Two Autistic Teen Orphans (A Story of Resilience and Survival)

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  • Опубліковано 14 лют 2024
  • Melina and Deimos are both autistic teen orphans and siblings. After surviving a traumatic childhood, they both were diagnosed with multiple mental health disorders. Melina says, "I haven't been living, but only surviving my whole life." She hopes that others will be nice instead of calling her weird.
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  • @veryhotpocket
    @veryhotpocket 3 місяці тому +1053

    thank you for the interview 💜

    • @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids
      @SpecialBooksbySpecialKids  3 місяці тому +83

      It was great to meet you Deimos!

    • @C6lvxn
      @C6lvxn 3 місяці тому +38

      Hi Deimos, I'm Calvin. I am 19 and autistic! I feel so empathetic towards you, I just want you to know there is another teenager out there struggling with autism, and the trauma of growing up undiagnosed autistic. I wish nothing but the best for you. Your friend, Calvin.

    • @breathdontforgettobreath9839
      @breathdontforgettobreath9839 2 місяці тому +16

      I'm so grateful for you both speaking about everything. Thank you. You helped me alot.

    • @Merusclaws
      @Merusclaws 2 місяці тому +16

      You’re amazing, brought tears to my eyes, I feel so much of your pain. I’d love to be your friend, keep going, you’re meant to be here🖤

    • @Dollbaby630
      @Dollbaby630 2 місяці тому +6

      Subbed to you girl. Make videos. Raise awareness. U r beautiful ❤

  • @crmelly
    @crmelly 3 місяці тому +4760

    thank you so much for interviewing me!!! it means so much to me

    • @gemmadirenna7712
      @gemmadirenna7712 3 місяці тому +166

      Best wishes to you and your sibling ❤ thank you for sharing your story, it taught me a lot and helped me empathize with your struggles. Sending love to you both!

    • @debbieschultz9768
      @debbieschultz9768 3 місяці тому +89

      I’m so glad I got to meet you on this video. I think you are beautiful inside and out and my wish is that you have a life full of love and happiness❤❤

    • @buppy.
      @buppy. 3 місяці тому +60

      MELLLL hii its finn!!! im so proud of u for this interview

    • @carinashero1215
      @carinashero1215 3 місяці тому +52

      Thank you so much for sharing your story with us! Wrapping you in so much love ❤️🫂❤️

    • @xdani_thethinkingneko
      @xdani_thethinkingneko 3 місяці тому +38

      I’m not sure if my first comment posted -
      Both of your stories are truly impactful. You speaking out like this is so important. I’m honestly crying right now, because I see so much of myself and you. Especially my younger self ( I’m 28). You are both so bright, and clearly sweet. (Plus you like cat boys and beastars so you’re good in my book 😝)
      I hope you can truly heal.
      Don’t give up the good fight! A book that helps me even as an adult, is the little train that could. Maybe it would help you both 💗 it is silly like that really struggling and it does actually help ( in combination with other supports of course) best of luck 💗

  • @beautiful_israelite_princess
    @beautiful_israelite_princess 3 місяці тому +2510

    Oh my god when she said "Instead of living I've been surviving for most of my life" I felt that DEEP in my soul.. Jesus

    • @CrisOnTheInternet
      @CrisOnTheInternet 3 місяці тому +36

      That crushed me 😭

    • @13lueBomber
      @13lueBomber 3 місяці тому +33

      That’s life, simply just trying to survive, day after day, day in and day out, *repeat.* ♾️

    • @bel7903
      @bel7903 3 місяці тому +7

      Me too💔💙💔

    • @JessicaBeschizza
      @JessicaBeschizza 3 місяці тому +15

      Same! Sat here crying 3 seconds into the video 😢😅

    • @bearbro10
      @bearbro10 3 місяці тому +6

      ​@13lueBomber well that ain't all of it

  • @aurorarockman9389
    @aurorarockman9389 3 місяці тому +653

    I’m really struck by the body language at 30:00. They looked a bit nervous and tense earlier in the video, but you can just see the sense of relief and love and support that they feel now that their uncle’s there. What a wonderful guy.

    • @laurenm9203
      @laurenm9203 3 місяці тому +23

      I noticed this too. Also when the dog came over 💕

    • @DoABarellJo
      @DoABarellJo 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesus1wtf does that have to do with this conversation?

    • @Tomluke5823
      @Tomluke5823 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@DoABarellJoits prolly a bot

    • @lewando7687
      @lewando7687 Місяць тому +6

      his deep voice is proably vibrating through the room. i feel calmer listening to him 😁

    • @Jonion-onion
      @Jonion-onion 28 днів тому +3

      I love how you can see him turn his head to make sure he can hear what they are talking about. He wants to make sure that they know they are being heard.

  • @mementomori7266
    @mementomori7266 3 місяці тому +617

    "Even if you've been through the ugly, you can make it beautiful." What a wonderful message!

    • @cosmic_kysf
      @cosmic_kysf 3 місяці тому +3

      Ok

    • @Milkytears222
      @Milkytears222 2 місяці тому +5

      @@cosmic_kysfwhat’s wrong with you

    • @lightingthedarkremoteviewi8086
      @lightingthedarkremoteviewi8086 2 місяці тому +6

      They are very lucky they have each other and some support. Some never get that despite trying to get it over and over.

  • @Deetroiter
    @Deetroiter 3 місяці тому +1069

    I don't know if they'll ever see my comments but I want them to know that they are so extremely strong and resilient. We all are grateful for you sharing your stories with us. Again, you two are so amazingly strong ❤

    • @biglovebetterworldbetteryou
      @biglovebetterworldbetteryou 3 місяці тому +20

      They say its the thought that counts ! Well it does !

    • @montauk081
      @montauk081 3 місяці тому +12

      ​@@biglovebetterworldbetteryou ♥️🥹that's the nicest reply to this beautiful comment

    • @frederiquebarretteletourne7719
      @frederiquebarretteletourne7719 3 місяці тому

      😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝😝

    • @cosmic_kysf
      @cosmic_kysf 3 місяці тому +1

      😂😂

    • @Melancholian
      @Melancholian 3 місяці тому +3

      @@Repent-and-believe-in-Jesus1 as an autist I agree

  • @ANG3L0FM3RCY
    @ANG3L0FM3RCY 3 місяці тому +643

    The dog bark and then "bro!" was so funny. I really wish these two beautiful people love and healing.

    • @Meeeesje
      @Meeeesje 3 місяці тому +19

      I'm always sad there aren't (more) questions about the pets. 😂 This was another cutie!

    • @only900more2go
      @only900more2go 2 місяці тому +6

      The tension was so high with the tragic back story and then the pup just cuts it with the bark and then starts snorting into the cushions ignoring Deimos' spotlight. I have experienced similar when I tell my own intense stories and then something totally random and innocent just interrupts. It's irritating that it distracts you but also is so funny and helps sometimes too.

    • @Elijah42069
      @Elijah42069 2 місяці тому

      its like you are surprised that something normal can happen to these people hahaha

    • @camaleonsacor1618
      @camaleonsacor1618 2 місяці тому

      @@only900more2go but maybe now I read you again and you were saying that you got distracted when you are the one talking haha. My bad is that is the case. Well she wasnt distracted tho xD

  • @MoxyVerve
    @MoxyVerve 3 місяці тому +950

    You both deserve a mom whom knows their MOST important role is to:
    1. Protect
    2. Guide
    3. Love UNCONDITIONALLY .
    I would be so proud to have children as brave and courageous as you both!

    • @spaztor7723
      @spaztor7723 3 місяці тому +34

      and a father

    • @moralebooster8437
      @moralebooster8437 3 місяці тому +6

      Beautiful 💛

    • @pianoreigns
      @pianoreigns 3 місяці тому +8

      Or a DAD

    • @juliansearcie1758
      @juliansearcie1758 3 місяці тому +5

      Nah they need a father we protect and lead with love and truth not delusion

    • @michaelatopalov1990
      @michaelatopalov1990 3 місяці тому +8

      Thanks for sharing your brave stories. You both are obviously beautiful inside and out, very intelligent, and growing healthier everyday. I send my hugs to you both! I am so sorry that people have hurt you by making fun of you. You have come so far, just don’t give upon your lives. God will use this pain in your lives to help others!

  • @muslimah42
    @muslimah42 3 місяці тому +495

    Melina I’m a mom of a little autistic boy❤ you aren’t weird ! You look and sound lovely with a beautiful pure and intelligent soul !
    I’ve went through a lot in my childhood and that’s why my biggest dream in life was to give my kids the best and most loving life possible. My biological mother had biopolar too with istrionic personality, and I went through a lot of abuse. I want you to know that it is possible to have a beautiful life full of people that love you and embrace everything about you even your hard past. ❤

  • @MissBdmay
    @MissBdmay 2 місяці тому +35

    Hearing her mom say she didnt like her... Sweetheart, you did nothing wrong. All you wanted was your moms love. Its NOT YOUR FAULT that your mother treated you terribly. Not even a little bit. I so hope you girls are doing well. And have someone you can turn to that cares about you.

  • @annaautuori567
    @annaautuori567 3 місяці тому +209

    I was called weird for as long as I can remember. As I became a teen, I began to embrace the word proudly. I'm 67 now and still proudly wave my "weird" flag but now I call it unique.
    I think you both are beautiful! I'm so sorry for what you went through.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 місяці тому +1

      Me too. I am 48 and I like being different.

  • @buppy.
    @buppy. 3 місяці тому +617

    deimos and mel, its finn. I just have to say how proud i am of the both of you and how much i dearly treasure our friendships. i know i dont talk to you both as much as i used to but im so glad you are people i know!! thank you sbsk for giving them the space to talk about their stories, as they are genuinely some of the bravest people ive ever known

    • @oodlesofaxolootls3655
      @oodlesofaxolootls3655 3 місяці тому +41

      I'm so glad you know them, I really hope they see this! Maybe reach out to them and tell them you are proud of them to tell their story ❤ I really hope they know how much this helped me

    • @heatherphelps7379
      @heatherphelps7379 3 місяці тому +21

      They should see this. One of them responded with a comment up above! That's wonderful that you know them. Great and such strong individuals

    • @bigsharon7263
      @bigsharon7263 3 місяці тому +19

      hi finn! its me, your girlfriend, i love you

    • @biglovebetterworldbetteryou
      @biglovebetterworldbetteryou 3 місяці тому

      Holographic Kinetics ~ ( Aboriginal Healing )@@oodlesofaxolootls3655

    • @buppy.
      @buppy. 3 місяці тому +1

      @@bigsharon7263 hehe love you too babe

  • @tamarblackburn4312
    @tamarblackburn4312 3 місяці тому +127

    Stories like this are why I want to be a foster parent, just to be able to give people a safe home where they don’t feel judged. Thank you for sharing.

    • @yeralmuzika
      @yeralmuzika 3 місяці тому +12

      I feel the same way. I can't have kids because of personal conditions but always thought of adopting or fostering.... there's so many kids out there that deserve better homes ❤

    • @gabriellarossi5925
      @gabriellarossi5925 3 місяці тому +8

      Same here! I've always wanted to adopt children ever since the time I came to know about it. There are just so many kids out there lacking homes, love, guidance, security. Even though I believe I can have children, I hesitate about having my own biologically and depriving another one already out there of what I could give them that others won't/can't.

  • @robotv8707
    @robotv8707 3 місяці тому +42

    I hope these girls understand that they aren't alone. Women with autism being overlooked is extremely common and has been for a long time. Both of you are so honest and kind, thank you for sharing your experiences.

  • @jillwatkins78
    @jillwatkins78 3 місяці тому +267

    Only have way through the video and I’m amazed at the intelligence of these girls! I’m Jases Mom from the last video and Chris went to see these sweet girls right after leaving our home. He didn’t tell us anything about who he was seeing but we prayed over his trip and who he would be interviewing. These girls have had a hard life so far but I can tell they will do great things!

    • @NorahLovesGod
      @NorahLovesGod 3 місяці тому +11

      You are a great mom and person God Bless

    • @TomHutchinson5
      @TomHutchinson5 3 місяці тому +14

      Ma'am, you're a good mom, raising a good kid with love. It must be hard to protect him. I think you are right about these two. Bright futures ahead.

    • @TomHutchinson5
      @TomHutchinson5 3 місяці тому +9

      ps grandma is a real gem

  • @GinnyRamone
    @GinnyRamone 3 місяці тому +316

    So I've been sitting here for, like, almost 20 minutes trying to coalesce my thoughts and emotions into something that could be reasonably articulate. I'm also autistic and I have epilepsy, so there are a number of videos on this channel that I deeply resonate with, and as I've gotten older, most of these videos make me wish I could jump through my screen and hold these kids and be, I guess, a "mom friend" to them. I was deeply touched by the story of a couple girls, Haley and Ellie, who SBSK interviewed a few years ago, but this video really hit me on a profound level.
    As I was watching, my first thought was along the lines of, please, Adonai, let these two be in a safe and healthy place, so I am so happy that they have Michael and indeed appear to be safe and loved.
    Melina and Deimos, I hope you don't mind me saying so as a complete stranger, but I just want to say how incredibly proud I am of both of you. You've experienced so much pain and trauma, and that just isn't fair and you never deserved that, but you did survive, and you are clearly growing up into strong, smart, and compassionate young people, and I hope you can take some pride in that, and above all else, I hope that your future surrounds all of you with so much love, safety and support, because you both deserve nothing less.

    • @pinlight97
      @pinlight97 3 місяці тому +13

      Well said! As a mom I completely agree.

  • @Periwinkle184
    @Periwinkle184 3 місяці тому +107

    Their childhood is a lot like mine. I'm not autistic though but I also started therapy recently. So far I'm diagnosed with depression, anxiety and PTSD and ADHD. Im happy I'm not alone in the world.

  • @minervagalvez4748
    @minervagalvez4748 3 місяці тому +38

    THE TRAUMAS ARE SO VISBLE FOR THEM ESPECIALLY THE TREMBLING OF HOW SCARED THEY ARE AND THE HURT THEY ENDURED BY THEIR PARENTS/FOSTER PARENTS.

  • @user-ug1gm7vb8u
    @user-ug1gm7vb8u 3 місяці тому +160

    Both are extremely intelligent and they are articulate. Im glad they have each other.

  • @kassi4837
    @kassi4837 3 місяці тому +49

    I feel like Borderline is a personality disorder that stems from not having consistent and stable emotional connection and guidance during critical periods of childhood development. It sounds like a form of attachment trauma.
    Also, at the end, when she says, even if you’ve been through the ugly, you can make it beautiful .. I love that so much. And yes fellow Autistics and such need to hear that. It’s ridiculously hard to navigate life and social situations with mental health conditions and it’s so important to be encouraged by others and the community.
    I’m so glad these brilliant ladies have their uncle to finally love them like they deserve.

    • @ReineDeLaSeine14
      @ReineDeLaSeine14 3 місяці тому +5

      BPD does come along with insecure attachment and can come from early childhood abandonment.

  • @AA-cm3pd
    @AA-cm3pd 3 місяці тому +109

    They're incredible and did not deserve their childhoods... I'm so glad they have their uncle now.

  • @kaheivi
    @kaheivi 3 місяці тому +300

    i was diagnosed with autism at 17 and it felt like a weight lifted off of my shoulders. everything made sense for once. im so glad they find support in each other.

    • @sbocaj22
      @sbocaj22 3 місяці тому +23

      I figured out my autism at 21-22. And got my diagnosis at 23. I’m almost 25 now and felt the same way when I discovered my autism. Literally felt like someone took a big heavy rock filled pack off my shoulders. Suddenly eveything made else. Everything I spent my whole life trying to figure out finally had an answer. I’m so glad you were also able to experience this

    • @phoenixc7245
      @phoenixc7245 3 місяці тому

      I figured out I'm autistic at 15-16. I'm 17 now and I still don't have that diagnosis even though I got tested. Everyone I know thinks I have autism ​@sbocaj22

    • @Adrielle.
      @Adrielle. 3 місяці тому

      @@cosmic_kysf Me :)

    • @Adrielle.
      @Adrielle. 3 місяці тому +9

      @@cosmic_kysf
      Do you want attention?

    • @cosmic_kysf
      @cosmic_kysf 3 місяці тому

      @@Adrielle. obviously

  • @tarynelise225
    @tarynelise225 3 місяці тому +43

    A few years ago I left a comment saying you inspired me to work with individuals that have developmental disabilities. I now work in a day home doing just that. Thank you for all the positive work you are doing and showing others respect, compassion, and empathy.

  • @morganbudreau8957
    @morganbudreau8957 3 місяці тому +172

    These teens are so resilient. I have a dear friend who is autistic and a trauma survivor, so I know in a way how hard simply living can be. They need friends to have their backs.

    • @kaylakain6039
      @kaylakain6039 2 місяці тому +1

      This doesn’t have anything to do with autism

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 місяці тому

      ​@@kaylakain6039 I have autism and PTSD. They are showing the PTSD side more in this interview but that doesn't mean that they don't have autism as well.

    • @catonyoutoob
      @catonyoutoob Місяць тому +3

      @@kaylakain6039 Autism plays a huge role in their story, their challenges, and even the lens through which they view and navigate the world. Saying this has nothing to do with autism is just ignorant. Being autistic comes with a unique set of struggles that are debilitating in their own right, and autistic people are significantly more likely to have complex trauma and other mental health problems.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 6 днів тому

      @@crmelly ?? How am I downplaying your autism?

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 6 днів тому

      @@crmelly ?? I think you have the wrong person. I didn't even make a comment to you.

  • @spiralghosts
    @spiralghosts 3 місяці тому +283

    I feel like a lot of teens with a similar story and diagnoses to Melina and Deimos tend to get the "faker" treatment online, simply because of their age or gender or physical appearance. Glad to see them on here so people can see it's not so unbelievable. :) Wishing all the best to them.

    • @ALGARIC
      @ALGARIC 3 місяці тому +5

      Wdym faker treatment?

    • @aaausername
      @aaausername 3 місяці тому +39

      @@ALGARIC people telling you don't have those disorders based of a 20 second video they see of you online.

  • @sophaloph1129
    @sophaloph1129 3 місяці тому +55

    not even a minute in and I’m sobbing. I was expecting to hear someone else’s story, not reflecting on mine! So heartbreaking people have gone through what I have and worse, no one deserves that!

  • @Mithraschosen
    @Mithraschosen 3 місяці тому +52

    I really want to give them a hug.

    • @ambry99
      @ambry99 3 місяці тому +9

      I was just thinking the same thing. They deserved so much better.

    • @margodphd
      @margodphd 19 днів тому

      Same. I hope their future makes up for the past.

  • @ZombieLynn
    @ZombieLynn 3 місяці тому +101

    Melina, you are going to be an incredible social worker. I am so serious when I say the field needs people like you. I can tell you're going to help so many people, regardless of where you go in life.
    thank you so much to both of you for being so honest, vulnerable, and open about yourselves and your lives. you're right, no one is alone in their adversity.

  • @mbb-gl7tv
    @mbb-gl7tv 3 місяці тому +57

    As an adoptive mom and mom of triplets (one autistic) I just wanted to say never have I seen such brave, beautiful and much more mature than many teens I know then these two. You all are amazing and strong and I pray that all the pain you had to go through (is turning to strength and you all find the happiness and joy you deserve.

  • @Jakowergo
    @Jakowergo 3 місяці тому +84

    As someone with bpd and childhood trauma...this was really uplifting. Wish both Melina and Deimos the best in life.

  • @kathyjohnson2043
    @kathyjohnson2043 3 місяці тому +112

    Michael, thank you for stepping up to be their support! It wasn't something you had to do or would have been expected to do. I hope learning about you will inspire others to do the same.

  • @freila8156
    @freila8156 3 місяці тому +27

    From what I remember reading, DID is a very misunderstood disorder thanks to movies/books portraying it wrongly. To develop it, a person needs to repeatedly go through traumatic events in their early childhood, which the second sibling seems to point out. That's probably why it's so rare. I don't think I've ever seen any awareness campaign about it like there's for Bipolar Disorder. Borderline is also more unknown by the average person, but it doesn't have the misconception DID has. I hope they meet more people willing to understand them. I feel like it's very brave of those two to show their vulnerability online.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 місяці тому +4

      That is because psychiatrists and psychologists are still fighting about whether it is an actual disorder and how to treat it.

    • @fungustheclown666
      @fungustheclown666 28 днів тому +1

      ​@@Catlily5 I mean, people experiences prove it to be an actual disorder. Some psychologists will always be a devils advocate

  • @qoooooooq
    @qoooooooq 3 місяці тому +24

    Autism in girls and women will always be overlooked. Im sorry you two had to go through of this.

    • @fungustheclown666
      @fungustheclown666 28 днів тому +4

      Hopefully not always!! If we keep spreading information and experiences we can change the world

    • @AgnesBalla9602
      @AgnesBalla9602 8 днів тому

      I hope things will change. But it is soo sad that even medical professionals don’t believe that a girl has autism. They are misdiagnosed and given psych meds. But if it is a boy.. totally different story

  • @zzzaaannnn
    @zzzaaannnn 3 місяці тому +58

    i think this is one of my favorite sbsk videos ever

    • @CheyennePwns
      @CheyennePwns 3 місяці тому +5

      It was mine too 🤍 inspired.

  • @ajsmellypiratehooker1019
    @ajsmellypiratehooker1019 3 місяці тому +30

    My chosen sister has DID. When I first thought about it, it freaked me out until I realized they are ALL her. Her "system" is vast and it helped her survive horrible things in childhood that most of us can't even fathom. The problem is that alters persist past the traumatic situation, and can negatively impact life. She is not interested in changing anything-- why would she, when these alters helped her survive? They are a detriment now and I wish things were different. 😢

    • @deconstructeddissonance
      @deconstructeddissonance 2 місяці тому +2

      as someone who has did, you can't really change anything. there's no way to really make them go away, even with therapy and medication. you can figure out ways to deal with more harmful alters, sure, but you can't manually make them go dormant at all. ihope both you and your sister can find peace, did can be really hard to live with.

  • @Nonethelessersoulcoin
    @Nonethelessersoulcoin 3 місяці тому +19

    Melina's quote at the end "Psychology is biology" really sticked with me. That is an amazing way to think of it and it is absolutely true. We all need to be a little more empathetic, something I am trying to practice day to day! Thank you Melina and Deimos for sharing

  • @rumham7466
    @rumham7466 3 місяці тому +61

    I’m glad they talked about DID. Over the years I’ve learned so much about it. I find it so fascinating just what the brain is capable of. It’s devastating and sad by its cause. But I am interested in how the brain operates in survival.

  • @cherrystarlights
    @cherrystarlights 3 місяці тому +82

    im 17 and have several disorders melina and deimos have and a bad family situation, so this video brought me a lot of comfort. thank you so much for this interview both of you, it really did make me feel like im not alone. i hope both of you have a wonderful day!!!!!!!

  • @claras-it8bl
    @claras-it8bl 3 місяці тому +18

    I wish you could interview my uncle. He is 39 and living with his parents. He was born 28 weeks permutation. He is severely disabled but a Musical genius. He has cerebral palsy and we were told he Whould never communicate. He stared singing, than talking.he also has atisam, diebits, brain lesoers. He has seizures. And fetal achol syndrome. His parents died soon after he was born. He has been though a lot but he is truly an amazing person.

    • @amdonut8091
      @amdonut8091 3 місяці тому +1

      I think they have someway to contact them at the end of the video or their website. Check out their description or something

  • @sarahsmiles3271
    @sarahsmiles3271 3 місяці тому +49

    These sisters are smarter than most. Very intelligent with pure hearts. ❤

  • @balaam_7087
    @balaam_7087 3 місяці тому +90

    This is powerful stuff. Took great courage for the two of you to speak so openly about this type of trauma. That’s a position of strength, and something no one can steal or take away from you. Keep seeking out these kind hearted, righteously motivated individuals like Chris here to tell your stories to and there is no limit to the good you can accomplish.

  • @pekeninu
    @pekeninu 3 місяці тому +45

    "Even if you've been through the ugly, you can make it beautiful!" - That's problably the most inspiring sentence i've ever heard.
    Thank you fot that Melina! YOU ARE INSPIRING!😊

  • @colinkrulz
    @colinkrulz 3 місяці тому +21

    I love how despite everything they have been through, you can just tell how relaxed they both were whenever Michael was sitting on the couch with them. Props to him for stepping up and being the father figure they deserve! ❤

  • @begentlebutdontallowshit2549
    @begentlebutdontallowshit2549 3 місяці тому +22

    I am autistic myself and I truly get her. To whoever is reading this and might struggle rn for whatever reason, please keep going, you're doing fine! No matter how slow your progress, each new week is filled with tiny steps forward. Be proud of yourself you got this! It’s worth hanging in there, it truly is. Stay strong kind strangers!❤

  • @gemmadirenna7712
    @gemmadirenna7712 3 місяці тому +65

    These two siblings seem like such lovely and kind people, so interesting and fun to talk to. It’s so easy to understand them; they articulate their feelings very clearly and it is easy to empathize with their struggles. I loved hearing their stories and wish the very best for both of them ❤ I would love to be their friend for sure!

  • @xdani_thethinkingneko
    @xdani_thethinkingneko 3 місяці тому +47

    5:47
    Really breaks my heart that just because they had lower support needs than there brother. Clearly the specialist was not doing their job correctly. Especially because they are triplets, you would think they would’ve gotten the girls tested just to be sure. My heart is really breaking for these girls, especially the part where one of them was getting nervous and wanted to restart. You can see how much they’ve been through 😓💗
    Hopefully now that they have a proper diagnosis, they will get the help and support they need to thrive. After everything that they’ve been through that’s the least they deserve.
    If you girls happen to see this, best of luck. You both seem very bright and kind. I truly see a bright future ahead of you. I know it may sound silly too, but a book that really helps me even though I’m 28 is , the little train that could. Maybe it’ll help you ?💗

  • @mabel6261
    @mabel6261 3 місяці тому +27

    "the neuropath ways in my brain felt different" oh my god ive been saying the same exact thing for years & nobody ever understood what i was saying but i feel like melina does ❤ wow. that one sentence was so validating to me in so many ways. just to know other people have that thought & maybe they're experiencing the same thing as me makes me want to cry with relief. both of these girls are so beautiful inside & out thank you for having them on your channel chris & thank you both for sharing some of your experiences with us ❤❤

  • @ashleycook300
    @ashleycook300 3 місяці тому +16

    That image of them both curled up with their cousin and he has his arms open to them, and they are both just basking in the safety and warmth of his presence is so beautiful to me. You can clearly see how happy they are to be loved and cherished the way they deserve to be! 💖
    You are both so brave! Thank you both for talking about such hard things! Your messages are beautiful! And I love your style Melina! Your outfit looked great! 👍👍

  • @icare6076
    @icare6076 3 місяці тому +55

    Wow. This interview touched my heart profoundly. The emotional strength and capacity in these two young people is amazing. Both intelligent and articulate and self-aware. I wish all the best for them, and I do believe that by sharing their stories they have helped this world. ❤

  • @BoldWarrior78
    @BoldWarrior78 Місяць тому +5

    These two amazing young women prove that it's not their autism and other condition's that disable them. It's the world and people's attitudes towards them that does that. They are unique and talented people and will do well with the right environment and support. Also, they're incredibly courageous in sharing their story and are a great inspiration. Thank you Melina and Deimos!

  • @ilovegeenadavis
    @ilovegeenadavis 29 днів тому +2

    This is genuinely the most relatable and heartbreaking story, I hope we find peace in this lifetime.

  • @joaovictoripiraja761
    @joaovictoripiraja761 3 місяці тому +22

    I've always had a difficult life being autistic even though I have several privileges: money in Brazil and parents present. Seeing this other perspective of the two sisters, I was impressed by how much repertoire they developed on this journey and how desperate they seemed. They don't deserve this. These kinds of stories inspire me to push through so many simple things in daily neurotypical life. Its so exhausting that sometimes i consider to give up. Girls, thank you so much for being so strong in telling your story

  • @ChenkoTheDog
    @ChenkoTheDog 3 місяці тому +44

    oh my goodness 30 seconds in and my heart is already saddened. You are not alone.

  • @winstonchurchll
    @winstonchurchll 3 місяці тому +68

    I'm here because I want to understand what you're feeling and going through. You're helping me to understand better how to be a friend and help others. Thank you for being brave and sharing your story with us.

  • @proverbialwhatever
    @proverbialwhatever 3 місяці тому +19

    Melina and Deimos are so eloquent and well-describing of their experiences and conditions. So insightful!

  • @byefelicia7358
    @byefelicia7358 3 місяці тому +24

    Holy cow, I’m barely into this! My heart is breaking for them. SBSK has traversed into the territory usually reserved for hard hitting investigative reporters. Thank you for this intimate slice of life from a great place of love and kindness. Society has failed our children. We can do so much better.

  • @biddiemutter3481
    @biddiemutter3481 3 місяці тому +6

    To the twins: thank you for sharing your experiences. You didn't deserve the childhood you had and you are very brave to share.
    I'm glad your relative found you .

  • @lululee1653
    @lululee1653 3 місяці тому +12

    I’m so relieved that they have an adult helping them ❤

  • @sugarzblossom8168
    @sugarzblossom8168 3 місяці тому +36

    I understand her happiness. The way he interacts with people is great he can make friends with nearly anyone no matter how different from the norm people consider them.
    I hope this channel brings people even a bit of comfort.

  • @renroxhrd
    @renroxhrd 3 місяці тому +12

    These girls sound so much like me when I was in high school. I was diagnosed with aspergers/autism as a child but my mom kept it from me until recently. I was bullied in school, had low self esteem. Home life was stable but a lot of abuse, trauma. I have a lot of the same disorders they do (anxiety, depression with dissociation, PTSD, signs of BPD). I don't have DID but I feel like I have different voices in my head/personalities. I am in school to be a counselor now for these reasons. Good luck to both of these people.

  • @nerdcave0
    @nerdcave0 3 місяці тому +8

    Such amazing people. The lack of guidance and trauma they describe is so deeply unfair, nobody chooses to be born into these circumstances. And yet, they've still managed to find their way onto a better path forward. Wish them much success and an easier life.

  • @monicadiazrivera3907
    @monicadiazrivera3907 3 місяці тому +10

    These kids deserved so much more. Makes me feel guilty I had a whole family, super protected and loved. This mom should have had these kids taken away. So sorry girls.

  • @LittleTFam
    @LittleTFam 3 місяці тому +19

    I feel so inspired to see this! What a wonderful man to step in and take care of his cousin's kids.

  • @KoreanJindoVlad
    @KoreanJindoVlad 3 місяці тому +17

    I found these young women to be delightful, beautiful, and intelligent. Thank you for sharing your story.

  • @maccart67
    @maccart67 3 місяці тому +29

    Hi Melina and Deimos, wishing you all the very best. You are both beautiful! Hugs and peace to all including Michael. 🌻🇦🇺.

  • @Rose11485
    @Rose11485 3 місяці тому +5

    i was glued. These siblings are so beautiful, captivating, and articulate! wow! their phrasing of things is extremely relatable.

  • @lapinamoric
    @lapinamoric 3 місяці тому +13

    one important thing to note is that the terminology of "favorite person" is an online term ! it stems from online circles, and as such, medical professionals may not understand / may overlook it. i think if you are a borderline persomn struggling with having a "favorite person" then it is so so important to not use terms that dull the impact of what it is - obsessive behaviour. take a step back and take care of yourself, so so much love from another autistic borderline with DID

    • @CHLOCHLOLP
      @CHLOCHLOLP 25 днів тому

      During my time in dialectical behavior therapy that term was used, but the therapist specialized in thay type of therapy which is common to treat BPD so maybe more generalized therapists wouldnt be aware of it. But i agree with your point that you shouldnt minimize the behavior just because the term doesnt sound very negative. Obsessing over people and putting so much pressure on them ruins relationships. You can easily end up hurting the people you care most about.

  • @Brycesaggiebabe
    @Brycesaggiebabe 3 місяці тому +22

    You two did an amazing job describing yourselves. Thank you for being so open and sharing.

  • @Mina-px3zb
    @Mina-px3zb 3 місяці тому +15

    Big hugs and love to Melinda and Deimos. You two are definitely not alone. There are kind people out there. We love you. I love you. Keep going and shine bright like the resilient diamonds that you are. Sending you hugs

  • @albertoponcemusic
    @albertoponcemusic 3 місяці тому +16

    God bless them, they have struggled so much unnecessarily, they are who they are and should feel comfortable being themselves 🙏❤️🫶

  • @Wolfstar26
    @Wolfstar26 3 місяці тому +6

    wow, i admire these two kids so much, i'm so happy they were able to find a parental figure later in life.

  • @CheyennePwns
    @CheyennePwns 3 місяці тому +10

    This was one of my favorite SBSK episodes to date. Mel and Deimos, your light is absolutely infectious.
    Your story, courage and love truly moved me. You two are capable of anything you put your mind to.
    Keep being you. Keep spreading your light.

  • @mellynn277
    @mellynn277 3 місяці тому +38

    This is one of my favorite SBSK videos. I am so inspired and uplifted by the stories of these young women. What warriors and survivors. What a wonderful uncle to come along side them and take care of them. Thank you all for sharing your stories. You are cared for by all of us.

  • @jas_bataille
    @jas_bataille 3 місяці тому +8

    I'm 27 years old, I'm autistic + ADHD and a cancer survivor. I have sleeping pills, Aderall, anti-anxiolitics, and painkillers. Fro 20 years I had no pain medication, none whatsoever. The pain I lived with was around 7/10 everyday. It still is regularly. I had a therapist who said to me I was tough to walk without complaining, and I can workout extremely hard - much more than average - if I really want to (depression gets in the way of that) and I'm very physical. I learned to never, ever told anyone. To be as quiet and stoic over what people can imagine is even possible. One of my friend realized how much pain I live with, she's an athlete and trainer, and she said, even I have no idea how much pain you have and I was crying when I realized it. To this day people mock me and tell me regularly that I don't know what real pain is. When I was 8 I took 6 needle shots through my right knee bone with no analgesic. I am in so much pain that if I slip and fall, I will feel better because of the adrenaline. Some people will not believe me and I don't care.
    Thanks for all this. Hope to be on the show someday! :)(

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 місяці тому +1

      Sorry you are in so much pain.

    • @mitch5222
      @mitch5222 5 днів тому

      I am in pain everyday for 12 years. It is exausting. I am disabled. I dont take any pill anymore cos made my body even worst. Anxiety, depression everyday. Ppl tell me same thing about pain.

  • @karengilburg3196
    @karengilburg3196 2 місяці тому +3

    All those disorders are most likely from the way they have been treated there whole life! When they don’t get loved it totally affects you! I wish I could hug these adorable children!

  • @prashant381
    @prashant381 3 місяці тому +12

    We understand. People laugh at us too. All of us laugh at all of us. And that is our "normal" behavior. If we are normal by any stretch of imagination and still don't have the guts to pour our heart like you have done - that tells you that we are struggling bad and listening to your story to get inspired ! And you have each other to lean on for all the advice in the world ❤

  • @romeosantos3261
    @romeosantos3261 3 місяці тому +13

    These are brave and strong souls!!

  • @nancykahn4125
    @nancykahn4125 3 місяці тому +8

    You both are so intelligent,articulate,and self-aware. You have been through so much, but you have so much potential for the future. You also have each other.

  • @4SherylB
    @4SherylB 3 місяці тому +22

    These two girls are intelligent and well spoken. Cute as well. You go girls, and be you. You're as special and valuable as anyone.

  • @katharine5606
    @katharine5606 3 місяці тому +15

    Thank you so much for sharing, Melina and Deimos. You sure have experienced a lot in your lives. It's great that you are close to each other and now have Michael for support. I wish you both the best going forward. 🧡

  • @fandoms5ever
    @fandoms5ever 3 місяці тому +4

    They’re both so pretty and unique. Like they could be stars on a TV series.

  • @inputoutput3539
    @inputoutput3539 3 місяці тому +12

    This was such a good insightful and personal interview… it felt different…. Peace and love to these two young ladies 🫶🏽🌻☺️

  • @realcanadiangirl64
    @realcanadiangirl64 3 місяці тому +3

    As a mother my heart broke hearing these girls stories. I would be proud to call these two girls my daughters ❤

  • @FurryToraChan
    @FurryToraChan 3 місяці тому +9

    Melina and Deimos.. you are both amazing people

  • @SoliRhymesWithJulie
    @SoliRhymesWithJulie 3 місяці тому +11

    Melina and Deimos, my heart goes out to you. No one should have to go through even one iota of what you have experienced. I have ADHD myself, and a significant portion of my friends are neurodiverse, or have mental illness, or chronic illness. (Even two friends with DID) You're not alone and I know there are so many people who will be elated to have you in their lives.

  • @leannejones7080
    @leannejones7080 3 місяці тому +5

    Wow…. My 23yr old daughter has ASD, BPD and CPTSD, she’s currently residing in a MH hospital on a section. Her way of coping is slf harm, her arms, legs, forehead and worst of all slitting her own throat….. 11 x in 12 months. She’s a beautiful human being but loves to care for others but not herself. As a mum it’s heartbreaking and all I can do is pray she stays alive. I hope these ladies continue support each other xxxx 🇬🇧

    • @Hwgt888
      @Hwgt888 3 місяці тому +3

      Yeah you let someone touch your kid clearly

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 місяці тому

      ​@@Hwgt888You don't know that.

    • @Catlily5
      @Catlily5 2 місяці тому +1

      ​@@Hwgt888I know a lot of abused people. Sometimes the mom let it happen sometimes they didn't.

    • @reallyradrabbit
      @reallyradrabbit 2 місяці тому +1

      @@Hwgt888what????????? literally what is wrong with you

  • @momof2momof2
    @momof2momof2 3 місяці тому +12

    For all these lovely young ladies have been through, they are so well spoken, kind and so aware of themselves. God Bless them in all they are and all tey do in their lives.

  • @realunrealpony
    @realunrealpony 3 місяці тому +4

    Hello from Germany - There are people all over the world who struggle with similar difficulties (such as DID and autism). It's so unbearable sometimes... But you must never give up. If you manage to let lovely people into your life, things will eventually get better... Thanks for the video.

  • @fibifeo
    @fibifeo 3 місяці тому +8

    Beautiful girls . I’m glad they’re getting good guidance now . I wish them a happy healthy future x

  • @city687
    @city687 2 місяці тому

    this is one of my favorite interviews on sbsk. thank you deimos and melina! your story is so important to hear and yall are so real for this.

  • @Laurendezvous
    @Laurendezvous 3 місяці тому +5

    I am so sorry you guys had such a traumatic upbringing. I hope yall can find healing.

  • @WindElementor14
    @WindElementor14 3 місяці тому +27

    I feel her pain 😢

  • @metalkittens
    @metalkittens 3 місяці тому +2

    You can see how much Michael means to them. It's so good to see them getting loved.

  • @moralebooster8437
    @moralebooster8437 3 місяці тому +1

    Im so sorry to both of you, you have been through SO much and I can see your strength and resillience. It's one thing to survive a horrific childhood, but another to come out the other side, still wonderful, beautiful, kind people, and that amazes me about you both. Thank you for sharing your stories 💗 I wish for you nothing but peace and relief as you grow up and heal.

  • @YourPartnerInCrime
    @YourPartnerInCrime 3 місяці тому +9

    You guys are so brave and so incredibly kind to share your story. I can tell you have a lot to offer this world. Thank you for doing this. ❤

  • @Luciana-wg8gb
    @Luciana-wg8gb 3 місяці тому +6

    Girls, you're so brave and amazing. You're raising awareness and helping so much people by sharing your experiences. Thank you ❤

  • @SimplyKellyNoelle
    @SimplyKellyNoelle 3 місяці тому

    What incredible overcomers! I’m in awe of their courage to share so much of their story. I hope their confidence in themselves grows and grows!

  • @peppers8489
    @peppers8489 3 місяці тому

    What incredible young people! Your strength and fortitude are amazing. Thank you for sharing a part of your lives with us.

  • @Moon_Child.657
    @Moon_Child.657 3 місяці тому +12

    Great video. Thanks for sharing their story with us.

  • @HamEggsButteredToast
    @HamEggsButteredToast 3 місяці тому +5

    What wonderful people! 💕 I hope they're able to continue to heal.