kill me. Turns out it set me free.
I love this. It’s my third go round and I’m not feeling lost, broken or despondent. Just like a weight has been lifted. I didn’t recognize who I was with him anymore. It’s only been two weeks and I’m starting to feel really light again.
Is there ever a final discard? Yes, if that discard is coming from Me.
I did it and never will I go back!!!
my ex husband lied about me on his death bed and caused relationship damage with me and my daughter. I can't believe he kicked me from his death bed and I wasn't even there. He's gone now, can't do any more but he left a haunting for me that will never go away.
I’m choosing that this is the final discard. I fully realize that blocking him everywhere means nothing. But the trauma bond is broken. He holds no power over me anymore. He can come back all he wants. I see him for what he is. Sad and broken.
He is much too proud to hoover me. Beneath him
I'm lucky. He knows he can't come back unless he's finally divorced. I have zero willpower, so this is a gift.
I have never been roovered, and at first, for many, many years, I did not know anything about narcissists, not even from my narc husband of 10 years who tried to roover me for 12 years until he died. I am a Sigma Empath, and whenever you hurt me one time to many, I leave you and never look back again. I always go no contact and never break it. And I don't belong to anybody but myself. It's great that I have always been independent and can take care of myself, and I can not be addicted to anyone or anything. I get out and stay out. So I don't understand the dynamic of disengaging, engaging , getting roovered being put on the shelter , I don't understand any of it because I think long and hard before I leave with one way ticket. I am not a masochist.
You mean hoover?
Unfortunately I think I am about to be hoovered again- fourth time in 5 years. It tends to happen in January- and I feel sick thinking about it.
The good news- I never answer the intercom- no matter how long he and she stand outside and buzz away at the intercom.... I am never tempted to open the door- but- it feels me with horror...
Even if my final, calm, controlled words of saying in my then ignorance of a covert narcissist "You are a coward, I do not ever wish to speak with you ever again with the way you have treated me. Coward". He was portraying the helpful victim at this moment. Unbelievable.
I left and went back more times than I can count. The last time I finally realized what he was. I guess I always knew but thought I could “fix” him. That if I loved him enough he would learn to love me, not just use me.
I think he just wanted to win. Not cared whether I was there or not. It just had to be on his terms.
Sad thing is I still love him I always will. But I’ll never see him or speak to him again. I have to do that for me. I won’t be a victim again
HG is right. At exactly 1 year of GOSO, I had the drive by Hoover, then somehow the spam notice must have ended on his email, hence receiving the Holiday email Hoover. As well as a text from his son. The torture never ends.
I needed to hear this. I will need to hear this again. And again. … … …
23:20 I never want the hope the narsisist will come back after the "final" discard. I have switched off my emotional thinking about the narsisist. The basic principle is that empaths sometimes don't have a hidden hope of the narsisist coming back in their lives. I even consider to rellcate to another part of the country where there is zero chance that I may walk into the narsisist in a shop. Except if the narsisist find out where I live and visit that area on purpose to try and hoover me.
12 yrs hoover free & plan to keep it that way. It’s about to get better as I’m moving to another state far away (due to life not him) & am now going to be unlisted because of information in these videos. Better safe than sorry. That bastard has done more than enough damage. I don’t care to ever cross paths with him again.
I changed vehicles, addresses, and my eyes stayed open for them. They would never see me again. Once I moved far away, they could never see me again. They are now gone from my life.
What a relief.
12 years & you are still obsessed? Perhaps you are the narcissistic one.
This video is terrifying.
Thank u for this video this is helping me to stay clear away from that wako is not a Nacr decide for me he discard me he will never get the chance to hoover me again muchless to get any fuel from me . I decide what is best for me and that wako can just think about me but cannot come near my house , my number, or any friends or family of mine
How about someone leave marriage after many years ( but everything was fine! We had plans and everything and she had no sighns) of personality disorder ) just from one day to another. Literally: like leave room and turn lights off and no coming back. No emotions no good bye no agression even. Just something " i don't need you anymore for anything"And she dissappear for 3.5 years avoiding clousure conversation.You don't know where is she and what is she doing? Complete stonewalling. No response for your mail appealing for potential divorce...No nothing...That put you in wright cognitive dysonance ( especially if you don't know person behaving like this ) . Quite opposite; nice warm " gentle soul" . Just if you start analysing you see passive aggressiveness behind modesty and " niceness "
🙏🏼✨👍🏼 (I guess it can’t be said enough, thanks)
He will never contact me even he said that I am his friend, he will never talk to me again, I haven’t blocked him, but I am 100% sure that he will never contact me, I am not scared of him
His son and I love him so much.
Whatup HG! HG in da Tudor houuuse. 😂 What to do with these narcs HG?
Tumble weed in the desert from me, bye bye. Jog on......
I WILL not let him back in
He recently tried and I stood strong.
Freedom has not felt so good ❤️. Stay strong and be on your side!!!