At my worklace a new guy started (he works same job as me, much more experienced though), me being a friendly and welcoming person I talked to him alot, made him feel welcome in the workplace and did everything I could to help him out. After 2 weeks it became VERY obvious that he was a self obsessed wanker, he always had a story/experience that was 10% better/harder/more exciting than mine or whoever he was talking to. So I do what I always do to those people, just ignored him, said hello/goodbye etc. Over the last 2 months hes started changing into someone who just flat out is seeking approval from me, EVERY SINGLE DAY he comes to me talking about a success hes had (we work as salesmen and advisers to farmers), I just give a flat "nice work" or poke holes in his story "yeah, but how long will that last?". It is absolutely hilarious and now I look forward to him coming to me pandering and DESPERATELY seeking validation from me. It's the first time I've fully analysed someone who is using false confidence to try and make it in life. Throughout the second half of this video all I can imagine is me and this guy and our day to day interactions.
Guys figuratively cutting off there dicks going on tinder cause they think they're worthless human beings and seek validation. Dating culture is incel logic, all the way down.
I love Jordan's completely inability to stay on topic. He still gets to the point eventually but it's numerous diversions and tangents before you arrive. Also this isn't THE LIBERAL GOVERNMENT!, Yilmaz or Warhammer. I feel mild disappointment.
Hi Jordan, love your work. What are the best habits you’ve gotten yourself to do every day? And what habits should you let go of? Also, I bench pressed like 100kg yesterday, just letting you know
Watch Jordan Peterson's videos, Personally, he alone has been pivotal for me as well as reading psychology and philosophy alongside. Aristotle's nicomachaeon ethics is also good food for thought although a book you will have to drop and come back to constantly to grasp it's depth
Yeah, I'd have to say reading psychology and philosophy also. I found books, Healing the Shame that Binds You (Bradshaw) & To Be a Man (Masters) pretty valuable. If you can handle mysticism, Zen & Daoist texts like Wild Ivy or The Book of Chuang Tzu are gold.
I think it's true that in order to attract an attractive woman, you must also become (more) attractive. Though, teaching guys to (metaphorically speaking) nod their head and smile at what a woman has to say, may seem a little *problematic*, especially in the long run. Conversational complacency will strip men of their own agency, which creates a disingenuous air. The men may elude to this fact themselves, and misplace their blame on the woman. Brilliant video as always, thank you for your insight o:)
I think what Jordan meant was the opposite of "disingenously simp for all women and placate them and give them approval no matter what". In fact that's approval seeking behaviour, the very thing that's unattractive. Rather seek to become the sort of person who has so much genuine gratitude for life itself that they exude a genuine kindness for others, becoming the person that can "give good feelings" to most people they meet, not just "switch that on when you meet an 8" because that's not genuine. As a bonus becoming that sort of person will make you happier in general, regardless of relationship status. I don't think this is a "men" thing btw, this is true for becoming an attractive woman too, or just a charmismatic person in general.
@@ladyreverie7027 That's a great perspective, and a great way to put it. I suppose, some people may try to force the behaviour - but genuinely seeking to expand gratitude definitely has the side effect of kindness and so forth. In my experience I have struggled to be able to tell the different between the two stances ( forced and genuine ). It may just be my social perception, though I digress, you're certainly right.
HE MENTIONED HOOLEY DOOLEYS!!!!!!!!!!! WE'RE THE HOOLEY DOOLEYS, WHO ARE YOU? WE'RE THE HOOLEY DOOLEYS, AND HOW DO YOU DO? WE'RE THE HOOLEY DOOLEY, HOOLEY DOOLEY, HOOLEY DOOLEYS, HOW DO YOU DO-OOH-OOH, HOW DO YOU DO!
Would you recommend any books on how to interact with people? As of right now I'm reading "How to win friends & Influence people" by Dale Carnegie. I have really terrible people skills outside of retail and was wondering otherways I could improve how I interact with just about anyone outside of retail
How go you get over being unable to say no to people, or trying to please everyone? I find myself going out of my way to try and help people even to my own detriment and it's probably not a health mindset.
Question: Can you expand on 'Visualisation' and techniques for it? I read it a lot in self-help but don't quite understand how to implement it. Love the videos, keep up the good work champ!
Question, what do you think about people in abusive/toxic relationships? Not just dating but also friendships that negatively influence you. Advice? Warning signs?
I like what you're saying, however, I do know people who act like that and it can come off extremely off-putting if it's overdone. People are expected to not be hyped about everything or just be uninterested in some stuff. Acting like you think it's all great all the time can make you seem like a bit of a shallow yes man. TLDR; Liking everything all the time and saying its all "great" makes you seem shallow.
Hey Jordy, question for ya. What's the best way to be a good influence on people. Some of my friends are in a lot worse situations than I am and I want to steer them onto the right path. Now validate me by making a video ;)
Serious question: How do I live a more fulfilling life? My days are all variations of the same day and I get no pleasure from that, but I don't know what course of action I should take to fix it
Hi Jordan, I'd hate to sound negative or pedantic here, but do you not think there is a small problem with your analogy about giving approval? I would argue that (regardless of gender) one should exercise caution when complimenting others. I for one (as a man) find it rude when people give me repeated comments because it implies that I somehow have the intelligence of a goldfish. I can't say for certain but I can imagine at least a visible handful of both women and men, especially those in more marginalised groups would feel similarly. That is why I never comment on someone's attractiveness or beauty or whatever unless they ask me to. Because the majority of the people around me aren't dumb. What is your opinion on this, and also what would you say to people who fancy having a lover but are still single not because they are unattractive but rather because they're not keen on any of the people who are attracted to them? Put it simply, what would you say to people (regardless of gender) who are very fussy about who they associate with. Side note: Living in Japan I've noticed that people here are on average more welcoming of compliments than people in Australia.
Okay, so I have a lifestyle where I can attract women into it. I'm a kissless virgin tho. So how do I go from that to getting a girl, kissing, etc etc?
Question: Does diet play any role for you? There are a few studies on fruits and veggies improving mood, was wondering if you personally value it in your life (obviously not when you degrade your body and soul reviewing shit frozen food)
Question: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. Have you read it and is it worth reading? I constantly see this advertisement pop up on youtube and think the entire mentality is kinda neat. "TBH I just want to hear your spiel on it"
So pretty much don’t give a shit what people think about you, be kind, give compliments and act like you’re really impressed in people’s lives and where it’s going and what they’re doing in it?
Here’s a hint: don’t send dic pics unless you are dating a woman and you have asked her beforehand if she wants to see it. Don’t just assume she wants to. She wants you to treat her right and be a decent human with yes some self confidence but not arrogant. Don’t be desperate or egotistical. Talk to the woman. Get to know her. And ask her out for dinner with no expectation and be a balanced NORMAL human. If you have toxic issues, deal with your issues before chasing a woman. It’s that simple.
Um how? " Be confident and give approval to other people and make them feel good so that women in your group and others will be attracted to you and enjoy your company" how is that an attack?
I don't need any of this advice, my mom says I'm perfect
Bullshit you don't have a mom you has two dads. Dave and Ian
At my worklace a new guy started (he works same job as me, much more experienced though), me being a friendly and welcoming person I talked to him alot, made him feel welcome in the workplace and did everything I could to help him out. After 2 weeks it became VERY obvious that he was a self obsessed wanker, he always had a story/experience that was 10% better/harder/more exciting than mine or whoever he was talking to. So I do what I always do to those people, just ignored him, said hello/goodbye etc. Over the last 2 months hes started changing into someone who just flat out is seeking approval from me, EVERY SINGLE DAY he comes to me talking about a success hes had (we work as salesmen and advisers to farmers), I just give a flat "nice work" or poke holes in his story "yeah, but how long will that last?". It is absolutely hilarious and now I look forward to him coming to me pandering and DESPERATELY seeking validation from me. It's the first time I've fully analysed someone who is using false confidence to try and make it in life. Throughout the second half of this video all I can imagine is me and this guy and our day to day interactions.
my mom: why are you still single?
me: YoU GaVe Me ThE UglY
I dunno Angus seems like you're using excuses
Your mum is a cutie tho
If your mum managed to get laid then you can too
Mark Manson said in his book Models that the only real dating advice is self improvement, seems to line up with this pretty well.
It's pretty obvious and sad it takes everyone so long.
And as a follow up, you'll actually have a relationship you like instead of being a pair of tards.
@@harrycicero263 yeah but its better late than never, not everyone figures this stuff out by themselves.
Guys figuratively cutting off there dicks going on tinder cause they think they're worthless human beings and seek validation.
Dating culture is incel logic, all the way down.
But how do I attract you jordy?
Chris Simpsons memes
Asian Girls
Autistic enthusiasm for Warhammer plastic
become an Asian Keating
Become an Asian girl who loves labor
Goes from actual life advice to a weekly episode of “incel help”
Incels don't seek self-help, they blame everyone but themselves.
why you complaining? he is stopping mass shootings
The seeking/giving approval advice is just what I needed. Thank you.
you got some great skin bro
I love Jordan's completely inability to stay on topic. He still gets to the point eventually but it's numerous diversions and tangents before you arrive.
Also this isn't THE LIBERAL GOVERNMENT!, Yilmaz or Warhammer. I feel mild disappointment.
"Yeah, but th-" *quotes an entire Simpsons episode, does 5 characters, rants about 3 TV shows* "So, anyway*
Have gratitude. Give approval to others. Be better. Great stuff, I wish I could remember this stuff and not have to re-learn it every 3/6/12 months
Holy shit; makes me think of abusers and how you stay with them because they put you down so much so you’re constantly seeking their approval.
Hi Jordan, love your work. What are the best habits you’ve gotten yourself to do every day? And what habits should you let go of?
Also, I bench pressed like 100kg yesterday, just letting you know
Congrats brah only can to do 70kg
Question: How to tell if you're in love with someone or just craving intimacy
This questions validates my theory that dating is gay.
I’d like to see a video on this question
Go for the intimacy. If it feels empty, that ain't love. This you requires you to actually take a risk.
Question: What books would you recommend for viewers looking to start their self-improvement journey.
Thanks if you get round to it 👍
Watch Jordan Peterson's videos, Personally, he alone has been pivotal for me as well as reading psychology and philosophy alongside. Aristotle's nicomachaeon ethics is also good food for thought although a book you will have to drop and come back to constantly to grasp it's depth
Yeah, I'd have to say reading psychology and philosophy also.
I found books, Healing the Shame that Binds You (Bradshaw) & To Be a Man (Masters) pretty valuable. If you can handle mysticism, Zen & Daoist texts like Wild Ivy or The Book of Chuang Tzu are gold.
Wow! Another great video Jordan! Keep it up, sport!
Much as I enjoy the vids about the moot, here's a non moot question. How do you make sure you stick to a new habit?
Know, thoroughly, why it's beneficial and going to improve your life. And don't lose hope if you can't make it stick in the beginning.
Read Atomic habits
that was a great video Jordan, VG!
Hey Jordie, can you talk about outsmarting your bad habits to build new ones? Or other small tricks that help to build more discipline?
Here’s a question, how do you improve your ability to make confident decisions. I’m incredibly indecisive at times and it causes issues
It's called 'make up your damn mind'
I think it's true that in order to attract an attractive woman, you must also become (more) attractive. Though, teaching guys to (metaphorically speaking) nod their head and smile at what a woman has to say, may seem a little *problematic*, especially in the long run. Conversational complacency will strip men of their own agency, which creates a disingenuous air. The men may elude to this fact themselves, and misplace their blame on the woman.
Brilliant video as always, thank you for your insight o:)
I think what Jordan meant was the opposite of "disingenously simp for all women and placate them and give them approval no matter what". In fact that's approval seeking behaviour, the very thing that's unattractive.
Rather seek to become the sort of person who has so much genuine gratitude for life itself that they exude a genuine kindness for others, becoming the person that can "give good feelings" to most people they meet, not just "switch that on when you meet an 8" because that's not genuine.
As a bonus becoming that sort of person will make you happier in general, regardless of relationship status.
I don't think this is a "men" thing btw, this is true for becoming an attractive woman too, or just a charmismatic person in general.
@@ladyreverie7027 That's a great perspective, and a great way to put it. I suppose, some people may try to force the behaviour - but genuinely seeking to expand gratitude definitely has the side effect of kindness and so forth. In my experience I have struggled to be able to tell the different between the two stances ( forced and genuine ). It may just be my social perception, though I digress, you're certainly right.
I find this channel, video and subject matter very interesting and helpful. Cheers
Spot on. Also, love your voice acting 😆
HE MENTIONED HOOLEY DOOLEYS!!!!!!!!!!!
WE'RE THE HOOLEY DOOLEYS, WHO ARE YOU?
WE'RE THE HOOLEY DOOLEYS, AND HOW DO YOU DO?
WE'RE THE HOOLEY DOOLEY, HOOLEY DOOLEY, HOOLEY DOOLEYS, HOW DO YOU DO-OOH-OOH,
HOW DO YOU DO!
Weird I approved you with a like and I'm not drowning in pink, whats the deal?
Hey mate, you should upload in the early evening instead of so late. Good video mate.
Yes. Just what I need
Ok, this is lit. thanks J
Question: how to integrate into a new friendship group
It gets weird when you seek approval by giving approval now doesn't it Jordan
We are the Hoolie Doolies, and how do you do?
WE WANT MOOT SToOoOoGE!!
MORE WARHAMMER!
What should my sleep schedule be?
Would you recommend any books on how to interact with people? As of right now I'm reading "How to win friends & Influence people" by Dale Carnegie. I have really terrible people skills outside of retail and was wondering otherways I could improve how I interact with just about anyone outside of retail
where did the other %0.9 of wrong go
What ever caused this planet to form's fault
It was used up in margining the error
How go you get over being unable to say no to people, or trying to please everyone? I find myself going out of my way to try and help people even to my own detriment and it's probably not a health mindset.
great content as always
Question: Can you expand on 'Visualisation' and techniques for it?
I read it a lot in self-help but don't quite understand how to implement it. Love the videos, keep up the good work champ!
Thank you
Question, what do you think about people in abusive/toxic relationships? Not just dating but also friendships that negatively influence you. Advice? Warning signs?
I like what you're saying, however, I do know people who act like that and it can come off extremely off-putting if it's overdone. People are expected to not be hyped about everything or just be uninterested in some stuff.
Acting like you think it's all great all the time can make you seem like a bit of a shallow yes man.
TLDR; Liking everything all the time and saying its all "great" makes you seem shallow.
I thought a better question would be: where do you find a girlfriend (outside online dating)?
Thoughts on shadow integration?
I got a question for you jordies, how do I create positive work relationships?
What’s the difference between giving approval And complimenting.
Every example I think of giving approval, comes off as a compliment and needy.
My dad always signs his text messages with "Love D"
Yeah, I do, but I don't want to think about it every time my dad texts :(
Hey Jordy, question for ya. What's the best way to be a good influence on people. Some of my friends are in a lot worse situations than I am and I want to steer them onto the right path. Now validate me by making a video ;)
what are 10 books that will fully hectically help you improve yourself
Can u make a video about David Goggins
Hahahaha "this is how you pic up low self esteem broads for a one night stand " hahahahahah hahahahaha
I love this man no homo
I'd snog this man, no homo.
My favorite part of this video 6:53
Question: How have you dealt with difficult people who've given you a hard time or aim to 'destroy' you?
Jamie is just wormTongue from LOTR.
from my experience it all seems to be sinking in
Do a video on what to do when your in a low
9:00 'money, puss, what else do men want?'
GLORY, JORDAN. THAT'S WHAT IT'S ALWAYS BEEN ABOUT.
How are you able to improve your self awareness of situations you are in and what "self help" quotes have worked the best for you in everyday life?
Serious question: How do I live a more fulfilling life? My days are all variations of the same day and I get no pleasure from that, but I don't know what course of action I should take to fix it
Find something you love to do, and do it often. Easier said than done though!
How do I get over my fear of intimacy? Plz help me brozz
Hi Jordan, I'd hate to sound negative or pedantic here, but do you not think there is a small problem with your analogy about giving approval? I would argue that (regardless of gender) one should exercise caution when complimenting others. I for one (as a man) find it rude when people give me repeated comments because it implies that I somehow have the intelligence of a goldfish. I can't say for certain but I can imagine at least a visible handful of both women and men, especially those in more marginalised groups would feel similarly. That is why I never comment on someone's attractiveness or beauty or whatever unless they ask me to. Because the majority of the people around me aren't dumb. What is your opinion on this, and also what would you say to people who fancy having a lover but are still single not because they are unattractive but rather because they're not keen on any of the people who are attracted to them? Put it simply, what would you say to people (regardless of gender) who are very fussy about who they associate with. Side note: Living in Japan I've noticed that people here are on average more welcoming of compliments than people in Australia.
We're both wrong, but more importantly you're wrong.
How do you deal with people that announce your "flaws" that appear obvious to put you down?
Announce their flaws
I have a test what do?
Genuinely thought it said How to Attack Women
Yeah boi world of Warcraft
Okay, so I have a lifestyle where I can attract women into it. I'm a kissless virgin tho. So how do I go from that to getting a girl, kissing, etc etc?
How do you transition from that lifestyle to the selection process
ok b............ bro, thanks.
Wheres our Yilmaz episode?
#NOMERCYFORSTOOGES
What is a good book to read on this shit Jordan?
Question: Does diet play any role for you?
There are a few studies on fruits and veggies improving mood, was wondering if you personally value it in your life (obviously not when you degrade your body and soul reviewing shit frozen food)
Question: The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck. Have you read it and is it worth reading? I constantly see this advertisement pop up on youtube and think the entire mentality is kinda neat. "TBH I just want to hear your spiel on it"
So pretty much don’t give a shit what people think about you, be kind, give compliments and act like you’re really impressed in people’s lives and where it’s going and what they’re doing in it?
Should you learn a sport?
How to attract women - Have Jordy's skin.
More like just be jordie
Should you learn an instrument?
Omfg we are identical
Here’s a hint:
don’t send dic pics unless you are dating a woman and you have asked her beforehand if she wants to see it. Don’t just assume she wants to. She wants you to treat her right and be a decent human with yes some self confidence but not arrogant. Don’t be desperate or egotistical. Talk to the woman. Get to know her. And ask her out for dinner with no expectation and be a balanced NORMAL human. If you have toxic issues, deal with your issues before chasing a woman. It’s that simple.
BOOK LIST NOW OR A NEW YILMAZ VIDEO, NO MERCY FOR STOOGES JORDIE
Funny as fvck!
Ya wobbegong.
MORE CAVEMAN FRAMEWORK
They call me the super ass eater
How to tell if someone is flirting or just being nice
Ask them
@@happychick94 damn, makes sense
Ok so if it's a dude ask them
burh first
Nup i beat ya!
Q. How to deal with arseholes? How to not lose your cool? :) thanks Jordie!
More.
How to tell someone that is an approval seeking aggressive psychopath that's too confident.. that they need to shut up in the nicest way possible ??
Why am I taking advice on attracting women from someone who makes warhammer videos?
FUCKing lol
'"DURRH"
Anyone else read this as "how to attack women"?
Yep was dissapointed when i watched this 😡
it's easy I use a wrench
Um how? " Be confident and give approval to other people and make them feel good so that women in your group and others will be attracted to you and enjoy your company" how is that an attack?
@@annaprice8247 i didnt mean read in some metaphorical sense, I just meant I dislexically misread the title
@@the500mphtortoise ooooooooh, rightyo.
Ur getting the most fkd ads on this one.
PUSS PUSS PUSS AD INFINTUM
See you tomorrow in perth m8 better be gud
What if they were a cunning linguist? 🤣😛
Q. How to moot moot
Lie, lie, and lie. Thats how you get a one night stand at least.
“How to attract women”.
1. Be tall and good looking.
2. Be rich.
3. If in doubt, please refer to rules to 1&2.
Should you learn a new language?
Why don't you do one on how to attract men more your caper,no? Well you were a male model ( gay ???)
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